You Can Get Your Ex Back – Broken Heart or Broken Friendship?

You want to get your ex back but are you willing to sacrifice a broken friendship to prevent a broken heart? What is more important pleasing your peers, or winning back your ex? Many people using no contact to repair their relationship have to make a choice. They have to choose between what their peers think they should do, or to follow a proven plan. Sometimes that choice could lose them some friends. Are you willing to lose some friends to get your life back again?

Friend or Foe?

When a break up occurs there is usually mutual friends shared by both you, and your ex. They think they are doing you both a favor by getting involved. The fact is most of the time, they screw things up more than they help. Especially if you decide to follow a proven plan like the no contact rule. If you really want to be successful using the no contact rule you will need to keep your personal life to yourself so it doesn’t leak back to your ex.

How could it leak back to your ex? Through your mutual friends, and family. Why they do it is anyone’s guess. I think people just like to meddle, as long as it isn’t their business. Getting your ex back may require losing contact with some of your friends, and family. Your personal journey will be a lonely trip, but the rewards at the end (surviving a broken heart) far out weigh the sacrifices along the way.

You Can't Have Your Cake and Eat It Too - Your Friends or Your Happiness?

You Can’t Have Your Cake And Eat It Too

If you ask any super successful person on the face of this planet how they achieved all their goals, they will tell you they made hard decisions, and many sacrifices. If you truly want to get your ex back you have to be willing to do the same, understand? Too many times people want to have their cake, and eat it too. Especially your ex when they demand to stay friends. I am going to say a phrase “Social Networks” social networks (FaceBook, MySpace) work against you during no contact, why? Rumors and innuendos.

This is where your ex, or your exes friends post things for you to see to rattle your cage, and make you break NC. Especially an ex boyfriend or girlfriend that is trying to win them back during your break up. OK, so now you see what you’re up against. It is time to make a choice. Your friends, or get your ex back?

This won’t be a permanent thing, and it will show you who your “true” friends really are. If they get upset, and turn their backs on you in your time of need, then so be it. You can’t be socially active, and get your ex back at the same time. What I mean is you can’t be active on FaceBook etc. You have to kind of drop off the face of the electronic earth. You can’t have your cake and eat it too…time to make a choice.

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

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  1. Hey boo i dnt knw what to do about my break up with x boy i textd saying dnt call or dxt me if he has any questions about his son then call or text my mom but really im hurtn so men plz tel me wtf do i do he says he wants to be friends and he said we wont make it together u knw the whole sad fucking story what do u think

    1. Hi,

      The quickest way to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings is with the no contact rule.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  2. Hey Scott

    Have you seen the movie “The Break-Up”? It’s about a couple that breaks up, but still shares the apartment, and everyday they try to make eachother jealous. The man basically took the woman for granted, and whenever she tried to make him jealous with other guys, she just wanted him to react. When he finally realised what he had to do, it was too late, and she was emotionally detached, and she chose to leave him for good. The movie ends with that they meet eachother again some weeks later, and they talk on friendly terms, and say stuff like “We should hang out sometime” it could seem like just a friendly meeting.. Or a reconciliation… I justs aw it and got encouraged to believe that no situation is hopeless if you wait long enough for the dust to settle 🙂

    1. Hi,

      I believe I saw that movie a while back with my (female) roommate.

      It touches on my theory that a break up is just the end of one relationship, not all possibilities of having a relationship with that same person.

      Some couples were just not meant to be together, and some couples go through stages of evolution, which include breakups.

      The problem is most of the time they never let the old relationship die off completely, and they keep on bringing that monster back to life, time and time again.

      This convinces them that they weren’t meant to be together because it never works out, or they just plain get tired of going through the same bullshit over and over again…make sense?

      If you properly use the no contact rule to evolve past the old relationship and let it die, you have the chance to start a brand new relationship with a clean slate.

      People get worried they will “lose them forever” so they never take that chance, and what happens? You push them farther away and lose them anyways…pathetic.

      You have to be willing to risk it all using the free plan to get your ex back in order to win it all.

      Playing it safe trying to stay “friends” with your ex in the hopes of winning your ex back hardly ever works, and it does more harm than good.

      And it is very painful.

      This is why I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  3. I’m a bit confused,I did my NC thing and the breakup story,It has gone tho I did realise after I set it up I never put who’s NC & Break up story it was,my bad lol!

    OK so I sent him the NC message on tuesday and I’m doing good so far,today I’ve just deleted my FB cuz he lives with one of my best mates,so its bloody hard knowing I can’t even go see my good friend now so also to stop him showing my x i just deleted FB,I was also mates with his best mate so defo a good idea so no spying and being tempted!

    The 1st 2days were piece of piss but yesterday It was hard and it took me a few hrs to pull myself together but getting bk on track again!

    I must say I’m thankful for finding you and your blogs/threads from real ppl and real stories it’s very encouraging to get back on it 🙂

    Jen x

  4. Hey, I wrote on here yesterday but my post is gone? Anyway I’ve sent the nc msg. Haven’t had any response wondering if deleted it without looking at it? Got an exam next week but I can’t revise as I keep having thoughts about her..

    1. Hey,

      What the fuck are you talking about?

      I answered your question.

      I guess you are too blinded with self-pity to find it.

      If you are just coming here to whine, please go do it somewhere else.

      You have a problem, deal with it, don’t just whine about it, OK?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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