Comments on: Why Your Ex Will Not Leave You – 2 No Contact Rule Myths Shredded

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 17:02:41 +0000

Hi,

The reason you’re so screwed up is because you didn’t stick to the no contact rule long enough to get your life back and evolve past the break up.

She contacted you, that isn’t what the recommended NC message says, it says you will contact her when you are ready, right?

You need to initiate NC again and follow the plan for at 6-9 months (one year is usually the best success rate), and then things will start to work out for you.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

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By: Michael

Michael — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 16:11:45 +0000

So my girlfriend and I broke up after 3.5 years together. Then I do NC and she contacts me after a month and says she misses me and she could see herself getting back together with me in the future possibly, but she’s not ready for a relationship yet. She says she wants to take things very slow. So we are going on casual, fun dates, and eventually we start holding hands and kissing. But all of a sudden now, she contacts me less and has been texting a new guy and I’m pretty sure they are going to dinner tonight (friday). She says she still loves me, etc. An even asked me to hang out on Monday. What do I do? I can’t go back to NC, correct? won’t she notice and be like what’s up? won’t it undue the fact that we are at least dating again and be a step back? Am I just supposed to keep dating her casually and pretend like I don’t even care about this other guy or am bothered by it? So far, I haven’t acted bothered by it at all, but should I send her a text tonight that way I will be on her mind during the dinner with this new guy so she can’t devote her mind entirely to him? Basically I am confused as I did NC, then she contacted me, now we are dating, but is it really that or is she just agreeing to dates to keep me around? If that was the case, why would she be kissing me and holding my hand, cuddling, etc? So in the process, I thought it goes like NC–>first contact–>fun dating–>more serious?

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 17:01:26 +0000

Hi, You have a 50/50 chance of getting back together with her, this sounds like a rebound relationship to me. Your best chance is to use the no contact rule to reveal her true feelings for you. When you say you "initiated NC" I hope you followed the steps in the free plan. I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the "About" section on my Blog. Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again. Thank you for writing. Take Care, S.W.

By: Joby

Joby — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 15:11:03 +0000

Me and my girlfriend were in a long distance relationship (she moved to Florida 2 months ago)and we were trying to make things work. She had finally asked me to fly her home when we had a fight and she went out on date to make me jealous. Well she ended up getting swept off her feet. It even surprised her! She told me about this new guy and she has been staying/living with him at his house ever since. She calls and sometimes she texts during the day but in the evening she NEVER contacts me because his home. I almost had her conviced early in the relationship to come back and even bought the airplain ticket. She told him she was coming back to me and at the last minute decided to stay with him. Yet she still calls…? I initiated the NC last night and so far she has not called me today. Is there a chance of getting her back?

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 16:05:27 +0000

Hi, You are not using the no contact rule correctly, and you are trying to reconnect way too soon. I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the "About" section on my Blog. The fastest way to get her back is to get your life back first. The "I can't live without her" vibe only drives your girlfriend further away. Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again. Thank you for writing. Take Care, S.W.

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 16:02:27 +0000

Hi,

I am not a banker or a real estate agent.

I suggest you consult your mortgage agent and explore your options to get out of this mortgage, either by buying her out, or her buying you out, or just selling the place.

This is one loose end that will need to be tied up quickly, or it will screw up the no contact rule, and your personal evolution.

Sit down and discuss what to do with the property you share a mortgage on first, and then once you have an agreement, send her the no contact message.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

By: broken_man

broken_man — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 14:36:10 +0000

Hi
Thanks for the quick reply, my predicament is we have a mortgage together hence my lack of finances to move out. Would you recommend making adjustments to one of you NC Letters I.e “do not contact me unless it is in regards to our living arrangements or sale of the property”? Or should I just leave her alone to deal with the shit herself? I have opted for this letter you kindly left in your forum

Hi,

I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.

Thanks again

By: Jeff

Jeff — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 14:04:10 +0000

hey.. so my girlfriend and i split about 4 weeks ago… i used the no contact rule and it kind of worked… the catch is we started talking yesterday and it went really good, and then i messed up. I was trying to show her i have changed by doing something nice and i went to go see if she would come for coffee, i didnt want to call or txt anymore. She said she wasnt ready to see me, and thats when i lost control of my emotions, i felt like a fool, and i told her i loved he and made an even bigger ass of myself… i appologized for the way i acted and told her to txt me when she was ready again… my question is do i wait? because i think she will finally move on forever, or do i let a few days pass and maybe do something nice again, leave her a note or something??? (thats what i did to initiate contanct again and it worked) any help would be greatly appreciated… i truley love this girl and can see myself with her for the rest of my life.. and she felt the same way before all of this… we broke up because i was afraid to show her my commitment and true feelings for her because of past baggage and since then i have realized she is the one.

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 12:28:29 +0000

Hi,

There is always somewhere to go, get your own place, even a small efficiency apartment is better than living in hell, right?

If this is not an option, then set boundaries, and tell her to stay the fuck away from you.

If there is a spare room, make it your room, and stay in there for privacy.

I recommend moving out ASAP.

You don’t need friends or family…make your own way.

The no contact rule will reveal your ex girlfriend’s true feelings for you, but only if you don’t give up and stick to the plan.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

By: broken_man

broken_man — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 12:06:43 +0000

Hi there, I’ll just get to the point. My girlfriend of 6 years broke up with last monday. My predicament is we live together which makes implementing the NC rule slightly more problematic. I am no in a position to stay anywhere else as we recently relocated to a new area hence the lack of help from friends or family putting me up. Seeing her everyday isn’t helping me find or heal myself. I have distanced myself yet she still tries to show me affection which of course makes things harder. She wants to remain friends and has sent me a number of msgs since. I know she cares for me but not in the way I care for her. How am I to find myself with nowhere to go?