Why Your Ex Will Not Leave You – 2 No Contact Rule Myths Shredded

 
Shredding NC Myths
 


 

Everyone thinks that their ex will leave them if they use the no contact rule.

But, guess what?

Let me explain why your ex will not leave you.

They are already gone, that’s why they are your ex boyfriend/girlfriend…Right?

The big mystery here is why, do they want to keep in touch with you, but not be in a relationship with you, right?

Well, let’s solve that mystery and shred these myths. The no contact rule works and here’s why.
 


 

You Can Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

The No Contact Rule Myth 1 Shredded

 

This is the mother of all the no contact rule myths.

If I use the no contact rule on my ex, they will get mad at me.

OK, let’s take a look at that statement for a second.

They already left you, did that make you mad?

I bet it did, but, yet, here you are, wanting them back, anyways…

Why is that?

Because you still love them.

If the same holds true with your ex, then, even if they get mad at you, they will not fall out of love with you, right?

Unless they have already fallen out of love with you.

In that case, you will be better off leaving them alone, anyways.

If you use the NC rule correctly, you will be polite, and that should not make anyone mad, maybe a little jealous though…catch my drift?

Your ex will not leave you if you use the no contact rule.

So, let’s kick this NC myth’s ass out of here, and move on…shall we?
 


 

You Can Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back

The No Contact Rule Myth 2 Shredded

 
This one’s just as bad.

If I use the 30 day no contact rule my ex will find someone else.

Not true, your ex, left you, remember?

Do you think by staying in contact with them, that you are magically going to get your ex back?

This is a bigger Myth than the last one, and, here’s why.

Why would they want to be committed to you, when they already have you following them around, like a little puppy dog?

Use The No Contact Rule to Break The Leash Your Ex Has You On

You’re always there when they need you, now.

Why get back into a relationship again?

They can have their cake, and eat it too.

You’re screwing yourself over with this plan, you think it’s going to work

But.

You’re just…screwing yourself.

Let’s kick this one’s ass off into the gutter and move on.

Your ex is not going to find someone else, just because, you start using the 30 day no contact rule.

What will happen if you do not use NC, is they will probably find someone else, and “still” want to be your friend…sound familiar?

This will only place you in relationship limbo.

A mini-hell for people going through breakups.

The funny thing is, they put themselves in that hell, by choice.

Don’t do it.

If you really want to win your ex back, then, you must find a good plan and follow it.
 


 

The No Contact Rule Works to Get Your Ex Back

 
Whatever you’re doing now, isn’t working, or you wouldn’t be reading this article, right?

So, why keep doing things that are not working?

I think you are really hurting yourself if you dismiss the no contact rule.

This plan works, but it requires a lot of focus and emotional control.

Most people can not do this all by themselves.

That is why it is wise to find someone who will help you take on this battle.

If you are emotionally unbalanced, you need someone or something to keep you in balance…Right?

I mean, do you really think by randomly getting advice from friends, family, and co-workers, that you’re going to succeed?

You need a plan, a plan that works.

If you want to survive this breakup, you’ll need help.

Just subscribe to the free breakup survival plan newsletter, and start learning how to “correctly” use the no contact rule.

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Learn from your mistakes before you make them, and win your ex back.

What can I do to help you get your ex back?

If you have questions about the no contact rule, please feel free to write your question in the comment box below, and I will answer it ASAP…I promise!
 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 
My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read.

I know the address of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I “really” teach people how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free breakup survival plan, and start getting your life back today.

The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. So my girlfriend and I broke up after 3.5 years together. Then I do NC and she contacts me after a month and says she misses me and she could see herself getting back together with me in the future possibly, but she’s not ready for a relationship yet. She says she wants to take things very slow. So we are going on casual, fun dates, and eventually we start holding hands and kissing. But all of a sudden now, she contacts me less and has been texting a new guy and I’m pretty sure they are going to dinner tonight (friday). She says she still loves me, etc. An even asked me to hang out on Monday. What do I do? I can’t go back to NC, correct? won’t she notice and be like what’s up? won’t it undue the fact that we are at least dating again and be a step back? Am I just supposed to keep dating her casually and pretend like I don’t even care about this other guy or am bothered by it? So far, I haven’t acted bothered by it at all, but should I send her a text tonight that way I will be on her mind during the dinner with this new guy so she can’t devote her mind entirely to him? Basically I am confused as I did NC, then she contacted me, now we are dating, but is it really that or is she just agreeing to dates to keep me around? If that was the case, why would she be kissing me and holding my hand, cuddling, etc? So in the process, I thought it goes like NC–>first contact–>fun dating–>more serious?

    1. Hi,

      The reason you’re so screwed up is because you didn’t stick to the no contact rule long enough to get your life back and evolve past the break up.

      She contacted you, that isn’t what the recommended NC message says, it says you will contact her when you are ready, right?

      You need to initiate NC again and follow the plan for at 6-9 months (one year is usually the best success rate), and then things will start to work out for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  2. Me and my girlfriend were in a long distance relationship (she moved to Florida 2 months ago)and we were trying to make things work. She had finally asked me to fly her home when we had a fight and she went out on date to make me jealous. Well she ended up getting swept off her feet. It even surprised her! She told me about this new guy and she has been staying/living with him at his house ever since. She calls and sometimes she texts during the day but in the evening she NEVER contacts me because his home. I almost had her conviced early in the relationship to come back and even bought the airplain ticket. She told him she was coming back to me and at the last minute decided to stay with him. Yet she still calls…? I initiated the NC last night and so far she has not called me today. Is there a chance of getting her back?

    1. Hi,

      You have a 50/50 chance of getting back together with her, this sounds like a rebound relationship to me.

      Your best chance is to use the no contact rule to reveal her true feelings for you.

      When you say you “initiated NC” I hope you followed the steps in the free plan.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  3. Hi
    Thanks for the quick reply, my predicament is we have a mortgage together hence my lack of finances to move out. Would you recommend making adjustments to one of you NC Letters I.e “do not contact me unless it is in regards to our living arrangements or sale of the property”? Or should I just leave her alone to deal with the shit herself? I have opted for this letter you kindly left in your forum

    Hi,

    I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.

    Thanks again

    1. Hi,

      I am not a banker or a real estate agent.

      I suggest you consult your mortgage agent and explore your options to get out of this mortgage, either by buying her out, or her buying you out, or just selling the place.

      This is one loose end that will need to be tied up quickly, or it will screw up the no contact rule, and your personal evolution.

      Sit down and discuss what to do with the property you share a mortgage on first, and then once you have an agreement, send her the no contact message.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  4. hey.. so my girlfriend and i split about 4 weeks ago… i used the no contact rule and it kind of worked… the catch is we started talking yesterday and it went really good, and then i messed up. I was trying to show her i have changed by doing something nice and i went to go see if she would come for coffee, i didnt want to call or txt anymore. She said she wasnt ready to see me, and thats when i lost control of my emotions, i felt like a fool, and i told her i loved he and made an even bigger ass of myself… i appologized for the way i acted and told her to txt me when she was ready again… my question is do i wait? because i think she will finally move on forever, or do i let a few days pass and maybe do something nice again, leave her a note or something??? (thats what i did to initiate contanct again and it worked) any help would be greatly appreciated… i truley love this girl and can see myself with her for the rest of my life.. and she felt the same way before all of this… we broke up because i was afraid to show her my commitment and true feelings for her because of past baggage and since then i have realized she is the one.

    1. Hi,

      You are not using the no contact rule correctly, and you are trying to reconnect way too soon.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get her back is to get your life back first. The “I can’t live without her” vibe only drives your girlfriend further away.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  5. Hi there, I’ll just get to the point. My girlfriend of 6 years broke up with last monday. My predicament is we live together which makes implementing the NC rule slightly more problematic. I am no in a position to stay anywhere else as we recently relocated to a new area hence the lack of help from friends or family putting me up. Seeing her everyday isn’t helping me find or heal myself. I have distanced myself yet she still tries to show me affection which of course makes things harder. She wants to remain friends and has sent me a number of msgs since. I know she cares for me but not in the way I care for her. How am I to find myself with nowhere to go?

    1. Hi,

      There is always somewhere to go, get your own place, even a small efficiency apartment is better than living in hell, right?

      If this is not an option, then set boundaries, and tell her to stay the fuck away from you.

      If there is a spare room, make it your room, and stay in there for privacy.

      I recommend moving out ASAP.

      You don’t need friends or family…make your own way.

      The no contact rule will reveal your ex girlfriend’s true feelings for you, but only if you don’t give up and stick to the plan.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  6. I am confused about no contact rule.My Gf quarreled with me and after 9 days she come to my house and asked me how r u?and where u have been?.i responded casually,then again 10 min later she come and asked me that she want to go with me nearby market.Now two days passed she didn’t contacted me.now what should i do?next time if she come i should say her that i don’t want to talk with you,or simply i ignore her?if again she come to my house because she is our neighbor,so according to no contact rule i should talk with her or not?I should go outside with her or not?

    1. Hi,

      There is NO reason to be “confused about the no contact rule”.

      Everything is explained in the free plan if you follow (and read) all the NC links in it.

      This is about getting your life back, so you’re not stuck in relationship limbo being jerked around by your girlfriend.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  7. I’m not whining. I’m merely asking you how I can send him that message when we’ve already stopped talking. He’s just going to tell me that we’re already not talking, and I don’t need to tell him again. Won’t he think I’m just trying to get a word out of him by saying that? I just recently found out about your website after I’ve done no contact so should I just continue following the rest of the steps or do I send him that message and make myself look like a complete fool after two weeks?

    1. Jen says:

      I just recently found out about your website after I’ve done no contact so should I just continue following the rest of the steps or do I send him that message and make myself look like a complete fool after two weeks?

      I answered this question in my first reply to you.

      I highly recommend you follow every step of the free plan including sending the recommended NC message.

      We are just beating a dead horse now…{yawn}

      Some of the other “complete fools” that followed my advice posted their results in the break up success stories.

      What a bunch of “happy” idiots.

  8. How can i restart? I already told him we should refrain from contacting each other, and he hasn’t contacted me. So wouldn’t it not make sense to give him that message and start from square one? Honestly, I’m feeling better as days go by. At first, i felt like if I was dying, but now I can say that some days I will want him back, but other days I won’t. I’ve finally planted in my head that it’s over after being in an on and off relationship for the past 2.5 years.

    1. Hi,

      If what you’re doing is “working so well”, why are you still looking for advice, particularly from me?

      I give you great advice about how to properly use the no contact rule, and I give you the free plan to get your ex back, and you don’t want to follow it.

      Please either:

      A. Use the advice and get your life back, or…

      B. Go fucking bother someone else with your whining, OK?

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  9. will it still work for me my ex is 7yrs younger than me. i send him NC 7days ago.. how can my ex back.

    1. Hi,

      The no contact rule and the free plan to get your ex back will work on your ex boyfriend even if he is 7 years younger than you.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  10. Will this still work if I’ve been doing all the wrong things for the past year? I think I screwed up totally. He kept going back to the “rebound” and me, and I just recently started NC 13 days ago, but not with your message.. Can i still follow through?

    1. Hi,

      I highly recommend you follow every step of the free plan including sending the recommended NC message.

      You can use the no contact rule to evolve past your break up and get your life back again, if you use it correctly.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your man back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  11. Hey

    Im 52 and fit seeing a 50-year-old hottie (boob job – money – nice home) for 7 months. Strung me along 1st couple months, japped on a couple dates until I had a talk with her about my boundaries. Began sleeping with her and stayed at her place 3 – 5 days a week including weekends. She loved my stamina and that during disagreements I didn’t act like needy ex’s and stalk, call all hours etc. Found out she keeps ties with ex bf’s and a depressed loser ex-hubby out of town who she consoles. She claims she’s in love with me ( but reluctant to break all ties ). I spent $ on her, she spends on me. 2 breakups in 7 months and 1 argument. I came to her 2 of those times, mature but not begging. She’s getting text and calls from guys and trys to blow it off as nothing but I caught her in a few Freudian slips of the tongue and a couple lies. ( I know, why do I want her ). Also busted her on not inviting me to abbey together with friends and an old high school sweetheart. She ended up going with me after all and I read this guy like a bad book.

    So, this last argument led to me breaking it off and returning two days later to take her to an MRI appointment. She was nervous when I showed unannounced. I was supposed to take her prior to my breaking it off so she claimed her daughter would take her. I investigated and her ex BF actually took her. We still got together that night after he dropped her off and I slept there 3 days; then that 3rd morning woke up to “good mornings” and I looked her in the eye and asked who took her to MRI. She told the truth; wondering how I knew. Behind her back, I friended this dude on Facebook; he didn’t know I was the guy in her bed 5 days a week we were having a great week until she found out I did that and she called an said it’s over – I said, “no problem”, and hung up. 2 days later she e-mails me a music video with a note about how that song was played at her aunts funeral. I ignored that e-mail and it’s been two days now since. So, again, why would i want her? Well, she claims to want me and Im the ine over the house all the time not these other dudes. But she may be back dooring them. Your analysis and advice appreciated.

    Michael

    1. Hi,

      You play games, or you can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex girlfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  12. I haven’t spoken to my ex for 15 days, basically she is the one who initiated no contact, but should I still send a NC message anyway? If so what should I write?

    1. Hi,

      The recommended NC message is about you, not your ex, so it doesn’t matter what she said or did…you need to send it.

      Everything is explained in the free plan.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your girl back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  13. Hi…I was with my Girlfriend for 6 months…I am 43 she is 23…we have known each other for 6 years before dating. I care about her alot, and she told me she Loved Me and wanted to Marry Me and have kids..I don’t have any. 6 months ago, she broke up with me, didn’t give any real concrete reasons why. We have pretty much stayed in some kind of contact (2 weeks being the longest we didn’t speak, and she initiated the contact). Generally I have to initiate the contact with her, but she always responds. Now, I’m pretty sure she is with another guy, Not sure how long this has been going on. Is it too late to start “No Contact” and sit back and see if she realizes that we were good together or not??
    Thanks
    Dave

    1. Hi,

      Since the no contact rule is used primarily to get your life back, it is NEVER too late to use it.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get her back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  14. hey william. my guy lied to me and i did not contact him at all.i was thinking he wud call me back and apologise for wot he did.but he never called for 2 weeks.i did not try either.i got real frustrated and turned my fone off.its been four weeks now.he tried calling me after two weeks on my frnds fone but i didnt answer.its bin like a month now and day before he called another frend ov mine asking me to switch on my fone and that he was sorry.i did switch on my fone a day after he asked me too.i think i followed nc properly.i really love this guy.but can u tell me how to explain to him wen we make up that its not okay for him to lie to me.also he sometimes ignores me for five or six days and i dont noe how to react to this stupid behaviour ov his.i always yell at him wen he does not talk to me for more than three days.also when he calls this time how do i talk to him without venting my rage on him and scolding him.?im really looking forward to your answer.
    love
    sara

    1. Hi,

      You are NOT using the no contact rule properly, there is much more to it than just ignoring him.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your guy back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  15. Hi, its been 4 months since THE break up, after THE break up i wasn’t strong enough for THE NC rule, but now I am, is it still worth to USe NC after 4 months? (btw i’m up to day 18 now:))
    Please help me out asap x

    1. Hi,

      It is NEVER too late to use the no contact rule to evolve past your relationship break up, and get your life back.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your man back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  16. Hi,

    I’ve been broken up with my girlfriend for 2 weeks she broke it off, still been in contact. Now she has stopped txting and calling me is it to late for me to start NC rule? I also sent her an email when I was feeling down have I lost the fight?

    Thanks Ally.

    1. Hi,

      No, it is not too late to start using the no contact rule to get your life back.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your girl back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  17. My girlfriend of over 2.5 years broke up with me 8 days ago. We are both in our early 20s. Our relationship had been fine for the first 2.5 years. We rarely ever fought and we hung out regularly. Problems only arose in the last 6 or 7 weeks. During this time I had noticed her becoming slightly cold with me and we started seeing each other less and less despite my effort. She started spending lots of time with her girlfriends, half of which study abroad and had just come back for the summer. Worth noting that these friends had gotten mad with her around new year’s for not seeing them often.

    The way the break up transpired was I had brought up that I was not happy with the way things were going over the past few weeks. She then admitted that she was feeling distant, wanted some space and to be single. I told her I did not want to break up, but I respected her decision. I also told her we shouldn’t contact each other in any way for a while. I followed by saying that I won’t contact her and I’ll let her contact me first since she is the one who wants this. The break up happened suddenly as neither of us expected it would happen that day. The good thing from this was we were both in a state of shock and therefore remained composed. Emotionally it only really hit me the next day. This was 8 days ago and we have not communicated since.

    We are therefore in NC and I more than understand she needs her space….but I do want her back.

    What do you suggest?

    1. Hi,

      You are not using the no contact rule correctly if you only stopped talking to your ex girlfriend.

      There is more to it.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your girl back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  18. hi s.william,

    we’re having a LDR, when she brokeup with me(through fb),first i was telling her to don’t give up & asked her to meet & make decision face to face but then i stop for a moment and think and agreed with the breakup(she not even replied yet), do u think i should send the nc message?or keep the NC method?

    1. Hi,

      The best way to evolve past your break up and reveal your ex girlfriend’s true feelings for you is to use the no contact rule correctly, it is fullest potential…make sense?

      In-order to do that I highly recommend sending the NC message outlined in the free plan to get your ex back fast.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your girlfriend back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  19. What if my ex is really immature for her age and she can show a pretty tough temper when she feels rejected? Is there another point or aspect about the “No contact rule” I need to know for this situation?

    1. Hi,

      Did she break up with you, or did you break up with her?

      If she broke up with you I don’t know why “she” would feel rejected.

      If you broke up with her, she lived through rejection once already, the second time should be easier.

      Anyways, the point is, the no contact rule is NOT about “rejecting” anyone, it is about asking to be left alone while you contemplate your future.

      Immature people have a hard time with (most) everything that doesn’t go their way, that’s why they are considered immature, why should this be any different?

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  20. Hi,
    I am in need of advice. Background My husband and I have been separated for about a year now but kinda together for about 6 mos. We just started communication back in dec 2010. We then began talking and relations on New Years. We have been together for the most part of this year. I started showing neediness and he starting pulling away then he said he didn’t know if he was sure if he wanted to come back to our house because of bad memories. We had a very bad break-up and a tumultuous relationship. When we were up we were up and when we were down we were wayyyyy down! His lease is up on his apartment at the end of the month. If he renews I know he will not come home. I am in need of advice I think he has initiated the nc rule on me….how do I turn this around without pushing him further away before his lease is up. I am unsure of this although it sounds like just what I needed a year ago! Btw his family does not feel we should get back together.

    1. Hi,

      You don’t use the no contact rule on someone as much as you do yourself.

      This is about you, not your ex husband.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex husband back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Instead of focusing on getting your ex husband to come back home before he renews his lease, leave him alone and focus on evolving past the breakup, and getting your life back again.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, and evolve past the old failed relationship.

      The fastest way to get your ex husband back is to get your life back first.

      If you choose to reconnect with your ex husband after you get your life back, you need realize this will be a brand new relationship, not a continuation of the old “failed” relationship.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  21. day 5 into nc…hi william quick update remember what i said about her response to my nc message about trying to make me worried and play it of . you was wright after her trying to make me worried and play it of she again after trying it last night aswell pranked my work phone.i have had prank calls on my work phone it has never happened before when i was with her or before i apllied nc.next time she does it if she does becasue i know she knows i know its her so im not going to pick up the phone even thow as soon as i awnser and say hello she hangs up straight away. i know for sure its her again tonight cause its the time she will be alone and thinking thinking about me she properly knows i cant sleep and she cant either im not going to prank her back as she will obviously know its me and that will be breaking the rule thats what she wants.this has taken away my worry and putting me back in complete power and control of nc and sticking to the plan religiously i really do beleive in it now.im not to sure but think this is a good sign??? she is obviously thinking about me and will continue to think about me now and then eventually becomeing obsessed if i stick to nc properly..is this a good sign???? nc is really working?????.if she is like this already what is she going to be like in a couple of months into nc she will really be obsessed????i know for sure its her becaus eits the time she will be completly alone and it kinda proves its the last thing on her mind at night revealing her feelings during the day she is busy and this will be the time she feels weekest and would do something like this . is this a good sign????

    1. Hi,

      Over obsessing will not help.

      You have everything you need to succeed.

      Just follow all the steps in the free plan to get your ex back, and stick to the plan.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  22. hi thanks your right i do need to chill out. i know just over thinking i will get stronger as time goes on.i know shes going to do things to try and hurt me and get revenge thats y i have made sure there is no contact even threw friends or ant other way out of sight out of mind.i will be ok you might have to give me a kick up the arse now and then.
    thanks again.
    i will try and get on and update you soon.maybe i should go on dates.

  23. sorry forgot to add do you think she is still just so confused and hurting she only found out i cheated 2 weeks ago.it really seems she knows what she wants?honestly what do you think?

    1. Hi,

      I honestly think you need to CHILL fucking out, and stop asking me if I can predict the future, or read your ex girlfriend’s mind.

      I can’t do either.

      I help people survive breakups and get their lives back.

      That is the fastest way to get your ex girlfriend back, but it will take a few months to see how this plays out.

      In the meantime, live your life, and go on dates.

      I am sure she will date to get you jealous, this is all part of both your personal evolutions.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  24. hi william she sent me a message in relation to the nc message after day 4 saying she thinks its best to im gona continue to live my life.u dnt need to be in touch when your ready and what i have done has made her stronger.thats not what she said the other day she said she still loves me and wants to be with me but cant now she has once again completly changed her tone i really do think that is it now?whats your opinion i will still continue with no contact as its my way of healing.

    1. Hi,

      All this emotional “flip-flopping” is part of her personal/emotional evolution, and she needs to go through it, that is why you need to stand strong, and stick to the plan.

      If she was really over you, she wouldn’t bother sending messages telling you she was, she would just move on, she is lying.

      You kicked her in the ass with the no contact rule, and she is trying to play it off.

      Your ex girlfriend is trying to get you worried, and it is working.

      She wants you to break NC.

      You you really want to succeed, don’t do it.

      Thanks for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  25. Sorry i forgot to tell u that i didnt beg her when she told me we r not for eachother and she has met a new guy. i was calm and i said its ok if u say that i do agree and i didnt try to convince her that she has made wrong decision. she told me (she was crying) just let me call u sometimes and ask u how u doing and i said no and promise me dont call me and she said i cant promise that. so she start texting me and i replied very cold and was trying to tell her dont contact me until i found ur weblog and send her recommended nc message and she reacted like i explaine above. plz tell me what does her reaction to my nc message mean? i have a plan and really want to get my life back. It would be much better she come back too. thanks for ur attention.

    1. Hi,

      First off, I hope you used the recommended no contact message as outlined in the free plan.

      Your ex girlfriend’s reaction is typical, she wants to keep you “bookmarked” in-case she changes her mind.

      She wants to keep herself on your mind and trap you so you can’t move on.

      How fucking selfish is that?

      Obviously this new boyfriend isn’t what she really wants, but she is still not sure what she wants.

      That is her problem, don’t make it yours.

      If you use the no contact rule correctly you will reveal your ex girlfriends true feelings for you, but you have to be patient, and stick to the plan.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back, heal your broken heart, evolve past the break up, and get your life back again.

      Getting your life back is not only the fastest way to become happy again, but it is also the quickest way to get your ex girlfriend back too.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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