Why Your Ex Will Not Leave You – 2 No Contact Rule Myths Shredded

 
Shredding NC Myths
 


 

Everyone thinks that their ex will leave them if they use the no contact rule.

But, guess what?

Let me explain why your ex will not leave you.

They are already gone, that’s why they are your ex boyfriend/girlfriend…Right?

The big mystery here is why, do they want to keep in touch with you, but not be in a relationship with you, right?

Well, let’s solve that mystery and shred these myths. The no contact rule works and here’s why.
 


 

You Can Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

The No Contact Rule Myth 1 Shredded

 

This is the mother of all the no contact rule myths.

If I use the no contact rule on my ex, they will get mad at me.

OK, let’s take a look at that statement for a second.

They already left you, did that make you mad?

I bet it did, but, yet, here you are, wanting them back, anyways…

Why is that?

Because you still love them.

If the same holds true with your ex, then, even if they get mad at you, they will not fall out of love with you, right?

Unless they have already fallen out of love with you.

In that case, you will be better off leaving them alone, anyways.

If you use the NC rule correctly, you will be polite, and that should not make anyone mad, maybe a little jealous though…catch my drift?

Your ex will not leave you if you use the no contact rule.

So, let’s kick this NC myth’s ass out of here, and move on…shall we?
 


 

You Can Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back

The No Contact Rule Myth 2 Shredded

 
This one’s just as bad.

If I use the 30 day no contact rule my ex will find someone else.

Not true, your ex, left you, remember?

Do you think by staying in contact with them, that you are magically going to get your ex back?

This is a bigger Myth than the last one, and, here’s why.

Why would they want to be committed to you, when they already have you following them around, like a little puppy dog?

Use The No Contact Rule to Break The Leash Your Ex Has You On

You’re always there when they need you, now.

Why get back into a relationship again?

They can have their cake, and eat it too.

You’re screwing yourself over with this plan, you think it’s going to work

But.

You’re just…screwing yourself.

Let’s kick this one’s ass off into the gutter and move on.

Your ex is not going to find someone else, just because, you start using the 30 day no contact rule.

What will happen if you do not use NC, is they will probably find someone else, and “still” want to be your friend…sound familiar?

This will only place you in relationship limbo.

A mini-hell for people going through breakups.

The funny thing is, they put themselves in that hell, by choice.

Don’t do it.

If you really want to win your ex back, then, you must find a good plan and follow it.
 


 

The No Contact Rule Works to Get Your Ex Back

 
Whatever you’re doing now, isn’t working, or you wouldn’t be reading this article, right?

So, why keep doing things that are not working?

I think you are really hurting yourself if you dismiss the no contact rule.

This plan works, but it requires a lot of focus and emotional control.

Most people can not do this all by themselves.

That is why it is wise to find someone who will help you take on this battle.

If you are emotionally unbalanced, you need someone or something to keep you in balance…Right?

I mean, do you really think by randomly getting advice from friends, family, and co-workers, that you’re going to succeed?

You need a plan, a plan that works.

If you want to survive this breakup, you’ll need help.

Just subscribe to the free breakup survival plan newsletter, and start learning how to “correctly” use the no contact rule.

Do It Today!

Learn from your mistakes before you make them, and win your ex back.

What can I do to help you get your ex back?

If you have questions about the no contact rule, please feel free to write your question in the comment box below, and I will answer it ASAP…I promise!
 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 
My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read.

I know the address of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I “really” teach people how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free breakup survival plan, and start getting your life back today.

The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. So what if she has a rebound? Should try a shorter no contact?

    1. Hi,

      Rebounds don’t mean anything when it comes to getting your ex back.

      Focus more on the healing process, and not on just getting your ex back.

      If you take the time to fully understand what you’re going through, your life will become much easier.

      Go read the free breakup survival plan, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  2. my ex broke up with me 2 months ago.we were in relationship from past 4 yrs .he blocked me from social networking sites.i still made many attempts to talk to him. i begged him,pleaded him even i met him twice..he used to become very happy when i used to meet him..but as soon as m gone those feelings also would disappear n den he would again ask me not to contact him because he doesn’t need me..but i felt his love when i met him. i tried to avoid making again any contact..bt i fail den i txt him.i want to get my ex back. i came to knw dat he is being with a gal even tough they are not in relation but that gal likes him n i don’t want her to take away my love. i love him and i know that he loves me too but he is just not showing it.please help me..i really want him back.

  3. Still questioning everything!

    My ex broke up with me after 3 months of dating…. yeah doesn not sound too big but for me it is. I love him amd when he got back from a short visit at home he ended things a few days after being back. He said being home with his single friends mad him miss a life of no worry, commitment or care. hesaid hw was too young for commitement right now. he said i was not the problem at all and could see himself marrying like me but just not now. this breakup was on a tuesday night and I then texted him wednasday night to see how his day was he said ahlright wbu? I said it sucked lol then I was soooo stupid and sent him like a 4 page text about all this carp saying …”how hard this has been for me but im not trying too make you feel guilty but i just want you yo know I hope you get everythign you want from life blah blah blah..dont forget me and how much I love you. please dont push me from your life… I still want you as a friend and maybe one day we may reconect maybe not”….. he did not reply. I wish I never sent that!!! it was so unlike me… I felt like i was begging it is now sunday and I have not tried to call or text even though I want to. He still has a couple things of mine just as I have some of his in my room….. I just want to know if I should call him or text and let him know that the last text I sent was stupid of me and Im sorry that….or just leave that weird desperate text up in the air as my last one… help me please

    1. Hi,

      Now is the perfect time for you to send the recommended NC message as outlined in the free plan.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  4. Hi sir,

    my bf broke up with me 2days ago. we had an argument which lead to many other past conflicts. i got so frustrated anger and upset, started sending him all the emotional text saying we shouldn’t break up, i love you etc. all the emotions at ones and then today i came across your blog and decided to send him the NC message, his response to that straight away was “don’t worry i won’t contact you, if you find a man go for him, I’m tired of your insults”. what does it mean? does he really want me to forget about him and move on? i still love him and know it will work out. please help me!

    1. Pembe said:

      i still love him and know it will work out.

      Hi,

      No, you don’t know it will work out – you desperately want to believe that, but no one knows, for sure.

      This type of mindset will only drive you insane after a while – you must let this notion go along with the break up, and the failed relationship.

      After that and about 12 months, you will see the truth about your ex, your past relationship, and your feelings towards him as well.

      You did the right thing sending the NC message – hopefully you sent the recommended one and didn’t change it.

      Now you need to follow the free plan, and get free support from our forum (if you are willing to follow the guidelines/TOS) – support is crucial to your success, plus you will be helping others like yourself progress through their personal evolution, as well.

      Don’t try to predict the future – just believe that everything will workout for the best, and it will – if you’re patient.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

      1. Yes i agree on the “you don’t know the future bit”

        what about his response the my nc message. what does that mean?

        and yes i would like to join your forum.

        i feel much better now.

        thank you

        1. Pembe said:

          what about his response the my nc message. what does that mean?

          His response means the NC message worked, and it was also meant to scare you into breaking NC, and proving to himself that he still had you wrapped around his little finger.

          He is frightened, and angry – that’s why he is trying to get back control by scaring you into breaking your own NC request.

          If he really didn’t care, or your NC message didn’t bother him – why did he feel compelled to respond?

          See you in the forum – make sure you follow the registration process exactly as it is explained in the email you receive after registering – or you may not get approved – it is not hard, but you MUST pay attention.

          Take Care,

          S. Williams

    2. He is testing you to see if you do go find someone no contact will work works. It does work real good if you DON’T want him. Trust me ask my X GIRL

      1. This free plan WHAT THE F email me i will get you were you want to be for free because i just went through this crap and cant see how anyone would charge someone for advice

  5. I sent the one reccomended in your free plan. I also followed all the instructions to become a member in the forum but I must have done something wrong without realizing it because after posting my breakup story and nc diary I can no longer log in.

    1. Hi,

      If your forum account was deleted, it was because you DID NOT follow ALL the instructions.

      You must send the recommended NC (no changes) as outlined in the free plan, and then you have to follow all the instructions to get registered in our forum.

      My guess would be that you followed all the registration instructions, but didn’t send the correct NC message.

      The no contact rule will not work if you do not follow all the steps (especially sending the correct NC message). You can always correct your mistake, and register again.

      Only serious people get accepted.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  6. I sent a no contact letter after 5 weeks of not speaking with my ex. He has a new girlfriend and answered only one of the last 3 texts I sent him so I assumed he was ignoring me. He texted me immediately about my NC letter and also emailed me back. He said he was very confused since he had made no effort to contact me in this long and couldnt understand why I would send a letter like that. I have no responded and I don’t know what I should do now! I feel a bit stupid!

    1. Hi,

      I have no idea what no contact letter you sent, but if you read the free plan, it tells you what kind of NC message to send, and what to do after you send the recommended NC message.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  7. Dear S.W.
    S recently broke up with me 6 weeks ago, after 5 – 1/2 years together.
    I broke NC repeatedly, we have talked/texted, and I often went to his place, sometimes because he invited me and sometimes uninvited. He calls me frequently, always answers/returns my calls and we’ve seen each other many times during the 6 weeks. We have also slept together several times and it seemed recently as though we were gravitating back together. However we got into another argument the other night and today he said that it is time to move on – that we both need to and that he doesn’t want to get back together. However he also said that if I want him back I have to show my strength by leaving him alone and sorting out my problems and then coming back to him.
    I know I have been pathetic but my question now is whether there’s any hope now? Will NC help? And what do I do if he contacts me during the NC phase?
    Thank you!!

    1. Hi,

      There is no hope for the old failed relationship, so you need to let it go.

      There is always hope for the future if you can let go of the past, and evolve past the break up.

      If you use the no contact rule correctly you will start your personal evolution, and get your life back.

      Everything you need to know about how to use NC is explained in the free plan.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  8. Hi Scott,

    First of all thanks for your fast reply and that you are helping many people without getting much back?! i really appreciate it that someone (you) outside my friendszone take a different look at it, share his time and has the knowledge to heal the wounds.

    I know every person should get his own life back first because else you will be the emotional wreckage without any chance of be attractive to anyone. Who wants someone that is sad/hurt/desperate anyway.

    But i would only like to know if you know alot of succes stories even if one of the 2 just wants to be friends an explicit said it in a written letter or whatsoever. maybe you call it hope but it makes me holding to the NC easier if there might be a chance and i could just focus on myself after implementing the NC.

    oh,.. i said some more bad things,.. which would not help me but that was because i was searching for a reason… i said to her if there is someone else who would be the reason, she replied no why do you think so?? and i said was it the lack of my sex knowlegde? because i don’t just jump into bed with any girl right away. she said no you grow to eachother and learn from that and it will improve along the way.
    I still felt it could be a possibilty because most people really get close if the sex is good and it starts boosting the love between them.

    Kind regards,

    Desperados.

    1. Desperados said:

      But i would only like to know if you know alot of succes stories even if one of the 2 just wants to be friends an explicit said it in a written letter or whatsoever.

      Hi,

      There are have been some success stories where people have reunited, but I don’t know if they stayed together or not.

      Some people update their forum success stories, and some don’t, or just haven’t gotten around to it yet.

      But something I have noticed a lot more of is forum members saying that they had ex’s from previous breakups (2 years before their current break up) wanting to reconnect with them, and they didn’t want them back.

      This proves that people can change (in time), and want to start a brand new relationship.

      The funny part is, how many of the forum members are not interested in starting a new relationship with their ex’s after evolving past the breakup, and realizing what kind of relationship it really was.

      It seems (the majority) after having time away to reflect on what they had (with their ex) and what they want in a relationship, they didn’t want their ex back.

      This is why I tell people to not worry about getting their ex back, and just focus on getting over the break up, and getting your life back.

      If you had a real connection with your ex, they will seek you out again in the future. If not, you will be better off without them, right?

      Sticking to the no contact rule for at least a year will set you free, and also reveal the truth about your past relationship with your ex girlfriend.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  9. Hi there Scott,

    I was wondering, will the NC also work if the break up is 2, 3 months ago?

    Even if i made the following mistakes?
    1: We had contact the 2 months after the breakup like 2 – 3 times a week. First she was always the first one to send me. but in the 2nd month i was the one sending.
    2: in the 2nd month i made a handwritten letter telling her if she needed space i am okay with that and if we could pick up what we left to rebuild our relationship. She replied only 1 day later after receiving the letter! but not what i hoped for. She said the balance was not good between us, You felt way more love for me then i do for you and thats why i broke the relationship. I really see us as good friends now and hope we can continue that instead.

    I don’t know if i should implement the NC rule to increase any possibilities in the future for making small steps to her.
    I know i need to bigup myself first of course. But somehow i want to know if you experienced any people with these things above or if they are like to fail to re-unite with their ex.
    Because if so i would not contact her at all anymore because that would hurt my feelings even more. But then again you would never know the outcome if you chose not 2.

    Regards,

    Desperados.

    1. Hi,

      Your story is pretty much identical to everyone else’s story that I have communicated with. You are stuck in the ‘friends zone’.

      The no contact rule works at any time after a break up because it is for your benefit, not your ex girlfriends.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  10. Hi Scott,

    I am following the no-contact rule but my biggest problem was the actual breakup. We fought physically and I insulted him verbally(including saying how small he is down there..the way sex sucked..e.t.c) I even told him I have another boyfriend. I basically went overboard and Im wondering if this is one of those situations that is hopeless. Can it be salvaged if I follow a plan?

    1. Hi,

      It is a waste of time to try and “salvage” an old failed relationship, and worrying about what you said and did doesn’t do you any good, you can’t take it back.

      It is better to evolve past the break up and get your life back “before” deciding what to do about getting back together with your ex boyfriend.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

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