Comments on: What The No Contact Rule Can Do For You – A True Life Example http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/ How to Get Your Ex Back Fast and Survive a Break up Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:14:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: S. Williams http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/#comment-8418 S. Williams Fri, 22 Jul 2011 23:21:27 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com//?p=1#comment-8418 Hi, I can help you use the no contact rule to evolve past the break up (not analyze it to death), and get your life back. I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the "<a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/about-s-williams-how-to-get-your-ex-back-fast/" rel="nofollow">About</a>" section on my Blog. The fastest way to get him back is to get your life back first. Go read the <a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/" rel="nofollow">free plan to get your ex back</a> and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again. Thank you for writing. Take Care, S.W. Hi,

I can help you use the no contact rule to evolve past the break up (not analyze it to death), and get your life back.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

The fastest way to get him back is to get your life back first.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

]]> By: Mary Ann http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/#comment-8416 Mary Ann Fri, 22 Jul 2011 20:13:57 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com//?p=1#comment-8416 Hey! So my ex-boyfriend and I were together for 8 months, fights were common because I tend to overreact (mistake that I've learned from). The fights were usually short and dumb, but three times they escalted to the point where we'd both cry our eyes out and breakup. The first time it was me who asked for the break, but we vot back together the next day. The second time we broke up for a day, talked about it the next night and decided on a break and got back together the next morning. The third time I just felt hw wasn't very into me anymore and called him out on it...he told me the spark was gone and that he just doesn't know if he'd be this way with every othee girl he dated (I was his first girlfriend). I tell him that we should breakup and he begins to cry and say that's not what he wants...he starts to talk about his personal issues, family problems, and how he thinks he may even be depressed at times. I try to understand his problems, but I couldn't grasp all of them because he didn't know how to verbalize them...he then continued to talk about how no one understands him and that's why he orefers to keep his problems to himself and work on them on his own. He told me I must respect his decision if one day he tells me he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore and just wants to be alone. By the end of the conversation he begins to talk about how much he loves me and that he really, truly does want to be with me. We stay together, but I tell him he must tell me his problems when they arise because it isn't fair to have me on this emotional rollercoaster, if as he says, I'm not the problem. So a week passes and everything went perfectly, until one night he tells me he's tooo tired to do anything....I freak out on him because for the last month of that relationship he rarely wanted to do anything sexual. I tell him our relationship was based on mutual attraction and that without thay we have nothing...he says he loves me so much and loves the relationship and I say that isnt enough. Point is, I started a breakup I didn't even want. He tells me he felt like shit all through the night and the morning (he had been crying a lot). We talk and I say I'm not sure if that's worth breaking up over, we talk it out and I convince him we should. Once we start breaking up, he asks me if he had been a good boyfriend and tells me that he'll continue loving me even after it's over. I then notice i don't want to break up and try to change his mind...I couldn't do it. I ask him to come over, but his mind was made up and tbere was nothing I could do. I begged and askeddhim to.please try and explain the reasons because I wasn't understanding (it wasn't about the lack of attraction). The only thing I did understand was that he can't keep going throufh these emotional drainage of emotions because they wear him out. I tell him we can work on it, but he says it's over. I made a spectacle of it, it looked like a soap opera how pathetic I was being...we both cried a ton. He leaves and I sent him a text saying that I loved him very much and that if he ever changed his mimd to just let me know. He answers saying he really needs to think if he still wants this relationship and just confirms that we're broken up (he skipped work that niht because he was too sad and shaken up to go after the break up). I answer saying I understand and respect his decision. I regretted having begged him because it was pahetic and he did ask me to stop. This happened on a Friday ans all throufh the weekend he starts talking to my friends on chat saying he doesntknow if he made the right decision and that he's been really sad and didn't mean to hurt me...but he just really needs to think things over and make sure I'm the one. He asks them to please not tell me because he doesn't want to shake me up even more and then tells them he just wants me to move on, not to wait for him because he doesn't know if he's coming back but if he does realize he made aamistake he will come back and tell me, but that he just hopes he won't returm when it's too late. I call him on Tuesday (dumb move) and ask him to please stop talking to my friends and to give my wallet to my friend at their genetics summer class. He says it's fine, we do some small talk and just as we're about to hang up, i become weak and ask him if he's sure Bout the break up...he tells me he stands by his decision and I try to conince him again but it doesn't work and we hang up. I see him a week later at a party, but neither of us says hello to the other...people.keep coming up to me saying he's considering saying hello and I git tired of it so I walk over, say hi and walk away. (He was wearing the shirt I gave him for his birthday). About a week later, I send him on inbox on Facebook (I deletrd him when we broke up) saying I was ready to be friends and that if he ever needed me, I'd be there and that we could talk once in a while if we ever wanted to talk about certain problems that were going on in each other's life that only he or me would understand..i then say we should be able to say hello to each other without making a ig deal because the relationship ended for valid reasons. We agree, catch up about how our families have been..he tells me the song Dreams by van halen reminds him of me but he doesnt know why. We send a few more inboxes and then say goodbye. I see him a few days later at the same party pub and he approaches me and says hello and we have a small conversation, and he goes to touch me, pulls his hand back and says: I forget sometimes that I can't do that anymore. We talk a little more, my friend comes over and he leaves. We don't speak for the rest of the night. I know I shouldn't make contact anymore, it's been three weeks since the breakup...but I should probablt disappear for couple weeks, right? I just really want him to miss me and come back..I've been working out, going out, got new clothes and a new haircut along with highlights...but I still wish I could win him over. He just wants to see me happy because he cares for me a TON but I just don't know f it's enough to return to the relationship. And I want to be there for him if he needs me because he has some deep issues hes been trying tk resolve for years. I just don't know what to do anymore. He seems happy and fne without me...he had told me once he doesn't think he's emotionally stable enough for a relationship and after one of our othee breakups he had told his mom he wouldn't date anybody else for years after being with me...so I'm sure he didnt leave me for someone else, ans I don't think he'll date anyone else for a while (unless the girl of his dreams shows up). I just really don't know what to do...he told me when we were breaking up: time will tell. And that maybe five years from now he'll be asking me to marry him..that we never know what's going to happen. I am moving on because that's what he wants...but I wish there were some way to get him back. Should I disappear now? What if he's over me and doesn't care? Please help! Oh, he'd also talk to my friends about his confusion and just to see how I was doing. And to amothee one he said that he tried to explain his problems to me but that I just didn't understand. Hey! So my ex-boyfriend and I were together for 8 months, fights were common because I tend to overreact (mistake that I’ve learned from). The fights were usually short and dumb, but three times they escalted to the point where we’d both cry our eyes out and breakup. The first time it was me who asked for the break, but we vot back together the next day. The second time we broke up for a day, talked about it the next night and decided on a break and got back together the next morning. The third time I just felt hw wasn’t very into me anymore and called him out on it…he told me the spark was gone and that he just doesn’t know if he’d be this way with every othee girl he dated (I was his first girlfriend). I tell him that we should breakup and he begins to cry and say that’s not what he wants…he starts to talk about his personal issues, family problems, and how he thinks he may even be depressed at times. I try to understand his problems, but I couldn’t grasp all of them because he didn’t know how to verbalize them…he then continued to talk about how no one understands him and that’s why he orefers to keep his problems to himself and work on them on his own. He told me I must respect his decision if one day he tells me he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore and just wants to be alone. By the end of the conversation he begins to talk about how much he loves me and that he really, truly does want to be with me. We stay together, but I tell him he must tell me his problems when they arise because it isn’t fair to have me on this emotional rollercoaster, if as he says, I’m not the problem. So a week passes and everything went perfectly, until one night he tells me he’s tooo tired to do anything….I freak out on him because for the last month of that relationship he rarely wanted to do anything sexual. I tell him our relationship was based on mutual attraction and that without thay we have nothing…he says he loves me so much and loves the relationship and I say that isnt enough. Point is, I started a breakup I didn’t even want. He tells me he felt like shit all through the night and the morning (he had been crying a lot). We talk and I say I’m not sure if that’s worth breaking up over, we talk it out and I convince him we should. Once we start breaking up, he asks me if he had been a good boyfriend and tells me that he’ll continue loving me even after it’s over. I then notice i don’t want to break up and try to change his mind…I couldn’t do it. I ask him to come over, but his mind was made up and tbere was nothing I could do. I begged and askeddhim to.please try and explain the reasons because I wasn’t understanding (it wasn’t about the lack of attraction). The only thing I did understand was that he can’t keep going throufh these emotional drainage of emotions because they wear him out. I tell him we can work on it, but he says it’s over. I made a spectacle of it, it looked like a soap opera how pathetic I was being…we both cried a ton. He leaves and I sent him a text saying that I loved him very much and that if he ever changed his mimd to just let me know. He answers saying he really needs to think if he still wants this relationship and just confirms that we’re broken up (he skipped work that niht because he was too sad and shaken up to go after the break up). I answer saying I understand and respect his decision. I regretted having begged him because it was pahetic and he did ask me to stop. This happened on a Friday ans all throufh the weekend he starts talking to my friends on chat saying he doesntknow if he made the right decision and that he’s been really sad and didn’t mean to hurt me…but he just really needs to think things over and make sure I’m the one. He asks them to please not tell me because he doesn’t want to shake me up even more and then tells them he just wants me to move on, not to wait for him because he doesn’t know if he’s coming back but if he does realize he made aamistake he will come back and tell me, but that he just hopes he won’t returm when it’s too late. I call him on Tuesday (dumb move) and ask him to please stop talking to my friends and to give my wallet to my friend at their genetics summer class. He says it’s fine, we do some small talk and just as we’re about to hang up, i become weak and ask him if he’s sure Bout the break up…he tells me he stands by his decision and I try to conince him again but it doesn’t work and we hang up. I see him a week later at a party, but neither of us says hello to the other…people.keep coming up to me saying he’s considering saying hello and I git tired of it so I walk over, say hi and walk away. (He was wearing the shirt I gave him for his birthday). About a week later, I send him on inbox on Facebook (I deletrd him when we broke up) saying I was ready to be friends and that if he ever needed me, I’d be there and that we could talk once in a while if we ever wanted to talk about certain problems that were going on in each other’s life that only he or me would understand..i then say we should be able to say hello to each other without making a ig deal because the relationship ended for valid reasons. We agree, catch up about how our families have been..he tells me the song Dreams by van halen reminds him of me but he doesnt know why. We send a few more inboxes and then say goodbye. I see him a few days later at the same party pub and he approaches me and says hello and we have a small conversation, and he goes to touch me, pulls his hand back and says: I forget sometimes that I can’t do that anymore. We talk a little more, my friend comes over and he leaves. We don’t speak for the rest of the night. I know I shouldn’t make contact anymore, it’s been three weeks since the breakup…but I should probablt disappear for couple weeks, right?
I just really want him to miss me and come back..I’ve been working out, going out, got new clothes and a new haircut along with highlights…but I still wish I could win him over. He just wants to see me happy because he cares for me a TON but I just don’t know f it’s enough to return to the relationship. And I want to be there for him if he needs me because he has some deep issues hes been trying tk resolve for years. I just don’t know what to do anymore. He seems happy and fne without me…he had told me once he doesn’t think he’s emotionally stable enough for a relationship and after one of our othee breakups he had told his mom he wouldn’t date anybody else for years after being with me…so I’m sure he didnt leave me for someone else, ans I don’t think he’ll date anyone else for a while (unless the girl of his dreams shows up). I just really don’t know what to do…he told me when we were breaking up: time will tell. And that maybe five years from now he’ll be asking me to marry him..that we never know what’s going to happen. I am moving on because that’s what he wants…but I wish there were some way to get him back. Should I disappear now? What if he’s over me and doesn’t care? Please help!

Oh, he’d also talk to my friends about his confusion and just to see how I was doing. And to amothee one he said that he tried to explain his problems to me but that I just didn’t understand.

]]> By: S. Williams http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/#comment-8359 S. Williams Mon, 18 Jul 2011 11:37:50 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com//?p=1#comment-8359 Hi, It is your life, and you should be in control, right? Use the no contact rule to evolve past the break up, and get your ass out of relationship limbo. I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the "<a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/about-s-williams-how-to-get-your-ex-back-fast/" rel="nofollow">About</a>" section on my Blog. Go read the <a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/" rel="nofollow">free plan to get your ex back</a> and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again. Thank you for writing. Take Care, S.W. Hi,

It is your life, and you should be in control, right?

Use the no contact rule to evolve past the break up, and get your ass out of relationship limbo.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

]]> By: Cancerian http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/#comment-8355 Cancerian Mon, 18 Jul 2011 09:23:36 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com//?p=1#comment-8355 Hi S.W, Thank you for your plan =)I have a limbo question. "My bf said to me 15 days ago, that he needs 'time out for 2 weeks' and I didn't go insane. I just packed my stuff out, although, I did cry.. and we did speak for 3 hours. I stuck to the 2 weeks time out and did not contact him. Although it did drive me nearly insane.. It is now the 15th Day of the 'time out'. Do I still send the NC Message (for rel. Limbo) or do I wait first for him to turn around and see what his decision is?" I bumped into him during lunch and texted him (its the 15th day already) abt something and he replied pleasantly, along with 'Btw, Nice shoes =)' ... and... i caved and sent him something flirty. To which he responded with just 'hhmmmmmm :s' Need your advice on what to do now. Should I wait for him to revert with a 'decision'.. or just send the NC? Thanks a lot. I really appreciate all your help =) Cancerian Hi S.W,

Thank you for your plan =)I have a limbo question.

“My bf said to me 15 days ago, that he needs ‘time out for 2 weeks’ and I didn’t go insane. I just packed my stuff out, although, I did cry.. and we did speak for 3 hours. I stuck to the 2 weeks time out and did not contact him. Although it did drive me nearly insane..
It is now the 15th Day of the ‘time out’. Do I still send the NC Message (for rel. Limbo) or do I wait first for him to turn around and see what his decision is?”

I bumped into him during lunch and texted him (its the 15th day already) abt something and he replied pleasantly, along with ‘Btw, Nice shoes =)’ … and… i caved and sent him something flirty. To which he responded with just ‘hhmmmmmm :s’

Need your advice on what to do now. Should I wait for him to revert with a ‘decision’.. or just send the NC?

Thanks a lot. I really appreciate all your help =)

Cancerian

]]> By: S. Williams http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/#comment-8184 S. Williams Sat, 25 Jun 2011 18:05:29 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com//?p=1#comment-8184 Hi, He won't "give up" if you are really "the girl of his dreams", and he truly loves you, right? I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the "<a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/about-s-williams-how-to-get-your-ex-back-fast/" rel="nofollow">About</a>" section on my Blog. The fastest way to get your boyfriend back is to get your life back first, and become the girl of his dreams once again. Go read the <a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/" rel="nofollow">free plan to get your ex back</a> and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again. Thank you for writing. Take Care, S.W. Hi,

He won’t “give up” if you are really “the girl of his dreams”, and he truly loves you, right?

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

The fastest way to get your boyfriend back is to get your life back first, and become the girl of his dreams once again.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

]]> By: Lizzie http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/#comment-8183 Lizzie Sat, 25 Jun 2011 17:36:19 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com//?p=1#comment-8183 Ok so my boyfriend just broke up with me on Monday. On Wednesday, I made things worse by beggin him to give us another chance and showing him how things can change. We have been friends for over 7 years, and have been dating for over a year. Our past has alot oh history and happiness, and I was always the girl of his dreams.Recently, he was unhappy with me bringing up problems, nagging, or lurking on his Twitter, and clinginess.I have not spoken to him since Wednesday, but found out that he indeed was not happy because of how things changed with me being clingy, and no longer being the secure, strong, funny, sexy friend and lover he fell in love with.He seems to be very amicable and still has feelings for me, but was just plain old tired. I agree with what happened now and still love him very much and want him back. I'm conflicted because I dont know if I should call him at the end of the first week of talking to establish communication,and let him know I still care, or wait for him to come to me. I dont want him to think that we'll never have a chance again and that ive entirely moved on, because even though he may want me back, he may give up if he thinks I dont care anymore. I am also interested if the NC rule would be ok since he hasnt contacted me yet, and i dont want loose everything in the long run Ok so my boyfriend just broke up with me on Monday. On Wednesday, I made things worse by beggin him to give us another chance and showing him how things can change. We have been friends for over 7 years, and have been dating for over a year. Our past has alot oh history and happiness, and I was always the girl of his dreams.Recently, he was unhappy with me bringing up problems, nagging, or lurking on his Twitter, and clinginess.I have not spoken to him since Wednesday, but found out that he indeed was not happy because of how things changed with me being clingy, and no longer being the secure, strong, funny, sexy friend and lover he fell in love with.He seems to be very amicable and still has feelings for me, but was just plain old tired. I agree with what happened now and still love him very much and want him back. I’m conflicted because I dont know if I should call him at the end of the first week of talking to establish communication,and let him know I still care, or wait for him to come to me. I dont want him to think that we’ll never have a chance again and that ive entirely moved on, because even though he may want me back, he may give up if he thinks I dont care anymore. I am also interested if the NC rule would be ok since he hasnt contacted me yet, and i dont want loose everything in the long run

]]> By: S. Williams http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/#comment-8055 S. Williams Tue, 07 Jun 2011 21:56:59 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com//?p=1#comment-8055 Hi, It is never too late to properly use the no contact rule to get your life back, as far as getting your ex boyfriend back, only time will tell, but the sooner you get started, the better. I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the "<a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/about-s-williams-how-to-get-your-ex-back-fast/" rel="nofollow">About</a>" section on my Blog. Go read the free plan, heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again. Thank you for writing. Take Care, S.W. Hi,

It is never too late to properly use the no contact rule to get your life back, as far as getting your ex boyfriend back, only time will tell, but the sooner you get started, the better.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan, heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

]]> By: Cathy http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/#comment-8049 Cathy Tue, 07 Jun 2011 19:00:56 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com//?p=1#comment-8049 Hi, My ex-bf and I broke up 2 months ago. We were together for about 2 years and we were in a long distance relationship for 3 months before he broke it off. The break up came all of a sudden. I went back to his town twice to fix things up. He was sweet to me while I was there but as soon as I came back to my town, he stopped all contact, blocked me on messenger and facebook, and told me not to go back there anymore. He's been talking to a girl online day and night since the first day he decided to break up. He told his friend that he's in love with her. During these 2 months, besides going up there to visit him, I still texted him 2-3 times a week but usually he didn't reply. Is it too late for me to implement the no contact rule? Did I blow up my chances? I still miss him and love him so much. I can't picture him being with another girl and me being with another guy. Is there a chance for me to get back with him? :( Thanks! Hi,

My ex-bf and I broke up 2 months ago. We were together for about 2 years and we were in a long distance relationship for 3 months before he broke it off. The break up came all of a sudden. I went back to his town twice to fix things up. He was sweet to me while I was there but as soon as I came back to my town, he stopped all contact, blocked me on messenger and facebook, and told me not to go back there anymore. He’s been talking to a girl online day and night since the first day he decided to break up. He told his friend that he’s in love with her. During these 2 months, besides going up there to visit him, I still texted him 2-3 times a week but usually he didn’t reply.

Is it too late for me to implement the no contact rule? Did I blow up my chances? I still miss him and love him so much. I can’t picture him being with another girl and me being with another guy. Is there a chance for me to get back with him? :(

Thanks!

]]> By: Maina http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/#comment-7854 Maina Fri, 06 May 2011 18:02:21 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com//?p=1#comment-7854 Wohooo! I LOVE NeverShoutNever! Christopher Drew is such a hottie hehehehe.. That's so cool, Monica :D Wohooo! I LOVE NeverShoutNever! Christopher Drew is such a hottie hehehehe.. That’s so cool, Monica :D

]]> By: S. Williams http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/what-the-no-contact-rule-can-do-for-you/#comment-7201 S. Williams Sun, 09 Jan 2011 13:39:58 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com//?p=1#comment-7201 Tina says: <blockquote>but anyway just wondering Is it too late to send the NC message or when does it get sent?.</blockquote> Hi, Since the NC message and the free plan is about evolving past the break up and getting your life back, NOT about getting your ex back, you can send it this late. Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps. Take Care, S.W. Tina says:

but anyway just wondering Is it too late to send the NC message or when does it get sent?.

Hi,

Since the NC message and the free plan is about evolving past the break up and getting your life back, NOT about getting your ex back, you can send it this late.

Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

Take Care,

S.W.

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