What The No Contact Rule Can Do For You – A True Life Example
With so many people questioning the effectiveness of the no contact rule, I just had to share this true life example with all of you. I received this email earlier this week from a very smart, and obviously focused young woman named Monica.
Monica has graciously agreed to let me reprint the email in it’s entirety (except for her ex boyfriends name…whom I will call “Mr. X”…because it sounds pretty cool). So, everything in the following email is exactly as she wrote it to me (typing errors and all…sorry Monica), except for her ex boyfriends name. I hope once you see how when correctly applied the no contact rule can change your life, you’ll reconsider using it…OK?
The Email:
Hey Scott,
How have you been?
Well, it’s been 30 days. I feel like a completely different person! I’ve lost weight, I’ve been spending time with my friends and family, I’ve been trying new things that I normally wouldn’t do (ie. playing video games – I LOVE IT…its addicting 
, skating), I feel more confident, I’ve updated my fashion, I’ve been using new makeup techniques and changing my hairstyle once in a while, and I feel alot happier than I’ve been these past few months! I’ve even asked my friends to set me up on dates! I would’ve refused their offers 2 months ago, but I’m actually willing to let them help me. I’ve surrounded myself with people who are supporting my plan, and they’re pretty proud of the progress I made. I’ve even used your self-help exercise you posted on your blog and it really did help me. I’m proud of how well I’ve been handling these 30 days. Plus, my school life has been pretty busy since exams are coming up so I had other things to concentrate on other than Mr. X.
I want to thank you for your advice. Going to meet him for that cup of coffee was not a good idea and I’m glad to have this month for time to myself. Thank you Scott, I didn’t realize how much the no contact rule benefited me.
Well, it’s been nearly 4 months since we broke up and my life’s been going pretty great for me. So, a week ago, I questioned myself if getting back with Mr. X was the best idea for me. I was miserable after we broke up…do I really want to go through that pain again? Then I heard this song called “30 days” by nevershoutnever! and it hit me – I’m still crazy about him, I still miss him, and I still want to be with him. The lyrics in the song was exactly what I was feeling. Whether we get back or not, I’m glad that I’ve experienced all this. During this month, I’ve wrote in my journal to rant about my feelings and the breakup. I usually feel better after I write down my feelings. I wrote about our relationship and I’ve came up with different theories to the reason why we broke up.
1. I didn’t put enough effort into it – Like you said, I should listen to what actually comes out of his mouth rather from another source.
2. I didn’t give enough him time during the break – Guys like to be alone when they are stressed out. But girls like to know everything. So I was pressuring him and he didn’t like it – he didn’t want to deal with me at that time because he was stressed so he broke it off.
3. It was one big freak out – We’ve never felt this way about another person before. When he asked for a break, I freaked out..which caused him to freak out. It was like one big domino effect.
4. The distance was too much – In the summer, we use to see each other, talk on the phone, and text every day. But since school started and he’s wokring full time now, we don’t have that luxury. We’re limited to seeing each other once a week, 1-2 phone calls a week, and texting each other once a day. That transition was too wide.
5. He didn’t want to seem weak – Like your report said, all guys want to be admired. I remember I didn’t call him the night after we got together. The following day, he asked me why I didn’t call him. I think he needed me too, but he didn’t want to admit it. He’s always curled up in my arms and in the summer, he’s the one who usually texts me to call him. Like the report said, no guy is gonna come out and say he doesn’t feel special.
I honestly believe if I gave Mr. X more time during our break, we wouldn’t have broken up. I remember that night when he decided it was time for a break, I asked him “so, what is a break? do I still have a boyfriend?” and he said “yes.” And I messed that chance up because I didn’t give him enough time.
I feel like I’m ready to see Mr. X again. I feel like I won’t break down and beg him to come back bacause I know I will be okay without him. However, I’ve read your blogs and you said some people think they’re ready but they’re actually not. I want you unbiased opinion to be 100% sure. Thanks for your support Scott!
Monica
How Did She Do It?
Well, it seems she struggled at the beginning like most people do, but she did one thing most others don’t…she asked for some advice. And she got it…from me, and what I write on my Blog, which is why I write…to help people, so use it, OK? It also seems that she surrounded herself with “supportive” people, not people who would shoot down her plan to get through this, and win back Mr. X, also VERY important.
She Used The Right Tools
Not only did she utilize all the “free” tools I offer but she also bought the book. Now, this not a shameless plug for the book I sell on my Blog. Instead it is a testimonial to it’s effectiveness in conjunction with my Free personal Support, and the information provided here on my Blog. I want ALL of you to succeed, whether it’s to get your Mr./Mrs. X back, or to just heal, and move on with your life…that is my purpose.
She Used The Right Tools Correctly
Not only did she get all the necessary tools to achieve the level of confidence and happiness she now feels, but she actually used them. That’s right…she used them, and they worked! She used the exercises in the book, and on my Blog. She also followed the plan in the book, and lost weight, changed her attitude, and outlook on life. She went from hopelessness to happiness. She went from low self esteem to rock solid self confidence, and you can too. If you follow her example, and put the no contact rule to work for you.
She Analyzed Her Situation
I really loved the part of her email where she outlined everything that she thought went wrong with their old relationship. By taking the time to do this she’s not only prepared herself for a new relationship with Mr. X, but she is ready to start, and maintain a healthy relationship with anyone she chooses now. That is pure gold people…that is the MAIN reason to learn what I am teaching here. The Journal was a brilliant idea, and that helped her to release the past, and embrace the future. Instead of wallowing in the past drowning in self pity, she worked through her feelings in her journal, and moved on…Nice Job Monica!
In Conclusion
Every one of you going through a break up can do what Monica did. I will help you the same way I helped Monica, and everyone else that asks for my advice and help. You can do this without the book, but it will be a lot harder…that is why I recommend the book, and I fully support it too…because I know that it works. I want to thank Monica for agreeing to let me reprint her email. She told me she wanted to help other people, like she was helped…isn’t that what the world is all about? People helping people?
I hope this article has helped you to understand the power the no contact rule has, to change not only your current situation…but your life as well. Please if you have any comments, questions, or you would just like to thank Monica for generously sharing, please do so in the box down below. Do you think Monica is ready to reconnect with Mr. X? What can I do to help you get your ex or your life back again? Let me know, I am here to help.
Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?
My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.
If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.
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Hi Alberta,
No contact would be a great idea right now…why?
Because you could use the time to work on your emotional control, and give him time to find out that this new girlfriend will not replace you.
He is tired of your jealousy, right?
Well, work on that and stop chasing him, and he will wonder what happened to the old jealous needy person.
I don’t think this girl he is dating is “the one”, she is just a rebound relationship to make you feel sorry for what you did. If he really loved her he wouldn’t have come back to you on March 15th…right?
Use the exercises on page 13 in the book, and release those negative feelings. Your doubts, and fears are feeding your jealousy, get rid of them and your jealousy will disappear.
You can also check out the free information on this site a lot of people are getting some great help for no cost.
This will be your assignment, along with re-reading the book while you stick with NC.
Stay Strong!
Take Care,
S. Williams
Hi,
My ex and broke up since May of last year.He started dating somenone else. We got back together off and on. But I’ve been making all of the mistakes that killed my chance of getting him back.We just got back together on March 15,2009, then i made jealous and now he is gone again to that girl was dating. I would like to know if I could still use the no contact rule to get him back into my arms since he’s with someone now. I bought the ebook, now i know exactly what to do, but I need to know if no contact rule is a great idea.
Hi Mary,
There’s no reason not to reply, you used no contact for 3 months. I would thank him for his kind words. If you’re planning on starting up chatting again, do not bring up the past…OK?
And do not ask about his personal life, although I know you’re dying too. If you are to be just friends then keep it off the subject of dating, or your past relationship…understand?
The real problem is the distance between you and your ex boyfriend.
How can you ask him out for a series of short dates when he is in another country? This part of the plan is very important. Do you have any plans of traveling to where he lives in the near future?
I guess I would just keep things friendly for now, but not too personal, until which time you’re in his country, and can start reconnecting as outlined in chapter six of the book.
I hope this helped.
Take Care,
S. Williams
hi scott,
I have to ask for some advice, after 3months of NC i finally thought it was time to send my ex a email.He lives in another country so i can’t ring. Anyway the last time we spoke he was very mean and said ‘we have nothing’, don’t contact him as im wasting my time etc.so i thought what can i lose by sending a email to him, well it worked he replied straight away…i was shocked. I used the letter you have on your website(just wanted to tell you that you were right etc)and he replied saying, thats great news ,that something wonderful has happened in you life.And that i was possibly the one to make you realise something good could come from a bad situation.Good luck, the ex.I know we live in different countries and its hard but would really like if we could just be friends for now..so what do you think i should do next.I do have your e-book. Do i reply or not.
Hi Mary,
Reply whenever you like, but choose your words carefully, don’t go over board…just thank him for his kind words.
If he is now willing to open the lines of communication with you, that is always a good sign…but tread lightly as electronic messages can be misread very easily.
That is why face to face, or at least the telephone are recommended, as you can tell a persons intention through their body language, and tone of voice…understand?
I would say you’re off to a very good start, but as I mentioned before…please go slowly and carefully if you really want him back.
Emotional control will be your best chance for success.
I hope this helped.
Take Care,
S. Williams
hi, he comes over here to see his 3 children so we could meet up again.And if i new he wanted to get back i would move over to be with him but i would really need to be sure it was the right thing for both.Do you think there is something to work on here or is he just being polite.How long should i wait untill i reply, i dont want him to panic or freak out.Its a major break through that he replied to the email and it was kind..lol
Thankyou so much,i really didn’t think he would contact me again.I have been surfing the net about emotional control and found it really helped, so when or if it gets to that stage again i have all the help i need to get it right.Many thanks, i will take it slowly.
Hi Alberta.
My advice is to take a break from being his friend,and start using the no contact time to work out your problems, and a strategy (using the book) to reconnect in a month or so.
After he does not have you around, when he needs you, he will start to picture a life without you in it.
If he moves on, then he was never coming back to you anyways, but I don’t think 6 years will vanish so quickly…understand?
You’re biggest problem is your fear to let go of this tiny little bit of attention he is giving you, and make a plan to get him back again.
Everyone goes through this, and using the emotional control exercises in the book (page 13), will help you to let go of these negative feelings and stick with the plan.
The sooner you stick with the plan, the faster you will get him back.
Or, in worst case scenario, find out he is not coming back, and move on with your life.
Either way you will be better off than you are now…right?
It’s like having a splinter, it’s hurt to have it, but it will hurt to pull it out too, right?
So do you just let it stay there and get worst, and worst?
Or, do you get brave enough to pull it out, and heal?
Here is another website that offers free self help materials.
Take Care,
S. Williams
Hi Scott,
Tell me what do you think, my ex asked me to go over his house this morning to wait for the cable company to come set up his cable, but I lie said that I was going to work. But now I feel like I should have go.Last night he called I did not pick up, then I called back. He wanted to know where I was so I refused to tell him. I don’t know if no contact rule would worked for me since he has a girl, and we live an hour away from each other. I don’t get to see him like that. I been doing some of the plan. Like going to gym, take care my complexion and keep myself updated my wardrobe. We broke up for a while and has a new girlfriend. we did not get back because I’ve made so much mistakes. Now I know exactly what to do since I have the book. I want to be his friend so that we can get to see each other, so that I can show him tha I’m a new person. I really want to save that six years relationship. I love him so much, but I can’t control my emotions sometimes, and that was one the reasons that ended up breaking up. I want to work on that.
Hi Alberta,
Where in the book does it say to lie to your ex?
I’ll answer that…it doesn’t.
Please stick to he plan, and don’t let panic drive you to do things that will make your situation worst…OK?
This is the main reason that I advise everyone without a plan like the one in this book, get one and follow it.
If you let your emotions run the show, you’re in for a world of hurt.
Following the plan in the book, will teach you how to solve this problem using your head.
Alberta, you have the book, now get strong enough to use it.
I left a website for you in my last response for free self help tools, go take a look, and start using whatever you need to get your panic, and fear under control.
The sooner you do that, and start following the plan in the book, the sooner things will get better.
Take Care,
S. Williams
Hi Alberta,
You’re Welcome!
That’s why I am here to help keep you, and anyone else who needs it, on the right path.
Stay strong, and work on your emotional control, that is the “secret key” to success that everyone over looks at first…don’t make the same mistake.
Take Care,
S. Williams
Hi Scott,
I want to correct something from your response to my comment. I was the one who was trying to make my ex jealous. Since I’ve been using some techniques, where I don’t beg and chase him anymore so he’s thinking that I have somebody. So I tried to make him jealous thinking that would’ve worked for me to get him back , but it did and I killed my chance of getting him back. I did the no contact rule before, I don’t know if I should try it again. It’s a different story now, because he’s dating somebody. So anyone who’s reading my comment, if you want to get your ex back don’t make him to believe that you are dating.It did not work for me.
Hi Scott,
You are right, even my family and friends are upset with. They told me that I should be honest with him and my self. I can’t wait to have some good news for you. I’m following the plan now. That happened before I bought the book. So forgive me, I did not have the book that’s why I made the mistake. Now I have the technique.
thanks so much!!!
okay, so how do i use the no contact rule if he texts me still? almost everyday or every other day at the least? What do i do about this?
Hi Jourden,
You ignore them…this goes for emails, and phone calls as well.
What does he text you for…just to see how you’re doing?
Doesn’t it make you wonder why he left you, but keeps tabs on you now?
Send him a text and tell him you are busy, and need some space.
Anything that’s not important like job related, or about any children you have together, just ignore them.
If you have to answer back (for something important/urgent) keep it to the point and short, and do not share your personal life with him…it’s really none of his business sense he left you…right?
If you think this is being mean then you don’t understand how no contact really works and you need to read up on it.
If you’re afraid to do this because he will “move on” and forget you, you’re wrong…he won’t, and you should read this article.
If you have doubts and fears about using NC, then you really should look into getting some help with your emotional control.
I can not say this enough…
Emotional control is the key to winning back your ex using no contact.
Let me know if you have any more questions about texts and no contact…OK?
Take Care,
S. Williams
so if i ask him to give me space and he does for 30 days, and does not contact me what do i do?
Hi Jourden,
If you really want to get your ex boyfriend you’re going to need a plan.
No contact is about much more than waiting 30 days, and contacting him again…understand?
There is a step by step plan that will walk you through the process, and I will personally support you by answering any questions you have when you are not sure what to do.
If you’re wondering if my support and advice is any good, why don’t you read the above article from Monica.
I worked with her personally and helped her to stick with no contact, you see it’s the “personal” support that makes the difference between success and failure.
You will get him back much faster if you get serious about this, and take action.
To answer your question about what you do next…
You start following a plan to reconnect with him through a series of short dates, but there is way too much information for me to cover here…understand?
If you are not already, why don’t you join my free newsletter for more tips, and advice about how to get your ex boyfriend back.
I hope this helped, and I look forward to personally working with you when you’re ready.
Take Care,
S. Williams
hello,
i am trying to get a refund and buy the book from you, but in the mean time, what are my chances of getting him back, will he really miss me or just go screw off with other girls? will dating other guys really be a smart move if i want him back?
Hi Jourden,
Your chances are 50/50.
He texts you every day or so…that indicates he doesn’t want to let you go.
Using no contact will give him a taste of reality…you’re no longer “his” girlfriend.
If you want to know if he will miss you use NC and find out.
Dating other guys is an option, not a necessity.
Right now you should be reading the book, and doing all the exercises as you go along.
Stay positive…that is the most important thing.
If you do not believe this will work…then it won’t.
Emotional control is the “key” to success.
If you need help with that take a look at my “win back your ex with emotional control” section on the upper left hand side of my Blog.
Stay positive!
Take Care,
S. Williams
okay so if i just ignore him when he texts me then all of the sudden a month later i txt him, don’t you think he’d give me a taste of my own medicine and ignore me back?
Hi Jourden,
That’s why it is best to initiate contact when “you are” ready. Plus, you’re not “ignoring him” you are taking time to get yourself in order, emotionally, and preparing to reconnect.
Are you reading the book, and following the plan?
Or, are you just picking it apart, looking for an excuse not to follow through?
I think you are scared to use no contact, and that will be your down fall.
That’s exactly why you should get some help with your emotional control, and stop trying to “predict” the future…OK?
Read the book, follow the plan, do the exercises, and you will see how the plan works.
You bought the book because you’re not happy with your current situation, correct?
Then use the book to change your current situation, and get your ex back. Just find a polite way to tell him you need some space, and you will be in touch after a while.
Don’t tell him why, just that you need some time to think about some personal issues, and you appreciate his understanding.
If he throws a tantrum, just ignore it, and start NC anyways…OK?
Or…
You can ignore the plan in the book, and keep things the way they are.
You’re choice.
Take Care,
S. Williams
okay, i am going to tell him today, but you are sure that if i use no contact he will no move on???? i am scared really scared but i want to get him back and if this plan is effitive i wanna use it
Hi Jourden,
One question…
How do you know he won’t move on anyways?
Do you think by keeping things the way they are now, he’s going to come back?
When he can have his cake and eat it too, why should he decide?
No reason to…
You have a 50/50 chance…OK?
You must get your emotions and your fear under control.
Use the exercise on page 13, and look over some of my recommendations under “win back ex with emotional control.”
There is a real good reason why I have that section on my Blog.
Because 99% of the people going through a break up, need help in this area.
Get rid of your doubts with some self help tools, and then focus on the plan…from page one, and keep a positive attitude.
I can’t “guarantee” that no contact will work, life has no guarantees except for death, but I can pretty much guarantee that if you do nothing, nothing will change.
This plan has worked for thousands of people, I really believe it will work for you too…
If you use it!
Now go use it…OK?
I have faith in you!
Take Care,
S. Williams
okay, so i have a plan and im going to follow it, but from a guys perspective, he dumped me by the way, and was crying when it happened, what is he going through right now, like what is he thinking?
Hi Jourden,
I am really not very good at “mind reading”, but I would guess he questions if he did the right thing breaking up with you.
He dumped you, yet keeps in touch almost daily.
Hmmm…
It seems like he questions his own actions, and needs time to think, but he does not want you to move on, so he keeps you trapped in “relationship limbo.”
Good for him, sucks for you.
You’re going to use no contact, and the plan in the book to break out of relationship limbo, and find the answers to all your questions about this break up…OK?
Take Care,
S. Williams
hey T Dub,thankyou so much for your help.I have been reading your e-book and found it to be really useful in getting my head and feelings together.When i last emailed you i had just had contact with my ex,which was great.I emailed him back like you told me to ,to thank him for his kind words and havent heard back for over a week.Im turning this into a positive and thinking he is not ready for this yet,or he is over it…I need ot ask you something it is his birthday this month and i thought i would send him a e-card, but didnt know if i should.What do you think?I dont wont to come over as to needy.
Hi Mary,
I am not T Dub, I am S. Williams.
If you are following the no contact plan in the book I would continue to stay in no contact.
He hasn’t responded to your last email, and that means he is not ready yet, so I would not send a card.
He is probably expecting you to do something like that, and when you don’t he will take notice…understand?
Keep reading the book to understand how relationships work, and just wait until he is going to be in your part of the world, and use chapter 6 to set up a face to face meeting.
Emails can only do so much, and they can easily be misunderstood as well, you will need to meet someday.
Keep up the good work!
Take Care,
S. Williams
Thanks,sorry about calling you T Dub.
Hi Mary,
You’re Welcome!
And don’t worry I have been called worst.
Take Care,
S.Williams
me and my ex have seen each other a few times since i broke up with him. he has been seeing someone else the entire time since our breakup months ago. about two months ago i did not talk to him for a total of three weeks. then we had date and i told him i needed a committed relationship like we had again and i could not just see him once in awhile. we have gone weeks again and he text me about seeing me. do i respond to his text or ignore? what is he doing? i have not texted him or contacted him twice now for almost a month period.
Hi Sherri,
What is he doing?
Simple, he’s having his cake, and eating it too.
If you want that to end you have to be strong, and refuse his communications.
I would ignore his message to “see you” again.
You have caved in every time he asked before, it’s time to be strong.
You said you wanted more, now fight for it.
If he moves on, then you have your answer…right?
Have you been reading about relationships, and how they work?
It would really be to your advantage to follow a plan, in the meantime I would get out of this pattern of seeing him every once in a while, unless you’re happy with that situation…are you?
Read the articles on my Blog, and learn more about using the no contact rule to get your ex boyfriend back.
Take Care,
S. Williams
I know i did not listen and broke the nc rule. i miss him. You said though if a month had gone by and I was ready to see him and not fall apart when i did, i was ready. well i saw him. when we are together we act as if we are still dating. he did not mention about us and i did not either. now i am wondering after seeing him if he going to go weeks again before texting me? the girl he has also been seeing too does not know we see each other. since seeing her he will not break if off but continues to text me when he wants to get together. i don’t want to loose him to her. i am tired of all this. i am confused. do i make two more dates then ask about us again or not talk to him? please help!
Hi Sherri,
Follow the no contact rule.
If you need help using the no contact rule take a look at this:
Using No Contact To Win My Ex Boyfriend Back
Take Care,
S. Williams
So it has been 3 weeks since no contact with my ex… For 1.5 months after the break-up we went through the whole re-hashing the relationship I took responsibilities for my faults and also acted like a jerk a few times too during that process. However I never asked for her back but I made it known that I was still in love with her. She had started dating a guy in her office a week after we broke up and has been seeing him ever since. I really believe that it is to know what it is like to be with someone else sinece I was her first. But I am afraid that it could turn into even more even though she swears that she does not want a relationship with him and has different motives for them being together. (She is just turned 20 and I just turned 27, We had been together since she turned 18.) Through out the relationship I pushed her away even though she only showed me true love and devotion. I went through a difficult time with a medical problem with my back and it caused me not to be very active to where we just sat at my place and watched tv all the time. I became very negative and probably not to great to be around but she was devoted to me. Right when things turned around and I am doing better we break up… The week after break up was her birthday which we spent together and a month later was mine which we spent almost the whole weekend together like nothing had happened. Previously in that week she had texted me a long message about how she wants to be with me more than anything in the world but we broke up for 2 reasons. 1 my attitude throughout the past year which she sees has changed and also so she could be single and figure out who she is. The end of the text was her saying she wants to be back together but thinks that would have the same thoughts of wanting to figure out herself and break up eventually. That night I had texted her that after my birthday we should have no contact for a while. she suggested 2 months I suggested 3 (now I feel is a mistake). So after my birthday we have not had any contact except 1.5 weeks into it she sent a long text from her saying that if anything is going on with me or my health to please let her know. I didnt respond.
I have been going through all of the satges of grief and am finally onto acceptance. However, I feel that with her texting me that she wants to be with me more than anything in the world. That I can’t fully accept the break up with out one last try at being together. And I want to do it before she falls for this other guy. I really believe that she hasnt yet but you never know. Her response to why she is even seeing him is because “she just wants someone to be nice to her”. I was never mean per say but my negative attitud impacted her.
So it has been 3 weeks of no contact what should I do? I feel like I would rather risk the chance of going through another break up rather than living with the regret of not giving our relationship one more chance with my new positive attitude and better physical health.
Hi Mike,
Well, you have previously agreed to 3 months…Right?
My advice would be to stick to your agreement.
Have you used any kind of plan during your no contact so far?
The reason I asked is because if you are just sitting home waiting for 3 months to pass, you’re really wasting your time.
Have you considered casual dating?
This can help speed up her decision making process.
If she sees you starting to date, she will begin to wonder if you’re moving on…and break three month agreement herself.
Why don’t you read the comments on my Blog along with the articles, and watch the free videos too.
You can also join my free newsletter for more tips, and advice.
If you’re interested in working with me directly, take a look at this:
I Want My Ex Girlfriend Back
Read up, and inform yourself so you have a much better chance of getting her back…OK?
Take Care,
S. Williams
Thanks for your quick response I was reading some of the articles and saw it on the side…
I have been trying to implement a strong plan of working on myself. I am exercising, eating good, hanging out with old friends. And am doing well with it. 3 months just seems like a lot can happen and I think some things are going on in her life where she might turn to this other person for condolance… I know I can’t change other people but 3 months just seems like a very rash decision on my part. And a life time away.
Hi Mike,
It looks like your love will be put to the test.
If she goes to his other guy, it doesn’t mean she will be with him forever.
It is important to honor both of your decisions, and stick with no contact as agreed.
If you break it you will look needy and desperate, and that is not very attractive.
Work on your emotional control, that is the real “key” to victory when dealing with relationship problems.
Take Care,
S. Williams
ok so this is my 3r break up in a 1.5 yr hes being very serious about it now n it seems like we never knew each other . he still loves me we went out for 5 yrs and the reason we broke up each tmes were different and we worked on our problems and things were going pretty fine and one day he just decided he cant be happy with me and he broke up. he doesnt wanna see me becoz he thinks he will get weak and doenst talk to me over the pb either . he doesnt return my ph call i hve been trying the no contact rule .. i didnt call him for 4 days but i guess it was not enough . my only concern is wat if i dont call him for weeks and he becomes more strong .? he was never like that i dont know how his feelings got so strong about breaking up with me
i really need your help because i know we can work things out …
Hi Amber,
If you keep breaking up it doesn’t sound like you are getting your problems worked out before getting back together again.
No contact will be the best thing for the both of you right now.
Why?
Because he needs time to think about what he wants, and so do you.
If you chase him, he will only stick harder to his position, and you”ll eventually drive him off for good.
So, what is your plan, to continually beg until he comes back?
You can’t stop him from moving on if that’s his choice, and you will only drive him away if you try.
Why are you afraid he will love you less if you let him go for a while?
I will tell you why, because you are letting panic and fear do all your thinking for you.
I suggest you read my Blog, and think about using a step by step plan to fix this break up.
How To Survive A Break Up
You can also join my newsletter by clicking on the heart in the upper right corner of my Blog.
The sooner you stop doing things wrong, and start doing them right, the faster you will have your ex back again.
That is the “best” advice I can give you right now.
I hope this helped.
Take Care,
S. Williams
iam ready to apply the no contact rule its been almost a month since we r having issued with our relationship . and from today i wont cal him but for how long i shud follow it and wat shud be my next step .. i am very confused but and i really wanna do the right thing
Hi Amber,
That’s great that you have decided to take some action.
Now…
If you’re really serious about getting him back, you need a good plan.
I can guide, and coach you, but I can not type out a whole plan for you…understand?
Besides this plan, is the “best” I have seen out there, and it works, just take a look at what people are saying about me, and this plan.
Click Here When You’re Ready To Get Your Ex Back!
Take Care,
S. Williams
he was not that aloof in the beginning of the problem but he got really distant n cold . now he doesnt even call me back or answer my call did i ruin my chance of getting him back ? can the no contact rule would still work ? it seems like we dont even know each other n we never even met
hes giving me very silly reasons for break up like we fight or we are different people and all that . my question is he realized all these differences after 5 yrs ? before the break up i was just out there for him i was available at any time to him i guess hes just bored but the he still cares for me …
Hi Amber,
He maybe having other troubles you are not aware of, that’s why it is wise to let things settle down for a while.
It will do no good for you to constantly question whether you have “ruined” your chances to get him back, or not.
Start following a good step by step plan, that includes helping you get your emotions under control.
You would be amazed how much better things look through “positive” eyes.
Take Care,
S. Williams
wats the best thing for me to do right now
Hi Amber,
The best thing for you to do is let me help you follow the plan I support.
It might seem like I am always trying to get people to buy a book, but in reality, I am trying to get them to take action.
You see it’s like you’re sitting there with a splinter in your heart, and telling me how much it hurts.
You want me to help you remove it, but you’re afraid it’s going to hurt, so you sit there in pain.
You have to make the first move, get the book, and start following the plan.
I will provide private email support for you if you follow the directions carefully…so pay attention.
If I was only after people’s money, I would not have spent the time, and money to build this Blog, and offer FREE private email support to my customers.
I could easily just use Google/Yahoo/MSN ads to sell directly, and take the money and run, and where does that leave you?
Sitting there with a plan, and still confused, and no one to support you.
If you really want an honest answer to the question:
What is the best thing for me to do right now?
I would click on the link below, and get started working with the plan, and with me as your coach…sound good?
Help Me Mend My Broken Heart
You will learn things in this book, and with my guidance, that will help you for the rest of your life…really.
I am waiting to help you.
Take Care,
S. Williams
i just found out from common frends tht hes very depessed and going through alot y wud he suffer so much n think tht its still a better idea to be separated
I want your book Scott but I do not have access to a credit card. Can I send you a check? I need help! I have Applied no contact twice now. Had several hangouts with my ex. Last get together with him went well. Had a nice time. I Did not mention our relationship this time to my ex. He texted me the following day casual. He has continued to see another girl during our entire breakup. I have tried to win him back after breaking up with him. I hurt by the break up and going out with someone else for a short while. Recently, my ex e mailed me casually then I did him back. Then, I found out my ex took the other girl hes been seeing “on a trip” for a few days. Has he moved on and stringing me along? he knows how I feel about him? Does he really like her? Vacationing with her?
Hi Sherri,
You can get a visa/mastercard gift card at most any store, and use that as a credit card for payment.
There is also an option to use Paypal, which will debit directly from your checking account, I don’t take checks.
It will be very hard to win him back without a good plan.
If he wants to remain in contact with you, there is a very good chance it’s because he still has feelings for you.
A few day trip does not equal life long love, and neither does casual sex.
At least he respected you enough to break up with you, before dating these other women.
I would just hold your ground for now, and wait until you get the book.
BTW – I didn’t write the book T.W. Jackson did, I just sell and personally support it.
He is the man in the four videos in my Stop A Break Up section.
I hope this helped.
Take Care,
S. Williams
Hi Amber,
When people are in pain, they do things for different reasons.
Maybe he feels dealing with your situation is just too much for him to handle right now.
Sometimes it’s easier to relate to friends, than family, and others that are closer than friends.
Give him time to work things out, be patient.
This would be a good time to get the book, and follow the plan while he sorts out his personal problems.
That way when he’s ready, you will be too…make sense?
Take Care,
S. Williams
Hello, sir!
Firstly, thanks for all this great information and what not. You’re wonderful.
Secondly, I know that I can get my ex back. At least, I think I can. When he first dumped me I handled it very well (I agreed to it, he was crying more than I was– just bawling), but after a few days I thought I was good enough to handle being friendly with him again. I felt good, but only because I got so cocksure about getting him back. We even hung out. When I asked him if we could go out on a date, it sort of backfired and he said that he has no idea what he wants and needs time. So I enacted a fairly strict no-contact rule (while offering to keep the window open if he needs me for something serious) and have been going crazy with myself over the last few days. Will the days ever seem shorter? Yikes…
Anyway, I guess what I specifically wanted to ask you about is petty and minor but I want to send my signals to him very carefully so I will ask you. We have a class together, a lecture. The type of class where everyone picks a seat and goes there every day, and when someone takes a spot, everyone is frustrated to have to rearrange themselves. We usually sit together, but now I don’t know if it’s a good idea– I mean, should I be friendly but keep to myself right next to him? Or should I sit far away? He seems to think we can sit next to one another. Would sitting elsewhere send too strong of an unfriendly signal?
Thanks.
Hi Evie,
Thank you for your compliment, let’s see if I can help you.
First do not worry about sending too strong a signal just by properly using no contact.
If you were going to smack him and tell him to stay away from you, I would call that too strong a signal to send…OK?
If you are very subtle about getting there late or something where you know he wouldn’t be able to hold you a seat, then you could accomplish what you want without him really knowing.
You are wise to go back to using no contact, because you already proved to yourself, that your way of doing it wasn’t working.
You can’t get a little pregnant, and you can’t just try using no contact and expect it to work…make sense?
You just need to do it correctly…take a look at this Start Here First.
Then read my Blog, and all the comments on it, I have answered many questions which you will find helpful.
Don’t kid yourself and think that your situation is that unique…it’s not.
You broke up with your ex, and you want them back, the how and why really doesn’t matter as much as what you’re willing to do to get them back.
How hard will you work?
The harder you work, the better your chances are…no matter what your particular circumstances are…understand?
The more you learn, and apply what you learn, the faster you will see the results you want.
I hope this helped.
Take Care,
S. Williams
ok iam following no contact rule and its been 3 days since i didnt call him . i would be most likely seeing him on sunday at a concert in uni and till then i have decided to not call him . my question is when i come across him on sunday how do i act should i ignore him or give him a smile or go upto him? iam so confused
Hi Amber,
Start Here First
Take Care,
S. Williams
thanx william for the comment well i have been successfully following the no conatct rule since 4 days . my boyfriend is a kind of person tht never updates his status on facebook no matter wat but today for the first time he updated it “noone will ever know tht truth” which i found very disturbing . i also heard from common friends that hes missing me very much and is very very depressed . is it some kinda trick to make me contact him or wat is he trying to do ? iam so confused and feeling so miserable … should i call him n check on him?
Hi Amber,
He broke up with you, and now he is depressed.
I would leave him alone, that is what “no contact” means.
If he wanted your help or advice he would ask you for it, don’t assume he’s waiting for you to figure this out, and come to his rescue.
He has to figure out what he wants all by himself.
Meanwhile have you considered getting serious about this and following a step by step plan?
There are a lot of things you could be doing for yourself, to better understand, and prepare yourself to attract him back.
The best cure for confusion is learning.
My advice to you is commit yourself to getting and following a step by step plan.
I will be your personal coach to support you as you work your way through the plan, and win back your ex.
If you don’t buy it from me, no problem, you just won’t get my private support, but you can still ask me questions here on my Blog.
My point is you can tell me how confused you are everyday, but I can’t help you until you get yourself a plan to follow.
Understand?
I am waiting to help you.
Take Care,
S. Williams
hi there ok its been 8 days we havent spoke i havent call him and still following no contact rule. tis sunday iam going to see him at a frend party how do i react towards him ?
Hi Amber,
Get drunk and kick his ass! (just kidding)
If he says hi to you be polite, and say hi back, but…
You just be yourself, keep it all business, no talk about old relationships, new relationships…nothing like that.
Talk about anything but that and only for a few minutes and then get away, before you get dragged into breaking NC completely.
If you don’t feel that your emotional control is up to the task, then I would bail on the party.
Getting your ex back is more important than some party, right?
I hope you answered yes
This would be easier to understand if you would invest in a step by step plan like the one in The Magic of Making Up.
Take Care,
S. Williams
hi William,
and ignores me because he thinks if he keeps contact with me he will get weak and he wants to get over me 
Thanks for the great advice but what if he doesnt say hi to me
Hi Amber,
Then you have nothing to worry about…just enjoy the party!
But hey, if you’re going to go and just mope around, you might as well stay home…you don’t want to ruin the other peoples fun, do you?
I would suggest that you look into some self help tools and work on your emotional control, don’t drag yourself down worrying about things you have no control over (like your ex’s problems)…that’s just crazy.
Cheer Up!
Take Care,
S. Williams
so , theres no way i can get him back
Hi Amber,
Do you really believe that?
Because if you do nothing I can say or do will help you…OK?
You make your own decisions, but your state of mind is what will determine if those things come true or not.
Why don’t you take a look at this comment, and the responses under it.
Hopefully this will paint a clearer picture for you…OK?
How To Get Your Life Back
Things are really not as bad as seem…really.
Take Care,
S. Williams
Hi William,
ok so i met my ex and just exchange a very formal smile and thts it we didnt talk or anythg but he seemed very bothered and restless to see me . he was very depressed as well and it look very obvious tht hes going thru alot in the break up do u think i shud call him in few days and chit chat a lil bit ?
Hi Amber,
I think you should get The Magic of Making Up and read it.
Everything time you ask for my advice it would be something you would’ve learned from reading a good plan about how to properly use no contact.
If you’re serious about getting your ex back, go get a plan…OK?
Read my Blog, and you”ll find that I have probably answered your question already.
I don’t think you’re even paying attention to anything on my Blog….why do I think that?
Who is William?
My name is S. Williams…
Please people, if you’re not going to try to help yourself by reading and learning on your own, there isn’t much I can do for you.
Once you have a plan for no contact…follow it.
That would be a great start!
Take Care,
S. Williams
Great site. You are extremely patient with people (some more than most !!) I have found your advice very helpful.
Thank-you
terry wrote:
Yeah, patience is like money, I try to spread it out…but some days I run short and have to make the best of it.
I am glad I could help.
Take Care,
S.W.
hi..
I sent the NC message to my ex and maintained NC for two months n tried to reconnect .he still talks about staying friends n having sex.he even mocked on big decisions n dont disturb in that NC.
should I now send another NC,if so,I need one which is like continuation to previous. Like.. “a thanks for previous n shall continue the same”.He told me he couldn’t commit at this stage n that I should give my decision on being friends. Can u please help.
Hi,
The free plan is NOT about getting your ex back, it is about getting your life back…did you follow ALL the steps in the free plan?
Either he only sees you as a friend with benefits (sex), or you broke NC too soon.
If you want to reveal his true feelings for you re-send the same recommended NC message (no changes), and stick with NC for at least 3-6 months and see how he acts after that.
Remember this is about getting your life back, not waiting a couple months and then trying to reconnect.
Follow ALL the steps in the free plan, and evolve past your break up.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hello Scott,
The No Contact (NC) Rule is powerful. I been applying NC for 2 months & after that my ex gf started to come back to me. she showed up in front of my house. Now the problem is she’s coming back but she not frequent me like we used to be. I want to stay calm & cool about it but sometime i cannot help myself because the reason we broke up is because she cheated on me. I dont want to check up on her or watch her 24/7. So, how do i know if she really wants to get back or how to know if she’s already stop cheating on me.
Hope u can help
Hi,
I am NOT a mind reader so I can’t tell you what your ex girlfriend thinks.
If you do not trust her, don’t get involved with her, make sense?
I don’t know how you used NC but if you were following the free plan, you would be working on getting your life back, not your ex girlfriend.
Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi
Im just confused as to when the NC message is supposed to be sent and if i should because in my situation my ex (of 2 years) was dating me and another girl at the same time only she was before me and I was the LDR. When the other girl contacted me and we spoke and finding out all this, ive just never heard from him or seen him at all. The only mistake i made was go round to his mums place just to get my stuff and left a number for him to contact and just tried to call a few times since that was my only way of contacting him. He never called. It been just over a month now that i havent bothered to contact him. I assume we are over but i just never got to speak with him to confirm or end anything.
He broke up with me once ages ago but i was cluelessly being the ‘needy’ type but he got back with me. I want to get him back in my life but this time on a different approach. I thought he broke up with me because of the other girl but apparently he’s had 3 break ups with her.. He’s deleted or blocked me off email and i dont have his number anymore, i deleted it. Sometimes i think he could be using the NC rule on me. Is he? but anyway just wondering Is it too late to send the NC message or when does it get sent?.
Tina says:
Hi,
Since the NC message and the free plan is about evolving past the break up and getting your life back, NOT about getting your ex back, you can send it this late.
Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.
Take Care,
S.W.
Wohooo! I LOVE NeverShoutNever! Christopher Drew is such a hottie hehehehe.. That’s so cool, Monica
Hi,
My ex-bf and I broke up 2 months ago. We were together for about 2 years and we were in a long distance relationship for 3 months before he broke it off. The break up came all of a sudden. I went back to his town twice to fix things up. He was sweet to me while I was there but as soon as I came back to my town, he stopped all contact, blocked me on messenger and facebook, and told me not to go back there anymore. He’s been talking to a girl online day and night since the first day he decided to break up. He told his friend that he’s in love with her. During these 2 months, besides going up there to visit him, I still texted him 2-3 times a week but usually he didn’t reply.
Is it too late for me to implement the no contact rule? Did I blow up my chances? I still miss him and love him so much. I can’t picture him being with another girl and me being with another guy. Is there a chance for me to get back with him?
Thanks!
Hi,
It is never too late to properly use the no contact rule to get your life back, as far as getting your ex boyfriend back, only time will tell, but the sooner you get started, the better.
I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.
Go read the free plan, heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Ok so my boyfriend just broke up with me on Monday. On Wednesday, I made things worse by beggin him to give us another chance and showing him how things can change. We have been friends for over 7 years, and have been dating for over a year. Our past has alot oh history and happiness, and I was always the girl of his dreams.Recently, he was unhappy with me bringing up problems, nagging, or lurking on his Twitter, and clinginess.I have not spoken to him since Wednesday, but found out that he indeed was not happy because of how things changed with me being clingy, and no longer being the secure, strong, funny, sexy friend and lover he fell in love with.He seems to be very amicable and still has feelings for me, but was just plain old tired. I agree with what happened now and still love him very much and want him back. I’m conflicted because I dont know if I should call him at the end of the first week of talking to establish communication,and let him know I still care, or wait for him to come to me. I dont want him to think that we’ll never have a chance again and that ive entirely moved on, because even though he may want me back, he may give up if he thinks I dont care anymore. I am also interested if the NC rule would be ok since he hasnt contacted me yet, and i dont want loose everything in the long run
Hi,
He won’t “give up” if you are really “the girl of his dreams”, and he truly loves you, right?
I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.
The fastest way to get your boyfriend back is to get your life back first, and become the girl of his dreams once again.
Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi S.W,
Thank you for your plan =)I have a limbo question.
“My bf said to me 15 days ago, that he needs ‘time out for 2 weeks’ and I didn’t go insane. I just packed my stuff out, although, I did cry.. and we did speak for 3 hours. I stuck to the 2 weeks time out and did not contact him. Although it did drive me nearly insane..
It is now the 15th Day of the ‘time out’. Do I still send the NC Message (for rel. Limbo) or do I wait first for him to turn around and see what his decision is?”
I bumped into him during lunch and texted him (its the 15th day already) abt something and he replied pleasantly, along with ‘Btw, Nice shoes =)’ … and… i caved and sent him something flirty. To which he responded with just ‘hhmmmmmm :s’
Need your advice on what to do now. Should I wait for him to revert with a ‘decision’.. or just send the NC?
Thanks a lot. I really appreciate all your help =)
Cancerian
Hi,
It is your life, and you should be in control, right?
Use the no contact rule to evolve past the break up, and get your ass out of relationship limbo.
I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.
Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hey! So my ex-boyfriend and I were together for 8 months, fights were common because I tend to overreact (mistake that I’ve learned from). The fights were usually short and dumb, but three times they escalted to the point where we’d both cry our eyes out and breakup. The first time it was me who asked for the break, but we vot back together the next day. The second time we broke up for a day, talked about it the next night and decided on a break and got back together the next morning. The third time I just felt hw wasn’t very into me anymore and called him out on it…he told me the spark was gone and that he just doesn’t know if he’d be this way with every othee girl he dated (I was his first girlfriend). I tell him that we should breakup and he begins to cry and say that’s not what he wants…he starts to talk about his personal issues, family problems, and how he thinks he may even be depressed at times. I try to understand his problems, but I couldn’t grasp all of them because he didn’t know how to verbalize them…he then continued to talk about how no one understands him and that’s why he orefers to keep his problems to himself and work on them on his own. He told me I must respect his decision if one day he tells me he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore and just wants to be alone. By the end of the conversation he begins to talk about how much he loves me and that he really, truly does want to be with me. We stay together, but I tell him he must tell me his problems when they arise because it isn’t fair to have me on this emotional rollercoaster, if as he says, I’m not the problem. So a week passes and everything went perfectly, until one night he tells me he’s tooo tired to do anything….I freak out on him because for the last month of that relationship he rarely wanted to do anything sexual. I tell him our relationship was based on mutual attraction and that without thay we have nothing…he says he loves me so much and loves the relationship and I say that isnt enough. Point is, I started a breakup I didn’t even want. He tells me he felt like shit all through the night and the morning (he had been crying a lot). We talk and I say I’m not sure if that’s worth breaking up over, we talk it out and I convince him we should. Once we start breaking up, he asks me if he had been a good boyfriend and tells me that he’ll continue loving me even after it’s over. I then notice i don’t want to break up and try to change his mind…I couldn’t do it. I ask him to come over, but his mind was made up and tbere was nothing I could do. I begged and askeddhim to.please try and explain the reasons because I wasn’t understanding (it wasn’t about the lack of attraction). The only thing I did understand was that he can’t keep going throufh these emotional drainage of emotions because they wear him out. I tell him we can work on it, but he says it’s over. I made a spectacle of it, it looked like a soap opera how pathetic I was being…we both cried a ton. He leaves and I sent him a text saying that I loved him very much and that if he ever changed his mimd to just let me know. He answers saying he really needs to think if he still wants this relationship and just confirms that we’re broken up (he skipped work that niht because he was too sad and shaken up to go after the break up). I answer saying I understand and respect his decision. I regretted having begged him because it was pahetic and he did ask me to stop. This happened on a Friday ans all throufh the weekend he starts talking to my friends on chat saying he doesntknow if he made the right decision and that he’s been really sad and didn’t mean to hurt me…but he just really needs to think things over and make sure I’m the one. He asks them to please not tell me because he doesn’t want to shake me up even more and then tells them he just wants me to move on, not to wait for him because he doesn’t know if he’s coming back but if he does realize he made aamistake he will come back and tell me, but that he just hopes he won’t returm when it’s too late. I call him on Tuesday (dumb move) and ask him to please stop talking to my friends and to give my wallet to my friend at their genetics summer class. He says it’s fine, we do some small talk and just as we’re about to hang up, i become weak and ask him if he’s sure Bout the break up…he tells me he stands by his decision and I try to conince him again but it doesn’t work and we hang up. I see him a week later at a party, but neither of us says hello to the other…people.keep coming up to me saying he’s considering saying hello and I git tired of it so I walk over, say hi and walk away. (He was wearing the shirt I gave him for his birthday). About a week later, I send him on inbox on Facebook (I deletrd him when we broke up) saying I was ready to be friends and that if he ever needed me, I’d be there and that we could talk once in a while if we ever wanted to talk about certain problems that were going on in each other’s life that only he or me would understand..i then say we should be able to say hello to each other without making a ig deal because the relationship ended for valid reasons. We agree, catch up about how our families have been..he tells me the song Dreams by van halen reminds him of me but he doesnt know why. We send a few more inboxes and then say goodbye. I see him a few days later at the same party pub and he approaches me and says hello and we have a small conversation, and he goes to touch me, pulls his hand back and says: I forget sometimes that I can’t do that anymore. We talk a little more, my friend comes over and he leaves. We don’t speak for the rest of the night. I know I shouldn’t make contact anymore, it’s been three weeks since the breakup…but I should probablt disappear for couple weeks, right?
I just really want him to miss me and come back..I’ve been working out, going out, got new clothes and a new haircut along with highlights…but I still wish I could win him over. He just wants to see me happy because he cares for me a TON but I just don’t know f it’s enough to return to the relationship. And I want to be there for him if he needs me because he has some deep issues hes been trying tk resolve for years. I just don’t know what to do anymore. He seems happy and fne without me…he had told me once he doesn’t think he’s emotionally stable enough for a relationship and after one of our othee breakups he had told his mom he wouldn’t date anybody else for years after being with me…so I’m sure he didnt leave me for someone else, ans I don’t think he’ll date anyone else for a while (unless the girl of his dreams shows up). I just really don’t know what to do…he told me when we were breaking up: time will tell. And that maybe five years from now he’ll be asking me to marry him..that we never know what’s going to happen. I am moving on because that’s what he wants…but I wish there were some way to get him back. Should I disappear now? What if he’s over me and doesn’t care? Please help!
Oh, he’d also talk to my friends about his confusion and just to see how I was doing. And to amothee one he said that he tried to explain his problems to me but that I just didn’t understand.
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