What people are saying about working with me…

and The Free Plan/Support System

(Forum Member) Rosie Wrote:

“Hi there,

I was truely loosing the plot three weeks ago for many reasons including my ex. I have to say “thank you” for all the information on your site and T Dub MOMU and his videos. Its helped so much to gain some perspective on my situation. Just the realisation that I am not going insane and that there are other people all over the world struggling with break up issues has helped me to see that my feelings are not that unusual.
I read in the posts so many issues of low self esteem, circular thinking, mild-moderate depression, obsession, “poor me” syndrome and inability to draw boundaries etc that its interesting to see that by following the programme, many of these “issues” can be healed/fixed or changed. I have seen it in the posts I have read. I also have also suffered from all of these!! At the end of the tunnel it is possible to get your ex back OR have a wonderful life without your ex!!
Nobody teaches you how to deal with these issues in life. My parents were wonderful people but we never ever discussed this type of life issue. I am going to teach my son how to handle his emotional life, how to define his boundaries and how to know himself, because one thing in life is sure, hearts get broken, shit happens ALL the time and the only way to come up with integrity after each knock back is to find a positive way to keep your self esteem high so you know you can handle any type of thing that comes your way.
Thank You”

(Forum Member) Blossom78 Wrote:

“Last time I was on this forum was roughly 5mths ago if not more and I was the same as everyone else..text terrorism etc and I tried to do NC on numerous occasions and failed..my ex was playing games popping up occaisionally and dangled that carrot to then run off again leaving me once again back to square one..In the end I thought No Way ae you doing this to me anymore!! I deleted him and ignored him completely! Ha guess who came running 5mths after the split??? yes him!!

he had left miss rebound lady who he ran off with and returned back to me..only thing is, i had been dating a really nice guy but he had a commitment panic and dumped me so I stupidly took the ex back for a few days, when the nice guy realised it was me he wanted I broke down and told him i had been back with my ex but I no longer have feelings for him and I had told him to jog on!

This caused massive problems with my nice guy, he was so hurt and angry but we stuck together and the last few times we saw each other we seemed back to normal to then dump me 2 weeks ago out of the blue saying he can’t get over the fact ive been with my ex and that he cant have a relationship with me..

you would think i had learnt but noooo…text and call terrorism started again I have stopped contacting him as from thursday but who knows if he will get in touch or not, he is not usually the type to change his mind or go back on something,. So im just going to get out there and have fun like I did before and hope that he realises Im sorry for what I did and that I love him dearly (which i have told him to the point of insanity lately…time to back off him, if he thinks anything of me he will contact me, if not..time to keep walking and try not to think of him.

(Forum Member) Qsgirl Wrote:

“Hello everyone! I haven’t wrote in over a month and I’m sorry but I’ve been so busy planning my WEDDING!!!! You can go back and read my story if you want to know the details of what happened and where I went wrong time after time. However I’m not going to discuss it anymore because it is now behind me! I battled Scott and disagreed on everything. He set me straight and I followed EVERYTHING to detail and look where I am now! On Christmas Eve my now-fiance proposed to me in the perfect way. He hid the ring under my pillow right before bed. When I found the box I was shocked and when I looked up he was on one knee with tears in his eyes and asked me to marry him! Never ever give up! Everyone around me told me to move on but I trusted my heart and followed MOMU. Stay positive!!! Good luck and I can’t thank you enough Scott!”

(Forum Member) Sunshine_9 Wrote:

“Thanks again for your advice, forum, and “smart” BUT “hard” ways in having to run it. Just some food for thought…..I lost my father just before I turned 30 (another milestone in itself for me). Anyway, it was SUCH a shock, disbelief and struggle (even today I still struggle). BUT what I remember the most through those REALLY bad, horrible, crazy days (and please feel free to quote me on this – actually DON’T – I WILL quote this on your NC Diary) was this. It wasn’t my Friends support, it wasn’t my (non-existant) family’s support, NOR was it the support of my Dads’ friends. It was the “support” from the Funeral Director!!!! OMG – SO many decisions at SUCH a young age…..I remember saying to her “WOW – I really admire you!! HOW do you do the job you do?” She simply replied this (which reminds me of you):

“I ONLY do this job for people like YOU!!! I KNOW how hard it is to loose someone and thought to myself as a young girl (yes – the Funeral Director was a ripe age as MYSELF 28), so she thought: OMG – I never want ANYONE to have to go through this heartbreak, loneliness and confusion on their own, so I decided to this…help others out the way I was NEVER helped out. I want to support, give advice and just be there”.

Scott, I’ve never respected anyone more in my life, until now, YOU! I feel the same way about her mission as your mission. Now how lucky am I to have had TWO unbeilievable, unselfish souls on this earth, cross MY path who just WANT to help others!!!! Man oh Man do I respect you!!!! God?? Well, in my opinion, WHICH, I’m entitled to…. well it’s people like YOU and my Funeral Director who could ONLY measure up to or be compared to “god” Cuz she was and you now are a GOD SEND TO ME(or it’s like). In my experience, people like you are TOO FEW and FAR BETWEEN!!

Thanks for doing what you did, continuing to do as you have, and making the changes (as hard as they’ve been) and supporting us along the way!

Sunshine xoxo”

(Forum Member) andrew8834 Wrote:

“Hey there everyone. So I didn’t end up getting my ex back, in fact quite the opposite. Literally a week after our failed meet up she had a new boyfriend. However, it turned out to be the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I am proud to announce that I am over my ex. NC is an absolute must. If you cut them off, one of two things will happen. Your ex will come back, or you will get over them. I stuck strong to NC after she and I broke up and I finally got over her, and guess what I never thought I would get over her, but it only took like two months to get over it.”

(Forum Member) j242 Wrote:

“Now the ex is back in the same country we have been seeing each other for about 9 days now and trying again. It’s early days and we are keeping it quiet from friends and family for now so there is no external pressure.

It’s not easy we still have a few issues to iron out but if we don’t manage that this time around then that’s ok with me and I will be happy to move on.

So just thought I would update you and thank you all for support throughout it’s been a long haul…many thanks SW for setting up the forum, it’s been an invaluable source of information and support throughout what has to be the toughest thing people have to experience in life.

Like Pierre and many other success stories I have to reiterate it’s about you first, then the ex, if that doesn’t work out then you still have you, all sorted and ready to move on. I’m not done with my evolution and the things I want to do are still my priority if she isn’t looking for the same then I come first and I think you do need to learn to be a bit selfish and not lose your dreams in someone else’s.

For me this stage is more difficult than NC as all I had to concentrate on was me and I enjoyed that, now I have to be more considerate so there was a silver lining in the whole NC period.

Stick with it everyone! ”

(Forum Member) Scorchio2211 Wrote:

“Well, i didn’t take Scotts advice and i totally screwed things up with the ex.

However, i have my own success story because i got myself back and found some one new. And the funny thing is this: Literally as soon as i turned myself around, the ex came sniffing about and wanted to get back together. Needless to say, i told her where to go!

So i think the moral of this tale is that in order to stand a chance of attracting your ex, you need to get yourself back. Do the things you used to do, start dating, have fun, and most importantly, LOVE YOURSELF.

Fact: No-one will love you if you don’t love yourself.

Initiate no contact and use the time constructively. Use the time to get yourself back and love yourselves again.

This forum taught me that and i owe you guys a debt of gratitude.”

(Forum Member) Chopstiks Wrote:

“Guys i’ve made a lot of progress and I wanted to post because I remember when i first joined, there didnt seem to be much news for those who reconnected, and if they were successful or not.

After 2 months of No contact my ex began contacting me as you can see in my previous posts.

It didn’t trickle off, it became more intense the more I pulled away. I did not just ignore for the sake of it, if i took his call when I felt like it or replied to his text after his call my resolve was strong and my attitude like I could care less. This is not a game. Simply, I didn’t need his approval anymore and I didn’t obssess to the point of weakness over him anymore.

Well, I never thought i would ever ever EVER be in the position I am in now. We have reconnected and spent quite a bit of time together. I still love him, and I am taking things very slowly until there is a decision by both sides on commitment. He clearly picked up on my new attitude. And he is showing he wants to spend time with me. Its a constant struggle and I have been questioning a lot in my downtime. However, reconnection is so potent, you really have to be on top of things. Luckily I keep my emotions in check when in his presence. I use my time alone if I have to vent, strategise, calm down, talk to someone etc. Even just jotting things down in a journal or email gets me closer to where I need to be, its like i read some of the stuff the next few days and think ugh whatever! Because lets face it, It’s really make or break. So i can be a little melodramatic to my friends. But I am really happy with the way I have developed over the NC period, and i can hear and see that development in my dialogue and behaviour when I am around him, for example. Its fascinating, and I feel blessed that I now know I had just as many issues as he did, I recognised them, and I changed them.

My goal was to be reunited before the holidays and that happened. My next goal with him is to push for a logical conclusion. I have my plan, I will be patient in pushing for that logical conclusion, as I do not intend to sit on any kind of merry-go-round ever again. Having him back in my life is great, I look at him and smile and think wow, but its not enough.

Knowing I can live without him has been THE KEY before and during this tough situation. I am not at the mercy of him anymore. I am happy when I am with him, and not with him. Its a win win situation at this point in time. So i wanted to wish everyone a happy holidays, thankyou for listening and I wish you all the best during the festive season.”

*Disclaimer: Using The Magic of Making up System will not guarantee you get your ex back (you have a 50/50 chance), but if you follow the plan correctly you will get your life back.

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(Forum Member) Anna_a Wrote:

“Hi all…

This idea / posts are in my NC Days thread, but not all together, and I did want to share with you all that my ex and I are back.

It takes COMMITMENT to follow the MOMU plan, but it does work. For all those of you in “pain” or “struggle” you must pull yourself up and stick with it – IT WORKS!!!

Ok…. after reconnection our relationship became even stronger than what we had before. This, I really believe has to do with the evolution and it was purely unexpected (the stronger relationship).

We had a conversation one day, when we were on a date, and I think that was the catalyst of getting back together.

The conversation was about the fact that we both enjoyed spending time with each other, and that we both wanted to take it slow and naturally (no pushing).

Then we both relaxed!!

Shortly after this date… he came to visit me while I was away intra state, he stayed with his friends and we saw each other whilst he was there… and we had an amazing time, without intimacy, just me and him in a different place and a different space… it was absolutely wonderful. And, then we got back together.

He mentioned last week, while he was moving into his new place, the future and me and living together: He said he may have to get a bigger place if “some fabulous woman is going to move in with him in the future”. I was very surprised, because I have been taking it slow… and it blew me away…. but it was also overwhelmingly lovely.

We go away for a week together in about a week, and I seriously never expected the relationship to have grown as much as it has.

Just when you thought your OLD relationship was great and amazing…. your NEW relationship is BETTER!!! How’s that, and a big part of it is the PLAN and MOMU!!! The other part – is YOU sticking to it.

xxxooo Anna”

(Forum Member) Jason Solomon Wrote:

“Hey guys i got my ex back! jsut want to say i did it by letting her go completely and moving on like she was history but in the back of my mind i always wanted her bk. i came on this forum a broken and unhappy man after being dumped 4 months ago,i did all the wrong things you could think of that would drive anyone away text msg terroism begging pleading asking to get bk with me everyday an all i got was rejection it hurts it really did.till one day i sent the NC then after a week i broke it cause i found something about her liking a guy on her baby website which at the time was because i was an (emotional) rec i was scared of changes and starting all over again. this forum was a stepping stone for me in a sense it made me realise its not about getting your ex back its about getting your life back and it says it when we first joined but we dnt want ourselves back we want our ex due to being so(emotional)i was on this forum for a month then one day i woke up and said to myself i cant live like this anymore and i started to be more active like when i get these needy feelings id go to the gym meet up with some friends listen to music read books an getting to know myself again and most importantly enjoying my own company cause if you cant do this you’ll never be able to have a long lasting healthy relationship its a fact you we need to be happy in our own skin so you dnt have to be with someone to be happy.During my journey i started dating again cause i honestly wanted to move on i felt ready and happy within my own self i dated two girls during that time one of them i got intermet with the other i didnt really see her as someone i could be with so didnt contact her the one i got close to had issues of her own so i drift away from her my ex knew about this and was really hurt by this she started to text me how she im playing childish games with her an deleted me off facebook we only just became friends on their 3 weeks ago an from then on everything changed i no longer argued bk with her like we used to wen together and i said to her maturely im not playing games im moving on something i should have done since u dumped me an its like you dnt want me but kno one else can have me so if anyone playing games is you. then things did really changed after that she was about to go away to see her mum an sister for a week b4 xmas that day it was the last nite b4 they go away so i had my daughter at mines and whislt leaving hers to go to my flat we live 9 doors apart on the same street she grasp my harm firmly but gently and gave me a kiss on the cheek i didnt let it get to me cuase it could mean anything then i thought have dated two girls an i still have these strong bond with her i satrted reading into it and sent her an open and honest text saying i still love you to bits take it in a negative or positive way if you want but thats the truth an her reply was the day came when she was leaving so i got my daughter ready an took her down to my ex house to get away so i helped with getting her stuff in the car an when it came to saying good bye she said to me to give her a kiss which took me by surprise so i did then she said love you then i said i love you too bk without thinking so i pinched myself to see if this was 4 real hahahahaha! so i walked away from the car an really didnt read into it cuase i was the stage of being causious. So on the monday the 7th of december was my birthday and i opened my card an it read happy birthaday daddy love my daughters name and (mummy)then she text me saying wat ya doing for your birthday and i said going out with the lads in town and she said have fun my reply was thanks with a kiss. so b4 i went out i text her saying im off now and hope u and the baby is ok then she text bk saying yea but im going out with my sis an i said u trying to match up with me she said na an i went its good both of us having fun something we never did due to the fact we have a 1 year old,later that night i was on sofa a bit wasted after my night out which was really good i got a text off her saying I LOVE YOU i text back saying i love you too then she sent me a text saying i’ve come to terms with the fact i still love you but there’s so much of you that needs to change i dont think you can nor do i think you should change for anyone,and my reply was i have change and im a better person than i was 4 months ago and im proud of what have become through the hard work have put in by doing councelling and accept the old relationship was a failiure. im happier than i ever been and loving the new me and i dont care what anyone tinks i know im a different man and stronger. then she said ok lets take things really slowly and i said yes its the best way forward cause this is the mistake we made at the start of the old relationship we decided to still live apart and ill come to hers a 3 nights a week and the same for her and we can still have time for our self’s apart and believe me i think thats the best thing to do cause i still wanna have my me time an so does she so guys and girls focus on you first then everything will fall into place if its meant to be IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING SET IT FREE IF IT COMES BACK ITS YOURS FOREVER IF IT DOESNT IT WASNT YOURS IN THE FIRST PLACE. I truley believe im with the love of my life an we will be happier and stronger than b4 cause we know where we went wrong and have learened from our mistakes in the past im sure their will be bad times but we’ll deal with it in better and respectfull way so dont give up on true love but fixed yourself b4 you attempt to fix any broken relationship very important this. a big thanks to scott for finding the door for me with only the key to find which was hard i was like all you guys to start off with but i never gave up, but with hard work and focus you’ll find it.”

(Forum Member) Qsgirl Wrote:

“Well guys its been two weeks since my last post…and guess what….I GOT HIM BACK!!! I’ve been following the plan and its worked perfectly!!! Another piece of exciting news….I’ve gotten a little piece of info…he MIGHT be proposing on Christmas! Guys dont give up!!! It took me over 3 months but it still worked and trust me I made all of the mistakes at first….Stay Strong!!!!”

(Forum Member) Gail Wrote:

“I know I haven’t been posting, but rest assured Ive been reading all of your posts and stories, it kept me going for the last month that I was not with my ex.

Before NC, I was doing text brigade and constantly calling him only to be routed to VM. He was totally avoiding me.

the last 2 months, I sent him the NC message twice. The first time when I read about this forum (his reply to my NC was “whatever”), and the 2nd time when I found out he was with someone already like 2 weeks after we broke up (his reply to my NC was “Were done, don’t make it hard for us”).

Since then, I never contacted him. Nothing… Everyday was a struggle.. There were times that I could not go to work because I just wanted to lie down and sleep to forget… I even tried to compose a hate email, I never sent…

He deleted our facebook account. I deleted him from my messenger.

I went out with my friends. Spoke with some guys… Flirt a little… Continued on with my life…

I realized that I could not let other people control how I feel and how i live my life. A lot of people told me I looked better.

A month ago, he contacted me, we spoke a little then he asked me, if I still love him, I told him, it does not matter and that we are both happy now… He said, that it mattered to him because he still loves me. Then I changed the topic and said goodbye…

The next day, he asked me thru chat if I was mad at him, I said No, and that I was ok. He said that he broke up with the other girl because he realized its me that he loves. I only replied, OK, then changed the topic.

We then constantly talk, and he would always bring up things about us, and I would always stay away from the topic.

Last week, I finally gave in… I felt I was ready.

So there, were back together. ( although i’m still holding off a little, I’m taking each day at a time and I changed from being a needy GF to I know who and what I am GF..lol)

You can have your ex back, trust me, just focus on yourself and not your ex.

Thanks Scott”

*Disclaimer: Using The Magic of Making up System will not guarantee you get your ex back (you have a 50/50 chance), but if you follow the plan correctly you will get your life back.

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(Forum Member) Pierrej919 Wrote:

“Hi all. It’s my pleasure to be able to add another post in this section of the forum. I was very surprised to receive an email from my ex earlier today, and she said that she wants to try again! This caught me completely off gaurd. According to her, she just cannot let go of what we had, and is hoping to see if we can make it work again. She gets emotional everytime she thinks about us or talks to her friends about us, and can’t help but to continue to see her in my life. The best thing about this is that she is not pressuring me to make a decision right away, and said that I can respond back to her when I’m ready. This is a change in her that I’ve never seen her act upon before. Apparently I wasn’t the only one to evolve during NC, but she did as well. I knew that after our phone conversation on Sunday that things were beginning to head back in the right direction, but I never expected her to finally just come out and say that she wants to be back w/ me, especially so soon.

I know what I want, and that is to take things slow with her and gradually see if we can ease back into what we had. I’m not going to close my doors, and will continue to meet people, b/c I still don’t know what could happen. My ex still won’t be back home until January, and I will wait until then to truly judge where we can go. I do believe in second chances, and we both have agreed that if we fail again, at least we tried again. She is not officially my girlfriend again, and probably won’t be for a little bit of time, but at least we are heading down the right path.

I want to thank everyone up here for their continued support, and much much props to SW for getting this site together and having it sprawl into the thriving community that it is now. Like I mentioned beforehand, I’m not going anywhere. I am going to continue to stay active within the forum, regardless of my situation. My process was full of bumps and bruises. I broke NC on numerous occassions, attempted to reconnect prematurely, and had to send the NC letter twice. But I can honestly say that everything I have received in return has made it so worth it. ”

(News Letter Subscriber) Wendy Wrote:

“Dear Scott,

I’m not sure exactly when I signed up for your free e-mails but I am thinking it was probably sometime around June of this year.  My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 7 1/2 years.  In march of this year, he said he wasn’t happy anymore and moved out 2 days later.  I was totally caught off guard and while we had definitely hit some hurdles in our last year together, I never thought they were bad enough that he would leave.  For 4 months after he left I felt like I had died.  I was so sad, depressed, lonely, numb, confused, and well, you get the picture.  I don’t even know how i functioned.  Probably the worst thing we both did was that we continued to see each other up until August of this year.  As sad as I was, we still tried to remain friends and saw each other every week and continued having sex.  Every time he would leave, the sadness would return as I would just face him leaving over and over again.  When i signed up for your e-mails and started reading your blog, I got a little bit stronger.  Although I never ordered your book, I used your basic advice and common knowledge to begin getting over him.  i started putting him out of my head better.  Although I still felt an emotional connection to him and continued seeing him i found myself not being as sad anymore and started listening to my friends and began to start going out and not sitting at home being sad.  I even started questioning whether I really wanted to get back together with him.  Months before our break up, I had been out with my best friend listening to her boyfriends band and was introduced to all of the band members.  Then fast forward to month 5 after my break up, one of those musicians I had met months before asked us all to come see him play at a club in Hollywood.  I forced myself to go because I knew I had to get out of the house.  Am I glad I went!  After the show, I went home and thanked the guy on Facebook for inviting me to his performance and he ended up asking me out to another event he was playing at. (and another and another)   As hard as it was to start dating a new guy, I am happy to announce that it totally opened my eyes to the fact that getting back together “isn’t” always the best thing. I am enjoying the new relationship and we are having a lot of fun. I will always love my ex, but now I see that after all of those months of thinking he was the only person in my life that I could love or be interested in…… I was wrong.  It took almost 5 1/2 months to have the nerve to go out with someone else, and of course when the ex found out I was seeing someone else he wanted to get back together with me.  Too late.  We now haven’t talked in a month at all.  He said that “he’ has to get over me now.   I however, am happy getting to know the new man in my life, and am taking it slow.  Basically, I’m sure my story was boring, but I really want to thank you.  I know your web site is designed to help people get their exes back, but it is also designed to help people like me get our lives back too so we can gain the skills we need to re-group and move on.  I think we are all capable of loving more than one person in a lifetime.  Levels of love are also different, but it takes a lot of soul searching to get through a break up, and who knows if what lies ahead isn’t better.  So thank you Scott for helping me get through mine and move on.

best, wendy”

Adela Wrote:

“Hi,

I ve been in NC with him since August and I do not want to contact him again.

But last Mon he sent me a txt like “Hello Hows it going” I never replied..
Then last Thu he added me again on his msn .. i know bc i saw him online but
i ve been offline..i ve never contacted him online on msn though i saw him few
times online but i ve stayed offline

Then yesterday he sent me a txt again ” Hello..How r things with u? ” and
also sent me message on facebook like ” Hello, how r u? been up to anything good?”..

It s all cool he contacted me, but i m not interested in him anymore..so I plan to
never contact him again…Probably he just wants to find what I m up to..but I
feel no desire to talk to him at all.

NC really helped me to change and to find what I want…and it s not him what
I want…but NC really works! NC is an amazing thing!

Best,

Adela”

(Forum Member) J242 Wrote:

“Happy days!

Well more emailing 3 hours of them back and forth UK – Australia and we’re going to give it another try when she gets back.

She says she misses me and loves me still there’s still 12 weeks to go until the face to face but we’ll reconnect through email/skype slowly and take it from there. She now knows about my transformation and has seen the new me in a pic and was blown away!

The plan works absence did make the heart grow fonder it took me 2 months of NC and 4-5 months of personal evolution and determination to stick with it.”

Terri Wrote:

“Listen to Scott. He is a MAN telling you what you should do to get your MAN back. Trust and believe that he is telling you this for your own good. I value what another man says about how to deal with men. It’s the TRUTH. Men like the challenge in a relationship. They love it when women have their own lives and men (especially the ones who really like you) love it when women really have to find it in their busy schedules to fit him in somewhere. My BF that I am with now always tell me that he loves me for who I am and to please never change. He likes the fact that I tell hin NO sometimes and that I am not always available to hang out with him. He loves that he has to chase me sometimes. I don’t do this to him on purpose because I do have a life and he is NOT #1 in my life.

*Disclaimer: Using The Magic of Making up System will not guarantee you get your ex back (you have a 50/50 chance), but if you follow the plan correctly you will get your life back.

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(Forum Member) Hardyn Wrote:

” THE SYSTEM REALLY WORKS!!!!

(Forum Member) Cristina Wrote:

“Hey there! I finally bought the book and followed it to the letter… and i feel better than ever! I really dont want to reconnect with my ex, because since ive started to value myself WITHOUT him, i begand to realize that it was BECAUSE of him that i felt so miserable in the first place. So, in conclusion, my story is a success story, even if it wasnt what i was looking for in the beginning. Thank you very much for all of the support, the few kicks in the ass that i needed, and in general thanks for everything! It would have taken much longer without you!”

(Forum Member) Kitty Wrote:

“I joined this forum months ago, and so much has happened. I thought i’d update and let you all know that there is in fact a light at the end of the tunnel. The feelings you have right now will not last forever.

My ex and I were coming up to our six year anniversary when he abruptly left me. Begging, pleading, nothing worked – but NC does. I finally initiated it properly, and started getting on with my life. I started exercising, got a new hairdo, read more and got out. I knew my ex was upset at my sudden drop off with communication. By being there you aren’t helping get back together.. you’re helping give them the confidence to be on their way, or helping put yourself in the friend zone.

I got a nasty email telling me that he didn’t want to ever speak to me again, and that he was finally happy without me. This is where everything changed. I realized that I had been chasing for so long, I was exhausted. And all of the hurtful words made me sit and think, what is it i’m chasing? I didn’t respond. This is when things started changing for him aswell. I blocked and deleted him from everything, and within two weeks my ex went to our mutual best friend’s house in tears about what he had done. How he regretted the email, the breakup, and wanted his life back – with me.

This of course came as a shock to me. I was feeling better, looking much better, and out on the dating scene. I reunited with a guy who I had always liked through highschool, he had a thing for me too, but we never had a chance to act on it. It had been at least 5 years since we had spoken, but we just hit it off. We started hanging out and have naturally started dating. There were alot of guys that came out of nowhere when my ex broke up with me, but this guy was special. He treats me so well, I haven’t felt this special in years. My ex found out of course and was not pleased.

I unblocked him to get some closure, and after hearing what he did at our friend’s house I felt it necessary to talk. We got together, and he cried and told me how it was all a mistake, and how he wishes he could go back to the life we had. He told me that IT TOOK THE TIME OF NOT HEARING FROM ME TO REALIZE HOW MUCH I MEANT TO HIM. I smiled and thought of this forum. He pulled everything he possibly could, even playing our first song together from back when we were 14. But things were different now. I was happy, and seeing him just made me feel that horrible feeling all over again. Not to mention, alot of secrets, etc. have come to light since then, and I know I could never be able to trust him again.

I got my closure, I felt so good, and I went to be in the arms of my new boyfriend. My ex continued to call, start arguments, etc. I finally cut off all communication with him once again and left it behind. As you can see, no contact does work. But remember who is most important: you! you might get wrapped up in getting him back and then realize that maybe he wasn’t making you happy in the first place. I loved my ex with everything in me, but he chose to end it, not me. And now that i’m happy, I can’t just drop my life and run back. So listen to Scott, he knows what hes talking about, and put faith in that. You want an answer, NC will give it to you. I got mine, my ex did love and want me, but I didn’t feel the same anymore.

And to finish, a line from Benjamin Button:
“we’re meant to lose the people we love. How else would we know how important they are to us?”.

Your ex will come back, let them realize how much you mean to them. Thanks for everything members, and Scott especially, through the hardest time of my life.
-Kitty”

(Forum Member) Mary Wrote:

“I GOT MY EX BACK!!! Thank you soooooooooooooo much Scott and forum members!!!! This has been a long trecherous journey but is worth it in the end!! Whoa whoooo!! He called me up today after going through no contact for a second time. Says he doesn’t know what it is about me but he can’t let go! He’s willing to put forth the effort and work this out if I am and of course, I agreed!! You guys just don’t know how thankful I am! I went from slashing tires, to depression, to not eating, and not being able to go to work!! I never thought I would come out of that dark hole but here I am, happy and loving life!! The main thing that my ex said to me today was that he saw a change in me and loved the fact that I was willing to help him get his business off the ground when no one else would!! You really have to take this plan and make it work for you. Find all your faults and faults with the relationship and correct them. My advice is to work on your emotional control and you will be well on your way. It takes a lot of time and patience. Trust me, I never thought he would come back. I thought my situation was the worst on this forum and there would be no way to redeem myself. I was wrong and the plan worked! Thank you so much guys!! This is amazing and I am so happy!!”

(Forum Member) Trina Wrote:

“my bf of 5 years suddenly decided to break up with me. i was so devastated for i thought that we were actually doing ok. i didnt know that he wasnt feeling the same way. because of the sudden decision,i was left confused and hurt. in search for answers, i looked up in the internet the possible ways i can eventually get my ex back. that’s where i stumbled upon the book “the magic of making up”. at first, i was hesitant to buy the book. i mean, why would i spend money on something that is not certain. so i did a little research, and found the blog of scott, which then gave a link to the forum. after reading the blogs and participating in the forum, talking to scott and the other forum members, i was convinced to buy and read it a few times. the book provides you with all the steps, a plan definitely worth following. but as you read along, there are questions that the book cant seem to answer. that’s where scott and the forum come in. you won’t feel alone as there are others who go through the same thing as you. its an instant support system that we all need in this difficult time. they tell what you NEED to hear and what you NEED to do. its no nonsense,really. so, MAGIC OF MAKING UP + SCOTT’S FORUM +  HELPING YOURSELF = GETTING BACK YOUR EX! SUCCESS!”

(Forum Member) Heather84 Wrote:

“Scott & Readers—

Just a few short days after telling John that I was going to move home he decided that he does need me in his life!!

Tonight we *talked* and he told me he does not want me to move home and wants me to stay here so we can work things out. I replied with letting him know that this is something I would like to ease in to again at my own pace and want to slow everything down(of course inside I am jumping for joy). He also said that he has noticed all of the changes I have made and is proud of how I have become my own person again. Although we are back together, I know that this is just one small step. To make the relationship stronger than it was before I know I still need to follow the plan I have been on. I have accepted that the *old* relationship is gone, and, you know what??? I could’nt be happier! If it were not for the break up, the book, and the website I never would have *evolved* into a new person that is ready to fight for her relationship and most importantly *Kick Loves Ass*. I owe all of this to the MOMU of course!

Thank you Thank you Thank You to everyone on the forum that has supported me and especially to you Scott for creating such a wonderful website. If I would not have stumbled upon the MOMU and your website I know for sure I would not be in this great of a situation. You helped me become me again which was the most important step of the process. I gained self control and respect for myself again. I also learned how to pull him back without pushing him further away! I would definitely suggest the book, website, and forum to anyone!! Follow this book and Scotts advice..it really works!!

I still want to lend my support where I can and am sure I will still have questions to maintain my new relationship with John. So, I do not intend to leave the forum! Everyone here has become a second family!

P.S. The MOMU worked SO well that I now have to let down 2 guys that have been wanting to date me since hanging out  LOL”

Scarlett Wrote:

“Well, Scott. The OW is out of the picture. My husband is getting the help he needs. He has moved back into our bed and has been fully engaged and affectionate. I still have moments when I want to argue with him or talk over what happened, but that never pulls us closer together. The OW left him because someone from her church found out. How’s that for sticking with the man you love? Meanwhile, my husband was at first devastated, but now has done a 180. He told his mom. She supported me, and is helping me through this. She is not pushy with him either. She just is the master of the carefully placed question or comment.

The biggest tip I could possibly share with your readers is your very awesome advice to keep your head about you! Do not get over-emotional. Be strong. Look awesome (not just physically, but as a person) and make sure you have a life (or at least look like you do!) The no contact rule is key, but living, truly LIVING, makes you more attractive to your ex (or soon-to-be-ex as in my case.)

My husband would not be attracted to a whiny or screaming crazy woman–no man really would be.

We still have a lot of work to do to make this marriage work and to help take away the pain of betrayal that an emotional affair brings, but I wanted to take a moment to thank you!”

Eric Wrote:

“I already got my baby girl back in my life and we have gotten married with in two weeks af being back togethere thanks for the help”

*Disclaimer: Using The Magic of Making up System will not guarantee you get your ex back (you have a 50/50 chance), but if you follow the plan correctly you will get your life back.

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Tony Wrote:

“Hi Scott,

I would like to sincerely thank you for all you help, and you have helped me. You were my go to guy when I was losing faith and needed some ones opinion that I respected. You are awesome Scott and I believe if I would have met you 5 months ago it might have made the difference, but the damage is deep now and threes no turning back the hands of time. Thank you for all your help you are a friend and a great adviser. All my best always….Tony”

Tristian Wrote:

“Hi Scott,
I just wanted to say that it all worked out in the end. I got my ex back and he really seems very very keen again. I admit I only lasted about a month without seeing him and 22 days or so without talking, but it worked and he has been really lovely for a couple of months i’d say. fingers crossed it stays this way. the time apart gave him time to think, and he thanked me for giving it to him.
Regards
t”

Susan Wrote: