What is Wrong With My Ex-Boyfriend – Why Does He Act This Way?

 
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Do you ever wonder what is wrong with your ex-boyfriend?

Does he do things that have you puzzled?

What the hell is going on with him anyways?

Maybe I can help.

If you really want him back.

I am going to try to help you understand; “what is wrong with my ex-boyfriend?”

 


 

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How come he still keep things of mine when he says he does not love me?

I think this is pretty self-explanatory.

But if you would like to hear someone say it…”he still thinks about you, and possible more.”

I will.

The worst thing to do in this situation, would be to over react.

What?

Women over reacting…never happens.

Take this for what it is, a big clue, that he is not over you.

“Why does my ex-boyfriend do that?”

Because he has feelings he isn’t ready to show, yet.

 


 

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How come he is with another woman, but he is always smiling at me?

Maybe he’s drunk?…just kidding.

This one would seem pretty obvious too.

The sight of you brings out emotions he can not hide, a smile is so spontaneous, they are hard to stop.

Another good sign, but, once again, do not over think, or, over react.

“Why does my ex-boyfriend do that?”

Because you are still in his heart, and, on his mind, use these signs as a tool.

These signs tell you, that you have a good chance of getting your ex back, but, you need to know what you’re doing…or you could fail.

 


 

Getting Your Ex-Boyfriend Back

 

Why does he act nice one day, and rude the next?

This is a tough one, but I would suggest he is confused, and, it is annoying him.

Now, if he becomes abusive, and, real mean, you might want to step back for a while.

Do not over react and, think that he hates you.

Everyone has had a time when they were upset, and, said things they really didn’t mean…right?

He could be going through a rough time, do not take it personally.

“Why does my ex-boyfriend do that?”

He is human, and, confused, and, so are you.

This would be a good time find a plan, and, start working on getting back together again.

 


 

Get Back My Ex-Boyfriend

 

If your ex boyfriend is showing you signs, that he is still interested in you.

You need to ask yourself “do I want him back?”

If you do want your ex-boyfriend back it is time to get serious, and get informed.

If you have any comments or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP!

What can I do to help you get your ex back?

What are you willing to do to “win my ex-boyfriend back?”

 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008, to overcome breakup pain, and, get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section, that I recommend you read.

I realize the address, of my site, is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but, I “really” teach people, how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me, (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter, for access to the free breakup survival plan, and, start getting your life back, today.

The answers you need, to start your personal evolution, are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come, and get them.

Once, you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

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  1. Me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago. At first we talked all the time. He said he wants to be friends, I agreed. He was my first love, and we done so much together.
    Anyway, he goes hot and cold on me.. we facetimed for two hours Saturday night, then the next day he asked me to go for a drive with him, so I agreed and said okay. Then he texted me saying he enjoyed seeing me. And said he wants to be with me but he cant right now.
    The next day, he started acting weird, and not saying much. Then asked me to meet him sunday to watch football, and talk. And today he wont tell me what’s up with him, he just said its personal.
    I don’t know what he’s playing at but he knows I still love him.. and it’s confusing.

    1. Hi Laura,

      You seem like a nice girl, so, I am going to be straight with you…OK?

      The reason you are “confused” is that he is lying to you.

      And said he wants to be with me but he cant right now.

      That is a line of shit.

      What he meant to say (but, didn’t have the guts) is he doesn’t want to be with you, right now.

      He is trying to keep you “on the hook”, or, he is just plain afraid to tell you it’s over.

      Either way, you’re screwed if you don’t stand up for yourself.

      It’s time for the no contact rule.

      You can learn everything you need to do, and say, by following the free breakup survival plan.

      You have 2 choices:

      1. Let him decide your future for you, and keep you waiting in the dark, alone and confused.
      2. Follow the free breakup survival plan, and take back control of your life.

      There’s a reason “nice” people finish last, people take advantage of them, and, then, it’s time to Kick Some Ass!

      Take my advice, and, go kick loves ass.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. Its crazy. I mean hes like i want to meet you to talk. Basically his brother hates me, and his brother practically bullies him into doing what his brother wants. Ive seen it with my own eyes.
        I never believed when he said he wants me but not right now.. i mean, i told him i want him back, think that was a mistake.
        But why isnt he being honest with me.. and hes always being hot and cold with me.. one minute telling me to move on, and the next saying he wants to see me.. its confusing.

        1. But why isnt he being honest with me.. and hes always being hot and cold with me.. one minute telling me to move on, and the next saying he wants to see me.. its confusing.

          Hi,

          In the end, does it really matter why he is doing what he’s doing?

          If he doesn’t have a mind of his own, how can you believe anything he says?

          You can analyze this forever, and still be where you are right now, only older.

          Don’t waste time, it is too valuable.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  2. Hi

    My husband of five years has been attempting to contact other women for the last two years. I called him out on this several times. Ive done alot of research and bought books and done all the reading.

    I initiated the no contact for thirty days. Only once did I slip up and that was to tell him our daughter had been taken to hospital. She’s fine. Other than that I always waited for him to contact me. It was always to do with seeing our daughter. He’s seen her twice in 6 weeks.

    Last week, when I went to pick up our little girl he hugged me, three times. He initiated them, and the last he held on so tight it felt like he didnt want to let me go. when I broke the hug he kissed me on the lips. Which surprised me.

    This week he texts me, calling me babe, and sexy, and dropping kisses into the text. The next day he texted again, but there was no babe or kisses. It was cold and succinct.

    I was in a good place, or at least I was getting there. yes I love my husband and I am working at reconciling. I’m so confused by his actions. Could you help shed some light on this.

    Is he just confused or is it something else?

    1. Hi,

      It seems like he is trying to keep you “on the hook” while he does what he feels like.

      He was testing the waters with the hug and kiss to see if he still had you on the hook, and once you confirmed it – he was distant again.

      If he was really interested in saving your marriage he would agree to counseling.

      If he doesn’t want to go to marriage counseling, I would follow the free plan and use the no contact rule correctly – your method wasn’t very effective, and too short – it takes much longer than 30 days in most cases for NC to be totally effective.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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      1. Hello! I have two daughter with my first boyfriend and we broke up and I have my new boyfriend on January 18, 2010. I Gave birth to our son last January 15, 2014 then died after 4 days because he’s a premature baby. We’re okay but at day before my birthday that was February 26, 2014 I was very sick that i need to go to hospital but no one can bring me there so its 8:00 in the evening but he’s not home yet. so i text message him to go home because i am sick. but he tells me that he’s playing basketball with his boss. Then I started to angry with him and telling him that whats a matter with him i am sick but it seems that he ignore it as if the basketball is more important than me. then he didnt reply. then he didnt even go to hospital and he didnt go home that evening because he is angry and because he told that i nagged him out. Then on my birthday he dont call me to greet me not even bother to go home so i beg him to please forgive me but he told me that he dont want to go home with me he leave.he tells me that he dont love me anymore… but act that he cares for me within that week… After that he started to sometimes cold sometimes were okay then the other not…. until March 25 he broke up with me and he told me that he dont want to live his life with me again. then i accepted the broke up. But he keeps text massage me and calling me i dont reply and i dont even take his calls. then he text me that is it okay if we’re still be friends. Until 2 weeks come and we see each other I see him so thin with eyebugs… that time he is angry with me and then when he say that he’s going home with angry voice. I turned my back and run away as if its okay for me. then he called me on the phone after 1 meters away from him. then he tells me how sorry he is for all the behaviors this past few days it sounds so miserable then i asked him why you’re acting like this what he you really wants? then he answered he dont know he dont what he wants sometimes i want you to stay and wait for me I want you to wait for me until I finished paying our bills and when time comes that I have my new house and earnings. Then I want to meet you again. then that day we meet again. theres something happened between us but he still dont love me. he keeps telling me that he dont love me anymore but thats not what i feel everytime we’re together. He want us to be friends with benefits. Because I loved him I accepted it hoping that someday when everythings okay. I Think he’s so depressed and I want to take care of him even though sometimes he hurts me with his words. Sometimes he push me away and telling me to find new love. Sometimes he keeps calling me and texting me. He said that he is afraid that we dont have any chance to have a baby because of my last pregnancy condition ” placenta previa totalis” he afraid that it will happen again. And that Im so week to give him another child. He wants to have a baby again. But he is so afraid to try sometimes he tells me that he’s taking to have a baby with someone who is healthy. But He really want me to be the mother of her child. I asked him many times why me? why he choose me to became a mother for his child while he’s telling me that he didnt love me anymore? He kept answering me that he did’nt know why maybe because I’m pretty with white complexion and he want to have beautiful baby. Then, I told him that go find some other girl there are plenty of pretty girls with white complexion there. Then, he started to hate me after saying it. I really want us to become a family, and hope someday we’ll be together and that someday he finally say to me that he loves me again. Tell me, what am I going to do to make him love me again? I’m so desperate because I love him so much. I really want him back. Now, we’re in a relationship right now secretly he didnt want anyone to know our relationship yet. especially his family. Sometimes when he was going to travel to a place that no one knows us. He ask me to go with him then I go with him. He tells me that he feel so happy to be free. Free of worrying that someone sees us. As if there’s something bothering him. I think its his family his parents and sisters. They dont like me from the start. He told me that when I have a house I will bring you there and we start to have family again.

        1. Hi,

          This sounds like a VERY unhealthy relationship, and I would advise you to walk away, now, before it gets any worse.

          You ex sounds like a “user” and a liar, who blames other people (like his family) for his actions.

          You don’t really want him back as much as you want to stop feeling rejected. The sooner you start NC (the right way) the sooner you will stop feeling this way, but it will take time.

          I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

          Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

          Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

          This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

          Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

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  3. Hi my name is Vanesa, I’m almost 16 years old. My boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me about a week and a half ago. He told me I was manipulative, and controlling, and over sensitive. I took that week to try and change, and I’m not completely there but, I’ve gotten a lot of success. Last night he told me one tip to get him back is that I lost myself. He said I always tried to look nice when we started dating and as the months went by I let go. He still kisses me, and hugs me, and holds my hand, when he wants to. but, when I want to kiss him he kind of rejects it saying: “We aren’t dating.” Then why does he kiss and act like we’re a couple? He says he won’t do it again, yet he does. Him and I have been through a lot these past months, and we planned on getting married. I know I’m young but, I honestly believe from the bottom of my heart we’re meant to be together. Why does he kiss me, and stuff? He doesn’t want another girl, he says he needs to SEE that I matured a little more. I don’t know what to do.

    P.S He’s been through a rough childhood. Once I asked him: “Why is it I’m the first to love you and you want to let me go?”. He started to cry and he hugged me, and said: “I thank god for you each day.” I know he loves me but, how can I get him back? I’ve tried messaging, notes everything. I barley call because I think it’s the guy’s job. Which he calls OFTEN. Morning, and night. All help is appreciated, THANK YOU.<3

    1. Hi Vanesa,

      Break ups hurt no matter what age you are, but it is only through the lessons we learn during these breakups that we grow emotionally as human beings.

      What I mean to say is…breakups are not bad things, and you can gain something positive from every seemingly bad event you encounter in life.

      If you have the right attitude, and perspective.

      He tells you that you are immature, but it sounds like he needs to mature, as well.

      The way we mature is by experiencing events, and learning how to handle them.

      Whatever doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger.

      He needs to learn how to live without you always being there for him to kiss, hold, and have, whenever “he feels like it”.

      And you, you need to learn how to be happy without him, and show him that you don’t “need him” to be happy.

      People like to know they “make” people happy when they are together, but no one really wants someone to totally depend on them for happiness, that is a big (and unnecessary) responsibility that will scare anyone off after a while.

      I suggest you use the no contact rule to evolve past this break up, and get your life back.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  4. Hi,
    Sarah

    My name is vanessa and me and my ex split about 3 months ago and he got into a relationship with someone els right after but we both still talk and he tell’s me he loves me all the time and tells me he is sorry and wish this never happen and that he is down because he say this is not what was suppose to happen we still have sex even though he is still with this other girl and she does not know i know it is wrong but we still have strong feelings for each other, I have some one i can run too if i need some lovin and he gets sad when he ask me who am i seeing
    i dont know what that means when he ask me that or feels down when he knows i am seeing someone els i want us too work but he said he dont know if he can change can you help me out please in what i should do thank you..

    1. Hi Vanessa,

      Your ex boyfriend is cheating on his current girlfriend (with you), and using you for sex, and you want to know what to do?

      The first thing you need to do is…

      FUCKING WAKE UP!

      You deserve better than this.

      Kick his cheating ass to the curb, evolve past the break up, and your obsession with your ex boyfriend.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  5. Hello, I recently texted my ex after 2 years, we were both together for a long time and seems he wants to be friends after a break up since hes dating a new girl. I’ve read you are not supposed to be friends with your ex and this is true? What would you do?

    1. Hi,

      I would walk away from this situation.

      His girlfriend is not going to appreciate him talking to his ex girlfriend…would you?

      Plus, you want more than friendship, so don’t lie to yourself and think it will be enough.

      It won’t.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  6. Hi S.W,

    My ex-boyfriend of 3.5 months broke up with me back in mid-June.
    He was scared to go deeper emotionally and thought I was challanging his feelings.

    However, he has always called, email, drunk dial playing love songs down the phone, you-tube love song clips in email, etc. He as initiated 70% of the time.

    I’ve met up twice with him since the break up. Once 6 weeks ago when he oftered to be friends and I said ‘no’ (he almost had tears in his eyes when I left when I said it was farewell). 6 weeks ahead (last weekend) he took me to a musical show plus dinner this passed Saturday night, it was a 6 hour date and went very well. He asked me to spend the nigh and said I could sleep in the other room and he would make me breakfast and watch the football tomorrow together (I declined).

    There has been a lot of ‘push and pull’ going on with him since we broke up. Saturday night he was very affectionate (kisses, touching, holding hands). He asked me to go to a concert with him in 4 weeks, I said yes, immediately the next day I see he sent me the confirmation. (almost $200 tickets), he said its my birthday present for you for being a good girl.

    Having said that, we have both recently put our on-line profiles up on the dating site we met on. I really dont want to date other men and I feel he still wants to see whats out there!

    I did the NC for 3.5 weeks up until 3 weeks ago. He has not suggested a second date between now and 4 weeks ahead (the concert the day after my birthday).

    Can you offer some insight as to why 1) he is confused 2) perhaps I’m reading into things? Keep in mind this is a man thats scared to get his heart involved (fearful, avoidant). The relationship we had was good and a lot of sexual chemistry. We are both mid-age

    Thanks so much,

    Sarah

    1. Hi Sarah,

      You need to follow the no contact rule correctly, and stop letting your ex boyfriend play your emotions.

      You have to stop making excuses for him, as well.

      He is middle-aged and should know what he wants, and he does.

      He wants sex without a commitment.

      All this emotional bullshit is just a front, so he can get laid, and not have to commit, and you’re letting him do it.

      Wake up.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  7. Hi, my ex is seriously trying to hurt me emotionally, by going through a custody battle where he is doing everything under the sun to make me look bad he filed when we agreed to be civil and work to establish trust, this has gone on for about 2 months, he recently started texting me and emailing me nothing to much pictures of him in a suit and him and our son, but did tell me( through text) he has feelings for me that he ignores, I dont know what to do, I want him back if he decides to change, and wants to build a better healthier relationship with me but the healing will take a long time and I dont think he will hear me out. Please Help.
    thank you.

    1. Hi,

      It would be best to just leave him alone, and follow the no contact rule as outlined in the free plan.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  8. Hi Scott

    Ive written to you before and here I am again. The same guy Im still seeing.He stated over and again that we’re just friends nothing serious which is ok with me.My issue with him is the fact that whenever we spend time with eachother he expects me to cook for him massage his back( he has a lot of back spasms)and so I massage his feet and back to help him out. Well it got to the point whereas I said ok we could see eachother ona casual basis and Im done cooking and massaging you. Last week he stayed over my place he walked in the door asking if I cooked dinner. I said no. Its too hot and I reminded him of our agreement”casual only” He insisted. I finally said ok..but he preceeded to cook dinner on his own. meat and salad.previously i cancelled a couple dated with him before seeing him on this day. He questioned my whereabouts. Why question if he says that he have no feelings for me at all. He said didnt I tell you not to develop any feelings..supposedly he’s moving to maryland..previous ly where he lived.When we met he told me that he didnt have any kids now he admit that he has a daughter in europe. I was shocked at first ..he quickly saw my reaction and said no he didnt. I dont know the truth. we talked that over now last week he insisted again that I not develop feelings. Wow he talks about this more than I. yet he questions me and is visually upset when Im out with my guy friend. i started seeing someone else. If I go out with my guy friend and he knows that I cant see him on a certain day and when Im available he gives me a hard time. He says he only wants to see me if im really in the mood for..”you know what”Our last encounter he questioned me about what happened between me and the guy as if I was giving away something that belongs to him. I didnt tell him anything. Nothing sexual has happened between the guy and I by the way. any way when he and I was getting into the act I suprisingly noticed him staring at me like he didnt want to touch me and visibally disgusted or like he was upset. when I asked him whats going on he immediated ly act as if if he was all into me. same song he sings he has no feelings so i really drew the line no cooking no massages no asking who we see ..lets just keep it casual. if he agree to seeing me on these terms let me know…no answer from him so 1/2 day so I texted him and waiting on ur answer and he just texted back a question mark(?) the next afternoon I didnt answer back so far it s been 4 days I havent heard back from him. What should I do? what am I overlooking?

    1. Hi,

      Why are you wasting your time on this guy?

      He told he doesn’t want anything serious, and you obviously do, so break it off, and go find yourself a man who wants the same things you do.

      He is just playing games with you, don’t let him.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  9. Hi,I met a guy a couple months ago A week and a half ago he asked me out for dinner. I said no then he begged..I later said ok..as long as im not driving since he live an hour away from my house. He ended up getting a call from a family member to pick them up from work in a nearby suburb which delayed our date by a few hours.Afterwards he picked me up and drove 45 minutes from where I live. Later we went to his house( he was suppose to give a ride back home) he didnt tell me that he was working a 12 hour shift the next day. And I told him that I had something to do the next morning. he said ok ill drive you home in the morning around 630a.m..I agreed. I tried to wake him up around 545am he was pissed off. he said I talk too much. He needed to sleep he has to be at work at 10 a.m. Well we didnt leave his place until after 830. I had to be home by 830 to give a friend of mine a ride to work. he didnt care. well I told him off about his a..hole behavior. Later we made up but he also cried about not getting enough sleep. I wouldve never agreed to go out if he had to work 12 hour shift the next day. Why do I feel as if he’s blaming me for not getting enough rest.That next friday he asked me to come over but i would have to drive my own car despite him saying that he’ll pick me up. I had no obligations the next day. He said he had guests coming over saturday from out of town(staying for a week)On a couple of these days he asked me out I was busy. Then another day I asked him out he says” didnt i tell u I had guests over? I said cool. I didnt call him for 3 days he texted asked me” how have you been? I answered bak a few hours later that I enjoyed our time together but I want to forget that we ever happened. He said ok ..its up to you. then 7 minutes later he texted “I didnt want it this way though”. What does he mean? Im confused.

    1. Hi,

      It seems like this guy is just plain stupid.

      Who makes these kinds of plans when you have to work the next day?

      He was obviously pissed off from lack of sleep.

      Since it was your first date you might want to give him another chance, but, make sure he makes better plans this time.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. You are to funny…Im laughing my a.. off..thank u for the advice hun

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