What is Wrong With My Ex Boyfriend – Why Does He Act This Way?

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Do you ever wonder what is wrong with your ex boyfriend? Does he do things that have you puzzled? What the hell is going on with him anyways? Maybe I can help. Do you really want…him, back? I am going to try to help you understand; “what is wrong with my ex boyfriend?”

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How come he still keep things of mine when he says he does not love me? I think this is pretty self explanatory, but if you would like to hear someone say it…”he still thinks about you, and possible more.” I will. The worst thing to do here would be to over react. What? women over reacting…never happens. Take this for what it is a big clue that he is not over you. “Why does my ex boyfriend do that?” Because he has feelings he isn’t ready to show, yet.Want To Know What's Wrong With Your Ex Boyfriend? Use No Contact To Find Out His True Feelings

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How come he is with another woman, but he is always smiling at me? Maybe he’s drunk?…just kidding. This one would seem pretty obvious too. The sight of you brings out emotions he can not hide, a smile is so spontaneous, they are hard to stop. Another good sign but once again, do not over think, or over react. “Why does my ex boyfriend do that?” Because you are still in his heart, and on his mind, use these signs as a tool. They tell you, you have a good chance of getting your ex back, but you need to know what you’re doing…or you could fail.

Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Why does he act nice one day, and rude the next? This is a tough one, but I would suggest he is confused, and it is annoying him. Now, if he becomes abusive, and real mean, you might want to step back for a while. Do not over think this and think that he hates you. Everyone has had a time when they were upset, and said things they really didn’t mean…right? He could be going through a rough time, do not take it personally. “Why does my ex boyfriend do that?” He is human, and confused, and so are you. One of you should find a plan, and start working on getting back together again.

Get Back My Ex Boyfriend

If your ex boyfriend is showing you signs that he is still interested in you. You need to ask yourself “do I want him back?” If you do want your ex boyfriend back it is time to get serious, and get informed. If you have any comments or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP! What can I do to help you get your ex back? What are you willing to do to “win my ex boyfriend back?”

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people for more than 3 years to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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160 Responses to “What is Wrong With My Ex Boyfriend – Why Does He Act This Way?”

  1. Mari says:

    Why does my ex-boyfriend insist that we remain friends. He’s been contacting me more lately…in the past 2 weeks. He told me about a month ago that he doesn’t feel anything for me but yet when he sees me, there’s something in his eyes that tell me otherwise. Not only in his eyes but the way he acts around me. What is all this about because it sure does confuse me.

  2. S. Williams says:

    Hi Mari,

    Usually when an ex boyfriend or any kind of ex, insists on remaining your friend, and in contact with you, it is because they are not sure if they are over you yet, and don’t want you to move on.

    This really sucks for the person they left because it puts them in “relationship limbo.”

    My advice is to find out what “he wants’ by using no contact.

    If you are not familiar with the no contact rule, read about it on my Blog, and get a general idea how it works, then get a good plan, and follow it.

    Does My Ex Still Love Me?

    No contact will make him come to a decision about his feelings for you, and he will either become more than a friend, or leave you alone, and let you move on.

    This will set you free from relationship limbo, but…

    Don’t let the fear of losing him stop you from finding out the truth.

    It is better to know the truth, then it is to live in confusion…Right?

    I hope this helped.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  3. Mari says:

    Well I withdrew from him. I no longer contacted him. If he happened to call, I would make sure to keep it a short call. I asked how he was and so and so and then would tell him that I had to cut the call short because I had to go (even if I didn’t.) I didn’t always answer. This went on for about a month and I was about to tell him that I wanted no contact at all. Then two weeks ago the calls and contact began. Whether he did it by phone, text messages or online, whichever means he used but he initiated the contact. The phone calls eventually became longer. He invited me to his house last week and I went over. We had a good time, laughed and joked around. Yet he always made sure to touch my hand or my face and would compliment me. At one point I laid down for a bit and he went over and just hugged me like he doesn’t want to let go. Still it confuses me, I guess because we haven’t discussed anything about us. I don’t think I should bring it up or when to bring it up if at all.

  4. S. Williams says:

    Hi Mari,

    It sounds like you really need a good plan to follow.

    Your confused because you have no idea what to do, and I can not explain it to you here, because there is just so much involved.

    Why don’t you read, and do some research on using the no contact rule correctly.

    I would suggest you learn how to correctly use no contact, so you will get the results you want a lot faster…OK?

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  5. Amanda says:

    my ex boyfriend is showing two of these with me for example one day hes nice and talkative and the next he stays locked up in his room and i wont get so much as a hello when i get home. Also sometimes he will say i look good or make comments about how im “doing things to tease him” or he will offer to drive me places…we even “spent” a night together but after he said this does not change anything between us…what does this mean?

  6. S. Williams says:

    Hi Amanda,

    It sounds like he is having problems other than with your relationship.

    Now’s the time to back off and stop worrying about the relationship, and give him some space.

    When you just add more to a persons confusion you’re not helping your situation very much…understand?

    He sounds closed off at the moment, and you aren’t going to ‘pry” him open…OK?

    When he’s ready, he will open up to you, and then you will have your chance to learn more about what’s going on in his head.

    A person can flirt without being in love, and on the other hand people lie about their true feelings too.

    Hence, when he told you that your night together didn’t change anything.

    People believe if they say it, it’s true…not really in some cases.

    Be patient, and give him time…OK?

    Look around my Blog, and read all the comments that are here, maybe you will see something that you can relate to.

    Send them a comment, maybe the both of you can help each other?

    Just for the record…everyone is welcome to communicate with each other, as long as it says civil.

    I will not permit any bullying, or bashing of other people…OK?

    Any rude, hurtful comments will be deleted.

    This Blog is a place for finding answers, and for healing.

    Use it to it’s fullest extent.

    I am thinking of adding a forum in the future…what do you think?

    I hope this helped.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  7. Amanda says:

    this is for anyone who might be able to relate or has had something similar happen…

    i did i really bad thing and i wish now i never did it because i did not like what i found…i snopped through my ex boyfriends room (we live together at the moment} and found two condoms witch made me think right away hes sleeping with someone else…i never took into consideration that his brother is staying with us and had his girlfriend over the other night, well you know what happend from there. Im still not sure who’s they are…so i was just hoping someone could give me some insight on this, should i talk to him? if so what should i say.

  8. S. Williams says:

    Hi Amanda,

    A relationship is built on trust, and you obviously don’t trust your ex, or respect his privacy.

    I have one question for you:

    How would you feel if your ex went through your things, and then jumped to a conclusion?

    I would back off for now, and give him some time, you can apologize later.

    Right now he is upset, and you will only make things worst.

    My best advice…learn from what just happened, and never do it again.

    You can’t change the past, but you can learn from it…understand.

    You need to get your emotions under control before you totally blow any chance of getting him back.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  9. Lizzie says:

    i broke up with my boyfriend from a rumor my friend told me. so i regretted doing that when i found out it wasnt’ true. but He wasn’t sure about getting back with me because he didn’t like the fact that i chose to believe my friend instead of him. So i went out with someone else, but we broke up 5 or 6 months later. then i started talking to my old ex again and asked him if there is any potential for us to be together ever again and he said that we are really good friends but that is all. So i stopped talking to him and got another boyfriend, but that wasn’t going well either so i went to my old ex boyfriend for advice, and ever since i contacted him he has been asking me to hang out. So i broke up with the other boyfriend because obviously i still had feeling for my old ex. This one time he kissed me and hold my hand. and also asked me to hang out with him other times as well with his friends. So im really confused so i did the ignoring thing, and he texted me a week later saying “Hey my love lets go bowling” i didnt end up going cause it was late. So yes i dont know whats going on . He said we were just friends then a month later were hanging out again. Im usually the one texting him, but now he’s the one talking to me. My guy friend thinks he’s playing with me.Can you help me figure out whats going on with my old ex please?

  10. S. Williams says:

    @ Lizzie:

    Hi Lizzie,

    Go to my section called Start Here First FAQs and read FAQ #1 and join our forum as directed in the FAQs…OK?

    We will help you once you post your story there per the instructions in the FAQs.

    See you on the inside! :)

  11. trina says:

    hi..my bf dumped 2 weeks ago.he said he just grew tired of me.but he immediately wanted us to be friends an hour after the break up and i agreed.he came by my house a couple of times and we talk online.mostly he initiates the conversations.the last time we saw each other was 4 days ago where he surprised me by coming to my house.then he started to kiss me like the way we used to before.after 2 days,i asked him why he came and kissed me.he said because he missed me.but after that,i never heard from him again.it’s like he’s ignoring me.we’ve been together for almost 5 years and i miss him terribly.i did not initiate any contact either after he’s been ignoring me.what should i do to get him back? :( pls help me :(

  12. S. Williams says:

    Hi,

    Go to my FAQs and follow the directions for joining our forum.

    FAQ Pages

  13. Chuck says:

    Scott. After two weeks of trying to show my ex how much i love her she still wont comment on anything ive said. She hasnt tried to remain friends. All she has told me is maybe later we can be together and that she will always love me. Hmmmmmm.

    Finally after numerous attemps to win her back I told her ive done all I can do and all I can do now is wait and hope she will write me one day. I find it very difficult to use NC after such a remark. How can I ignore her after i welcomed her reply.

    I would appreciate it if you could comment on both paragraphs please.

    Thank you

  14. Chuck says:

    Can someone ever recover from acting like a needy clings wuss and gain the respect again? Id like to go back and redeem myself but i feel ive said enough already.

  15. Chuck says:

    Oops!!! feel free to move this. Wrong thread.

  16. S. Williams says:

    Chuck wrote:

    I would appreciate it if you could comment on both paragraphs please.

    You need to go to my FAQ’s section and follow the directions for joining our forum.

    I don’t answer relationship questions on my Blog anymore…that’s what the new forum is for.

  17. dani says:

    my ex and I are pregnant. He left because I was “nagging” him? I It’s been about two months and we have had little contact in between. He texts me a week ago asking “How r u ?” I did not reply for about three days because I have been working on my depression issues and trying to better myself, not to mention trying the best I can to take care of my 3 year old daughter. Anyway, when I texted him back, finally, he did not respond. Then I texted him 2 days later about my daughters old crib, to see if his family and him wanted it. He got back to me and said “not sure, probably”. I did not text back, and I haven’t heard from him since. We have to try to remain friends cause we are having twins in Oct, but why the distance? After 2 months? I mean I know I messed up in the beginning, after our break up and mad major mistakes, but we have talked since then and I apologized. I am now wondering his distance and what it means? Is he trying to tell me there is no way in hell we are getting back together as a couple, or is he second guessing his move that called it quits? Please help and if you need more info, just let me know. I am sure I left some stuff out, but hopefully you get the gist of it. Thanks.

  18. S. Williams says:

    dani wrote:

    Please help and if you need more info, just let me know.

    The best way to answer that question would be to join our forum and follow our step by step plan.

    If you want my help to get your ex back follow this link:

    http://forum.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/topic/read-this-first

    Make sure you read the rules and guidelines before you join, I strictly enforce them.

  19. S. Williams says:

    summer wrote:

    So why would he get in contact with me if didnt want to talk to me.

    Hi Summer,

    I am going out on a limb here, but I would say he contacted you because he stills has feelings.

    Why did he blow you off after that?

    Because he is an idiot.

    summer wrote:

    But why would he contact me and ask to be friends if he really dont want to and what should I do about it.

    First off you don’t want to be “friends” that can become a very bad place to be with your ex, especially when it leads to friends with benefits.

    The best way to deal with this situation is to leave him alone, and when he contacts you again, hit him with the recommended NC message from the free plan, OK?

    The link for the free plan to get your ex back is at the top of my Blog.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  20. summer says:

    My ex got in contact with me after 5 months.he wanted to be friends. he said he was sorry for everything he did. He e-mailed me and messaged me for a few days. Then i asked him to meet me for coffee, he said that he would but he was too busy at that time. I never hurd from him after. I phoned, he never phoned back. sent e-mails and nerver e-mailed back and wont talk to me online. After a week or so i stoped for a week then tryed to talk to him again but no hes too busy. So why would he get in contact with me if didnt want to talk to me. he wont meet with me. I dont think its such a big deal to meet. I have deleted and blocked him from everything. part of me wants him back but part dont. But why would he contact me and ask to be friends if he really dont want to and what should I do about it.

    • Peter M. Arel says:

      I really wouldn’t blame you if YOU DIDN’T WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH HIM. But you must tell him you want NO FURTHER CONTACT WITH HIM AND THEN ACT LIKE YOU MEAN WHAT YOU SAY!

    • Peter M. Arel says:

      I’d listen to the part that says UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES TAKE HIM BACK! There are lots of ways to keep yourself busy and if you have any female friends maybe they could help you find ways to stay busy…the best way to finding somebody new.

  21. S. Williams says:

    summer wrote:

    when my ex bf did call me again after 5 months and wanted to be friends.

    Hi Summer,

    Did you follow the free plan on my Blog, or did you just stop talking with your ex, and then he called you 5 months later?

    If you didn’t follow a good for using no contact, that is why your results sucked.

    If you want to try the free plan to get your ex back, the link is on the upper right-hand side of my Blog.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  22. summer says:

    when my ex bf did call me again after 5 months and wanted to be friends. He was also acting or showing me that he was happy without me. what does that mean?
    I did ask him after he wanted to try again and he said that it wasnt a good time right now. He never gave me an answer for why not? The he stoped talking to me. What could all of that be about? He just started dating another girl. That is the third one since we broke up in 5 months. And of course i have went oh many dates and havent found anyone. maybe i should just give up

  23. S. Williams says:

    summer wrote:

    no i havent, your plan dont always work.

    Let me break it down a little for you, OK?

    I can tell your a bit slow.

    If you give an idiot a pencil, and they stick in their eye, it doesn’t mean the pencil didn’t work.

    It just means the stupid cunt (you) didn’t use it correctly.

    If you had any idea how the plan worked you would know it’s not about getting your ex back…but that would assume you know how to read.

    I love it when you lazy fucking bitches come on my Blog, and tell me you used the free plan to get your ex back when you didn’t…you lie to get me to answer your dumb questions about why your ex did this or that.

    Well, if you had any common sense you would realize that if you correctly followed the plan, you could answer your own fucking question.

    This plan is about revealing their “true feelings” it doesn’t make them fall in love with you, or hypnotize them into coming back.

    If he does/doesn’t love you…that is what you would find out if you had enough brains to follow a “free” fucking plan.

    summer wrote:

    your fucked

    No, your ex boyfriend is if he ever comes back to you…and not in the good way, either.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  24. summer says:

    i did use the plan

  25. summer says:

    i went no contact. i never seen him for a full month, then after that it was another full month before he contacted me. i told him i was here for him. i guess it no contact again.

  26. S. Williams says:

    summer wrote:

    i did use the plan

    You used the free plan for 5 months?

    summer wrote:

    i went no contact. i never seen him for a full month, then after that it was another full month before he contacted me. i told him i was here for him. i guess it no contact again.

    You will have to refresh my memory.

    Where in the free plan on my Blog does it say to tell your ex when they call after 5 months, that you are there for them.

    I remember a different strategy where you set up a short meeting, and take things slowly.

    Yeah, I would say to start over again, and re-send the recommended NC message word for word, and this time follow the plan, don’t make it up as you go along and expect it to work, OK?

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  27. summer says:

    i never said that was in the plan (i told him i was here for him) but that was what I did. I asked him to meet me but he kept saying he was too busy to meet. He havent spoke to me since. So just because i said one thing different. I ruined it. is that correct. I dont understand why you are not answering my question inn the first place?

  28. S. Williams says:

    summer wrote:

    So just because i said one thing different. I ruined it. is that correct.

    After these few exchanges I would bet that you fucked up more than just that “one thing”…it’s just a hunch.

    summer wrote:

    I dont understand why you are not answering my question inn the first place?

    Which question…the one about if you should give up?

    Yeah, you might as well, because if you can’t follow a free plan…I can’t help you.

    Good Luck!

  29. summer says:

    no i havent, your plan dont always work. you have to amit that and not blame others. just cause i said one thing that i wasnt supost to say i fucked the whole thing. whatever. your fucked

  30. Sally says:

    Hey Scott.
    Just wanted to say. I finally got my act together and have stopped obbsessing. I had to start nc over (my own fault), however im now well into it 20 days and this time im going to kick ass! Come to realize the truth will come and in the mean time im evolving well.

    Thanks

  31. S. Williams says:

    Sally wrote:

    I finally got my act together and have stopped obbsessing. I had to start nc over (my own fault), however im now well into it 20 days and this time im going to kick ass!

    Great Job Sally! (Thumbs High) :-)

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  32. S. Williams says:

    Emma wrote:

    I dont understand the whole thing? what should i do now if i want him back eventually? should i stop calling him and texting him at all? i

    Hi Emma,

    He is really sending you mixed signals. :roll:

    The best way to find out his true feelings for you is to use the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog (link at the top).

    Read it all the way through, and then start over and follow every step, OK?

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  33. Emma says:

    me and my bf broke up a year more ago. i have been calling him a lot. last 2 months we almost spent the whole time together cause we live in different countries and i went to visit him. i found out he had been liking another girl when i was there.. and before that girl he liked some other girls.. like few weeks before i left.. he says he doesnt want any other girls anymoreand that he wouldnt look for any girls.. he says he likes me and how beautiful i am and he loves me he would always comes up to me and hug before he left to work and when he was back from work.. he would come to me straight. but now im back to my hometown which is milessss away from him. I tried calling him again he would talk a lot when he was alone but when theres people around him he would wanna hang up as soon as he picks up the call. Lately, he even asked me to stop when i told him i missed him. Also, he mentioned on the phone that i should stop liking me. I dont understand the whole thing? what should i do now if i want him back eventually? should i stop calling him and texting him at all? its a long distance thing. hope you can give me some hints thanks a lot/

  34. S. Williams says:

    Emma wrote:

    thats kinda weird to send a no contact msg now cause we have been talking a lot since the break up and his friends became my friends

    But are you back together?

    I am not here to convince anyone what they should do, I just give out advice that I have seen work, time and time again.

    If you want to get over the old failed relationship, and make room for a new one, you need to follow all the steps in the free plan to get your ex back.

    But, if it feels weird, keep things the way they are now.

    Good luck!

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  35. Emma says:

    thats kinda weird to send a no contact msg now cause we have been talking a lot since the break up and his friends became my friends that i would spend time talking to them a lot. would it be weird i dont talk to him but i talk to his friends a lot? thanks x :-D

  36. Emma says:

    thanks there’s one thing i am wwondering if guys can really hold back not to talk to the their exs even if they still like them? i didnt send any no contact msg but we haven’t talked for a week. x

  37. S. Williams says:

    Emma wrote:

    there’s one thing i am wwondering if guys can really hold back not to talk to the their exs even if they still like them?

    Sure they can, and so can girls. :wink:

    Emma wrote:

    i didnt send any no contact msg but we haven’t talked for a week

    What are you waiting for, for him to get married to another woman? :banghead:

    Take ACTION now!

    Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, the link is at the top of my Blog.

    Get moving and start kicking loves ass today. :kickbutt:

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  38. Amanda says:

    Hello..
    My long time crush finally asked me out on a saturday night. We talked all night friday night, all day sunday, and monday we went to school. Monday was perfect. On tuesday, he came into school and broke up with me. He says he liked it better when we were friends, but he also says that we never saw eachother, and that it didnt feel right. Now it has been a while and he is acting weird. Sometimes he talks to me, but sometimes he talks to his ex. He says he hates his ex and that she is a b*tch. But he also teases me by saying im on the chubby side, and that im mean. Sometimes i swear he likes me, but then sometimes he doesnt. Please help me :willy_nilly:

  39. S. Williams says:

    Amanda wrote:

    But he also teases me by saying im on the chubby side, and that im mean. Sometimes i swear he likes me, but then sometimes he doesnt. Please help me

    Hi,

    Ignore him, and find someone who will treat you right.

    If you don’t respect yourself, no one will.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  40. Amanda says:

    No, I mean he says it in a joking way..he always jokes around with me and stuff

  41. Emma says:

    omg… i just tried not talking to him and eventually the feeling for him has gone. Its been around 2-3 weeks i called him. and now he messaged me that he saw something else that he thought of me and he misses me. did that mean he like me or just a friendly message to see how i am. im so confused. guys are confusing. and theres another guy i met he told peopel he has a crush on me.he bought me gifts. he talks to me all time when i get on IM. He flirts a lot with me and still do but he talks about some girl screamed when she saw his muscle and that telling me that girl wanna hang out with him but he says that would be better the other day.. why would he tell me? what does that mean when a guy do that? thanks

    xx

  42. Emma says:

    for the first guy i meant his texted me… he never did that for oversea!! * if u remember my story, i wrote here to you early…2 weeks ago. thanks =P

  43. S. Williams says:

    Emma wrote:

    Its been around 2-3 weeks i called him. and now he messaged me that he saw something else that he thought of me and he misses me. did that mean he like me or just a friendly message to see how i am.

    That is hard to say….but, 2-3 weeks i not enough time for NC to work.

    Go read, and follow the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, the link is on the right-hand side bar.

    If you feel you’re ready, follow the section on reconnection, if he pulls away again, start over from the beginning, and use NC correctly this time.

    As far as the other guy, he sounds like he just likes to get attention, you can try dating him, if you have to go back into NC with your ex…sound good?

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  44. Anna says:

    me and my ex have been friends before we dated. But he always liked me.. after 4 months of being friends i started dating him.. it lasted for 2 months cuz he was barely texting me or calling me.. anyways, he said he still wanted to remain friends.. but i avoided that response then he texts me back 3 days later asking if i was mad and i said no. hes been normally how he always was but ever since he heard some guy tried kissing me hes been a lil mean to me, calling me names like sloppy drunk but he says hes just kidding.. anyways he keeps telling me that he has a new girl but yet every pic i have of a gurl on my facebook he compliments them saying theyre sexy. and recently i was joking around with him and saying his picture looked bad and he started saying i have no friends, i annoy everyone.. so i deleted him, then he immediatey adds me again and writes me a message saying “why u delete me” and i said cuz your being a jerk .. and he said he was saying those things cuz i said i was talking “sh*t” first and hes just joking around

    why is he acting like this? its annoying me

  45. Anna says:

    oh and he is the type that never expresses his true feelings to anyone.. he even told me that himself

  46. S. Williams says:

    Anna wrote:

    why is he acting like this? its annoying me

    To annoy you, and it is working.

    I think he is still interested in you, but too chicken to say so.

    Ignore him for a while and see what he does…block him out.

    Anna wrote:

    oh and he is the type that never expresses his true feelings to anyone.. he even told me that himself

    OK, if that is the case..

    How do you know he just shared his true feelings, about his true feelings?

    He is just once again breaking your balls, and trying to get your attention.

    Why don’t you start dating another guy and watch his “true feelings” come out. 8)

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  47. S. Williams says:

    ally wrote:

    i dont know if i should move on or see what could happen with him. what do you think ?

    Hi,

    I think you should read the free plan to get your ex back, and then follow ALL the steps.

    During your personal evolution you will find the answers to your questions, it will take time.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  48. ally says:

    Me and my ex boyfriend broke up about a month ago and he has called me and we have talked since. we hung out a few times and acted like there was no change. he says that he still has feelings for me but is going through a lot right now and needs some time and space. he acts like he still likes me but i dont know what to think. he told me when we broke up to keep my options open. but i dont know if he wants to be with me or not. i dont know if i should move on or see what could happen with him. what do you think ?

  49. S. Williams says:

    kayla wrote:

    plz help me fix this bc ive read if u beg and call then it pushes them away and i dont want that so someone plz help me fix my mistake!!!!

    Hi,

    You’re right!

    If you beg and plead you will rive your ex away.

    Instead use the free plan, and the no contact rule to attract your ex back to you.

    Go read the free plan to get your ex back, and it will explain everything you need to do.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  50. kayla says:

    my ex broke up with me and i did beg him back and kept callin and i know now i shouldnt have done that but how do i fix it and make him think i am fine,he talks to me some but not alot,he called me a few nites ago and i was talkin 2 a guy friend and he told me 2 hang up with him and talk 2 him and he was playin songs that he had played 2 me be4,we really didnt talk bout much but anyways last nite i called him and told him i needed 2 talk 2 him be4 i go out with my aunt and some friends and he said yea ur gonna b with guys and he said well just stay and talk 2 me and not go,i called him at 9:30 and was leaving at 10:30 so i told him i wouldnt go and just talk to him and i told him i loved him and want to be with him and he said he loves me and wants to be with me more than anything but he dont think we can make it work,he waited till 10:30 to tell me this when he knew i wasnt goin now,i cried and he said he had to go so i begged him and kept callin him and he said i was crazy,i cant understand him,y is he doin this to me and what does he want and how do i fix my mistake of begging him and acting like im fine,idk y he broke up with me but plz help me fix this bc ive read if u beg and call then it pushes them away and i dont want that so someone plz help me fix my mistake!!!!

  51. Erika says:

    hi, me and my ex bf broke up almost 2 years from now, (relationship of 1 year and a half)we still talk, see each other and hang out together llike once a week or stuff. he keeps saying that he doesnt want us to get bakc toghter, but when he sees me interested in another guy he acts very jealous, in fact hes jeaolus all the time and practically it is the same as when we were together in all aspects, its been alot of stuff that we have been through since were not oficial, but if he doesnt want me why hes still around? if we fight and stuff, hes still here always in bads and good times , together, its very confusing, i would only like him to decide whether to be or not to be with me, because i dont like to be tinkin that i could be losing my time with someone that doesnt love me back.

  52. S. Williams says:

    Erika wrote:

    i would only like him to decide whether to be or not to be with me, because i dont like to be tinkin that i could be losing my time with someone that doesnt love me back.

    Hi,

    He is having his cake and eating it too, and you are left hungry.

    It sounds like you are both stuck in relationship limbo.

    Someone needs to take the initiative to break out of limbo so you can either get back together, or move on.

    Go read the free plan to get your ex back, and follow ALL the steps.

    Send the recommended NC message (even though it has been 2 years)…why?

    Because he stills acts like you are in a “offical” relationship even though you are not.

    Actions always speak louder than words.

    NC will work in your case, so get started today, why waste any more time wondering about how he feels, find out for sure.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  53. Cheyenne says:

    I’ve read your plan with interest, but have a few questions, as this is an unusual “break up”; I’ll try to be brief, but it is somewhat complex —

    My ex-husband and I were together for 15+ years, then broke up Jan of ’07. Two years later, I divorced him. Now, a year later, he’s a changed man (he WAS addicted to crack and abusive, but has been clean for over 18 months now) and I want him back. BUT! About a year ago, he moved out-of-state, finally healed from our break-up, and moved on. He fell in love, got the woman pregnant, and was engaged. She lost the baby and they broke up in Jan of this year. He came to town late April and I realized I wanted him back. By then, the last ex- was back in the picture, so while he agreed to “date” me, he wouldn’t “commit”. Because of mistakes I made (“head games” and “drama”, as he called it), he called it off about three weeks ago and since his business here is over, he’s moving back out-of-state, where SHE is…So now, I want to know HOW EXACTLY would I work this plan? The relationship he’s in is clearly not a rebound and I’m really afraid they’ll get pregnant/married while I’m working it. Not to mention that since he got over me enough to be engaged and pregnant [before], how can I be sure he will miss me, when he’s already gotten over me and started living his own life? Also, we can’t be completely “no contact” as we speak several times a week about our three offspring. While we have been keeping it to parenting issues only, just hearing his voice makes me a wreck and unable to move forward; how am I supposed to evolve when I can’t control my emotions? … As I said, this’ quite the unusual situation and I don’t even know that a reconciliation is possible at this point.

  54. Nelly says:

    Hello!

    It’s been about a month since I started NC from my ex-boyfriend. For the past week during our hours together at work, I’ve been noticing him becoming more comfortable in my presence. When I said goodbye one day, he said goodbye when no one else did, and he’s made a comment or two off of something I’ve said during an open conversation with our coworkers. He’s also making jokes again in my presence, even if they aren’t directed towards me. Although we don’t go out of our way to make eye-contact with each other, occasionally I see him sneaking a glance or two in my direction and he’s not particularly afraid to be where I am (though that might be because I usually have fellow co-workers/friends in my presence.) If anything, I’m the one who’s trying not to pay attention to him with all my might in order to continue NC!

    Overall we seem pretty comfortable in each other’s general presence this week, though we haven’t initiated any one-on-one casual talk yet. Should I finally break the ice and ask if he would like to meet up after work for a short 20 minute catch-up catch? I’ve reviewed MOMU quite a bit and am ready for a talk with him; the only thing I’m worried about is initiating the talk too soon.

  55. express says:

    Hi,
    So me and my ex have been broken up for about two months from a two and a half year relationship. After more than a month without contact i did the mistake of texting him and initiating contact and continued this for three weeks straight. I did all the mistakes asking him to hang out, telling him i loved him and missed him, etc. He would respond each time but then ignore me. Just three days ago i sent my ex a NC message that i had gotten from another site and added some extra things. this is what i wrote:
    “Hey. Ive been meaning to tell you this for a while but havent got the chance to. For one i just wanted to apologize for all the mean things i have said to you when we broke up and for not giving you your space when you needed it. For the past two months i have been thinking alot about what went wrong between us and regret stressing you out, pressuring you about marriage,etc. I agree that we should be broken up and it is probably the best thing for both of us right now. I will give you time alone. Maybe at some point we can be friends.”

    Ugh…to only kill it after it and write another message like saying how my feelings for him have never changed and i have never stopped loving him and always will. And how the relationship was the best two and a half years of my life etc. that i will cherish all the memories and how ill always be here for him….

    BIG MISTAKE!!
    So ya this was like three days ago. my question is….Should i resend the suggested NC message on this site or jsut leave it with what i wrote and continue with NC?? Your advice is greatly appreciated!

  56. S. Williams says:

    express wrote:

    Should i resend the suggested NC message on this site or jsut leave it with what i wrote and continue with NC??

    Hi,

    If you broke NC too soon, then you need to send the recommended NC message (word for word) as outlined in the free plan to get your ex back.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  57. S. Williams says:

    Cheyenne wrote:

    how am I supposed to evolve when I can’t control my emotions?

    Hi,

    That would be a good question for a professional counselor.

    Cheyenne wrote:

    As I said, this’ quite the unusual situation and I don’t even know that a reconciliation is possible at this point.

    If you have been reading the free plan you will have learned that it is NOT about getting your ex back, it is about getting your life back.

    If you fall apart at the sound of someones voice you need to get your life back.

    I am NOT a professional counselor, I offer the free plan to people so they can help themselves.

    If you feel you can use the free plan to help yourself, go ahead and read it, and then follow ALL the steps.

    If you do not have faith in the plan, please don’t waste your time, and seek better advice.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  58. S. Williams says:

    Nelly wrote:

    I’ve reviewed MOMU quite a bit and am ready for a talk with him; the only thing I’m worried about is initiating the talk too soon.

    Hi,

    The 30 day NC rule is just a bench mark, not every situation can be reconciled in 30 days.

    Follow your “gut” instinct, and do not try to reconnect too soon, it will only set you back to the beginning again.

    You can not rush through NC, no matter how anxious you are to get your ex back.

    The whole idea of the free plan is to get your life back, not your ex.

    Once you reach a point where you are not worried about getting your ex back, you will ready.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  59. express says:

    thanks…ya i definitely did break NC to soon the first time but i am already into three days of NC again since the NC message I wrote. Does it make sense to write the recommended NC message and start over again?

  60. S. Williams says:

    express wrote:

    Does it make sense to write the recommended NC message and start over again?

    It does to me, why?

    Because the message you used wasn’t written correctly.

    A better question would be why did you send that fucked up version of the recommended NC message, and then come ask me if you did the right thing?

    It’s a little late now. 8)

    I can’t turn back time, but I can tell you that your message won’t work as well as the recommended NC message.

    Next time ask before you do something, my advice works a lot better under those conditions.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  61. express says:

    Ok i am going to send it right now as a matter of fact. Thanks for the advice i wish i wouldve came on this site sooner and especially before sending that message!!! I guess i panicked. I really hope this works, already been down this road and my situation is tough…so many details.

  62. Sarah says:

    Hi Scott, my ex split up with me in April this year. I have seen him three times since the break up (long distance). We are ‘trying’ to stay friends but suddenly last week he calls me out of the blue at work which he hasn’t done since just after the break up. He also called me twice on the friday. He keeps on confusing me, in one conversation when he was drunk he asked me if i still loved him, i said i didn’t know and asked him and he said no, then i said if my answer had of been different what would he have said and i think he said i don’t know. I do still love him. He said drunk that he wanted me to move in with him and marry him but before that said if this was a proper relationship you could come round. He said that the reason he is being nice to me is because I’ve stopped asking to see him. I asked him today did he still have feelings for me and he said no so why all the mixed signals. The last time i saw him i stupidly told him i had been with someone else and i have denied it because he has trust issues and I don’t want him to think that I am like his ex’s because I’m not and it was a mistake. He said he had a dream of me and i had a new boyfriend and the boyfriend was chasing him. Is this because he has it on his mind that I’m seeing someone, he said on the phone how i was and i told him i’m not which is true.

    Please help me out because i would like to know the truth.

    • S. Williams says:

      Sarah says:

      He said he had a dream of me and i had a new boyfriend and the boyfriend was chasing him. Is this because he has it on his mind that I’m seeing someone, he said on the phone how i was and i told him i’m not which is true.

      Please help me out because i would like to know the truth.

      Hi,

      I am not a dream interpreter, but if you want to reveal your ex boyfriends “true feelings” for you, go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  63. lisa says:

    hi scott! i sent him a nc message but didnt type it word for word because i didnt know u had one on this website. i havent talked to him for like a month now. should i resend the right nc message even tho i havent talked to him in a month…wouldnt it be odd to send it now? please help thank you!

    • S. Williams says:

      Lisa says:

      hi scott! i sent him a nc message but didnt type it word for word because i didnt know u had one on this website. i havent talked to him for like a month now. should i resend the right nc message even tho i havent talked to him in a month…wouldnt it be odd to send it now?

      Hi,

      If you were happy with the results you were getting so far you wouldn’t still be searching for help, right?

      Since you’re not happy with your results “it would be odd” not to start over and do it right, make sense?

      If you’re interested, go read the free plan to get your ex back, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  64. tara says:

    Hi .

    So me and my ex broke up 4 months ago, why we broke up was really stupid
    Also me and him work together. He is constantly at the store on his nights off and on days that I am there
    He alsoo trys to make it so that he makes his presence known. He also sent my best friend a msg saying he needed to tlk to her
    About something but then she said okay and he was like wait nvm I can’t trust you. Also he
    Is telling his friends that I am tlking shit about him when I clearly am not.
    One night I was wlking around the store and he wlked up tthe aisle I was in then when I
    Went to the next he was standing right there fiddling with his phone
    Looked at me & wlked away. Also one of the girls I wrk with said when
    I’m around his mood tottaly changes

  65. Paula says:

    I do actually like to read the comments on these threads, it’s comforting in a strange way. Well anyway to the point…
    I initiated no contact with my ex, and though he did not try to contact me yet, he was giving me very mixed messages when we broke up.
    Even though I think there’s another girl he’s not telling me about, it’s tough to believe that he went from calling me ‘the one’ and telling me less than a week later that he fell out of love with me.
    1) Parts of him still wanted to be with me even though he didn’t ‘love me anymore’
    2) He still cared about me
    3) There was a sizeable chance he could love me again
    4) I was the ‘best thing for him’
    5) He feels like a jerk about the whole situation
    6) I was undoubtedly his best girlfriend he’d ever had
    I’m hoping that at this point he’s just confused and unsure of what he wants. So I still initiated NC and started the journal, so I’ll see how it goes. I know you’re not psychic and you can’t tell me exactly what’s going on in his brain, but if you have any insight on this, let me know.
    Thanks

    • S. Williams says:

      Paula says:

      I’m hoping that at this point he’s just confused and unsure of what he wants. So I still initiated NC and started the journal, so I’ll see how it goes. I know you’re not psychic and you can’t tell me exactly what’s going on in his brain, but if you have any insight on this, let me know.

      Hi,

      It seems he is sending mixed signals, so that means it could go either way.

      The best way to reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you is to follow the free plan, and correctly use the no contact rule.

      When you say you initiated NC I hope you followed the free plan.

      If you did, then keep reading the free plan to get your ex back, and follow ALL the steps.

      The NC message is only the beginning of your personal evolution.

      One word of advice, stop trying to analyze your ex’s actions, this will stagnate your personal evolution.

      Don’t worry about what he said, or did, focus on getting your life back, that is the true key to success.

      The whole objective of the free plan, and no contact is to get your life back, not your ex boyfriend.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

    • tara says:

      Paula , hounestly we r in somewhat the same situatiion, I’d love to tlk u about it more

  66. c.k.k says:

    we broke up with my ex hence we met so that we could finally say goodbye to each other in a peaceful way, after that we ended up making love. right now we broke up again. what does this mean? does he still love me?

  67. Lilly says:

    I’m wondering if my ex boyfriend will come back to me. He said he needed to focus on graduate school (we go to the same school) & that he doesn’t want to date anyone during this time. We talk through texting and e-mailing (i typically initiate all the time). At one event at a bar he saw me with another guy and kept asking me about him & when i left w/ the guy (a frind) my friend said he thought it was weird that i left with another guy and seemed jealous. He says he just wants to be friends and not blurr the boundaries. Yet, we did more than friendly things a month or two ago when i went over to his place. Something i did not like was i was girl things at his place(bobby pin & i think a tiny bottle of perfume or massage oil. My ex constantly asks me questions at times about me. One time i mentioned that i was gonna throw a party for my bf (best friends). He asked me if i was throwing it for my boyfriend. There are signs he is interested but then again he told me he just wants to be friends a couple times. We broke up many years ago but i’m stuck with his way of just being friends but i want more than friendship. Should i still be friends with him or tell him to talk to me when he decides he wants more than friendship? This is a guy i was with for about 2 years and had mentioned the possibility of maybe getting married in the future. Typically, when i e-mail him, he responds right away….Should i try the no contact rule & see if he contacts me first? Should i still be optimistic of the possiblity of us getting back together after graduate school is done? When we hooked up a month ago i told him i’d wait till school was over and if we could get back together then. He said somethign like maybe, but he couldn’t promise anything.
    What advice do you have for me?
    Thank you for taking the time to read this! I really appreciate it.

  68. Crystal says:

    My baby’s dad left me a month ago just like he did 3 years ago.

    But this time he said he is unhappy and don’t want to be together any more. but when he comes around everything is the same that it used to be its like we are still a couple behind closed doors.

    But he talk to other girl.I have tried to talk to him about it but don’t want to hear me out.

    and our baby will be here in three months. he also help me raise my other two daughter.

    do you think there is still a chance or he is just sticking around cause I’m pregnant.

    Why is he being like that.and to top it off he don’t call or text to see how me or the baby are doing i call and text him.

    But he says he will be there when the baby is born. What should i do?

  69. S. Williams says:

    Hi,

    If you want to get your life back, and reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you, go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  70. Stephanie says:

    Hi, Well My Ex Boyfriend Broke up with me recently and he didnt tell me why? But We still act like we are still a couple he always wants to hang with me and when he talks with his family he still calls me his gf. He Still calls and when we had broke up he told me because he has been thinkin too much that i didnt do anything wrong its just so confusing to explain it all.

  71. Kristina says:

    Hi

    Is it a good idea to follow a plan if i am not sure if was ever truly loved or needed?? what if it was not very serious relationship and i still want it back cos i was happy with the way it worked for both of us? or maybe worked for me… i am confused, should i fight or there is nothing realy to fight for, its just my imagination..

  72. Sally says:

    Hi, my ex boyfriend and I broke up a little over two months ago because he said he still had feelings for his ex-girlfriend. We were in a relationship for more than a year, so it was very hard for me. I didn’t talk to him for a month when he texted me asking how I have been. I said I was good and that I would like it for us to be freinds and leave things on good terms (we hadn;t talked about the breakup much after everything). He said he will think about it and texted me back saying no we cant be friends and that he wants to asct like we never met. I left it at that because I wasn’t going to force myself into his life if he didn’t want me there. Then he texts me five days later asking me why I cut my hair short and saying that he wishes things didnt happen the way it did because he really needs someone to talk to. Being as I still cared, i told him he could talk to me if he would like to but he said it was wierd now. Anyways, he kept texting me like once or twice a week asking how I was for a few weeks. Then, he called me one night to apologize for what he did, and that even though it may not make a difference, he wanted to say sorry for what he did and how he even acted after the breakup. He had gotten into a really bad accident which made him realize some of the things that he was doing wrong in his life. He said it would be better not to be friends because he respected me alot and didnt want to hurt me again and that he didnt want the feelings to come back. Again, I left it at that. He texted me again a few days later asking how Ive been and asking for some advice for one of his friends. He has continued to text me every few days, telling me about his life but at the same time keeping it friendly as he does have a gf. Two days ago, he texted me again and this time, I said why are you still texting me when you have a girlfriend? He said his life is really messed up and that he needs my help. I said it is unfair to your girlfriend because she doesnt know we still talk. He basically begged for me to help him and said that if I just help him with this one thing, he will leave me alone. We talked on the phone and he said that it is hard for his girlfriend to understand because she has such a different view on life.

    With it all said and done, do you think he thinks he might have made a mistake chosing to be with her? I never initate contact, and sometimes I do not reply to him so will that make him realize that he needs me in his life (assuming that he does)?

    I just want to know, is there a good chance he still has feelings for me even though he is in a relationship?

  73. Sally says:

    Also to mention, he has asked me if I was talking to anyone and if I was single. I said I wasnt looking for a relationship at the moment, but if it happens, it happens.

    Could this be a good sign?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      The free plan, and my free support system is designed to help people get their lives back, and evolve past the break up.

      I don’t help people get their ex’s back, that doesn’t work.

      With that being said, you don’t need to know how your fucking ex boyfriend feels about you, it doesn’t matter.

      If you really “truly” want to find out how he feels about you, stop worrying about getting him back, and focus on getting your life back.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – This shit really works.

  74. Megha says:

    Hi

    My boyfriend and i broke up 3 months ago (we were in a relationship for nearly 4 years) and i had sent NC msg 2 months ago and have not contacted him till now. He too has not initiated any contact with me in any way other than to send my stuffs back. I had known him all my life and still love him. The problem is, he is planning to leave the country for good in 2 months time. Although i feel that i am ready, i am still not sure as to contacting him as he has been completely upset and just wants to get over me by completely ignoring me. I saw him on the road in between which was purely by accident but he didnt stop to say Hi to me and neither did I(since i was on NC).

    He also told my brother that he doesnt miss me anymore and doesnt want this relationship to work. Although the future with him looks bleak I still carry a hope that he might miss me and want me back.

    I am working on myself and am trying to get on with life with a little hope that he might realise that I am the one for him. :(

    Regards
    Megha

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      The free plan to get your ex back is about evolving past the break up, and getting your life back, it is not about getting your ex boyfriend back.

      Focus on getting your life back, and you will attract the love you deserve.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – Once you have your life back, you can learn how to attract anything you want into your life, by learning the secret to manifestation here:

      The Quantum Cook Book

      You don’t have to wait for good karma to find you, you can attract it.

      You can get the kind of love you want and deserve, if you know how to attract it.

  75. Megha says:

    Thank you so much for your advice :)
    and the book its really interesting
    Thank you so much once again

  76. Stephanie C says:

    I broke up with my ex about 2 weeks ago. I was really tired of the pull and push thing he would do. We would be getting along and doing well but then he would push away from me completely. It would take me off guard every time. We tried to plan a trip together and for the life of me he would not give me his info so I could book the trip. That was a clear sign he didnt want to go after asking him 5 different times. Over the last three years he has pulled away and then come closer to me just to pull himself away again so many times. We would talk about it, I would forgive him and then it would happen again. He would never take me anywhere, unless it was to a bar to get wasted with his friends. We never spent the holidays together or our birthdays together. It just drove me crazy. But I would have him over alot or we would go to his place. Finally one summer he opened up and cried telling me he was in love with me but as sure as I am sitting here almost 2 months went by and he pushed himself away again. The last straw for me was he became sick, I asked him if I could pick up something for him to help him feel better and he agreed. When I could not meet him on his time because of errands I was runnning with my kids, he became standoffish and cold. I explained to him why I could not come and meet him right away and he pushed me away. I even told him I would just drop off the medicine to him in front of his house and leave it for him, he told me not to bother. When he would go through his periods of pushing me away sometimes I would not see him or hear from him for 3-4 days,sometimes a week but nothing longer than that before he would send me a text saying he missed me. Theres alot going on here or maybe not but I finally sent him an email letting him know that I would move on if that was what he wanted. That he need not worry about the trip I would just go with someone else. But no response. Then I read the no contact rule and I sent him a text saying that the break up was the best thing for the both of us and that I would appreciate it if he did not contact me until I am ready etc etc word for word just like the message says. On new years day, about 4 days from sending the nc message he wished me a happy new year and said he missed me. The next day I sent him a Happy new years to you as well and then I sent another nc message, the same one I sent before. The same night at midnight and until 2am he text me saying he missed me but I believed him to be drunk. Then he sent a sad face at 6:35am probably still drunk or awake and hungover. Im not really sure. I sent him another nc message. The same one as before. I have not heard from him. Sometimes I miss him and sometimes I dont think about him. But its hard because I did really love and care about him and sometimes I think I still do. We were together for 3 years. But time and time again I was ignored, rejected, but worse of all wasnt treated like a girl friend should be treated. I do believe he misses me but it hasnt been 30 days or even 60 days, its only been a few short weeks. I am journaling now too which helps alot. I am in that place between being tired alot and then I have extreme energy, but I dont stay home much unless Im going to sleep or veg on the couch with friends. Im rarely alone and I keep super busy. I do miss him. I just know I have to keep doing this to heal from the pain I have which I do have. Does he not see what he does to me? Why did he distance himself so much when he could have just told me? I dont know, but I just couldnt be with someone who didnt want to fully commit to me. I cant tell you what that did to me. Am I afraid? yep, but I would rather go through this then to be with him and have that same pain if not worse. I promised myself this year would be a time to grow and change. So please give me some advise. Thank you so so much.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      No contact and the free plan is NOT about getting your ex boyfriend back, it is about getting your life back.

      The sooner you start focusing on evolving past the break up, and stop worrying about why your ex did what he did, the better.

      As you progress along the answers will come to you, you can’t track them down, it doesn’t work that way.

      This is why I call the whole process a personal/emotional evolution.

      Stop assuming and guessing about the past, and focus on the things you can change, like the future.

      You have to let the past (and your break up) go.

      The NC message is only the first step of the free plan to get your ex back, there is a whole free support system available for those who can follow the rules, and use it correctly.

      Stay Strong!

      S.W.

  77. Tara L says:

    I recently broke a 8 month relationship off with my bf and asked him to bring my things over, he agreeded after we said we needed to talk about the situation. So he finally comes over to talk to me and he asks “do I have another boyfriend or something” I told him I didnt and he told me good and that I better not get one because he wasn’t going to have it. Then he hugged and kissed me. My confusion comes in @ this point because I dont know why he said it or what he meant by it! What do you think it could be? And of course, he still has my things.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      I think he doesn’t want you to move on before he does, he wants you as a plan “B”.

      If you want to reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you, you have to use no contact correctly.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      The best way to attract the kind of love you want is to evolve past the break up, and get your life back.

      All the rest will just fall into place.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  78. Denise says:

    My ex bf broke up with me last nov .It was really hurt,i begged and act like a desperate one just to win him back.He said he needed space but i keep texting and emailing him.He said he is still inlove with me but after 2 weeks he became aloof.No text messages and emails.Our relationship is almost 2 years and we broke up for almost 2 months now.I We’ve talk once this month but he said he don’t know if he is still inlove with me.He is ignoring me by the way,he said maybe he don’t love me anymore.I asked him to me meet me once even just for a last time and he agreed with the given date.I am confused now on what to do,i want him back but he doesn’t love me anymore.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      First off, I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

      If you are interested in getting help to stop from being the little puppy dog who chases their ex around begging them to come back.

      I can help.

      Cancel your meeting with your ex boyfriend, and then send him the recommended NC message as outlined in the free plan.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  79. vanessa says:

    hi!
    well my boyfriend and i broke up 4 days ago one of the reasons was because he said he didnt really had time for a girlfriend in this time of his life because he has two jobs and plus school but at the same time he didnt wanna break up with me so he was really confused. he didnt really didnt know what did he wanted to do and we were together for 7 months, but the thing that im confused about is that we talk like 2 days before we broke up because we were planing to break up that day because i dont how come for him it was so hard to put on fb he was in a relationship and yea but that day we fix everything and he told me that he love me and not to worry about us breaking up because we still together and he really wanted to work things out.and then sunday came and i text him in the morning and everything was okay until like the 4th message he started telling me all this stuff saying that he wasnt happy anymore and other things and i was like wow u just told me 2 days ago everything was okay and now u want to break up and we actually did broke up that day.but i want to know how come he told me one thing one day and then the other that he wanted to break up with me?
    and i actually saw him today at school he passed by me and he was like surprise and i was too and he wave at me and gave me a fast hug.
    and i really want him back what should i really do?to get him back?

  80. Tifani says:

    My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about 6 months ago. We didn’t speak for awhile, and about 2 months later he sent me a message on facebook saying how he didn’t understand what happened etc. I responded and asked him to meet with me but he refused. 2 months after that he sent me a message saying he was ready to meet, so I responded saying “that sounds good. when would you like to meet?” or something like that, and he never responded. I found out from mutual friends that 2 of his friends talked him out of meeting with me so about a month later I sent him a message saying that I would like for us to be on good terms and whatnot incase we were to ever run into each other. He responded saying that people that have a history can’t be friends.

    2 weeks after that message (which I never responded to) I saw him out somewhere and we talked for a few and he asked me to meet him for coffee the following week so I met him and we talked for awhile and everything seemed good and I could tell he still had feelings for me because his eyes got all teary eyed and he told me how he still cares for me and everything, then he said “I think I should go.” I later sent him a long letter explaining everything that I wanted to say to him, including why we broke up, how it’s fixable, how I miss him etc. I told him that if he ever feels the same way, to not hesitate to call me. I haven’t heard back from him.

    I’ve seen him out a few places and he always acts awkward and won’t make eye contact with me. What is going on? Is he completely over it or what? I’m so confused.

    • S. Williams says:

      Tifani says:

      I’ve seen him out a few places and he always acts awkward and won’t make eye contact with me. What is going on? Is he completely over it or what? I’m so confused.

      Hi,

      Using the no contact rule correctly will help you reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you, and help both of you to evolve past the break up.

      This is a win-win situation.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  81. abigail says:

    my ex bf broke up with me last nov. it was bcuz he is leaving for college this fall and his best friend was jealous of our relationship. we have talked all these months and still see each other. why does he still contact me if he says it is wrong and we arent dating?

    • S. Williams says:

      abigail says:

      why does he still contact me if he says it is wrong and we arent dating?

      Hi,

      Good question…

      Why don’t you ask him?

      My feeling on the matter is he’s a selfish idiot, and doesn’t care about your feelings.

      You can do A LOT better.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  82. abigail says:

    thank you very much!! and I totally agree with you! another question, he says we shouldn’t hang out but then a few days later he’ll text me and ask if he can come over and hang out with me? he always goes back and forth with this. Do you think maybe he doesn’t want me to get to far out of reach so he has to make sure I am still there of something? also we were each others first love and had something special so I don’t know if that plays a role in it to. Thanks!

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Someone who says one thing and does another can’t be trusted, that’s for sure.

      I think he is trying to yank your chain, and see if you are still on the hook.

      And like you already suspect, he is trying to keep you from moving on with someone else.

      This doesn’t necessarily mean he wants you back, just that he doesn’t want to see you with anyone else.

      Why put up with his shit?

      Anyone that can’t be trusted isn’t relationship material by a long shot.

      I wouldn’t waste any more brain cycles on him, and focus on finding someone worth your time.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  83. abigail says:

    i think i put up with all this shit cause i got use to it, and i know that is so bad. he hurt me so bad very badly when we broke up. i have never felt this low and bad ever. and whenever we would hang after the break up it was always at his convinence. i didn’t like the power he had over me. he comes from a broken home and is a good person don’t get me wrong its just he takes his frustration out on me when i was the only good,positive and stable thing in his life. i cant take this anymore it has gone on for to long and i want to be alright again. if he contacts me sometime again what do i say?

    • S. Williams says:

      abigail says:

      i cant take this anymore it has gone on for to long and i want to be alright again. if he contacts me sometime again what do i say?

      Hi,

      Send your ex boyfriend the recommended no contact message as outlined in the free plan.

      You don’t have to wait for him to contact, do it today, and start your personal evolution.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  84. shawna says:

    my ex wanted to be friends, he texted me and flirted on my birthday. I ran into him when I went out on my birthday and he watched me all night. the next day he says his lifes better not being in a relationship with me and he wants his freedom and maybe in a year or so we can work out. then he barely texted me. when I got my stuff back he kept one of my items and my promise ring. when he did text me before my birthday he flirted and tried making plans but would blow me off, then when he actually saw me on my birthday he changes his mind? so strange…

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      It seems like you’re doing some kind of study on your ex boyfriend, why?

      It doesn’t matter what your ex boyfriend says or does…you can’t do anything about it.

      So, what can you do something about?

      You can stop obsessing over what your ex boyfriend does, and focus on evolving past the break up and getting your life back again.

      Your ex can’t stop you, the only thing on the planet that can stand your way is yourself..get out of your own way.

      Don’t let thoughts/feelings that do not serve you rent space in your head.

      Go read the free plan – how to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      • shawna says:

        I wasn’t studying, just observing what was blatantly in my face lol I just don’t understand his actions. what does it sound like to you?

        • S. Williams says:

          Hi,

          It sounds like he doesn’t know what he wants, and there is nothing you can do about that, so why worry about it?

          All anyone has control over is their own feelings and thoughts.

          We use these feelings and thoughts to create/change our own lives, but we can not create/change anyone else’s.

          We started a topic about this in our forum.

          The Law of Attraction and Relationships

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  85. Alicia says:

    I don’t have to say this but me and my ex boyfriend didn’t really break up.

    We been talking for 6 months now so he just slowed up talking to me he stop calling and he don’t text me unless I say something to him.

    I ask him about it about a month ago and he said since we know eachother he didn’t think that we needed to keep texting.

    Why did he say that because we are in a long distant relationship? he should want to communicate with me.

    When I do text him he give very short answers for an ex: I asked him what is he up to for today he said,”nothing”. I asked him when he was back up this way and he said,”I don’t know and he asked why”. What does this mean?

    I saw him about a couple days ago, I ask him to do me a favor when him come back up this way,he didn’t even let me know he was already up this way until he ask me where I was gone meet him at.

    When I saw him he hugged me and was touching me and a sexually way and he was looking at my body saying ummm mmmm.

    What is wrong with him but why he act like he not interesting in me when we text then?

    I told him if he do that favor for me I promise I was going to leave him alone and delete his number so he did the favor for me so the next day I told him I was about to keep my promise and delete his number and didn’t send me a text back at all saying it was ok or notihing. I sent another text saying I was making sure he got my msg before I delete his number he didn’t say nothing once again. So I waited about a couple hours later and ask him bout the basketball game and he responed back to me.

    Why won’t he response back to me about deleteing his number?
    Does that mean he want me to go ahead and delete his number?

    All I know to do is to try to move on but it’s like I can’t.
    What should I do?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      It sounds like your boyfriend is giving you the “brush-off” which is just as good as breaking up, without officially saying it.

      I wouldn’t worry about why he is doing what he is doing, that is a waste of time.

      I recommend you focus on getting your life back using the no contact rule.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex boyfriends, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  86. gee says:

    Hi,I’ve been dating a guy for almost 3yrs..v even planned to get married in 2yrs..he waited for me around 5yrs before I accept his love 3yrs ago…but now everything changed,he said he dont want me anymore…just because I talked to my ex n he dont like it,n he said cnt trust me because this is not first time..but for truth me n my x have no any bad intention,i told him im goin get married soon n stuff..i knw im wrong because hide it from him..2yrs before he saw me getting down from motorbike of my friend..we alrdy settled it. But now he issuing it..actually I love him so much n been playful..i regret n apologize to him,he didnt even bother to wish me on my birthday..im so panic..the birthday gift I got was insultation in front of his family..how to win back my boyfriend n make him trust me n how to face his family now..pls help me,i cant miss him..

  87. Samantha says:

    Hello, Me and my ex bf were going out for 8 months. It was long distance and his mom didn’t like me so we kept our relationship away from his mom. We were starting to get ‘closer’ the last month of our relationship because I had just got my license. He was my first bf and I was his first gf. Everything was going well until he didn’t talk (text) me for 2 days (which, when we talked every day) I knew something was wrong. When he texted me back he broke up with me. OVER A TEXT!! We were supposed to see each other that day. He made a lot of excuses but he finally told me I was too clingy and it was stressing him out beyond his limits. I told him I wanted to be friends (which he agreed to). I was hoping he would change his mind and that I would get a chance to change myself because I didn’t realize how clingy I was (considering he was my first bf). Only a day later he started what he called ‘togetherness’ with a girl from his school. He told me this a week after the break up. I was crushed. So I freaked out on him and told him I didn’t want to talk to him anymore. about 2 weeks later I couldn’t not talk to him anymore, I missed him soo much that it pushed me into depression. So we talked as friends and about 5 days later he told me that him and his ?gf? stopped their ‘togetherness’ and were going to be friends. Then he went on to say that he still had feelings for me. I was in a bad mood that day and I don’t know what I was thinking but I told him that I was over him and that he lost his chance with me. I completely regret it and I didn’t mean a word I said. I feel like I messed up real bad and I really want him back. I don’t think he wants me anymore and I don’t know how to find out. We havent talked in a week and its making me depressed again. Does he still have feelings for me? Do I have a chance at getting him back? Should I just tell him the truth? What should I do? I tried moving on. But I can’t stop thinking about him. Please Help me!!

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      If you use the no contact rule correctly it will reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      If you are ready to evolve past the break up and heal your broken heart, go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  88. sarah says:

    Hi,

    Me and my bf met last august 2010 over the internet.Then we used to talk over phone that time we just used to good friend after that he used to keep calling me every night.He is doing job in another city so it was a long distance relationship.After a few month we came to so closure and felt that we are in a relationship.He used to so caring all the time…even he always advices and encourage me to build up my successful career and took care all other things too like whether i was sick he always remember my medicine time and alert me.Now comes to the point we had 5 month relationship and when i said to him my family thinking about my marriage then he was so worried and said talk to your mom then I said my mom wants to talk to you and he talked to my mom over phone and ensure that he likes me but he needs some time for marriage.One day i got into his fb before many times i said add me on your fb but he said he have account but he rarely use that..so one day i search by his name that got his profile that was open profile so I was able to see all photos and comments,I saw one girl made very romantic comment to his photo like baby love u ,miss u,hug like that type of comment i was so surprised and then called him then asked him about that girl he said thats his ex but he said to me he had affair long time ago but reality he broke up with this girl recently that he hide to me….then he said its just his past..trust him..he just love me now.then he decided to meet me in person so he came to my city for a week and everything was planned we decided we will know each other better and spent time together but I went to received him from the airport we first time met each other we met in cam before so i felt uneasy and didn’t talk to him too much and in the bus i didn’t sit besides him and talk to my friend over phone but after few mins like 30 min I was ok then sit besides him then start talking then left him hotel and back to home…we suppose to out evening but he didn’t call back i called then he said ok we see each other i think you are not like me i said no its just first time i saw you feeling little bit shy thats it nothing else then he said ok we talked face to face tomorrow i said no plz come now he said no..i am going to out with others friends then i called he didn’t pick up my phone even i went his hotel but he was not there.Next morning he said its does not work out so he decided to broke up with me because he still loves his ex gf and he
    never loved me it was just affection nothing else after hearing that i got so hurt i said sorry to him so many times and said i love him and crying in front of him then I agreed with broke up and spent whole day with him then he stayed one week but we just met one more time to say good bye…but he still want to be my friend even when he back to his place then still calling me before he did and he still care about me same way…but i didn’t take his call or never back his text just avoid.Please tell me What should I do right now..feeling very bad.Please help.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      You can reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you by using the no contact rule correctly.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your ex boyfriend back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  89. Elena says:

    Hello
    I have a question I would like to get an answer if you can!
    Or any suggestions! You are a man!
    My ex-boyfriend stopped talking to me six months ago.
    I was hurting after the break-up. So I bought your book and I enjoyed readying. By the way Thanks It did helped me to gain my self-consfident! etc
    Anyway. My boyfriend blocked me from his cell phone and his e-mails. He got really angry at me. I am hurting a little now but not as much like before
    My question is! How long it takes for a man to cool off? I wonder if someday my ex-boyfriend will ever call me and both can have a better positive communication again as a friends if possible. I wonder if a man can be forgiving or how long will a man hold his anger to a girl?
    Thanks
    Sincerely
    Elena

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      You’re kidding, right?

      How the fuck would I know how long it will take for your ex boyfriend to “cool off”?

      Instead of wasting brain cycles on stupid questions like that, why don’t you focus on something you do have control over…like your life?

      You can reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you by using the no contact rule correctly.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your guy back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  90. Brittany says:

    Hello there,

    I am in a tricky situation with an ex that our history dates back to high school and he gave me a dozen red roses at my work just to get my attention. I wasnt interested but we became friends. After almost a year and half I finally started getting those feelings for him. We dated for a few months before my friend caught him making out with another girl.

    10 years later he gets out of a 5 year relationship and hunts me down on facebook. We chat and catch up like no bad or time had past.. we ended up meeting up and the sparks came back by the million. We were hot and heavy for a little over a month when he ignored my calls and finally texts me that he met up with his ex girlfriend and he isnt over her yet which isnt fare for me so he ended it.

    A year and half has past and he never returned my jacket I had left there and we didnt have ANY contact, as I was very heart broken and was slow to recover. Now he is contacting me on facebook with his apologies but its just not enough. I keep saying no I cant trust him to not break my heart again. My stomach still gets all fluttering and my pulse speeds up, I thought I was over him, but I am not… But too stubborn to let him just hurt me again. How do I stay strong without full out blocking him?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      If you want to “finally” evolve past the break up, and break free of this asshole’s grip on you – you MUST use the no contact rule correctly.

      There is MUCH more to it then just stopping contact.

      You have to be REALLY SERIOUS and serious people don’t make “weak” statements like:

      How do I stay strong without full out blocking him?

      You can’t get a little pregnant, and you can’t use the no contact rule “sparingly” and hope to get REAL results.

      Either you’re all the way in, or you are all the way out…which is it?

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      You need to take off those fucking “love goggles”.

      You MUST see this situation with clear eyes before you can make an intelligent decision about your ex boyfriend…make sense?

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  91. Vicky says:

    My boyfriend broke up with me about 1 month ago.we have been dated for 1 year and 4 months.The reson he broke up with me is: he is not happy with his life now, and he is not sure if he can give me a future that I have been push him for. and also we have been fighting for little things a lot lately, so the reason is: he has problem of his life, and I have been push him to the limit, and wanted him to make me happy, in stead of been a happy woman by myself. so he said that he doesn’t want to wasting my time.

    After we broek up, I tried not to contact him for 3 weeks, then we run into each other in a night club, he look like he was trying to be friendly and wanted to have conversation with me and my friends,and I just talk back to him in a casual manner, and wherever he goes, he always look toward me. Then a week after he wrote me a message on facebook , said that he felt strange after seen me in that night club, and he hope we will not feel like that in the future.Then he also report some of his news on that message. Then again, I reply back casually, but say nothing about that night.

    This two weeks, he some time say hi to me by skype chating, and up date his news. one of his friend told me, my ex said to him that he respect me a lot, more than other women, and he will use his way to care about me in the future.

    Then one day, I Call him to congrat him passed his final exams, I tried to keep the phone call short, but he asked me if I would go out in the weekend, so maybe we can hangout sometime, so I told him, just call me if he would like to hang out.

    The next day, I saw him online, so I asked him if he would like to have a quick coffee with me the next day, he said sure, and he will call me to arrange the time, and he did. So we went for coffee, and during the coffee I didnt talk about anything like break up and getting back together, I tried to keep it fun and relax, and I think both of us had some laughs that evening, then I told him that I need to go driking with my girl friends.

    He walked me to my car, and said that we can have coffee next time. and I said: Sure, call me if you want to hang out then.
    so I said good bye with him with a hug, but he put his arms across in front of his chest, then he realized I was giving him a hug, then he hug me back.

    I heard that he called his friend, and talk about that he ask me out for a coffee and stuff. but its been 4 days I havent hear from him at all, and he is never show onliine skype anymore.

    really, I dont get what he meant? I wanna get back with him, what shoud I do now? shuld I contact him from my side? and how long should I wait to talk to him about getting back? and is he miss me or what? what is he thinking?

    Thank you for your time.

    V

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      NC takes time to work, much more than 3 weeks, try 3-6 months.

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you, but you must be patient.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      If you really want this guy back, you have to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  92. Sarah says:

    My ex dumped me saying he hates me and calling me names and told me to leave, now he has a new girlfriend and whenever his friends bring me up he gets sad and wont talk about me and when they say really perverted things about me he threatens them. his girlfriend tells me all this stuff and that he still loves me so do his friends but i try and play it cool but i really love him and have no idea what to do this girlfriend he has is the same girl he cheated on me with and now he claims he needs her but yet she tells me he still loves me, what does this mean? thanks

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      His actions could mean anything, he could be lying, or his girlfriend could be lying…who knows?

      This is why you need to correctly use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex lover back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  93. c says:

    I made the mistake of dumping my boyfriend a few weeks ago, i hurt him by telling him i didnt love him but i was suffering from depression at the time and was very negative person. i made all the mistakes of begging, pleading. He asked me back a few days later but i hadnt accepted the breakup and was still on defensive so rejected him even though i didnt mean it. I sent countless messages explaining why i did things, and how sorry i was since. I have read lots of get your ex back articles and am now focusing on myself making sure im ok, and being calm. I went to get something from his house a few days ago and when i left he sent me messages about how sexy i looked and we met up a few hours later and had a few kisses. He told me he wanted me. I thought we were back together and was excited.

    Then when i got home he was sending confusing messages saying he wanted to see if it was the same, he said it was nice but cant tell from one time, he said in the relationship he felt like he was fighting a losing battle and didnt want it to be the same, i told him in not being treated like that wanted one minute, and not the next. the next day he said ‘i miss you so much’ i tried to understand him and even agreed when he later said i want to be atleast friends. i said ‘friends dont kiss’ and he said he was thinking things through, and then a few hours later he said ‘just delete my number. im seeing somebody else.’ as much as this hurt me, i stayed calm, i didnt reply and havent spoke to him since, that was 2 days ago. im trying to understand he may just be confused, i really want him back im hoping not contacting him will make him come to the right decision. am i doing the right thing?

    I have completely changed my attitude towards him and know i would never make the same mistakes again as i think differently now and really appreciate everything he did for me. i have accepted what went wrong and am excited to start a new relationship with him. i am not upset anymore, im okay i have joined gym and focus on that but i know having him in my life would make me even happier. i hope its not too late. am i doing the right thing leaving him be?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      If you use the no contact rule correctly you can evolve past the break up, and reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get him back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  94. c says:

    Ok thankyou s.w. how do you mean use no contact rule correctly? is it possible for you to delete my comment as i included a lot of information and i dont want him to see it.
    thank you again

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      How to use the no contact rule correctly is explained in the free plan to get your ex back.

      As far as removing your comment, you should have read the Terms of Service for my Blog before posting.

      9. Posting Comments

      People who post personal information in the comment box on the website How to Get Your Ex Back Fast.com for free advice, do so at their own risk. Once you post your comment it becomes the legal property of the website How to Get Your Ex Back Fast.com and it’s owners. Do not contact the owners demanding your comments be erased, because they will not, if you do not agree to this, do not post your comments on the website How to Get Your Ex Back Fast.com.

      Remember to always read the TOS before posting on anyone’s website/Blog.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  95. c says:

    LOL my comment is property of your website. how. you can easily delete it your just being awquard. no i didnt read your terms of service because i didnt expect you to be so rude. what a twat

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      The terms of service are to protect website owners from assholes like yourself.

      You know, “twats” who post things and then want them deleted after getting their free advice.

      I have better things to do with my time…like give out free advice, and help people who ask for it.

      It is NOT my fault that you are too fucking lazy to read and understand the TOS of a website before you post on it.

      Thanks for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – Now I know what the “c” stands for…clueless.

  96. VB says:

    My ex fiance were together for 5 years and have a 2 year old son together. We have only been broke up for about 2 weeks. So we have to talk to each other and when he comes over to visit our son. He tells me he misses me and this was after my son and I came back from vacation. He also said it is because we were together for 5 years he is kinda like use to me being there. He says we could never work it out and try and move on. But I’m pretty sure he knows that I am not dating anybody yet, it has only been 2 weeks and I have a 2 year old that comes first. However, he keeps talking to me about these 2 girls that he has had sex with and might become in a relationship with one of them. I just don’t understand why he feel the need to let me know he has moved on so quickly or even talk about these other girls.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Who knows why he is telling you things that he knows will hurt you?

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex fiance’s true feelings for you, and help you evolve past the break up.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex fiance back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  97. Anna says:

    My ex broke up with me almost 2 months ago because I am pregnant and doesn’t want another kid. We lived together and planned for a future until this. He became really mean trying to find ways for me to get an abortion and I didn’t. Last month he started coming to the appointments smiling, kissing me, holding my hand saying he wants to work this out. Then he turns and says he never wants me again, he is leading me on, and wants the baby dead. I cut him off after this. After a week, the contact started again and I ignored it. I finally emailed him back asking h to please stop contacting me. He has also been online dating since we broke up but accuses
    me of being with another man. He has been very insistent everyday. Today, his messages says he is sorry and he wants to be a part of the baby. That this is about me, him and the baby and wants to sit down and talk about everything. Calling me beautiful, ect, He misses me and we will work this out together. What am I supposed to believe. Why is my ex doing this.

  98. S. Williams says:

    Hi,

    It sounds like your ex is confused by this whole baby thing.

    You can use the no contact to reveal his true feelings for you and the baby.

    I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

    Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

    Thank you for writing.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  99. GentleAngel says:

    My ex-boyfriend and I were together off and on for about a year and half, but he shares everything with me. He says he loves me and cares for me but it doesn’t know what he wants. He was on a dating site for a long time while we were together I found out about it and broke up with him 8 times. He keep coming back. We spend time with our kids, grand kids, and families. It’s not about sex. He dated this girl for about 2 months not long after we broke up and then broke it off. He is always emailing me and I respond most of the time. I love him and I want him back. But his confused I know it. He told me the other day that he started to come see me but he was afraid someone might had been there. I asked him what he would had done if there was he said he would had knocked on the door and would had been nice but it would had bothered him. Sometimes we meet up just to go out to eat and have a beer and talk and have laughs. He wants me to stay but I want. I tell him I love him and we hold each other tight like we can’t let each other go, and then it could be weeks before It’s so hard each and everyday. I do my own thing and stay busy but it’s hard. I took myself of fb so I wouldn’t have to look at him. He knows I love him and he told me not to long ago his learned allot from me. I need to know what to do. He knows how I feel but he don’t know what he wants. Is it best don’t answer on emails and stay out of site out of mind?

    He emails or text while I’m working and most of the time I respond. But it could be weeks before I hear from him again. I give him plenty of space to give him time to think. He also says allot of things that confuses me, it gives me hope and I know he cares but I guess I do need to move on but at times I’m so afraid to date and give someone false hopes when my heart is somewhere else. I love him… I did forgive him for the dating site, and I told him I was sorry for anything I had done (which is nothing I was pure in every way). He told me also he was sorry. I am so damn confused. Help me…

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      You’re wrong, he’s not confused…you are.

      He knows what he wants. He wants his cake and eat it too, and you can see that.

      I recommend that you use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      Don’t be afraid to learn the truth about your ex. The truth will set you free, and hiding from it will only keep you trapped in the “just friends zone” suffering.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  100. Ijust dontgetit says:

    Well to make a very long story short.
    I was in a LDR and he broke it off – last conversation was on the phone.
    The conversation took about an hour – I thought we were going to talk about an issue we have had so my mind was totally set up for that. So I wasn’t ready for the conversation we actually had – He basically told me that he wanted it all with me and if I was able to give him that. So me being in another place in that conversation you can imagine how wrong that went because I didn’t realize until hours later what it was he was saying to me (English being our second language). After that I was ignored – I got him to chat with me for 10 mins 2 days after and he was PISSED off – I didn’t understand why he would act like that – a week later I wrote on his facebook chat (because he removed my posts and such) thank you for showing me it was all bull**** – I immidialy got removed (so did my friend) from his friend list (still had his friend on). 2 weeks later I wrote his friend if I should delete him because I didn’t wanted to cause any problems (he went offline instantly) 40 mins later logged on and blocked and deleted me from facebook (I know he got instructions from my ex). after that I went NC for 5 weeks – ofcourse I did check him on facebook even though I couldn’t see anything. After my period of NC went online right before x-mas (but I didn’t write him) on x-mas eve I find out that he deleted me on Skype but not on google chat in which we communicated the most. well I tried to wish him happy x-mas a couple of times…. nothing… no answer nothing.. well I went back offline… in mid January I tried again in a mail… still nothing… so at the end of January I wrote a email where I wrote that I was coming back and it seems liked he didn’t wanted any contact with me so I was sure that he didn’t wanted to run into me sent it and went offline AGAIN….. 2 weeks after there was a friend request on facebook from his friends (the friend which blocked and deleted me months before)…from his BROTHER??? I have never heard about him nor ever met him… I didn’t add him (at that time) 4 days after I wrote him an message without adding him …. of course no reply… 2½ weeks later my ex suddenly blocked me on facebook (asked my friend if she was too and the answer was NO, she is still deleted.. ) So its not because I am not to see anything (in which I can’t anyway). so a week after that (mid February) I added that guy – and when he went online I asked him if we had met (I knew the answer – and I am sure my ex is behind it) and he said no but we will and was asking lots of times when excatly I would be there and who I was seeing that night… I kept ‘sliding’off of those questions so he did get answer on them.. havent’ heard from him since… so 2 days ago I thought I would text my ex that I was recently contacted by one of his friends through facebook and I would be online later so he could write me and I would give him the details (Yes I am still on his chat – which I find pretty odd). He went online for about 4 mins…Nothing… so yesterday I wrote another text asking what I should do about it and I was sure he had time to get back to me before the day was over.. still nothing and again he was online just for 4 minutes (well that was what I saw). Now I am back offline…. I just do get it…it has been 4 months.. he made the decision… why would he spent that much time ignoring me and get friend to spy on me?? I mean if he was over me/our relationsship why go through so much???

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      He was obviously lying about “wanting it all” with you, otherwise he wouldn’t have been so quick to break up, right?

      Actions speak louder than words.

      Instead over-analyzing what happened…let it go.

      You can use the no contact rule to evolve past the break up and get your life back, if you use it correctly.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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      • Ijust dontgetit says:

        I am sure it was not an easy decision – we live in very different countries – him being Jewish and me not and 12 years of age differents.. I am just wondering why he makes it so difficult instead of talking to me – I mean it’s like he does everything to get a reaction out of me.. I really just want to know what it is he wants from me :/

        • S. Williams says:

          Ijust dontgetit said:

          I really just want to know what it is he wants from me :/

          Hi,

          Like I said in my previous reply…let it go.

          Focus on getting your life back as a single woman, and move on from the break up and failed relationship.

          Beating a dead horse will not make it come back to life, it will only get uglier.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

          • Ijust dontgetit says:

            I am not over analyzing at all – I was simply giving you all the facts.
            After have been reading a lot of your post, I thought you might have an idea why a guy would be acting like this, but apparently you have no idea either. :/
            I would never ‘beat up a dead horse’ – My interest is simply in understanding why.

            • S. Williams says:

              Hi,

              I told you why he was acting the way he did, he was not as in love with you as you imagined, otherwise he would not have broken up with you.

              Things are not as complicated as you like to make them out to be, and you will never know why he does what he does because he is not really sure himself, but he knows one thing, he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you right now…so fucking accept it.

              People have a hard time facing rejection, but rejection can be a great thing, it can keep you from making a big mistake and staying involved with the wrong person.

              It can also help you evolve and grow as a human being, but if you won’t face the facts, and choose to live in denial, you will be building yourself a prison.

              You both were aware of the problems with religion, and the age difference when you started, so except the fact that it isn’t working out right now, and move on.

              You will never know what the future holds while you spend all your time digging through the past.

              That is my advice, and you are over-analyzing this breakup, and you know it, that’s why my statement about it bothered you so much…lol

              Now, either take my advice, and put the free plan to use, or go seek advice somewhere else.

              But, if you’re like most of the people I worked with, you will continue to scour the internet looking for that magic answer until what I have just told you finally sinks in.

              What a waste of time, but it is your time to waste, right?

              Just don’t waste any more of mine if you’re not going to listen to my advice, OK?

              Thank you for writing.

              Take Care,

              S.W.

  101. debroman says:

    Hi,I met a guy a couple months ago A week and a half ago he asked me out for dinner. I said no then he begged..I later said ok..as long as im not driving since he live an hour away from my house. He ended up getting a call from a family member to pick them up from work in a nearby suburb which delayed our date by a few hours.Afterwards he picked me up and drove 45 minutes from where I live. Later we went to his house( he was suppose to give a ride back home) he didnt tell me that he was working a 12 hour shift the next day. And I told him that I had something to do the next morning. he said ok ill drive you home in the morning around 630a.m..I agreed. I tried to wake him up around 545am he was pissed off. he said I talk too much. He needed to sleep he has to be at work at 10 a.m. Well we didnt leave his place until after 830. I had to be home by 830 to give a friend of mine a ride to work. he didnt care. well I told him off about his a..hole behavior. Later we made up but he also cried about not getting enough sleep. I wouldve never agreed to go out if he had to work 12 hour shift the next day. Why do I feel as if he’s blaming me for not getting enough rest.That next friday he asked me to come over but i would have to drive my own car despite him saying that he’ll pick me up. I had no obligations the next day. He said he had guests coming over saturday from out of town(staying for a week)On a couple of these days he asked me out I was busy. Then another day I asked him out he says” didnt i tell u I had guests over? I said cool. I didnt call him for 3 days he texted asked me” how have you been? I answered bak a few hours later that I enjoyed our time together but I want to forget that we ever happened. He said ok ..its up to you. then 7 minutes later he texted “I didnt want it this way though”. What does he mean? Im confused.

  102. debroman says:

    Hi Scott

    Ive written to you before and here I am again. The same guy Im still seeing.He stated over and again that we’re just friends nothing serious which is ok with me.My issue with him is the fact that whenever we spend time with eachother he expects me to cook for him massage his back( he has a lot of back spasms)and so I massage his feet and back to help him out. Well it got to the point whereas I said ok we could see eachother ona casual basis and Im done cooking and massaging you. Last week he stayed over my place he walked in the door asking if I cooked dinner. I said no. Its too hot and I reminded him of our agreement”casual only” He insisted. I finally said ok..but he preceeded to cook dinner on his own. meat and salad.previously i cancelled a couple dated with him before seeing him on this day. He questioned my whereabouts. Why question if he says that he have no feelings for me at all. He said didnt I tell you not to develop any feelings..supposedly he’s moving to maryland..previous ly where he lived.When we met he told me that he didnt have any kids now he admit that he has a daughter in europe. I was shocked at first ..he quickly saw my reaction and said no he didnt. I dont know the truth. we talked that over now last week he insisted again that I not develop feelings. Wow he talks about this more than I. yet he questions me and is visually upset when Im out with my guy friend. i started seeing someone else. If I go out with my guy friend and he knows that I cant see him on a certain day and when Im available he gives me a hard time. He says he only wants to see me if im really in the mood for..”you know what”Our last encounter he questioned me about what happened between me and the guy as if I was giving away something that belongs to him. I didnt tell him anything. Nothing sexual has happened between the guy and I by the way. any way when he and I was getting into the act I suprisingly noticed him staring at me like he didnt want to touch me and visibally disgusted or like he was upset. when I asked him whats going on he immediated ly act as if if he was all into me. same song he sings he has no feelings so i really drew the line no cooking no massages no asking who we see ..lets just keep it casual. if he agree to seeing me on these terms let me know…no answer from him so 1/2 day so I texted him and waiting on ur answer and he just texted back a question mark(?) the next afternoon I didnt answer back so far it s been 4 days I havent heard back from him. What should I do? what am I overlooking?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Why are you wasting your time on this guy?

      He told he doesn’t want anything serious, and you obviously do, so break it off, and go find yourself a man who wants the same things you do.

      He is just playing games with you, don’t let him.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  103. laura says:

    Hi, my ex is seriously trying to hurt me emotionally, by going through a custody battle where he is doing everything under the sun to make me look bad he filed when we agreed to be civil and work to establish trust, this has gone on for about 2 months, he recently started texting me and emailing me nothing to much pictures of him in a suit and him and our son, but did tell me( through text) he has feelings for me that he ignores, I dont know what to do, I want him back if he decides to change, and wants to build a better healthier relationship with me but the healing will take a long time and I dont think he will hear me out. Please Help.
    thank you.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      It would be best to just leave him alone, and follow the no contact rule as outlined in the free plan.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  104. Sarah says:

    Hi S.W,

    My ex-boyfriend of 3.5 months broke up with me back in mid-June.
    He was scared to go deeper emotionally and thought I was challanging his feelings.

    However, he has always called, email, drunk dial playing love songs down the phone, you-tube love song clips in email, etc. He as initiated 70% of the time.

    I’ve met up twice with him since the break up. Once 6 weeks ago when he oftered to be friends and I said ‘no’ (he almost had tears in his eyes when I left when I said it was farewell). 6 weeks ahead (last weekend) he took me to a musical show plus dinner this passed Saturday night, it was a 6 hour date and went very well. He asked me to spend the nigh and said I could sleep in the other room and he would make me breakfast and watch the football tomorrow together (I declined).

    There has been a lot of ‘push and pull’ going on with him since we broke up. Saturday night he was very affectionate (kisses, touching, holding hands). He asked me to go to a concert with him in 4 weeks, I said yes, immediately the next day I see he sent me the confirmation. (almost $200 tickets), he said its my birthday present for you for being a good girl.

    Having said that, we have both recently put our on-line profiles up on the dating site we met on. I really dont want to date other men and I feel he still wants to see whats out there!

    I did the NC for 3.5 weeks up until 3 weeks ago. He has not suggested a second date between now and 4 weeks ahead (the concert the day after my birthday).

    Can you offer some insight as to why 1) he is confused 2) perhaps I’m reading into things? Keep in mind this is a man thats scared to get his heart involved (fearful, avoidant). The relationship we had was good and a lot of sexual chemistry. We are both mid-age

    Thanks so much,

    Sarah

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi Sarah,

      You need to follow the no contact rule correctly, and stop letting your ex boyfriend play your emotions.

      You have to stop making excuses for him, as well.

      He is middle-aged and should know what he wants, and he does.

      He wants sex without a commitment.

      All this emotional bullshit is just a front, so he can get laid, and not have to commit, and you’re letting him do it.

      Wake up.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  105. kairi says:

    Hello, I recently texted my ex after 2 years, we were both together for a long time and seems he wants to be friends after a break up since hes dating a new girl. I’ve read you are not supposed to be friends with your ex and this is true? What would you do?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      I would walk away from this situation.

      His girlfriend is not going to appreciate him talking to his ex girlfriend…would you?

      Plus, you want more than friendship, so don’t lie to yourself and think it will be enough.

      It won’t.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  106. VANESSA says:

    Hi,
    Sarah

    My name is vanessa and me and my ex split about 3 months ago and he got into a relationship with someone els right after but we both still talk and he tell’s me he loves me all the time and tells me he is sorry and wish this never happen and that he is down because he say this is not what was suppose to happen we still have sex even though he is still with this other girl and she does not know i know it is wrong but we still have strong feelings for each other, I have some one i can run too if i need some lovin and he gets sad when he ask me who am i seeing
    i dont know what that means when he ask me that or feels down when he knows i am seeing someone els i want us too work but he said he dont know if he can change can you help me out please in what i should do thank you..

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi Vanessa,

      Your ex boyfriend is cheating on his current girlfriend (with you), and using you for sex, and you want to know what to do?

      The first thing you need to do is…

      FUCKING WAKE UP!

      You deserve better than this.

      Kick his cheating ass to the curb, evolve past the break up, and your obsession with your ex boyfriend.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  107. Vanesa says:

    Hi my name is Vanesa, I’m almost 16 years old. My boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me about a week and a half ago. He told me I was manipulative, and controlling, and over sensitive. I took that week to try and change, and I’m not completely there but, I’ve gotten a lot of success. Last night he told me one tip to get him back is that I lost myself. He said I always tried to look nice when we started dating and as the months went by I let go. He still kisses me, and hugs me, and holds my hand, when he wants to. but, when I want to kiss him he kind of rejects it saying: “We aren’t dating.” Then why does he kiss and act like we’re a couple? He says he won’t do it again, yet he does. Him and I have been through a lot these past months, and we planned on getting married. I know I’m young but, I honestly believe from the bottom of my heart we’re meant to be together. Why does he kiss me, and stuff? He doesn’t want another girl, he says he needs to SEE that I matured a little more. I don’t know what to do.

    P.S He’s been through a rough childhood. Once I asked him: “Why is it I’m the first to love you and you want to let me go?”. He started to cry and he hugged me, and said: “I thank god for you each day.” I know he loves me but, how can I get him back? I’ve tried messaging, notes everything. I barley call because I think it’s the guy’s job. Which he calls OFTEN. Morning, and night. All help is appreciated, THANK YOU.<3

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi Vanesa,

      Break ups hurt no matter what age you are, but it is only through the lessons we learn during these breakups that we grow emotionally as human beings.

      What I mean to say is…breakups are not bad things, and you can gain something positive from every seemingly bad event you encounter in life.

      If you have the right attitude, and perspective.

      He tells you that you are immature, but it sounds like he needs to mature, as well.

      The way we mature is by experiencing events, and learning how to handle them.

      Whatever doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger.

      He needs to learn how to live without you always being there for him to kiss, hold, and have, whenever “he feels like it”.

      And you, you need to learn how to be happy without him, and show him that you don’t “need him” to be happy.

      People like to know they “make” people happy when they are together, but no one really wants someone to totally depend on them for happiness, that is a big (and unnecessary) responsibility that will scare anyone off after a while.

      I suggest you use the no contact rule to evolve past this break up, and get your life back.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  108. Serena says:

    Hi

    My husband of five years has been attempting to contact other women for the last two years. I called him out on this several times. Ive done alot of research and bought books and done all the reading.

    I initiated the no contact for thirty days. Only once did I slip up and that was to tell him our daughter had been taken to hospital. She’s fine. Other than that I always waited for him to contact me. It was always to do with seeing our daughter. He’s seen her twice in 6 weeks.

    Last week, when I went to pick up our little girl he hugged me, three times. He initiated them, and the last he held on so tight it felt like he didnt want to let me go. when I broke the hug he kissed me on the lips. Which surprised me.

    This week he texts me, calling me babe, and sexy, and dropping kisses into the text. The next day he texted again, but there was no babe or kisses. It was cold and succinct.

    I was in a good place, or at least I was getting there. yes I love my husband and I am working at reconciling. I’m so confused by his actions. Could you help shed some light on this.

    Is he just confused or is it something else?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      It seems like he is trying to keep you “on the hook” while he does what he feels like.

      He was testing the waters with the hug and kiss to see if he still had you on the hook, and once you confirmed it – he was distant again.

      If he was really interested in saving your marriage he would agree to counseling.

      If he doesn’t want to go to marriage counseling, I would follow the free plan and use the no contact rule correctly – your method wasn’t very effective, and too short – it takes much longer than 30 days in most cases for NC to be totally effective.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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      • Hello! I have two daughter with my first boyfriend and we broke up and I have my new boyfriend on January 18, 2010. I Gave birth to our son last January 15, 2014 then died after 4 days because he’s a premature baby. We’re okay but at day before my birthday that was February 26, 2014 I was very sick that i need to go to hospital but no one can bring me there so its 8:00 in the evening but he’s not home yet. so i text message him to go home because i am sick. but he tells me that he’s playing basketball with his boss. Then I started to angry with him and telling him that whats a matter with him i am sick but it seems that he ignore it as if the basketball is more important than me. then he didnt reply. then he didnt even go to hospital and he didnt go home that evening because he is angry and because he told that i nagged him out. Then on my birthday he dont call me to greet me not even bother to go home so i beg him to please forgive me but he told me that he dont want to go home with me he leave.he tells me that he dont love me anymore… but act that he cares for me within that week… After that he started to sometimes cold sometimes were okay then the other not…. until March 25 he broke up with me and he told me that he dont want to live his life with me again. then i accepted the broke up. But he keeps text massage me and calling me i dont reply and i dont even take his calls. then he text me that is it okay if we’re still be friends. Until 2 weeks come and we see each other I see him so thin with eyebugs… that time he is angry with me and then when he say that he’s going home with angry voice. I turned my back and run away as if its okay for me. then he called me on the phone after 1 meters away from him. then he tells me how sorry he is for all the behaviors this past few days it sounds so miserable then i asked him why you’re acting like this what he you really wants? then he answered he dont know he dont what he wants sometimes i want you to stay and wait for me I want you to wait for me until I finished paying our bills and when time comes that I have my new house and earnings. Then I want to meet you again. then that day we meet again. theres something happened between us but he still dont love me. he keeps telling me that he dont love me anymore but thats not what i feel everytime we’re together. He want us to be friends with benefits. Because I loved him I accepted it hoping that someday when everythings okay. I Think he’s so depressed and I want to take care of him even though sometimes he hurts me with his words. Sometimes he push me away and telling me to find new love. Sometimes he keeps calling me and texting me. He said that he is afraid that we dont have any chance to have a baby because of my last pregnancy condition ” placenta previa totalis” he afraid that it will happen again. And that Im so week to give him another child. He wants to have a baby again. But he is so afraid to try sometimes he tells me that he’s taking to have a baby with someone who is healthy. But He really want me to be the mother of her child. I asked him many times why me? why he choose me to became a mother for his child while he’s telling me that he didnt love me anymore? He kept answering me that he did’nt know why maybe because I’m pretty with white complexion and he want to have beautiful baby. Then, I told him that go find some other girl there are plenty of pretty girls with white complexion there. Then, he started to hate me after saying it. I really want us to become a family, and hope someday we’ll be together and that someday he finally say to me that he loves me again. Tell me, what am I going to do to make him love me again? I’m so desperate because I love him so much. I really want him back. Now, we’re in a relationship right now secretly he didnt want anyone to know our relationship yet. especially his family. Sometimes when he was going to travel to a place that no one knows us. He ask me to go with him then I go with him. He tells me that he feel so happy to be free. Free of worrying that someone sees us. As if there’s something bothering him. I think its his family his parents and sisters. They dont like me from the start. He told me that when I have a house I will bring you there and we start to have family again.

        • S. Williams says:

          Hi,

          This sounds like a VERY unhealthy relationship, and I would advise you to walk away, now, before it gets any worse.

          You ex sounds like a “user” and a liar, who blames other people (like his family) for his actions.

          You don’t really want him back as much as you want to stop feeling rejected. The sooner you start NC (the right way) the sooner you will stop feeling this way, but it will take time.

          I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

          Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

          Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

          This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

          Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

          IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1″ rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

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