It sounds like you are using the the no contact rule correctly, and learning to evolve past the break up.

49 days might seem like a lot, but it really isn’t in most relationship break up situations.

A lot of the break up success stories in our forum took from 6 – 12 months, I have only seen a very few cases where 30 days was enough…each situation will vary.

This is why I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

If you aren’t already, go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and heal your broken heart by evolving past your breakup.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

As far as using the law of attraction to change a person, you can not make a person change using LOA, but you can send them positive thoughts and feelings.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

I wanted to ask under Laws of attraction(transformation if possible too) but I couldnt find a topic on it.

but i did text him telling him that im not trying to be back in his life but if we can remain as friends he said ok.

but,now im really confused.!!!he doesnt really text me or calls me.he didnt even let me know where he is and what time will he call?

Hi,

Do you know why you’re confused?

You are playing a game.

You don’t want to be his friend, you are hoping that by staying close to him he will take you back again, right?

You can never get anything true (like true love) by being deceptive.

The law of attraction states that positive energy attracts positive things, and negative energy attracts negative things.

Since deception is a form of negative energy you are asking for a whole lot more trouble in your life, and it has started already, with your “confusion”.

We started a topic about LOA in our forum:

The Law of Attraction and Relationships

I think you should take a look at this before you really screw yourself up more than you are already.

Do you know why break ups hurt so bad?

People keep making things worst for themselves, instead of better, sort of like a domino effect, only in the wrong direction.

I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in becoming happy again, go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

My point, I suppose, is that I achieved this result despite being denied access to the forum on more than one occasion, and while I really didn’t appreciate the denied access at the time, I have come to appreciate the advice you have to offer about the NC rule without the forum because it really worked for me. I really hope that there aren’t too many others out there with the guts to make NC work who are being denied access for whatever confusing reason.

Hi,

First off…Congratulations!

I tell people all the time they DO NOT need to post in our forum to succeed.

All you need is a positive attitude, the free plan, and the ability to read the forum.

The forum can be a blessing, and a curse.

A blessing to the people who are ready to use it correctly, and a curse for those who are not ready.

The reason people are denied access to our forum is because they didn’t follow the simple directions to be approved…that is it.

The “whole” registration process is designed (by me) to be a “filter”, a filter to weed out the emotionally challenged people who are looking for more sympathy than help.

There are “tons” of forums out there that will give you all the sympathy you want, all you have to do is Google : Break up forum, and you will see what I mean.

Giving sympathy to a heart-broken person is like giving drugs to a drug addict, or liquor to an alcoholic…it makes them feel better for a while, until it wears off, and then they want more.

I don’t give out sympathy, I give people the tools to help themselves, and with that, I give them hope.

I have been running this Blog (close to 3 years), and the forum (close to 2 years) all by myself, and the guidelines have been adjusted to compensate for the things I have learned along the way.

Patsy says:

I wondered if it was because I’m in a same-sex relationship, British or just unlucky.

I can assure you I do not make my decisions on membership based on anything more than the way people handle the registration process.

I don’t care if you’re an extra-terrestrial being, if you can follow the directions, you get in, but getting in doesn’t mean you get to stay, you have to keep following the rules.

But since I updated the registration procedure I am not banning as many people as I used to, and that makes me happy, and tells me that the “filter” is working.

Remember to take things slowly, this is a “new” relationship, not a continuation of the old failed relationship.

Once again…Congrats on getting your life back together.

Thanks for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

I visited this site when my girlfriend broke up with me in December last year and attempted to join the forum by following the guidelines about 2 or 3 times. For reasons I still fail to understand, my membership on the forum was blocked each time because ‘I wasn’t ready’ or because the conclusion that ‘the forum wasn’t the right place for me’ (or something like that) had been drawn based on the very limited information I supplied about my situation in the form of my name, e-mail address and NC message (which I copied word for word and did not attempt to modify). Is this a decision you arrived at yourself or is membership to the forum the luck of the draw?

I really could have used the support of the forum during those dark days. I had every intention of following the NC rule to the latter if it helped to ease the pain I was feeling and to pave the way for a new, improved relationship with my ex. I read the free plan, followed all the steps and was ready to take on the NC challenge with the moral support of others who were attempting to achieve the same goal. The rejection from the forum amplified the feeling of rejection that I was already battling with. Bad times, my friend, bad times. I wondered if it was because I’m in a same-sex relationship, British or just unlucky.

Anyway, regardless of the forum, I soldiered on with the NC rule over the Christmas and New Year period. It was tough and Christmas Day was absolutely horrendous, but I stuck at it nonetheless. During moments of weakness, I kept checking back at this site to remind myself why the NC rule was the best plan of action and in doing so, found the strength to build myself up through NC.

Exactly 30 days since we split, my ex got in touch with me and asked if we could rekindle our relastionship. Exactly 30 days. Magic, huh? We’re now enjoying a stronger relationship with better communication thanks to the NC rule.

My point, I suppose, is that I achieved this result despite being denied access to the forum on more than one occasion, and while I really didn’t appreciate the denied access at the time, I have come to appreciate the advice you have to offer about the NC rule without the forum because it really worked for me. I really hope that there aren’t too many others out there with the guts to make NC work who are being denied access for whatever confusing reason.

Keep up the good work

Patsy, UK

I can help you…

There is a version of the NC message for people who dumped their ex.

The bottom-line here is I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you focus on getting your life back, and evolving past the break up, great things will happen…I promise.

Go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

Take Care,

S.W.

I have a problem in that I unintentionally drove my ex away from me, in effect dumping her but now deeply regret it. Would I be right in saying that there would be no help you can offer me? I do not think I could post a NC as she never dumped me.

Thanks

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