Want to Learn How to Fix a Broken Relationship? Try This Powerful Trick

There are many ways to fix a broken relationship, but the best by far is to focus on building more passion quickly. How do you build more passion? The best way would be to create a situation where the bonding experience would be accelerated. But, how do you come up with an exciting date that will do this?

Fixing A Relationship

If your relationship seems to be in trouble you want to head off the upcoming break up as soon as possible, right? If you are already broken up you can use this idea once you get your ex back, OK? If you need help getting your ex back after a breakup, keep reading for more information at the end of this article. Right now I want to focus on how to fix a broken relationship, and prevent a break up.

Powerful Passion Building Trick

If you want to bond quickly with your partner the fastest way is to plan an exciting date. I don’t mean a romantic candle light dinner. I mean a white knuckle action date that he/she will remember for a long time to come. It has been proven that humans bond faster with people they share a life altering experience with, so that’s the key to this trick…EXCITEMENT!

Are You Crazy?

Some ideas that come to mind are sky diving. Come on who is going to be thinking about their relationship problems as they hurl towards the ground from thousands of feet in the air. And when you both realize how valuable life is after you survive the fall, you will be glad you shared this moment together, and the other problems will seem very small.

You can also find some scary roller coasters to ride together, or maybe for the less courageous, more romantic at heart you can take a hot air balloon ride. While you are both blowing around up in the air sipping wine wondering what will happen if this giant balloon pops, that last fight will not seem so important any more, will it? There are many ways to fix a broken relationship using a passion building experience…time to think outside of the box.

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

If this article was useful or helpful to you in anyway, please show your appreciation by giving me a “+1″ using the button below this article.

Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. Ok I have stuck to NC for 49 days I haven’t broken it once, and I didn’t beg/plead for longer than 4 days, and that was right after the break-up… I now she reallyreally loved me, but haven’t contacted me at all, and most success stories comes from people who got their exes back after the person contacted them??? I cheated on her and worked a lot on my issue, its right what momu says I didn’t feel she appriciated me. I would talk with her about that if she wanted to, but she haven’t contacted me at all, she only answered it with “Okay, I’m glad that we agree on this” and she is very respectful so maybe thats the reason she is one who doesn’t break it.. But some states if they truly cared they will contact you anyway, that leaves me confused, because I know she really loved me, even though she tries to prove something else… I know I can live without her now, and it doesn’t mean EVERYTHING at ALL if I get her back, I have my own life now. Just wanted to know just let it go… I would feel bad about being turned down, not particulary by HER, but the fact you try to set something up and get turned down, that’s not really cool. But I can definetely survive without her in my life now, I worked with the plan. Thanks for reading.

    1. Hi,

      It sounds like you are using the the no contact rule correctly, and learning to evolve past the break up.

      49 days might seem like a lot, but it really isn’t in most relationship break up situations.

      A lot of the break up success stories in our forum took from 6 – 12 months, I have only seen a very few cases where 30 days was enough…each situation will vary.

      This is why I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      If you aren’t already, go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and heal your broken heart by evolving past your breakup.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  2. M y bf speaks so ill of all women in general. I am slightly of feminist n believe lot women need support.
    He meanwhile calls names when we should talk of women including close relations (except mothers)
    Once i warned him calling my friends or cousins silly names. Still any outsider , he would start off with bad naming.
    He has derided notion of married males being sweet to their wives or sharing chores n helping in-laws.
    This guy hasn’t committed to me and isnt ready or willing for it for some (long)time
    we were romantic but in recent days he withdraws abruptly in between conversations saying he feels wrong involving me into intimacy or any hope of regular relationship.
    Should I get near n support him thru this weakness or withdraw , apply NC or give-up.
    I feel him in fear n confusion inspite of his success. he wants to create a picture of invincible male

    I wanted to ask under Laws of attraction(transformation if possible too) but I couldnt find a topic on it.

    1. Hi,

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      As far as using the law of attraction to change a person, you can not make a person change using LOA, but you can send them positive thoughts and feelings.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  3. Hi,its just been a week since my ex boyfriend broke up wif me..for the 1-2 days i was lost and upsad..after that i started going to counselling and being wth my friends eventually that love feeling stopped.i found a job.i was more focused on my appereance.the reason my e bf broke was cause he does not have those feelings for me anymore,he wants hi freedom and he loves his family more.but i did text him telling him that im not trying to be back in his life but if we can remain as friends he said ok.he told me if i want to call or text him i can do so.after the 3rd day i managed to talked to him..its been 4 days we talked lasting 4 5/10mins..but today when i dialle him he dint answer his only msg he sent me says he’ll call me much later,his relative is hospitalize and he is with his mum.so i text back and ask him what time he will call me but he never replies untill now.i even asks if he will jus let me know what time he’ll call and not too late as im working tomorrow..but still no response..i even ask him when i can meet him,and he says when i get my pay and it was set.but,now im really confused.!!!he doesnt really text me or calls me.he didnt even let me know where he is and what time will he call?

    1. Kymy says:

      but i did text him telling him that im not trying to be back in his life but if we can remain as friends he said ok.

      but,now im really confused.!!!he doesnt really text me or calls me.he didnt even let me know where he is and what time will he call?

      Hi,

      Do you know why you’re confused?

      You are playing a game.

      You don’t want to be his friend, you are hoping that by staying close to him he will take you back again, right?

      You can never get anything true (like true love) by being deceptive.

      The law of attraction states that positive energy attracts positive things, and negative energy attracts negative things.

      Since deception is a form of negative energy you are asking for a whole lot more trouble in your life, and it has started already, with your “confusion”.

      We started a topic about LOA in our forum:

      The Law of Attraction and Relationships

      I think you should take a look at this before you really screw yourself up more than you are already.

      Do you know why break ups hurt so bad?

      People keep making things worst for themselves, instead of better, sort of like a domino effect, only in the wrong direction.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

      If you’re interested in becoming happy again, go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  4. Hello Mr. Williams,

    I visited this site when my girlfriend broke up with me in December last year and attempted to join the forum by following the guidelines about 2 or 3 times. For reasons I still fail to understand, my membership on the forum was blocked each time because ‘I wasn’t ready’ or because the conclusion that ‘the forum wasn’t the right place for me’ (or something like that) had been drawn based on the very limited information I supplied about my situation in the form of my name, e-mail address and NC message (which I copied word for word and did not attempt to modify). Is this a decision you arrived at yourself or is membership to the forum the luck of the draw?

    I really could have used the support of the forum during those dark days. I had every intention of following the NC rule to the latter if it helped to ease the pain I was feeling and to pave the way for a new, improved relationship with my ex. I read the free plan, followed all the steps and was ready to take on the NC challenge with the moral support of others who were attempting to achieve the same goal. The rejection from the forum amplified the feeling of rejection that I was already battling with. Bad times, my friend, bad times. I wondered if it was because I’m in a same-sex relationship, British or just unlucky.

    Anyway, regardless of the forum, I soldiered on with the NC rule over the Christmas and New Year period. It was tough and Christmas Day was absolutely horrendous, but I stuck at it nonetheless. During moments of weakness, I kept checking back at this site to remind myself why the NC rule was the best plan of action and in doing so, found the strength to build myself up through NC.

    Exactly 30 days since we split, my ex got in touch with me and asked if we could rekindle our relastionship. Exactly 30 days. Magic, huh? We’re now enjoying a stronger relationship with better communication thanks to the NC rule.

    My point, I suppose, is that I achieved this result despite being denied access to the forum on more than one occasion, and while I really didn’t appreciate the denied access at the time, I have come to appreciate the advice you have to offer about the NC rule without the forum because it really worked for me. I really hope that there aren’t too many others out there with the guts to make NC work who are being denied access for whatever confusing reason.

    Keep up the good work 🙂

    Patsy, UK

    1. Patsy says:

      My point, I suppose, is that I achieved this result despite being denied access to the forum on more than one occasion, and while I really didn’t appreciate the denied access at the time, I have come to appreciate the advice you have to offer about the NC rule without the forum because it really worked for me. I really hope that there aren’t too many others out there with the guts to make NC work who are being denied access for whatever confusing reason.

      Hi,

      First off…Congratulations! 🙂

      I tell people all the time they DO NOT need to post in our forum to succeed.

      All you need is a positive attitude, the free plan, and the ability to read the forum.

      The forum can be a blessing, and a curse.

      A blessing to the people who are ready to use it correctly, and a curse for those who are not ready.

      The reason people are denied access to our forum is because they didn’t follow the simple directions to be approved…that is it.

      The “whole” registration process is designed (by me) to be a “filter”, a filter to weed out the emotionally challenged people who are looking for more sympathy than help.

      There are “tons” of forums out there that will give you all the sympathy you want, all you have to do is Google : Break up forum, and you will see what I mean.

      Giving sympathy to a heart-broken person is like giving drugs to a drug addict, or liquor to an alcoholic…it makes them feel better for a while, until it wears off, and then they want more.

      I don’t give out sympathy, I give people the tools to help themselves, and with that, I give them hope.

      I have been running this Blog (close to 3 years), and the forum (close to 2 years) all by myself, and the guidelines have been adjusted to compensate for the things I have learned along the way.

      Patsy says:

      I wondered if it was because I’m in a same-sex relationship, British or just unlucky.

      I can assure you I do not make my decisions on membership based on anything more than the way people handle the registration process.

      I don’t care if you’re an extra-terrestrial being, if you can follow the directions, you get in, but getting in doesn’t mean you get to stay, you have to keep following the rules.

      But since I updated the registration procedure I am not banning as many people as I used to, and that makes me happy, and tells me that the “filter” is working.

      Remember to take things slowly, this is a “new” relationship, not a continuation of the old failed relationship.

      Once again…Congrats on getting your life back together.

      Thanks for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  5. Hi

    I have a problem in that I unintentionally drove my ex away from me, in effect dumping her but now deeply regret it. Would I be right in saying that there would be no help you can offer me? I do not think I could post a NC as she never dumped me.

    Thanks

    A

    1. Hi,

      I can help you…

      There is a version of the NC message for people who dumped their ex.

      The bottom-line here is I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

      If you focus on getting your life back, and evolving past the break up, great things will happen…I promise.

      Go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  6. i just deactivated my fb account and im just not replying to his texts or calls, hes still not ready to get back together he is being hurtful and adding ex girlfriends and doing whatever it takes to call my attention i just dont know what to do for him to stop the child attitude and get back together with me

    1. Hi,

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex.

      Before you “get” someone back, you should make sure they are what you really want, right?

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  7. Hi, Scott,

    It’s me again. After last contact, my ex came back and said he has sorted out his mind and he wanted me and he missed me every single day. So we agreed that we are going to take things really slow and try to build a new relationship with less co-dependency. That was last Thursday. He took me for a short dinner on Saturday the first date, and it went really well. Then he also came over to fix my flat lights Monday night. However, Tuesday (he didn’t contact me at all). And today I still haven’t heard from him. I have a feeling that he’s withdrawing again and I don’t know what to do.

    We arranged a date on Saturday – he initiated it – going away to a nearby city that we’ve never been to. I’m now kinda of in panic again and thinking maybe we should call the whole get-back-together thing off.

    I don’t know if I’m over-reacting and it’s myself lack of confidence. I didn’t contact him either since he didn’t initiate contact.

    What do you think I should do?

    1. Hi,

      That is NOT what I would call taking it slow.

      He is taking it slow, but you’re not…if you can’t relax and take it slow, this new relationship is doomed.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  8. Hi, I posted my NC diary and Break up immediately after joining but they just dissapeared. I don’t know what I did wrong. Can you please let me know?

    1. Hi,

      You violated the forum guidelines.

      If you had read them thoroughly as you said you did before you were approved, you would know what you did wrong.

      You can still follow the free plan, but you can not post in our forum.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. Hi, Scott,

        It’s my NC Day 4 and i didn’t break it. I’m sorry about breaking the forum rules. I guess I was too excited and anxious and desperate after I sent it and I wrote many crap. I’ve been following the forum these days and I sincerely hope that you can give me another chance to join the forum. I’m living in my city all by myself without family and close friends who I can speak with. I have a mind and a life to fix.

        This is my last plead and I know you are hard on us, but I need this hardness to help me to get through this and have my life back.

        Please.

        Your response will be very appreciated.

        Many thanks
        Tabhu

        1. Hi,

          This is why if YOU READ the forum guidelines I tell prospective members to make sure they are really ready to follow the plan, and forum guidelines before joining.

          If you don’t feel in control yet, keep reading and watching until you are comfortable, and then register for our forum…why?

          Because when you panic and spew all your drama it disturbs all the other members.

          Plus, if you can’t settle down and follow the steps you will fail anyways.

          I run this Blog/forum by myself, and it is too much work to keep tabs on the members who are desperate, anxious, and excited.

          I have closed the forum two times before because it became overwhelming for me, but I decided that not ALL people should suffer for the mistakes and selfishness of others, so I updated the forum guidelines, and ban people who break them.

          It is A LOT easier.

          There are no second chances to make a first impression, and it is very rare that I ever let someone back in, and this isn’t one of those rare occasions.

          You are an adult, you made the decision to break the rules…now live with the consequences, that’s life.

          Next time you are told to read, understand, and agree to follow the rules, make sure you do it.

          You can still follow the free plan and be successful, you just can’t post in our forum.

          You lost that privilege when you broke the rules.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

          1. thanks a lot Scott. You are right. People don’t really have a second chance in the adult world.
            I’ll stick to NC and the free plan. And I’ll let you know once I got my life back.
            Just one more question, I sent out the NC message as “take a break”, because I don’t really know whether we broke up or not. Do you think it’s easier for my self evolution if I just break up with him?

            Many thanks
            Tabhu

            1. That would be totally up to you.

              1. Hi, Scott,
                Just want you to know that I broke up with him and he came back 4 days later saying it’s too difficult for him that he doesnt want to break up but he’s not sure whether he want me or not and whether he misses me or he’s lonely. So I broke up with him again basically telling him to lick his own wounds and take as long as it takes to make up his mind and I’ll move on with my life. I sent him NC message again and he replied OK.

                7 days later he text me and saying he remembered some good days we had together. I didn’t reply. 2 days after that he sent me a text saying he misses me (the first time he said that in our 2 year relationship although i suspect it’s drunk text). I didn’t reply either.

                I’m reading the posts in forum everyday and they make me think a lot and I feel I’m stronger than ever before. No matter how it goes, I think I need to make up my mind to – whether I reconnect with him in the future, or whether I should try with him again if he actually made up his mind and shows some strong action to commit. I’m going to stick to the plan and really work on myself and sort out my mind too.

                The forum and the NC rules and your blog are the best thing on internet that I’ve every found. Without them, I’m now still dragging in a relationship limbo that made me suffers every single day for about 3 months.

                Thank you so much for your help and support. You deserve every good word.

                I’m also actually thinking to make your website a version of my hometown language. We don’t have such website at all but we have loads of people and I’m pretty sure many of them would need such help. How do you think about that idea?

                1. Hi,

                  Just remember that you need to send the NC message to really get your personal evolution rolling again.

                  This plan is about you getting your life back, nothing else.

                  Focus all your energy on that, and you will be amazed what happens next.

                  As far as the translation of my site into your language, you can do that instantly by using many free translation sites, or web browser add-ons.

                  Firefox has a really good one, and it’s free.

                  Keep up the good work, and…

                  Stay Strong! :rambo:

                  S.W.

                  1. Thanks for your encouragement Scott. It really makes me feel stronger.
                    I did sent the exact NC message word for word again – except for changing “take a break” to do not regret breaking up with you.
                    I’ve been going downhill since yesterday – as I think my anger is gone and my heart is softened by his message. Then I started to feel a bit panic that me ignoring his text would drive him away – that “I miss you” might be the strongest feeling he would feel for me, and he might feel too frustrated so he gave up and started to move on too. I know these thoughts are wrong so I’m working on getting rid of them. I think I wasn’t doing my homework properly these days as I stopped analyzing the pros and cons about our relationship. I just started to miss him so dearly (worst period since we break up as I was angry with him before). Also it’s the third week of NC – peak of my loneliness. Before I was still fed by his constant messages and contacts. So I will just get through this period.
                    I don’t know when I’ll be ready to reconnect, and I decided not to set a date for me. One problem is, after he came last time and picked up his mails sending to my address, I again received several mails of his. Shall I ask him to change his mailing address? Will that break the NC?

                    1. Hi,

                      You can just write “no longer at this address” on his mail, and have it returned to sender.

                      It is his responsibility to take care of his mail.

                      The ideas behind NC is fully explained in the free plan…go read it.

                      If you don’t understand how and why NC works you will fail.

                      Take Care,

                      S.W.

  9. HI well have read a lot here and if he already has said he does not want me to contact him and he will contact me do I still send him a nc message

    1. Hi,

      Yes…This plan is about you, not about what your ex boyfriend has said or done, it doesn’t matter.

      You need to take control of your own situation and life, understand?

      By sending the recommended no contact message as outlined in the free plan to your ex boyfriend, you are sending him a clear message…I am in-control of my life, not you.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps to get your life back again.

      After you get your life back, you can decide if you want to get your ex boyfriend back again.

      You must take this plan one step at a time.

      Focus on your personal evolution, not on getting your ex back, OK?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  10. ok i wana ask you one question she is fed-up and that was the reason for breaking-up .do fed-up mean getting out of love? or both are different?

    and instead of changing her number is their still a chance?and if so then why she changed her number at first place?

    1. Hi,

      Just use the free plan to get your life back, and reveal your ex girlfriends true feelings for you, anything else would just be guessing…what’s the point?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  11. Is my situation completely hopeless?

    My gf of 3 years broke up with me 1 and a half months ago.actually she was on summer vacations with her family and was bit busy but we use to talk whole day daily in patches without giving eachother space.we were having arguments/disputes for 3 weeks on every second day as a result we both were getting fed-up but none of us wanted to leave eachother so never decided about breaking up.one day i thought that she is trying ti ignore me and being bit rude to me so i rebuked her on that as a result we didnt talk the next whole day and suddenly she said me on call that she want to break-up ,coz she is totally fed-up and dont love me anymore but after half an hour when i said i love you she replied with tears in her eyes that “i love you too” but i dont want to be with you anymore um completely fed-up.as it was my first break-up so never knew about NC and i kept begging and crying the next day she got so rude as she never knew me and never cared about me

    she was saying anything to get rid off me on third day she stopped picking up my calls and said leave me alone i said dont you ever loved me truly she replied “i realized it was just infatuation” mean what the hell is this i got confused she is changing her lines so much but one thing whic was permanent was “um fed-up” her mom told me same that she is saying “fed-up” i kept on calling ,texting her as a result she blocked me from facebook changed her id’s and changed her cell number

    many people are saying your situation is hopeless as she has changed her contacts,but few are saying that it may be coz she thought you are not giving her space and she did it.

    um so depressed and thinking may be my situation is hopeless.BTW she never ever said anything about breaking up or so in all these 3 years.infact she was the one who always use to fix the problems

    1. brokehurt says:

      many people are saying your situation is hopeless as she has changed her contacts,but few are saying that it may be coz she thought you are not giving her space and she did it.

      Hi,

      Don’t worry about what other people say, or what your ex does, and focus on getting your life back.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  12. I would like to know what went when wrong when I joined ur forum n posted breakup story all of which vanished immediadetely.
    Do u have any specifics on relationship (u read that from breakup story?) or the language used or style of writing( Mine wasnt any cry-baby type or bitching around) dint suit the forum standards?

    1. Abhi says:

      I would like to know what went when wrong when I joined ur forum n posted breakup story all of which vanished immediadetely.

      Hi,

      You didn’t follow all the forum guidelines.

      If you read the forum guidelines it states that you should not join until you are ready to complete ALL the steps.

      That means posting your Break up story and NC diary at the same time.

      When I check and only see one without the other, you get banned for not following directions.

      I am only one person, and I do not have the time or resources to keep checking on new members to see if they comply or not…it’s one strike and you’re out.

      I stress over and over I only want serious people ready to take action as forum members.

      I can’t help people who don’t follow directions, everything is free, but you must be serious and follow ALL the directions.

      You can still follow the free plan, and read our forum, you just can’t post, but if you really need to post…

      There are plenty of forums out there you can try that aren’t as strict as our forum is.

      Good Luck!

      S.W.

  13. thank you so much for your reply.
    I realised what you said about “If you wait until he contacts you it will probably be just for the “benefits”,and that i wont be happy with that so i have just sent the break up NC txt msg.
    So here goes!!

  14. rosa wrote:

    i have just sent the break up NC txt msg.
    So here goes!!

    Great Job Rosa!

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  15. rosa wrote:

    Do i break it off? or do i just back off until he contacts me? how do i make this better before it gets worse?

    Hi Rosa,

    Have you tired to talk about it with him?

    If you haven’t, try that first.

    If you have without success, and you are not happy, then it’s time for you to take control.

    If you wait until he contacts you it will probably be just for the “benefits”, I say you take control and follow the free plan.

    There is a version of the NC message for taking a break.

    It was designed for your specific situation where you haven’t broke up, but you’re not really “together” either.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  16. hey there, i`ve been reading your site and find you give some wonderful advice, just wondered if you could help in my situation?..
    We have as yet not split up but i find there quite a few things i dislike about our relationship mainly not knowing whats going on as in theres a lack of communication (we`re mainly in touch via txt which 99% i initiate) we dont see each other very often and have kinda become FWB! which i hate!
    Do i break it off? or do i just back off until he contacts me? how do i make this better before it gets worse?

  17. big daddy wrote:

    space mountain crazy enough ?

    I loved Space Mountain.

    My camera bounced on the bottom of my car and the flash went off, and it scared the shit out of me.

    I thought is was an electrical short.

  18. space mountain crazy enough ? I want to scuba dive

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