Toxic Relationships – 2 Things to Consider Before Getting an Ex Back
You are wondering how to get your ex back because you’re hurting. But, have you considered if he/she is worth getting back at all? Here are two things to consider about toxic relationships, before getting an ex back. Maybe it hurts now, but if you are in a toxic relationship, it is going to hurt a lot longer. Before you convince yourself that you need to “get my ex back”, make sure you are not in a toxic relationship first…OK?
Toxic Relationship Sign One – Check For This Before Winning Back Your Ex
Does your ex constantly tell you that they “love you”, but their actions say otherwise? Before getting an ex back, consider this toxic relationship indication first. Actions have always spoken louder than words, and will continue to do so…Why? Because body language doesn’t lie, and it is very hard to learn how to control your body language enough, to cover up your true intentions.
So, with that being said; Do you really want to win back your ex, if they do not truly love you? I know you are hurting now, but replacing one pain with another pain, is not a very good idea. If you really do not feel that your ex boyfriend/girlfriend loves you, then start planning on how to get over an ex, instead of getting an ex boyfriend/girlfriend back. There are some really good people, and plans out there, to help you do just that, and move on with your life.
Toxic Relationship Sign Two – Do You Really Want Your Ex Back If They Do This?
Does your ex verbally abuse you in private, as well as, in front of your friends? This is a really good indication that you’re in a toxic relationship. And, you should really think hard before moving forward with a plan, for getting an ex back that treats you this way. Nobody deserves to be treated this way, and that includes you. If you have been kidding yourself that they will get over this somehow, and stop abusing you, ask yourself this question; “Have they been seeking any form of counseling for this problem?”
If they do not think enough of you, and this relationship to get some help, then I think you should pass on winning back your ex. And, start learning how to get over your ex…instead. Getting an ex back that abuses you verbally, is a big mistake. And, it will probably lead to physical abuse somewhere down the road. I think since you are already broken up, that you should take this opportunity to learn more about how “real” relationships work, and form a plan to find someone you deserve. Sometimes in toxic relationships, it is better to get over an ex, instead of getting an ex back.
A Much Better Alternative To Toxic Relationships
Why would anyone do this? I mean, do you really think by randomly getting advice from friends, family, and co-workers, that you are going to succeed? You need a plan, a plan that works, and you need it now. If you want to get out of a toxic relationship, and stop getting an ex back that abuses you, you will need the proper guidance. If haven’t considered buying a book with a step by step plan, I would ask you to reconsider. I don’t care where you get it, just get one, and I will help coach you through it…OK? If you have any comments or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP! What can I do to help you with this toxic relationship? What are willing to do before taking back an abusive ex?
Until next time,
S. Williams
~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~
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Hi Scott,
I have a question that I know you can answer. There is this guy whom I used to love and after all of the games and B.S. he put me through (2 1/2 years) I finally got over him and it has been 1 year now since I broke up with him. My question is: he is starting to contact me and I am not responding to his calls or texts. How long is he going to do this and when will it stop because as much as I used to love him, I refuse to go back down that road again. I finally got my control back and I will not give it away again. What should I do?? Your help is greatly appreciated.
Terri
Scott,
I placed it in the Toxic category because I don’t want him back not because he was verbally abusive because he wasn’t. He was a Playa and this is why I placed him under the TOXIC because of his cheating ways. Can you still help me with this one. I don’t want to get my # changed because he knows other ways to get in contact with me. I just need to know how long is he going to do this before he realizes that I am truly finished and I have moved on?
Terri wrote:
Hi Terri,
I guess he finished “playing” and wants another chance, but you know better…right?
Have you told him in plain words that you do not want a relationship with him period, and you would appreciate it if he just stop contacting you, and moved on.
Because to tell you the truth it’s anyone’s guess when it will “sink in”, and he will move on.
But…
Do not do ANYTHING that will make him think he has a chance, that will only encourage him to keep contacting you…understand?
You don’t need to change your # just use caller ID, and screen all calls you don’t recognize.
Toxic relationships can be about anything, they are just situations that are unhealthy, and if he abused your trust, that’s not healthy either.
I hope this helped.
Take Care,
S. Williams
S. Williams wrote:
@ S. Williams:
Thanks Scott,
His game is……as long as you answer the phone and tell him that you are over him and for him to stop calling…..he thinks that I still want him. This is why it soooo much easier for me not to answer the phone. I know how he operates and it is crazy. Sometimes it makes me want to answer the phone and talk real nice to him just so he can run away.
Thanks Scott for your input on relationships.
@ Terri:
You’re Welcome!
Just don’t pick up the phone, he will get the message.
Take Care,
S. Williams