Toxic Relationships – 2 Things to Consider Before Getting an Ex Back

You are wondering how to get your ex back because you’re hurting. But, have you considered if he/she is worth getting back at all? Here are two things to consider about toxic relationships, before getting an ex back. Maybe it hurts now, but if you are in a toxic relationship, it is going to hurt a lot longer. Before you convince yourself that you need to “get my ex back”, make sure you are not in a toxic relationship first…OK?

Toxic Relationship Sign One – Check For This Before Winning Back Your Ex

Does your ex constantly tell you that they “love you”, but their actions say otherwise? Before getting an ex back, consider this toxic relationship indication first. Actions have always spoken louder than words, and will continue to do so…Why? Because body language doesn’t lie, and it is very hard to learn how to control your body language enough, to cover up your true intentions.

So, with that being said; Do you really want to win back your ex, if they do not truly love you? I know you are hurting now, but replacing one pain with another pain, is not a very good idea. If you really do not feel that your ex boyfriend/girlfriend loves you, then start planning on how to get over an ex, instead of getting an ex boyfriend/girlfriend back. There are some really good people, and plans out there, to help you do just that, and move on with your life.

Toxic Relationship Sign Two – Do You Really Want Your Ex Back If They Do This?

Does your ex verbally abuse you in private, as well as, in front of your friends? This is a really good indication that you’re in a toxic relationship. And, you should really think hard before moving forward with a plan, for getting an ex back that treats you this way. Nobody deserves to be treated this way, and that includes you. If you have been kidding yourself that they will get over this somehow, and stop abusing you, ask yourself this question; “Have they been seeking any form of counseling for this problem?”

If they do not think enough of you, and this relationship to get some help, then I think you should pass on winning back your ex. And, start learning how to get over your ex…instead. Getting an ex back that abuses you verbally, is a big mistake. And, it will probably lead to physical abuse somewhere down the road. I think since you are already broken up, that you should take this opportunity to learn more about how “real” relationships work, and form a plan to find someone you deserve. Sometimes in toxic relationships, it is better to get over an ex, instead of getting an ex back.

A Much Better Alternative To Toxic Relationships

Why would anyone do this? I mean, do you really think by randomly getting advice from friends, family, and co-workers, that you are going to succeed? You need a plan, a plan that works, and you need it now. If you want to get out of a toxic relationship, and stop getting an ex back that abuses you, you will need the proper guidance. If haven’t considered buying a book with a step by step plan, I would ask you to reconsider. I don’t care where you get it, just get one, and I will help coach you through it…OK? If you have any comments or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP! What can I do to help you with this toxic relationship? What are willing to do before taking back an abusive ex?

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people for more than 3 years to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

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  1. Scott,
    I’ve been w/boyfriend 4 yrs, we both divorced about same time & we’ve been together ever since.
    Things always seem perfect, tells me he loves me, he never felt this type of love before. Communication
    Was always easy , the attraction to one another is unbelievable, honestly I’ve never truly felt so loved so
    Complete but then something happens & I never know what. First it was my male friends so I ended all
    Contact & have no friends left. I’ve been married 2x the first I had a daughter & thou she’s 25 we always
    remained friends, he was like my best friend but his jealousy destroyed our friendship. My 2nd marriage
    Of 20 years ( he lives across the street from him- I moved & bought house in another town) my ex said he
    Isn’t happy but if he makes me happy it’s all that matters. My ex bf now has broken up w/ me several times
    Stating he’s stressed w work etc, invites me over I cook, clean house make sure he has clean clothes for work ( his ex wife took him for everything. I lent him 7k to pay taxes, helped buy car he desired. 2 months ago he again ran ignoring me then I get a text asking how I am & we got back together we never fight or argue he waits til I go home after spending days he asked me to be w/ him .. Now again tells me the relationship causes him stress. I don’t nag, or do anything for him to blame me but somehow he does. All along I listen to him state he’s stressed at work, hired a friend, can’t sleep, doesn’t feel well. Now I changed my number I got an email staying thank you for being your kindness. I truly loved this man & don’t understand why he continues to hurt me over & over. I’m sick to my stomach, I think his so called best friend has something to do w/ it as while together they barely spoke now I see they’re there. When this friend was in pain i was the first to help, we both went away together & it didn’t go so well as she treated me like crap.( she’s married) I’m baffled, upset & confused what i did so wrong again as im always being blamed. He blamed my ex husband living across the street & being stressed my ex sat with him stating he wasnt thrilled but was glad to see me happy. I feel it’s nothing but excuses but why? He just gave me a card & told me he never wants to be without me & now this … Please help, I feel like a yo-yo I love him but its getting to the point all the attraction in the world I can’t handle anymore & all he says is sorry. Ignores any contact unless he starts it usually 2-3 months later.

    1. Hi,

      He is only using you. He doesn’t love you, if he did, he wouldn’t treat you this way…right?

      Actions speak louder than words, react to his actions, not his words, and then he cannot “play” you anymore.

      If you want to stop the “yo-yo” ride, you need to use no contact, and leave this guy, and the failed relationships behind you, once and for all.

      I help people get over a broken heart and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      You don’t really want him back as much as you want to stop feeling rejected. The sooner you start NC (the right way) the sooner you will stop feeling this way, but it will take time.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

      Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

      This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  2. @ Terri:

    You’re Welcome!

    Just don’t pick up the phone, he will get the message.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  3. S. Williams wrote:

    Terri wrote:
    I just need to know how long is he going to do this before he realizes that I am truly finished and I have moved on?
    Hi Terri,
    I guess he finished “playing” and wants another chance, but you know better…right?
    Have you told him in plain words that you do not want a relationship with him period, and you would appreciate it if he just stop contacting you, and moved on.
    Because to tell you the truth it’s anyone’s guess when it will “sink in”, and he will move on.
    But…
    Do not do ANYTHING that will make him think he has a chance, that will only encourage him to keep contacting you…understand?
    You don’t need to change your # just use caller ID, and screen all calls you don’t recognize.
    Toxic relationships can be about anything, they are just situations that are unhealthy, and if he abused your trust, that’s not healthy either.
    I hope this helped.
    Take Care,
    S. Williams

    @ S. Williams:
    Thanks Scott,
    His game is……as long as you answer the phone and tell him that you are over him and for him to stop calling…..he thinks that I still want him. This is why it soooo much easier for me not to answer the phone. I know how he operates and it is crazy. Sometimes it makes me want to answer the phone and talk real nice to him just so he can run away.
    Thanks Scott for your input on relationships.

  4. Terri wrote:

    I just need to know how long is he going to do this before he realizes that I am truly finished and I have moved on?

    Hi Terri,

    I guess he finished “playing” and wants another chance, but you know better…right?

    Have you told him in plain words that you do not want a relationship with him period, and you would appreciate it if he just stop contacting you, and moved on.

    Because to tell you the truth it’s anyone’s guess when it will “sink in”, and he will move on.

    But…

    Do not do ANYTHING that will make him think he has a chance, that will only encourage him to keep contacting you…understand?

    You don’t need to change your # just use caller ID, and screen all calls you don’t recognize.

    Toxic relationships can be about anything, they are just situations that are unhealthy, and if he abused your trust, that’s not healthy either.

    I hope this helped.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  5. Scott,

    I placed it in the Toxic category because I don’t want him back not because he was verbally abusive because he wasn’t. He was a Playa and this is why I placed him under the TOXIC because of his cheating ways. Can you still help me with this one. I don’t want to get my # changed because he knows other ways to get in contact with me. I just need to know how long is he going to do this before he realizes that I am truly finished and I have moved on?

  6. Hi Scott,

    I have a question that I know you can answer. There is this guy whom I used to love and after all of the games and B.S. he put me through (2 1/2 years) I finally got over him and it has been 1 year now since I broke up with him. My question is: he is starting to contact me and I am not responding to his calls or texts. How long is he going to do this and when will it stop because as much as I used to love him, I refuse to go back down that road again. I finally got my control back and I will not give it away again. What should I do?? Your help is greatly appreciated.

    Terri

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