Comments on: The Secret to Making The No Contact Rule Work http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/ How to Get Your Ex Back Fast and Survive a Break up Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:14:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: S. Williams http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/#comment-8640 S. Williams Sun, 04 Sep 2011 15:23:49 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/?p=712#comment-8640 Hi, Good job on sending the no contact message. This is an average response to receiving the NC message, why? Because you have taken back control of the situation, that's all. The no contact rule only works when you stick to it. How to handle yourself in public (around your ex) is explained in the free plan under the NC links, just follow them and read all the articles. I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the "<a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/about-s-williams-how-to-get-your-ex-back-fast/" rel="nofollow">About</a>" section on my Blog. Go read the <a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/" rel="nofollow">free plan to get your ex back</a> and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again. Thank you for writing. Take Care, S.W. Hi,

Good job on sending the no contact message.

This is an average response to receiving the NC message, why?

Because you have taken back control of the situation, that’s all.

The no contact rule only works when you stick to it.

How to handle yourself in public (around your ex) is explained in the free plan under the NC links, just follow them and read all the articles.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

]]> By: Kieren http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/#comment-8639 Kieren Sun, 04 Sep 2011 14:59:14 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/?p=712#comment-8639 Quick update that might provide some insight into her mindset (in addition to the above) - after about 30 minutes I then received another message from her saying things to the effect of "when something bad happens to me one day you're going to realise you wate every single day you refused to have anything to do with me...I'm sure if I wasn't here anymore you'd be devastated...life is too short to cut people out of it...the fact that you don't want me in your life at all is the biggest shame...what did you even waste a year with me for." What?! What do I even say to that - she seems to be in the "have your cake and eat it too" mindset - so long as I'm around chasing her, she's happy, but then the moment I turn away and she loses a little control, suddenly she lets rip... Any help? Quick update that might provide some insight into her mindset (in addition to the above) – after about 30 minutes I then received another message from her saying things to the effect of “when something bad happens to me one day you’re going to realise you wate every single day you refused to have anything to do with me…I’m sure if I wasn’t here anymore you’d be devastated…life is too short to cut people out of it…the fact that you don’t want me in your life at all is the biggest shame…what did you even waste a year with me for.”

What?! What do I even say to that – she seems to be in the “have your cake and eat it too” mindset – so long as I’m around chasing her, she’s happy, but then the moment I turn away and she loses a little control, suddenly she lets rip…

Any help?

]]> By: Kieren http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/#comment-8638 Kieren Sun, 04 Sep 2011 14:23:14 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/?p=712#comment-8638 Hi there, My ex (who I go to Uni and share lectures with) had told me that she needed time to be by herself, be independent, be single - all the things that we've all heard before. No amount of pleading or promising to change had brought her back (I'm embarrassed to say that I was guilty of these errors!), so I went NC on her - told her that I needed some time to sort myself out, etc...she replied, telling me that she didn't want to be ignored and still wanted to be friends. Anyway, I took your advice and sent her the above NC message tonight - word for word - and, in a few minutes, was sent a reply asking (word for word) "Decisions about what?" I haven't replied - should I? What should I say - given that I'll still see her in lectures and around campus? Any help would be much appreciated. Kind regards, K Hi there,

My ex (who I go to Uni and share lectures with) had told me that she needed time to be by herself, be independent, be single – all the things that we’ve all heard before.

No amount of pleading or promising to change had brought her back (I’m embarrassed to say that I was guilty of these errors!), so I went NC on her – told her that I needed some time to sort myself out, etc…she replied, telling me that she didn’t want to be ignored and still wanted to be friends.

Anyway, I took your advice and sent her the above NC message tonight – word for word – and, in a few minutes, was sent a reply asking (word for word) “Decisions about what?”

I haven’t replied – should I? What should I say – given that I’ll still see her in lectures and around campus?

Any help would be much appreciated.

Kind regards,

K

]]> By: Tami http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/#comment-8543 Tami Fri, 12 Aug 2011 00:57:39 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/?p=712#comment-8543 Thank you so much. I read the plan many times over an found it to be very helpful. You are right, however about needing to examine my motives in wanting to get back together. Thank you very much for answering me so quickly. I'm hoping that eventually everything will be clearer and moving on will be easier. I've made several mistakes in this process and am working to correct my errors. Tami Thank you so much. I read the plan many times over an found it to be very helpful. You are right, however about needing to examine my motives in wanting to get back together. Thank you very much for answering me so quickly. I’m hoping that eventually everything will be clearer and moving on will be easier. I’ve made several mistakes in this process and am working to correct my errors.
Tami

]]> By: S. Williams http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/#comment-8538 S. Williams Thu, 11 Aug 2011 11:33:35 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/?p=712#comment-8538 Hi, If you were truly in love, I don't think it will ever be too late to get back together. You can use the no contact rule to evolve past the breakup, and reveal your ex boyfriend's true feelings for you. I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex lover back, and I explain why in the "<a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/about-s-williams-how-to-get-your-ex-back-fast/" rel="nofollow">About</a>" section on my Blog. Go read the <a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/" rel="nofollow">free plan to get your ex back</a> and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again. Thank you for writing. Take Care, S.W. Hi,

If you were truly in love, I don’t think it will ever be too late to get back together.

You can use the no contact rule to evolve past the breakup, and reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex lover back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

]]> By: Tami http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/#comment-8535 Tami Thu, 11 Aug 2011 08:16:47 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/?p=712#comment-8535 I'm wondering if there is a length of time that may have passed to make it too late to get my ex back, also, what if he is in another relationship now? I did the breaking up, which he fought tooth and nail, but later, I regretted it. He eventually found another girl, the only one he dated since me. I'm feeling a little out of my element here. Please help, thank you! I’m wondering if there is a length of time that may have passed to make it too late to get my ex back, also, what if he is in another relationship now? I did the breaking up, which he fought tooth and nail, but later, I regretted it. He eventually found another girl, the only one he dated since me. I’m feeling a little out of my element here. Please help, thank you!

]]> By: S. Williams http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/#comment-8511 S. Williams Thu, 04 Aug 2011 16:23:58 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/?p=712#comment-8511 Hi, Resending the NC message didn't look bad because he contacted you in-between them, even if he didn't, the NC message is about you, not him. This is about getting your life back, not getting your ex boyfriend back. Stick to the no contact rule at all costs, this is the only way to quickly evolve past the break up, leave the failed relationship behind, and prepare yourself for the next chapter of your life. You have been stuck re-reading (reliving) the same old chapter over and over. Now it is time to write the next chapter. Stay Strong and Positive! S.W. PS - You're Welcome! :-) Hi,

Resending the NC message didn’t look bad because he contacted you in-between them, even if he didn’t, the NC message is about you, not him.

This is about getting your life back, not getting your ex boyfriend back.

Stick to the no contact rule at all costs, this is the only way to quickly evolve past the break up, leave the failed relationship behind, and prepare yourself for the next chapter of your life.

You have been stuck re-reading (reliving) the same old chapter over and over.

Now it is time to write the next chapter.

Stay Strong and Positive!

S.W.

PS – You’re Welcome! :-)

]]> By: Elle http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/#comment-8510 Elle Thu, 04 Aug 2011 15:48:30 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/?p=712#comment-8510 Hey S.W. How r u? u probably dont get asked that much! On day 6 of no contact woohoo and feeling great! had a mess up sending my NC message, i wrote ill be in touch instead of i will be in touch. Probably doesnt even matter but when i realised the mistake (dam touch screen phone) through my teary eyes i sent the corrected version the next day word for word. he wrote back to the first one saying.. 'o well, i hope everything works out for you. i love u and wish u the best. see ya around.x' What do you make of that Scott? i didnt reply of course, just sent him the word for word NC message the next day when i realised the mistake cuz i wanted to be on the exact same plan as everyone else trying to get their lives back. He understandably did not reply. I hope i didnt take away its punch by having to send it twice but hey im on the free plan now so who cares, it all about me! I should say at the start of the 'break' as he called it, I was the one pleading to get him back then my tune changed and i said fuck this so i started standing up for myself and guess what he then started saying he would get back with me if he could and that he loves me and blah blah blah then he started saying it was actually a break up. He confused me more than anything. He said he'd ring me to meet up then never text, second time in a week he did that so thats when i decided fuck this, im sending the NC message and here i am 6 days later NC'ing his ass and im sure hes expecting me to cave any day but im not going to. I was with him for nearly 6 years so its going to be hard, but i truly believe i deserve better and need help to get on and get my life back. this forum is great, i definitely wouldnt have known how to even go about sending a NC message if i hadnt ended up here let alone the strenght to not contact him. thanks so much Scott :) Hey S.W.

How r u? u probably dont get asked that much!

On day 6 of no contact woohoo and feeling great!

had a mess up sending my NC message, i wrote ill be in touch instead of i will be in touch. Probably doesnt even matter but when i realised the mistake (dam touch screen phone) through my teary eyes i sent the corrected version the next day word for word. he wrote back to the first one saying.. ‘o well, i hope everything works out for you. i love u and wish u the best. see ya around.x’ What do you make of that Scott?

i didnt reply of course, just sent him the word for word NC message the next day when i realised the mistake cuz i wanted to be on the exact same plan as everyone else trying to get their lives back. He understandably did not reply. I hope i didnt take away its punch by having to send it twice but hey im on the free plan now so who cares, it all about me!

I should say at the start of the ‘break’ as he called it, I was the one pleading to get him back then my tune changed and i said fuck this so i started standing up for myself and guess what he then started saying he would get back with me if he could and that he loves me and blah blah blah then he started saying it was actually a break up. He confused me more than anything. He said he’d ring me to meet up then never text, second time in a week he did that so thats when i decided fuck this, im sending the NC message and here i am 6 days later NC’ing his ass and im sure hes expecting me to cave any day but im not going to. I was with him for nearly 6 years so its going to be hard, but i truly believe i deserve better and need help to get on and get my life back.

this forum is great, i definitely wouldnt have known how to even go about sending a NC message if i hadnt ended up here let alone the strenght to not contact him. thanks so much Scott :)

]]> By: S. Williams http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/#comment-8500 S. Williams Wed, 03 Aug 2011 11:48:55 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/?p=712#comment-8500 Hi, What should you do next? Follow ALL the rest of the steps in the free plan, and remember this is about getting your life back, not your ex boyfriend. If he wishes you a happy birthday, just reply thank you, that's it, no more replies after that. You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend's true feelings for you if you use it correctly, and you are patient. I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex lover back, and I explain why in the "<a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/about-s-williams-how-to-get-your-ex-back-fast/" rel="nofollow">About</a>" section on my Blog. Go read the <a href="http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/" rel="nofollow">free plan to get your ex back</a> and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again. Thank you for writing. Take Care, S.W. Hi,

What should you do next?

Follow ALL the rest of the steps in the free plan, and remember this is about getting your life back, not your ex boyfriend.

If he wishes you a happy birthday, just reply thank you, that’s it, no more replies after that.

You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you if you use it correctly, and you are patient.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex lover back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

]]> By: Dee http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/the-secret-to-making-the-no-contact-rule-work/#comment-8499 Dee Wed, 03 Aug 2011 08:04:57 +0000 http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/?p=712#comment-8499 Dear S.W., I went through your free plan and also the most importantly the NC msg. I did send the exact word to word ( without any changes ) NC Msg to my ex boyfriend yesterday and he replied after a couple of hours saying that I should take care and asking about my europe tour ! But I didnt reply to his email till now and dont intend to do it... Now what should you think that I should be doing next? If I follow NC correctly then in how much time he should be contacting me again..one thing he is a very serious guy and its very difficult to get several messages out of him... Also its my bday next week and if he wishes me over e mail then shd I respond? Waiting for your reply...! Good day Dee Dear S.W.,

I went through your free plan and also the most importantly the NC msg. I did send the exact word to word ( without any changes ) NC Msg to my ex boyfriend yesterday and he replied after a couple of hours saying that I should take care and asking about my europe tour ! But I didnt reply to his email till now and dont intend to do it…

Now what should you think that I should be doing next?

If I follow NC correctly then in how much time he should be contacting me again..one thing he is a very serious guy and its very difficult to get several messages out of him…

Also its my bday next week and if he wishes me over e mail then shd I respond?

Waiting for your reply…!

Good day

Dee

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