The Secret to Making The No Contact Rule Work
People wonder all the time about using NC to get their ex back. 99.99% of those people do not use the no contact rule correctly, but I know the secret…do you? Just like any technique there is a right way and a wrong way, I have found the secret and I will share it with you so you can get your ex back fast.
What The No Contact Rule Is Not About
Everyone believes that after they breakup with their ex and stop talking to them that they are using the no contact rule correctly,Wrong! This is merely ignoring them and they just think you’re mad and will get over it like you always do. Using NC to get your ex back and save your relationship takes a lot more than just ignoring them, especially if they broke up with you.
You want to get them back but not the way they were when your relationship wasn’t working out, make sense? After all if they come back the same way they left…what has changed? This relationship is still headed for the rocks you’re just circling around them until you crash again. No, you need to set a whole “new course” for your relationship away from those rocks for good, and the no contact rule can help you do just that.
OK – So What’s The Big Secret?
The secret is in the almighty No Contact Message. What message you ask? And I answer “Exactly why NC is not working for you, you did not properly initiate your no contact strategy…did you?” This is why everyone thinks that the no contact rule will not help you get your ex back, they don’t use it correctly. Or, they use it so late that it takes a long time to take affect but it still can work…just takes longer.
If you have been attempting to use no contact to win back your ex boyfriend/girlfriend you need to find out more about how to write the Magic No Contact Message. I am not going to go into all that with this article. What I want you to take away from this article is the fact that if you didn’t properly initiate NC with a good no contact message, you’re using the no contact rule all wrong. So do not expect great results until you learn what you need to know about writing a proper NC message, and then of course send it off to your ex.
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Until next time,
S. Williams
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i would realy like to know what my xs is going fealing abought the brack up. im i the only one that is going thought hell its ben a month of nc
i ask her to mairy me she sais yes thin we broke up i ask for the ring back she texed me back saying she would send it back and thanked me for loving her so much but ints been a mounth and ever day i go to the maial bot but theres nothing i dont want to get my hopes up.
now i drink
Hans Ervin wrote:
Hi,
I have no idea what you’re ex is feeling, and I don’t know what plan you are following for NC.
I recommend that you read the free plan on my Blog, the link is at the top of my Blog.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi! I was wondering if I did the right thing…
My ex broke up with me a month and a half ago, and for the first couple of weeks I wouldn’t answer his calls or anything. I didn’t cry or beg or any of that stuff, but I did end up answering him after those couple of weeks. Nothing special, but then I weakened a bit from that.. and…
About a week ago I emailed him saying that I agree with the break-up and that he made the right decision, but that it would be a shame to throw away the friendship.
Since then I’ve called with fake excuses like getting back money from him, etc… He always answers or calls back but I thought better to cut this off too, especially now that he is dating another girl.
So I just sent him the NC message in a text.. and he replied twice within the hour:
1st one: “OK, good luck!”
2nd one: “Decisions that have to do with me?”
Was it wrong to send this NC message after I’d already agreed with the break-up before and now that he’s dating? I feel like I look foolish repeating over and over that I agree with the break-up lol
Should I take this chance to reply back and say “no they have nothing to do with you” in order to make sure he thinks I’ve moved on? Or shall I ignore?
Also, how hopeless is it if he’s already dating 2 weeks after the break-up?
Thanks a million!
Jane wrote:
Hi,
No, you did the RIGHT thing.
Great Job! :thumbup:
Jane wrote:
What can I say…love makes us do crazy things, right?
Jane wrote:
Not hopeless at all…
Some people think they can hide their feelings by immediately dating after a break up.
It’s funny, because you can run, but you can’t hide from your true feelings…can you?
Follow the rest of the steps in the free plan, the NC message is only the first step of your personal evolution.
Stay Strong! :rambo:
S.W.
Hi Scott! Thanks so much for your answer! You’re awesome!!!
I’m glad I’m following this plan, I feel more in control, and the book gave me so much hope…
He sent me a 3rd text after the above 2, saying “why are you ignoring me? as you like.. have a good life!!”
He’s pissed off or what? I didn’t reply to anything and I will not – I’m following your advice from now on.
I would like to be added to the forums but after checking out the guidelines I saw that I have to send the NC message as part of the rules… Do I have to send another one to get in, or is the one I sent yesterday enough?
Thanks
Jane wrote:
That depends…What version of the NC message did you send yesterday?
the one you recommended for the dumpees lol
word for word
Jane wrote:
That is all it takes besides agreeing to follow ALL the forum guidelines, and the terms of service.
This is all outlined in the email you receive once you request your forum membership.
Go for it…if you have enough courage to follow the plan through to the end.
This isn’t a game.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi,
Ive been having a topsy turvy time with the ex and have recently invoked NC – she got really mad with me, over some silly broadband bill but really it was because im not her puppy anymore. However i have only found this site in the last few days and dont know if its too late to send the NC message – she will prob be in touch in the next few days as we still ahve a flat (and a cat) that we are moving out of end of the month, which just happens to be her 21st. I instictively sent her a kind of NC message (im quite switched on about relationships) but not the word for word one – i know for a fact she has been playing the field in the month since we broke up (mar 3) and i know that she ahs slept with at least two guys – 1 of which was the cause of the break up. Shall i still send NC message or will this just look odd?
Also – i am not going to contact her at all on her 21st b-day which i was going to propose to her on! and she knows this now
Pawel wrote:
Hi,
You need to send the correct NC message to start “your” personal evolution, this has nothing to do with your ex, understand?
Fuck what she thinks, this is about you.
What are you more worried about getting your life/ex back, or looking foolish?
Your Choice.
If you want your life back again, read the free plan, and follow ALL the steps in it, OK?
Take Care,
S.W.
Ok scott will do!
I’ve blocked her on all my facebook etc – thatll be the test for me not checkign everything she is doing – changing her profile pics to slutty ones…last time i looked there were pics of me all over FB – me and her…i will send the NC message now and then join the forum.
You da man!
Pawel wrote:
Great Job! :thumbup:
I just booted someone from our forum for looking at her ex’s facebook, and then freaking out.
You just kicked their ass with NC, what do you think they are going to do…they are going to post shit on FB to piss you off, right?
90% (if not more) of the members recommend deleting them from FB, it only helps your personal evolution.
Stay Strong! :rambo:
S.W.
i have been ignoring my ex for a few weeks now but i answer him every 3 or 4 days or so then i am always the one that ends the conversation. he has said he misses me a couple of times and i have ignored that. is there something else i should say when he says he misses me?
also, what exactly do u mean by the NC msg? is it just a msg that tells ur ex not to contact u?
need help says:
Hi,
Good question, and you will find all the answers in the free plan on my Blog.
Go read the free plan, and follow ALL the steps, and learn how to get your ex boyfriend back by getting your life back first.
Take Care,
S.W.
Can I ask one little question please?
What do you do, if your ex pulls suddenly the no contact on you, three months after you sent the no contact message?
Should we ignore it and just go on with our personal development?
ingriSoul says:
Hi,
I don’t see how your ex boyfriend could use no contact “on you” when you are correctly following free plan, are you following the free plan?
Did you follow ALL the steps?
If so, just ignore his message, and if not, start following the free plan today.
Take Care,
S.W.