The No Contact Rule – How Does It Help Me Get My Ex Back? Part 2

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Can the no contact rule really help me get my ex back?

Yes, but it is a process of step by step personal evolution, and you must not skip a step.

The next step to winning your ex back is one that most people over look…emotional evolution.

You must get your life back before you can get your ex back, understand?

No?

Well keep reading and I will explain it to you…OK?

 


 

How To Get Your Life Back Using The No Contact Rule

 

Since you have broken off all communication with your ex, you will have more time, to focus on yourself.

And, you will, if you’re smart.

Most people just sit there, and, wait for 30 days to pass, and then, attempt to reconnect, with their ex.

The reason just about everyone fails is…they weren’t ready, emotionally, to reconnect, and, they lost control of the process, and, set themselves back.

How can no contact help me get my ex back?

It can help you, if you use this time, during no contact, to work on yourself, emotionally.

I call this, your personal and emotional evolution, and, it is, an evolution.

You have to let go of the old relationship and learn from the mistakes…that the both of you have made.

The best way to do this is by keeping a personal journal and writing down your daily feelings.

Use this as an outlet, to prevent you, from contacting your ex, and, breaking NC.

There are also many self-help tools available, online, and, in your local library, to help with your emotional evolution, as well.

Also, if you feel like, you need it…go get some professional counseling, too.

Make no mistake, there is a tough battle ahead, but, you can get your life back, and then, get your ex back, if you follow, all the necessary, steps.

In the last part of this series of articles, we will wrap our look at how the no contact rule can help you win back your ex, after a breakup.

 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008, to overcome breakup pain, and, get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section, that I recommend you read.

I realize the address, of my site, is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but, I “really” teach people, how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me, (and our forum members) to get your life back.

Go ahead, and, join my free newsletter, for access to the free breakup survival plan, and, start getting your life back, today.

The answers you need, to start your personal evolution, are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come, and get them.

Once, you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. Hello S. Williams,
    I recently got broken up with and I am 7 months pregnant with my ex’s child. I initially did all the “Don’ts” after he broke up with me (calling excessively, begging and pleading for him to come back, telling him I’ll change and that I NEED him in my life, etc.) and now i’m trying the no contact rule (been about 8 days since I last said anything to him). He moved on to a new relationship 1 week exactly after he broke up with me, and I messaged the new girl on facebook to confirm it, and right now I feel like all of the mistakes I made can’t be undone and that he really is leaving me for someone else. Do you think it’s too late to reconcile? And how do you think I should go about contact with him? I don’t want the reason we talk to each other to be just about the baby, I truly love and adore this guy. And I understand the pressure he feels about everything, because we did move extremely fast and now he’s about to be a dad. What should I do?

    1. Hi,

      You worship this guy enough to make yourself blind to the fact that he would rather be with other women?

      That is crazy!

      Love is a TWO-WAY street.

      Don’t waste your love on someone who does not love you back…you are building yourself a prison.

      Love yourself enough to leave this guy, and get your own life back again so you can be a good mother, not some sappy bitch who would neglect her child while she runs after some guy who dumped “both” of you.

      You must follow the no contact rule correctly, and that means following the free plan, and sending the recommended NC message.

      Any contact after sending the NC message should only be about your shared child, and nothing else.

      If you can’t (or won’t) follow the free plan correctly…I can’t help you.

      You would be better off seeking advice somewhere else.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  2. i subscribed to the link, and it was supposed to send me a confirmation and i still have not received anything

    1. Hi,

      If you subscribed for the free tips on how to get your ex back, and didn’t receive a confirmation email, check your spam/junk folder.

      If you still can’t find it try signing up with a gmail account they seem to work without any problems.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  3. playin4keeps wrote:

    I wish it was just as simple as no contact.

    Hi,

    NC is a process, not a solution.

    It is a personal and emotional evolution.

    At the end of that process you will have the answers to your questions.

    The free plan is not about getting your ex back, it is about getting your life back, but you need to follow the plan correctly.

    That means sending the recommended NC message word for word.

    It’s your life, and your choice.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  4. Thank u. I’ve actually purchased the MOMU also. I think I’ve already set all the balls in motion for the things that I needed to do. I didn’t hesitate to do so. Although, as I stated, I did nothing wrong. I did take time to assess myself and identify areas where I can make improvements to myself; i.e. physically, emotionally, financially. The hardest thing is hearing from the person you love that they are confused. But telling you that they are definitely sure that it is over. It’s so hard to let go when you know that a part of them is fighting with them to stay. We have never in 1.5 years been away from each other more than 4 days without speaking. So much goes through your mind. And the biggest one is, “can they that easily and quickly forget all the great moments we had? how can I be the best thing that’s happened to you today and just another joe tomorrow?” I wish it was just as simple as no contact.

  5. playin4keeps wrote:

    I sent her a message telling her I am sorry for not respecting her request for space, but that I do feel like we will both benefit from it and that she should take the time to herself, etc. So NC has begun.

    Hi,

    If you want to be successful with NC, you need to read the free plan on my Blog, and Follow ALL the steps.

    Your version of the NC message will not work as well as the recommended NC message in the free plan.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  6. I was in a relationship for 1.5 years and for about the last 3 months my ex kept telling me she thinks she needs to be alone. But she’d never actually end up taking the time alone. Recently, she worked up the nerve and took a firm stance in wanting to be alone. Honestly, I’ve done nothing wrong. I’ve been the best I could with her and she’s even agreed. She’s telling me that she feels confused because we started dating immediately after she ended a relationship. She tells me she is very happy w/ me but feels like something is lacking emotionally. I’m guessing is not ever letting go of the previous relationship. She doesn’t know that she wants to work things out with her ex, but she has clearly stated that our relationship is over, but has repeatedly said she is so confused about her feelings. She’s asked for space. I sent her a message telling her I am sorry for not respecting her request for space, but that I do feel like we will both benefit from it and that she should take the time to herself, etc. So NC has begun. I’m feeling very hurt and confused. I want her back. I don’t want to lose her. I know for a fact that I’ve treated her better than anyone she’s ever been with. She’s even made it clear. Said noone has ever made her feel like I have. But then why leave me?! I really want this to work. I want her back.

  7. gwow wrote:

    Will no conact be the right solution to make him realize how great he had it with me?

    Hi,

    If you want to reveal his “true” feelings for you then NC and the free plan are the way to go.

    Go to the top of my Blog and find the link for the free plan.

    gwow wrote:

    How can he just act the way he does towards me and show little to no care nor feelings?

    Like I said, the free plan will help you to uncover his true feelings, if you follow it correctly.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  8. wow, you guys are good on this website, kept my attention…..here is my story…

    I am in the situation where i dated my ex for 4 years. We broke up in June to “find ourselves”. He became really depressed and just needed to find out who he is, as for myself. We dated for so long it was just right. Although i stuck around and played girlfriend(which is where i messd up) until october. That is when i found out he has someone else in mind, that would be the rebound. If he told me he didnt want a relationship and needs to find “himself” why does he have a completley opposite girl as me? ALREADY! I am the outgoing very attractive girl while she is the plain jane, quite girl (not half as good looking as me). Anyways not to show signs of jealousy but i dont get it. This is now January and i am finally doing no conact with him. As up until last week we would randomly see each other and yes we would give into temptaion and we would hookup. Our sex gets more stellar everytime.He lies to me about her all the time but its obvious he is lying because we have the same best friends and when im not invited around bc he brings her, not cool..i find everything out but then its just me looking/feeling like the idiot AGAIN~! Since him and i have broken up i did what i had to do to find myself and fix me, i have figured out my life, career, i started doing pole dancing which saved my life!!! I lost 30lbs so far and im just improving myself non stop. He was my bestfriend and i was so amazing to him. I finally am just now disappearing from his life because i never have. He took me for so much granted and its like he doesnt even care about what we had..he just wants to use this new girl and get what he wants from her..After all this i shouldnt want him back but i still want to be with him. We never fought, we had an amazing relationship in my eyes he just needs to make himself happy before he forces to let anyone else make him happy. Will no conact be the right solution to make him realize how great he had it with me?
    How can he just act the way he does towards me and show little to no care nor feelings? I dont get it 🙁

  9. copy wrote:

    Do I wish him a happy birthday and if so what do i say. He broke up with me 3 weeks ago and i issued the NC rule last Thursday.

    No contact means…No Contact.

    Stay Strong!

  10. Scott wrote:

    Am I breaking NC by replying at all? I

    Hi Scott,

    If you discuss Xmas…you’re breaking NC, and you need to send the recommended NC message from the free plan on my Blog.

    If she needs a dish back…leave it with a friend, or drop it at her work.

    She is playing you for the fool, and keeping you from personally evolving.

    Scott wrote:

    I read where you shouldn’t ignore them completely

    That was meant if you run into them in public…if they say hi, say hi back, and then keep on moving.

    You don’t have to be rude, but you can not let them get you into conversations where they will try to find out how you feel.

    No contact means no personal contact…do not share your feelings with your ex.

    If you read the free plan on my Blog it explains NC in detail.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  11. My ex’s birthday is this sat. Do I wish him a happy birthday and if so what do i say. He broke up with me 3 weeks ago and i issued the NC rule last Thursday.
    Thanks!!!!

  12. Hi,

    I started NC the other day (its been two days). She texted me Sunday and then tried to talk to me on line. I ignored both. I had made the mistake over the previous 6 weeks to do everything wrong (texting, gifts, promises)

    So yesterday she said “can i get my dish back and then you can go on pretending I’m not here”. I said “of course, Friday”.

    She then texted me late at night saying “are you up”. I said “barely” and then she gave some lame excuse about “wanting to talk about xmas”.

    Am I breaking NC by replying at all? I read where you shouldn’t ignore them completely…
    Help

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