The How to Kick Loves Ass Break up Forum Guidelines
*NOTE – If you have special circumstances such as you, or your ex is on medication for mental problems, or you live in a foreign country battling some tough child custody laws, this is not the plan, or place for you. Please seek out the appropriate professional medical, or legal advice ASAP!
PLEASE READ THIS FIRST – The whole purpose of joining and using this free support system is to help you (and your ex) evolve past the break up and get your lives back. You are NOT here to get your ex back. But a common side effect of getting your life back has been getting back together (in some cases) as you can see by reading our break up success stories.
I do not want anyone joining the forum and posting until they are completely comfortable and ready to follow the free step-by-step system as it is laid out, no doubts about if the system will work or not. That means sending the recommended NC message (word for word) as outlined in the free plan BEFORE joining our forum. If you do not want to do this DO NOT JOIN sending that exact message is MANDATORY.
A Word About FaceBook
This forum has been over run with people bewildered about how to handle FaceBook during your personal evolution (NC).
Delete your ex as a friend and anyone else who will remind you of your ex, or relay your FB updates to them as well.
If you are smart you will close your account, and focus on your personal evolution, and get a real life, not a virtual one.
That is the “Official Stand” on correctly using FaceBook during your personal evolution (NC), and if you ask questions about FB in our forum you will be banned, understand?
I don’t care how “good” you think you can handle FaceBook, do it without ever bringing it up in our forum, if you do, you’re fucking gone…no exceptions.
That is all I have to say on the subject of FaceBook, consider it the law in our forum.
How to Correctly Use Our Forum
The free plan, and our forum is about how to get your life back, not your ex. It is not here to supply sympathy, hugs, kisses, or a place to post your daily problems, this will get you banned, quickly…it is a working forum.
If this statement disturbs, or confuses you…DO NOT ATTEMPT TO JOIN OUR FORUM.
Go read (re-read) the free plan, and the forum guidelines, and decide if this is the right place for you. This will save me the time of having to ban you later on.
Now I will give two examples of how to use our forum, and post in your NC Diary:
The Right Way
“I saw my ex today, and he tried to get me to break NC by asking me questions about my NC message. I just followed the plan, and told him I am not ready yet, and kept walking.”
Or, another way would be to ask a question…ONCE.
That is if you can not find the answer (look first) yourself in the free plan, or on my Blog, or in the forum. If you are in doubt about the free plan being right for you, and your “unique situation” then you are right, it is not right for you, and you should leave and go seek advice somewhere else.
The Wrong Way
“OMG – my dog died, and I had a bad day at work, and I really miss my ex, she was the only one who could make me feel better. I am dying inside but I will stay strong.”
Now, I ask you, what the fuck does this have to do with following the free plan, and NC?
Nothing!
It is just a blatant cry for sympathy and attention, and that is not why I created our forum. If this is what you need, go find another forum to join…Please!
Now the right way showed people how to handle a situation they might come up against during NC.
Your personal stuff belongs in your personal diary at home, not in our forum.
I highly suggest you find some forum buddies, at least one of the opposite sex to get a different perspective, and email them to get acquainted, and share your days with them.
When you post on your NC diary make it something worth reading, not I went out and had a sandwich, I am happy today, or any shit like that.
If you want to talk about your day, PM your forum buddy, and get their contact information, and then do it with yahoo messenger or whatever IM service you share with your forum buddy/buddies, or email each other.
Now, can’t you see the difference between using the forum correctly, and just using it as posting board for all your personal bullshit?
People complain they can’t find the answers they need to their questions, and that is because all the “Professional Posters and Cheer Leaders” have cluttered our forum with their bullshit.
This is not helping the people who came here for the right reasons, to get their life back.
This only attracts the wrong type of member who will do the same thing they are, and just clutter our forum even more, burying all the useful posts so no one can find them…make sense?
If you think I am a prick, you’re right, but that is what you asked for when you asked me to help you Kick Loves Ass, right?
If you want a hug and a sympathetic ear, go find a fucking priest…Understand?
Still reading? 
Good! That means you have what it takes to be successful.
Here are the steps I HIGHLY suggest you follow after your membership is approved:
1. Post Your Break up Story and Start your NC Diary
2. Post a request for a forum Buddy in the Forum Buddy topic, don’t wait for a response, go read others NC diaries and contact them with a PM.
3. Follow the steps in the free plan, and only post constructive “helpful” posts in your NC Diary…this is NOT a club for the Broken-Hearted.
4. Get your life back and become happy again. Then get your ex back or find someone better, and live happily ever after, sound good?
If you want to socialize with fellow members use your favorite IM (or email) service and do just that, don’t clutter our forum with your personal chit-chat, that doesn’t help the other members looking for answers to their questions, OK?
This will help when I or another forum member answers a question, new members or lurkers will be able to read it too, and get some help as well, make sense?
It sucks to have answer the same fucking question over, and over again…believe me. 
This will also alleviate the occasional…oh shit I posted something personal, and I am afraid my ex will see it. 
Your ex can’t see it if you don’t post it on our forum, right?
The Story of The Sympathy Seeker and The Nurturer
All you have to remember is that our forum is a tool, not a refuge.
When I say support your fellow members I mean encourage them to succeed by documenting your progress…not by constantly offering a shoulder to cry upon.
It is only human nature to take the easiest path when given a choice between fighting, and feeling sorry for yourself.
The sympathy seeker, and the nurturer feed off each other and keep themselves trapped.
This is what happens in all the other forums, I don’t want to be like them, I want to set people free, not build a prison for them.
The bottom line, think before you post, will this actually help someone to feel better, or encourage them to fight for their happiness.
The trick is to focus on the end goal, and then you will understand why I do what I do.
If you encourage them to fight, they will, and then they will get their lives back and become happy again.
You will have helped them much more than a hug or a pat on the back ever would, understand?
We are here to kick some ass (kicking ass = fighting) fighting isn’t very pretty, but necessary in one form or another to maintain a balance in life.
Now, make sure you read all the rest of the guidelines, and then get started getting your life back.
Think of this forum as my virtual classroom, and I teach “How to Kick Loves Ass 101″.
If I allow people to come into my class who don’t want to follow the lesson plan…just debate, and disturb the other students…what’s going to happen?
I am not going to be able to teach the people who want to learn…make sense?
You are here to follow the system, not question it because you’re too afraid to follow it…OK?
If you just want to bitch and moan about losing your ex go to another forum with that cry baby shit…NOW!
If you are not ready to commit to these terms then keep reading our forum until you are, but do not join and start posting until you are completely confident in the system and you’re ready to follow it or I will block you…understand?
This is not a forum to debate the book The Magic of Making up or the system I have offered to support the book, it is a support forum that “supports” people who are confident in themselves and the system and want to succeed.
If you feel the need to ask questions about the free plan, or no contact, I understand your apprehension, and I will do my best to explain things to you. But do not join the forum, and then ask if you need to send the recommended NC message, you will be immediately banned.
If you have a question about the recommended NC message, please ask it on my Blog “How to Get Your Ex Back Fast” in the comment section…not here on our forum, OK?
I can’t have you disrupting my classroom…while I teach “How to Kick Loves Ass 101″.
If you have confidence in the system and the book and want to properly use “our” forum, go right ahead and join.
If you’re unsure…keep reading my articles, and asking questions (on my Blog), or try your luck somewhere else.
The free system is offered for people who can’t afford to buy a self help book at the moment, and it also fills in the missing pieces these books leave out.
Let’s get this out in the open now…life is NOT fair…what happened to you was not fair.
But you don’t have to wait for things to be fair…you can help yourself right here and now.
Let’s talk about fair…
I would say 98% of the people I help (if not more) bought their relationship self help books from someone else.
I do all the work (customer service) they (the other marketers) won’t do and they get paid…real fair isn’t it?
Yet, I keep on doing it…why?
Because I don’t care about what is fair, I care about doing what is right.
People write to me (because the people they bought from don’t answer them), and ask me for help.
I won’t turn them down…I know you need help, and I want to give it to you…just trust me, and take action, OK?
I bust my ass 7 days a week to provide a free Blog and Forum, and a step-by-step support system…all at my own expense.
I am not saying this to complain, or to get you to buy from me…I am making a point about waiting for life to be fair, or taking action to change the way things are.
All I ask is that you take the initiative to follow the system for at least 30 days (without too many questions), and see what happens.
Let me tell you it isn’t the book, the free plan, or your ex that’s holding you back…it’s you, and your lack of courage.
I do my best to “encourage people”, and you can’t always be nice to people who won’t take action…you have to shock (anger) them into moving forward…at least that’s my experience from doing this kind of support.
I wish I could be your good buddy, and have you like me all the time…but I would rather see you succeed, and be happy again…that’s my goal.
So, if you’re looking for support to follow through with a plan…this is the place for you.
If you’re looking for a shoulder to cry on while you procrastinate…that’s what all the other forums out there are for.
This goes for every member…don’t think you have to be here, I built this forum for “serious” people…not cry babies. 
This will be a battle to regain your life, your happiness, and hopefully your ex…so you must stay focused, and work hard…OK? 
I have my own problems, but I don’t cry over all you guys about them…I take action to solve them (while trying to help you too)…why don’t you all do the same?
My methods might sound a bit harsh, and cruel..but if you will take “positive” action, I will support you to the end, and you will feel better…I promise! 
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Hi,
My name is S. Williams and welcome to our Forum “How to Kick Loves Ass” which is the sister site to my Blog “How to Get Your Ex Back Fast”
I just wanted to welcome everyone to our system where I hope you will become strong enough to kick loves ass, and get your ex and your life back again.
The purpose of our self-guided system is to help people follow a plan and to keep them from giving up when they feel like doing just that. There are a lot of marketers out there selling books to the broken-hearted…but none of them are giving the kind of support needed by the majority so they can succeed.
We Do!
Together we can help each other help ourselves, but you must do your own research, a lot of the same questions have been answered over and over again here in our forum, the free plan, and on my Blog.
Your mission is to take the time to find them BEFORE asking members a lot of questions.
Remember I am only one man and the other members are busy following the plan as well so some common courtesy (doing your own research) would be appreciated.
Any suggestions on how to improve our forum please email me, I am open to suggestions but not questions about your relationship…OK let’s get started!
This is a quick start guide to help you understand how to use our forum to get the most out of it for your unique situation…let’s get started!
You just joined the forum and want to know what to do next.
OK, here’s what you need to do.
*Note – If you don’t have the book “The Magic of Making up” I really suggest you get it.
If you can not afford the book right now, use this Basic Free Plan to get yourself started until you can afford it, OK?
Yes you could in all probability piece together your own plan and figure out how to manage your emotions just by reading the 100′s of posts here and on my Blog along with watching the videos.
But let’s face it that could take weeks…right?
If you’re really serious about getting your life and your ex back invest in a book and use our forum to it’s fullest potential.
Now while you’re waiting to get a book, you can still initiate NC use this Basic Free Plan to get yourself started.
UPDATE – I know everyone needs a place to put down their bad thoughts, but on our forum is just not going to work…it is very counter-productive. I suggest using a journal as suggested by another member who obviously didn’t take his own advice and is now gone for good.
Write all these crappy feelings, doubts, and fears in there and watch as they slowly disappear. At the end of your journey read them over, laugh and burn the whole fucking journal and watch all your past fears and doubts go up in smoke…and the new you rise like the Phoenix from it’s ashes.
There is really no place on our forum for them they will only spook everyone else…make sense?
It’s like being on an airplane and talking about plane crashes, and a bad dream you had about one the night before.
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Important Note – I want everyone that properly initiates no contact to start ONE topic in the forum called “My No Contact Diary” and then post all your thoughts, questions, and progress under that same topic.
Also I want to you to buy a note book to become your daily NC journal, in here you will post your worries and fears (NOT ON OUR FORUM IT IS NOT ALLOWED) and watch as they slowly fade with work and time.
I also HIGHLY recommend that you write anything you want to say to your ex in here and wait a few days before actually sending any messages, chances are you”ll come to your senses and not blow your NC.
This is why I believe it would be much better for each member to post their daily (Bad) feelings in their own personal journal (diary).
1. It will be kept personal this way, once you post it on here it stays here, don’t email me and ask me to delete it (I won’t even delete my brain farts like “S. Williams…Why Listen to him? Any better Ideas?”). Sometimes later after you calm down you sometimes regret posting and it is too late, but if it was in your journal no one else will see it but you…make sense?
2. Negative thoughts and doubts about about the plan working and helping you get your ex back hurt every struggling member in our forum. This is why so many people get blocked, they spew their emotional baggage all over everyone else.
3.Peoples “dramatic” topics as they post every word their ex has sent them tends to become a “soap opera” situation and people come to the forum just to read the next “dramatic” installment. This is NOT what our forum is all about it is all about laying out a structured plan along with “positive” support to help people following the plan in the book MOMU.
Now don’t get me wrong I want to hear “all” your positive” progress this inspires the others, and me as well. I am not going through a breakup but I have a lot on my plate and I am going through my own evolution which I will share someday when I feel it’s time.
I hate being a “hard ass” but someone has to keep this place from going over the edge, right?
In the end you can read back through this and see all your progress, and then burn it and watch as the “new” you rises from it ashes like the Phoenix.
Hopefully this will cut down on the clutter on the forum, and help everyone follow each others progress, and STAY POSITIVE…OK?
I am just trying to make it easier for someone who is inspired by another member to be able to follow that members evolution…make sense?
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FORUM BUDDY SUPPORT SYSTEM – Since everyone in our forum is basically in the same boat (going through a break up and trying get their life and their back again). You can support each other as well through PM’s, email, and IM’s, this way you can have someone to talk to without spreading it all across our forum.
Having a bad day talk to your buddy and they can do the same…make sense? I know it’s hard and you can’t discuss your plan with friends or family because they will just shoot you and the plan down, right? I hope you can understand why I can’t allow it to be posted on our forum.
Quick Note – If you abuse someone’s trust and start harassing a fellow member you will be blocked from the forum…OK? 
NOTE – Do not contact me with questions that have been answered in the forum, I will not answer them. Use the search link at the bottom of the forum to search for the answers to your questions. This is a self-guided self help forum…you must help yourself and others as well.
This is what I suggest for EVERYONE who is in a breakup or a sort of break up situation.
Why?
Because you have to completely break your old relationship before you can build a new one with your ex…make sense?
Just like when a broken bone heals incorrectly (crooked), the doctor has to re-break and reset the bone, in order to make it right you have to break it again (NC).
This is why it is always a bad idea to try and save the old relationship…it will always be crooked and never right…make sense?
People who are already in divorce proceedings try to get a separation instead and then get some marriage counseling.
You can always use our forum/plan after the divorce to win your ex back again, it has happened before.
If you are not in Divorce proceedings and have recently separated, and want to attract your spouse back to you, then follow the same procedure for a Break up along with some marriage counseling.
I hope this has shed some light into the cold dark place you now find yourself. The members and I will do everything we can to get you out of there and back into the warm bright light again, but YOU HAVE TO DO ALL THE HARD WORK…OK?
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A Short Note About Getting Blocked (banned) – Getting blocked is NOT punishment it is for your own good as well as our forum.
This type of self-help program will not work for “certain” personality types. If you can not follow directions without doubt, and a lot of questions…do not join.
Unfortunately it just isn’t possible for one man to help everyone, so I focus on the people who will work with me, and the system, not against it.
Make sure you read, and understand the forum guidelines, and are ready to follow ALL the steps in the free plan before joining our forum.
Once you are blocked it is for good, no exceptions. I do not have the time to play court room, and “hear” people’s cases of why they should be unblocked.
You were warned here before you joined, and again before your forum account was approved, that should be plenty of warning for serious people…only serious, hard-working people will succeed with this program.
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NOTE – Do not contact me with questions that have been answered in the forum, I will not answer them. Do not contact me asking for personal advice, I will not answer them. That is what our forum is for if it is not worth posting in our forum, then forget about it. Use the search box at the top right-hand corner of the forum to search for the answers to your questions. This is a self help forum…you must help yourself and others as well.
Now remember you have a 50/50 chance of getting your ex back.
But you must get your life back first, and then either your ex will come back or they won’t…but what really matters is that you have your life back again….right? 
Now that you have read all the forum guidelines, and updates get started with the free system ASAP!
You’re personal/emotional evolution starts today, and your life will never be the same again…I promise!
