The First Step

Before you fly off the handle begging and pleading…seek out advice first. Many people will make this mistake at the time of the break up, but if you stop, and regain control you will not mess up your chances. This temporary insanity will not hurt your chances, it is pretty normal so relax, OK? You somehow feel that a timer has started at the exact moment that your ex broke up with you, like your relationship has an expiration date…it doesn’t.

If you can master your emotions to the point of leaving your ex alone, you have made the first step to answering the question; “how do I get my love back?” I recommend that you find a plan that will help you follow the no contact rule. This works in so many ways to heal both you, and your ex, and to bring you both back together again in the future. Please believe me when I tell you there is hope. The feelings you are feeling right now are just panic, doubt, and fear…they will pass with some help.

Do Not Make This Mistake

Once you find a plan don’t start watching the calendar asking; “so when will I get my love back?” If you are only focused on getting your ex back as fast as possible…it will take a lot longer. You are probably saying “what do you mean? I wanted them back yesterday.” This is exactly what I mean. You’re impatience will distract you from your personal evolution, and this is a very important part of the process that will bring your love back again.

Time is not against you, it is on your side. This time alone will help your ex to miss you, and will give you time to explore what went wrong, and how to fix it when you get back together with your ex. Your mind is actually working against you because panic and fear are in the drivers seat. Don’t let this discourage you from following the no contact rule. The reason people fail to get their love back again, is because they give up hope. “How do I get my love back?” You find a good no contact plan, and you stick to it until you get your ex back.

Need Some Free Help Getting Your Love Back?

If you need a free step-by-step system to help you “get my love back”, I have one. I run a revolutionary Blog, and Forum that takes a whole new approach to getting your ex back, and it works! I don’t care how many books you bought or read. They are all lacking the most important ingredient, personal support, which is what I am offering you.

If you want help getting your ex back, join my free newsletter for access to a free step by step plan to get your life and your ex back fast. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

Until next time,

S. Williams

~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~

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“How Do I Get My Ex Back After All The Mistakes?”

The first thing you need to do is calm down. Believe me when I say it is still possible to win back the love of your ex. In fact they still do love you, love just doesn’t disappear. Remember that love doesn’t turn on and off like a water valve. People can say they don’t love you, but that doesn’t make it the truth. “So, if they still love me why did my ex say something like that?”

The reason they said that is because you were begging, and pushing them for a reason for the break up. They had to tell you something to get you to stop, right? Once you stop thinking it is true, you will come to realize why they said it in the first place. If you want to get your ex back you have to believe that you can, because they still love you. No matter how many mistakes you made, and what they might’ve said to you.

“OK, So How Do I Get My Ex Back?”

The first thing you need to do is send an effective no contact message. How will you know what to write? I will tell you, OK? A good no contact message needs to be direct, and emotionless. This is a great example of an effective no contact message:

I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.

This will turn the tables on your situation and flip your ex’s switch. You just went from needy, begging, and heart broken, to confident, and in charge…you have some big decisions to make. After you send that message stick to the no contact rule. If possible find a good plan to follow that will help you personally evolve during your no contact period. “How do I get my ex back now?” You stop begging, and take back control of your situation.

Need Some Free Help Getting Your Ex Back?

If you need a free step-by-step system to help you “get my ex back”, I have one. I run a revolutionary Blog, and Forum that takes a whole new approach to winning back your ex, and it works! I don’t care how many books you bought or read. They are all lacking the most important ingredient, personal support, which is what I am offering you.

If you want help getting your ex back, join my free newsletter for access to a free step by step system to get your life and your ex back fast. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

Until next time,

S. Williams

~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~

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Why It Won’t Work

While it is true that women tend to bond through the act of making love, this isn’t always true with men. If you believe that the time you spend together after a breakup having sex is going to help you repair the break up, you are dead wrong. If anything you are helping him “move on”…how? While you are fulfilling his sexual needs/desires, you are helping to “tide him over” while he searches for another woman to replace you. Plus how will he ever start to miss you?

Being friends with benefits with your ex boyfriend will only make your current relationship worse…think about it. You will try to pull him close, and he will pull away. You will get the old “I love you, but I’m not in love with you” line as soon as you try to turn sex into a commitment. You will start to become more attached to him after every love making session, but he will only be thankful for the easy sex…that’s about it.

Do Not Let Yourself Become His Prostitute

This friends with benefit set up will start to look at lot like an arrangement between a prostitute, and a client, only instead of making any money, you will come away feeling empty after a while. You probably didn’t realize it when this all started happening, but you were really not interested in the FWB arrangement. You were subconsciously hoping this would get you back together with your ex, right?

So now you’re thinking how do I get out of this arrangement without making him mad at me? Unfortunately there isn’t really anyway to take away the goodies, and not make him angry. After all you agreed to this type of situation, right? Even if you didn’t really agree to a FWB arrangement, you didn’t stop it from happening, huh? Don’t worry there is a way to end being friends with benefits with your ex boyfriend, and get him back.

Need Some Free Help Getting Out of The FWB Zone?

If you need a free step-by-step system to help you get out of the friends with benefits zone, I can help you. I run a revolutionary Blog, and Forum that takes a whole new approach to winning back your ex, and it works! I don’t care how many books you bought or read. They are all lacking the most important ingredient, personal support, which is what I am offering you.

If you want help getting your ex boyfriend back, join my free newsletter for access to a free step by step system to get your life and your ex back fast. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

Until next time,

S. Williams

~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~

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We will also debunk a lot of the misconceptions about using the no contact rule to get your ex back. After reading this article you should have a very good understanding of what to expect when you properly initiate the no contact rule.

The Break Up – Why You Need to Properly Initiate The No Contact Rule ASAP!

Chances are very good that you’re reading this a little too late, but let’s discuss this anyways, OK? Everyone’s first reaction after a break up is to get their ex back no matter what, this leads to begging, pleading, and even using “guilt” as a tool to get them back. But what happens?

That’s right, they become even more distant, and this drives you nuts, which causes you to keep repeating the above cycle. You continue until they either change phone numbers, email addresses, and whatever they can do to stop you from contacting them, or you give up and start to look for help. The bottom line is…the sooner you stop chasing them (contacting them) the sooner the healing process can begin. Now, next we will look at a great example of a no contact message to send to get the ball rolling, OK?

The No Contact Message – How to Write and Send The Proper No Contact Message

Now that you have come to your senses and want to make real progress in your attempt to win back your ex, it’s time to write and send your NC message.

A Good NC Message (if they broke up with you)

Hi,

I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.

A Good NC Message (if you broke up with them)

Hi,

I do not regret my decision to break up with you, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.

A Good NC Message (if they broke up with you, and you share child custody)

Hi,

I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time, unless it concerns our children. I will be in touch when I am ready.

A Good NC Message (if they broke up with you, and you share a business)

Hi,

I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time, unless it concerns our business. I will be in touch when I am ready.

Now!

If you’re not sure if you’re broken up or not (maybe just taking a break)…then use this form of that message to get yourself out of “Relationship Limbo”…OK?

Hi,

I think that we need to take a break, I really believe it is the best thing for both of us right now. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.

After you have chosen the appropriate no contact message, how should you send it? My answer is whatever way you know for sure they will get it, and read it…or what’s the point, right? But! You do not want to call them and tell them over the phone…OK? Why?

Because they might hang up on you, and if they don’t they will probably just tune you out…make sense? Plus you want them to have a copy to read over and over (which they will, believe me). Next we will cover…The purpose of the no contact message, OK?

The Purpose of The No Contact Message – What The No Contact Rule Does And Does Not Do

Once you send the NC message and your ex tries to contact you, you MUST NOT reply to them, OK? But!

There will be instances when you need to interact with them, such as:

1. You share children and must discuss matters pertaining to them.
2. You share a business, or work in the same place.
3. You have shared financial matters.

In these circumstances you just need to be polite, and do not get lured into a discussion about yours, or theirs personal life…that’s it. For more information about this topic please read the following article: Learn How to Get Your Ex Back Using The Infamous Missing Link

No contact for the most part is to keep them from knowing what is going on with you personally they will become more and more curious. This will help further down the line when you’re ready to set up a meeting to reconnect in a new relationship with them…understand?

Now to address some common questions about using no contact:

1. Won’t it look like I am ignoring my ex therefore making them angry with me?

NO, you sent a NC message asking them to not contact you, so if they ignore your request and contact you about things other than the ones explained above you have every right to not reply. Usually what they are trying to do is get you to break NC so they don’t have to worry about what you’re doing. You think this is a good thing, but it’s not…why?

Because as long as they know what you’re up too they will never want you back in a relationship, why settle when they can have their cake and eat it too, right? They get to play the field while you heel like a nice little puppy. For more information about this topic please read the following article: Learn Why Your Ex Will Not Leave You – 2 No Contact Rule Myths Shredded

2. Won’t I just drive them into the arms of their new boyfriend or girlfriend?

They are already there, right? If not the no contact strategy will not make them do it, and if they do date someone chances are it’s to make you jealous, and when it doesn’t work, where does that leave them?

Now for a quick overview of what using NC will do: When send that NC message you’re telling your ex you agree with the break up and are no longer “chasing” them. You’re in a sense turning the tables and flipping a switch in their heads. They’re used to you pleading and begging and now you suddenly stop…why?

What are these big decisions you have to make…is it about them? Is this decision about whether to give up on ever coming back to me…what if I went too far? The emotionless “clean” message you sent them will have them guessing and putting you on their mind…that’s where you want to be. Next we will discuss what the no contact rule is really all about.

What The No Contact Rule Is Really About – 30 Days and The Healing Process

When you initiate the no contact rule you’re in fact putting an end to your old “failed” relationship with your ex. You know the one that’s been dying for some time…get together…break up…get back together…breakup again…etc. This break up is actually the best thing that could’ve happened, it was time to move on…move on from that bad relationship.

Break ups do not mean the end of you and your ex ever being together, this is the most important thing you need to realize during your NC time. You need to put all this behind you and heal yourself emotionally, and prepare to come back and reconnect with your ex…when you’re ready, do not rush through no contact…YOU WILL FAIL!

So What Do You Do While Your In No Contact?

Well here’s what you don’t do…sit there counting off 30 days and expecting your ex to come back like magic. Find any reason (no matter how lame) to break NC and contact your ex out of fear they won’t remember you after 30 plus days of NC.

There is much work to be done during NC and the faster you stop working against the break up and start working with the right tools, the faster you”ll be ready for reconnection, make sense? During your time alone you will make a list of the pros and the cons of your relationship to figure out if you even want your ex back.

Once you calm down and start thinking you might realize it was a bad match after all, or you will see that it was a great match but there were some issues. List these issues as something to work on when you get back together with your ex later on.

You also need to examine your past relationship to see where it started to fall apart, ever clue you uncover will give you a better chance at getting your ex and keeping your ex, OK? The bottom line is NC is not a 30 day thing, it is taking as much time as necessary to calm down, and evaluate your emotional state, work on the past problems, and plan for the future…with or without your ex.

How Will You Know When You’re Ready To Reconnect With Your Ex?

When you call and ask them out to a short meeting (coffee) and they say “no” and you can calmly accept that without panicking, there is more chances to do this later on, right? The fastest way out of relationship limbo, and the “Just Friends Zone”, is to properly use the no contact rule, and stick to it.

Free Step-By-Step System

Just in-case after reading all that you’re still scratching your head, I can help you understand, and I will do it for free. I run a revolutionary Blog, and Forum/Chat Room that takes a whole new approach to getting your ex back, and it works! I don’t care how many books you bought or read…you haven’t seen anything like what I have to offer you.

If you want my help to “get my ex back”, join my free newsletter for access to a free step by step system to get your life/ex back fast. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

Until next time,

S. Williams

~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~

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Winning Back Your Ex By Pulling

When you chase your ex boyfriend he will most likely run. This is the first, and worst mistake you could make when getting your ex boyfriend back…Why? Because you want to pull him towards you not push him away with unwanted attention, and contact. This is where the no contact rule becomes your best weapon to get your ex boyfriend back. I know you’re wondering; “How can I get my ex boyfriend back if I do not keep in touch with him?”

Well, once you stop chasing him he will start to feel as if he has pushed you away for good. He will wonder if you are gone for good or what? Now you are back on his mind, and that is how it starts. Getting your ex boyfriend back with the no contact rule works. So you see that winning back your ex boyfriend is a lot easier if you pull him towards you, and not chase him away by pleading for his attention.

Getting My Ex Boyfriend Back After No Contact Starts Working

Once you have your ex boyfriends attention again what do you do next? The best way to use the no contact rule to help you get your ex boyfriend back, is to take it slow once he starts coming around again. Most women go crazy, and jump the gun, and start professing their undying love, and start apologizing for everything.

All this should be done slowly and carefully. Tread lightly when you start getting your ex boyfriend back. Do not let your success with the no contact rule go to your head there is still a lot of work to do, and you will need a good plan to follow. Winning back your ex boyfriend will take time and patience. I suggest finding some good information with a plan to lead you through the rest of the process. Using the no contact rule as a tool to getting your ex boyfriend back works…if done correctly.

Don’t Let This Mistake Stop You From Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Why would anyone do this? I mean, do you really think by randomly searching the internet, that you are going to succeed? You need a plan, a plan that works, and you need it now. It doesn’t matter if you get the plan I recommend, or someone else’s, just get a plan, and start following it…OK? I will coach anyone who has a plan, for free, so stop wasting valuable time, and get busy winning your ex back. If you have any comments or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP! What can I do to help you get your ex back? What are you willing to do to get your ex boyfriend back?

Until next time,

S. Williams

~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~

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What The Rulers Know

They know that nothing comes without hard work and sacrifice. What are you willing to do to get your ex back? If you really mean that then here is the first “key” to ruling the no contact rule. You must have complete emotional control. This means you have to be able to cut your ex loose, and not worry day and night that they are going to get mad and leave you.

Guess what? They already left you and now you are in relationship limbo waiting for “something” to happen. Stop waiting for “something” to happen and “make” something happen. Get to your local library for some free information on self help, using this information will make you a ruler of the no contact rule, because it will give you complete emotional control.

You Can Not Get A Little Pregnant

And you can not “just try” using the no contact rule and expect it to work. You must believe in it and understand how it works. You have to stop contacting your ex, be polite but be firm and just do it. If you have developed emotional control as I suggested earlier, you will be ready and able to do this. OK, now what?

If your ex contacts you, do not reply to any emails, texts, or calls. If you run into them in public just tell them you need some time to think about “things.” This will send a strong message that you are not satisfied with the current relationship you have with them now. If you break down and start contacting them again out of “fear” of losing them, you will eventually lose them for good…Why?

Because this little arrangement is going to get stagnant someday…and just die along with your chances of getting back together with your ex. The no contact rule can save you from this fate if you know how to use it correctly. Even though I have shared some great tips with you about the no contact rule, you will need need a great plan, make sure you go read the free plan to get your ex back fast on my Blog. If you have any comments, or questions for me about using the no contact rule, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP!

Until next time,

S. Williams

~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~

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