Comments on: Should I Give Up On Getting My Ex Back?

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 13:36:48 +0000

Hi,

You need to get your life back as a single person, and stop looking for someone to complete you.

Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

You must let go of the past if you ever want to make it to the future.

Take Care,

S.W.

By: cody simons

cody simons — Sun, 26 Dec 2010 21:43:47 +0000

i kept begging her via text for almost a week after the break up.. i called her once and meet uo w/her once. the results were the same, she wanted to stay apart and she wanted me to leave her alone/give her space. we stopped talking for almost 3 whole days. i couldent take it and i talked to her. i just told her i missed her and stuff, she said she was really sorry for hurting me. and that sometimes she still thinks of me. but she tells me to think of other things, not her, dont worry about her.
im finding it verrrrry hard to let go of all we had, while it seems very easy to her.. i cant imagine doing/being with someone else. i ask how she doesnt feel that way. she says she doesnt think about stuff like that.
im just curious that if i truely leave her alone shell miss what we had and eventually want me back. i havent really had no contact with her yet, or ever at that. it dont make snese how she could move on so fast.
id love advice, thank you

By: cody simons

cody simons — Sun, 26 Dec 2010 21:38:05 +0000

my girlfriend of 2+ years broke up w/me 2 yweeks ago. we were each others first love, first everything! we live in the same hometown about 4 minutes apart. im in college but its only 45 minutes away, and shes still a junior in high school.
there were several instances during our relationship where i did stupid things that hurt her. i texted a girl i used to like, only talked, nothing more, i also called a girl sexy through text to my friend and she read it. the last thing i did was not tell her happy birthday more than 2x. i only said it via text once. i know it was dumb..
a week later she textx me an says im done.. i ope we can be friends. i begged her that i could do better. that we were both getting used to me going to college. that next semester i will have plenty more time for her. i promised her i would never hurt her again. she wasnt buying it.
she 1st went from: being mad and upset tht she has to do this, to asking me if i was talking to girls, to finally saying this is what she wants and i need o move on, and focus on school work and friends.

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Sun, 09 May 2010 22:15:21 +0000

Lovely wrote:

I feel bad bc when i had him i was so mean and called him names and he lost both of his grandparents while we were together so now I feel guilty please help Scott

Hi, You can't change the past, but you can shape the future. Go read the free plan, and follow ALL the steps...focus on shaping the future. Take Care, S.W.

By: Lovely

Lovely — Sun, 09 May 2010 17:35:30 +0000

Basically, after 3 years of living with B (who is not quite my ex but we are in (limbo) I moved him in my apartment in NYC after about 2 weeks of knowing each other. I had completed my bachelors degree and began to think about the fact that he hadnt had a job the entire time we were living in together. However, he was faithful, loyal and committed to me n my flea market accessories sales biz and he always took care of my son Elijah. But of course my head got BIG and I thought I was to good for him and began to make plans to move down here to FL which originally he was part of the plan but I ended up moving without him and realized 2 weeks later that it was the biggest mistake of my life. Buck always showed he loved me he did want to move but I told him he couldnt because he didnt have a job. It seems so senseless now and im crying. I moved here September 30 he visited once in February and I went through his phone and I saw numerous texts messages with various females. Now the one that only had eyes for me is emotionally gone. He was supposed to come for my Bday in March and canceled (I paid for the trip) I rescheduled for April he canceled again. He says he loves me but doesnt know when he will be able to move here. He was also in an accident recently but the insurance company says that he can move and still be covered but his excuse is he needs to save money b4 he moves down. The thng is I dont think he wants to move down here anymore. So as of Thursday night I havent called him. I just sent him the no contact message but im scared bc we have not ever gone more that 1 day without speaking and he hasnt tried to contact me. I feel bad bc when i had him i was so mean and called him names and he lost both of his grandparents while we were together so now I feel guilty please help Scott…Im 30 he will be 24

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Wed, 13 May 2009 17:32:17 +0000

Ben wrote:

Hi Scott!
Didn’t know whether to post here or on forum, after I read you’d be posting more in your blog, and then here forum..

Ben, I think you have it backwards.

I am not answering questions on my Blog anymore I want people to join and post their break up story first in heart break hotel (so the other members will know a little background about your breakup) and then go and post your questions in the appropriate forums.

You can either start a new topic or use the existing one that is already started in the heart break hotel.

The forum is much better because other members will help you, and the forum is much easier to search for information.

I was only using the blog until I had a place like the forum.

Anyone who does not join and participate is CRAZY this is the best free tool out there.

There are other members just waiting to help you, and I am in there as well.

Come on in…we are waiting to help you get your ex back.

By: Ben

Ben — Wed, 13 May 2009 15:00:59 +0000

Hi Scott!
Didn’t know whether to post here or on forum, after I read you’d be posting more in your blog, and then here forum..
Anyway I was just wondering if it is truly time to give up. I got MoMU, did 30 days NC, improved myself, reconnected, talked about our problems, I tried to fix them, dated for 2 months, things went great, popped the question of getting back together,then 3 weeks later she tells me she just doesn’t feel it for me anymore.. and wants to be just friends. I’m not over her so I’ve again initiated NC, this time I intend for longer until I can handle just being friends. I’m not sure if I should move on like her or try it all over again. It sure is depressing though, knowing likely she is gone for good this time . I thought she was the love of my life. I’ve got your newsletter recently. What is your advice? Thanks

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Mon, 11 May 2009 12:31:27 +0000

mary wrote:

hi scott,just thought that i needed some advice from you.

I also answer questions in the forum, in fact I am going to answer them more in the forum then on the Blog now that the forum is open for business.

The comment box will now be used to ask for clarification about what was said in the the article above it.

Why don’t you go post your break up story in the forum titled heart break hotel, then ask your question in the appropriate forum after that…OK?

I think it will be way easier for people to find the answers they are looking for in the forum, opposed to searching through the 100′s of comments on the Blog.

Use the blog to read articles, comments, pages, and to watch the videos.

If you want to use your own picture, or image just check the “Sign me up for a free Gravatar!” box below and follow the instructions.

See you in the forum!

By: mary

mary — Mon, 11 May 2009 01:15:52 +0000

hi scott,just thought that i needed some advice from you. I have been using the NC rule and it has really helped alot, i have really got my head around alot of issues with my ex.what a want to do is have contact with him but he lives in another country so i can only email him or text.I did have contact in March 09 and he was very kind but there has been no contact since.I have said some really hurtful things to him and don’t blame him for not wanting to contact me.He was no saint either…do you think i should send him the clean slate method or just hang in there with NC. thanks

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Sun, 10 May 2009 20:57:17 +0000

Becky wrote:

Plan? Yes, I’ve been using the Magic of Making Up.

Hard to keep track with all the people who email me, and ask me questions on the Blog and in the forum.

Becky wrote:

My ex lives 3,000 miles away, and I thought trying to reconnect by email would be less abrasive then calling him, since there is a three hour time difference between us.

Your best chance to reconnect is when you can meet face to face.

I would stop sending emails and work on a plan to get to where he is.

Have you joined the forum?

I want to people to join and participate.

If you don’t want to help and support other people, then I can’t help you either.

I am only one person that means you people have to start helping each other…period.

That is why I worked all week to set up the new forum…go use it.