Relationship Break Up Advice The Real Secret To Surviving A Breakup

 
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I want to share the real secret to surviving a breakup.

This is not like the usual relationship breakup advice.

Like, how to get your ex back.

It is a secret.

Well, it is not really a secret.

But this fact is so obvious it is overlooked all the time, so, it might as well be a secret.

Right?

It is no surprise things get overlooked when coping with a breakup.

But it is the “little things” that usually make the biggest difference between a happy ending, or a sad ending.

So pay attention, OK?

Keep on reading to learn how to make your relationship breakup a happy ending.

 


 

Why Do People Breakup?

 

Contrary to what most people believe, breakups are not always about “falling out of love” with your ex.

Or your ex falling in love with someone body else.

That is the drama speaking.

Most couples break up because they are going through a growing cycle in their relationship.

What is a growing cycle?

A growing cycle (as I have named them) is when one of the happy couple gets more excited than the other about this relationship, and, wants to move to the next level.

Their partner isn’t quite feeling the same way as their mate, and, then the friction begins.

A breakup is on the horizon.

The bottom line is one of the happy couple is not “happy” any more.

Does this mean they are falling out of love with each other?

No, it means that some compromising is necessary so they can both be happy, and continue to grow as a couple…make sense?

The sad fact is most (if not all) couples blow past this opportunity to compromise, and end up making things worse.

If you can understand this, you can survive a breakup, and, become an even better couple.

 


 

Why Do Some Couples Never Seem To Breakup Or Fight?

 

OK, some couples “seem” to evolve romantically at the same time.

This doesn’t mean they are a better match.

It means either one of them is lying or just being complacent, or it is one hell of a coincidence.

Lets face it.

There is no perfect match, or romance, they all have their faults, rough spots, and growing pains.

Check this out.

A romantic relationship is like a living force, it is born, it grows and matures, but does it ever really die?

I say it doesn’t.

It just changes form i.e. boring marriage, friendship, friends with benefits, hate, indifference, etc.

A relationship breakup is really just a chance for your relationship to grow or shrink, it is not the end of it.

 


 

What Is The Real Secret To Surviving A Breakup?

 

Psst! Come here, and listen up.

Here comes some great relationship breakup advice.

The secret to getting over a breakup is…letting go of your ex.

What?

If you let your ex breakup with you, how is that helping?

The first thing you have to realize is (in most cases) you can’t stop a breakup from happening.

If you try to delay the breakup you will only increase the anger your ex is feeling at the moment which will result in a bigger rift between the two of you.

The bigger the rift, the longer the healing time…make sense?

If your ex wants to breakup don’t resist it.

Ask if you can talk about it when you are both calm, but, if they refuse…let them go.

The goal here is to prevent things from getting any worse.

You will have a better chance of getting your ex back, of you do not resist the breakup.

 


 

The Tale Of Two Relationships – Who Will Survive The Breakup?

 

There are two relationships at risk during a breakup.

There is the present relationship, and the future relationship.

What do I mean?

Most people crush their chance of any future relationship (or make it a lot less possible) by trying way too hard to save the present relationship.

My friend, the real security you are looking for is in the future relationship.

The one that happens after surviving the breakup, when the relationship grows to the next level, and becomes even stronger.

Nothing makes an emotional bond stronger than surviving a breakup together.

It is a fact that humans emotional bond more during a trying (stressful) experience than pretty much any other event they experience together.

What can be more trying than going through a relationship breakup together?

Is the light bulb switching on yet?

 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008, to overcome breakup pain, and, get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section, that I recommend you read.

I realize the address, of my site, is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but, I “really” teach people, how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me, (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter, for access to the free breakup survival plan, and, start getting your life back, today.

The answers you need, to start your personal evolution, are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come, and get them.

Once, you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. I just sent the NC message to my now ex, I wasn’t sure which to send, either that I broke up, or the we need a break message. It has only been 3 days today, and I just sent NC to him. I really want and need to work on me, and enjoy me. I’m not sure I will want a relationship with him when this is over, but if so we will be much stronger having survived this slipt. The above is very true advice. I’ve given it out many times. Now I need to heed it.

    1. Hi,

      I doesn’t really matter “who” broke up with “who”…you are broken up either way, right?

      I only created that version of “taking a break” for the people who were too frightened to use the break up version.

      Good job on sending the recommended NC message, now follow the rest of the free plan, and get your personal evolution rocking.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

      1. Just wondering if you think NC can be successful in making your ex changed their mind, in the case of someone like me.

        Basically our break came entirely out of the blue, it was a result of panic following a pregnancy scare and everyone, including me, was shocked. It was like a rash decision, everyone said “he’ll come to his senses etc” but me being the stubborn and fiercely proud person I am, acted as if I didn’t care, as if it was a long time coming, there has been no confrontation no arguments, I recently told him I didn’t want to see him as we had originally planned – for closure etc. I said I was moving on nicely, realised the faults in our relationship and that this was all for the best. Wished him a happy life and that’s it. I’ve followed no contact from day 1. When he ended things – over text I may add – I didn’t respond, I called a few hrs later and he reiterated his text so I replied calmly and ended the call.

        Will he be confused or hurt by my emotionless response? Will it have made him rethink anything?

        I know our relationship was wrong and I’m already lookin forward to the day when I am in a truly happy relationship, I don’t want him back. However he hurt me so irrevocably that I just want him to regret things.

        Thanks.

        1. Sandra League said:

          Just wondering if you think NC can be successful in making your ex changed their mind, in the case of someone like me.

          Hi,

          You are not using the no contact rule correctly if you are using it to try and change your ex’s mind about the break up.

          I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

          Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

          IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

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