The no contact rule means “no contact” at all, including birthday/holiday greetings…read the plan.

This plan is about getting your life back, not your ex boyfriend.

You must focus on following the plan, and not on what your ex is doing.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

Did you send him the recommended NC message as outlined in the free plan?

If not you need to send the correct message for the best results.

Your ex boyfriend likes the drama and the attention it gets him, he needs to grow up.

You have to let completely go of the old failed relationship (and your ex) in-order to move past it.

You can use the no contact rule to reveal his true feelings, and evolve past the break up.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

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( Just for your info, I attach a slightly modified message he sent me 4 weeks ago. I sent NC 1 week after. I do not know what to do…

“I think it’s best for both of us to stop seeing each other. It’s certainly not fair on you to keep meeting up when I know I’m not fully committed to getting back together.
Anyway, the things that you said to me made me (=My jealousy reacting comments) realise that I was being cruel and it’s wrong for me to keep meeting up with you when I know you’re desperately hoping we’ll get back together.I have been tempted to call you to go out, but I’ve decided to start being responsible and thinking of other people instead of myself. The truth is that I don’t think us getting back together us going to happen. You’re a wonderful girl, beautiful, smart and so, so good, perhaps the kindest person I’ve ever met, but I just don’t feel it’s going to work. I’m starting to think now that my life will be one lived alone and I think I’m happy with that for now – I’ve been on my own for a long time now and that’s just the way things have panned out. I want you to know that you’ve made a real difference in my life (you really have taught me so much) and I know we’ve had some great times together. The truth is that you’re the closest thing I’ve had to the real thing and one of the few women who’ve really persisted with me in the face of all my bad habits and hang ups, and that’s something I won’t forget.I know you’re going to be upset by this and I’m truly sorry, but I know that there are some great things waiting for you out there and you’ve only got to say the word to make them happen, so I know you’ll be fine. But do know you can always count on me if you ever need my help or are in trouble – I know you know that. One final thing, I do love you in my own way and I think you know what I mean by that by the way that I’ve always treated you. I’ll understand if you don’t reply to this so if not.”

What do you think I should do… He is very insecure and had difficult childhood..

Am I supposed to just go NC till he contacts? He might be too scared to even contact me…

It is not too late to start using the no contact rule and get your life back, and in the meantime reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

Why?

Because…

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1″ rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

This was my nc message: “Hey I’m sorry idk what I did but I’m sorry for whatever it was.. I hope ypur happy and everything works out I really do.. If ya still want to be friends or just talk cool if not I understand. Wish ya the best” His response “You didn’t do anything!!! do wanna talk soon. I can’t tell you how sorry I am” me “No don’t be its cool ya when your free would be nice if thats ok?” then I texted him the next day and he was busy then he texted me the following day and I was busy .. I texted em back that night and haven’t heard from him since. That was Oct 18 I left it alone since then I don’t know what to do, we haven’t spoken. Wish found your website before hand so I would’ve done exactly what I was suppose to :/

It doesn’t matter what you said when you broke up with him…you are broken up, right?

I help people use the no contact rule to evolve past a break up, and reveal their ex boyfriend’s true feelings.

I also help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

The fastest way to get him back is to get your life back first.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

PS – Use the recommended NC message (no changes) for someone who broke up with their ex.

I broke up with him with him while drunk and din’t remember. For the past 3 weeks I have done everything to get him back. Began with the pleading, begging, promise I’ve changed, staking attitude. We became friends with benefits ( he was clear about not seeing me as a girlfriend for him anymore due to me disrespecting him immensely while drunk) yet we slept 3 times, all initiated by me which he reminds me of often.

I have asked for a last chance various times and he says he just can’t see me the same way after I crossed that line of respect, however I am not willing to degrade myself to the point of being his “prostitute”.

At the beginning when we spoke of what went down he had told me that he still wanted to be friends but that it was best to not see each other for a while, of course I ignored that and chased him hoping to change his mind till it came to this. It has been 3 weeks since the breakup but we have taken no time apart.

Now I was thinking the message should go something like “You were right when you said we should not have any contact after what happened….”…..since my intention was not to break up with him and I don’t really remember since I was drunk, and he hasn’t broken up with me, he simply won’t give another chance.

I know this is off topic, but what are the chance of getting him back when I have hurt his ego and he lives off of his pride? He obviously cares and desires me, I hurt him a lot but now it’s more about his pride then anything else.

I appreciate any input….yesterday we made love and then he sent me to sleep in the sofa because he didn’t want his family to assume we were working things out….which is what drew the straw for me.

Our relationship was only 6 months long (although long enough for me t fall in love for the first time)….and we are both in our late 20′s if that is of any importance.

I know you will be successful using the no contact rule, and the free plan to get your ex back to evolve past your break, and get your life back.

All you have to do is stick to the plan, and take it one step-at-a-time.

I wish you success!

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

It’s been almost 2 weeks.Although I admit I fell off the wagon several times in those 2 weeks, but finally, just today, 20th JULY 2011, I made a decision to finally get my ex back! My FORMER SELF back!Not him, but my old nice self!I have been clinging to the relationship and to the person for quite sometime. Although we’ve been in a demolition zone type of relationship for over 4 months, still I wanna believe that there’s still hope and chance. Primarily because he hasn’t said pointblank that it’s over. But his actions speaks louder! But yesterday I tried to make a discussion about us, about the changes, is there still a relationship, does he still loves me and needs me just like before. But what i received is a very sweet reply of ‘WHATEVER’! That ‘whatever’ is a revelation. A revelation to finally change direction, turn my back on him, let go, and finally move on. I don’t know what came into me. From the lovesick puppy dog few months ago, here I am stronger than ever. Your site did a great help! I always do a lot of readings from blog posts, your writings, everything. And i thank you so much! I may not be able to get my ex back, but I am certain that I will get my old nice self back! And that’s the victory I will have in this battle of life! It’s not yet too late, I believe. It’s not my loss, but definitely my gain! Praise God for the revelation. And thanks to you S. Williams! More power to you and to this site!