The no contact rule is not magic, it’s common sense. Do you really think 30 days is too much to ask, for a lifetime of love? You only have 2 choices, really. Use it for 30 days, or spend the rest of your life right where you are now. The funny thing is that most people choose the second choice…do you?
No Contact Rule – Point 1
When a person moves neither forward or backward, they are just stuck…is that you? This is the kind of “limbo” the no contact rule will break you out of. People believe it is better to “play it safe” then to take control of their situation. You are sorely mistaken if you think this is the easiest way to go. In fact it is much harder than using no contact to get your ex back. So, ask yourself; “Why am I doing this?”
No Contact Rule – Point 2
I mentioned that you might think that using no contact will be “too hard.” What exactly is “hard” about it? I know being away from your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife is hurting you. But you can fix this problem, and you’ll have to start with yourself. Why? Because you’re the one convincing yourself to do nothing, and put up with the pain. You are already in pain, so why not use no contact to end it?
No Contact Rule – Point 3
There is no set amount of time to use no contact to win back an ex. People seem to think there is, when in fact every break up will be different. For instance, if this has been an on going problem (break up every other week), as compared to a simple little fight that just got blown out of portion, each resolution will be different. The first example will take longer to solve then say the little fight that just went overboard. But, in both cases using the techniques in the no contact rule, will bring both couples back together faster. So you see, do not focus on the amount of time it will take, focus on a positive outcome, instead.
No Contact Rule – Point 4
Most people do not know how to correctly use no contact…do you? If you think it is only about not contacting your ex, you are mistaken. There is so much more to a good no contact plan. The reason people are failing with NC is because either they don’t have a good strategy, or they refuse to follow a good plan. Both cases are a no win situation. You have to understand one thing right now. The chances of your ex coming back on their own, without you taking some positive action, are very slim, like winning the lottery, very slim.
No Contact Rule – Point 5
Another factor most people over look when using no contact, is support. You need to have someone, whether it is a close friend or relative, to keep you steady, and on track with your NC plan. The trouble here is that most of the time your friends, and family will not support your plans. They become a thorn on your side, instead of a strong force to steady you. It’s not their fault really, they think they know what’s best for you, but they don’t, you do. You won’t be able to move on, or live a happy life until you know for sure, if it’s really over between you and your ex.
Most people can not do this all by themselves. That is why it is wise to find someone who will help you. If you are emotionally unbalanced you need someone or something to keep you in balance…Right? You need a plan, a plan that works. If you want to survive this break up you’ll need help. Wouldn’t you rather spend 30 days or more (if necessary) to solve this problem, than to have to live with it the rest of your life? If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP. So I ask you; What can I do to help you better understand the no contact rule? What are you willingly to do to you get your ex back?
Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?
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