Make Your Ex Boyfriend Come Back – Use This Secret Weapon

If you want your ex boyfriend back you need to learn how to use this secret weapon. It is a secret because most people choose to ignore it, did you? Before you can succeed in getting your ex back you must master this technique first…what is it you ask?

Make Your Ex Boyfriend Come Back Faster And Easier

Do you believe that we are the masters of our own destinies? If you do, then you realize that you must first master yourself, before anything else, correct? What’s the first thing that happened when your ex boyfriend told you he wanted to break up, or just take a break for a while? Suddenly you pictured the rest of your life without him…right? That’s a pretty big conclusion you just jumped to…why? Most people tend to panic first, and listen to reason later. If you can reverse that situation, and not even panic at all, your quest to make your ex boyfriend come back to you will be quick and painless…sound good?

If you can stop yourself from panicking long enough to let that sink in, you’ll start to see the bigger picture. If you want chances or odds, they’re about even at the moment, and they will shift back and fourth, as you do things wrong, and then do them right. But, what if you do them right, right from the beginning? That’s right, the odds will always be in your favor, and get better with time until you get your ex boyfriend back again…excited yet? If you do the opposite of what 99.9% of women in your situation do you will get better results, and win back your ex before they do.

Emotional Control is the Key to Winning Back Your Ex Boyfriend

Make Your Ex Boyfriend Come Back The Painless Method

This seems to simple doesn’t it? Well, it is really that is why it is over looked. Most women try throwing themselves at their ex to make their ex boyfriend come back…doesn’t work. Even if it does…not for long. Try to remind them about how much they said they loved you…why? This will only make you sadder, and them more distant. If they promised to love you forever, and you throw that up in their face, you’ll only drive them away. Who wants to be reminded of a broken promise? No, what you want to do is to attract them back. Your panic needs to be replaced with a plan. A plan to keep you on track with daily progress, and self-control…understand?

That was the hard, ineffective, and VERY painful way to make your ex boyfriend come back to you. Now, let’s look at the “painless” method…OK? I had referred to using a “secret weapon” earlier in this article, and now I will tell you what it is, if you haven’t already guessed it. Emotional Self Control E.S.C. This is what will be the difference between success and failure, hard and easy, painful and not so painful ( I know I said painless, but you know what I mean, right?). You must take the time to get your emotions under control first, and then use a plan to work things out and get your ex back. You are going to be light years ahead of all the other women out there in your same position. Use this method to make the pain go away, and make your ex boyfriend come back.

If you have any questions about how to do this (learn E.S.C.), or about your current situation. Please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP. I just want to ask you one more question; Fast and easy, quick and painless…or slow, hard, and very painful, which method would you prefer to use to make your ex boyfriend come back? Let me know what I can do to help you get your ex back?

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people for more than 3 years to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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  1. Hi …..how are u? Thx for helping me out here.
    I was in a long distance relationship for 7.5 months the first few months were great after a month of talking online phone he came to see me we spent half the day together. It went very well as soon as I got home I had an email that we are meant to be together……and yes all the other sweet stuff that comes after. (I saw him few times) end of oct his company was bought out and he would not have a job he was stressed out about that and with me sending emails I’d prob get one email in return after that to after a week or so. Than in mid Nov after he didn’t have a job he wouldn’t initiate any emails and no phone calls (he doesn’t have a cell) after my emails ……I would be lucky if I got one email after a week or a couple of weeks. Sec of Dec I found out about a couple of lyes and that got me mad I sent him some nasty emails on Facebook and deleted him and he blocked me. And the next few weeks were hard for me ….I sent him cursed to pleading and begging emails. None of it worked and got one kinda angry email from him ….but nothing like don’t email me. I was on fb and saw his exgf and his pic up as a profile pic so I guess they are back together. Even today if I email him I won’t get an email back. But I’m sure he reads all of them. This is my third day I havnt contacted him.
    Please help me! I really really do love him!

    1. Hi,

      I guess the loss of his job didn’t stress him out so much that he couldn’t start messing around with his ex girlfriend, huh?

      As usual, these “lame” excuses are used to cover up the fact they don’t want to be in a relationship, and they just don’t have “the balls” to say it, so they play games.

      You don’t have to play games, get off FaceBook, and delete anything he sends you.

      If you use the no contact rule correctly you can evolve past the breakup, and reveal his true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

      1. Ok I’ll try that, I do love him …..but if he wants to be with his gf …I guess I can’t do nothing. I just wished he at least called me so I could have closure. He does have another fb account where he keeps it private from the general public. I found that out a couple of weeks ago. Anyways I hope the no contact rule works. Thanks

        1. Hi,

          Don’t “try”, trying is an excuse to fail…DO IT!

          You can do it…you can give yourself “closure”.

          Use the no contact rule as outlined in the free plan, bury the failed relationship with your ex boyfriend, and get your life back.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  2. Please help me…

    I was in a 6 month relationship with someone who was great in every sense. My insecurities led to get drunk and curse him out. the third time I broke it off with him and literally told me he was not a man, this was days before he had a big surprise planned for my birthday. 4 days later I called him since i didn’t remember what I had said. he told me I left him dry inside. hurt him so much when all he did was love me. He said he wants us to be friend but in the future and that is best to not have any contact. This happened 3 weeks ago……..Since then I have cried begged apologize and sore I have changed and will never speak without thinking first. At first he ignored me and told me all was said…..since then we have made love once. But I have told him him it will not repeat since I don’t want to be friend with benefits. he told me either. He says he cares for me but after what I did he can’t imagine himself with someone who treat him so bad. If given the chance he would sleep with me, but he he says he can’t see himself in a relationship with me….I have tried not contacting him, but the fear of him moving on and forgetting about me keep me in contact. We are like a couple with the exception of sex and him reminding me that he has left everything clear to me. Even his family is telling me to give him space but he has a very big ego which I crushed…..It all has been my mistake. That’s why I am trying so hard. I love him so much, but I hurt him really deep. I made him cry like a baby when I wrote him card….sorry if this is too much info….. The point is when you love someone, you want to be in their presence. I love being in his company even if it hurts not to have the title of girlfriend anymore, and it hurts even more to think that I can say anything if he decides to date someone else, although his family says he is not that type of guy. My plan so far has been to hang out with out drama so that he sees that things are different and by staying in his life, his feelings for me won’t die out.

    1. Hi,

      I can’t help someone who is NOT willing to help them self. You have to do your best to overcome your insecurities, and not let them run your life.

      If you are not willing to fight to get your life back, who will?

      I help people properly use the no contact rule to evolve past a break up, and reveal their ex boyfriend’s true feelings.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  3. I recently was dumped by my boyfriend of 1 year (4 days before our one year anniversary). He heavily pursued me and couldn’t get enough of me for the first 5 months of our relationship. We planned to move in together as we both moved East together, and things had very serious intentions. I was invited everywhere, we both met each others families regularly, and all our friends knew and spoke about how this relationship was different then either of us had ever felt before. When we arrived on the east coast, I had left a job to freelance and he was beginning a new high-pressure job with a family business. On his first day of work, I felt something was wrong and we had a discussion in which he admitted that he didn’t want to live together anymore. His reasons (that he told me) was that he was terrified of losing me if something went wrong and that he didn’t know how to balance the priority of having to focus 300% on his career and his desire to always put me first. He was very emotional and cried, stating he was afraid I would leave him. It was obvious to me that all the change was a real shock to him and he became frightened. From this point on things changed, and we split our time between two apartments. He travelled frequently, I found myself “depending” on him more and more for my entertainment and happiness without knowing what I was doing. He began wrestling more and more with the fact that he was in “the real world” now and regressed by needing more and more time with his college friends on his weekends. He still kept in contact and was as devoted as ever emotionally, but I could feel the shift in his ability to face our commitment and due to my growing unhappiness. As time passed and we spent less time together, I felt we were growing apart. Not emotionally, but literally in time and space. As my unhappiness grew, the less he wanted to include me and the more I became someone he just came home to. This went on for several months. He would always see it, we would discuss it tentatively and optimistically (but not in depth enough to bring relief) and say things would be better and that this was just a rough patch. Things would be ok. As you can imagine, we had less fun together and it was much less light hearted with all the pressure building up. Emotionally, our feelings remained the same but there was an unspoken trouble. Each time the issue was raised, even whether or not we would/should continue together, the answer was that it was natural and would pass as we adjusted. Family, work and life continued to merge together.

    The week before our breakup had been spent with his mother, him telling me it was a good chance for me to bond with her, him sitting with my family, etc. Before memorial day I had a bad night where I was stressed about work. I was brooding, quiet and preoccupied. His frustration in not being able to relax me was tangible. The next day on a car ride he admitted that he was having questions about being able to handle the pressure of making me happy and balancing his career. He said he felt the same way, and had since we met, and that it wasn’t a change of heart. We had a long emotional chat, both of us cried, and after a small breather he retracted his statement and said he was excited to work it out. It was a “good thing” we had talked he said, we discussed a plan and talked about WHY things were happening. I felt completely relieved and he mentioned that he could feel the change for the better caused by our honest discussion. He said he didn’t need to think anymore. We said goodbye and went to spend the long weekend apart with our plans. I heard from him normally that night, but the next day he started dropping off my radar. Over the long weekend I gave him a lot of space, contacting him once a day in a light-hearted manner just to keep in touch. He never initiated, which is unusual. By the end of the weekend I asked him what was going on. I told him I was happy we had our conversation the week before, that I was excited to make changes and that his words and our chat had a big impact on me. He said that “to be honest” he was still thinking things over. After a confirmation/small repeat of the things I had said in our chat the week before, I told him I was not going to contact him to give him the time and space to think it over. He waited 2.5 days after the weekend apart before calling me and asking to come by that night to chat.

    4 days before our one year anniversary, he ended things with me. When he arrived, he told me he couldn’t balance everything. He had brought most (not all, perhaps by accident) of my stuff and began taking his things. He cited that we hadn’t been happy, he still felt the same, but that he just couldn’t handle the pressure. He kept using phrases like “wanting to keep the door open” and how he “couldn’t bear to have me hate him” if things continued and I remained unhappy. He referenced his upcoming travel (the majority of 2 months during this summer, beginning one week from the conversation) and his fear that I would be miserable. He kept stating how he didn’t want to lose me in his life, that I was the most amazing woman he had ever met, there was no one like me, etc. and that if it was “meant to be it will be”. He was so emotional that his face was shaking not to cry and he hugged me twice. We kissed once. He said that he wanted to be friends (to which I said no and he said he would assume I didn’t mean that) and that he would call me when he was back from his trip, I would see him again (he said that several times) and we would do coffee or lunch. I “discussed” with him a little and made it obvious I did not agree with his reasoning, as I had meant what I had said in the previous convo and was already well on the way to regain my happiness, independence, and fun mood. Of course, the more I said the more he resisted and said “he had made up his mind”.

    The day after the breakup, in the evening, he texted me asking if he could come by to pick up his spare car key the next day as he was selling his car. I had known about him wanting to make this sale, so the reason was not fabricated. I waited until the next AM to respond simple “sure what time”. He wrote back a time range, and said he would also bring a jacket I had left at his place. That he would call me when he got to my area. I wrote back (in order to take control) a specific time within his range and said only “3 works”.

    He called me when he was 5 minutes out from my apartment, and began talking as he would have updated me in our relationship (minus the pet names etc). Telling me in detail about his work plans, weekend plans, referencing his family, discussing the potential sale of his car that day, etc. He chatted for about 3-4 minutes, joking and easily, asking me how I was and getting a simple “good but super busy” type general answer. I was pleasant, happy and let him lead the convo completely. He mentioned that he had forgotten one or two things of mine to bring me, and said either “that at least he gets to see me” or “would get to see me again”. As he neared the subject of his arrival, I told him I had another call to end the convo first but that I would bring down the key when he arrived and to call me. (There is no street parking so that was an unfortunate necessity). I made sure to look amazing, had changed my hair color, lost weight in our time apart that he hadn’t really seen during the 30 minute breakup, and wanted to be sure I looked good. I came down and handed him his things, waited for him to hand me mine, and said bye and walked away. I was composed and not rude or cold, but also evidently not interested in discussing or intending to stand around to chat.

    Our breakup was 11 days ago, and this exchange was 8 days ago. I did not initiate contact once and have adapted the no contact rule since the breakup, only responding when I knew he needed to pick something up from me to conduct a transaction. 3 days ago, 5 days after our last interaction, he left on an international trip until the end of the month.

    Since then, I have followed all the steps in The Magic of Making Up and haven’t broken the NC rule at all. I went out and got my motorcycle license, got accepted to a new graduate school program, went out with friends, and even used the facebook trick of hinting that a guy might be interested on my wall. I feel great, rational and that I’ve added value to myself/returned to the fun person he met (to demonstrate that the days of no fun/moping are over) for MYSELF and not “for him”.

    Please help! Are there any special circumstances related to him traveling that might cause me to need to extend my NC time? Right now my plan is to wait until he returns from the trip, as he said he would contact me after he got back. Generally, he is very level headed and does exactly what he says. I know that our emotional bond and his attachment was very serious and deep. I want to be sure I handle this in a way that permanently gets me back to independence, confidence, happiness and being the pursued instead of the girl that sits at home needing him! I am working hard to not just demonstrate that, be really BE that and am doing great! Am I missing anything?

    1. Hi,

      There really isn’t a plan outlined in the book The Magic of Making up for correctly using the no contact rule, that’s why I created the free plan.

      For the best results use the free plan as your step-by-step NC guide, and MOMU as your relationship adviser.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back.

      Take this one day at a time, do not try to look too far ahead.

      As you emotionally evolve past the failed relationship, the answers will come to you.

      Be patient.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  4. so me and my ex have been broken up for a week now. and honestly hes confusing me. he says hes not in love with me but he loves me. he also says that he has the exact same feeling for me but he just doesn’t want to be my bf. we’ve broken up once before(but it only lasted 6hrs before he begged me to take him back), im afraid that hell find someone else before i get the chance to finish the NC thing.(he also wants to be fwb but i dont think im gonna do that) so what im asking is whats his real feelings? how can i get him back fast and STAY together?

    1. Hi,

      Unless you want to keep breaking up and getting back together, and then repeating the same cycle over and over again, you need to change what you’re doing, right?

      As long as you worry about getting your ex back, you won’t personally evolve past the break up and get your life back, and until you get your life back, you won’t be happy.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the Steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  5. I was seeing this guy for about 8 months and we have known eachother for about a year now. He told me everyday that he loved me and that i was perfect for him. We are both 18 and he was pretty much my first boyfriend. I loved him so much and I could tell he loved me. Everything was going fine Until a couple days before we broke up he acted weird and I asked him if he wanted to be with me and he told me that he didn’t know what he wanted anymore so I asked him to meet up with me the next day and he agreed. So we met up and we barely talked at first, then he had to go so I walked him home and we were talking like old times and he had his arm around me. When we got to his house he hugged me and then made out with me . Then he said “I’m gonna miss you” and walked away. I texted him the next day saying “so I guess you sill don’t know what you want?” and got no reply. I haven’t talked to him since except 2 days ago when I sent him a message On myspace saying I hope things are going good and that i thought this was good for us. He still has me on his top friends and it still says in a relatioship but he deleted me off facebook. I’m just really confused. I love him and want him back and it’s only been a month with NC. Do you think he will come back?

    1. Hi,

      If you want to get your life back, and reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you…follow the free plan.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      Scott

  6. Hi,there’s this guy I’ve bn seeing for a while now. Thing is, we always fight without actually enjoying the relationship. 3mths ago we had a major fight and we stopped talking or seeing. I miss him and I’ve bn calling him lately. He says we’re still together but that things won’t be different until I change. I don’t think I’m the problem though. What should I do?

    1. Hi,

      I can help you get over the break up and get your life back…focus on that first, and then worry about your ex boyfriend later.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  7. She left 4months ago an moved to another state, been NC for 2months now. I never begged or asked her to stay (but I did make it clear I would move with her if she wanted me to), I respected her wishes when she said she wanted to go and needed some space and to take a break. The first two months only had a handful of conversations. She was cold and it was tough, mostly because they day she left me she said she loved me and that we would get through this. Now she lives 2,000miles away and has a new bf I’m told, but she asked about me recently and how I was doing. People told her I’m diong great. The thing is I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing, NC, lost 15lbs, go out with friends, even went on two dates….but I still love her deeply. I can’t get over that I will never see her again, and it kills me. I feel like she abandonded me and just erased me from her life, when we had such a great relationship. She could never give me a reason for leaving me other than she just didn’t want a relationship and needed some space, but now she’s with some new guy? I feel so hurt but won’t talk to her, is she going to realize she made a mistake someday. I loved her with all my heart and the day she left we were both crying in each others arms and now it’s like I don’t even know her. It’s awful. It’s been 4months since I last seen her an 2 since we last spoke. I feel dumb for wanting her to realize and come back to me.

    1. Hi,

      I don’t know if you’re following the free plan (NC), or not.

      If you are following the free plan you should know it is NOT about getting your ex girlfriend back, it is about getting your life back.

      You MUST get your life back first, focus on that, not about how to get your ex girlfriend back, and you will start to see things turn around for you, OK?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  8. Scott,

    After following your plan and three months of NC, I am meeting up with my ex next week. The call went well and he seemed happy to hear from me.

    The plan is to stay non-personal in the short meeting and just enjoy catching up. But, what do you do if your ex tells you that he’s started seeing someone?

    Thanks.
    Turtle

    1. Hi,

      Just change the subject saying; “we are not here to talk about our personal lives, let’s just keep it light…OK?”

      If you don’t think you can hear something like that without losing control…you are NOT ready to reconnect.

      It sounds like you have been focusing too much on getting your ex back, and not on getting your life back.

      That will screw up yours/his personal evolution.

      This plan has, and always will be about getting your life back…not your ex, understand?

      Apparently not.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  9. I am really confused as to if there is any hope for this relationship. I have been on again off again for the past five years. This past time I broke up with him after becoming continually stressed with things going on at home. A week later he contacted me saying “im sorry, i hope you are okay” and the following three weeks was me calling him saying i needed him and finally giving him an ultimatum of being with me or not. He chose not.
    A couple of months went by and I added him on facebook. I also happened to run into him at the bank, and pretty soon he started inviting me over. I declined the first couple of times, but I went over to drink the other night. I played it really cool, maybe too cool. I was really forward with him and mentioned having sex with other guys. He started crying and asked “what do you want me to do” and i said “i dont know, just have sex with me” We did end up having sex and he kept crying and showed me letters I used to write him and pictures of us.
    I read the letters and asked “so can we be together” with no answer.
    When I left I asked again and he said “i dont know” and i said “what do you mean you dont know? You did last night” and he said “Really?” and smirked and left to work. I then called him last night and confessed my love to him, and that i was sorry, and if we would ever be together again. He said “i dont know, you cant come into my life so quickly and expect me to know right away” He admitted that he still loved me and cared about me but he kept on saying “why dont you just go fuck some other guys?” He also mentioned that he had been talking to another girl, and I’m so scared he will start dating her and completely get over me. I have already established the no contact rule, and I know I need to work on myself before I can get him back, but I just want to know if it will still work on him if I already ruined the first reunion and if he does end up dating another girl

    1. Listen…

      You are pissing me off Jane.

      Don’t keep posting on my Blog using different names.

      I gave you good advice…use , or hit the fucking road.

      I am a real busy man.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  10. Okay, here’s my confusing situation…y boyfriend and I been together for almost 4 yrs. We’ve been together as well for that long. Earlier last month we’ve been having issues about some serious stuff ( he wanted to have sex with some other girls or have a threesome w/ me and the other girl ) I told him that’s something that I need to think about and it’s not that easy to do. I honestly want to have a honest , normal relationship and while we had our up and down on that situation, my ex boyfriend started talking to me out of nowhere, he asked if I’m getting married anytime soon and I just told him about the issue me and my current bf having.. And I don’t think it’s gonna workout and I m gonna break it up some how.then my ex start telling me I shouldn’t agree to do what my bf tells me to do bc I’m better that that and blah blah…. And he said I still like you, whenever you break up I’m down to date you again. The think is I told him I like him too just bc he said he liked me but I may have
    gave him the wrong imperission, the truth is I told him we can hangout as friendsbut I don’t want to hook up with him, I need some times for myself bc I was in a bad situation. He freaked out and got mad at first as soon as I said, that and said “this world is a fucked up place and I’m going to sleep.” but less than a five minutes he came back and said he understand where I’m coming from and there would not be any pressure to do so but he’ll be there for me as a right now as a buddy. We talk every now on. He Sent me a friend request on facebook as well. The thing is I kinda feel bad for him I’m in a situation that I don’t know where this road would take me. I don’t want to make any promises and nor want to waist his time waiting for me till I break up with my current bf then start dating me. When I take to him I don’t talk about dating I only talk as a friends, bc I don’t think I have athe sane feeling for him as I used to have when we started dating while back. My current boyfriend apologized and begged me to not leave him he made a huge mistake he even brought something like that up and I said I’m happy that u told me instead of doing something behinde my back and everything went back to normal he improved and he admitted that he loves me to death and we do anything for bc im the only one for him and i trust him. . Bit I just don’t know what to tell my ex now. Bc he probably thinks either I’m trying to keep him around even I told him I’m not trying to hookup with him bc I think it’s wired and not right, or he’s just waiting for me to break up with my current bf, so he can ask me out again. But I do t know how to tell him that even if I become single I don’t think it’s a good idea for me and him get back together bc I only feel like being friends, and nothing else. I need a suggestion how to tell him that so he would not waste his time for me….

    1. Rosemov says:

      My current boyfriend apologized and begged me to not leave him he made a huge mistake he even brought something like that up and I said I’m happy that u told me instead of doing something behinde my back and everything went back to normal he improved and he admitted that he loves me to death and we do anything for bc im the only one for him and i trust him. . Bit I just don’t know what to tell my ex now. Bc he probably thinks either I’m trying to keep him around even I told him I’m not trying to hookup with him bc I think it’s wired and not right, or he’s just waiting for me to break up with my current bf, so he can ask me out again. But I do t know how to tell him that even if I become single I don’t think it’s a good idea for me and him get back together bc I only feel like being friends, and nothing else. I need a suggestion how to tell him that so he would not waste his time for me….

      Hi,

      Just tell him what you just wrote to me, be honest.

      You are not interested in dating him, but if he wants to be friends you are open to that.

      If he acts like an asshole, just ignore him, and do not remain friends with him anymore…make sense?

      Honesty is always the best policy.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  11. First, let me thank you for publishing this blog and taking the time to personally answer questions.

    I believe that it is possible for me to get back with my ex boyfriend. Sigh! It seems like this in turning into an on-again, off-again relationship. I broke up with him in 2008. We got back together but now I understand that it was a “premature reconciliation”. He broke up with me April 2009. I broke contact to wish him Happy Birthday in late 2009. After a couple of text messages, I went no contact again.

    My relationship with this man was my epiphany. Because of the pain the pain that I experienced due to the breakup, I started to become more self-aware. At first, I blamed him for the relationship’s failure but came to realize that I also had a part in the relationship’s demise.

    Okay, after 6 additional months of no contact, I got back in contact with him on May 29th through email. After three weeks, we then moved on to texting.

    Unfortunately, I am the only one initiating contact. I contact him every week or two just to say hello and keep the lines of communication open. He flirts with me and I flirt right back with him. The emails are always brief.

    After one month, I bought up the idea of a light lunch. No response.
    I let two weeks pass and sent him a flirty email. He then said that we could do dinner. The whole point of the dinner is to see if we still have the chemistry that we used to have.

    I’m quite nervous about the dinner. I’m not worried about sleeping with him on our first date. I didn’t when we started dating initially and I wont do so now.

    I am worried because I am the only one initiating contact, at this time. It seems that my interest level is much higher than his is. I am trying to stay in control of my emotions and I’m also attempting to keep my expectations in check.

    This is the first man that I’ve ever attempted to reconcile with. I’ve tried to forget about this man but it’s not happening. I’ve swallowed my pride and want to attempt this reconciliation. I don’t want to look back with any regrets.

    I have high hopes that we will reconcile but I am also at a point that I believe that I can move on with no regrets if it doesn’t happen. Again, thank you for all that you do for us.

  12. Hi Mandy,

    You can still use no contact even if you live together.

    Just keep your personal life to yourself, and only talk about things you need to discuss, like rent, and the bills you share together…other than that, just keep to yourself.

    To learn more about this take a look at:

    How To Win My Ex Boyfriend Back

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

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