Comments on: January is National Break up Month – How to Deal With a Breakup and Get Your Ex Back

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 21:01:48 +0000

Lynn says:

I’m currently living with my ex and I’m wondering how to apply the no contact rule.

Hi,

If you feel like he doesn’t truly love you, you must have a good reason, why ignore that?

Break ups are NOT bad luck, we create our own destinies.

You broke up because that is what you wanted/needed to do.

I would focus on moving out ASAP, and then using the no contact rule to evolve past the breakup, get your life back, and reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

Don’t be in such a hurry to get back together with your ex boyfriend, if it was meant to be, it will be.

Go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

PS – Here is a story about a woman who used the no contact rule while living with her ex boyfriend, and it was one of our forums first success stories too:

Heather Kicks Loves Ass

To read all her forum posts, just click on the “member” link under her picture.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 20:39:26 +0000

I’m currently living with my ex and I’m wondering how to apply the no contact rule. He’s been sleeping on the couch and I’ve been staying in the bedroom all the time. We haven’t been talking much as I’m trying to ignore him, but he doesn’t like being ignored and always comes and seeks my attention. He says he doesn’t love me nor does he want a relationship with me anymore and he even wants me to move out, but I can’t till I get enough money.

In the past we’ve had a lot of fights and said stupid things to each other, I said the most but only because I was scared of losing him, I just never truly felt that he loved me as much as he said he did and it frustrated me, so yes I blew up and acted foolish and said hurtful things, and I pushed him away. I really wish I knew how to get him back because I love him so much and I do want us to work out, I do want us to give it another try. How much time should I let go by before initiating any contact with him? Living together makes it difficult. =\

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 23:36:28 +0000

ana says:

I don’t want the power of the message to be diminished if he thinks its a “glitch”.

Hi,

First of all, good job on re-sending the NC message.

Secondly, the only “glitch” is the one in his brain.

You asked him not to contact you, and then he did…can’t he read?

He is just playing stupid to get you to break your own no contact, and answer him back.

Don’t fall for it.

Stay Strong!

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

By: ana

ana — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 22:37:34 +0000

I resent my ex the message again after a big blow up. I didn’t think he’d ever talk to me again but he did with some random message concerning an awful accident someone experienced on campus. I resent the mssage and he said “what, didn’y you arleady send me this..is this a glitch?”

I don’t want the power of the message to be diminished if he thinks its a “glitch”.

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 19:31:25 +0000

Gábor wrote:

I really need your help! I made all the mistakes what I should not do ( e-mail,sms terro,called her on phone, talked to her Mom,friend…)

Hi,

Don’t worry about how many mistakes you made, everyone
makes them.

Don’t worry about how much time has passed…it doesn’t
matter.

You’re in good hands now.

I can help you just go to the top of my Blog, and start following the free
step-by-step system, OK?

Take Care,

S.W

By: Gábor

Gábor — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 17:52:36 +0000

Hi,

I really need your help! I made all the mistakes what I should not do ( e-mail,sms terro,called her on phone, talked to her Mom,friend…), and now I do not how could make all right…I still love her..we broke up bit more than two month ago, we are not in touch since a month…I know that I could amaze her again, but she does not give me chance…

Please show me the way back!!!

Thanks,

Gábor from Hungary

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 01:21:34 +0000

K. Jones wrote:

I told her I agree with the breakup and we need this time for ourselves. She agrees and is so glad to have me in her life still. A week later someone tells me shes dating someone else and in love. 3 weeks later she turns her facebook to “single” and posts brand new pics with her make over. Well I bought the magic of making up and similar ebooks.

Hi, She is all over the place, you need to nail her dowm, and find out her "true feelings" for you. You need to follow the free plan at the top of my Blog. The books don't give you a total plan, and they don't fill in all the spaces...why? Because there are so many different situations it just isn't possible to cover them all...that's where the free plan, and support system comes into play. The free plan is constructed to work with the book MOMU. Don't worry about what you already did...just start completely over and follow all the steps in the free plan, OK? K. Jones wrote:

She even has a tattoo about our love that says “Forever”… I really need help winning her back but need to know if your system will work for me this late in the game.

I know there is a way to have a tattoo removed, but 4 years together doesn't get removed quite so easily. You have a great chance if you follow all the steps in the free plan, and use our support system. Take Care, S.W.

By: K. Jones

K. Jones — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 23:56:48 +0000

Hello. My ex and I are eachothers first loves. Not only that, it was a very deep and powerful love, unlike any I’ve ever seen before. We were together for 4 years experiencing and experienced the myriad of first love experience when we graduated and I preceded to do nothing with my life. She pulled away and I clung tighter. Then she dumped me. She cut me out of her life completely. I was heartbroken. For the first month I sat on my dads couch, cried, puked, shook, getting up every now and then to run to her house and get my heart broken again. Through the second month I stopped contact, started running, but still cried. Month 3, a friend set me up with a girl. We were publicly talking gf/bf talk through myspace but it was an awkward relationship. My ex then calls me drunk balling begging for me. I didnt want her then, I considered her a monster. She calls me the next day and tries to come back but I told her to stay out of my life forever. She told me “Okay, God put you on this earth to protect me so I will wait until the day I die for you”. I was crushed. Well we slowly got back together and it was 100x better than the first time. I got a job and we began to grow together. She loved me so much, I was the center of her world. Fast forward to 2.5 years later. We moved in to our first apartment together and things were great. I started playing an online game and eventually just took her for granted every day. I would say hi, run upstairs to play the game, and she would stay there watching tv for months begging for my attention. This caused me to pull away more. For the final 4 months she begged me to marry her. I told her not until we are better set financially. Then she got a new job, met a ton of new people, tried to get me to meet them but I wanted to stay inside and was very antisocial. She eventually told me she was going to move into an apartment when the lease was over with a girlfriend from work. I was shocked, it rocked my world. I completely flew off the handle with it. I demanded an explanation and when I didnt get any I broke up with her and took it right back the next morning. That night she said she was leaving then and not waiting for the lease. She stayed out super late and avoided me for the next week. Then we was gone. All of her things were gone and there was a letter. It said she had to go for a time of self reflection and this was not the end of the relationship but an indefinite departure. She ended it with “I’m sorry and I love you, I love you, I love you…”. I started chain calling her. Then she texts me saying hey. I told her I love her more than anything in this world and I accept this. It was my doing. I told her I should have married her when I had the chance and she replied with not even wanting to think about marriage anymore. I said keep a piece of your heart open for my and I’ll win it back she says “Okay”. 3 weeks later she calls about a bill and we start asking how eachothers doing. I told her I agree with the breakup and we need this time for ourselves. She agrees and is so glad to have me in her life still. A week later someone tells me shes dating someone else and in love. 3 weeks later she turns her facebook to “single” and posts brand new pics with her make over. Well I bought the magic of making up and similar ebooks. I researched exactly what to do but managed to miss this. Assuming she was with someone I read being friends helps win them back after the break up. Well I didnt work my way in enough for that I guess and now I may be in the friend zone… idk. We had a bill dispute so today she dropped it off. She called and told me about her life saying shes doing amazing. I told her I’m doing well, I’m working out to become a firefighter. I managed to tell her my life story when I should have left her wondering… I was going to call her soon and work my way into coffee and slowly work my way back in that way. Either that or drop the bomb and explain to her my feelings and that I really want to work the relationship out again. I’m totally lost. I feel like it’s too late to start a no contact letter now since I’ve been so happy and nonchalant but I really need help. What are your thoughts on this? She is the love of my life… She even has a tattoo about our love that says “Forever”… I really need help winning her back but need to know if your system will work for me this late in the game. Thank you in advance.

By: S. Williams

S. Williams — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 21:07:25 +0000

renee wrote:

Should I assume that, the very fact that he said” i need someone else” means his feelings had gone, hence hes very sure that he wants me to move on.

Hi Renee, You shouldn't "assume" anything. Use the free plan at the top of my Blog to find out his true feelings. Take Care, S.W.

By: renee

renee — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 19:14:46 +0000

Hi !
I gave my ex a second chance in Sept 2009, we first met in July 2008 – Septemeber 1st 2008 (3 months last year) was turbilent and good, like a roller coaster. This year, it was better, we had 6 weeks of greatness and jst a week of misundestandings. Then after Xmas, I dcided to end it by text, I have a bad habit of ending r.ships when I never mean it, I can talk but have difficulty being the one to iniate the “talk” about issues. that frustrated my boyfriend. after Xmas, he ignored for me a week, and on Monday 11th JAnuary (last saw him new years day) we spent the night together, in fact we were talking off marriage. Anwyay, he rang me on Monday after going out for drinks on Friday, (still me not knowing whether we were together or not) and he ended the relationship. I had admitedly sent him cruel texts, but I never meant it. I apologised. HE said.. i cant be with a doubter, someone who doesnt trust me. I said Ido and am sorry. HE said, you need someone to take care of you. I need you to find someone else.

I ended the call and begged for mins, then said ok as you wish.
I said to him during the phone call, only end it if you have no feelings for me anymore, he said “i dont have feelings for you”.

ITs been 4 days, and nothing from him. Although we get along, and liked each other, we were not on the same wavelength. I have sent 5 text yesturday, saying, i agree with your decision, who wants to be with someone who wants to give up on us. take care. then i sent another one sayin,g pls ring me.

HE didnt. He has never dumped me before, usually its me ending it, but he knows i never meant to, so we always “talk” when i push him away.

On facebook, he has made friends with a woman, goodness knows if hes sleeping with her. shes not pretty like me.

Should I assume that, the very fact that he said” i need someone else” means his feelings had gone, hence hes very sure that he wants me to move on. Or does it mean he loves me but gives up.

Please tell me, whats going on for him. I cant believe he moved on so quick, that last week when he ignord me, he accepted a party invitation!

Thanks very much.