I Have to Get My Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Back – A Love Addicts Diary Part 1

If you’re thinking “I have to get my ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back”, then you are a love addict fighting an addiction. If you think I’m nuts then just keep reading, I’ll prove it. That I’m right…not that I am nuts, although opinions due vary.

When Roxy Music sang that “love is the drug” they weren’t kidding. And this drug has more people addicted to it than anything known to mankind…and it’s legal. There are so many people struggling to get their ex back, and some probably don’t even know why…just that they have to “get my ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back” again…fast!

The Break Up And The Beginning Of Your Addiction

 

Even if you saw it coming (just like an on coming truck) that doesn’t mean it won’t hurt as much when it hits you, right? Let’s talk about what happens after your boyfriend, or girlfriend hits you with the “break up” text, email, or phone call (most people don’t break up face to face…too messy).

A Break Up Can Hit You By Surprise - I Can Help Put You Back Together Again

When the break up becomes reality, and your heart breaks in two, some kind of chemical is released that causes temporary insanity. This is my theory based on the medical evidence that when bones break, and the bone marrow seeps into your blood stream it can cause you to act very weird. So now you’re going nuts, and in this state of insanity you brainwash yourself into believing the only way to feel good again is to get your ex back again…sound familiar?

I believe the reason most people fail to get back together with their ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is because they never get any treatment for their addiction, first. You must come back to your senses before you can make any intelligent decisions about getting your ex back, make sense? If not it is probably because you are still suffering from your love addiction..it’s time for some rehab, and I can help you. Help you get your sanity, and “get my ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back” again, so keep on reading, OK?

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. Mr. Williams,

    (Wow…writing this and seeing my situation makes me feel very foolish!)

    My ex broke up with me 4 months ago after we failed to work out some very serious relationship issues (she cheated). At first she tried very hard to make things right and began seeing a therapist to understand why she did what she did. After she realized that it would be a long, hard journey to gain back my trust, I think she gave up. She said that she needed time to get her life together so that things could work between us but would communicate and sleep with me when it was convenient for her. Most of the time she would not respond to my texts or calls (probably because she was with someone else) and other times she would come hang out at my place and we’d end up having fun and sleeping together. This caused me a great deal of anxiety and depression. On a few occasions I implemented NC but we would take turns breaking it and end up going through the same pattern. Trying to hang on all this time was very foolish of me because each time we went through this cycle, I became more and more unwound. More and more depressed and anxious…and more obsessive. In the last couple weeks, my texts were pathetic. I became so upset when she would ignore my calls that I would text her incessently and beg her to talk to me. Finally we talked, we argued, she said I need help and that was it. I text her saying that I realize my behaviour was ridiculous but it was driven by her behaviour. I told her that I would not be communicating with her and asked that she not communicate with me. I said that maybe one day we could talk. That was 2 weeks ago and we have not spoke in any way since. I realize that I need to begin working on MY personal evolution and have set myself a short term goal of 60 days NC. At that time, I will re-evaluate my feelings and hopefully continue with NC. I know that I need to heal and let this relationship go…but part of me, at this time anyways, wonders about the future. I wonder if I will be able to close the door completely or if the fool in me will want to try to reconnect after I get strength and perspective. My question to you is, do I now resend the NC message that is part of the plan even though I have already sent one and had 2 weeks NC?

    1. SH said:

      My question to you is, do I now resend the NC message that is part of the plan even though I have already sent one and had 2 weeks NC?

      Hi,

      Yes, you need to send your ex girlfriend the recommended no contact message (no changes) as outlined in the free plan, why?

      Because it is very effective, and you will not be breaking NC, why?

      Because you are only contacting her to make your intentions perfectly clear, and for no other reason.

      If you are really serious about getting your life back, you will be prepared to stick to the no contact rule for at least 12 months.

      That should give both of you plenty of time to evolve past the break up, and the old failed relationship.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  2. A month ago my finance dropped the bomb on me. I went away for work and then things and she changed when I cam back 6 weeks later I went from her to zero on the last night after I decided I was going back to my native country we reconciled and were together again. 2 weeks after I got back thats when the bomb dropped. It wasn’t as much if a suprise because before we reconciled she said she needed time alone. When we officially broke up I was still devastated I got a few books including the Magic of Making up, I have followed it to a T I have taken care of myself this is my time, but I think of my ex alot especially in the mornings.NO contact is not easy but I have stuck it out for a month and half and my plan is too until she contacts me. The great things is I have been so productive seen so many friends changed my apperance everything thats in the book I have done and its what helped me survive no contact. My sleff confidence grows by the day. I have set out a date for myself when I will re-evaluate if she still doesn’t call me its about 3 months away at that time I may contact her for a couple reasons by then I should be ready and clear cool calm and collective and I will be back near her again only a 1hr flight away. I have given this an all or nothing approach there no in between I have had 0 contact. Mr Williams all I ask is your opinion am I on the right track and with this being a LDR does this changed things alot?

    Thanks for all your help each day gets easier Im actually afraid that when she does call me I may be the one who has lost it because she put me through this but tell myself respect her wishes respect yourself and she will respect you

    Thanks for everything your work is inspiring anyone in a break up I feel like I can help them now!

    1. Hi,

      Unfortunately the NC message/letter in MOMU sucks.

      That is why I created the free plan to supplement all the books out there that just don’t get the no contact part right.

      I would highly suggest no matter how long you think you have been using NC, to start over and follow the free plan.

      That means sending the recommended NC message without changes.

      Go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – And yes, it does cover LDR’s as well.

  3. Follow Scott’s plan to get yourself together. She sent that text for herself not to be evil to you. Maybe she thinks you’re evil for dumping her. Why don’t you just send it back to her? Then you can evolve and figure out what you want, too.

  4. I dumped my girlfriend 6 months ago, because I fell out of love. She cried, and asked if we could be friends. I thought this was easy for both of us, and told her if she wanted to hang out, she could give me a call. Later I text ed her to see if she was okay. She wasn’t.

    The weeks went by, and I partied hard and hit on girl on facebook. She was still on my friend list, but had deleted me the first two days after we broke up, but added me a week later. She didn’t talk to me, just sometimes online. And by sometimes I mean as in 4 times. One night I got too drunk and my friends wrote stupid things on msn, and my ex saw that, but didn’t react. The next day I asked her how she was. I didn’t know why, I just needed to talk to her. It took a long time for her to answer. But sooner enough she had to go.

    Then when I checked on facebook, I noticed she had added a guy, who kept hit on her. I was frustrated, and in rage. I couldn’t let it go, and cussed him out. My ex didn’t comment on it. After that I deleted her. Two days later she came with a letter to me. I couldn’t read it. Most of what was written in it, was that she wanted to be friends and agreed with the break up. She also asked why I had deleted her. That night i told her on it was because of that guy hitting on her. She didn’t ask why, and left quickly.

    After that I was depressed the whole week. I didn’t know why. I mean, I was the one who broke up right? At the end of the week I lost it, and started talking to her. She seemed occupied. I think I scared her with my demanding attitude. I kept saying” yeah, really nice, I just want to talk to someone OKAY!?!” After that she asked me to calm down and go to bed. After a few days she texted me asking if I was okay. I just replied “yeah yeah”. But then some days later She send me a new text telling she missed me. After a while, she send a new one telling me her cousin had stolen her phone and if he had written something to me. I didn’t reply. I was just too shocked.

    A few weeks passed and she didn’t talk to me. Even though I knew that new guy on facebook had to be fake, and just one of my buddies messing with her. But then she deleted me as a friend on facebook and sent me an all to familiar text. It went something like this:

    Hi,

    I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.

    I didn’t know what to say, so I just replied OK:D

    It’s been 5 months since then. On msn she didn’t talk to me, but updated know and then(in her nick) what was going on in her life. It was mostly about her family, school, her friends and some parties. One of them was an official graduation party I was going to attend too. I saw her there but didn’t talk to her. She was hanging out with her classmates, and seemed to have a great time. The next day I saw her and one of her classmates walk by in the park, and yelled out “(ex name), Hi!”. She seemed a bit surprised,but replied back hastily before running off with her classmate. (this was in may btw)

    I missed her a bit, and it hurt me to know she didn’t want to talk to me. So I started to talk to her on msn. She didn’t answer, and I think she blocked me. I tried to be subtle, by asking her how she was. I tried this three times, until I got a reply. But it wasn’t her. It was a friend of hers. She said my ex was doing great, and told me she had found someone much better. Then she started to cuss me out, but left quickly, because apparently my ex found out about it, and made her log out. After that I deleted her on msn. This happened in july. Now I don’t know what to do. I’ve finally come to realize I miss her, but I think she might hate me.

    Do you think I’m an asshole for dumping the sweetest girl in the universe? Even though she was kind off depressed before I dumped her, I have a feeling it’s my fault.

    And what’s up with that text she send me. It’s…I don’t know, evil of her? I thought she would always be there.

    1. Pelase scott answer me… I don’t know what to do…

      After realising that she had sent me the no contact message from this blog, I’m certain she got some adice from here. I read the free plan, and sent her the no contact messaqge 2 weeks ago. But she didn’t get it. I met her little brother yesterday at the arcade and he told me she had given him his phone one month ago, because she had gotten a new one by her aunt. I went online to find her new number, but didn’t find it(I assume she has a private number now…)
      So I tried to sent it to her through an e-mail just a minute ago, but one of our mutale friends told me she had gotten a new e-mail, because of some virus issues. I asked him if he could tell me her new one, but he refused to. He stated that he had promised her to not give it away to anyone for now, and that I should ask her that myself face to face.
      Should I give it as a note to her? Her family won’t even let me come to their house. They seem to hate me. Even though her brother is civil with me, he’s body languish tell me another story.
      Why do they act this way? Once they told me I was like a son to them, but today, they treat me like a stranger… What did I deserve to get this treatment from them?

      I’m so lost… 🙁

      1. Lurkking says:

        Why do they act this way? Once they told me I was like a son to them, but today, they treat me like a stranger… What did I deserve to get this treatment from them?

        Hi,

        Don’t worry about what they say or do, just send your ex the recommended no contact message, mail it if you have to, then follow ALL the rest of the steps in the free plan.

        Send it as a singing telegram, now that would be interesting..lol

        Take Care,

        S.W.

  5. natalie10 wrote:

    I just said ill meet u for coffee an got no reply im not contacting again is it wise to wait or send the nc

    Hi Natalie,

    I am not annoyed at you, but you do not know what you’re doing, and that’s because you will not commit to following the free plan on my Blog.

    Leaving comments on my Blog is not going to help you as much as having the “guts” to use our forum for support.

    That is why I opened the forum, so people could help each other.

    It is filled with people going through the same thing as you.

    You support them, and they support you…it works great.

    Better than emailing me, or leaving comments on my Blog.

    I don’t mind answering a few questions on my Blog, or through email, but I built the Blog, and the forum as a “self-help” tool to help people help themselves.

    I would never be able to keep…I am only one man, and I have to sleep sometime.

    I devote more time to answering people in the forum than anywhere else, because everyone who asks me for help should eventually end up in the forum after I tell them to follow the free plan.

    If you want to succeed you have to do this right.

    Take Care,

    S.W

  6. Hi scott sorry I annoyed you before my ex was pouring his heart out last nite I ignored it all but did one daft text sayin ill meet u for coffee I’ve bein readin a guys post in the forum his ex started playin cool on him an you posted back tellin him to pull back an let her come to him he was tellin her he loved her again I haven’t done this I just said ill meet u for coffee an got no reply im not contacting again is it wise to wait or send the nc thanx

  7. sapphire wrote:

    U see,i actually suspended my account on the social site we are both on cos every time,he keeps puttin sumtin up i guess to freak me out.like he’s changed his relationship status.

    Stop trying to keep tabs on your ex, and follow the free plan.

  8. Hi Williams,
    U see,i actually suspended my account on the social site we are both on cos every time,he keeps puttin sumtin up i guess to freak me out.like he’s changed his relationship status.
    after sendin him the NC sms even though from a diffrent love/break up teacher which ended with a hint of a great thing that happend and guess what,i felt like reactivating my accout and givin a good comment on his choice of changing his status but i didn’t.have i done the right thing by leaving the socialsite and not commenting on his status?even though i got to see his status on my friends social wall on thesame site.

  9. natalie10 wrote:

    my friend thinks he will be worried what is going on I’ve made it like I’ve vanished from the planet is that too far scott

    Hi Natalie,

    No, that isn’t going too far.

    When he doesn’t know what you’re up to he will start to become more curious, and feel like he doesn’t have control over you any more.

    This will kick start his personal evolution, and that’s what you want to happen.

    It is all part of the plan.

    Keep up the good work!

    S.W.

  10. Hi scott thanx for helping me I’ve really battled myself today to not text him but I have done it I’m so proud I’ve gone from desperate breaking down looney to a getting stronger by the day new natalie I’m gettin a new hairdo the works am I progressing my friend thinks he will be worried what is going on I’ve made it like I’ve vanished from the planet is that too far scott thanx natalie

  11. natalie10 wrote:

    I’m so impatiant that’s why I broke the no contact but I have been faithfull to nc for 6 days which I have surprised myself.

    Hi Natalie,

    Don’t worry about breaking NC, as long as you resend the recommended NC message you put yourself back in control again.

    Follow the free plan, every step, and use our forum for support.

    Don’t look too far ahead, and just stick to NC, and you will succeed.

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  12. Thanx scott its nice to feel I’m not alone I’m so impatiant that’s why I broke the no contact but I have been faithfull to nc for 6 days which I have surprised myself.our breakup was both of us bein hot headedis it just my insecurerities telling me that I’ve lost him I think he’s texting my friend as a lifeline to me wat do u think ? Thanx

  13. Jim wrote:

    How do you join the forum?

    Go to the top middle of my Blog, and find the link for the free plan…read the instructions, OK?

    See you the inside.

    S.W.

  14. It was a horrible day… After 17 days she contacted me the night before to wish my daughter a happy bday and to compliment me on being such a great father. But this same person doesent want to be with me but is curious about how i am doing every time… I feel like i’m on a string, it does suck. How do you join the forum?

  15. Jim wrote:

    The message she sent to me yesterday was as follows, which i never responded back to, “thanks for sending them. it’s nice to see her so happy and bouncing around as always! hope it was a good day for you too! .”

    Hi Jim,

    My question to you is…was it a good day for you Jim?

    Being kept on a string with your heart aching…was it a good day?

    Don’t lie…lies only make things worst.

    And believe me it will get worst before it gets better.

    You have to break contact…that is NOT pushing them away…that is starting a personal evolution that will benefit both of you.

    If you follow the steps in the plan, and join our forum you will read post after post saying the same thing (won’t I push them away?) at first, and then they evolve, and the light comes on.

    This is a journey…not a destination.

    Start your journey, and send the recommended NC message word for word…no changes.

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  16. Should I wait until she contacts me next to send her the no contact letter? I just dont want to push her further away by sending her this message… The message she sent to me yesterday was as follows, which i never responded back to, “thanks for sending them. it’s nice to see her so happy and bouncing around as always! hope it was a good day for you too! .”

  17. Jim wrote:

    I pursued her for a few weeks with more flowers and gestures and eventually she asked me not to contact her anymore, i wasnt the man for her. Two days later she said who knows maybe our story isnt over, shes not sure.

    Hi Jim,

    Yeah…she’s confused, and if you don’t start doing things correctly things will only get worst.

    The best option for you is to follow the free plan on my Blog…follow every step, OK?

    You are on the most unique site on the internet, and we make things happen here.

    We don’t sit around reading books and hoping for the best…that rarely works.

    I have a system that really works…so use it.

    You can afford it because it is free.

    But, hey if you want to send me one million dollars when you get your ex back…I might take it. 🙂

    It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.

    Take Action Today!

    S.W.

  18. I was dating this girl for 5 months, she was more into me then I was her from the start, she chased me, we met each others kids and the four of us were doing things together including an overnight trip. We had a run in with her mother when she found out I was spending the night at her daughters house. My ex is a doctor and is on call often, her mother watches her daughter and her mother gave her an ultimatum about a trip we were taking, that if she got on the plane, then she would have to find someone else to watch her daughter. She expected us to respect her wishes about premarital sex. I never gave my ex an ultimatum but unwisely chose to tell her I loved her over the phone and discussed getting married. At first she was happy, said she was going to hire ananny,t hat it would take 6 months to hire one. She was cool for a week and then said she needed a break. That something wasnt right but she just wasnt sure what it was. I didnt respect that, sent flowers after a week and pushed her into taking me back which she did for two weeks before dumping me oct 12th. I pursued her for a few weeks with more flowers and gestures and eventually she asked me not to contact her anymore, i wasnt the man for her. Two days later she said who knows maybe our story isnt over, shes not sure. I asked her to return my personal property and she said she would drop it off while i was working but hasnt yet, its been three weeks. I have no sent her stuff back either, instead waiting for her to make the first move… We have exchanged a few emails and texts, I’ve backed off, she has intiated contact the last two times, last time being my daughter bday and again that night at midnight saying she hoped our party went well and we had fun. In a few of her message the past month, she says she misses me but just isnt ready. Other background information she just started a job at a new hospital, working 60-70 hours a week, when we first started dating her previous job was abot 30 hours a week… How should I handle this? I really love this girl, we have lots of things in common and both seemed to want the same type of future… i would appreciate any guidance you could provide. Thanks

  19. natalie10 wrote:

    Yes it makes sense I’ve become addicted because I don’t feel ill ever get him back because he says in texts to my best friend he’s moved on after I put it to him I regret texting him that x

    Hi Natalie,

    I have heard of people doing worst things to their ex (slashing tires, scratching cars) and they got their ex back.

    You are experiencing just what I wrote about in the above post.

    You need to follow the free plan, and start your personal evolution (rehabilitation).

    If you sit around without treatment you will only suffer, and make things worst by trying to reach out before you are ready.

    Get informed…get rehab, and then go get your ex back.

    I don’t care what you or your ex have said to each other.

    Unless there is a court ordered restraining order you, you have a great chance (50/50) of getting your ex back again.

    Even with an restraining order you still have a good chance, just do not send the NC message because it will probably violate the restraining order.

    Just wait until they contact you first then hit’em with NC.

    It will just take longer that’s all…there is always hope as long as you follow a plan to recover from your break up first.

    Keep following ALL the steps in the free plan, and don’t worry what people tell you…you can survive this, OK?

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  20. Yes it makes sense I’ve become addicted because I don’t feel ill ever get him back because he says in texts to my best friend he’s moved on after I put it to him I regret texting him that x

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