How to Use A Breakup Forum to Get Over A Breakup

 
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Your life post breakup will be a lot easier if you know how to use a breakup help forum to get over a breakup.

First off, you would have to be able to find (and identify) a good breakup forum before joining one, right?

If all of this seems confusing as hell, don’t worry.

The whole purpose of this article is to answer all these questions for you, and get you on the path to breakup recovery.

Oh, by the way.

I created and moderate a breakup forum.

Don’t just join my forum.

Please read this article and learn how to make an informed decision for yourself.

 


 

How To Find A Good Breakup Forum

 

Go to Google, and type “Breakup Forum” (without the quotes) in the search box.

This might seem stupid simple, but finding relationship advice shouldn’t be hard.

After all, don’t you have enough drama in your life as it is?

This search should bring up a bunch of results.

Now, try to find one that mentions having a plan to follow, the no contact rule, or getting your life back.

Why?

Because the quickest way to get over a breakup is to get your life back.

Contrary to what your broken heart is telling you: “I have to get my ex back fast”, you must get your life back first.

Once you find a breakup forum that feels right, go read some posts.

  • Is this forum active?
  • Do they have a forum buddy system? A place to match up members so they can support themselves outside of the forum.
  • How fresh are the posts?
  • Are people following a plan? Or are they all just complaining about how hard it is to get over a breakup?
  • Are they using the no contact rule in any way?
  • Does it seem like people are getting the breakup advice they need?
  • Is there a section for breakup success stories?
  • Are there any breakup success stories?

I highly recommend finding a forum that offers free support while using the no contact rule to heal your broken heart.

Why?

Because that is the most effective way to bury your failed relationship, and evolve past the breakup.

 


 

How To Use A Breakup Forum Correctly

 

Once you have found a place you can trust, join up and get started following the plan they offer.

The fastest way to get over a breakup is to stop procrastinating, and start taking action.

OK, now you are a member, and you are ready to heal your broken heart by evolving past the breakup, and getting your life back.

Here are a few tips for properly using a breakup forum.

  • Read a lot of breakup stories. Identify some members who you feel inspire you with their posts.
  • Contact these members and ask to become forum buddies with them.
  • Trade personal contact (email, IM) information ASAP. If the forum disappears (or you get banned) at least you still have your breakup help forum buddies contact information, right?
  • Keep your posts positive and inspiring. Don’t let yourself fall prey to self-pity. The fastest way to get your life back is to support/inspire others to do the same. Leadership by example works great.
  • Keep a home journal for those times you need to vent. You can always read it later to see how far you have come since those “dark” days.
  • Try not to vent on your forum buddy too much, use your journal. Remember they dealing with a breakup too. Help each other, don’t depress each other.

Just because you are moving on past the breakup doesn’t mean you are making a vow to never get back together with your ex.

Do not handicap yourself by thinking that way.

Why?

Because it will make you frightened to take the (necessary) action you need to take to prepare yourself for a new relationship with anyone…including your ex.

Beware of relationship limbo.

That is the place where people find themselves trapped because they will not let go of the past relationship with their ex.

Use a good breakup forum to get over a breakup, and get your life back.

You might even get back together with your ex in time.

One thing is for sure, you will survive this break up, and be a lot happier than you are now.

 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008, to overcome breakup pain, and, get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section, that I recommend you read.

I realize the address, of my site, is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but, I “really” teach people, how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me, (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter, for access to the free breakup survival plan, and, start getting your life back, today.

The answers you need, to start your personal evolution, are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come, and get them.

Once, you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

If you have any comments or questions, please write them, in the comment box, below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. Hi Valentina,

    First off, I am really sorry I never saw your comment when you first posted it.

    Something must’ve been going wrong with my WP theme, again.

    I know it’s way too late to answer your question, but, I will anyway, in case someone else is reading this post with the same type of question.

    It doesn’t matter if the relationship was made official, or not, if it felt like it was an exclusive relationship, you should treat the breakup accordingly.

    The no contact rule will help a person to evolve past emotional turmoil no matter what your relationship title was, it doesn’t matter.

    The only thing that matters is that you take back control of your life, ASAP, and sending your ex the recommended NC message is the best way, to do that.

    My best advice would be to unfriend your ex, and stop the flow of “bread crumbs”, and then send the recommended NC message.

    I don’t know of you ever finally joined our forum, but, I have updated my newsletter so that it walks new members through the whole process.

    I highly recommend that anyone wanting to follow the breakup survival plan should subscribe to my newsletter before doing anything else.

    Sorry for the incredibly late response, but, I never was notified about this comment.

    Take Care,

    Scott

  2. Hi Scott,

    I just recently requested membership for the forum. The e-mail said that to check out your links and I did. The link with the Forum Guidelines then said that if I had any questions that I should direct them here, so here I am. Before you approve or reject my request, and before I commit to this plan, I have one question. Does this plan also apply to relationships that were never actually official/titled (as in he never called me his girlfriend)?

    I will try to keep this as short and simple as possible. The guy I am in love with and myself had a whirlwind romance for half a year. There was only one problem. He wouldn’t commit and actually declare me his girlfriend despite him supposedly not seeing anyone else. We live in different cities, but we went to the same university and we were friends before we began to see each other, so I would like to think he is being sincere, but I don’t know. I think I pressured him too much into committing because he poofed on me only to come back two and a half weeks later to propose exclusivity (I think in part it was because he knew I was also seeing someone else who I then broke things off with) which we would have spoken in person about had it not been that nearly two weeks ago, he told me he went on a date on another girl, that his friends don’t approve of me, that I’m essentially crazy. He said he’d leave me alone, and yet, he’s been liking the majority of my things on Facebook. Breadcrumbs, I know, and a mistake on my part, but I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.

    I am so sorry if I am aggravating or this is such a silly question. It isn’t my intention to annoy. I just want to get my life back with or without him – I’m tired of crying at work.

    Sincerely,
    Valentina

  3. Hi S.W.

    Long time and no see! I joined your forum about this time 2 years ago! Thanks for all the advice and the wonderful website you put together! I completely recommend your forum as a place of healing and finding your way to a healthier and happier you! I am still in contact with my amazing and greatest best friend who I met on the forum (georgeh) and I have much thanks and love for Bluebell, MarilynsFan, Crunchi, Wildhuntress and Confidence! The support and outpouring of love was truly amazing and I couldn’t have done it without my fantastic support buddies!

    The forum, you and the other ass-kickers helped me so much and the lessons I learnt continue to inspire me and help me with my relationships and all the challenges that life throws my way.

    As for me, the last 2 years have been a strange ride but I am much stronger than I was when I first found your forum as a young, abused and abandoned girl crying over her ex. And I did get my ex back! Believe it or not but after a complete 6 months of no contact and then 4 months of low contact we were back together!

    Was it a happy ending for us? I could say that it had a fairytale ending with an engagement ring and life-time devotion but instead it had a better ending…me leaving him. After we entered into our new relationship I realised that I had grown as a person and that he could not keep up with me. I was saddened to realise that but glad to be strong enough to do what was best for me. I broke up with him and moved on with my fabulous life. He continues to contact me to get me back but I ignore since I did resend the NC message and I am living my life without looking back. Thanks S.W. for helping me find my strength and courage!

    I think that counts as a success story! 😉 But it’s only the first of my successes and I hope that there will be a time when I can let you know that I have found my true love! I have been seeing someone new but who knows how it will turn out? Some things really are out of our personal control! 😉 I leave it up to the universe and know that whatever happens I will be happy and find my true love when I am supposed to.

    Until then, my life continues to blossom in total perfection!

    Much love and thanks,

    KK

    1. Hi Kittykat,

      Sorry for the late response, my comment notification system must’ve been screwing up, again.

      I am glad I was able to help, and that you’re doing so well.

      It is things like this comment, that motivate me to do the things I do. 🙂

      Feel free to drop by our forum anytime, and help out the new members.

      I would really appreciate that.

      Keep up the good work, and…

      Stay Strong and Positive!

      Scott

  4. I was on one of these sites until this morning where I was told simply that I should kill myself because I was harshing the mellow of the forum. (And that i’d be doing them a favor). It was only one member, but it really set me back. I sent a NC letter (one I found on another site, via text (ok, I’m not sure he gets texts with his lame phone plan). Would it be weird to send another and start NC all over? I’m at 22 days today.

    1. Hi,

      Obviously the break up help forum you joined didn’t have all the “necessary components” I mentioned in my article.

      That is why I wrote the article to help people make an informed choice.

      As far as it being ‘weird” to send another NC message.

      It would be more weird not to do something to help yourself, right?

      This “other NC message” obviously isn’t as effective as the one in the free plan to get your ex back, or you wouldn’t be here.

      Plus, as you must have noticed by now, just sending the NC message without a follow up plan or support doesn’t do you much good.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – You can’t measure your personal evolution in “days since you sent the NC message”. Everyone evolves at a different rate, and those who follow NC correctly evolve much faster than those who do not.

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