How to Use A Break Up Help Forum to Get Over A Break Up
Your life post breakup will be a lot easier if you know how to use a break up help forum to get over a break up. First off, you would have to be able to find (and identify) a good breakup help forum before joining one, right?
If all of this seems confusing as hell, don’t worry. The whole purpose of this article is to answer all these questions for you, and get you on the path to break up recovery.
Oh, by the way. I created and moderate a break up help forum. Don’t just join my forum. Please read this article and learn how to make an informed decision for yourself.
How To Find A Good Break Up Help Forum
Go to Google, and type “Break up Help Forum” (without the quotes) in the search box. This might seem stupid simple, but finding relationship advice shouldn’t be hard. After all, don’t you have enough drama in your life as it is?
This search should bring up a bunch of results. Now, try to find one that mentions having a plan to follow, the no contact rule, or getting your life back. Why?
Because the quickest way to get over a break up is to get your life back. Contrary to what your broken heart is telling you: “I have to get my ex back fast”, you must get your life back first.
Once you find a breakup forum that feels right, go read some posts.
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Is this forum active?
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Do they have a forum buddy system? A place to match up members so they can support themselves outside of the forum.
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How fresh are the posts?
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Are people following a plan? Or are they all just complaining about how hard it is to get over a breakup?
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Are they using the no contact rule in any way?
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Does it seem like people are getting the break up advice they need?
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Is there a section for break up success stories?
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Are there any breakup success stories?
I highly recommend finding a forum that offers free support while using the no contact rule to heal your broken heart. Why?
Because that is the most effective way to bury your failed relationship, and evolve past the breakup.
How To Use A Break Up Help Forum Correctly
Once you have found a place you can trust, join up and get started following the plan they offer. The fastest way to get over a break up is to stop procrastinating, and start taking action.
OK, now you are a member, and you are ready to heal your broken heart by evolving past the break up, and getting your life back.
Here are a few tips for properly using a break up help forum.
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Read a lot of break up stories. Identify some members who you feel inspire you with their posts.
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Contact these members and ask to become forum buddies with them.
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Trade personal contact (email, IM) information ASAP. If the forum disappears (or you get banned) at least you still have your breakup help forum buddies contact information, right?
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Keep your posts positive and inspiring. Don’t let yourself fall prey to self-pity. The fastest way to get your life back is to support/inspire others to do the same. Leadership by example works great.
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Keep a home journal for those times you need to vent. You can always read it later to see how far you have come since those “dark” days.
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Try not to vent on your forum buddy too much, use your journal. Remember they dealing with a break up too. Help each other, don’t depress each other.
Just because you are moving on past the break up doesn’t mean you are making a vow to never get back together with your ex.
Do not handicap yourself by thinking that way. Why? Because it will make you frightened to take the (necessary) action you need to take to prepare yourself for a new relationship with anyone…including your ex.
Beware of relationship limbo. That is the place where people find themselves trapped because they will not let go of the past relationship with their ex.
Use a good break up help forum to get over a break up, and get your life back. You might even get back together with your ex in time. One thing is for sure, you will survive this break up, and be a lot happier than you are now.
Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?
My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.
If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.
Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.
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Until next time,
S. Williams
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I was on one of these sites until this morning where I was told simply that I should kill myself because I was harshing the mellow of the forum. (And that i’d be doing them a favor). It was only one member, but it really set me back. I sent a NC letter (one I found on another site, via text (ok, I’m not sure he gets texts with his lame phone plan). Would it be weird to send another and start NC all over? I’m at 22 days today.
Hi,
Obviously the break up help forum you joined didn’t have all the “necessary components” I mentioned in my article.
That is why I wrote the article to help people make an informed choice.
As far as it being ‘weird” to send another NC message.
It would be more weird not to do something to help yourself, right?
This “other NC message” obviously isn’t as effective as the one in the free plan to get your ex back, or you wouldn’t be here.
Plus, as you must have noticed by now, just sending the NC message without a follow up plan or support doesn’t do you much good.
I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.
Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
PS – You can’t measure your personal evolution in “days since you sent the NC message”. Everyone evolves at a different rate, and those who follow NC correctly evolve much faster than those who do not.