How to Tell if Your Ex Still Loves You – 4 Excellent Signs That They Want You Back

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Do you want to know how to tell if your ex still loves you? I am sure that is the one thing everybody wants to know after a break up. Although there really isn’t anyway to tell 100% (only your ex knows for sure) if your ex still cares. But these signs will give you a good indication if your ex still loves you, or not.

How to Tell if Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You – Sign One

Did your ex ask to still be friends? If so there is a great chance that he/she still loves you. I know you want to be more than friends, and there are step by step plans to teach you how to do that. But, for now be happy in knowing that your ex still loves you, and you have a chance to get your ex back.

How to Tell if Your Ex Girlfriend Still Loves You – Sign Two

Does your ex contact you daily, or every other day? This is another good sign that your ex boyfriend/girlfriend still loves you. They are keeping tabs on you, and you’re on their mind. Do not get over excited and try to force things, you’ll need a good plan for that. Just enjoy the fact that there’s a very good chance to win back your ex.

If Your Ex Touches you A Lot - That is a Sign That Your Ex Still Loves You

How to Tell if Your Ex Wife Still Loves You – Sign Three

Do you seem to run into your ex a lot? This is another great sign that your ex still loves you, and is looking for a way back into your life. Once again do not over react you need to know what you’re doing first…OK? Just relax knowing that your ex still cares, and you have a good chance to get your ex back.

How to Tell if Your Ex Husband Still Loves You – Sign Four

This sign is the ultimate indication that your ex still loves, and cares for you. Whenever you’re talking face to face with your ex; do they come into your personal space? I mean do they come close into you and look in your eyes a lot? This is the mother of all signs that your ex still loves you and wants you back. Beware! Do not overact and try anything foolish. You could scare your ex away again. Get yourself a good plan with support, and follow it to get your ex back.

Now that you are almost positive that your ex still loves you, and wants you back, you need to take some action. Right now you’re excited and emotionally unbalanced you need someone or something to keep you in balance…Right? If you have any comments about the article, or questions about what to do next, just write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP! Now that you know how to tell if your ex still loves you; What are you willing to do to get back together with your ex?

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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97 Responses to “How to Tell if Your Ex Still Loves You – 4 Excellent Signs That They Want You Back”

  1. jourden says:

    Hello scott,
    So i know that you said no contact works, but we have been split for about a month and i will admit that i have been crazy like i will call me and be needy and all that and try my hardest with words to reach his heart and make him change his mind, but for the past two weeks i have not been calling him he has been txting me about every other day to see how i am and all that, i have to book the magic of making up by TW jackson but, i just want to know that even though it has been two months since the breakup if i start no contact now do i still have a chance?
    Thank you

  2. S. Williams says:

    Hi Jourden,

    I guess whomever you bought the book from doesn’t offer free personal support like I do?

    If your interested in getting my free personal support you can go request a refund here, and then buy it through my link, and I will send you my personal private email address for my customers only.

    I just wanted to get that out there because it pisses me off all the people who are selling this book, but not supporting their customers like I do.

    From all my experience working with this book, and the people who buy it, I have seen without a doubt, that personal support makes a big difference between who is successful, and who isn’t.

    OK, sorry for the little rant, back to your question.

    Will no contact work if you start it today?

    Yes

    Will your ex like it?

    No

    Why?

    Because now they won’t know what you’re up to, and that will bug the shit out of them…they might even start to worry about losing you.

    They like to keep you on a short leash, so they know that you’re still waiting for them…understand?

    This is a very good sign that they still have feelings for you…take advantage of that, and get them back using no contact.

    Open the book, and start from page one…it is NEVER too late to start doing things right…OK?

    I hope this helped, and don’t hesitate any longer…get started!

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

    • Stephanie says:

      S. Williams,

      I have been following the limited contact rule for a little over two weeks and have not initiated contact with my ex boyfriend at all. He was contacting me once or twice a week, but now he is contacting me daily, Our conversations are very short and sometimes he will only say “hi” and I respond with saying “hi” back. He also got into a new relationship about a month ago and has a girlfriend. My question is although I’m never initiating contact, should I still be responding to any of his attempts to contact me? Also, since I previously have been responding to his text messages and IMs (even though I never initiated contact), I’m wondering if I should just start ignoring him now and follow the NC rule? If so, wouldn’t he think I was playing games if just stop responding now, especially since I asked him to keep in touch with me from time to time after we broke up? I guess I’m wondering if contact is okay as long as I’m not initiating it? Also, when you say to follow NC are you saying not to respond to attempts when our ex contacts us? I’m confused and appreciate any direction you can give me.

      • S. Williams says:

        Hi,

        The BEST way to be successful using the no contact rule is to follow the steps in the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog.

        But since you told your ex boyfriend to stay in-touch, you have voluntarily put yourself in the “just friends” zone.

        You can’t use the no contact rule, and stay in the just friends zone too, you have to make a choice.

        if you want to stay in the just friends zone forget about NC, and just keep doing what you’re doing.

        If you want to evolve past the break up, get out of the just friends zone, and get your life back, go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

        Thank you for writing.

        Take Care,

        S.W.

  3. Djinho says:

    Scott, how the hell are you supposed to make a woman feel appreciated when you are in NC mode and someone else is doing the appreciating in place of you?
    Djinho

  4. S. Williams says:

    Hi Djinho,

    Actually you are showing her appreciation by giving her the space she asked for when she left you…make sense?

    Most people would only think of themselves, and start begging and pleading for them to come back, so “they” could feel better.

    Then once you win back your ex girlfriend you can start showing her the other kind appreciation again.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  5. Jason says:

    My ex girl has a new boyfriend and i am really worried i cannot win her back, please help me, what can i do???

  6. S. Williams says:

    Hi Jason,

    When did you and your ex girlfriend break up?

    Even though that doesn’t really matter, and neither does the fact she is dating someone else.

    With the right plan, and guidance you can win her back…you interested?

    First of all stop worrying, and start taking some action.

    You get the plan, and I will give you the free guidance and support you”ll need to be successful.

    The faster you take action, the quicker she will come back.

    I look forward to working with you, and helping you win back your ex.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  7. Jason says:

    i am very very interested, what did i have 2 do?? do i have 2 come up with a plan or will u assist me?

  8. S. Williams says:

    Hi Jason,

    No, you don’t have to come up with your own plan, unless you want to.

    I can recommend the best plan for getting your ex girlfriend back.

    Just click here: I Want My Ex Girlfriend Back and follow the instructions on the website…OK?

    If you have any questions/problems just leave them for me here, and I will answer them for you…sound good?

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  9. Phil says:

    Hi Scott,
    My Ex broke up with me a couple of months ago. I did the usual beg, plead, wrote her a letter told her things would be different, I would change ect… I then reed lots of stuff on the internet and stopped the wining & almost cut contact. By that I mean the only contact I had was to write her a short letter saying I was now ok with the brake up and thought it was for the best. During the next two and a half weeks we didn’t really speak, I then replied to a txt thanking me for sending back a dvd to her. She asked how I was I replied and we exchanged about 10 messages before she said she had to go. Since then we’ve had couple how similar txt chats and I’ve bumped into her a couple of times while in the local night club. On both occasions I’ve tried to keep my distance just saying hi. From reading the magic of making up, I think the best thing to do now is to try dating again? I have been trying but as of yet have had no joy. I have been told that she is seeing someone else now.
    I would be very grateful for any advice you could give me.

  10. S. Williams says:

    Hi Phil,

    I think you should go back and complete the 30 days no contact, you have been communicating i.e. ” 10 text messages” if you read the plan in the book, you”ll see that is not a good idea.

    Why?

    Because now she knows you’re still waiting, and what you’ve been up to.

    You don’t have to come out and tell her you’re waiting…she will be able to read between the lines…understand?

    Here’s a video I think you should watch by the author of the magic of making up, “Premature Reconciliation”, it is about the dangers of rushing through the no contact stage of the plan.

    My advice is to not worry about what you did, and what she is doing, and focus on following the plan in the book.

    Emotional control is the “key” to success, if you need help in that area see my section about emotional control…OK?

    She is still interested…I can feel it, been bumping into each other, that’s a good sign.

    If she wanted to she could’ve ignored you…right?

    Get back on your horse…you’re still in the game.

    Let me know if you have anymore questions…OK?

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  11. Nick says:

    Hey Scott
    my girlfriend and i broke up about three and a half weeks ago We dated for just over a year. I sent the letter saying i was sorry for any mistakes but that maybe the break up was the best thing for the both of us. Ive been hanging out with friends but on of the problems is that my girlfriend works at a bar that me and my friends go to alot. Ive limited how many times we have gone but ive still gone with friends to the bar twice when she has been there once she was working the other time she was just there with friends. On the first occasion I found out she started crying because i was out with friends, and i feel this is one of the problems in our reltionship twoards the end i wasnt going out with her enough. But on both occasions i just acted cool and confident said hi made small talk and went on having fun with my friends. She still has not attempted to make contact with me at all. Im worried i dont know if no contact is having the desired effect. Im wondering how to proceed, i was thinking that if i see her again in a week or so, that id reiterate that i was cool with the break up and that we should catch up sometime. Please help just a little confused on how to proceed.

  12. Nick says:

    I guess the one time she was crying i text her the next day just to tell her that i saw her and the other time i just text her to say it was nice to see her.

  13. S. Williams says:

    Hi Nick,

    Are you serious about getting her back?

    If so, do what all the other serious people did, and get a plan to follow.

    Nick wrote:

    I guess the one time she was crying i text her the next day just to tell her that i saw her and the other time i just text her to say it was nice to see her.

    I guess that is called breaking no contact…you need a plan badly.

    I will donate my time, and guidance for free, but I am not going to spoon feed you a plan…I don’t have the time.

    I will teach you to drive, but you need to supply the car…fair enough?

    If you are planning on “winging it” then take a look around my Blog, and read the hundreds of comments and responses, chances are your question has already been answered.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  14. Nick says:

    Yes, im very serious about getting her back. Ive recently purchased the Magic of Making Up, and have had no contact at all for just over two weeks. But I dont know if its getting its desired effect. Were both in college and I guess im just hoping no contact is having the desired effect.

  15. S. Williams says:

    @ Nick:

    You might have to wait a little longer than 2 weeks, to see the “desired effect” you are waiting for.

    I would stop “hoping” and start working the plan, there’s way more to the plan than just using NC for 30 days.

    Read the book, do each and every exercise in each chapter, and stop watching the clock like 30 days is a magic number.

    Read my Blog, and all the comments on here, and most of…be patient.

    If you need help with controlling your emotions look into self help tools like the one’s I mentioned on my Blog.

    Life runs in cycles, and no matter how much you want a cycle to be over you have to wait until it runs it’s full cycle.

    Breakups and make ups are the same way they run in cycles too.

    I can help, but I can not answer “vague” questions like is my NC getting the “desired effect”?

    Understand?

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  16. Phil says:

    Hi Scott,
    Thanks for your advice, I have now had no contact at all with my ex for over 30 days. I’m feeling a lot better mentally and emotionally. I have been keeping myself busy and have been going out a lot with friends. The only thing am I really having a problem with is getting myself a date! My Ex has been going out with someone else for the last four weeks, I haven’t really let it bother me, from reading your blog and other stuff I know it’s got nothing to do with my personal relationship with my Ex and chances of wining her back. Suppose my next question is do you think is important for me to go on a few dates before reconnecting?
    I know 30 days is the minimum time you should leave it, but is there a point where you can leave it to long?

    Many thanks

    Phil

  17. S. Williams says:

    Phil wrote:

    I have now had no contact at all with my ex for over 30 days. I’m feeling a lot better mentally and emotionally.

    Did you initiate NC correctly?…see FAQ#1,2 besides being a time to get your emotions in order you needed to let her know why you’re taking time away from her.

    Phil wrote:

    I know 30 days is the minimum time you should leave it, but is there a point where you can leave it to long?

    Dating is optional, but it will send her a clear message that you’re not going to wait around for her, that is if you initiated NC correctly.

    I don’t think you can stay in NC too long, but I do think you can do it incorrectly.

    Using NC incorrectly would be if they asked to meet after 30 days and you repeatedly turned them down…after a while anyone would give up…right?

  18. Kitty says:

    Hello,

    I’m going through the biggest nightmare of my life. A few days before our six year anniversary, my boyfriend left me. We were high school sweethearts, and moved away for university together. Our lives were.. ‘perfect’ to say the least. We had a beautiful home, our cats, a laid back routine, and we helped each other with the stresses of school. We had plans to get married and have four children, amidst a ton of other goals we were striving towards. Then he suddenly got depressed, but swore it wasn’t me and he didn’t know what it was. We were still passionate as ever, our intimate life was really fantastic, even after all those years. Then we went home for a friends birthday party. He became adament that we move home. I didn’t want to, we had it all in another city, but as I caved, more and more issues came up with our new living situation for the summer. He woke me up that morning with kisses, we were still arguing over the summer plans. He went to the party himself, and I guess got a taste of what we left behind. Then when he got home, he told me he didn’t know if he loved me, or what love was, or anything.

    He took some of his stuff and left. He said the cruelest things to me imaginable, and forced me to leave my home and move back. We kept contact, it was mainly him yelling at me for reasons i’ll never understand. Its as if we fought so little, and were so happy, that he needs to make up things to argue about. A month and a half has passed now. When this all went down he was adament that he didn’t want me ever again, and he was getting routinely drunk, trying drugs too. Then he seen that I was gonna hang with an old friend of mine, and ‘needed’ to see me. We did, and he started off so hotheaded, but by the end of the night we were crying in each others arms and he said that maybe he just needs to go crazy this summer and come home to me. And that while he was originally so sure, now he doesn’t know, he thinks there may be a possibility of us together again. Weve seen each other four times since its all happened. And after everytime we start texting one another, get super happy, and everything just picks up.

    Hes started talking to me on a daily basis. He tells me about what he’s up to and wants to know what i’m doing. He brings up alot of happy stuff from our relationship and inside jokes. He even sent me songs that remind him of me. It sounds cliche, but I know hes the one for me. Two nights before he left me we were in our bed in each others arms crying and reminiscing our past 6 years together. We still act like kids, dancing and playing, and just being us. He’s not really the party, drug type guy, hes more of the school, goal oriented, video game type. He’s dropped the heavy drinking, but i’m scared he’s looking for someone else, knowing that I love him and want him back as back up or something. It would really kill me.

    I’ve done my best to focus on myself. He’s always said I was super hot, but I’ve dropped a ton of weight, fixed up my hair, and look alot better, he mentions it alot when he sees me. I’ve realized I was over reliant on him, but I see that our independance can help our relationship huge when were together again. It will make us look forward to those alone times alot more. I don’t know what to do really. I am going out and I think its getting to him, he likes to know what im doing and where im going and what not. He messages me all the time and clearly wants to keep contact claiming that im ‘so beautiful and precious and sweet that he wants to make sure im okay because he cares so much about me’. I don’t buy it. I know he misses me, hes said it. But I don’t know what to do from here. Hes the love of my life, I really need some guidance. Should I still sit here and joke around and laugh with my boyfriend, or should I ignore him to make him miss it. Ugh. Sorry for writing so much >.< Thank you.

  19. S. Williams says:

    Kitty wrote:

    I am going out and I think its getting to him, he likes to know what im doing and where im going and what not. He messages me all the time and clearly wants to keep contact claiming that im ’so beautiful and precious and sweet that he wants to make sure im okay because he cares so much about me’. I don’t buy it. I know he misses me, hes said it. But I don’t know what to do from here.

    You’re right…he is kidding himself.

    Do you have the book The Magic of Making up?

    If you don’t you need to get it and then we can work out a plan of action…OK?

    Right now I need you to go to my FAQ section and read about how to get the book and how to join our forum.

    Click Here for The FAQ Section

    Together with the book, my help and the forum members you stand the best chance ever of getting your life and your ex back again.

    Let’s do it! :)

  20. Kitty says:

    I haven’t purchased the book yet. I realize I need a plan of action. I decided to stop talking to him today. I’ve made it past day one, barely. I know he’ll see it as coming out of the blue. We’ve been talking nearly everyday now. He’s bringing up alot of memories and good stuff. I’m scared that by just disassociating myself with him he’ll turn to another woman to fill that void. Weve been lovers, best friends and companions for six years now, but i’m very worried that by not talking to him at all he’ll just turn to someone else.

    Back when this originally started, he was being so cruel so I started ignoring him. Then he reels me back in, per say, by saying something like ‘clearly you don’t want to try to make this work’ or ‘if any of my friends started ignoring me, i’d probably miss them too’. When he does contact me, which i’m sure he will when he realizes i’m not as accessible as i’ve been, what do I say? I know i’ll feel like saying i’m still waiting for you, I love you. But that’s definitely not going to help, as right as it feels for me to do. Any reasoning or logical answers I have for him aren’t doing a thing, even showing him the strides i’ve made to resolve my own insecurities (something that I believe led a great deal to us disolving). In some respects its like he wants to come back, (ie. ‘what would your family think?’ ‘How could I face them?’ ‘What would stop me from doing this again two years down the road?’) Then his normal pessimism comes in and he just keeps apologizing and basically saying he can’t do it. His friends have told me that he’s worried theres some other love out there better than what we had. Its rediculous. I don’t like to toot my own horn, but I am very good to him, we have a very strong intellectual, emotional and physical bond. Personally I think he needed to see the opposite route he could’ve taken, and has construed a bunch of nonsense to rationalize it.

    I’m scared that i’ll send the message I don’t care anymore and he’ll just start looking for someone else who will. Its hard after being together for so long, since I was 14, to just.. not. If you think it will help, I will do it. But what do I say when he talks to me. We talk on msn everyday and he texts once a week or so. Thank you I truly appreciate it.

  21. Kitty says:

    Also, I will take your past advice, and I am exploring your site. I see that you have answered my questions already in there and that NC isn’t really ignoring. But I know my guy, and that’s what he’ll call it :( so I need your guidance.

  22. S. Williams says:

    Kitty wrote:

    Also, I will take your past advice, and I am exploring your site. I see that you have answered my questions already in there and that NC isn’t really ignoring. But I know my guy, and that’s what he’ll call it so I need your guidance.

    It doesn’t matter what he calls it, it works.

    Have you joined the forum yet…I only answer questions in there now.

    (see my first response to you)

  23. Jessica V. says:

    Hey Scott,
    My Bf Broke up with me a few days ago through an electronic Message about Personal Space. He said That we Can talk about it when he has the time to. We were together for almost 6 months and Rarely argued, we mostly had playful bickering with each other. I was caught offguard with his message, everything seemed great and I never suspected a message such as this. We didnt see each other every day, usually only when we both had a few days to spare to see each other; he doesnt live in the same town as i do. The day before he said he felt bad about not being able to see me more..I really want to work this out with him but I feel deep down that nothing I say will help..do you have any advice?

  24. S. Williams says:

    Jessica V. wrote:

    I really want to work this out with him but I feel deep down that nothing I say will help..do you have any advice?

    Read this Blog and the FAQ section, and join the forum.

    If you work hard enough you can usually solve any problem.

  25. Phil says:

    Hi Scott,
    Bit confused on what to do now?
    Spoke to my ex for the first time since completing the NC. Trouble is I was really drunk & don’t even remember talking to her, not good I know. Thing is the next day in work I was told she was moving to Spain for 3months, I live in the UK. My phone stopped working that night too, but when I got it working again I found she’d txt’d me that night from her new phone number. When I got home later she’d also left a message on my facebook saying “heya u ok was nice too see u last night hope u had a good night n will hopefully c u before i move to Spain xxx.”
    I have now started txtin one of my friends, girlfriends friends and asked her out on a date, which she accepted. I’ve aslo had a couple of one night stands which I’d rather leave as that. I’d love to say i’m over my ex but I do sill have strong feelings for her. She is also still dating someone else, not really sure what the best thing for me to do now is?
    Thanks again for all your help and advice
    Phil

  26. S. Williams says:

    Phil wrote:

    She is also still dating someone else, not really sure what the best thing for me to do now is?

    The best thing is for you to do is read the FAQ section on my Blog and follow the directions for joining our forum.

  27. r.elliott says:

    i have been broken up from my ex for 3 months now, i tried the no contact thing for a month after we split, i then broke all the rules and did the begging,texting and telling him how much miss him and him. he never answers my texts and in fact told me he never wants me in his life again…what do i do to get him back now… if i do no contact for another month and text again just asking to meet for drink or something what are my chances of changing him calling me a f* pain that he never wants in his life, can i win him back if so HOW ?????????
    regards
    rachel

  28. S. Williams says:

    r.elliott wrote:

    i tried the no contact thing for a month after we split, i then broke all the rules and did the begging,texting and telling him how much miss him and him.

    You need some guidance and you will get just that in our forum…go to the FAQ section and carefully follow the directions…OK?

  29. robert says:

    me and my girl broke up about two and a half months and she sometime will returne my call or even talk to me when i call,but she dont text or call me,what should i do i ask her to lunch and she said ill think about it,what does this mean…

  30. S. Williams says:

    Robert,

    You need some guidance and you will get just that in our forum…go to the FAQ section and carefully follow the directions…OK?

  31. robert says:

    @ S. Williams:
    yesterday was her birthday and i surprise her with chocolates,candy,and a birthday card,which i left with her mother to give her win she woke up…and about four hous later i called to wish her hb and she was very happy,she said that a few months back she had to remind me of her birth day..what do this mean..

  32. S. Williams says:

    robert wrote:

    she said that a few months back she had to remind me of her birth day..what do this mean..

    It means that she didn’t think you would remember her birthday without a reminder.

  33. robert says:

    @ S. Williams:
    do this mean shes starting to ackwnolege how much i love her

  34. S. Williams says:

    robert wrote:

    do this mean shes starting to ackwnolege how much i love her

    I don’t know, but there is a way you can find out.

    Ask her out for a short meeting (30 minutes) for coffee or something like that, make sure you keep it short and do not ask her about her personal life or bring up the break up.

    If she asks about yours…(politely) change the subject…OK?

    If she refuses then come back here and use the no contact plan we follow in our forum.

    If she accepts but gives you I just want to be friends line, come back and use the no contact plan.

    If things go good, then plan another date (not that day) a few days later for the following week…take things very slowly.

    There is a great plan on how to do this in the book the magic of making up (chapter 6).

    The key to this whole little plan is to TAKE THINGS SLOWLY and DO NOT RUSH, OK?

  35. robert says:

    @ S. Williams:
    i did and she said ill think about it i just need time and two months is not enough

  36. robert says:

    i think i should just give her the time she need,

  37. S. Williams says:

    robert wrote:

    i think i should just give her the time she need,

    Robert,

    I really think your situation is perfect for using the plan I mentioned earlier.

    No contact will stop pushing her away with unwanted attention, and start attracting her with the absence of “neediness”, and it will definitely make her curious about you once again.

    She will not take you for granted and start to see you in a whole new light.

  38. robert says:

    @ S. Williams:
    thank u,i do appreciate ur advice…

  39. john says:

    I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years although we had plently of off and situations, I think I went a little overboard with my emotions this time around. I instantly went into panic mode and called her numerous times and even stopped by her apartment univited to try to talk to her. We started emailing each other back and forth till in got to a point where demanded all communication to stop.

    Do i still have a chance if so, what should I do?

  40. S. Williams says:

    john wrote:

    Do i still have a chance if so, what should I do?

    Hi John,

    You still have a chance just go to the top of my Blog and read my free plan.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  41. pinky says:

    Hi,

    My ex responded to NC and was even willing to talk to me.
    When I went to talk to him he moved closer to me gave me a look in the eyes and said”tell me pls.i have all the time to listen to you”.
    I told him that time I will talk later as we were in office and someone called me.
    Now again last 2 days he has been very angry with me and not willing to talk to me.Is it that he is scared he will fall into the relationship again.is he trying to be friendly and not wanting anything more than that.
    i feel like he is making a fool out of me.
    this guy never ever did a closure with me at all even though we are together in the same office

  42. S. Williams says:

    pinky wrote:

    i feel like he is making a fool out of me.

    Join our forum and follow the free plan, and stop complaining, OK?

  43. Stacia says:

    my boyfriend and i dated for about a year.. we were together jan 08 to feb 09. but still always saw each other and stayed with each other,, through the relationship starting about 6 months in we started to always argue over the stupidest shit. we broke up got back broke up got back.. well this may he left for college to orlando. and im still here in missouri. we were absolutely inseperable. i went and saw him 3 times since he left in may but after my last trip in aug he was telling me that i need to move on cuz he isnt gonna come back up here. butyet he made two songs about me and how much he misses me and wished i was there..(hes going to school for audio engineering). well just this last month he didnt text all the time anymore and id panic like normal. and just this last week his x my friend told me that he said i was an amazing girl and he loves me but i wasnt his girl. he said he doesnt say no when i come down cuz he loves me and misses me.. well i brought that convo i had with her to the table and just asked him.. and he said it was true and that he is moving on and i need to do the same..but yet he still wants to be friends (a thousand miles away) and still calls me baby every once in a while.. and about the time i heard the news from my friend i heard his new song and it basicly sounded like a goodbye song.. how can his feelings change soo fast in so little time… just in august i went on a cruise and he came to pick me up at the port in fort lauderedale and the kiss he gave me when he saw me was sooooo passionate that it made my heart melt.. he acts like hes all ok and moving on and etc… can u please help me.. im so in love with him and not being with him everyday is killing me.. i was dumb and still did the ive realize stuff which was a mistake.. what can i do.. i dont want to loose him.. my heart is crushed to the point where i think about it all the time

  44. S. Williams says:

    Stacia wrote:

    what can i do.. i dont want to loose him

    Follow the free plan on my Blog…at the top you will find a link to it…start with stage one, and follow every step, OK?

  45. Anii says:

    hi there
    Well my ex and i had been together for over half a year and towards the last few months amounting to our breakup, he had just been treating me different…and, well he seemed to care less. I decided we needed to talk and it resulted in an argument as he just wasnt answering me clearly; i.e. When i texted him whether he cared about me, he answered ‘i’m not going to say i care or i dont’ and when i asked him to just be clear with me and tell me what i was to him, he told me ‘there is nothing to be clear about’
    :s. Anyway he was aware that he was upsetting me and said that he wanted to end the relationship as the smile from my face was fading and he couldnt seem to make me happy like he used to. He also blamed the relationship…when it was not the relationship, but HIM. After a bit more arguing and a feeble attempt to change his mind
    I cut off all contact. I was deeply hurt. I had no will to do anything. He was my first love and to stop these incessant thoughts about him, i erased every ounce of memory of him i had saved on any digital device or anything else. A difficult month and a half passed, and i wondered if he missed my company as much as i missed his. Then, the other night, he texted me and had written a poem about our memories and how he didnt want to say goodbye and how it is worth waking up every day because there are few like me who are worth talking to.
    At the end of the text he wanted to know how i was doing and asked me how i was. We exchanged about 5 texts after that and i told him i was low on credit at which he said ‘okay then, good luck with your uni interview, i’l chat to you soon cyaa’. I dont think anytime soon though…you see, im just maintaining my distance.
    Do you think that there is perhaps the slightest possibility that he still has feelings for me? I dont know what to do anymore.

  46. S. Williams says:

    Anii wrote:

    Do you think that there is perhaps the slightest possibility that he still has feelings for me? I dont know what to do anymore.

    Hi,

    How can I tell you if your ex still has feelings for you?

    I am not psychic.

    You know him better than I do…if you don’t know, how am I supposed to know?

    But!

    If you want to find out what his true feelings are, follow the free plan on my Blog.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  47. maryann says:

    my guy and i have dated for 2yrs plus some months now,i love him so much but the problem is that we quarel over stupidiest,we broke up got back.sometimes he sents me packing[we are not living together].i dont know if he truly loves me and the funniest part of it is that he does not want to see me with another man but he has 2-3 girlfriends apart from me.please ineed your advice.Thanks maryann

  48. maryann says:

    Do u think that this guy really loves me or is he using me.

  49. S. Williams says:

    maryann wrote:

    Do u think that this guy really loves me or is he using me.

    Hi,

    I think you let him walk all over you.

    It is time to stand up, and take control of this situation, and your life.

    Go read the free plan, and follow ALL the steps, OK?

    You must get your life back (as a single woman) first, then all the pieces will fall into place, trust me.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  50. Jani P says:

    HI

    My husband and I have ben seperate for three weeks. We have been togeather for 17 years and married for ten. I have been devestated since this has happened to me. He tells me that I have humiliated him and hurt him emotioanally.We have two small children 9 months and 3 yrs old. I know he loves me dearly but he is so hurt and full of remorse. Our problem is not due to infidelity, but I never thaough he was that emotional.

    He comes to the house to see the children a few times a week and I have apologized for what I have done. However, he tells me that he wants to just be my friend and have a good relationship for the childresn sake. I have agreed even though it’s very painfull. I usally text him at least twice a day just to see how he is and to let him know about the kids. He does respond to my texts though. When he comes over I can resist myself but to hug him and kiss him, but I can feel that he still responds in a positive way. However, he had said to me that he didn’t feel passion and the love he once had for me. Help I don’t really know what to do???

  51. S. Williams says:

    Jani P wrote:

    Help I don’t really know what to do???

    Hi,

    Read the free plan, it will tell you what you need to do.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  52. nich says:

    hey i just want an advice. me and my ex girlfriend is still in touch. we’re living on the same roof and i can’t move on cause im still seeing her.
    cant take this anymore.
    dont know whats running through her mind.
    she doesnt want to leave our house but she said she doesnt love me anymore.
    what should i do?
    do you think she still loves me and she’s just not showing it?

  53. S. Williams says:

    Nich says:

    she doesnt want to leave our house but she said she doesnt love me anymore.
    what should i do?
    do you think she still loves me and she’s just not showing it?

    Hi,

    First, it doesn’t matter what your ex girlfriend thinks, you can take control of your situation.

    You can use no contact while still living in the same house, but if you can’t take it…move out, and start no contact after you move out.

    If you’re really serious about getting your life back, go read and follow ALL the steps in the free plan on my Blog.

    If you correctly use no contact you can reveal your ex girlfriend’s true feelings for you.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  54. leo says:

    What if my ex is showing NONE of these signs?
    She’s completely indifferent.
    Or, maybe I should STOP guessing her mind and JUST focus on myself evolution?

  55. evan says:

    me and my ex broke up almost 3 months ago. we dated for 2 years and we started talking again after a week we broke up. then one night she asked if i started to like another girl and i said yes. this is what pushed her over the edge. so she decides to go out and find the closes guy to her and starts talking to him a day after i told her that i started liking another girl. month and a half has gone by and she is still takling to this guy but she just called me last night and told me she regreted getting and telling the other guy that she liked him. and she also told me that she still loves me. do you think she will realize that she wants to be with me and not the other guy. she even told me she was vulnerable and that he treated her well but i know she doesnt like him more than just that. what should i do

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      If you want to reveal your ex girlfriends true feelings for you, you need to follow the free plan.

      You must get your life back before you can get your ex girlfriend back.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  56. samantha says:

    my bf and i broke up months ago. but since the break up not much has changed we still talk and see each other or a regular basis. he still treats me like his gf and tells me how he misses me, but he says he doenst see us getting back together, recently he told me he isnt happy with the way his life is right now but said that he is happier with me than without me. he hasnt said he loves me in months, but when i was with him a few days ago i swore i heard him say under his breath that he loves me and a thought i heard it a couple weeks back under his breath again, im so confused i dont know what to do i love him so much and he makes me happy, do u think that there is any chance that him and i will get back togther?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      It sounds like he wants to be friends with benefits.

      He wants his cake and eat it too, and you are allowing him to do just that.

      He won’t make a decision until he has to…would you?

      If you want to reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you, you must use the contact rule.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  57. shontelle says:

    hi,iv been with my bf for 6yrs now and at the beginning of this year we broke up. i did a horrible thing i cheated on him but we worked on things and i thought we were rebuilding our realtionship. he left for a month to visit family but we still spoke back and forth, 2 weeks before we broke up he said that hes been doing alot of thinking and said it was about time we started seriously thiking about getting married. then 2 weeks later he broke up with me. we havent had any contact with each other till last week (its been over 9months), he says he doesnt want to be with me and i understand y and then said we can work on building a friendship, then he says maybe we shouldnt have anything to do with each other, i dont know what to do i made a horrible mistake iwish i could take it all back he means everything to me, do u think that there is away that we can work on our realtionship

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      You can’t change the past, but you can shape the future.

      You can’t make someone fall in love with you, but you can learn to love yourself again…and love attracts more love, make sense?

      The free plan is NOT about getting your ex boyfriend back, it is about getting your life back again.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  58. Athen says:

    Hi Scott,
    I have been reading a lot of your post. I hope you can help me. I have been married for 3.5 years together for 5 years, my husband walked out because in the last year we have been fighting like cats and dogs, we have been broken up 3x before but it is always me who initiates contact and he comes back. This time he walked out and asked me to please not call him anymore coz he aint coming back. We have no child together and no financial obligations together, I think he has ahd it since he took out his direct debit for the rent and moved to his brother. It is now 9 days of my initiation of NCR , he hasnt contacted me either. Is there a chance here? There are times like last night that I was ready to txt, call or e-mail him but instead went out and had a cigerette and kept to my NCR. If he hasnt called me or tried to at least see me for 9 days (he never allows us to go to bed mad at each other) does this mean the end? I still love him dearly.
    Athen

    • S. Williams says:

      Athen says:

      If he hasnt called me or tried to at least see me for 9 days (he never allows us to go to bed mad at each other) does this mean the end?

      Hi,

      You have a 50/50 chance of getting back together with your ex, but you have to get your life back first.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s, and this is explained in the “About” section on my Blog.

      If you want to be happy again, go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      With proper use, the no contact rule will reveal your ex husbands true feelings for you.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  59. thuleh says:

    Hi,I have a very big problem there is this guy that am dating at first things were okey i could call him at any time of the day and he would answer his phone but lately he does not answer my calls. He told me that he was not ready for a relationship and said that he wanted a break for now what does that mean. IF I want to break up with him he doesn’t want yet he ignores my calls what am i suppose to do

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Have you tried discussing the course of your relationship with your boyfriend?

      It sounds like you two want two different things.

      He doesn’t want a relationship, and you do.

      If this is the case, I suggest breaking up, and finding someone who wants the same things you do.

      Breaking up is not the end of all possibilities, it is the end of a failed relationship with the possibility of a better relationship, either with or without your ex boyfriend.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  60. gale says:

    Hi. My husband filed for a divorce a week after leaving me. There was no contact for two months until three weeks ago because of a pertinent tax doc I needed for him to send me. When we met up he was firm with what he wanted, to move on and be just friends with me, nothing more. I didn’t argue with him but the following day I found myself just hurting again. It would have been the end of it if he had actually brought the correct tax papers that night. So then he agreed to come back the next day. It was ok at first. I kept my distance and acted like everything was copacetic. But then he brought up a stupid proposal I gave before no-contact: casual sex. I got weak and found myself agreeing to the whole thing. Since then we talk every day and meet when we can. It’s only been two weeks and although he’s said we can’t be back together, he and I say I-love-you’s at the end of our get togethers. We just had a sort of date–movie and meal– but he’s still adamant about status quo. Should I just let go? Please help.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      If you’re happy just being FWB’s with your ex husband then stick with it, if you’re only doing it trying to “win him back” then you need to move on, it won’t work.

      No one buys the cow, when they can get the milk for free.

      If you are ready to evolve past the divorce and get your life back, I can help you.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  61. Jinzelle says:

    Hi scott,
    My name is jinzelle my situation consists of me dating this guy, and I still love him. We dated for about 2 years on and off. I was his first. I don’t wanna go through long detail. All I know is we are broken up. He has a new girlfriend but we fooled around new years eve. Every time we see eachother it goes to automatic make out or us talking about how we love eachother. We don’t have sex or anything behind her back. I just don’t know what to do. Am I wrong for still loving him? What do I do?

  62. Sam says:

    What does it mean if they stay in contact and keep sleeping with you and use fact your pregnant to them as an excuse but pregnancy only came about because of sleeping together after break up? My head is so messed up. I love him to bits and he says he doesn’t with me but if I don’t contact him he’ll text me

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      News Flash!

      Having sex doesn’t equal love.

      The reason your head is “messed up” is because your ex boyfriend’s actions do not match his words…it is time to learn the truth.

      Just because you two had sex, and you became pregnant, does not mean he truly loves you, and you deserve to know the truth, right?

      Use the free plan to correctly leverage the no contact rule so you can evolve past the breakup, and reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  63. babe says:

    Hey Scott,

    my ex boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago. I still miss him. And no, I did not contact him or anything (*except once) and I just act like normal and have fun and all.

    Is there anything I can do? He said he will not get back together with me, no matter what.

    But when I told him I’m having a little health problem, he cried. But didn’t call me till now.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Yes, there is something you can do. You can use the no contact rule to evolve past this breakup and get your life back again.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      If you are ready to get your life back, go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  64. Ms. May says:

    I have an ex that tells me obsessively to be happy. He even leaves it in messages when I don’t answer the phone. I’ve discussed this with him and he continues to do it. Statements like; no matter where life takes you be happy and stay happy. I’ts alway be happy, I want you to be happy. I haven’t seen him in three years but talk with him just about daily, He’ll call. I’ve heard be happy so much. I questioning the fact.

    Can you tell me what’s that about?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      He is just trying to keep a place holder in your life, and this puts you in relationship limbo because you keep wondering what he wants, right?

      You can use the no contact rule to get him to either say what’s “really” on his mind (his true feelings for you), or just leave you the fuck alone.

      Either way you will be better off because you won’t have this cluttering your mind on a daily basis.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  65. Annie says:

    Hi Scott. I have been separated from my husband for 6 months. I cheated and hurt him terribly. I could not be more remorseful. I did beg and plead in the beginning and he asked me to stop pressuring him. I have stopped but can’t maintain the NC Rule – I keep breaking it. He was working abroad for a few months and emailed me every day just to say hi. When he returned we met for dinner and he said it was great and very positive. He has left for a work trip again, but this time is NOT emailing or responding. I don’t know what to do. When we met for dinner I KNOW I saw a lot of love in his eyes. He also keeps telling me that there is hope and everything is still possible, but needs his space. HELP!!!!

    Oh also Scott, there is a history of cheating in our 20 years together. He cheated a few years ago and actually lived with another woman when he was working abroad, something he blamed me for!

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Since you both cheated that really isn’t relevant to the break up, there is something else he is not telling you.

      Since you can’t torture him, or read his mind to find out what it is, all you can do is look out for yourself.

      I can help you use the no contact rule correctly to reveal his true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex husband back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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      • Annie says:

        Thank you so much for your response and help. I definitely need to know how to use the no contact rule correctly.

        I am reading through your fantastic site and gaining lots of insight – its very calming. Now Im off to the gym and have a nice day planned just for ME. Thank you Scott.

  66. NICOLE SIMS says:

    My ex texts me everyday and some days he may skip but everything is so confusing. He’ll text me and ask me how I am he’ll tell me how bad he’s doing and if i start telling him how i’m doing then he asks if he can hit me back later or hes doing something or have had such a lack of sleep or something that is going on that is so bad he finally started telling me that he misses me and he always tells me he has time for me but he has so many things he has to do to get his life on track it all seems crazy to me i don’t know what he wants but im starting not to want him but i Love him.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Yeah, it sure sounds like you are being jerked around, and that’s why you need to use the no contact rule correctly.

      It will get him off your back and ease your confusion, and it will also reveal his true feelings for you…over time (9-12 months).

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  67. Amy says:

    My ex and I have been reconnecting he contacted me I did the NC and I have told him all the new stuff I have been doing we talk about school family and casually stuff. He said he is happy to hear I am doing well, or he is happy to hear that with a :) We don’t talk often every day so far just once or twice a week. but he messages me to see how I am doing He asked if I was seeing anyone I said no. But we are lightly talking again. We were in a long distance relationship so I don’t know how a meet up would work. I don’t know how to take this further.. do I keep talking to him on the phone or do Ignore his messages some times. He always asks about me.. when I first texted him asking how he was.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      You “did the NC”…What does that mean?

      The whole of purpose of the no contact rule in the free plan is to get your life back, not your ex.

      The reconnection process is explained in the last part of the free plan, but why try to reconnect when you are not close enough to date?

      Doesn’t make much sense to me, and I think you’re just trying to keep him from dating other women.

      That is absolutely the wrong reason to try and reconnect with your ex.

      I recommend going back into NC (resend the NC message as outlined in the free plan) and following the plan until you have your life back, and you no longer worry about getting your ex back (or worry about keeping him from dating).

      It is necessary for both of you to evolve past the breakup, and date other people to reveal your true feelings for each other.

      There is no “quick fix” to real breakups (not just little fights), that is why none of those “get your ex back in 30 days” plans work for very long.

      Oh yeah, people get back together, they get back together just long enough to break up all over again…it is pathetic.

      I have seen it happen too many times, and that is why I created the free plan and support system.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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      • Amy says:

        we made the long distance relationship work last time, but I am going on dates with other people. I did NC by not talking after the break up and moving on. It been 2 months and we are talking again slowly..

        • S. Williams says:

          Amy said:

          we made the long distance relationship work last time

          Really?

          If it was working so well, why aren’t you still together?

          Do you really think that doing the same thing over and over will produce different results?

          It won’t.

          It takes 9-12 months (closer to 12, judging from the feedback in our forum) to actually evolve past a break up and get your life back, 2 months isn’t enough time.

          If you didn’t follow the free plan, you didn’t use the no contact rule correctly.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

    • Amy says:

      * and by first texting I mean after he was iniating conversations with me. He asked to be friends when we broke up, asked about my dating situation which I mentioned before. Basically we are talking lightly once or twice a week.

      • S. Williams says:

        Hi,

        It doesn’t matter who contacted who.

        He is just trying to see if you are still in the “just friends zone”, also known as relationship limbo.

        Trying to remain friends with your ex in hopes of winning him back is a BIG mistake, you can read all about that in the NC diaries on our forum.

        You’re not following the no contact rule correctly.

        Follow my previous advice, and focus on getting your life back, not your ex boyfriend.

        Thank you for writing.

        Take Care,

        S.W.

  68. shell says:

    Hi, I nees some advice.I have broken up with my boyfriend twice now.The first time it was over something silly.I did the begging and pleading thing and he took me back after 3 weeks aftwr the first split even though he said he wanted to be friends at the time.We didn’t really talk about things when we got back together and brushed them under the carpet.Anyway we ended up splitting uo again after being back together for 5 months.A few issues can up and I made a rash secision without thinking.He says he wants to be friends again this time around,we have always been in contact via texts since our second split.We didn’t see each other for nearly a month after we split.I know I have made mistakes and have owned up to then and apologise for them and so has he.He is confusing me at the moment by saying he ‘I wouldn’t rule out us getting back together somewhen down the line’ but then saying ‘I don’t want you clinging on to being friendsw in the hopes we might one day get back together’
    He has admitted that I hurt him with the first split and it brought back some of the hurthe felt from what his ex wife did to him.She cheated on him twice.I have never done this.
    I still love him and want him back but I am not sure what to do about it.We are talking more openly and getting on better.We both people who find it hard to express our feelings.I have also find out that I am suffering from depression and was more likely was at the time I made a hasty decison to end things the second time.I am seeking help with this now.I am working on sorting myself out first.We both need to do this.Any asvice qould be appreciated

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      It sounds like you have firmly planted yourself in the “just friends” zone in hopes of winning him back – BIG mistake.

      All that will happen in this situation is that you will make it easier for him to move past your old failed relationship, and find someone else – meanwhile you are twisting away in the Just Friends Zone wondering WTF happened.

      The best way to evolve past a failed relationship, and get your life back is to use the no contact rule correctly.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  69. Ms.Fergie says:

    Hi, I’ve been in a relationship for 20yrs with my high school love, were both 38yrs old & have two teenage children together. It’s been a long battle within our lives but I don’t understand why we can’t walk away! I love him dearly but it seem we both or tired of battling with each other over different situation. He still help me financially but he’s not living at home anymore. I’m so confused because he goes from o to 10 with his emotions, he say he loves me, but he say he need to get his life together for him & his children. I feel that he doesn’t love me anymore because I’m not included when he say he need to get his life together, he tell me I take things the wrong way so he rather not tell me how he feels. Im So lost so I really don’t know what to do about our situation. I want him in my life but what must I do to show that I care & for him to realize what he walked away from.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      It is not your job to “prove your love”, it is not your job to make him happy, it is your job to be happy with yourself.

      If he is not happy with his life, then he must decide what to do to fix it.

      If you are not happy with yourself, it creates a negative atmosphere which will only breed more bad situations.

      I suggest that you let him go, and use the no contact rule to get your life back as a happy single woman.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  70. Gaby says:

    Hi, I need help with the mixed signals my ex is giving me. Me and my ex broke up a month ago it ended in good terms. A week passed but I couldn’t take the separation and looked for him after work which ended up in a even worse break up than the week before. He told me to move on and to give my love for him to someone else and he didn’t want a relationship whatsoever at the moment. I completely blocked him from every form of contact, I had no phone at the time so he had no way of calling me. He emailed me yesterday though, saying he wants to return some of my stuff, then emailed me an hour later mentioning our anniversary, which was that day. He said would like to hear from me and that day because it was the “14th of the month and felt very excited in a weird way”. I don’t know what his intentions are. I felt I had moved on but this is confusing me. I would want to get back with him but I’m scared on what to say or do next ?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi Gaby,

      Your ex is sending you “mixed signals” to keep you confused and trapped in relationship limbo. He is either doing this for spite, or out of guilt, but either way it sucks for you.

      You need to use the no contact rule correctly to get yourself out of relationship limbo, and back to a happy healthy life once again.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

      Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

      This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  71. Bettyjane says:

    My x husband and I divorced 3 years ago. I left him for another man but in a weeks time i wanted to cancel the divorce and work things out. obviously at that time he didn’t………now after 3 years and during that time we have been out to dinner, and just these past weeks he’s ask me to go shopping and out to eat and now his birthday is coming up he ask me to go to a hotel for his birthday…….should I go? he says to me he looks at my pictures everyday and thinks about me everyday. He aske me what happend to us……I made a major mistake and realized how much i love my husband. We had been together for 19 years. He is seeing a women but has re-assured me many times she is just a friend, someone to go out to eat with and do stuff with. He says he likes her dog and again said “she is only a friend and we do not see eye to eye with each other, said she has a bad temper” so why hang out with someone like that?? anyway, do you think he really loves me? and is there a chance we might get back together again? I am tring to find a place of my own, he said once i do the will visit me more often……is this good? why don’t he let me move back home?? Help!

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      I wouldn’t trust a man who is dating another woman, and then asking you to sleep with him on his birthday.

      He is just using you for sex, he wants to make you a friend with benefits, he doesn’t want you back as a wife.

      If he was still in love with you – how come 3 years later, he doesn’t ask you to come back?

      No, he just wants to use your lingering feelings for him to his own advantage.

      There was a reason you left him in the first place, you sensed something wasn’t right, and it looks like you were correct.

      I would use the no contact rule and evolve past your old failed relationship, and get on with your life.

      You don’t really want him back as much as you want to stop feeling rejected. The sooner you start NC (the right way) the sooner you will stop feeling this way, but it will take time.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

      Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

      This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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