How to Get Your Ex Wife Back – Using The No Contact Rule

I can show you how to get your ex wife back using the no contact rule even if you have child visitation contact with her. You can get your ex back if you use the no contact rule correctly, and follow a good plan. With a good plan, and proper coaching winning back your ex wife will not be as impossible as you think. Let me explain just a few ways the no contact rule can help you win back your ex wife.

How Can No Contact Help Me To Get My Ex Wife Back?

 

I know that your first reaction to this is; “Maybe this will work for someone who wants to learn how to get your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back; But, what about getting my ex wife back?” This is where you are making your first mistake. You’re thinking of her as your ex wife, when you should be thinking of her as woman who you want to get to know better.

Instead of trying to learn how to get your ex wife back, think of this as a way to get to know her better, and win her affection. The no contact rule is the first step in this process to win back your ex wife. When you stop chasing her, and start working on a plan to win her back, your chances for getting your ex wife back are very good. The no contact rule should be part of a good plan to help you get your ex wife back.

If I Avoid Contact During Child Visitation – Will It Hurt My Chances To Get My Ex Wife Back?

 

This is one problem that is easily overcome so do not panic. The no contact rule is not an absolute rule, and it is flexible in such situations when you are trying to get your ex wife back again. Just be polite, and limit the conversation to the children only, do not bring up personal matters. Do not probe her about her personal calendar this will push her away, and if she asks about your personal life…just answer it is fine, thank you. Keep things short, and impersonal, and just be on your way. Now, you have control of the situation, and a much better chance of winning back your ex wife…Why?

Well, for one you are not chasing her anymore, and that makes her curious, and it puts you on her mind once again. If the break up was because she said you weren’t giving her enough attention before…don’t worry you still have a great chance to get your ex wife back. If you try to do a 180 turn, and start showering her with attention she will not trust it anyways…no one changes that fast, for good. No, you have to let your old failed relationship die using the no contact rule, and start working with a plan to reconnect with her later on. You will need a good plan to use the no contact rule to get your ex wife back, and we will talk about that in a minute.

The Fastest Way To Get Your Ex Wife Back

 

The fastest way to win back your ex wife would be to stop trying to do this alone, and without some kind of plan. Anything worth doing is worth doing right, with that being said why waste your time searching for more free tips, and pick a plan, and work with it. I don’t care if you buy it from me or not…just find one, and start using it before it’s too late. If you have any comments or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP! What can I do to help you understand how to use no contact? What are you willing to do to get your ex wife back?

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people for more than 3 years to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. I split from my wife becuase of much drama between her children, friends, family and her pulling back on me. We split up and I left her and singned divorce papers. To make a very long story short, I regret it very much and I want her back. She got real nasty a few weeks later so I initiated the nc rule and it lasted 4 weeks till she engaged with me about some nonsense that I was seen at her house and then she stated I stole something out of her house. After 50 emails back and forth of finger pointing I sent one final heartfelt email and told her everything that I have been doing and that this was not me who stole anything. She changed her attitude and then we began to talk civil and both agreed to not argue anymore. We have been chatting for a week now. I asked where we are going with this and she said right now she wants to be friends and that she couldnt make a commitment to me right now but that time will tell if we could.

    Ok so right now we are having very nice interactions but its killing me about the friend thing. she is also showing me she is having a wonderful time without me around. She is meeting new friends and hanging out with all kinds of strangers. I on the other hand have lost my job with no money in basically in a hopeless situation. Henc I cant even buy your book. My question is Should I re-insert the NC rule and ditch the friend B/S or should I just follow the plan or am I just a lost cause in all this.
    Any hope for me? I want to start this program but I just want to make sure I am doing the right thing.

    1. Hi,

      The friend’s zone is relationship limbo…you don’t want to go there.

      The best way to reveal your ex wife’s true feelings for you is to correctly use the no contact rule.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex wife back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The quickest way to get your ex wife back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. thanks, I was concerned and not sure I should do the NC rule becuase she said it would time to make a commitment back to me. Or rather time will tell. And since im thinking time might only be a week or two from our coverstiaon I still wasnt sure becuase we are getting along so much better now. And for the time will tell what she means by that is I think my behavior. but I also dont know how long this will take.

        I dont want to push her over the edge but maybe your right. I just really enjoyed having converstaions with her and the little chit chat.

  2. After about 6 months separated i bought “the magic of making up”(I was desesperate by the time and already made a appointment with my lawyer for a divorce) and i realized i was doing all the wrong moves. After a week of doing the non contact rule i began to see a slight change in her. She wasn’t afraid of me anymore(sadly in my country some men harass and kill their ex wives if they left him or catch them with another man) and she wasn’t trying to avoid me anymore. In some cases she would come from work earlier when i was visiting my 3 years old son and talk to me. After three weeks I broke the NC rule because after my son pre-kinder meeting she was some kind receptive and i took the chance to invite her for lunch. I did everything the program say to do in a first date and all went smoothly. Now I am waiting for a week to pass by to ask her for a second date. Sadly i don’t have any ideas for places for a second date. There is no much places that create excitment and rush of adrenaline where i live(no roller’s coasters rides, no fireworks displays, no speedboats rides, etc) do you have any good ideas for a second date? Also we have been going out thogheter a couple of times to take my son to his swiming classes. Am I breaking the NC rule between dates for doing this? And a last question, my son birthday party is coming soon and i will meet a ton of her friends that know me from the past, i bet some of them secretly always hated me and must be very happy when my wife and I broke up( I bet that fat ugly and angry girl was, and the slutty one too) How do i react them? Trying them nicely or just ignore them? Thanks for your time, any good advice would be appreciated.

    1. Hi,

      Just remember to take things slowly just like it was a brand new relationship.

      If you rush things you will end up right back where you were before the breakup.

      As far as dealing with her friends, just be polite and don’t worry what they say or do, it is what your ex wife thinks that matters, not them.

      You should also beware that your thoughts/feelings create your life as well, that is why you MUST remain positive.

      You can learn more about this concept (the law of attraction) in our forum.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex wife back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      For even more information on how to correctly use the no contact rule, go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog.

      I can’t help you with an idea for an exciting “emotionally bonding” date since your area lacks attractions that are exciting, but just remember this is a “new” relationship with an old love, OK?

      That is the MOST important thing to remember in getting back together with your ex wife, and staying reconnected.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  3. My wife and I separated 2 1/2 months ago ( I moved out). I blew every possible rule I could probably think of according to what I have read in. Now, last week I was served divorce papers and found out (through looking in her journal, which she completely flipped out about) that she is already physically involved with another man! We have a three year old boy and she has two girls from a previous. Despite the fact that she is “into” this other guy and according to her journal, he is ready to take on all the kids in this relationship moving forward, do I stand a chance of getting her back?

    1. Hi,

      Everyone has a 50/50 chance of getting back together again.

      If you use the no contact rule correctly you can reveal your ex wife’s true feelings for you.

      This is why I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex wife back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, start your personal evolution, heal your heart, and get your life back again.

      I can also recommend another program that is primarily focused on stopping a divorce.

      Why do I recommend this particular program that deals directly with
      saving marriages?

      This man has over 30 years experience as a marriage counselor and offers a free course, which you can find here:

      Stop Your Divorce and Save Your Marriage

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. Thank you for your prompt reply!

        Since last Thursday, the need for a written no contact note certainly wasn’t needed. We had a huge blowout, which entailed plenty of very ugly things said in the wake of me confirming that she is already physically involved with another man. That supposedly loves her. In that blowout, I think I pretty much convinced her that the only relationship and communication I want is only if it involves our son or the pending divorce.

        Understood that I need to get on with my life and correct my behaviors before getting involved with anyone else – let alone my wife (or soon to be ex), should that opportunity present itself.

        Interesting to note that this past Thursday, she took the kids to Disney Land and each day she has been sending me pictures of our son enjoying himself at the theme park. Could that mean despite our huge blowout that she still has feelings for me? Or could that mean she’s rubbing my face in it? Not quite sure how to interpret and I guess I’m the only one that can as I know her.

        1. Hi,

          The need to make your intentions “crystal clear” (without emotions) is the fastest way to get your personal evolution started, and to evolve past the break up and pending divorce with your ex wife.

          That free course I recommended will help you to stop making matters worse, and doing things you will most certainly regret later.

          But, that decision is yours.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  4. I was thinking.. you say you got 50/50 chance of getting the ex back.

    How come? Is there some major roles playing in? Let’s say you got your life back, no premature reconcilations and had been together/married for 5 years or more. Wouldn’t it set up the chances, with a very high volume?
    Just wondering.

    1. Hi,

      When people ask me what their chances are of getting their ex back, I have no idea…How could I?

      I don’t know you or your ex personally, so anything I say would only be a guess anyways, so I give a conservative guess of 50/50.

      Besides, I help people get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend or girlfriend back, and I can guarantee a 100% success rate if you follow the free plan to get your ex back correctly.

      Before you ask about the name of my Blog…I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  5. Hi,

    I am not sure if this is an unusual situation, everyone I have talked to doesn’t know what is going on. I need an objective opinion so I know what to do.

    I have been with my high school sweetheart for almost ten years and fairly recently bought a house together. The past few months she has been acting distant and after some prying on what was wrong she told me she was going to move back in with parents. She called it “a break” and said it was because I wasn’t doing thoughtful things anymore. I specifically asked if their was another guy and she said no, and told her that I wanted to know if their is in the future so I can move on, she agreed. After that I left flowers and little notes around our house while she was there. After each time she seemed legitimately happy because she would call to thank me with the happy voice that I remember. Two weeks ago she told me she was going to her cousins wedding in North Carolina (we’re in Michigan), but after a few days I found out she went to Australia to see a guy she met in Las Vegas 6 months ago. This is completely out of character, she’s a quiet, “Do Good” type of girl. Before she left she told me that she still loved me and that she wasn’t sure what kind of love it was anymore. Her mom has trying to cover up where she went, all she would tell me is to not give up if truly love her and that she told her that she still loved me before she left. I now know that she must have kept in touch with this guy since her work trip to Las Vegas. I don’t know if she loves this guy or what to do in this situation. I still love her and want her back but if it isn’t salvageable then I need to move on.

    I understand that my story’s sporadic but that’s how the past 2 weeks have been. Any help or insight would be appreciated.

    thanks
    Z.S.

    1. Hi,

      It sounds like you broke up to me, and she is using some excuse like you weren’t being “thoughtful” enough.

      That sounds better than I am bored with our relationship and I want out.

      Remember actions will always speak louder than words.

      WTF kind of break is it when she is off exploring romantic possibilities with other men?

      Would she put up with you doing that to her?

      She is stringing you along until she figures out what she “really” wants.

      Welcome to relationship limbo.

      But there is a way out.

      If you want to reveal your ex girlfriends true feelings for you use the no contact rule.

      I help people get their lives back not get their ex girlfriends back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  6. I am planning on giving my wife the NC letter, but she won’t be moving out for another month or so. She initiated the separation and I am ready to start now. We do have a daughter and an almost 10 year history between us. I am hoping that all of this will work using the NC rule.

    1. Hi,

      The no contact rule, and the free plan “when properly used” will reveal your ex wife’s true feelings for you.

      Why are you waiting for her to move out?

      You can still use NC while sharing a house/apartment.

      This is covered in the free plan.

      Just remember this is about getting your life back, not getting your ex wife back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  7. I actually already bought the Magic of Making Up. I’m wondering if it would work with those divorced already and the ex-wife, less than 2 months after the finalization left to another state and eloped into a rebound MARRIAGE in particular. Thomas Trumen says not all is lost. We spoke on the phone once. But it’s tough finding times to coach/get coached. Now I’m still close to her family, they are all here in Albuquerque still, including her sons (my stepsons). She texted me last Friday seeing how I was doing. I’m looking for the right boundary. She asked me last Friday also and yesterday afternoon while her new husband was at work if I could pay her son’s phone bill, and asked me not to tell anyone that she asked me that favor, or the favor on Friday night which was to rent her a car to come visit. I said no to both of them, she’s persisting on the phone bill. But she said she’s visiting next weekend, driving alone. I’d like to see her but know the right things to say, do, and amount of time to see her, not get taken advantage of but not reject, take into account all your advice. How can you help? Sorry if this is too long. Thanks and God bless you.

    1. Hi,

      She is married.

      I would advise you stop trying to get her back at this point.

      You should be focusing on evolving past the divorce, and getting your life back again as a single man.

      If there is a chance for reconciliation with your ex wife, it will be after she gets a divorce from her current husband.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s, and I explain why in the “About” section of my Blog.

      If you want help evolving past the divorce and getting your life back again, go read the free plan to get your ex back here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  8. I just wanted to write in and say S.Williams you are a stud. I have not read all your stuff… just finished the first page. I had my wife walk away a couple years back and did a lot of work to get my life back on track. My life is moving forward and I am on a good path. [No reconciliation (shrug) I did what I could.] I just read your responses and thought I should tell you how nice it is to do what you do. Replying back to those who have asked questions rocks and shows you care.

    Have a great day and keep up the good work.

    1. Hi,

      Thank you for your kind words.

      You have a great day too! 🙂

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  9. Hi Scott,

    I live In Australia with my 3 daughters and my wife lives overseas in a Pacific Island country with another man. In short, my wife left me and the kids and ran away with another married man who has a wife and kids of his own. I want to know if you can hekp somebody in my situation ? I do want my wife back and I do pray for the restoration of my marriage. The relationship with thsi man started when my wife went overseas to study. It has been on/off for three years now, however she has been living with this man the past 12 months straight. She does not want to come to australia to live but she does miss her daughters terribly. I have stopped her phone contact to the kids because they are very distraught and unstable ater the phone calls which used to happen once a month for 10 minutes. Last contact she had with our kids was September 2010. Our kids are much more settled now and they want to live with me in Australia and don’t want to live with their mum and the other man overseas. The girls are all under 10 years of age. It is a tough one, but I want to win her heart back. I ahve made big changes to my life. Unfortunately on the two occasions I spoke to my wife in 2010 she did not want to speak to me as I was taking up her time with the kids. Also the otehr guy is a control freak and obviously they have trust issues, he even reads every email so it is hard to speak with her or even email her without him finding out. Is there anything that you can offer program wise to give somebody in my situation a chance ? Some say it is never too late, I would love to be one of those persons appearing on blogs giving a testimonial that my wife and I are reconciled, and very happy and our family are doing well. Any commenst would be appreciated.

    1. Stephen says:

      I would love to be one of those persons appearing on blogs giving a testimonial that my wife and I are reconciled, and very happy and our family are doing well.

      Hi,

      You CAN NOT make someone come back, but you can evolve past the break up, and move on with your life.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Once you have read, and started following the free plan, I would also suggest that you start studying the law of attraction…why?

      It is because I feel it would be a great help for people in your situation.

      I started a topic about it in our forum, and here is the link:

      The Law of Attraction & Relationships

      Thanks for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. Thanks Scott,

        I appreciate your reply. However, the first thing that came to mind when I read your response was the reference to the title of this site “How to Get your ex Back Fast” which appears not to tie up with your comment that you help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.
        Regardless I acknowledge all you have said and am more than happy and ready to read your plan on your Blog, and also follow through with studying the law of attraction. I acknowledge I need to get my life back, I have been “moving on” and making changes, power of positive thinking and prayer does work wonders. However I need more and I am sure that your site will help me improve in all facets of my life that need enhancement. At the end of the day, whilst I am moving on, I do want to reconcile with my wife and am hopeful what I learn from your sites will contribute to a successful restoration of my marriage, even though this may not be your main aim.

        Thanks again Scott.

        1. Stephen says:

          I appreciate your reply. However, the first thing that came to mind when I read your response was the reference to the title of this site “How to Get your ex Back Fast” which appears not to tie up with your comment that you help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

          Hi,

          I would explain about this in detail, but I already have in the “about section” of my Blog.

          Every “legitimate” blog should have an “about”, “about me” section, and explain who they are and what their Blog is all about, and I do.

          What comes to my mind is…do you do any research before deciding to participate in something, or do you “blindly” follow someone’s advice?

          I suggest you go read my “about section” before deciding to do anything, OK?

          Thanks for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

      2. Hi Scott,

        Sincere apologies, I missed three quarters of your site before corresponding with you. Entirely my fault. I have read your stuff and think it is great. It is a real shame I had not come across your site so much earlier, as I am sure it would have made the world of difference. The Law of Attraction is excellent as is the No Contact rule, I wholeheartedly believe your systems work no matter one’s colour, race, creed and culture etc…

        Thanks for helping to put so many lives back together and best wishes for your future endeavours. I come across plenty of people that are in dire need of assistance and will point them to your web site every chance I get. As for me, I will work on myself using a number of the principles you have provided.

        Stephen

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