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How to Get Your Ex Back Using The Infamous “Missing” Link

Now That You Have The "Missing" Link Go Use No Contact Correctly

You want to get your ex back, and, you have bought every book out there, but, you still can’t get anywhere, right?

You need the “missing” link.

What is that?

Keep on reading.

It seems a chain is only as strong, as the weakest link.

But, what if it’s missing a link, altogether?

How to get your ex back using the infamous “missing” link.

 


 

The “Missing” Link

 

Every one of those books out there refers to using some version of the no contact rule, as your first step in, getting your ex back.

But, none of them really go into much detail.

I am going to fix that, here and now.

NC is just keeping your ex “out of the loop” personally, while you follow a plan on how to survive your breakup.

Here is how to start, and apply, no contact, in a variety of situations.

 


 

The First Step

 

Politely tell your ex, that you need some time and space, to work out some personal issues, and, you”ll be in touch, when you’re ready.

Also, tell them that you would really appreciate it if they would respect that, and, not contact you, unless it was something like, shared children, or financial affairs.

You can use any version of this you like, but, this is a general idea…OK?

The no contact message is a lot more effective (and powerful) when you’re polite.

 

Scenario 1 – You work for the same company

 

Just keep things polite, and do not engage in any conversations that are personal, just keep it all about work.

 

Scenario 2 – You Have The Same Circle of Friends

 

Pretty much the same advice, be polite, and, do not discuss your personal life with them, or, with your friends, when your ex is present.

Same thing if you happen to run into them, out in public, stay cool.

 

Scenario 3 – You share a child or children together

 

Once again, when picking up, or dropping off your kids just be polite, and, keep it all about your kids.

Same thing when you go to any of your kid’s events, where your ex will be present.

 

Scenario 4 – You’re roommates, live in the same house, but not room

 

Just be a polite roommate, keep to yourself, and, if it is too uncomfortable, make arrangements ASAP, to live somewhere else.

 


 

What If Your Ex, Keeps Contacting You?

 

Politely ignore them, you are not being rude, they are.

If they continue to contact you, resend the recommended NC message, as outlined in the free breakup survival plan.

The biggest excuse there is, (and, I do mean excuse) to break no contact is my ex just won’t leave me alone, so I had to.

No, you didn’t, and, now you have shown your ex, that they can still control you.

Now that you know how to get your ex back using the (not so missing) “Missing” link…get back out there!

If there is still something missing in your attempts to win your ex back, then, subscribe to my free newsletter, and, let me help you.

I can supply you with a chain of information, designed to teach you how to survive a breakup, and, how to get your ex back.

If you have any comments or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and, I will answer them ASAP!

 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008, to overcome breakup pain, and, get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section, that I recommend you read.

I realize the address, of my site, is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but, I “really” teach people, how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me, (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter, for access to the free breakup survival plan, and, start getting your life back, today.

The answers you need, to start your personal evolution, are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come, and get them.

Once, you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

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  1. Ok so I did read you recommended letter but I was thinking of sending this letter. It will do several things.
    1- Lighten their load by accepting the breakup.
    2- An apology in case I did something wrong.
    3- Tell them that I realized my mistakes.
    4- Trigger their curiosity by telling them something
    exciting happened in my life.
    5- Close on a highly positive note

    ———–
    Just wanted to let you know that you were absolutely right about the breakup…

    Now I know that it was the right thing to do. You are a wonderful person and you deserve the best. I am sorry for having messed it all up.

    I went through a pretty exciting transformation…A lot of amazing things have been happening lately. I would love to tell you about it some time.

    Anyway I just wanted to thank you for everything and hope we can be friends in the future.
    ———————–

    What do you think?

  2. Marcus wrote:

    Well the first letter I emailed to her. Does the make any difference?

    Use whatever method you “know” she will “definitely” get it, it does no good to send the message if she won’t receive it, right?

    Now send the message word for word…the clock is ticking and the break up is getting older.

    After you send it make sure to update your NC diary in the forum, or start one if you haven’t already.

    Then read the others stories and find yourself a “forum buddy” and PM them, and you can support each other through this whole process.

    The 2 keys to success here are taking action ASAP, and finding support (forum buddies) to help you with your emotional control, and to keep you from breaking NC.

    It is not mandatory, but recommended that you get the book the magic of making up, as it is the primary book we work out of…OK?

    Have you read the success stories on my Blog and in the relationship Rescue forums?…this plan will work, if you follow the plan correctly.

  3. Well the first letter I emailed to her. Does the make any difference?

  4. Marcus wrote:

    Wouldn’t she in her mind think “he already sent me a letter why did he send another letter?”

    When she holds the new one next to the old one, she will understand why you sent the second one…that one supersedes the first “weak” letter and puts “you” in control.

    The new letter will not offer “friendship” just a signal that you might not be waiting around for her anymore.

    You see if someone thinks they have you on the hook…what’s the hurry, you”ll always be on the hook, right?

    Welcome to “relationship limbo” where life sucks.

    This new message will hit her unexpected and make her think there is more to you then she thought…curiosity.

    She will be intrigued by this new letter, and it will probably piss her off, why?

    You just jumped off the hook, now the hook is available and she will end up on it…if you follow our plan correctly.

  5. No…no…no.. not the letter it self. I guess I was not clear. But the fact I sent another letter would look weak and needy?

    Wouldn’t she in her mind think “he already sent me a letter why did he send another letter?”

  6. Marcus wrote:

    Or maybe she will see it as a sign of weakness and needy and want to talk to me even less?

    Have you read my recommended no contact message that is posted in the plan in our forum?

    You tell me what part of “that” message sounds weak or needy?

    I think you are just afraid to send the message, that’s normal but you have to suck it up and send it, OK?

  7. Ok thanks. Just one more question. If I send another letter after already sending her a letter before won’t she just get on the defensive and just get mad all over again? Or maybe she will see it as a sign of weakness and needy and want to talk to me even less? After all she does have a psychology background herself.

  8. Marcus wrote:

    One last question that I have not seen addressed. When I send the “NC message” how am I supposed to address the envelope. Just put the reciepants address with out no return address? I thinking that if I include my return address she will see who the letter is from and just toss it away without even looking at it.

    You can text, or email it, but if you prefer to mail it use her address as the return address.

    This way the envelope will definitely make it to her…make sense?

    Type it out so she doesn’t see your handwriting either, plus it looks so much more professional that way too.

    How can she say return it to sender if it’s her address, she has to open it…Damn, I am sneaky. 🙂

  9. One last question that I have not seen addressed. When I send the “NC message” how am I supposed to address the envelope. Just put the reciepants address with out no return address? I thinking that if I include my return address she will see who the letter is from and just toss it away without even looking at it.

  10. Marcus wrote:

    Well my ex broke thing off with me on Aug 1.

    That is just a couple weeks, the break up is still pretty fresh.

    Marcus wrote:

    Also I have started the NC phase and I sent her the following letter. Probably not the right letter to send. Do I need to send the right letter? Thanks for you help.

    I believe you’re a forum member, right?

    If you have been to our forum follow the step by step plan and send the “recommended NC message” ASAP.

    It will do a much better job of flipping her switch and change the way she thinks about you and the current situation.

    Your first NC attempt was weak and apologetic, most people’s are, that is why I came up with my version designed to “kick them in the ass”, and make them take notice.

  11. Well my ex broke thing off with me on Aug 1. That is 13 days ago. Would that be considered “just” broken up scenario? Also I have started the NC phase and I sent her the following letter. Probably not the right letter to send. Do I need to send the right letter? Thanks for you help.

    Dear XXXX,

    Thank you for your kind words. I understand where you are coming from.

    Sorry if that singing telegram was a bit much. I now see by your actions that you have closed the door on us and I must do the same. Thank you for the time you invited me into your life. It was a joy and fun. It’s great the way you are and how you treat your family. I get you.

    I agree and I think you should move on.

    I hope you find what you are looking for.

    Good luck in your search.

    Marcus

    P.S. Don’t be a stranger. If you have the desire to hang out, don’t hesitate to call. Perhaps a simple friendship could be in order.

  12. Marcus wrote:

    “Remember a lot of the suggestions in the book, and the videos assume that you “just” broke up.”

    That is exactly why I wrote a supplement plan to help people who do not fall into that category, it is the one posted in our forum.

    People who have been broken up for months have followed my plan, and it is helping them to get their life, and hopefully their ex back as well.

    Marcus wrote:

    Just broke up – Within the last couple of days or couple of weeks or couple of months?

    That would be something you would use your common sense to figure out.

    If you broke up a couple months ago I wouldn’t call that “just broke up”…would you?

    Mostly what matters is taking action, if your ex still tries to maintain contact as friends, after being broke up for months, I would say go for it and use our free plan.

    If you have broken up recently (days, weeks), you can still use the plan to see whether they still have any feelings for you, understand?

  13. “Remember a lot of the suggestions in the book, and the videos assume that you “just” broke up.”

    What does “just” broke up really mean in terms of length of time?

    Just broke up – Within the last couple of days or couple of weeks or couple of months?

  14. Mary wrote:

    And I am not at a state that after the month I want to contact him after I folowed ur advice but at the same time i dont want to lose him, he is good guy when we r together, barely when we r distant but was always loyal despite our distant relation ship as I heard. Your advice ?

    My advice would be to follow the plan we use in our forum, use the support from other members to help keep you on track.

    NC is not about being ready in 30 days, it’s about evolving and getting your life back…understand?

    If you want my help to get your ex back follow this link:

    http://forum.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/topic/read-this-first

    Make sure you read the rules and guidelines before you join, I strictly enforce them.

    Don’t forget to sign up for my free News Letter for free videos, tips and advice on How to Get Your Ex Back.

    Just click on the link under the little red heart in the upper right hand corner of my Blog.

  15. Scott,

    I believe all what u say without even trying it bcoz I was in out of this same relation million times sometimes I go back calling or he pleads to come. Lately though in the ‘before the last’ break up I was so hurt that I did not try to contact him for more than a month, with out knowin of the rule but he never called, however I heard from friends that his mom was very ill with cancer so I thought for old times sake I should be there for him since I know that she means a lot to him. But I only emailed him to send my condolences and some management advice (I am a doctor) he was very hapy to hear from me. then we kept in touch ofcoarse my efforts – I regret- and he showed care and love again without sayign the words, but we went back to our old arguments of him not calling when he says he would, how I dont understand his actions, when together al lovely dovey and when we depart iam totally negelcted. THat put him in so much pressure obviously on top of his mom ‘s ilness pressure and we literally broke up again. I will follow ur directions but I pretty sure he wont call coz this is not the first time. I am not sure what to think or how to analyse the situation. I have my share of fault but he forces to react the way I do bcoz I didnot understand him. Now I am reading ur articles and I am understanding more mens perspective or love and relations but I think I am too late coz I pressed the last button with him and although I am going to try the one month NC rule I think I was late to know about ur advice. And I am not at a state that after the month I want to contact him after I folowed ur advice but at the same time i dont want to lose him, he is good guy when we r together, barely when we r distant but was always loyal despite our distant relation ship as I heard. Your advice ?

  16. Ken wrote:

    @ chris:
    What if my ex has told me that he is “done” and kinda started the “NC” already on ME?

    You can read in my FAQ section how to properly join our forum, then after you go read the forum on No contact for singles we discuss the NC strategy a lot more…see you inside. 🙂

  17. @ chris:

    What if my ex has told me that he is “done” and kinda started the “NC” already on ME?

  18. Ryan wrote:

    So after 10 days, what do I do? Tell her?

    This letter was meant to be sent right after the breakup.

    Since you did it wrong before buying the book I don’t know how effective the letter will be…understand?

    If she tries to contact you then you could use what I suggest in FAQ #1 in the start here first section of my Blog…OK?

    Remember a lot of the suggestions in the book, and the videos assume that you “just” broke up.

    You have to be open to adapt your situation to the advice, and focus on the outcome, not trying to be nice to your ex…you want to attract them back.

    If you want a one-one personalized plan to follow, I suggest finding a relationship therapist in your area to help you.

    This is a free “self-help” Blog that I offer my time and advice for Free.

    I was hoping someday people would start helping each other, but they mostly want to complain, and bitch about my advice not being perfectly matched to their unique situation.

    Even though it’s free for you, it’s not for me.

    I pay to have this blog on the internet for you all

    Just for the record did you buy the book from me?

    If so you can get my private email support, just send me your clickbank receipt.

  19. I purchased the Magic of Making Up and after reading through it and returning to Chapter 2, Don’t Panic, I have a question. I understand the take a break. I have read through some of the questions here about no contact. The book does not help me with one thing.
    I did begin no contact with my ex already. It did not explain in the book, as you suggest in your responses to people that you should tell your ex that is what you’re doing. I just did it. So after 10 days, what do I do? Tell her? I have fumbled and been conveniently where she is but never initiated verbal contact, nor did she. I am on track, after reading Chapter 2 again and giving this an honest effort but my ex is likely to think I am mad now. Should I call or send a letter to explain?

  20. Sean wrote:

    Dear Vicki,
    It’s been difficult not to ask how you are doing when i see you. I wanted to let you know I agree with the break up now. It’s the best thing possible for both of us. I do have some exciting news to share with you sometime but for now I need time to for me. Maybe someday we can be friends.

    I would leave off the part “Maybe someday we can be friends.” it sounds like you only want to be friends, when in fact you don’t…so it’s lying…right?

    Sean wrote:

    I will then, shall we say, begin NC again for 3 weeks or so and continue self improvements. At least, as the video said,this will set the stage for my next moves and give me time to continue developing a plan. What do you think?

    NC is not about a certain amount of time, but more about an amount of progress.

    If she has been attempting to contact you after 30 days, then move to chapter 6 the reconnection phase.

    If not reevaluate your position and either contact her to set up the short meeting outlined in chapter 6 of the Magic of Making up.

    Or wait a little longer if you feel you’re not emotionally prepared to get turned down…understand?

  21. I pleaded with my ex girlfriend to take me back and told her I knew what I needed to change and even had the help of a counsellor to do it. I had insecurities and now have strategies to overcome these and already see a change in myself – that’s where I need to start. Anyway, she looked apprehensive and good reason. She told me she just didn’t think it was going to work right now and she would be looking over my shoulder for another guy. She said I could show her for now I have changed, as a friend. I began the NC and have really put strategies in place to improve myself. It’s been a little over 2 weeks. I have faith in myself and the no contact rule. But with NC, I didn’t tell her that was my plan which I should have. We run into each other and we used to have great communication and now it’s a smile or hello. I was going to write the following letter, based on the video,”agree with the break up for now.”

    Dear Vicki,
    It’s been difficult not to ask how you are doing when i see you. I wanted to let you know I agree with the break up now. It’s the best thing possible for both of us. I do have some exciting news to share with you sometime but for now I need time to for me. Maybe someday we can be friends.

    I will then, shall we say, begin NC again for 3 weeks or so and continue self improvements. At least, as the video said,this will set the stage for my next moves and give me time to continue developing a plan. What do you think?

  22. ruby wrote:

    should i completely dissappear just like he wanted and then try contact him after a while? Or will that make him forget me for good?

    Have you followed a plan yet?

    If not get a plan, and follow it.

    You can sit there and ask yourself “should I do this, or should I do that”…forever, but where will that get you?

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

    ruby wrote:

    Why cant he be just a little nice to me back?

    Because he is an asshole…that would be my first guess.

  23. Hi Scott,

    i fit into the first catagory… I’ve been polite i smile at him and say hello/good morning whenever i bump into him even knowing he wouldn’t respond back… it hurts a lot. i don’t know why he has to be so mean when I’m the one who should be because he broke it off with me. Why cant he be just a little nice to me back? i sometimes go on ignoring him back when i feel down and not in the best mood and I’ve been having heaps of mood swing lately. Should i quit work Scott? it’s now been 4-5 months since he and i were together as a couple. Feels like its not going anywhere. he probably knows that i am holding on for him. should i completely dissappear just like he wanted and then try contact him after a while? Or will that make him forget me for good?

  24. chris wrote:

    so if i just dissappear for awhile it will work?

    That sounds a lot like using no contact, which is part of the plan.

    Do you have a plan?

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  25. so if i just dissappear for awhile it will work?

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