How to Get Your Ex Back in 2010 – 3 Proven New Year Resolutions to Get Your Ex Back
Do you want your ex back in 2010? Here are 3 proven ways to get your ex back again, and start the year off right. Make these sure fire resolutions, and win your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, or husband back fast.
Win Them Back Resolution 1
The first resolution you have to make is to stop chasing your ex. That means not just text messaging, emailing, and showing up at places you know they will be, but it also means mentally. You have to promise yourself you will not obsess about getting them back. You have to let them go physically, and mentally as well. You can accomplish this if you sit down and formulate a good plan using the no contact rule to keep yourself socially busy, instead of scheming how to get your ex back…make sense?
Win Them Back Resolution 2
Once you have an idea of how you’re going to let them go mentally. Then put those ideas into action. Go out with friends and family, and stay active socially…But! Do not talk about your ex or your break up, OK? If you bring that gray cloud over your head everywhere you go, you will end up with no friends, along with no boyfriend or girlfriend. Remember you were supposed to let your breakup go…so do it. Your second resolution is to “walk the talk”, which means to act upon what you said you were going to do…don’t just talk about it…OK?
Win Them Back Resolution 3
Now that you have decided to let that little gray cloud go you need to do a little more to move on from your old “failed” relationship. Many people are afraid that dating will send the wrong message, and will not help you get your ex back. But, they are wrong! This works on two different levels to your advantage.
First, it builds your confidence and helps you to mentally let go of your old relationship. Second it is fun and your ex will now start to realize you might never come back…now they start to panic inside. Even though you are only moving on from your old relationship, it will seem that you are over them completely…this flips an emotional switch, and your ex will start to chase you. As crazy as this all might sound, these 3 steps will help you get your ex back in 2010, or maybe sooner.
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after 2 mnths since our break up, my gf is dating someone else. but her mom told me that she ask my ex gf about it and my ex told her mom that she doesn’t like the guy. whats that?
@ chris:
Hi Chris,
I don’t know what you are asking me.
Why don’t you ask her Mom about it?
After all didn’t she tell you in the first place?
I am sure she would know more about what your ex girlfriend said than I would.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi S.Williams,
I have been following the no contact plan, and it’s been more than 1 month. My ex boyfriend has not contacted me at all (and I have no idea how he is or what he is up to now). I am wondering if I should send him a christmas greeting and also his birthday is coming up in January.
My gut feeling tells me that I should not do so and still carry on with my no contact plan (as I still feel angry with how he treated me). However, if I don’t make contact during this special occasion, will he totally give up on our relationship? (Because he thinks I am angry or that I have moved on, so he will move on too?) Also, I have promised him to celebrate with him on his birthday before (obviously before we broke up).
If he sends me a xmas greeting, shall I reply? Please give me some advice.
Helen wrote:
Hi Helen,
If your ex sends you a holiday greeting, politely thank him, and greet him back.
Don’t get into any big discussions…keep polite, short, and sweet, OK?
NC is not about ignoring people or being rude, but if he tries to take advantage of the situation…send him another NC message.
Have you read the free plan, on my Blog?
If not, you should read it and follow all the steps, and start using all the free support tools.
Take Care,
S.W.
@scott
what i meant was my ex is dating someone she doesnt like. Whats the reason for that? I dont know if its a rebound because we’ve broken up for already 2 1/2 months.
chris wrote:
Hi Chris,
I don’t deal in speculation…why?
Because she could be lying (she does like him), her mom could be lying to make you feel better, it could be a rebound…take your pick.
What good does that do you?
What I do deal in, is facts.
Fact: I have people in our forum who followed the free plan on my Blog, and got their ex back after 7 months.
Fact: If you just sit around waiting for your ex to come back you could be waiting a long time.
If you want to take some positive action, start following the free plan on my Blog, and stop worrying about what your ex, or her mother says and does.
It doesn’t matter…you can be in control of this situation if you want to be.
Take care,
S.W.
After a day or 2 of shock about the break and questionning him (reasonably calmly) as to why etc (it came out the blue), I realised the error of doing that very quickly and initiated complete no contact. NC has been going on now for several weeks. He said he wanted to be alone until January and gave various reasons for the split. I am therefore respecting that. I am meeting new people, going out as much as possible and generally trying very hard to get on with my life, although still hoping that we might have another chance to get together. We spoke almost daily in some form or another for a long time, so I am assuming this no contact will have a big impact on him as well as me. In fact, when I said I was doing the no contact thing he got very upset. I am just not sure when to make an inital contact though. How long to leave it. I have heard through a mutual friend that he has been asking after me recently. I guess that is a good sign, if only to show caring. Any thoughts on when and how to make a contact in the New Year? Many thanks for a great supportive site.
Ruby wrote:
Hi Ruby,
Are you following the free plan?
Did you send the recommended NC message word for word?
If not you did not initiate NC properly, and you need to start over again from the beginning of the free plan.
If you’re following the free plan, and using all the support tools you should already have an answer to your question.
Take Care,
S.W.
So I’m in the no contact phase and my bf sent a text at 5:19am saturday morning. He said “hey” and nothing else. I checked the message and rolled back over without replying. Later that day he called. It was a weird call. He asked how I was doing ( i just had outpatient surgery) and how my week went. Then he asked what I was doing on sunday. I told him i was going to church. He seemed to want to ask me something else, but he instead said “let me finish “this”, and call you back later”. I don’t know what “this” is, but I said ok and hung up. He never called back, needless to say. I’m just wondering if I am doing this right. What does his odd behavior mean?
li li wrote:
Hi li li,
No, you’re not using no contact correctly.
You need to re-send the recommended NC message as outlined in the free plan on my Blog…and then stick to it.
If you have read the free plan you will see there are free support tools to help you…use them.
The “odd behavior” is your ex trying to keep tabs on your personal life…NC was working but you messed it up, so you need to begin again.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Dear S.W :
First at all, I would like to say Merry Xmas and Happy New Year to you
Today is 13th day of NC, I feel a little bit better, at least won’t lock myself in my room anymore.
I have one quick question for you.
As i mentioned in my previous message, my ex feels guilty he dumps me becoz of his selfish.
He also knows i have minor depression due to this breakup. I have never contacted him since 12/9/2009, the day i sent my NC and completely disappear in his life. Even my fd talked to him last Tue. , I still didn’t contact him at all.
He hasn’t contacted me either and I feel a little bit sad about it. is it because he feels guilty , so he is afraid to call me ? Because he told my fd dat i will be better of without him.
Orangepekoo wrote:
Hi OP,
Happy Holidays to you too!
If he is feeling guilty he has to work this out for himself.
Just you getting better should make him feel better.
Guilt is a lot like self-pity, and after a while it will get old, and he will wake up.
Just give it time, and continue to personally evolve.
What happens a lot of times is that when one part of a broken up couple starts to evolve it causes the other to evolve as well.
At first it seems like one is out growing the other, but they are actually challenging each other to become better people by learning, and growing from past mistakes.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Hey scott happy holidays I got back with my ex bein going slow an I’m now taking my medication for my moods he has takin me out a few times we had good laughs but and its a big but I think I’m coming on a little heavy I kind of went on about commitment an he was a little apprehensive an said we have to take one day at a time its made me insecure but I’m goin back to wat I wrote I’m my no nc jotter an I’m workin on that any ideas on how I can pull him back a little after that commitment spilage scott. There isn’t a day that goes past that he doesn’t text tellin me about his day I just need a few pointers to put me back thanx muchly scott I’m getting ur book as my little xmas bonus treat
natalie10 wrote:
Hi Natalie,
Your ex is right (actually, he’s not your ex anymore), you both need to take things slow.
This is a “brand new” relationship…the old one’s dead, remember?
It’s like having a baby, and then the next day sending it off to college…you’re moving way too fast…take baby steps, OK?
Have fun getting to know each other again.
Have a Happy Holiday!
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Thanx scott for your advice I just get caught up in sonic speed mode I was told today that a man falls in love with you in the spaces he doesn’t see you what do you think to this I’m thinkin that’s another reason why nc works for women scott
Hi My name is Laura
I need some advice as im feeling so low right now. Me and my ex broke up. It was my initial decision however regret this now and it was even worse when he agreed to break up saying he needed time and for me to move on as he didnt no what he wanted at the moment. Its been 5 weeks since we split up. And i have broken the no contact twice and feel so ashamed and bad about this. After the first week of breaking up i drove to his place and ended up crying begging him to come back. And this made him colder towrads me, which made me even more desperate. I then was doing so well and but yeserday after 3 weeks i contacted him and he agreed to come over to talk. However he still said he needed time and didnt no what he wanted. When he said he had to go , i got upset again and the same thing happened. Is it too late for no contact and to get his love back or have i blown it?
@ natalie10:
Yes, and NC works for both men and women.
Laura wrote:
Hi Laura,
No, you have not blown it.
You just need to follow a good plan.
Go to the top of my Blog and read the free plan.
Take Care,
S.W.
@ S. Williams:
I have sent my NC message today and he just replied ‘ok Laura i wont be in touch but have good xmas with your family’. Do i reply to this message. After all i dont want him not to be in touch with me ever, thats not what i want.
Laura wrote:
Yeah I am sure he will never contact you again. LOL
It’s is a threat to make you get upset, and it worked didn’t?
You need to focus in your personal evolution.
You’re waaay too wrapped around his finger.
Ignore it, or reply with Thank you Have a good Christmas too.
You’re choice, but after that ignore his contacts.
Refer to the free plan to learn more about this, OK?
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Dear Scott,
It seems that I have lost the battle to getting my ex back and I am still heartbroken over it.
We were dating for two years and 7 months of that we lived together, I initiated the break up by asking him to move out, however, he really was the one leaving the relationship, he was treating me badly, even withholding love and affection and sex!
I felt the relationship was over for good this time, he called me daily after moving out, sometimes several times a day and he always wanted something from me, either information, or where was his whatever….and he asked to see me once and I did see him briefly, he told me he was working part time (as well as at our old job–I got laid off)and he wanted me to work there with him, I didn’t and he didn’t stay long at the job. Then he would arrange to get together with me and stand me up, he basically was the one who told me it was over, because when he moved out I said we needed a break, we could date other people and he lied and said nothing would change he would still come over and spend the night with me, that it was up to us if we still wanted to be together….but he broke it off with me but wouldn’t stop calling me and leaning on me for advice. I told him if he didn’t want a relationship with me then he couldn’t have the benefits of my support and friendship, please stop calling me, I needed to get over him.
One month after that he started dating an Asian girl very intensely and called and told me he had a new girlfriend and she drove a Lexus, rubbing it in my face basically. This relationship lasted 8 weeks maybe 10. When he had broken up with her he called and said he wanted to come over and have sex with me etc, it made me kind of mad and I told him that I didn’t want to date him that our relationship didn’t work in response to him suggesting that he would be fine emotionally after he had sex with me and would I be OK. I did have sex with him and he was also affectionate and talked to me about the girl and said she was a B and not that hot as hot as she thought she was. I found out two days later they got back together! But she found out about me, he hadn’t even told her about me at all, and she dumped him.
About another month goes by (I hadn’t called him) and he starts to call me again and reestablish contact he started reminiscing about our past, he started to brag about how well his job was working out, how much money he was making in sales, how well his five year old daughter was doing in school, how smart she was, how great he is doing, how he had stopped drinking and got his drivers license back, how he was working out, etc. He continued to call me and talk and he would flirt and kept pressuring me for sex. I would agree to meet him (not for sex) and then I would call and cancel, he did the same to me a couple of times. We kept saying we wanted to get together and we never did. In one conversation he kept me on the phone for like an hour, he volunteered to help me do some painting in my house without asking in the future when he was slow at work…then I called him a week later (I had told him I would call him to get together one weekend and I didn’t call) and his phone had been disconnected. He had changed his email address, so I didn’t have any way to get in touch with him. I was really upset I had no idea why he would break contact with me like that. Two weeks went by and I left him a letter on his car at his house telling him that I didn’t understand why I didn’t have his phone number and to let him know my precious cat was very ill and I was going to have to put him to sleep soon and how sad I was and how it started me thinking how precious the people in my life were, etc. I told him that my feelings for him never had changed that I still loved him and the reason I wasn’t with him wasn’t because I didn’t love him but because of his wrong thinking about me and how I couldn’t do anything about that.
He called the next day all happy and said he just forgot to give me the number, he had gotten a new phone plan. So the conversations continued between us on the phone. Finally, I agree to meet him and see him, he got off work late one evening and came over to my house. He had told me earlier that he would stop pressuring me for sex. When he came over he was really romantic acting and humble almost apologetic and he tried to kiss me on the lips, pulled my hair back and tried to kiss me on the neck and I wouldn’t let him do either, I didn’t really pull my body away, I let him hug me and I put my arms around his neck when he pulled me closer and put his face in mine waiting for me to kiss him, and he made a lizard tongue at me and I laughed and said I always loved his lizard kisses the best. I told him I was afraid to kiss him that it would lead to sex, and he said he didn’t just think of me as just a shag.
We sat on my couch and he drew me close and put his arm around my shoulder while talking with me. Then I made the mistake of questioning him about whether or not he was dating anyone he really liked or not, and he said no, and that if I had seen cars over at his house at night it didn’t mean he was sleeping with anyone that those were his roommates friends. I asked don’t you want a girlfriend? And he said he was about to start a new project and that he might be ready to start a new relationship but that it wouldn’t be any one he worked with and he would be starting from scratch. Which made me feel he ruled getting back together with me out, but I didn’t ask.
After awhile he stood up and had to go, but he was still flirting with me and talking about having sex with me and what he wanted me to wear and I didn’t say yeah or nay, just joking around with him.
He didn’t come and see me the following week, but he made an effort to call and to call me when he was supposed to after I called and left a message….then on Thanksgiving he calls me on his way home to tell me that he has a new girlfriend or a potential new girlfriend and I thought he was joking at first because it was a girl he had joked about before being one of his roommates friends…and that she wasn’t fat, no drugs, and that she had given him the best ever! Then he said he was making it all up. Anyway, he kept saying that he wanted to see me, too, and I asked him what he meant by that and then he said he had to hang up because his roommate just pulled up and he needed to talk to her.
Well, I was upset, I thought it was an important conversation, his phone reception was bad and I couldn’t hear him well, so I drove over to his house thinking he was home alone with his roommate. There was a strange car parked out front, it turns out the girlfriend was there and he answered the door and she stood behind him in the dark and he said it was a bad time, he was trying to work something out and he would talk to me tomorrow
Basically, he had been calling me for four months and asking to see me but not asking me out on a date, so I kept putting him off, I believe that this girl was hanging out a lot at his house with his roommate, they got sexual and he ended up asking her to be his girlfriend when he started to get closer to me and actually maybe rekindling things with me and he said he was afraid that being with me would interfere with other potential people. This girl also was helping him file a court case against his child’s mother and had an attorney look over the document for free….his case is set for Jan 5th. He still kept calling me, he helped me get a job through a friend of his, which shows he cares because I told him my unemployment was running out.
I haven’t seen him since that night, and I stopped over at house on Saturday after he should have gotten home from work to see him and he wasn’t there, but called a few minutes later saying he just got home, what did I want that I can’t stop by like that without calling first and that he was moving from there and I wouldn’t be able to come by like that after, he said what if I was in bed with my girlfriend or something. I asked if he had no intention of telling me where he was moving too, and he said he couldn’t talk and hung up on me.
Prior to this I had called and left him a message that I had finally met a guy recently and slept with him (a lie in response to him telling me something sexual that he and this girl did which I told him was rude and insensitive) and I had talked to him a few times on the phone after that message and he seemed depressed, or down or short on the phone.
I went back to his house to see him and ask him what the heck was wrong and he said he was in bed with his girlfriend and he told me that and I came over anyway. (he didn’t say he was he said what if) I don’t believe him, but I said it was Christmas and I wanted to see him for a few minutes, and I left. He even said his roommate was getting ready to call the police she heard me tell you on the phone not to come by. This was a lie, and also his roommate remember is a friend of his new girlfriend!
A couple of days later I called and left a voice message saying that I apologize for stopping by that I respected his new relationship and I didn’t mean to cause any problems that I wouldn’t be stopping by anymore. Good luck with your move, have a Happy Christmas I know you said you were spending it alone which is odd since you have a girlfriend (she’s a teacher and gets two weeks off) I will be spending it with my family they are coming in town. Thanks for the memories, it’s time for me to move on. See you around.
He had told me prior to call him after the first of the year. But after leaving that message I added a feature to my phone that blocked his number from calling me. That way I don’t feel anxiety knowing that he hasn’t tried to call me back and if he does he will know that what he did and said has caused me to move on permanently.
I intend to get my job back in a couple of months where he still works, don’t know if I will accomplish it, but I will be seeing him then. If not, he will have moved, I won’t know where, and I will probably never see him again.
I don’t want to move on permanently, but I feel like he is playing these games with me to make me chase him and then he doesn’t give in either. Will this new no contact serve any purpose other than to make him feel I have moved on permanently?
It doesn’t seem that after 10 months of being broken up that we will get back together although I think he has had thoughts just like I have of doing that. He kept wanting to see me even if he pretended it was about sex mostly, it wasn’t he wanted to talk with me like we used to talk, etc. He even had asked me to help him find a new rent house, offered to paint etc…helped me get a job when he didn’t have to.
What now?
Karen wrote:
Hi Karen,
Did you ever follow the free plan on my Blog?
I don’t think you have a clue of how to properly use no contact, really I don’t.
Having sex with your ex to get him back doesn’t work…does it?
Go to the top of my Blog and find the link for the free plan.
Read every step, and do what it says without question…why?
Because it works, and your questions are all answered in the plan…if you completely read it, OK?
You will have a great chance of getting your ex back if you follow the plan…to the “t”.
Take Care,
S.W.
With all due respect that is a non answer. I have read every word of your plan, and no sex with the ex does not work to get him back, I did that once he asked again and I did not and told him to stop pressuring me for sex and he agreed. He said he did not think of me in just that way and it was OK with him if we didn’t have sex.
The question is that after my first reconcilliation meeting which went happily, he tells me he has a new girlfriend, while only a week before he claimed he wasn’t involved with any one at all. Now I don’t think that was true, which tells me he couldn’t be all that into her if he was still calling me all of the time and practically begging me to see him. So then he was rude about it, even though priorly he told me he still wanted to see me.
So, I did no contact again, I already had done it months ago as described in your blog and he prompltly had a rebound relationship.
So I can’t continue to let him treat me this way, of trying to reconnect with me only to announce he is with someone else very shortly after. What if he is trying the same tactics with me plus trying to make me feel jealous?
I have established no contact again because I am not going to heal like a little dog while he goes out and commits to someone else no matter how short lived it might be.
If I have made him feel I have moved on permanently is that the thing to do to flip this around from him rejecting me by being in a relationship again?
Or is it simply too late?
Your Instructions do not tell me what to do in this kind of situation now does it?
Karen wrote:
“With all due respect” there is a BIG difference between reading, and actually putting to use what you read…isn’t there?
“with all due respect” this is the same advice I have given to every successful member in our forum…yes successful means they did get their ex back.
“With all due respect” you’re over thinking a simple plan that works…why?
Because your afraid, if you had been correctly following the free plan, you would be personally evolving, instead of devolving into the “I’m afraid to lose him” zone.
And finally “with all due respect” if I had a dollar for every time someone told me their situation was too unique to use the free plan…
I would be quietly living on my own desert island, and you would be shit out of luck because this Blog wouldn’t exist.
You have my advice…take it, or leave it.
S.W.
P.S. WTF is a “non answer”…is that even a fucking word?
Wow, did I hit a nerve, WTF is with all the expletives? Thanks any way.
You didn’t give me any advice..I told you what happened and I am not in afraid to lose him zone, I just don’t know what to do when he has come up with a girlfriend after reconnecting…..I was following the plan, that was the stage we were in when this happened so I can’t find in your free plan what to do next, so I tried no contact again. The letter doesn’t apply, we didn’t’ break up there is nothing to argee with except that he didn’t mean that he wanted to see me too, as he has a new girlfriend so I won’t be contacting him anymore….it seems to me that I shouldn’t let him get away with treating me like this after “romancing” me with his kisses and overatures and phone calls….but WTF do I know, you are the so called expert.
It’s a non answer because you just told me to follow the plan that doesn’t really apply here in this particular “girlfriend” situation.
And yes it is a word that is used to describe just what it did.
Sorry that the Advice by the writer didn’t work for you at the time. And I know my message is more than 7 months later so it’s probably resolved.
I’m going through a 6 month and counting breakup in which 3 months prior to that there was another break up all initiated by her.
If you are still going through those issues, what I would say is, I don’t think it’s healthy for you to keep dancing around with this guy.
Sure you may love him and there are awesome qualities about him. But the same person can also not be good for you, especially if you let him take advantage of you. Regardless of the solution, you have to be the stronger person. Don’t let him think that you are always going to be around when his rebounds don’t work. Change the tables on him and pretend to walk away forever. Maybe he’ll change. If he doesn’t, perhaps he isn’t for you, and I know that is HARD to accept because that’s how I feel about my gal and I don’t think I can win her back nor if there is anyone else in the world for me (both friends and love)
Does this help?
If she had shut up and stopped whining, and followed the free plan, she would have gotten the results she wanted.
Her problem wasn’t that her situation was “unique” it was she could not stick to the plan.
I teach people how to kick loves ass, not kiss it.
But I can not supply the courage necessary to stick with the plan.
She was so afraid of losing him (he was already gone), that she keeps herself in relationship limbo…she does it to herself.
I offered her a solution, but she called it a non-answer.
She had non-courage, and no answer would have worked for her.
One thing I have learned doing this kind of support, is that you can’t help people who won’t help themselves.
We have “all” had our hearts broken, but not all of us were offered free help and support…she was, she refused it…that is “non”sense.
Take Care,
S.W.
Here is an expletive, “asshole” is that even a word?
Karen wrote:
Yeah, and it describes you and your boyfriend to a “T”.
Now go bother someone else with your insecure bullshit.
My Blog is for serious people not cry babies.
Karen wrote:
Believe me I have been through tons of stupid assholes like you, and I get bored with it.
I get tired of debating a (proven) plan that works for people that have the “guts” to use it and not bitch about it.
It’s been real fun…NOT!
Karen wrote:
Well it’s quite obvious you don’t know jack shit about how to correctly use no contact.
But maybe you can point out where on my Blog that I claim to be “an expert”.
Oh yeah…
That must be right next to the part of the free plan that says to spread your legs every time your ex snaps his fingers.
People take note…this is how to not get your life or your ex back…don’t be a dumb cunt like her, OK?
S.W.
hi sw iv had to speak to my husband todat regarding our children, even after sending the nc message again, he answered the phone staraight away and we were talking and an hour later i said i best go, WE did talk about the kids and how about why things went wrong dont know if it a ggo thing or not but he sounded sad,i asked himif his mum my mother in law got the cards from the xmas cards from the kids and he said he would let me know, IS THAT A GOOD SIGN the thing is he still has his tools here and is cheque book here and he does say to me can he come and get it but never does and also has a key to to my house which used to be his home, considering he said he didnt want to talk to me unless its about the kids we end up talking for ages, you are rigjt i think it has flipped a switch and the holidays are taking its toll, when is the best time to ask him out for a “date” we do have fond memories, and he says he has no one else why tell me that ! thank god for the blog i am getting stronger by the day so do i send the nc again or carry on xx thank your a star!:0) xx our children told him also they couldnt care if he didnt come back and and thay have stipped contact like you said and i think its working, some much needed advice needed for the xmas period.:0) xx
lisa wrote:
Hi Lisa,
Talking about your past relationship is WRONG!
That is breaking NC.
lisa wrote:
It doesn’t matter if you send the NC message again, if you’re just going to break NC the next time he calls.
You need to grow a backbone.
This isn’t a fucking game, you know?
If you can’t be strong enough to control yourself, and the conversation…NC will not work…period.
Only you can help yourself.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
You tell her Scott.@ S. Williams:
I read your blog daily and I have been using NC for 4 weeks now and I feel good about me and what I want to do with my ex. I am going to the gym and hanging out with my friends and haveing a ball. I take your blog seriously Scott because you Know what you are talking about and it really seems to work only if you are that serious about moving on and getting your heart back. Thanks Scott.
Terri wrote:
You’re Welcome Terri!
I know this process works because I see it happen in our forum.
I watch people change their destinies on a daily basis.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Happy new year scott an thank you for making me a kick ass women for the new year I’ve survived all holidays with nc without a single urge of breaking it wich I thought I would of failed but I’m feeling calm collected an stronger thank you an by the way ill correct u on u r an expert your success forum proves that
natalie10 wrote:
Happy New Year Natalie!
You’re Welcome…
Stay Strong!
hi Scot i have probably made all the mistakes so many times since we broke up at easter although i have never sent the nc letter i do not contact him he contacts me & is it ever to late to send the nc letter when so much time has passed saw him yesterday first time in a while only for him to tell me he loves this new woman
your advice would be much appreciated
Hi scott I’m a bit stuck my ex has bein harrassin me like mad calls text u name it I haven’t replyed I wanted him to evolve he has sent two can play your game u will see do u think I’ve pushed him to far hope not scott coz my plan is goin real good I’ve bein enjoyin myself just could do with a tip on this hiccup thanx
ann wrote:
Hi Ann,
No, it is never too late to send the recommended no contact message.
Especially when he is still contacting you…(even if he isn’t), just read the free plan, and send it ASAP.
You will feel so much better when you do.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
natalie10 wrote:
Hi Natalie,
Just ignore his stupid attempts to get you to break NC.
Change your phone number if you have to…anything is worth the peace and quiet, right?
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Yes it is worth the piece an quiet scott its easier if he doesn’t contact me I feel ill loose him but got to slog on its a case of goin against my own instincts isn’t it thanx for your help tell you something scott he’s never said he wants me to be his wife before I nearly passed out do you think that switch flipped there this plan does very weird things to my ex
Hi Scot thanks for you advice not sure if its better to post the nc letter or email he said he’d phone in a week or so to see how i am !!!! ,& i know that he will be around on the 16/17th ( he lives in another town )so i can use that to my advantage how do i find the forum don,t want to get you mad by asking here
ann wrote:
Hi Ann,
I would highly recommend sending it to your ex ASAP using the method that will get it to him the fastest.
ann wrote:
You’re doing the right thing, I prefer that you ask me here…
I only get mad when people join our forum before reading the free plan first…why?
Because the free plan tells you step-by-step what you need to do, and will answer most of the beginners questions.
I hate it when people join our forum, and then start posting all over the place asking questions that were already answered in the forum guidelines, and in the free plan.
I spent a lot of time posting that stuff to keep the questions to a minimum, and to give new members what they need to get started right away without having to wait for me to answer their questions.
But!
I good amount of new people do this anyways…which tends to piss me off occasionally.
Make sure you go to the top of my Blog, and read the free plan before you do anything else, OK?
Take Care,
S.W.
hey again!
I have a couple of questions…
firstly.. when I first started no contact, I tried to push away some of mutral friends, thinking it might be better to do so.. then when I stuffed it up, the mutral freinds started talking to me as well… Im now on my 3rd day of no contact but I dont know if I should stop being in contact with the mutral mates.. Its not like we talk about my ex and I, hes not even mentioned in convo.. but Im unsure of whats the right move…
secondly.. Is it worth purchasing the book? does the book give you more than the free plan? or is the free plan a simpler version of the book.
Cheers
Kathy wrote:
Hi Kathy,
This is a personal choice, as long as your mutual friends are not trying to get involved and help “patch things up” between you and your ex.
If they mind their own business, and you feel comfortable around them…go hang out with them.
But, if they start meddling tell them to “fuck off”…OK?
Kathy wrote:
The free plan is meant to give people who don’t have the money at the time of their break up a starting point until they can afford the book.
Just because you’re strapped for money doesn’t mean you don’t deserve some help, right?
The book The Magic of Making up is 62 pages long, and goes into much more detail about relationships, and what can go wrong.
This helps you understand the process better, and it also includes two bonus books with some cool psychological mind tricks, and the clean slate method.
This will be useful when you get back together and have a little fight, and want to clear the air quickly.
I designed the free plan to compliment the book MOMU.
The free plan goes into more detail about LDR’s and it uses a much better NC message…it fills in the cracks in ALL the books out there.
The free plan is a work in progress, and as I learn more from working with people in our forum…I will update it with techniques that are proven to work.
And last but not least…if you buy the book through my Blog or forum I will make a small commission and that helps me to maintain my Blog and our forum.
Either way if you buy the book or not…make sure to follow the directions in the free plan, and join our forum.
This is the most powerful (free) tool on the internet to help you get your life back, and then your ex if you still want him.
Your in the right place, at the right time, and you will Kick Loves Ass…just stick to the plan…OK?
Stay Strong!
S.W.
thanks Once again.
The mates are pretty good, they havent asked anything of the break up the first day it happend…. so I cant imagine it all of a sudden come up… But yes.. Fuck off will be my exact words of choice.
I think I will purchase you book… The more insight I can get will be better for me now and in the future, in a relationship with the ex or with a new one..
Im sure Ill have more questions to come.. Only on my 4th day of no contact..
thanks for being there.
KO im back…. a total of 20 mins i think,..
ok… Now one of my exs and my mutal friends as invited me to his birthday bash, just a bbq or a a pub somewhere.. hes just inviting closest mates which includes my ex.. should I be going to this.. is this to fast.. itll be a week of no cntact, but thats not enough to get him thinking is it now… not enough time for me to be evoling myself.. Not to say I havnt been, cause i have, even tho ive broken contact once… I feel stronger… but is that enough to face him… do you have any advice? any suggestins on what i should or could do?
cheers
Kathy wrote:
Hi Kathy,
That’s up to you.
If you feel anxious about it…don’t go.
If you won’t have any fun worrying about your ex what’s the point, right?
Or you could go with a date, and just mind your own business.
The main thing is to not engage in a long conversation about yours, or his personal life…just be polite, and to the point.
If he says “hi” say “hi” back, and then move on.
If he tries to corner you and wants to talk about your break up tell him I am not ready to talk about that yet, and walk away.
What if he brings a girl to this party?
Will that bug you?
These are things to think about, and I am sure your friend won’t disown you if you skip this party.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
thanks,
you make very vailed point to consider..
to see my ex would make me relax but just thinking about it right now makes me nervious… not because he night bring his own date but cause Id feel bad for breaking contact. I wouldnt want to have to start over. but then I think if hes sees me having a good time it may jog somethng, feel something.. What do you think.. is that possible? or is that the wrong thing to be thinking..
I can handle being in the same room as him, im strong enough to do what you are saying, i just dont want to wreck the progress made so far…
Kathy wrote:
Yes, I think that is very possible.
He will know that you have your own life, and you’re not going to wait for him forever.
Kathy wrote:
The only way you could wreck your progress would be if you had a long personal conversation about the break up, yours/his personal life, or getting back together.
Other than that…you’re golden.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
ok…
thanks…
Maybe i will go then… I can leave when ever I need too… my ex doesnt controll me.. and nobody has ever said anything to me about the break up… not even my ex… he get angry when I tried to ask questions about the break up a couple of days after even a week(have no idea why, seemed strange to me)It was like he didnt know himself.. so I cant imagine anything like that happening.. its not worth it.
Ill let you know what happenes.
cheers
I feel fantastic…
I went to my ex’s best friend’s house today (one of our mutual friends)
I kept a smile of my face, happy and positive and i wasn’t acting… It felt amazing to walk out of his place and realize that I am going to get through this, I’m going to love and enjoy this time I have to myself…
But ( like always a but) as im in No Contact with my ex, which is keeping him in the dark about my current life, position and progress, Is it bad to be talking to our mutual mates about what im up too and personal life? I dont want to make a point to them not to spill my doings to my ex.. it sounds a bit weak and thats not how i feel..
Is it a good thing if they do say things to him.
Being with my exs best mate today, made me feel all that more confident about going to the birthday bash even with my ex there… I feel really good, the smile on my face is huge and I love it… Im loving myself independence and gaining control of my actions again.
Kathy wrote:
Hi Kathy,
Just leak out the “good stuff” nothing about the plan, or NC.
You don’t want to say you miss him or shit like that, understand?
Things like you went out and had fun “positive” things will help his evolution along.
As long as your ex thinks he has you on an emotional leash he will not change the way he thinks about you.
But now that you’re a “free” woman…he will have to win you back again…not just yank on your leash.
That is what this plan is all about burying the past “failed” relationship, and starting from scratch using what you learned from past mistakes to form an even stronger relationship.
Sounds exciting, huh?
But first you have to kick loves ass, and you’re well on your way.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
I do miss my ex, but not enough to go spilling to the guys.. its not there problem… but missing him, isnt effeccting my progress. I feel amazing. I dont feel tired down or controll. Im in controll for all the right reasons.
I am feeling confrident, I am feel positive, I am happy I am going to show my ex I DONT NEED HIM, I am kicking loves ass and I am staying strong.
S. Williams wrote:
i ahve read ur free paln thruce by now: )
its grt actually i must say. but 1 thing, just outta curousity,
why is the NC msg so important b4 starting the NO CONTACT???
zenia wrote:
I have covered this in the free plan, and on a couple of articles, but here is why you need to send the recommended NC message first.
Because it is the first step of your journey, and your journey will not start until you take that first all important step.
You can study a map forever, but you will never reach your destination until you take some positive action, and take the first step.
It flips an “emotional switch” in both you and your ex.
Once you do this and get 30-60 days under your belt you will have an “ah-ha” moment and understand…I promise.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi SW,
first off, happy new year! I hope 2010 has been treating you well!
My main concern is about the no contact rule. The ex and I have been broken up since 2006, I still stayed involved with him until 2008 and it wasmy fault that I never changed my ways. Now that I think of it, I took him for granted all those years. I would get angry whenever he would tell me at the time he didn’t want a girlfriend or why we couldn’t get back together, and he would tell me not now. I knew the reason was because of me and my actions. I blamed him for what I couldn’t change myself. Everytime I’d get mad or controlling, I would tell him I never want to talkto him again and that’s what happened in 2008. A week later after we had spent time together, I knew something had changed within the quickness. I felt there was anther woman. I was right, that’s when I found out he was already seeing someone new. I had no idea, I was devastated. I cried until I couldn’t cry anymore. It hurt a lot. I let a couple months pass, about 7 months, knowing he was still with this newgirlfriend and did something I expected not to turn out the way it did. I confessed my love to him, all through text, asked him why he never tried to contact me, if he felt anything towards me, justeverything I wanted to know for the past 7 months of no contact. Expecting him to at least say something in return, I never felt so rejected in my life before. He mentioned he didn’t know what he felt towards me, he texted me why did I wait so long to ask him this and that I shouldve contacted him before he had a girlfriend. I was lost, vulnerable and so hurt all over again. As much as I wanted to try to contact him the first time I even heard about him seeing someone new, I stopped myself. What was messed up of me and very selfish was that I did contact him when he was already with someone new.
Even during this text conversation, I kept pushing his buttons, if he had anything else to say, he said no, I texted more still asking if he was really happy, he replied back, yup. One of the last things I texted was that, “it would help me a lot if you told me to leave you alone” and I was in awe when he texted back “please do” I still went at it after leaving the last text at “you think I’m crazy huh” and I never heard from him until this very day of 2010.
I am going to admit, I tried calling, with my intention of apologize about a month after that all happened in 2008, but what I got in return was tht his number was not a working number. It killed me all over again that he actually cut me out of his life, and really, I thought he never would. I know one of the last things I texted was that it would help me if he told me to leave him alone, I just didn’t expect him to go with it. That’s what backfired on me and it still hurts til this day, maybe not as much, but I am still very clearly able to remember what happened that very time.
He was my first love, I was his second, the whole time we were involved- dating, actually a couple and post break up added up to about 5 years. I’m still trying to heal and move on.
How does the no contact rule work in this situation? I try to tell myself that he’s done me a big favor by changing his number, but I keep thinking, waiting he’s going to text me or call me. Last thing I heard about him was him and that girlfriend broke up and I never imagined that to happen. I hope he’s doing well, whther he’s still single or working things out.
I don’t want to be a fool and look like a big fool again if I try to contact him. I do have mutual friends where Im able to find out his number, I just feel it’s foolish of me to do so. I still think of him til this day and just wish I could apologize for acting the way I did. But if he really did go out of his wayto change his number, Im having trouble accepting this after so much time has passed.
Annie wrote:
hey Annie…
just like thought to share somthing with u regarding watever u wrote here. just dont take it as interference but all of us over here are lovelorn. nothing different in ur case.
Scott is “good” is the least i can say when u are “hurt” or “rejected” or “depressed”. i have taken tons of advices from him and presently at my 4th day of NC. EVEN I LOVE MY EX A LOT and u do too. but Annie, remember YOUR LOVE , for which u are giving in so much, holds too much of esteem and dignity to cry or sulk because u lost him today. remember its TODAY. u still dont know he might happily come back to you tomorrow!! really. and that is all u are here for. Scott will guide u the best but as far as i have seen, guys have a tendency of taking girls for granted (and i am NOT being feminist). your crying begging sulking and re;peating “i love u…take me” is just like a safety net over him. he is cocooned in it. he bloody KNOWS u are there begging. hence is NOT rea;lising ur value. snip off the net. this world is too tough. it won’t be late when he will realise what he has lost and will want back that cocoon…ur love.
u are in love annie. its not a crime. why should YOU sit and cry??
u should LIVE ur life and rejuvenate urself while waiting for him. work on ur mistakes. maintain ur self esteem as ur love is true. who wants to come back to a sulky looser with zero self esteem when the world is full of entertaining beautifull and laquered girls???
dont women endure monthly period pains?? waxing pains?? labour pains?? then why cant u “smile” and endure THIS pain for the sake of getting him back again Annie???
i have myself experienced, NO1 REALISES THE WORTH OF THE THING THEY ALRESDY HAVE, TILL WHEN THEY START DRIFTING APART.
when u are in love,its never too late. good thing is he is broken up wth that girl. now is the time u need to follow each of scott’s advice to get him and ur life back.
just a sincere and friendly piece of advice Annie
nothing more.
have faith. its never too late.
Hello Scott,
I registered yesterday to your forum but I’m kind of afraid to write my breakup story and NC diary as there is a chance of hacking by my boyfriend ( which he has done in the past twice). Anyway, its been 2 weeks since he broke up with me where he avoided me my calls, my text messages..everything. I even went over to his house twice when he didnt answer my calls or texts but he also avoided me when I went outside his house to ask for him. A week later, he send me a text saying that he loves me and he wanted to marry me, but he could see that this relationship didnt have a future. He further stated that he is trying to erase the memories but he cannot forget. After that text one week ago, I didnt respond at all and remained quite..until I came upon your blog where I read the free plan. I sent the no contact message word for word the day before yesterday, exactly, one week after he gave me the break up text. Our relationship broke down for a number of reasons where both of us were at fault and didnt quite understand each other fully. I still want to give this relationship another chance as I feel it ended as many things were going to fast, especially my clinginess and neediness which I showed him too soon and the constant crying and nagging which really annoyed him and he became fedup. I also thought he has many things he also needed to improve for this relationship to survive..hence all the crying and nagging. Anyway Scott, I would really like to get him back again and have started towards my personal evolution..its been two days since i sent the NC message..your blog is absolutely great…
Hi,
If you use our forum correctly your ex boyfriend will not find your account.
The free plan explains that you MUST be discreet. There is no need to post incessantly everyday outlining everything you said and did, that will only get you banned from posting.
The best part of the forum is the ability to find forum buddies with which you can communicate with “privately” after exchanging email addresses. This kind of support will be very helpful to keep you from breaking the no contact rule.
I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.
Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi Scott,
Thanks so much for your quick reply..I joined your forum anyway and even if he did do anything, he wouldnt be able to find the real name in the forum. The reason I was worried is because he did this in the past. He got into my facebook and started chatting to an a guy friend of mine so that friend that I was the one who was chatting..my ex was testing me wether I like other guys or not which I think is complete paranoia..I was really upset. Somehow he has problems with me talking to other guys. He did this before as well another time where he started talking to one of my guy friends on yahoo messenger and that person thought it was me. He als hacked into my hotmail account and read all my personal emails from my dad, my workplace, etc..he is a computer science major student so I guess he can do these things. He has problems with my past relationships..I dont see the big deal cause those were in the past so I really dont know why he is so suspicious and so paranoid. I love only him and I’ve said this to him many times. I’ve changed the passwords to all my accounts (fb account deactivated and hotmail account pword changed)..hmm..God knows..I wouldnt be surprised if he got the new passwords and hacking my accounts again. very immature behaviour on his part.
Hi,
As far as security goes…use very strong passwords of alpha-numeric and special characters with at least 20 characters or more in them, and then change it weekly or daily.
You can find password generators online for free to help you come up with these huge diverse passwords.
Being lazy with your passwords is how you get hacked.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi Scott,
I had some questions:
1) He broke with me about 1 week ago through text, but in actual fact he didnt avoided me the week before that ( thats when i went over to his house twice cause he wouldnt receive my calls or texts). I sent the NC msg word for word after one week I received his text, cause I came across your website after he sent me the text msg to tell me that this relationshop wasnt right for the both of us. Is this ok that I sent the NC msg after 1 week he sent the text? Otherwise, if I knew about your website before that, I would’ve started the NC msg before he sent the text when he was avoiding me a lot. What do you think?
2) He came from Canada two years ago and is meant to leave sometime this year due to his immigration purposes. he mentioned before the break up that he may leave in September this year or by the end of 2011. How will I ever know now when he will leave this year or if he will surely leave in September which is just 1 month away? What if I’m going through my evolution and by September he leaves the country? I kind of feel a little upset when I think of this..( I’ve also applied for Canadian immigration and it will be done by the beginning of next year..we decided before the break up that we would travel there together..now..I really dont know after the break up).
3) i feel wierd going on dates or even going out with my guy friends. I feel guilty when they ask me if I would like to go out fo r dinner or coffee or soemthing like that. There is this one guy who I knew since 4 years but I do not like him..let alone love him at all..but he’s fun to hang out with. He called and asked me to go for dinner with him this thursday. I know he’s a fun person and he will be fun to be with and it def take my mind of my ex and I know I will enjoy the time with him but I do not like him that much. What do you think I should do in such a situation.
Your comments on these aspects would be really appreciated Scott..I’m still a little vulnerable as i only started my forum posts yesterday and my personal evolution very recently.
thanks.
3)
Hi,
The free plan uses the no contact rule to help people get their lives back, not plan how to get their ex back.
I would say 80% or more, of the people who were positive they wanted their ex back, found out they really didn’t after letting themselves (fully) evolve past the breakup.
This takes time (6-12 months) and patience.
Only panicking people will worry about time lines, and people in a state of panic have NOT evolved…make sense?
You need to find out if it’s even worth getting your ex boyfriend back first.
You need to listen to what he is saying, he said this isn’t good for both of us, he can’t speak for you, but he sure can speak for himself, right?
Furthermore, his actions will speak louder than his words.
Don’t listen to what he says, watch what he does, he is leaving you.
Stop trying to pretend you know what is best for “both of you”, and focus on what is “best for you”…your happiness.
You can only be happy with someone who WANTS YOU, right?
Don’t worry about anything except your personal evolution, and getting your life back again.
As far as dating, give it time, things will change I guarantee you they will, once again this takes time, be patient.
Just be honest about your feelings and intentions with the guys who ask you out…honesty is always the best policy, right?
Instead of worrying about getting him back, you should be worrying about giving your heart to the wrong man.
I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.
Stick to the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi Scott,
The text that he sent me was this: Hello! Hope everything is well with you. I became ill again and its been two days. I didnt play games with you….. I loved you and wanted you. I’m unable to forget. But this relationship will not be fruitful in the future..you know why. I have a couple of your things with me..I will ask someone to send them to you later on. Take care. Bye.
I have just translated the break up text as it was in my language. yes I know Scott..he left me. I am really serious about following your plan Scott and sincerely want to reach that stage where I can be happy regardless if my ex boyfriend comes back or not. I feel fine sometimes but other times, the memories keep coming back and its really hard to control emotions. The forum is great and really helping me a lot. Thank you for your advice.
Hello Again Scott,
Just need your opinion on this one: I mentioned before about dates. The guy that asked me out for dinner, my ex didnt really like him ( this is the guy that my ex spoke to on chat on facebook when he hacked into my account and tried to find information about this guy’s feelings for me). This person does like me..but I dont really have a thing for him at all..just a nice and fun person to hang out with. He asked me out this Thursday for dinner. I’m feeling really guilty cause my ex didnt like him and didnt want this guy liking me when i was with my ex. But he really is fun to be around and respects what I like to do..but I’m not attracted to him. Would it be a good idea to go out on Thursday instead of sitting at home and being depressed thinking of my ex? I know I’ll have a good time minus any romance..just as a friend..but I feel really guilty.
Hi,
You have no reason to feel guilty, your ex boyfriend broke up with you, right?
Go out, have fun, enjoy your personal evolution, the guilty feelings will pass in time.
Apply the no contact rule to your ex, not the rest of the world.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi Scott,
Its been only 5 days of NC since I sent the NC message. Other than that it will be almost a month that we havent spoken to each other. After i sent the NC msg, he didnt contact me or anything. I know this is all about personal evolution and I am really trying..I’m trying to spend as much time with friends and family and going out a lot. I know there were times he hasnt been good to me and he broke up with me but somewhere deep inside I still want to hold on to a little hope that he would come back one day or contact me one day. I know right at this moment, it doesnt seem like he wants me Scott. Thanks when you reassured me about the dating..it made me feel a lot better about going out and having fun..but somewhere I also feel a need to ‘reserve’ myself for him for the future. I know I should enjoy my life and I’m really trying..believe me..its just really difficult to ‘let go’ sometimes. scott, I dont have your book but I am following the plan. Will it be less effective without the book?
I know the free plan tells me that I would have to let go of the old relationship to make room for something new..but hope is whats keeping me sane Scott.I sincerely hope that I can grow positively with my evolution as long as it takes. As always, thank you for taking the time to answer so many questions from myself and others.
Hi,
As long as you “reserve yourself” for him, you will stall your personal evolution.
You will not evolve as quickly and you will be unhappy.
The free plan to get your ex back, and the no contact rule are meant to help you get your life/happiness back, not your ex boyfriend.
The you stay obsessed with getting him back, the longer you remain stuck in relationship limbo.
I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.
People have been successful without buying the book, but people who have purchased the book The Magic of Making up have personally and emotionally evolved at a faster rate.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi Scott!
Thanks! I’m going on that date on Thursday! Scott, I shouldve thought of this earlier I know but I told you that I sent the nc msg 5 days ago without thinking wether he changed his number or not. Today it kind of dawned on me wether his number was still active so that he really did get the nc msg. I asked a friend of mine to check with another unknown number to check wether was active or not still. My friend called him and found out that the number was active. That means he did get the nc msg that he got my nc msg. My ex did not call back on that number or anything. This doesnt count as breaking the no contact does it? please please let me know. thank you.
Hi,
Your friend calling your ex isn’t breaking NC.
Make sure you don’t tell your friends what you’re doing, it is best to keep your personal evolution to yourself.
This is why I have set up a free self-help support system.
This way people following the free plan to get your ex back, and the no contact rule, can talk and support each other through our forum buddy system.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Oh BTW my friend just miss called him..didnt talk to him..just checked wether number was working..hmm..Scott, the nc msg was sent through text..I didnt email or anything..so its really important that he got the msg in the first place..other people in the forum have had responses from the exes after sending the nc msg so they know that their ex recieved and read the msg but I had no such response so hoping to God he got it. His number is active so he must have gotten it…
Hi,
There are many members who never get a response, and it is not because their ex didn’t get the NC message, it is because they chose not to respond.
After all, the NC message asks them to not contact you, right?
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Dear Scott,
From my break up story and situation, do you think I have a chance of getting my ex boyfriend back? I cant help it, but I am still holding on the little peice of hope I have left that he would come back someday. He is a really stubborn person and I dont know if it would be that easy that he would come back after all thats happened and after the nc message..I do miss him very much still..
Hi,
You have a 50/50 chance to get your back using the no contact rule.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.
Dear Scott,
Yesterday my very kind forum buddy sent me the MOMU book online. I had a read through it. However, I am having problems in the most important area and that is emotional control. There are times when i am fine and there are times when i tend to break down and cannot stop myself from crying. Its been around 4 weeks of not speaking to each other..initially I didnt feel the break up so much but now after 3-4 weeks, its really taking its toll on me. I have tried the FFT but I cannot seem to control my emotions at times. Scott i live alone and my parents are just here to visit. they will be leaving in a month and I am scared how I will cope then. I dont have many friends here. Its really hard on me this breakup as he used to keep me company…and now he is gone. Scott, please help me..I need some hope and advice..its really difficult for me.
Bella says:
Yeah, that was REAL “kind”…lol
You are both fucked up, why?
You both violated a copyright law, and that is stealing.
Your unhappiness comes from other things in your life besides your break up, and what goes around, comes around.
I guess it’s not enough to get a free support system you (both) have to steal on top of it, karma is a bitch.
Thank you for writing.
Take Care,
S.W.