How to Get Your Ex Back Fast – For Men Only

Men are always taught to be strong and tough, but it is incredibly hard to do this when your heart is breaking in half. Breakups can bring even the biggest and strongest man to his knees, but this is not the place to stay to win your love back again. Give me five minutes of your time and I will show a couple tips on how to get your ex back fast.

The Hungry Dog Syndrome

 

Dogs may be man’s best friend but acting like one, more specifically a “hungry” one will not help you to get your love back. What I mean by the hungry dog syndrome is when you are constantly begging for them to come back and show way too much neediness. Now it is true that women look for a sensitive side in men and really find that attractive, but not necessarily when they are thinking about leaving them. But do not worry if you have already been through this stage of your breakup you can recover and get your ex back fast.

Kick The Hungry Dog To The Curb And Go Get Your Ex Back

Super Dog Time

 

No one wants to play with the dog that just lays there moping, they like the cute active doggy that still thinks it is a puppy. You can learn a lot from that statement and you can also make a lot more progress with your ex by not chasing after them with a pleading look in your eyes and a quiver in voice. Most times this will scare them off by displaying that  unattractive feeling that caused them to doubt your relationship in the first place.

Show them what they will be missing if they leave by not falling apart at the seams and chasing after them. If there was anytime to be that strong confident man it is now and you will be well on your way to getting your ex back fast. If you have any comments or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP! What can I do to help you get your ex back? What are you willing to do to win back your ex?

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people for more than 3 years to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. J muscle
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    July 22, 2010 at 5:13 am
    Me and my ex just split 4 weeks ago ive been doing everything to try and get her back when we first split I would ask if I could take her out n I missed her one time I text saying could I take her out tommorrow I never got a reply for 6 hours until she text me saying you up? I also had a missed called so I rang back and we met up and I said she could stay over she was crying saying it was hard we came back I ordered a takeaway coz she wanted something she was crying again in the kitchen saying I’m sorry and kissing me and said I could take her out the next day I said you gonna let me take you out? She said yeah il text you later then when she got back home she text saying sorry I shouldn’t have come over I just want to be on my own , we text a few more times after that until she said you need to move on take care I text back saying fair enough take care left it for a few days until I got a text Friday night saying Hi can you do me a big favour till tommorrow? X and I had a missed call I rang back and it just rang she text back 10 mins later saying it was her mate? I never replied left it a few more days and said Hi babe hope your alright , been thinking about you , wanna meet up? , she said no I don’t wanna meet up where not gonna get back together coz I don’t want 2 take care , it was her birthday a few days ago I got a card put a pic of us in saying I loved her and missed her she said thanks for the card but you need to stop Saturday night I was out I seen her in the time tapped her mate and mine on the shoulder saying alright and she was there aswell I just seen a hand coming at me it was her so I left the club in a mood I text saying hope your having a good night out , have a good birthday x , she text back saying I’m going to liquid your not going to be there nar? , I said no coz il end up fighting later I seen her walked past never said nothing and heard her or one of her mates shout my name she said I think ya shocking what ya ignoring me for I said coz I thought u where trying to hit me she said why would I try and hit you so after that I dropped them off and I text saying I know your phones dead but wish you stayed over n I missed her etc then she messaged me on facebook saying I’ve met someone else you need to stop , I never replied and haven’t text in 4 days now , even got some girl to write on my wall I look stunning sat night , I said you didn’t look to bad yourself was good seeing you , this girl said back Its been far too long when you next out il inbox you my number and we’ll have to meet up for a drink x , I love my her 2 death and miss her loads what can I do to get her back? Bit long but thought I’d give you full details , i’ve not text her or rang or anything in nearly 8 days now and been staying off facebook write back please thanks

    1. Hi,

      You need to start using no contact correctly.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      It doesn’t matter if you have not been in contact for a while…just do it.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  2. LostP wrote:

    So I started the no contact thing a few days ago. I have one quick question though. Should I answer the phone when she calls? Or should I ignore it altogether.

    If you’re following the free plan on my Blog, then you should not pick up the telephone when she calls you.

    The only time you need to respond is when it is about a shared business, financial affair, or child…everything else ignore.

    The free plan goes into greater detail…go read, and follow it, OK?

  3. So I started the no contact thing a few days ago. I have one quick question though. Should I answer the phone when she calls? Or should I ignore it altogether. And if I am supposed to answer when she calls, what do I talk about? Do I respond to her occasional text messages? By the way she moved 1200 miles away so physical contact is impossible. thank you.

  4. James Thomas wrote:

    I’ve adhered to the no contact policy for the most part. It has been fifteen days since our last verbal contact but I tried texting her eight days after we last spoke (no response) which begs the question how much longer do I need to wait before I contact her again?

    James,

    Do you have a book to work from?

    I mean do you think getting your ex back is worth spending the money on a book to help you do that?

    If the answer to that is no, then you most likely do not really want your ex back, and just think you do.

    I can’t help people who will not invest in a plan, but feel free to read all the stuff on my Blog…OK?

    How much longer to wait?

    A better question is do you know how to properly use no contact?

    A book would help answer that question, and I have answered that question numerous times on my Blog.

    Go read and you will find the answer to your question.

    If you want my private email support, buy the book through my Blog…OK?

  5. Hi. My name is James. I’m a 21 year old Bama boy with a relationship problem that I THINK I have figured out but I don’t know how to proceed. I met this absolutely incredible girl who I really like (and have since I first met her) and who appeared to really like me. Long story short I became clingy, posessive, and gutless (when it came to talking to her) which by the way are not conditions that I am predisposed to, and that really turned her off as she is a very strong, independent individual. She is the third girl I have ever dated and the second one that I have been intimate with (I’m just not the type to have a different girl to go out with every weekend nor am I the type to indulge in a one night stand) but she is the first one that has ever made my heart flutter the way she does dispite the fact that we had only been together for a relatively short time. It was like I was on a drug and just had to have more. I felt like I wasn’t even in control of my actions, I just couldn’t help wanting to be with her all the time. What was worse was since I couldn’t figure out the problem, much less know how to deal how to deal with it, I kept doing what I was doing and making the situation worse. I didn’t (and still don’t) distrust her nor do I feel like I have to be with her every waking second so that I can feel complete, I’ve just never had anyone or anything make me feel that way before so I wasn’t able to handle my emotions properly so we could take things slowly like she wanted (which I was completely fine with… until I let my heart run away with my head). So I guess my questions are, how can I make her see and, more importantly, BELIEVE that I have recognized and delt with my self control issues and how can I get her to take me back? Thank you so much for your time.

    P.S.,
    I’ve adhered to the no contact policy for the most part. It has been fifteen days since our last verbal contact but I tried texting her eight days after we last spoke (no response) which begs the question how much longer do I need to wait before I contact her again?

  6. Sean Carter wrote:

    She texted back: “oh thats good. I’m happy that ur social life is picking up.”

    Yeah, I am sure she is, that’s why she wanted “hang out” with you at midnight.

    One question; where is her boyfriend, doesn’t she want to hang out with him?

    She is kidding herself, watch how NC unravels her game.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

    Sean Carter wrote:

    lol. this is crazy. I might need a blog just for my journal!

    Starting a journal is a very idea, and will serve as a self help tool to help you stick with no contact.

  7. Update: In response to her asking me out on Saturday night at midnight, I just texted her: Sorry, I have plans. Maybe another time

    She texted back: “oh thats good. I’m happy that ur social life is picking up.”

    lol. and ouch.

  8. lol. this is crazy. I might need a blog just for my journal!

    This No Contact is much harder this time. I guess because when we weren’t speaking before, it was because we got into a huge argument. But this time, I just felt like I had enough. So now I’m trying not to talk to her (except regarding our son), but it’s hard because I keep worrying about coming off like a jerk.

    So here’s what happened:
    This morning she called and texted me about getting some money for our son, and her other items. I replied a few hours later, and they were in the park, so I went by just to drop off some money and kiss my son.

    When I showed up, I could tell she had an attitude. She didn’t even get up to say hi! And she had a girlfriend with her, so maybe she was showing out (plus, that girl knows her new boyfriend). So anyway, I happily kissed my son a couple times (who ran over and jumped on me. I love that kid!), said hi to everybody, gave my wife the money, and said, “I gotta run. Back to work.” I even had on office clothes and everything.

    I was sooo angry after this. My wife barely said anything to me, and the few words she said were with an attitude. And at the same time, I felt guilty because I was so short with her, that I was worried that she was talking badly about me to her girlfriend (she’s slandered me before).

    So now, 6 hours later, she calls me. It’s midnight, which is the time I told her I got off work a few weeks ago. I didn’t answer the phone, so then she texted me: “Wanna hang out”

    Wow. I am sooo tempted. She wants to hang out at midnight? Wow.

    This is where my penis, and part of my brain, is trying to tell me that maybe if I sleep with her, it’ll solve everything, like the book says. But I dunno what to do. Mess up my whole No Contact, “I’m-too-confident” image? I dont know what to do.

  9. Sean Carter wrote:

    I am soooo jealous its unbelievable. I didn’t even know what to say to that (”wtf? I thought we weren’t bringing random people around our kid!”), but I just tried to change the subject

    Yeah, it was necessary to bring that up, she was definitely trying to get a reaction from you. Seems she should’ve asked if it was OK with you before she brought him with an outsider…right?

    Sean Carter wrote:

    One thing I think I shouldve done – I shouldve rushed her off the phone! I just let her talk, and waited thru all the pauses in conversation. I shoulda acted like I was busy or something.

    You’re right, you should’ve answered about the stuff about the grocery money, and then got off the phone…it’s 3am not the time to be planning a birthday party.

    Just learn from your mistakes, and next time don’t stay on the phone so long…OK?

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  10. Wow. It’s 3am (between Friday and Saturday), and I just got off the phone with the ex. I texted her much earlier in the day, only asking how our son was (I haven’t seen him in almost a week). She texted me back a few mins ago, I responded with an “ok,” and then she text me, “Can I call you?”

    I said ok, and so she did. She asked for grocery money, and asked “when can we make more plans for our son’s bday party?”
    She asked me something about something being okay with my girlfriend, but I paid no mind to it. And she also mentioned something about how she and her boyfriend took our son to the aquarium. I am soooo jealous its unbelievable. I didn’t even know what to say to that (“wtf? I thought we weren’t bringing random people around our kid!”), but I just tried to change the subject

    Oh, by the way, the other day she text me that our son needed to speak to me, and that he was crying for me a lot, so I called, spoke to him (I love that kid! he’s so sweet), and that was it. Barely a hi and bye to the woman.
    But today, she just started talking about the reason why our son was crying a few days ago – apparently Ex and her boyfriend got in a shouting match, with our son in the car, and he started crying and asking for me. Oooh!, I wanted to say something, but I just tried to brush it away. But I did say, “maybe you shouldnt bring him around those situations, but hey, thats your life. Do what you wanna do. I don’t want to talk about your life.”

    This boyfriend thing is killing me! She’s talking like theyre going to be together for a verrry long time. But I digress.

    Then she also told me that she promised our son that the 3 of us (sans boyfriend) would spend a day together, if it was ok with me. I hesitated, and said, “um, I dunno.”

    So I paraphrased what you advised before:
    “If she asks why, just tell her it confuses you about the relationship you have together, and you need sometime to think about what you want.”

    I said something like, “I don’t really know what’s going on with us – the kissing, all that stuff. I’m not sure if we should hang out. It’s confusing.”

    And she replied, “What? Its just the 3 of us, going out.”
    Then I said my signature, “um, ok. we’ll see.”, and left it at that.
    (even she will tell you that it means no.)

    And then we got off the phone. One thing I think I shouldve done – I shouldve rushed her off the phone! I just let her talk, and waited thru all the pauses in conversation. I shoulda acted like I was busy or something. Well, I think so anyway. Make her think I have a naked girl with me in the house or something. lol

    So how do you think I did?

  11. Damon Williams wrote:

    Do u think there is any hope for me even though she told me she would never be with me even if she isn’t with that other guy she told me she hates me for life.

    Hi,

    I don’t think she will hate you for the rest of her life…do you?

    She is angry, and the worst time to try an apologize is while they’re still angry.

    You said you have The Magic of Making Up now’s the time to read it, and use that information along with what I have on my Blog to formulate a plan to get her back.

    The sooner you do that, and leave her alone, the better your chances are to get her back.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  12. @ S. Williams:
    Do u think there is any hope for me even though she told me she would never be with me even if she isn’t with that other guy she told me she hates me for life. She called me today and said why did I send those message to that guy and I replied by saying I was sorry that things went this way. She text back and said Yea u r sorry now. I have left at that.

  13. @ Sean Carter:

    Ok Sean.

    Good Luck!

    S. Williams

  14. @ S. Williams:

    Ok, I’ll do that. I’ll let you know what happens a few months from now.

    Thanks

  15. kris wrote:

    When following NC, after 30days or so can I make a contact? If yes, what should I say?
    Or should I allow her to contact first?

    Hi Kris,

    I would wait for her to come back to you this time, you tried it the other way before, and it wasn’t working…right?

    I always say if it isn’t working, stop doing it and start doing it differently…understand?

    You can live without that stuff, but if you can’t go get it, and your money, but be polite and then go into no contact.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  16. @ S. Williams:

    Thanks for the response.
    When following NC, after 30days or so can I make a contact? If yes, what should I say?
    Or should I allow her to contact first?
    There are some stuff of mine with her. And she also has to return my money which she said she would mail me about.

    Cheers

  17. kris wrote:

    Two weeks back I proposed to her. She responded saying that she never had any feelings for me and would never talk to me again. She also got angry saying that I did everything for her with intention of making proposal and never as a friend.

    Hi Kris,

    She sounds pretty confused, and she accused you of planning to “marry her” geez, most woman complain about men that never want to commit…what does she want?

    I would plan on moving on, but don’t give up hope.

    When she sees you moving on, this might spark her to come back, but I would then lay it in on the table, and ask her if she ever sees a “future” with you…if not then I would move on all the way…understand?

    When someone tells you they never had any feelings for you it’s time to call their bluff, and see if that is really true or not.

    Use NC with the intent of moving on, go out and date and see what she does…you can’t wait all your life for someone who doesn’t want to commit to you…right?

    There is a time to say it’s over, and go find someone who will return your feelings.

    I wish you the best of luck.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  18. Hi,

    I have a pretty complicated issue.
    This friend of mine and myself we have been going around for past two years. There were times when she used to get angry at me and told me not to talk to her. But we patched up within a week or so. I was always there for her when she was hospital for illness, going around town with her, doing things for her house. I was there for her for almost everything.
    Last year there was one time when she said she would never talk to me again. I stayed away from her and did not try to contact her. Later less than a month she started the conversation and we both were back to normal as if nothing had happened.
    Things were going fine and for a brief period we both stayed at the same house but in different rooms.
    Two weeks back I proposed to her. She responded saying that she never had any feelings for me and would never talk to me again. She also got angry saying that I did everything for her with intention of making proposal and never as a friend.
    I wasn’t devastated after she said this.
    I have not made any contact after that. Once I messaged her when I heard she had fallen ill again. But she did not respond.
    Last 5 days I have not made contact.
    I don’t know what to do in this situation. One part of me says to move on with life. Another part says she will come back.
    Now she is going around with another guy whom I also know. Never in this two years she went out with him.
    If I follow NO-Contact rule for 30days, after that should I initiate conversation? What should be my first few words when I approach later.
    Or should I just move on and forget this girl.
    Also, am slightly confused.

    Looking for a response.
    Cheers.

  19. @ Sean Carter:

    What has happened is for 3 years you guys have neither been married, or divorced, it is sort of a relationship “on hold”.

    You need to nudge her to make a decision, but if you push too hard she will jump towards divorce in a heart beat…right?

    By using no contact you will disrupt the current cycle, and create an opportunity to begin a new one slowly.

    I guess you would know if this is working when she stops acting like your time together is all about flirting, and sexual advances, and goes a little deeper.

    If she is not bonding through sex, look for other ways to bond with her, I am sure there are other ways to bond with a woman…right?

    TW Dub mentions using excitement (roller coaster rides, sky diving) on some dates, because that is another way that we humans bond.

    I am NOT a marriage counselor, I just try to pick people up and point them in the right direction, so they don’t spend all their time searching the internet, or whining in a forum.

    The key to the quickest solution to just about any problem, is to take action, don’t just “gather” information, but put it to use.

    I have given you a sort of “outline” you have to fill in the rest…OK?

    Start formulating a bunch of plans, ideas to bond with her and attract her back to you…think about when you first met and what made you bond then (please don’t tell me it was sex). 😉

    And to answer your question…Yes

    If what you try doesn’t work at first, then calmly switch to plan “B” and continue disrupting her (with NC) from pulling you back into the “old” cycle.

    I hope this helped.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  20. @ S. Williams:

    Yes, I did receive “The Plan” in my email. Thanks.

    I understand a lot of what you’re saying, but I still don’t get some of this.

    You’re suggesting that I use a longer No Contact period (maybe 3 months), and you say that I’ll know when it was long enough when she stops running away from marriage. But if I’m not talking to her about our feelings, then how will I know when/if she feels that way? On our first date back out, just bring up marriage counseling?

    And if I contact her 3 months from now, and she’s still the same as she is now, what do I do then – do NC all over again?

    In other words
    When I asked, “how do I know when its a long enough No Contact period? Just keep doing it, and starting over when it doesn’t work?”, I’m trying to ask this – If, after my 3-month No contact period, we go out, and she still refuses anything to do with marriage, should I go back into No Contact all over again?

    I am definitely willing to DO, not TRY.

    Thanks buddy,

    Sean

  21. @ Sean Carter:

    Sean Carter wrote:

    I just would like some advice on what SIGNS I should look for before I
    move on to the next step. Like how do I know when its a long enough No Contact period?

    You just answered your own question:

    Sean Carter wrote:

    “she is doing everything in her power to run away from marriage.”

    The first sign would be when she “stops running away from marriage”, and she would agree to counseling again to save your marriage, and bring your family back together again…make sense?

    Sean, I hate to tell you but the only “bonding” going on during your sexual encounters would be between your ass and the sheets…she ain’t buying any of that.

    So, if that isn’t working what should we do?

    That’s right…something else, because it’s a big waste of time (but fun) to do something that isn’t working…right?

    I say it’s time to follow the NC plan, and disrupt her little game of have my cake and eat it too, I only care about myself.

    I have to ask, You’re worried about not being “playful” at your son’s b-day party because you will look like a “jerk”.

    You can still hang with your son, just don’t let her over step her boundaries..Ok?

    I know, you’re going to ask what do I mean her boundaries? No grabbing and heavy flirting, touching…the bullshit she uses to get her way with you.

    You have to learn to read between the lines, and I think you will know what I mean by over stepping her “boundaries” with you personally…OK?

    What about her, what does your family and friends think about her, not wanting to be married, but fucking flirting with you like you were still married?

    I know you’re still legally married, but if there’s such a thing as “common law marriage” I would have to think after 3 years of separation that you guys are just about “common law divorced.”

    Sean Carter wrote:

    “Like how do I know when its a long enough No Contact period? Just keep doing it, and starting over when it doesn’t work?”

    I am not really sure what you are talking about there…”Just keep doing it, and starting over when it doesn’t work?”

    If you just stick to NC, why would you have to start over…unless you’re already predicting giving in to her, and starting over again.

    You know get some ass, and then start over again…you will never get anywhere that way.

    Are you ready to do more than “try” to get her back?

    This is “The Plan” you will start using no contact correctly, and politely. You should’ve received an email from me explaining in depth how to start and uphold no contact in various situations, please read it.

    Do not worry about what your friends, and son think about you, because your intentions are honorable, and it’s for your son’s own good.

    You said before you want to give him his whole family back, right?

    To me he is the “number one” reason to do more than “try” and get serious about this, and succeed.

    I don’t know if you looked at my “About” page, but if you did you will see I am a single dad in an unique situation myself, and if I can do it so can everyone else…if they “really” want to.

    I make it happen for my son, I don’t “try”…big difference between doing it, and trying to do it…understand?

    This Blog is here to help, and you asked for help, and I am giving it to you, but you need to do more than “try”…OK?

    Remember this Blog is dedicated to teaching people how to get strong enough to kick loves ass, and get their ex back.

    Now, do you have enough to get started?

    Let me know…

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  22. @ S. Williams:

    No I have no problem with marriage counseling, but she does. We actually tried it before (before she officially left), and she has refused to do it ever again (even though I went so far as to pre-pay for it and bring her there).

    I think asking her for marriage counseling would put me in a bad spot, because she is doing everything in her power to run away from marriage.

    The problem with NC for so long (many months) – we have our son’s birthday coming in a few months. So that means we have to interact at least semi-socially. I dunno what to do about that, without coming off like a jerk to everybody, including my son.

    And its not really that I’m so focused on getting laid. Its just that
    I, like the book, thought getting physical with her asap would help my
    cause.
    I can hold out on sex with her for at least a year, no problem.
    And I’m not asking for a specific amount of time for NC, or for sex. I
    just would like some advice on what SIGNS I should look for before I
    move on to the next step. Like how do I know when its a long enough No
    Contact period? Just keep doing it, and starting over when it doesn’t
    work?

    Thanks again

  23. Damon Williams wrote:

    I went off the deep end

    Damon Williams wrote:

    “My emotions took over me I know I probably know I blew it”

    Take notice people this is WHY I highly recommend getting some self help tools to control your emotions.

    You can find my recommendations in the section titled “Win Back Ex With Emotional Control”

    Damon, I wish you all the best!

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  24. I went off the deep end and sent her so called lover a message telling him that invade he didn’t know but she slept with and has been all the while telling you that she loves or is in love with you. He didn’t respond even though I left my number then I called her and told her to stop lying to someone she is supposed to be in love with she denied being with me then called back and said I won. My emotions took over me I know I probably know I blew it but I’m just so tired she had to be put there I don’t care for her anymore so I will move on now sorry for the incovience, thank you for all you tried to help me with but that scorpio just sting and pinches too hard. Thank you goodbye

  25. Sean Carter wrote:

    So my question now is, how do I know when it’s the right time to sleep with her? Like what “progress” are you referring to?

    Sean,

    Instead of wondering when it will be the right time to get laid again, have you ever considered when would it be the right time to bring up marriage counseling?

    My biggest piece of advice would be use no contact to get her attention, maybe a month or two, and then after your first meeting before you start banging her again, you bring up the possibility of getting some help to piece your marriage back together again.

    It seems to me that all you’re worried about is how long you have to abstain from sex with her.

    NC is the first step to the plan, the rest is up to you, but I don’t think marriage counseling could hurt…do you?

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

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