How to Get My Ex Girlfriend Back – Avoid These 3 Strikes and Get Your Ex Back

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A break up is not the end if you know how to “get my ex girlfriend back”, but here are 3 sure fire ways to not get your ex back. If you do these things you will fail. Be very careful about making these 3 mistakes, and striking out.

Break Up Strike One

This one seems pretty obvious, but a lot of guys fall into this pit. The temporary insanity phase where you think you can force your ex girlfriend to come back by begging, and pleading, and promising to change. You have to realize that it is way too late to close the barn door after the horse has escaped…it doesn’t do any good. Your time would be better spent thinking about how to prevent it from happening again, make sense? If you want to “get my ex girlfriend back” then you need to calm down and focus.

Avoid These 3 Strikes And Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Break Up Strike Two

Okay, now that you have started to overcome break up mistake number one, you’re probably starting to fall into the second pit…Mr. Nice Guy. You have seen that pleading and begging was getting you no where, so in your semi-psychotic state you think I will win back my ex by being really nice. Guess what? That just makes things worst…how?

Now you have just surrendered to the “just friends” zone. It is a break up purgatory where you neither go forward, or backward…you’re just stuck. This is worse than being dumped. You can’t be friends with your ex, and win them back. You need to use no contact correctly if you want to “get my ex girlfriend back.” Getting your ex back is not impossible, and it is not easy…but you need a good plan.

Break Up Strike Three

Usually by this time you have found some good advice about how to use the no contact rule…but you’re afraid to follow it, why? Because it doesn’t make any sense to you, and you think it will drive your ex girlfriend even further away. But you are wrong.

There is much more to using NC to get your ex back then reverse psychology, it is a “process”, a test of your exes true feelings for you. You really need this information so you can make an intelligent decision about how to continue your life, right? Otherwise you are stuck in the friends zone…relationship limbo. You need more than just a good plan to get your ex girlfriend back, you need great personal support too.

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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37 Responses to “How to Get My Ex Girlfriend Back – Avoid These 3 Strikes and Get Your Ex Back”

  1. eri-uk says:

    hi,i just find this inofmation and i think works better then nothing,my girfriend brek up with me three weeks ago,we had some little stupid fights,then we sort out the problem at the same day,but next day she was going to her friend where she was stying for more then three days,and i think she make her to brek up with me,in three weeks time i only call her once 3 minutes,but she was ungry with me she was talking then she cut me off,that was after 5 days when she said i got problem with my family and i need to break up with u,from 2 weeks i havent event try to call or text her anymore.seems like im over this brek up.she didn,t call me but i wont,t call or text her anymore,im not desperate to be honest, is it any chance so this girl can come back if im using no contact or maybe she is moving on,any good idea?im just curios to know,and should i wait for her anymore or should i star dating?

  2. S. Williams says:

    eri-uk wrote:

    is it any chance so this girl can come back if im using no contact or maybe she is moving on,any good idea?im just curios to know,and should i wait for her anymore or should i star dating?

    Hi eri,

    It’s not too late to start using the free plan on my Blog.

    If you want to help yourself…that’s what you need to do.

    It’s free, it’s waiting for you, and all you have to do is take action and use it.

    So, what do you have to lose?

    Take Care.

    S.W.

  3. Albert says:

    Hy, I found this page by casuallity, now I’m in a process of end of relationship, my girlfriend broke up with me since last november, we had a few contacts, some of them nice, but the last one she told me that she isn`t already love me not and she dont want to see me, so my question is, do you really think that I have a chance to come back with her? we spend 5 years as a couple with option to live together and now i want to come back with her, we dont have comunication but im very ansious to know about her, what i do? please.

  4. S. Williams says:

    Albert wrote:

    we dont have comunication but im very ansious to know about her, what i do? please.

    Hi,

    You can try using the free plan, the link is on the right-hand side of my Blog.

    No contact is much more than just not contacting your ex.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  5. Albert says:

    Hy again, well I have 5 months after the break out with my girlfriend, son since the last time I see her she told me that she dont love me anymore and i dont like me, so its that right? and since that 5 months I dont have comunication with her is she call me o find me? thanx.

  6. livestrong says:

    S.DUBB WASSUP , I BEEN THRU NO CONTACT ALREADY AND I CONTACTED MY EX ABOUT A WEEK AGO TO SET UP A DATE , SHE CONFIRMED THE DATE BUT COULDNT MAKE IT BECAUSE OF SOMETHING . THEN I SET UP ANOTHER DATE ND WE DIDNT END UP HANGING OUT BECAUSE IT WAS RAINING LIKE CRAZY . ME AND MY EX ARE IN CONTACT AGAIN THO ND HER ATTITUDE NOW TOWARDS ME IS DIFFRENT , SHE SEEMS MORE NICER . SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE SHES THROWING HINTS AT ME THAT SHE WANTS TO GET BACK TOGETHER , BUT I REMEMBER THOSE SAME HINTS THAT MADE ME ASK HER TO BE MINE AGAIN ONLY TO GET REJECTED . I DONT WANNA MESS UP THIS TIME AROUND , RIGHT NOW WERE IN CONTACT . . SHE TEXTS ME ND WE TEXT BACK ND FORTH , WE SPEAK ON THE PHONE A LIL , WHEN WERE ON THE PHONE SOMETIMES TRIES TO MAKE ME REACT . FOR EXAMPLE TODAY SHE CALLS ME ND IM SLEEP ND WERE TALKING SO IM LIKE TELL ME A BEDTIME STORY ND SHE TELLS A STORY BOUT A COUPLE WHO WENT OUT ND WERE DEEPLY IN LOVE BUT ENDED UP GOING SEPERATE WAYS . ND TODAY WAS A DATE OF OUR MONTHLY ANNIVERSARY ND SHES LIKE OO DO U KNOW WHAT TODAY IS ND IM LIKE YEAH THE 3OTH . . . ND THAT WAS IT . THEN SHES LIKE HOWS LIFE NND IM LIKE ITS GOOD , SHES LIKE OO BUT WHEN I ASKED U THAT BEFORE U WAS LIKE FANTASTIC , DID U SAY THAT JUST TO MAKE ME FEEL SOME TYPA WAY. ND IM LIKE NO NOT EVEN , BUT HOWS LIFE WITCHU , AND SHES LIKE OO ITS ALLRIGHT. THEN IM LIKE WATCHU DOIN TMMRW , SHES LIKE BABYSITTIN . . DONT WORRY WERE GONNA GET OUR DATE SOON . I KNOW SHE HAS TO BABY SIT CUS OF SOME FAMILY ISSUES RIGHT NOW , BUT I DONT WANT TO BE DOING ANYTHING WRONG RIGHT NOW . HOW SHOULD I ACT LIKE DURING THE CONTACT WITH HER NOW , I KNOW I’VE EVOLVED AND SHE CAN SENSE IT BUT I DONT WANT TO SLIP UP . PLEASE HELP , THANKS !

  7. S. Williams says:

    livestrong wrote:

    HOW SHOULD I ACT LIKE DURING THE CONTACT WITH HER NOW

    Hi,

    Just be patient, and wait until you can meet, and then follow the steps in the reconnection section of the free plan.

    Now is NOT the time to get needy, and in a hurry, OK?

    Follow the steps in the free plan to keep from slipping back into the “just friends” zone.

    Stay Strong! :rambo:

    S.W.

  8. Indian says:

    hey me and my girlfriend were together from 1 and half year then we had some fight and she did brokeup with me and them after begging she again joined me but i didnt care for her so much then again we have a brokeup and now she dont want to see me…. i haven’t any contact with her
    what can i do? i really love her but donnt know weather she loves me or not?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      You can evolve past the break up, regain your life, and reveal your ex girlfriends true feelings for you by following the free plan.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  9. mark says:

    is it possible to get an ex girlfriend back if all the fights started 3 months ago, she then dissapeared til september 15 th because she was angry with me and did not talk to me..then we started to talk again 1 month ago and she told me it was over 2 weeks ago and she broke up?

    im on my 14 th day of nc …and i must add that she broke up because it was my fault..i admitt to that….will it help?
    im allready seing some things–like she has started to post things in facebook on the walls of our friends…friends she never contacted before…and she show herself available 24/7 on yahoo messenger.

  10. mark says:

    what i mean is does the no contact rule work if you use it right after the break or can it also be used if you broke up 2 months ago but are still chatting now and then..and then suddenly you write the nc messege and go nc? can it still work if its not right after the break up?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Yes, it will work, why?

      Because this plan is about getting your life back, it is NOT about getting your ex girlfriend back.

      This is all explained in the free plan, go read it and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  11. frankie says:

    So i have broken up with my ex for about two months now. the first couple of weeks i did everything to try and get her back and then i said i would give her a couple of weeks and then contacted her with the same responses. so this time around i said my good bye and waited over a month to contact her. i actually just sent her a cute text today however i got no response. not sure if i should just give up…

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      To give up or not, is your choice/decision.

      If you want to reveal your ex girlfriends true feelings for you, go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow All the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  12. jon says:

    Hey-

    So my ex and I were together for only 3 months. It was a great relationship but then she got extremely busy with school and work and our time together was less and less. When we were first together she always used to tell me I made her melt and would constantly text me that she missed me and wanted to be with me. She would say the best of things to me and I know they were very sincere. It was a relationship that I thought would evolve into something more. I have never met a woman like this in my life. It was premature yes but my heart told me that this could in fact be the woman who I could spend some serious time with.

    Well about a month ago she broke it off with me telling me she couldn’t give me what I needed and would be better off as friends. I didn’t try to convince her to stay with me. I kept my cool but my heart was broken. Since the break up there has been very little contact between us. We however share a studio space so we have to have some sort of contact. For the most part I let her contact me via email or text and reply with short answers. Kept it cool most of the time.

    She says she cant be my girlfriend right now and I said ok. I asked her never again? She said she doesn’t like to use that word never. She also said as of now all she can be is friends. What does this mean? Should I just accept that this woman will not want to be with my anymore?

    We did have a fight once on the phone and she told me I was too emotional and sensitive which I am. Im just really confused about all of this now. I really want to be with this person but am confused. We are suppose to meet up in a few days to go over some things about the studio. This will be our first visit with her not in school and not working.

    I know I shouldn’t talk about the relationship or anything that would make her feel uncomfortable. I just wanted advice to move on without her or slowly try to be with her again. Is it too late for us?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Don’t focus on “us”, focus on yourself, and getting your life back again.

      The fastest way to take control of your break up situation is to follow the no contact rule.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      • jon says:

        thanks …. I have been doing that. focusing on my life and feeling better everyday and things are getting easier. I have not initiated contact but she has. I have been reading around your blog and it has definatly helped. I will read the free plan next. cheers

  13. bobby says:

    me a and my girlfriend dated for about 2 months and she seemed as if she really liked me and wanted to hang out with me but something always came up and she couldn’t hang out with me. during the entire two months we only got a chance to see each other once and we hung out all day and she said she had a great time then about two weeks after we hung out she would text me first every day but would stop texting after 4 which was when she got of of school and then my phone was stolen and when i got it back about a week later i had no texts from her so i called her and she didn’t pick up(she never does) and she texted me and said “sorry i didn’t pick up im about to take a test” so i texted her and made her laugh and she seemed happy then she just stopped talking to me i waited a few days then wished her a happy thanksgiving(text) and she said “you too!!” ever since then i havent texted her and she hasn’t texted me christmas is the end of the 30 days of no contact should i wish her a merry christmas or have i done something wrong(if so how do i fix it)

  14. bobby says:

    alright i will give it a shot
    thank you

  15. John says:

    So, I dated my GF for 2.5 years, she started hanging out all the time with another guy who lived in her dorm, I was off campus. It was hard, but I tried fighting through it thinking it would be ok. She broke up with me, and I messed up. It’s been 2.5 months now.

    Within the week, I begged, told her we can be better, said give it another try, to no avail obviously.
    Then I started saying how I was feeling, and trying to figure out why she dumped me, and I made it sound like I was putting blame on her always hanging out with this other guy.

    Then I realized I have been a complete jerk, and have tried to not ruin it any more, and started trying to be “nice” and able to talk to her. I apologized for the way I acted at first.

    I want her back, a lot, I love her. But she is always still doing EVERYTHING with this guy, and she still insists they are just friends. so I have to hope that is true… and that I still have a chance.

    I feel like I have messed up completely, and I am scared it is way too late for me. After all the bombarding, begging, saying we can be better, then apologizing, and trying to just be nice and make small talk.

    I don’t know how to do it :\ and I’m scared I “struck out” on three strikes. Is it ever too late once we feel this way?

  16. S. Williams says:

    John says:

    I don’t know how to do it :\ and I’m scared I “struck out” on three strikes. Is it ever too late once we feel this way?

    Hi,

    The only time it is too late, is when you give up, and stop trying to learn how to do things the right way.

    I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

    If this statement confuses you, go read the “About” section on my Blog.

    If you’re interested in getting my help, go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

    You only struck out because you didn’t have a plan to follow, now you do.

    Thank you for writing.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

    • John says:

      You make a great point. I know I have to get my life back first, then she can maybe see me the way she once did. It’s just hard because I had my life before her, then it was beyond imagination with her, and now that is the standard I can’t help but use.

      I’ll definitely look into your articles/blogs, and keep hope that if I do those, I can get my life back, and in the end, her.

      I just did a lot of stupid things shortly after our break up that I am scared pushed her away forever, and made her too close to him for them not to start dating, which I felt like I was already cheated on before all of this. And now every time I run into her she is with him, and it appears that every minute of her free time she spends with him. It’s just hard and it messes with my brain.

  17. Jeff says:

    My fiance and I were together for 7 years. We had the storybook romance: we were always happy, never argued, never tired of each other, and all of of friends and family looked at us as having the perfect relationship. Life could not be better for the two of us.

    She moved out for school two years ago, and the distance was hard on us, but we stayed strong. I saw her about two weekends a month. Then toward the end of her school, we started to feel more distant from each other. Then tragedy struck: my mom suddenly died. Shortly after, the two of us went to counseling to see what was missing between us. We received some great insight, and focused on better communicating our feelings.

    We made a trip to Seattle to look for work and a new home, unsure of our future. We spent days together, exploring the city, and immediately felt the intense love return. We felt hope. She was so excited to finally start her career, feel some financial independence, and pursue her dream as a nurse.

    We came back home, and life started to change. I lost my job, we were both struggling to find work, we were eating into our wedding fund to make ends meet, part of our home is torn apart for a remodel, etc. I could feel her become distant again. I tried to get her out of the house, to open up, to smile, but nothing. She only wanted to look for work and work on the house. I watched her become angry, and she directed some of her anger at me.

    After a month or so of this, she told me she was leaving, and moving back with her parents. She told me that she hasn’t felt the same about me for months. I don’t agree. When we were in Seattle, and for several weeks after we got back, we were madly in love, and she is one who can’t hide her emotions. She said she didn’t know what the future will bring, but she’s not completely giving up on us yet.

    After she moved out, she canceled all of our wedding plans (the wedding was for July 2012). One of our mutual friends says that she’s moving on with her life…

    I’m convinced that the challenges we’ve faced have nothing to do with our relationship, but have been allowed to influence her view of us. Everyone who knows her, including her family, is surprised and confused.

    We haven’t contacted each other for two weeks now. I’m waiting for her to contact me, but I’m nervous about how to approach it. When she’s upset, she becomes easily irritable, and may view me not returning her calls/texts as being passive-aggressive. I understand how this would work on other people, I just see how it could work with her, given her personality.

    I feel lost… I’m afraid that she’ll give up on us completely. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

    • S. Williams says:

      Jeff says:

      We haven’t contacted each other for two weeks now. I’m waiting for her to contact me, but I’m nervous about how to approach it. When she’s upset, she becomes easily irritable, and may view me not returning her calls/texts as being passive-aggressive. I understand how this would work on other people, I just see how it could work with her, given her personality.

      Hi,

      I am not a trained psychologist so I couldn’t comment on passive aggressive anything, but I do know that true love will find a way.

      The no contact rule is simple, and if you follow it correctly there is no way she can become confused about what is going on, that is why you must send the recommended NC message.

      If you just stop responding to her, that would be confusing.

      But, if you agree with the break up, and ask for “some space” to think about things, what is confusing about that?

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s, I explain why in the “About” section of my Blog.

      If you want to evolve past the breakup, and get your life back while revealing your ex girlfriends true feelings, go read the free plan, and follow ALL the steps.

      Your fear will only trap you, and keep you prisoner, you must face it, and do what is necessary to get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      • Jeff says:

        Thank you for your response. I read your blog, and I have another question for you regarding the no contact. Since my message above, my ex called me, and we talked for quite some time. The conversation was a little heated at first, but that quickly faded and we had a good talk. Although the talk went well, she didn’t offer any insight as to how she was spending her time or what her plans were for the future. We agreed that we should take some time between phone calls.

        Surprisingly, she called me the next day. It was to cover a loose end from our relationship. After that topic was done, she started talking about what she’s been doing and what she’s planning for the future. Again, the conversation went well. After 20 minutes, I said that I needed to go, and ended the call.

        My question is now that she’s been in contact with me, is it best that I still not contact her? There have been some big developments in my life that I’d like to share with her, and since we agreed to be friends, I’d like for her to know. However, I still want her back, and I feel there is a possibility for us to begin again (although slowly). Any advice would be appreciated…

        • S. Williams says:

          Hi,

          You are NOT using no contact correctly.

          It takes time to evolve past a break up, and a couple weeks is NEVER enough time from my experience anyways.

          One person has to be the strong one and stick to NC.

          This means sending the recommended no contact message as outlined in the free plan.

          If you are wary of the effectiveness of the free plan and my advice, I urge you to seek advice somewhere else because we are only wasting each others time.

          I don’t know about you, but my time is valuable.

          If you are REALLY SERIOUS, go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  18. Danny says:

    I’ve just agreed to be friends with my ex, but I’ve just read this. So what do I do? Should I text her and tell her I can’t? I’m stuck cause I don’t wanna break the no contact rule !!!

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      I hate to tell you this, but…

      You are NOT following the no contact rule as far as I am concerned, so you can’t break it.

      What do I mean?

      You agreed to be friends with your ex girlfriend.

      That is the equivalent of voluntarily walking into a prison cell and closing the door behind you.

      Welcome to Relationship Limbo.

      But, there is some good news.

      If you want to get out all you have to do is open the cell door by sending the correct no contact message, and then continuing your personal evolution.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      When you are ready to get out of jail, and stay out…

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back, heal your broken heart, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – Yes, you will look stupid sending the NC message after agreeing to be friends. But it would be even more stupid to leave yourself locked up, right?

  19. cubicoin says:

    Hi Im relly desperate. 8 days ago Im break up with my ex gf. She send text message to my phone, She said she still love me but we got to break up cuz their family dont like me. And then I texting her back that I cant accept this things and says I HATE YOU to her, and then agree with break up. At midnight she send me message that She is sorry she still love me and if Im not diff (religion) with his family this one will not happen. And then I saw her tweet and she made good decision feel no regret at all. And then I feel sorry to her and texting message to her and she wont back to me cuz she said you are not love me anymore and I know it before. Wtf I became desperate and say sorry to her and then giving care to much. And then can become her friend, she still want to chat with me if I asking her to online. But now I made something wrong Im tweet that tell Im ever date as boyfried with someone becouse of necessity. And then she mad with me. I was sorry to her and saying that I tweet for fun no offence and on chatting we fight each other and she tell me that she wont be my friend anymore and become my enemy from now. After wake up from splepping Im texting that I was dreaming of you and you become more older than me cuz you was become my enemy and tell joke that her face already old by the way and I wonder if she realy become more older than now, and I say sorry also for the last night, and tell her that I dont care if she want to be my enemy soon or latter she will be calm. After that when she wake up, she read my text massage and then now she remove my facebook and twitter. She reply She dont want to be friend with bucket mouth. And I reply “Yes I understand im realy have bucket mouth”
    So, what do you think now? Do I still have a chance? I realy love her now, I want she come back to me.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex girlfriend’s true intentions.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your girl back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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