How to Get My Ex Boyfriend Back – Avoid These 3 Pitfalls and Get Your Ex Back

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You just broke up, and you’re confused on how to “get my ex boyfriend back”. If you avoid these 3 pitfalls you stand a great chance of getting your ex back.

Breakup Pitfall 1

This is not the end of the world. It might feel like it but that is normal because the initial reaction to a loss of any kind is panic, and temporary insanity. The first thing you must realize is that a break up happens for a reason, and the worst thing you can do is try to “get my ex boyfriend back” right away…Why?

Because you both need time. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and gives you both time to settle down. One of the worst mistakes you can make during a break up is to rush back together. You can win back your ex if you remain calm. Seek out support to help calm yourself instead of trying to fix things right away.

Avoid All The Traps And Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Break Up Pitfall II

Do not fall into the “just friends” zone trying to “get my ex boyfriend back”. It will be very hard to get out of the friends zone, and get your ex back once you agree to being friends. Maybe you think it sounds like a good idea “if we are friends he will not move on and take me back someday”…wrong!

You’re just making it easier for him to do just that…move on. He still has you (if he changes his mind), but now he can date too. You don’t mind, after all you’re only friends, right?

Breakup Pitfall III

By now I bet you have already begged, pleaded, and then settled for the “friends zone”, and are now realizing all the mistakes you made…what next? Usually it’s days and nights of crying your eyes out which only dehydrates you, and drives all your friends and family crazy. Now you feel even worse. You don’t have to feel helpless and alone…you can fight back, How?

Using the no contact rule along with a step-by-step plan to get your life, and then your ex back again. You must get your life back before you can even attempt to get your ex boyfriend back again. A step-by-step system to help you “get my ex boyfriend back” will turn your whole life around in about 30 days.

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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23 Responses to “How to Get My Ex Boyfriend Back – Avoid These 3 Pitfalls and Get Your Ex Back”

  1. S. Williams says:

    hannah wrote:

    Will this be another month of waiting? What can i do next?

    Hi,

    Send the recommended NC message as outlined in the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, then follow ALL the rest of the steps.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  2. hannah says:

    Hi,
    The love of my life broke up with me last month. I didnt contact him,even though i really wanted to. He has just got in touch with me this week asking if i had missed him or met someone else.
    I said i hadnt but i had been really busy(not).I told him i had missed him but agreed with the breakup.He hinted he might come and see me this weekend but since the fonecall i have heard nothing again ? Will this be another month of waiting? What can i do next? Please Help. Hannah.

  3. Stupid_Cunt says:

    don’t listen to this schmuck…

    I did as you told me to one year ago. Sent him the NC message, developed and then, when I was ready, contacted him. He called me a bitch for putting him in a bad light by sending that text…WTF!?!?!?!?!?!

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Did I force you to follow my advice?

      Did you follow ALL the steps (including getting psychiatric help, this step is only for the loony bitches like this one)?

      If you are mentally ill (obviously) get yourself some professional help as my disclaimer states at the bottom of the website, and numerous pages on my Blog.

      If you used the recommended no contact message without any changes as I advise…how would that put anyone in a “bad light”?

      Your ex boyfriend sounds about as stupid as you are, I am real glad you didn’t have a kids together.

      Please tell me you two didn’t reproduce.

      A schmuck? Listen you stupid cunt if you can read, go read the success stories on my Blog and in the forum.

      You see this plan does work if you’re not psychotic, and your ex ever really loved you in the first place.

      Note – All psychotic people please get the fuck off (and stay off) my site and seek out the appropriate professional help, OK?

      As for you…go take your meds and then find someone else to bother, I am busy helping people.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      P.S. – This plan is not about getting your ex back (as I always tell people), it is about getting your life back. This moron obviously did not work on getting her life back if she was still (after a whole year) waiting to get her ex back, therefore she didn’t follow the free plan to get your ex back correctly.

      • sandi says:

        Mr. S williams:

        I am responding to the way you responded to the woman who ” waited a year” after her no contact message.
        I am not sure of your background, but it would appear that you are absolutely insighting a negative idea about your book. How dare you use such language on another person? If someone challenges your practices and theories as you put them out there…And by the way you call your blog and book ” Get your ex-Back”, so you yourself have lead people to beleive that is exactly what they are getting. I have read your book, and I understand the method you set out, but again I question your professioanlism and I would question your methods as well given that statement alone. Are you helping people and along the way making money, or are you making money and scamming people along the way, or are you truly trying to help and make money? Either way it is disgusting the way you put in print a response to any human being. for shame.. when you are trying to make a positive impact.
        sdh

        • S. Williams says:

          sandi said:

          I am not sure of your background, but it would appear that you are absolutely insighting a negative idea about your book

          Hi,

          It seems one stupid cunt, attracts another…lol

          OK, if you took as much time “to read” my Blog as you did to lash out at my response, you would have seen a link at the top called “about”.

          If you pulled your head out of your ass long enough to click on that link you would have the answers to all your questions, and accusations.

          Please show me where I said I wrote a book.

          If I wrote a book I would like to know about it…lol

          Readers: This is but a small sample of the many idiots I have to deal with while offering a “free service”…yes, I said free.

          That is why it is called the free plan to get your ex back.

          It is optional to purchase MOMU (the book I recommend, but didn’t write), or any other book to supplement the free plan, but it is NOT necessary to succeed.

          As far as making a “positive impact” go read the success stories on my Blog, and in the forum.

          I provide customer support to people regardless of where they bought a book, why?

          Because the people they purchased from did not give them any support, that’s why.

          I know, I am a real prick, huh?

          Plus, you ignorant cunt, you forget to mention how that stupid bitch started the whole thing by calling me a “schmuck”.

          So, go brush up on your reading skills, and take your fucking crusade somewhere else, OK?

          The only thing that is shameful, is your lack of research before getting involved in something that doesn’t even concern you.

          Now Go Fuck Yourself!

          How’s that for professionalism? :-)

          Take Care,

          S.W.

          PS – To all the “future” stupid cunts…If you don’t like what I have to say (or how I say it), please exit my Blog ASAP. But, if you feel you must post your opinions be ready for my response, OK?

  4. tinequah says:

    hi,my ex boo dumped me and rightly so i was tryna read his phone,i was insecure,anyway he didnt text me for 2days,and addmitingly i waw textn sayn i would do anything..etc..after i didnt get a bite i said to him i needed closure..he then text me and said we should be friends,i said to him i cant do that sorry i have friends but take care all the best..hehe,of course i thought that would make him want me even more but here i sit 2weeks later,yesturday i text and said hi,he text back 30mins later with hie,sorry whos this:( anyway,im gonna send a nc,which one though?,i seem to have closed the door on him:(

  5. May says:

    My bf went back to his country for the summer break… we have been dating for over one and a half years .. so many fights and so many good times… after 2 days that he got back he told me that he wants to break up out of nothing… we even talked and chat really nice a day before or so… i still want him back… i am really worried that he will have something with other girl to get over me… i want to use no contact thing but i am scared that he won’t come back and totally be over me… what do i do?

    • S. Williams says:

      May says:

      i want to use no contact thing but i am scared that he won’t come back and totally be over me… what do i do?

      Hi,

      There is nothing to be afraid of, if he doesn’t come back it will not be because you followed the no contact rule.

      If he truly loves you nothing will stop him from getting you back, right?

      NC will help you evolve past the break up, and reveal his true feelings for you…you have NOTHING to lose.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  6. Lisa says:

    Hi!

    My question to you is: Where do I go from here? I guess I have sqrewed things up.

    Here is the short version of my break-up. I got dumped in a rather nice way; there were no argument or fight, his feelings was just gone along with the tension between us. I cried, but told him not to call me, that I would call him when I was ready. I didnt call for 4 weeks, but send him an e-mail explaining my feelings. Stupid.
    Anyway, I called him and we spoke on phone a couple of times before we met for a beer (just 45 min, I had to go meet up with friends). By then I had lost som pounds and bought myself som new different clotes. It was really a nice meeting. The day after he send me an e-mail telling me I looked good, and that he had had a really good time.

    Then the messing up started:

    According to my plan after that meeting I was not to contact him until he called me. He sent me som text-messenges during the night (drunk), and picture of his new furnitures (not drunk, hehe). I answered politely. Then a few days ago I got drunk with my girlfriends, I called him at 23.30, and asked if he could call me up the morning after at 05.30, because I had to go to work and didnt relay on myself waking. He did acutually do that, he is a kind guy. But then I called him to say thanks when I came home from work that night… I never begged or pleased, or even talked about the break-up during either of these phonecalls, but I said that we should meet again some day. That I might call him during the weekend. I know now I shouldent said that, that he should take that move and let him hunt. Until now I have taken all the initiative.

    Do I have to start all over again, not calling for several weeks?

    Thanks for reading, I`d be gratefull for an answer!

    Best
    Lisa

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      It doesn’t sound like you screwed up.

      You can set up another meeting and see how it goes, just remember to take it slow.

      You are starting a “new” relationship with your ex boyfriend, you don’t want to pick up “the old relationship” where you left off just before the break up.

      That would be a BIG mistake.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  7. Tantina says:

    Dear s william,

    I was dating with a guy whos 20 years old i’m 24 but he seems very mature for his age. we have been dating for 8 months and we both have meet our parents and talked about out future. my boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago cause he says it’s going to be difficult because we think different and he lied to me about where he was ( he was not cheating )After I caught him he was lying about where he was, next day he broke up with me and we had our last conversation face to face. He said through text that he still loves me and misses me but things just won’t work out.I told him i miss him to but he says I will get over him after a while and he says he will always be there if i needed him, he lives only 5 min away from me.But he works parttime for my parents that’s why he is still that polite to me I think. His mother also called me in the first week and she asked me if i would take him back if he wouldn’t do the things he did anymore and she said my ex was very upset about the breakup and she says she misses me to and hopefully we works things out and get back together.

    I’m not also not that perfect either i’m quit jalouse :( so the mother told me that i must give him more space in relationship. I told his mom that if he would call me, I would talk with him about it because i wanted to work things out. The first week we still had contact over textmessage, cause he wanted us to be friends. I told him i couldn’t pretend that we’re friends while i still love him and he also doesn’t want to see me cause he thinks its a bad idea. I’ve been 6 days for NC now and i have deleted him from my facebook yesterday. Now its 2 and a half week since the break up and I havent seen him.

    I don’t know what to do, if i would text him i know he would repeat back.But he doesn’t initiate contact first. I know he is not seeing someone else. He just want his space to do his own stuff .So dear mister William could you give me some advice?I want him back but I don’t want to come over desperate.I’ve been working out a lot lately and lost weight and eat healthy because if i would see him in a local grocery store i want him to see me when I’m on my best. Thank you for your time and have a lovely day!

    • S. Williams says:

      Tantina says:

      I don’t know what to do, if i would text him i know he would repeat back.But he doesn’t initiate contact first. I know he is not seeing someone else. He just want his space to do his own stuff .So dear mister William could you give me some advice?I want him back but I don’t want to come over desperate.

      Hi,

      I suggest that you use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you.

      I feel that you have a 50/50 chance of getting back together, but you need to get your life back, and evolve past the break up first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  8. Jane says:

    Hi,

    I think I already know the answer to this, however at the moment my heart is still slightly ruling my head.
    I split up with my boyfriend 6 weeks ago, and unfortunately I have broken every rule in the book. I’ve text, cried, etc etc.

    I have now statrted the no contact and I know now I will definitely stick to it. However I think it’s too little to late.
    I know my ex loved me very much, and said I was the love of his life, however I know my neediness drove him away.

    What a mess I’ve brought upon myself.

    Thanks

    Jane

  9. Jules says:

    hi scott, do u think i have a chance of getting my ex back?
    he dumped in may, we were together for 9 months, which the last 3 months of relationship i was away traveling but before i left he proposed. he had been cheating on me quite a lot with his ex girlfriend-they were together 3 years and have a child together. he said he loved me and wanted to spend rest of his life with me. i always took him back after cheating as he says he feels nothing for her….i’m 18 and hes 27 and maybe i’m a stupid nieve girl but i do believe he loves me or did at some point. he only dumped me because when i got back from traveling i gave him engagement ring back, he had arranged to spend day with ex and his child and i sent him a long message asking if he could promise me he wouldnt cheat if i went away to uni…. he couldnt promise me so he said whats the point??? i miss him so much, he was my first boyfriend and he was my fiance… yes for only 3 months but i thought i was his “one”. b4 we got together he said at work about his ex that he thought she was “the one” and i dared not ask about her again but he slaggged her off so much i assumed he hated her. i hoped he would of moved away with me to uni away from her and there child but deep down i knew he wouldnt as he didnt even look for jobs etc. do u think i have a chance if i do NC or should i face facts he was never mine?? his ex will never be out of his life and he said he cant stay away from her…. i love him so much its killing me!!!! :)thanks

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      You have a 50/50 chance to win back your ex.

      This gets better with time, and your ability to use the no contact rule to let go of the past, and get your life back again.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your man back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  10. Spanisheyes says:

    Hey S.W,
    first off I appreciate what you do! So May 29 my ex and I broke up over a argument. Been together 8 months. Loved each other, the break up was emotional. Anywho 1 week later I did the Tdub break up agreement letter. That was before I found ur page :(.so I have done 1 month & 1/2 of NC, I also took him off of my facebook when we broke up. Hes joining the Navy and leaving in 7 to 8 months :(. HE HAS NOT CONTACTED ME! I need advice on what to do, keep nc? Or contact? Fyi, it was a very confusing breakup, he cried and said he loved me. In my head I was like,ooooook then why are giving up.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      The Tdub letter sucks.

      The book has some great advice about relationships, but the second chance letter blows, that is why I created the NC message and the free plan, they work together with the book MOMU.

      If you use the no contact rule correctly you can evolve past the break up and reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  11. Lucy says:

    Hi, my BF broke up with me 6 days ago, for the 3rd time. we were together for a year. he broke up with me after a very bad argument we had for nothing – i dont even know why we argued. since then i think i did everything wrong, texting him, calling him, threatening him i will hurt myself, everything you can think of. he said we are over forever and that something in him broke forever after the argument. on the other hand i feel he hurts too. will the NC plan help even in a situation like this? do we have a chance? thank you very much for your answer.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      You have a 50/50 chance of getting back together, if you decide you even want him back.

      Use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  12. Lola says:

    Hi i need your advice. I had a long distance relationship with my bf of 6 years. He broke up with me 10days ago. He is 4.5yrs younger to me. We met online in 2006 and since then we have been meeting eachother time to time in different countries. Since last 4yrs i have been staying with him for 6months every year so that we don’t have a long distance. We had planned on getting married next year. Everything was great until 20th september 2012. After that I felt some change in his behavior so i flew in to see if things could be sorted. But he ill treated me and he said he doesn’t want to be in a serious relationship anymore. And that he feels like dating random girls and be like a free bird. He said he slept with someone and that he doesn’t feel the same for me anymore. He said i should stop talking to him and move on. He didn’t let me speak to him so we could sort the matter and i had to leave immediately as i couldn’t bear his odd behavior. I was extremely shocked and couldn’t process what was happening. While dropping me at the airport he cried and hugged me. He said he was sorry about everything he did even though i was great towards him. He said we should remain friends if its okay with me. After returning home i started missing him a lot so i texted him about our old times and that i am ready to forgive and forget and start a fresh thing. But he said its over and that he doesn’t feel the same anymore. I tried to convince him a lot and then he got irritated of my texts and said i should i accept the fact and try moving on. I mailed him as wel but he said he deleted my mail without reading it. I tried to control texting him a lot but after 2-3days i use to give up and land up texting him and ultimately use to feel horrible because of his cold treatment. I love him a lot and miss him like crazy. We had planned a future together. I keep thinking of our time together which was great.. We loved being with each other. But he seems firm on his decision and i am confused whether i should try moving on or i should try getting him back. Please tell me what i should do?? I entered my details for your free plan steps and i received an email confirmation mail but haven’t received any more info after confirming my email about the steps. Your quick reply will be highly appreciated. Thanks :)

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      If you signed up for my newsletter, and you received your confirmation email, and you clicked the link confirming your request for my newsletter, you should have received your first email shortly after that with the link to the free plan.

      If you haven’t received any emails try looking in your spam/junk folder, and make sure you add my email address to your contacts list.

      As far as what to do about your break up…

      I say use the no contact rule to get your life back, not your ex boyfriend.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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