How to Be Brave Enough to Get Your Ex Back
Are you brave enough to get your ex back? Many people want to get back together with their ex, but they seem to chicken out…why? What are they afraid of? Is it finding out the truth about their ex girlfriends, boyfriends real feelings for them? Whatever it is you need to conquer your fear if you want them back. Let’s take a look at how you can do that, OK?
Find A Good Plan
People read about the no contact rule, and they think that just not talking to their ex is a plan…it’s not. If you want to have the confidence you need to beat back your fear, you need to have a good step-by-step plan to follow. Without a plotted course you will feel lost at sea, and then you will want to turn back, right?
It is very important before you do anything, to find a good plan, and then follow it step by step, understand? Your chances for success getting your ex back will be much greater if you have a plan to follow before you react to your break up situation.
Find Good Personal Support
Once you have a plan in hand, and you’re following it you’re on your way…but, you will have bad days…guaranteed. So what can you do when you feel like quitting? You find supportive people who will keep you on track…this is real important, and is what’s missing from all those “get your ex back” books on the Internet.
What if you could find a forum where there are people just like yourself, following a plan, and supporting each other…would this help you? You bet it would! Who knows how you feel better than someone who is going through the same emotional roller coaster ride you are? You can survive this breakup, and get your ex back if you have the right tools, and support to ride out all the bumps along the way.
Free Step by Step Plan
If you are in a break up situation you have to learn how to think with your head, and not with your heart. If you want my help getting your ex back, join my free newsletter for free videos, advice, support forum, and a free step by step plan to get your life/ex back fast. On my Blog you will find the answers and the support you seek, along with a free step by step plan. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.
Until next time,
S. Williams
~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~
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hey my ex started to come back to me, but suddenly she decided to stop contacting again?….this time i told her i agree and i don’t want to get in the relationship again…..why did she leave? and what should i do next ?
ali wrote:
Hi,
Are you following a plan like the free one here on my Blog?
If not that is why you’re failing to get your ex back…go to the top of my Blog and find the free plan, and start following every step…starting with stage one…OK?
I emailed the guy I really like, I told him I felt I owed him apology for acted like a idot. Would he except my apology by going to a concert with me. I said no pressure just a friendly gesture. He has not responed. Do you think I scared him off again? I dont feel like that was to much to say. I just dont know how to talk to men anymore
Sandy wrote:
You extended a friendly invitation, now just patiently wait, and do not read too much into it if he refuses.
Just wait a while (a week) and try again with maybe a simple meet for coffee.
A concert is a long time to spend with you if he is still wondering about how he feels about you, right?
Much needed topic, Scott! I’m on-track – day-28 NC. I’m workg on me, better job, getting my togthr… casual dating. With NC, the “chatter” in my head is quieter now, but I need a Long Distance Relationship [LDR] plan. My ex is in San Francisco, I’m in NYC. I plan to reconnect (somehow) in about 45days or so… but how? I do have 3 sisters who live in SF… should I make up a reason to visit them??? Call, Skype possible but not recommended… heck! I don’t know if she even wants to talk, but diffclt from afar… Ideas?
Will wrote:
There are some ideas posted on the free plan…under the section about LDR reconnection.
You have to do what you can, if you can’t get there in person at first, then try some of the ideas posted on the free plan, OK?
Plus 45 days is way off…so just focus on following the plan for now, and let’s see what happens in the meantime.
The guy excepted my invitation to see the concert. I honestly did not expect that. His words where he would love to see Big Bad Voodoo Daddy. I am not going to put to much into it, I am just happy he said yes. I am begining to feel this stuff really works…thanks
Sandy wrote:
Great news!
Have fun, and enjoy the concert.
That is what I am going to do, be myself and what ever happens happens. I still have some negative feelings over all that has actually happen. He has stood me up before, I am hoping this doesnt happen again. He says he is going to call and doesnt. I know I can’t change him, but at the same time, It seems like I am the only one that is ever making any kind of effort. I get so many mixed signals. I know I cant think about all this stuff….But I think if he stands me up this time, I think I will call it quits..I dont want to set my self up for dissappointmen again.
Sandy wrote:
Yeah I don’t blame you…standing someone up is just plain fucking rude, and shows he has a weak character.
You don’t need a man like that in your life, right?
Too many fish in the sea.
I am begining to think this is the type of man I attract..My ex husband whom I stayed married to for 26 years. Physically, emotionally, verbally abused me for years. But I took it. Now this man hasnt been the nicest to me..But for some odd reason, I still want him., Sometimes I just dont get it, But that is off the subject so thanks for being there
Sandy wrote:
Sandy are you familiar with the law of attraction?
You can learn to attract the things you want on your life…sometimes we do attract the wrong things without even knowing it.
This book talks about learning how to use the law of attraction to your benefit:
The Quantum Cook Book
scott, help plz, she told me to meet her at the park tomorrow after school, she didn’t ask she just said meet her lol, what do i do?? what if she goes to the park and wait? i didn’t respond her
Yoyo wrote:
I guess she will realize that she doesn’t control you…let her evolution begin.
What if you go there and get put back in the just friends zone?
If you want to be her friend go and meet her…but if you want her to evolve and come back…don’t go.
Calling men…I would like to have the opinions of men..I would like to know what a man really thinks when a woman calls them. How come a man calls you to let you know that he is going to call you the next day and doesnt. When he was the one leaving the message? What does this mean? My relationship is over but I am still struggling for answers, I dont know why I just am. I find myself crying over him sometimes, Why do I feel like this? I feel I am a good person. The only thing that fustrated me was when he said he would do things and end up not doing them..Please help me understand why this all happen. thanks
Sandy wrote:
Hi Sandy,
Another place you could ask this question is in our forum in the forum called The Female Evolution.
That forum was created to get the male view point on things.
hai..im in my 3rd week of NC. i been following the plan really closely because i really want my ex back. so he text me today..the text wrote “hey [:-)] its been weeks since we last talked. tho v r no longer attached but i do concern about u. i guess the exam is over ryte? get back to me when u feel talking to me again
”
ummm…i didn’t reply him at all.. what should i do? am i doing it right? i have been planning for a reconnecting with him.
Leen wrote:
Hi Leen,
Yeah, your ex is starting to feel the effects of NC.
Just ignore his attempts until you’re ready to attempt the reconnection.
Don’t worry about your ex…focus on your personal evolution, and the rest will fall into place, OK?
Stay Strong!
S.W.
do you think it’s ok to tell him to burn and delete all my pictures?
sapphire wrote:
Once you properly initiate no contact you should not contact him at all…it is all explained in the free plan.
First off I want to thank you for this incredible site and plan! The steps if used properly really do bring the ex back. My question is that I intiated and stuck to no contact for the month as suggested and suddenly one day at work my ex boyfriend called me. We chatted about nothing special for a few minutes and went our separate ways. We have talked off and on (text and phone) over the last week, with him being the one to make contact with me. Things have been good and discussions focus mainly on our lives now as singles. However, he has said “I will not do this again” and “the bridge between us is broken and I can’t repair it”. In the past couple of days he’s become quite emotionally intimate with me sharing things with me that I had no clue about him. He says he just wants to be friends. My question is and I know that I read this in the Magic of Making Up, that often times when a ex says the above things they mean the exact opposite. I will support him by listening as he lets these things out, but is there really no hope of getting back together with him? Is he just using me as a sounding board or is there more to it? Thanks!
C wrote:
Hi C,
If you keep supporting him as a friend, you will remain just that, his friend.
If you want more than friendship start using the free plan, and send the recommended NC message word for word…changes.
Then follow all the rest of the steps in the plan.
From what it sounds like your first attempt at using no contact failed.
The NC message in the free plan, has been proven to be more effective than the one in the magic of making up.
The rest of the book is great but I tuned up the NC message to really kick some ass, and flip your ex’s switch.
It is necessary to “flip” your ex’s switch so they start their own personal evolution at the same time you do too.
Take action today, start using the free plan, and begin your personal evolution.
Take Care,
S.W.
Firstly, thank you so much for this amazing and insightful site. It has already made me feel much better reading your sensible advice.
My bf of 4 months broke up with me a few days ago and Im gutted. Despite our relationship being short, we had been friends prior to this for 2 years so Im especially hurt and stunned it ended so quick.
He told me he had never truely loved me and all the nice things he did were out of a sense of obligation as a bf. He also said that he only told me he loved me because he felt he SHOULD feel that way rather than he actually did. After hearing this, I felt the situation was hopeless.
However Im determined to get him back. Could you shed any light on why he would say such awful things? Surely he can’t have meant them? Whats the best action I can take in light of the reasons for our break up?
Thank you so much
Charlotte wrote:
Hi Charlotte,
You need to use the free plan on my Blog.
This will help you to get your life back (emotionally), and uncover your ex’s true feelings towards you.
The link is at the top of my Blog.
As to why he would say such things…people say things they don’t mean when they are emotionally charged…a.k.a. thinking with your heart, and not with your head.
Take Care,
S.W.
Thank you- I have already read most of the articles and I am finding them very helpful!
The last thing my ex said to me was “I’ll call you soon.” I’m not sure if he actually intends to do this… Should I send an NC message now or wait till after he’s called? It’s been 2 days since the split- is it too soon to send it yet?
Charlotte wrote:
Hi Charlotte,
That is not an article…it is a free step-by-step system to help you get your life, and then your ex back again.
The sooner you start following the plan, and then send the NC message, the better.
Then follow all the rest of the steps…including joining our forum as outlined in the plan.
Take Care,
S.W.
Before I found your site, I was unloading my misery onto my coworkers and friends about this situation that they couldn’t relate to at all and didn’t want to hear about every day. Since I’ve been on this forum, it took me completely away from driving them nuts. You deserve a fruit basket for Christmas!
Amy wrote:
Hi Amy,
Thanks, but I am a fruit basket, or a basket case, or both…I think?
Take Care,
S.W.
hi, my girlfriend broke up with me backin september. i never begged or pleaded for her to stay,never said why, never said please dont do this to me. i wrote her a letter back in october, how i felt and wished her all the luck in whatever she does. she replied and said that was very nice tom. a couple days later i called and asked to see her for coffee she said no. we were on the phone for about an hour. see she said to me you have my ear and i just told her how i felt. we hung up nicely. 5 weeks went by, then she contacted me through her 7 year old son. he wanted me to go to his wrestling match i said ok let me know. there was no call from her,for 5 days , so i called talked about the match, then i ask her if she would go out on a date with me, she said no. i accepted nicely. then let it go. 2 weeks went by with me not contacting her. so she text me yesterday and said you want to hear something funny and i text back,yes. so she called me and was telling me something that happened , we talked about 27 minutes on the phone and we ended the conversation with us both just saying have a good day. then last night she forward me a joke that i have not gotten any forwards from her at all for 3 months. it was a joke you had to respond to and i did. i just responded to the joke. I just don’t know what she is doing to me. I love her and want to be with her and everytime i stop calling her she text me or calls or has her son call. PLEASE WHAT IS SHE DOING TO ME?
PLEASE HELP. Hurting in NJ, tommy
tommy wrote:
Hi Tommy,
She knows she has you wrapped around her finger…it’s obvious.
Maybe you didn’t beg or plead, but you must have acted needy in another way, or she wouldn’t still think she still has you “wrapped.”
Plus, you’re always available when “she” feels like reaching out…how convenient for her, huh?
If you want to take control of your life again go follow the free plan on my Blog.
Follow every step, OK?
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi, i’m to scared to do it. i feel if i say that she will never come back to me. i love her to much to tell her not to contact me. i don’t think i have the strength to do that to her. i care about her to much to be that way. can i say something like i finally agree with your decision to breakup i guess its best for the both of us and the only way i can move on is to not see you or talk to you. i need to go heal my heart now a heart thats very strong and a heart that will move on and the only way i can do that is to not talk to you or see you.
tommy wrote:
Hi Tommy,
I can’t help you with finding the courage to help yourself…that’s a personal choice.
I just provide all the tools, and support for free.
But you have to use the tools to get the support…not the other way around, understand?
There are a lot of “brave” people in our forum, and I am proud to offer them my help, and support.
Take Care,
S.W.
S.W.
Hi. I am currently trying to get m ex back. We broke up at the end of july 09 and we saw each other all the way up until the end of Feb 10. We played co-ed touch football together and she is my assistant coach. This past week. 3-30-10 she told me she was done for good. she does not want to see me or talk to me again. Is it to late to implement your plan or if i implement it now do i still have a chance?
thanks
Mark
Mark wrote:
Hi,
No, it’s not too late.
She just told you it’s over a couple days ago, now’s the perfect time to follow the free plan, and send the recommended NC message.
Take Care,
S.W.
S.W.
I know i signed up for you free plan but i am not sure if it went to my spam mail or not…i can not find the email to set it up. is it possible you could resend it because i tried to resign up but it said that i already have signed up…
Thanks
Mark
Mark wrote:
Hi,
Look in your spam folder for the email, it should be in your spam folder.
If you can’t find it, try opening a free gmail account.
Once you get a new email address, and sign up again using that new gmail address.
Yahoo can be a pain in the ass about spam.
I can’t re-send your email, that would be considered spam, you have to request it, and then confirm your request.
If you really want help, you won’t give up, right?
Take Care,
S.W.
Thanks for the link for the free account i used it and got all of the info. I am reading it now. This is a scary time because it is so counter intuitive but what i am doing right now is not working what is it call doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results…oh yeah insanity…hopefully this will get me past that…
thanks so much
Mark
Mark wrote:
Hi,
Sometimes…you have to go a little insane to become sane again.
That means you fuck up, and then you learn from your mistakes and succeed.
You sound like you are nearing the end of your fucking up period…now it’s time to move forward…follow the free plan.
Take Care,
S.W.
Thanks now that I have been approved I have some homework to do before I loose my privilages on here
sorry this is probably not the place to post this but i can not figure out how to post my story on the forum…I do not see a link to create a new story…If you could tell me where to look that would be great thanks…
hi, my ex and i have been broken up for about 6 months now and there has been some communications between us, but all small talk and mostly textes. one week ago i wrote her a letter asking her on a date with me and to please respond one way or another. we texted after that email just small talk again and no mention of it, see about 3 weeks ago i asked to see her and talked and she said yes i felt it coming anyway. she has been just putting it off since then, since she said yes and it confuses me. today i texted her and said happy easter and she texted back you too. i don’t know why she keeps texting me everytime i stop, she always comes up with a reason to text me. why???? please help i”m so confused about this. we never trashed each other during the break up and no bad words were said to each other at all. what is she doing to me? does she just want to make sure i”m still there? please help? please i beg you? tommy
tom wrote:
Hi,
It sounds like she is trying to keep you “on the hook”, until she decides what she wants to do.
You can help yourself, and get off the hook, by following the free plan on my Blog.
Take Care,
S.W.
Mark wrote:
Hi,
I see you figured it out, good job! :thumbup:
Scott i understand why you closed down the forum. I just want to say i really appreciate what you do for us. I really hope you consider reopening it…There are a lot of good people on there and for every one person that was complaining i think there were so many more actually working the plan…Thanks for your help Scott your the best…
Mark wrote:
Hi,
I didn’t close the forum, I just made it a “read only” forum, if it was closed it wouldn’t even be visible.
I didn’t do this because people were complaining and not following the plan.
I did it because people were abusing it by becoming too dependent on it.
It was meant to be used as a tool, and to be used sparingly as a “temporary” crutch, not as a prosthetic limb.
Many people were using it as a home away from home, and becoming trapped in limbo, and that is what will happen if people use a support forum incorrectly.
The forum was evolving in the wrong direction, and trapping more people than it was helping, as an “open to posting” forum.
In it’s present form people will have no choice but read it, and learn from it, and not become trapped in it.
If people are looking for a “place to hang out”, or “a home away from home”, there are plenty of those forums in existence, they can use them.
I intended the How to Kick Loves Ass Break up Help Forum to be different.
Take Care,
S.W.
P.S. People can still “work” the plan, and if they need help they can post their questions right here on my Blog. And people are free to support each other by responding to each others questions/comments too.
Hey Scott,
When I came back to the forum, to be honest I got quite shocked but since I read about what happend I understand you have to close it. Its a good thing we can still read the posts there.
However Im really sad I cant contact my friends anymore. The people I have shared so many support with. Is there no way I can contact them? Like in the forum buddy. I dont ask for a chance that the forum will get open again, I really wish I could give my email address or ask theirs (not by u but I want to ask them personaly) so we could still stay in contact because I really still want to talk with them. It would be really nice for a chance, thanks.
Shiny wrote:
Hi,
You don’t have to wish, you should have asked them for their email address while the forum was open to posting, right?
Actually you would not have had to ask them, if you simply looked at their member profile while you were logged in.
Take Care,
S.W.