Thanks for advice. I agree, NC is best!

andrew

I gave you my advice.

I help people get their lives back after a break up, not reunite after “30 years”.

Take my advice or leave it, and just do what you feel is right.

Good Luck!

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

Thanks for the response though I don’t understand the “free plan” completely. When I asked a common friend about her a month ago I really had no idea what had become of her and other relationships. This person is very unique and very private including withdrawn from social interaction. To illicit a response from her side has always been an impossibility but I was always gentle with her the years we were freinds. She only has a small circle of family she is close to. I found out her parents had died and included sympathy in my letter.

I was thinking about meeting the common friend for coffee and finally opening up to them about my history with my ex. ???????????????

I was also thinking about sending her another note with a recent picture of me along with that book titled “My Boyfriends Back”( about 30 year old reunions with ex’s)??????????????????????

How does that sound?

As for the question of my friend I am with now, she knows I want to break out on my own soon as I have told her I need to be alone. It is just a matter of weeks.

Since this break up was “decades” ago, following the free plan from the very beginning would seem like a weird idea, right?

But is it any stranger than trying to re-ignite a long lost love affair?

I don’t think so.

What have you got to lose, nothing.

All your other ideas (card, flowers, phone call, etc.) would be something she’d expect.

Sending the recommended no contact message without any changes would definitely get her attention.

I guarantee that.

You had since married, and divorced, but now she is back on your mind, and you are reliving the break up all over again, so the free plan will work for you.

Listen…

If I had taken my idea for this website to a highly educated relationship therapist, they would have laughed at me.

I created it anyways, and I have helped a lot of people, why?

Because it works, and it will work for you too.

I don’t give a fuck what people think, I try something, and if it works I keep on doing it.

Since this is about evolving past a break up (no matter how long ago), it can not fail.

The main focus here is to evolve past the broken heart she left you with when she stopped trying to make your relationship work.

I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

PS – I have to ask…does your current live-in “lady” know about your feelings for your lost love? You can’t expect good things to happen to you if you are doing bad things to other people.

I was in love with a woman(my first love) that changed my entire life for the better. We broke up when I moved because of work and tried again a few times the long distance route till she broke it off completely. I tried to reconnect but finally gave up and got married & raised two great kids and then got divorced. I am since living with a lady that really cares for me but a lot younger. I never wanted to find out what ever happened to my first love because of the pain & emotional stress it brought me.

This past summer I was reconnecting with old friends I had not seen in years(avoided so not to hear about my first love I have come to realize now) and asked about her. Why I did this I don’t really know but can’t get her out of my mind now. She lives alone in another city but has ties with our common friend and is a success in her career.

I wrote her a letter a few weeks ago my first to her in decades. I just told her I heard about her through our common friend and that she was a special person I had lost contact with. I left it at that.

Any advice to try to contact her or more NC.

Hi!

I haven’t been sleeping much since a sent the letter to my ex and waiting for advice about step two in contact. By the way she never married and moved into her parents house I got from a mutual friend.

I was thinking a gift on her upcoming birthday , say a book like the one in 2005 “My Boyfriends Back” – a collection of stories of long time relationships that got together…….I got the book on order?

I was also thinking a picture of myself now?

A phone call on her birthday?

An written invitation to meet for coffee when I am in the area in a few weeks?

An birthday card in a few months with a note that I will be in the area for a sporting event next spring?

Now stick to the plan until you Kick Loves Ass!

I understand. I didnt mean my message in a bitchy way or anything and definitely didnt want to be a crybaby, i hate them!

Anyway just wanted to say i am grateful for your free plan and website, i was feeling pretty lost before i found it. Im on day 3 of NC now and determined to get my life back

Thanks for your time, All the best.

I am glad you brought up the subject of “being fair”.

I have been offering the free plan to get your ex back and break up help forum for over 2 years now, and I don’t find it “fair” that people ask for my advice/help/support, and then do not do what they agreed to do.

However, it happens anyways…it happens A LOT.

But I don’t let that stop me from doing what I set out to do.

Life isn’t fair, it is what YOU make of it.

Serious people have and still do, make good use of this free support system to get their lives back without ever posting on our forum.

And yet, there are some people who spend endless hours posting on our forum and still do not succeed.

The free plan to get your ex back, like life, is what “YOU” make of it.

I don’t have the time or resources to investigate every claim of misfortune while using the system.

I have to act quickly and effectively as I am only a one person operation.

You can get your life back (and hopefully your ex) without ever posting on our breakup help forum if you use the free plan to get your ex back correctly.

If you feel you have been treated unfairly, by all means please seek advice/support elsewhere.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

my internet connection must have disconnected because i would not log off in the middle of writing my NC diary.

its not fair to assume i am not serious, thats not your place to say. if i was not serious i would not have bothered posting these comments in the first place.

i read and understood the guidelines that why i posted the first comment because i didnt understand why i had been blocked hence my internet connection must have went while i was logged on.

i dont think its fair that now i cant join because of something out of my control but thanks anyway. The articles were very helpful and its supportive to read other peoples stories.