How Do I Get My Love Back?

If you have lost the love of your life, and you’re wondering ”how do I get my love back?” I can help you. Many people just fall to pieces, don’t make this mistake. There is a way to get your love back again, but you have to have a plan first.

The First Step

Before you fly off the handle begging and pleading…seek out advice first. Many people will make this mistake at the time of the break up, but if you stop, and regain control you will not mess up your chances. This temporary insanity will not hurt your chances, it is pretty normal so relax, OK? You somehow feel that a timer has started at the exact moment that your ex broke up with you, like your relationship has an expiration date…it doesn’t.

If you can master your emotions to the point of leaving your ex alone, you have made the first step to answering the question; “how do I get my love back?” I recommend that you find a plan that will help you follow the no contact rule. This works in so many ways to heal both you, and your ex, and to bring you both back together again in the future. Please believe me when I tell you there is hope. The feelings you are feeling right now are just panic, doubt, and fear…they will pass with some help.

Do Not Make This Mistake

Once you find a plan don’t start watching the calendar asking; “so when will I get my love back?” If you are only focused on getting your ex back as fast as possible…it will take a lot longer. You are probably saying “what do you mean? I wanted them back yesterday.” This is exactly what I mean. You’re impatience will distract you from your personal evolution, and this is a very important part of the process that will bring your love back again.

Time is not against you, it is on your side. This time alone will help your ex to miss you, and will give you time to explore what went wrong, and how to fix it when you get back together with your ex. Your mind is actually working against you because panic and fear are in the drivers seat. Don’t let this discourage you from following the no contact rule. The reason people fail to get their love back again, is because they give up hope. “How do I get my love back?” You find a good no contact plan, and you stick to it until you get your ex back.

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. 12 stars wrote:

    I messed up after I started NC. It was 5 days and I talked to him on the phone. I need to restart and get on with it. Do I need to send a new message or just start NC without a message?

    No problem, it happens.

    For the best results, send another NC message, don’t change any words…he needs to know that you are serious about this.

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  2. I messed up after I started NC. It was 5 days and I talked to him on the phone. I need to restart and get on with it. Do I need to send a new message or just start NC without a message?

  3. Annie2010 wrote:

    I am in shock that he’s moved on so quickly especially after telling me how much he missed me a week after the break up.

    Just read what you wrote to me.

    No one can move on that fast…no one.

    He is just dating to get you to break NC, and it’s working…isn’t it?

    I have seen people get their ex back even after they had moved in with someone else…dating doesn’t mean shit.

    In fact it can help…how?

    When he sees that you aren’t going to run back to him, he will get worried.

    He will think his plan backfired, and he will start to think like you are right now…oh on she’s moving on!

    Plus he will see that this new girl is not like you, and he will miss you even more.

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  4. Help Scott! I feel sick and was up most of the night. I found out my ex is seeing another girl. I sent the nc message last Saturday and have heard absolutely nothing from him. Now I know why. The MOMU says not to panic but I can’t help it. I am in shock that he’s moved on so quickly especially after telling me how much he missed me a week after the break up. I feel all hope is gone now. Any suggestions?

  5. Sandy wrote:

    Oh, and I totally forgot to mention that he asked if he could borrow a book from me. Should I wait until he asks me again for it? I guess this is a good sign, since he wants to make contact again.

    It sounds like you are moving too fast, and getting put back into the friends zone…is that where you want to be?

    How long did you use no contact, did you follow the free plan, and send the recommended NC message?

  6. amy wrote:

    i wrote the nc word for word saying i didnt regret that i had broke up with him ect ect

    That is not the recommended NC message.

    It doesn’t say anything about not regretting anything, are you sure you sent the right message?

  7. Oh, and I totally forgot to mention that he asked if he could borrow a book from me. Should I wait until he asks me again for it? I guess this is a good sign, since he wants to make contact again.

  8. Hi Scott,

    Thanks. The conversation we had was great – light and upbeat. I totally forgot about the time. We didn’t once touch upon the break up or anything remotely unpleasant. Given this was the case, was hanging out for an hour still a wrong move?

  9. hi sw, i wrote the nc word for word saying i didnt regret that i had broke up with him ect ect, that was on monday he replyed the day after saying that i think your a good person tracy and i wish you the v best for the future but we both need to move on as iam no good for u and that it would be best that i didnt contact him. I have kept to the nc and didnot reply back. so at that should i just leave it at that because i really do not know what to do now i wasnt expecting that response from him i feel i may have lost him.

  10. Sandy wrote:

    Well my ex contacted me again for coffee and we ended up meeting this time – chatted for about an hour

    Hi Sandy,

    If you’re following the free plan on my Blog, you’re only supposed to meet for about 30 minutes.

    This leaves your ex wanting more, if you talked about your relationship at all, this will drive him away as well.

    Because he said “see you soon”, I would wait for him to contact you again.

    You should always be in control of the meetings, and keep them short and light, and away from the subject of the breakup, reconnecting, or yours/his personal life, understand?

    If you don’t understand read the free plan again, and read chapter 6 of the book MOMU.

    The reconnection phase is like meeting, and starting to date someone new, until you can relate to it in this way, you’re not ready to reconnect.

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  11. Hi Scott, Well my ex contacted me again for coffee and we ended up meeting this time – chatted for about an hour, and as we parted he said ‘see you soon’. That was a couple of days ago. I have no idea if he wants me back, and I’m unsure as what to do now. Do I wait until he asks me out again? Thanks.

  12. Renee wrote:

    Hi S.W.
    Trying to access the forum…what happened?

    Hi,

    The old forum is located here:

    http://forum.howtogetyourexbackfast.com

    I am experimenting with new forum software because the old forum software is not being updated anymore.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  13. Hi S.W.

    Trying to access the forum…what happened?

  14. amy wrote:

    is there any point me sending the nc thing as i already said that i would leave him alone a couple of days ago.He might think ive totally lost it as im not sure who really ended it

    There is a version for that exact situation…go read the free plan, and follow every link.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

    P.S. If you don’t feel the free plan is for you, keep on looking else where for the help you seek. I can’t help you.

  15. is there any point me sending the nc thing as i already said that i would leave him alone a couple of days ago.He might think ive totally lost it as im not sure who really ended it but im sure that he was looking for more this is whats driving me mad cause im not sure what my ex wanted from this or me.

  16. amy wrote:

    i think i may have blown my chances of ever getting him back.

    Hi,

    If you want to reveal your ex’s true feelings for you, follow the free plan at the top of my Blog.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  17. JAP wrote:

    Should I remove him from my friends list?

    That is your own personal choice, if it helps you to stick with your personal evolution then do it.

    You can always add him back later when you reconnect, right?

    Sounds like you’re doing everything you need to do to get yourself back.

    Remember, you have to get your life back before you can get your ex back.

    Keep following all the steps in the free plan, and use all the free support tools as well.

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  18. hi i was only going out with this guy for 4 months i think he really liked me. I had just lost a previous partner to meeting him i said and did all the wrong things and i pushed him away now i want him back. I havent seen him in the 8 months but i have had some contact with him through email. He has said things like he is kinda seeing someone but i know for sure that he isnt.I got intouch with him again at xmas time wishing him ahappy new year he replyed saying he spent it with his dad getting drunk and had suffered a hangover and was becoming misrable i got the impression he wasnt having a good time off it. he sais he was thinking about sending an email wishing me all the best but i beat him to it. I asked him if he would fix my computor he seamed really up for doing t for me but got an email saying things had come up and he wouldnt be able to fix it fir thr foreseeable future and that he was sorry. i sais i much prefered it when we were speaking to each other he said that he always thought we were friends but that was all and that he didnt think it would amount to anything else. thongs got a bit more ugly and it resulted in him telling me o f off and leave him alone.basically i think he is just pushing me away now i sent an email saying ok i will do exactly that but i just want you to know that what you sais has upset me and hurt me and that its a shame we cant be friends before i found your sight now i think i may have blown my chances of ever getting him back.

  19. Hi Scott…I sent the note 4days on saturday night before going out with friends. No reply from him as expected. As of my personnal progress I’m planning a trip to cancun on May (I need vacations), I’m hiking again and even went out on a date. Also, as I mentioned on my previous comment I’ve been keeping myself away from Facebook. No pics, no updates, no comments from friends, NOTHING! The main point is to give him ZERO info about my life/whereabouts. Now, he doesn’t uses his acct but to accept friend requests or chat a bit with people back in his country. Should I remove him from my friends list? I don’t want to act based on emotions neither look inmature by taking FB too seriously. Lookig forward to hearing from you soon.@ S. Williams:

  20. Anna wrote:

    Must keep moving forward, but really if i re send this NC is it going to change anything or am i too far gone.

    It is never too late in the game to win.

    Resend the recommended NC message, and kick start your personal evolution again.

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  21. Im slowly losing steam. Everytime i start to refocus somethings happens. When i started my first NC i felt all the power shift to me, it was great but then i gave it back to him allowing him to come and get his stuff. Our friend called me to let me know he was dating and i felt failure, i had it wrote all over me. I sent the second one and it was not as empowering, it was as though i already knew he didnt care if i spoke to him. Then i started working on me again and reading my help books and started seeing things i needed to work on and then boom. I run into him at the store and he made a point of holding her hand the whole time. Then my friends had there birthday last night and told me he was invited so i spent the whole time getting ready worrying about what i was going to wear incase he was there. I went to phone my friend and out of habit i called him instead there numbers are similar. I said sorry for calling him and he said it was alright. I felt like a tool. but he just laughed it off. Then I called him mother today to get a reference of a guy out there and i talked to her for a bit. He took his new woman out there even though his mother told him not to and then i found out he was lying to his parents about her. I have no idea what to do he has just changed so much, his mom has even noticed it. Im lost, I can only help me but what is his deal. His new woman wasnt that nice to him when I ran into them. Must keep moving forward, but really if i re send this NC is it going to change anything or am i too far gone.

  22. JAP wrote:

    I know he wants to be left alone. Do you think this is the right thing to do? What’s next? What else???

    Hi,

    This is the perfect time to go read the free plan (link at the top), and send the recommended no contact message ASAP.

    Don’t worry about what has happened, focus on the present and the future…take action.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  23. Hi, My 4months bf and I broke up 6 days ago. His main problem is MONEY. He said he loves. will miss me, don’t wanted to hurt me and even cried like a baby because of the break up… anyway he asked for time alone so we could think about if we really wanted to be together. For the 1st 2days I was confused because the reason to ended our relationship. 2 days later after the break up I went out with friends, got drunk and decided to drive by his place. I parked my car so I could cry but instead I ended up falling sleep and when I woke up I couldn’t turn the engine on that left me no other option that knocked on his door, nobody opened so I broke into the house, he wasn’t in his room so I called him from a phone I found in the leaving room. He helped me to get AAA and and even said he miss me BUT when I walked out of the house and closed the door his cousin woke up, and went directly to the kitchen to get a knife…I had to tell him that it was me, passed the cell to him so he could talk to my ex and after that I left the place. The day after that horrible night I called my ex to apologize and asked him to meet up, he declined my petition saying this: “I told you what I told you on Sunday. I’ll try to call you later. Sorry, I have to go”. I never acted like that in my life, the situation went out of hands. Since the last phone conversation when he promised to ‘try to call me later’ and never did It’s been 5 days; I haven’t call or txt neither update my facebook profile because I don’t want o make a fool of myself ever again and also I know he wants to be left alone. Do you think this is the right thing to do? What’s next? What else???:(((((((

  24. Kat wrote:

    I saw him at the club he goes to twice and both times he was talking / holding hands with girls that were not the ex wife?

    Hi Kat,

    This guy sounds like an asshole to me, but it’s your life, and if you want him back I can help.

    I believe you’re already a member of our forum, so just follow the steps in the free plan, and get your life back first.

    Don’t worry about what your ex is doing…help yourself first.

    Take care of yourself so you can be a great mom to your child because it looks like your child is stuck with an asshole for a father.

    If he plays around that much just be thankful you didn’t catch a STD from him.

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  25. Hi Scott, I have a baby with my ex and although this doesn’t change anything it does make it quite challenging. I feel pretty empowered even though I have made so many mistakes to push him further and further away from me. He even text me to say that “we no longer exist.” These words have echoed through me piercing my heart but I now no longer know whether I want to be back with such a cold hearted person who ran back to his ex wife after only three weeks of my asking him to leave our home. He told me at that time that he didn’t want to leave but I expected him to fight for me and instead he just ran right back into her arms. Why? She has a 9 year old son with him but she has two little girls a 2 year old and a 1 year old with another guy she met after they broke up. I saw him at the club he goes to twice and both times he was talking / holding hands with girls that were not the ex wife? What is going on? I don’t understand but I guess what I saw both times I didn’t like. I vowed I would never go back to that club. He didn’t even buy Christmas gifts for our baby so maybe I’m beginning to realize this guy was not who I thought he was during those three years.

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