If you have lost the love of your life, and you’re wondering ”how do I get my love back?” I can help you. Many people just fall to pieces, don’t make this mistake. There is a way to get your love back again, but you have to have a plan first.
The First Step
Before you fly off the handle begging and pleading…seek out advice first. Many people will make this mistake at the time of the break up, but if you stop, and regain control you will not mess up your chances. This temporary insanity will not hurt your chances, it is pretty normal so relax, OK? You somehow feel that a timer has started at the exact moment that your ex broke up with you, like your relationship has an expiration date…it doesn’t.
If you can master your emotions to the point of leaving your ex alone, you have made the first step to answering the question; “how do I get my love back?” I recommend that you find a plan that will help you follow the no contact rule. This works in so many ways to heal both you, and your ex, and to bring you both back together again in the future. Please believe me when I tell you there is hope. The feelings you are feeling right now are just panic, doubt, and fear…they will pass with some help.
Do Not Make This Mistake
Once you find a plan don’t start watching the calendar asking; “so when will I get my love back?” If you are only focused on getting your ex back as fast as possible…it will take a lot longer. You are probably saying “what do you mean? I wanted them back yesterday.” This is exactly what I mean. You’re impatience will distract you from your personal evolution, and this is a very important part of the process that will bring your love back again.
Time is not against you, it is on your side. This time alone will help your ex to miss you, and will give you time to explore what went wrong, and how to fix it when you get back together with your ex. Your mind is actually working against you because panic and fear are in the drivers seat. Don’t let this discourage you from following the no contact rule. The reason people fail to get their love back again, is because they give up hope. “How do I get my love back?” You find a good no contact plan, and you stick to it until you get your ex back.
Need Some Free Help Getting Your Love Back?
If you need a free step-by-step system to help you “get my love back”, I have one. I run a revolutionary Blog, and Forum that takes a whole new approach to getting your ex back, and it works! I don’t care how many books you bought or read. They are all lacking the most important ingredient, personal support, which is what I am offering you.
If you want help getting your ex back, join my free newsletter for access to a free step by step plan to get your life and your ex back fast. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.
Until next time,
S. Williams
~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~
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Hi Scott, I have a baby with my ex and although this doesn’t change anything it does make it quite challenging. I feel pretty empowered even though I have made so many mistakes to push him further and further away from me. He even text me to say that “we no longer exist.” These words have echoed through me piercing my heart but I now no longer know whether I want to be back with such a cold hearted person who ran back to his ex wife after only three weeks of my asking him to leave our home. He told me at that time that he didn’t want to leave but I expected him to fight for me and instead he just ran right back into her arms. Why? She has a 9 year old son with him but she has two little girls a 2 year old and a 1 year old with another guy she met after they broke up. I saw him at the club he goes to twice and both times he was talking / holding hands with girls that were not the ex wife? What is going on? I don’t understand but I guess what I saw both times I didn’t like. I vowed I would never go back to that club. He didn’t even buy Christmas gifts for our baby so maybe I’m beginning to realize this guy was not who I thought he was during those three years.
Kat wrote:
Hi Kat,
This guy sounds like an asshole to me, but it’s your life, and if you want him back I can help.
I believe you’re already a member of our forum, so just follow the steps in the free plan, and get your life back first.
Don’t worry about what your ex is doing…help yourself first.
Take care of yourself so you can be a great mom to your child because it looks like your child is stuck with an asshole for a father.
If he plays around that much just be thankful you didn’t catch a STD from him.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Hi, My 4months bf and I broke up 6 days ago. His main problem is MONEY. He said he loves. will miss me, don’t wanted to hurt me and even cried like a baby because of the break up… anyway he asked for time alone so we could think about if we really wanted to be together. For the 1st 2days I was confused because the reason to ended our relationship. 2 days later after the break up I went out with friends, got drunk and decided to drive by his place. I parked my car so I could cry but instead I ended up falling sleep and when I woke up I couldn’t turn the engine on that left me no other option that knocked on his door, nobody opened so I broke into the house, he wasn’t in his room so I called him from a phone I found in the leaving room. He helped me to get AAA and and even said he miss me BUT when I walked out of the house and closed the door his cousin woke up, and went directly to the kitchen to get a knife…I had to tell him that it was me, passed the cell to him so he could talk to my ex and after that I left the place. The day after that horrible night I called my ex to apologize and asked him to meet up, he declined my petition saying this: “I told you what I told you on Sunday. I’ll try to call you later. Sorry, I have to go”. I never acted like that in my life, the situation went out of hands. Since the last phone conversation when he promised to ‘try to call me later’ and never did It’s been 5 days; I haven’t call or txt neither update my facebook profile because I don’t want o make a fool of myself ever again and also I know he wants to be left alone. Do you think this is the right thing to do? What’s next? What else???:(((((((
JAP wrote:
Hi,
This is the perfect time to go read the free plan (link at the top), and send the recommended no contact message ASAP.
Don’t worry about what has happened, focus on the present and the future…take action.
Take Care,
S.W.
Im slowly losing steam. Everytime i start to refocus somethings happens. When i started my first NC i felt all the power shift to me, it was great but then i gave it back to him allowing him to come and get his stuff. Our friend called me to let me know he was dating and i felt failure, i had it wrote all over me. I sent the second one and it was not as empowering, it was as though i already knew he didnt care if i spoke to him. Then i started working on me again and reading my help books and started seeing things i needed to work on and then boom. I run into him at the store and he made a point of holding her hand the whole time. Then my friends had there birthday last night and told me he was invited so i spent the whole time getting ready worrying about what i was going to wear incase he was there. I went to phone my friend and out of habit i called him instead there numbers are similar. I said sorry for calling him and he said it was alright. I felt like a tool. but he just laughed it off. Then I called him mother today to get a reference of a guy out there and i talked to her for a bit. He took his new woman out there even though his mother told him not to and then i found out he was lying to his parents about her. I have no idea what to do he has just changed so much, his mom has even noticed it. Im lost, I can only help me but what is his deal. His new woman wasnt that nice to him when I ran into them. Must keep moving forward, but really if i re send this NC is it going to change anything or am i too far gone.
Anna wrote:
It is never too late in the game to win.
Resend the recommended NC message, and kick start your personal evolution again.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Hi Scott…I sent the note 4days on saturday night before going out with friends. No reply from him as expected. As of my personnal progress I’m planning a trip to cancun on May (I need vacations), I’m hiking again and even went out on a date. Also, as I mentioned on my previous comment I’ve been keeping myself away from Facebook. No pics, no updates, no comments from friends, NOTHING! The main point is to give him ZERO info about my life/whereabouts. Now, he doesn’t uses his acct but to accept friend requests or chat a bit with people back in his country. Should I remove him from my friends list? I don’t want to act based on emotions neither look inmature by taking FB too seriously. Lookig forward to hearing from you soon.@ S. Williams:
hi i was only going out with this guy for 4 months i think he really liked me. I had just lost a previous partner to meeting him i said and did all the wrong things and i pushed him away now i want him back. I havent seen him in the 8 months but i have had some contact with him through email. He has said things like he is kinda seeing someone but i know for sure that he isnt.I got intouch with him again at xmas time wishing him ahappy new year he replyed saying he spent it with his dad getting drunk and had suffered a hangover and was becoming misrable i got the impression he wasnt having a good time off it. he sais he was thinking about sending an email wishing me all the best but i beat him to it. I asked him if he would fix my computor he seamed really up for doing t for me but got an email saying things had come up and he wouldnt be able to fix it fir thr foreseeable future and that he was sorry. i sais i much prefered it when we were speaking to each other he said that he always thought we were friends but that was all and that he didnt think it would amount to anything else. thongs got a bit more ugly and it resulted in him telling me o f off and leave him alone.basically i think he is just pushing me away now i sent an email saying ok i will do exactly that but i just want you to know that what you sais has upset me and hurt me and that its a shame we cant be friends before i found your sight now i think i may have blown my chances of ever getting him back.
JAP wrote:
That is your own personal choice, if it helps you to stick with your personal evolution then do it.
You can always add him back later when you reconnect, right?
Sounds like you’re doing everything you need to do to get yourself back.
Remember, you have to get your life back before you can get your ex back.
Keep following all the steps in the free plan, and use all the free support tools as well.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
amy wrote:
Hi,
If you want to reveal your ex’s true feelings for you, follow the free plan at the top of my Blog.
Take Care,
S.W.
is there any point me sending the nc thing as i already said that i would leave him alone a couple of days ago.He might think ive totally lost it as im not sure who really ended it but im sure that he was looking for more this is whats driving me mad cause im not sure what my ex wanted from this or me.
amy wrote:
There is a version for that exact situation…go read the free plan, and follow every link.
Take Care,
S.W.
P.S. If you don’t feel the free plan is for you, keep on looking else where for the help you seek. I can’t help you.
Hi S.W.
Trying to access the forum…what happened?
Renee wrote:
Hi,
The old forum is located here:
http://forum.howtogetyourexbackfast.com
I am experimenting with new forum software because the old forum software is not being updated anymore.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi Scott, Well my ex contacted me again for coffee and we ended up meeting this time – chatted for about an hour, and as we parted he said ’see you soon’. That was a couple of days ago. I have no idea if he wants me back, and I’m unsure as what to do now. Do I wait until he asks me out again? Thanks.
Sandy wrote:
Hi Sandy,
If you’re following the free plan on my Blog, you’re only supposed to meet for about 30 minutes.
This leaves your ex wanting more, if you talked about your relationship at all, this will drive him away as well.
Because he said “see you soon”, I would wait for him to contact you again.
You should always be in control of the meetings, and keep them short and light, and away from the subject of the breakup, reconnecting, or yours/his personal life, understand?
If you don’t understand read the free plan again, and read chapter 6 of the book MOMU.
The reconnection phase is like meeting, and starting to date someone new, until you can relate to it in this way, you’re not ready to reconnect.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
hi sw, i wrote the nc word for word saying i didnt regret that i had broke up with him ect ect, that was on monday he replyed the day after saying that i think your a good person tracy and i wish you the v best for the future but we both need to move on as iam no good for u and that it would be best that i didnt contact him. I have kept to the nc and didnot reply back. so at that should i just leave it at that because i really do not know what to do now i wasnt expecting that response from him i feel i may have lost him.
Hi Scott,
Thanks. The conversation we had was great – light and upbeat. I totally forgot about the time. We didn’t once touch upon the break up or anything remotely unpleasant. Given this was the case, was hanging out for an hour still a wrong move?
Oh, and I totally forgot to mention that he asked if he could borrow a book from me. Should I wait until he asks me again for it? I guess this is a good sign, since he wants to make contact again.
amy wrote:
That is not the recommended NC message.
It doesn’t say anything about not regretting anything, are you sure you sent the right message?
Sandy wrote:
It sounds like you are moving too fast, and getting put back into the friends zone…is that where you want to be?
How long did you use no contact, did you follow the free plan, and send the recommended NC message?
Help Scott! I feel sick and was up most of the night. I found out my ex is seeing another girl. I sent the nc message last Saturday and have heard absolutely nothing from him. Now I know why. The MOMU says not to panic but I can’t help it. I am in shock that he’s moved on so quickly especially after telling me how much he missed me a week after the break up. I feel all hope is gone now. Any suggestions?
Annie2010 wrote:
Just read what you wrote to me.
No one can move on that fast…no one.
He is just dating to get you to break NC, and it’s working…isn’t it?
I have seen people get their ex back even after they had moved in with someone else…dating doesn’t mean shit.
In fact it can help…how?
When he sees that you aren’t going to run back to him, he will get worried.
He will think his plan backfired, and he will start to think like you are right now…oh on she’s moving on!
Plus he will see that this new girl is not like you, and he will miss you even more.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
I messed up after I started NC. It was 5 days and I talked to him on the phone. I need to restart and get on with it. Do I need to send a new message or just start NC without a message?
12 stars wrote:
No problem, it happens.
For the best results, send another NC message, don’t change any words…he needs to know that you are serious about this.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Ahhhh, wish I would of read that earlier today. Yes, I broke NC. I’m so mad at myself. But I had to text him after I found out who he went out with. Anyway, we got into a huge text fight and now I’m seriously considering whether I even want him back. A really nice guy I knew awhile ago asked me out and I’m going!!! Right now, I’m angry and my ex is a loser. I deserve so much better! I have to seriously think about things so I guess that means if I want him back then I have to resend the NC message. Thanks Scott! I’ll keep you posted.
Annie2010 wrote:
Well, that’s the whole idea of asking for advice, you wait to get it before taking any action.
Annie2010 wrote:
The NC message and the free plan are about “you” not your ex.
You are doing this for you, to get your life back…send the message again, and stick to the plan.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Thank you. I don’t know if I want him back. I have so much anger towards him right now. I am going to work on myself first and then decide if he’s even worth it.
Hi S.W.,
Happy Valentine’s Day to you and yours.
I’m having a moment right now. I’m thinking about my ex and the beautiful Valentine’s Day we had last year. I live in FL and he flew me to VA to be with him.
I know part of my evolution is to not worry about what and why my ex is doing, but admittedly, I do. I think about the new woman in his life and how she is receiving all the love, affection, & gifts that I used to. I’m sure he sent her something for VDay.
I took pictures of my VDay gifts from him last year and wanted to send them to him.do you think he’s remembering our time together last year as I am?
I also think about how we maintained a LDR. It was hard, but he flew to FL almost monthly (his parents and family live in my same city). She lives in another city in FL, about 4 hours from me. Before our break up, he said they were just friends and that he wouldn’t visit her because he knew noone that lived in her city. My mind says, “if he can fly to me, then he will fly to her.”
Tomorrow will be 6 wks since we’ve spoken. 3 wks of NC.
He seems to be doing more evolving than me. I can’t even find a “quality” man to date. If I go on a date with a guy that’s unattractive, unkempt, etc., why bother? My dates see me as a “good catch”, but I’ve been on a date with 1 guy who hadn’t shaved or had a hair cut in months. Another who has 8 kids!!!!!
Through all of this, I’m thankful I haven’t broken NC.
I look forward to your advice and help. NO ONE understands the mechanics of loosing the one you love like you do.
Elizabeth wrote:
Hi Elizabeth,
Happy V-Day!
Don’t be stupid…do not contact your ex.
The best V-Day present you could give yourself today is strength.
Elizabeth wrote:
You are focusing, and fantasizing about all the negative things.
He’s doing great with his new girlfriend (you don’t know this for sure), you only date losers (lots more fish in the sea)…this is counter-productive bullshit.
What you think about, you bring about.
Think about finding a nice guy, and having fun.
The more fun you have, the less you will think about your ex, the less you think about your ex, the more you evolve, the more you evolve, the closer you get to being happy again…with or without your ex.
That is the key to success, not getting your ex back, getting your life back.
That is exactly what will attract him back into your life.
You CAN NOT depend on your ex for your happiness…it doesn’t work that way.
You’re Doing Great Elizabeth! (Thumbs High) :-)
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Mr. Williams,
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I appreciate you kicking me in my ass so I could get out of the pity party I was having for myself.
I, indeed, gave myself the best gift ever–”strength!!”
I spent V-Day with my family. We looked at old photos, had great food and laughed about old memories.
My mantra is…what you think about, you bring about.
I must admit, I didn’t know if you were gonna respond yesterday, due to it being Valentine’s Day, but I’m glad you did because your inspiration allowed me to forge ahead. Thanks again.
Elizabeth wrote:
I am on duty 7 days a week…I need to get a life. ;)
You’re welcome…glad I could help.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Hi Scott…Ok, I’m working 100% on my evolution. Last week I changed my look and I feel great about it. I bought myself a new phone, a new fragrance & new pair of sunglasses! I booked a dentist appt + a friend agreed to hike with me next sat morning – yuju!
I have a question…why doesn’t he contact me? Not that I’m planning to break NC rule BUT the day we broke up he told me in tears: “I’m in love with you. In 3-6months from now is going to be harder for both of us” He even said it! “I love you” – I know I sent the NC message but seriously, I don’t think that’s the real reason why he’s keeping his distance. I read in the MOMU that indifference is the opposite of love…is that what’s going on here? Your opinion is well appreciated.
@ S. Williams:
JAP wrote:
Hi JAP,
One reason might be because you asked him not to, another might be because he is not ready to talk to you.
JAP wrote:
Everyone likes to jump on the indifference train.
I believe your biggest problem is that you are not focusing on your own personal evolution, and you are still too wrapped up in what your ex is doing…who cares?
Focus on yourself, it takes more that buying a few new things and getting a hair style…it takes time.
If your ex really meant what he said, things will work out, but you can not predict when or where…just keep on evolving.
The sooner you let go of the old failed relationship, the faster you will see results, and this just takes time…be patient.
You’re doing great! (Thumbs High)
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Hi Scott. Well, saw my ex at a party Saturday night and did not talk to him at all. I found out he’s been hanging out with a girl and she was with him at the party. I couldn’t believe it. My ex always told me that what he loved most about me is I have class and very strong morals. The girl he was with has absolutely no class and doesn’t know what the word moral means. Why would he go out with a girl that is totally opposite from me? He always told me how lucky he was to find a girl like me and now is with someone totally opposite from me. I don’t think he’ll be bringing her home to meet his family that’s for sure. I think he’s just using her to get back at me because I noticed when we were in the same room he was all over her but when I would leave the room he would walk away from her or push her away from him. I don’t get it? He broke up with me, why would he dangle his new girl in front of me like that? I need a male’s perspective on this. Thank you!!!!
Annie2010 wrote:
Hi Annie,
I don’t think this only pertains to males, but he is trying to get you jealous so you will break NC.
He doesn’t like the idea that you took control of the situation…just ignore him, and focus on your own personal evolution.
There is nothing he can do to stop you.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Thanks Scott! I am really focussing on myself. My heart has been aching since we broke up but something about seeing my ex with his new girl released something in me. My heart no longer hurts. I honestly don’t think I want him back. I have heard so many terrible things that he has been doing since we broke up. It’s almost like the guy I knew and loved has died, and he’s become a totally different person that I want nothing to do with. Thanks for all your help. Staying strong!
Hey scott, after many attempts, Of the NC I didnt send the message everytime. Some times i just stopped talking to her for a few days,
And ill tell you about last week.. I didnt talk to her for 2 days, and one night i said Night nite, Her reply was. Wow you actually spoke to me… :l Night xx . Then we went out for valentines day just the other day.
Since monday 15th Feb around 12pm, she told me that she didnt wanna talk to me 24/7, So i said I totally agree with you, its probably for the best have a good week. Then stopped texting her. That night at about 1030Pm she said, Good night xo.
My response was night nite.
Anyway Wednesday night 17th Feb, She texts me saying.
I like you, But iv come to the realisation that we cant be friends, Better if we dont see each other or talk. You know why, Goodnight x.
We did agree to try and be friends and see if we could rebuild things before i started NC with her Monday. Due to her saying she didnt wanna talk to me all the time.. Why did this backfire on me.
Help from any one would be very appreciated thanks! Been broken up for 2 months now, On and off, with fights and make ups, I want her back, thats why this method i have attempted once again.
Jonathan wrote:
Hi Jonathan,
Now that you’ve played around with NC…do you want to get serious, and see some great results?
If you said “yes”, then go read the free plan (top of my Blog), and follow all the steps.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi their, yes im serious, So do i respond to the message, or just leave it, Is she being serious, or just trying to Bluff me?
DO you give personal help, Or just refer people to the Free plan?
Jonathan wrote:
I am one fucking person, there is NO possible way I can personally hold everyone’s hand and guide them.
I created the free plan to do that automatically, and it’s free.
Anything you want to know is in that plan (except for the stupid questions, I don’t answer them).
Jonathan wrote:
Like that stupid question..what am I a fucking psychic?
If a FREE plan is not enough “personal help” for you, take your whiny, complaining ass somewhere else, OK?
Take Care,
S.W.
wow you took the free plan, or personal help thing way outa hand, what I meant was. Was their anyway, I could contact you one on one, and seek advice. Like the ex2 system, has a personal advice line, but I preferred to come to you, because I know your a great guy. Well, this is awkward. Should have explained my self better.
Take care.
jonathan wrote:
Yeah for a “fee” probably.
I won’t take advantage of people that way.
Everything I have to say about getting your ex back is in that plan, or in my articles, and it is plastered all over our free forum.
People who really want help, just go for it, and those are the ones who succeed.
It’s there for the taking, but I am NOT going to serve it to you.
Take Care,
S.W.
S. Williams wrote:
Yeah nah i know what you mean aye scott, I mean i have purchased the Magic Of Making Up, The Ex2 System and other How To’s all giving the same advice..
On the other end, you have the ones who say, Stay friends with you ex and try and rekindle what use had.
But then that leaves you out of the personal evolution, and thats what this is all about, Its about being able to live life with or with out your ex.
If you get them back thats a plus, But You dont want to get them back if you are still emotionally unstable. This will most likly damage the relationship.
I found that the Ex2 System, Was alot easier to follow, Then TMOMU.. Also came with an audio that i just listen too,
I just posted what i did earlier, because out of confusion, I thought i was healing, but then once i hear from her, i go back to where i began, so obviously im not ready.
And her saying that we should not be friends.. I would usually start begging and pleading for her to be friends, as i was afraid to loose her.. But im following the plan, I need my life back, Thanks for this forum, As hard as it is now, i will follow it.
Thanks, and take care scott.
Jonathan wrote:
I created the free plan, and the system we use to try and fill in the missing pieces.
All the books are pretty much the same, but you can pick up a nugget or two that is different from each one, so it’s not a total loss.
Information is power, but this journey is just about impossible to do alone, and not everyone can afford $125 an hour for one-on-one counseling.
I believe everyone deserves the help they need to get their life back, and you will find it here.
I am NOT a relationship guru, I am an internet marketer who believes in great customer service…even if they are not my customers.
I learned what I know by living life, and working to help people who asked for my support.
This has been a personal evolution for me as well, I am right beside everyone else evolving too.
Like everything in life, it starts off hard, the first step is the hardest, and most important.
But after that…you”ll be kicking loves ass…I promise!
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Yes i do know that all the books are pretty much the same, I just got that desperate to find answers that i was taking things the wrong way, I mean she have pretty much forgiven me for everything, shes told me she will always forgive me, She said no matter what i do wrong, she always seems to forgive me.. But just because you forgive it takes time to forget..
So in that time, ill follow the Ex2 System. ( Find it alot easier to follow)
And ill use this website to seek extra feedback if needed.
But you are a champ, and so many people will be happy at what your trying to accomplish here
Thanks heaps for your time.
Jonathan wrote:
You can use whatever book you like, but in-order to use our forum you must send the recommended NC message in the free plan, that is what will really start your personal evolution.
Every member has sent that message, and the ones who refuse will be removed, understand?
This was clearly stated in the forum guidelines you were supposed to read before joining our forum.
Hopefully I don’t have to block you, and I will if you don’t follow the forum guidelines.
No an issue, i responded on my Diary, But that was before you posted this ..
Sorry about that. Ill do as follows. Please read it still if you wanan know what i said.
Abuse the shit out of me Please!
Gf Sent me a message saying Hi. TOday ( around a week of Limited-No Contact)
I still have not go my Phone charger Back. Hoping she will drop my item back if i reply?
My response was, Hi.
Her response was, Sorry was just checking if my phone was working
Wtf is that bullshit!
Did not reply – TO THAT BULLSHIT!
6 Hours passed Did not talk to her, Following NC. She sends a message saying ‘ How Are You ? ‘
No Response from me,
Should i reach out, or just let them go?
Jonathan wrote:
Send the NC message again, word for word, and then ignore messages…go buy another fucking charger.
Next time don’t lend your stuff out, I don’t any more…tired of losing my stuff.
You’re letting her make you her little bitch…did she send a dress to wear?
Stay Strong!
S.W.
my ex sent me a message today asking why i deleted him off facebook as its a way he can contact me to do with our son so i told him that i dont want him in my personal business as hes my ex not my friend and if he wants 2 see our son he can phone. he said he heard i had a new bloke and was asking how old he is as he doesnt want a silly little boy in our sons life, i said i wont bring silly ppl into his life, its my personal life so he sud butt out. i dont get why hes interfein coz he made it cleat he was happy how he is and didnt wanna b with me plus he said i was controlling him, ha was other way around
gemma wrote:
Exactly!
It’s none of his fucking business.
Great Job Gemma!
Stay Strong!
S.W.
S. Williams, can you please help me?
I don’t know how I can do your plan, because, my relationship with the one I love more than anything in the world ended with me doing all that stuff to try to get her back (all the stuff you said not to do), then she wouldn’t talk to me at all or respond to me or listen to me at all. I have no way to get in touch with her now and if I send her letters or anything she doesn’t read them, so there’s no way I can do ‘no contact’ because she’s already done it (and it’s been SIX YEARS). Please god I miss her so, so, so, so, so, so, so fucking much, you have no idea. I could never put it into words. Is there still a way you know I can get her back?
Hehe, No Unfortunatly I did not get a dress.. wtff. Doesnt even make sense.
I did not reply, Turned my phone of because i wanted an early night
Turned it on the smorning, And a message ready. Or not bahah whatever aye.. Im glad i didnt reply, If shes going to be a bitch about me not replying then wtf is she texting me for..
I actually am feeling alot better these days. S.W, I mean i have my bad days. Where all i can do is think about her, But im actually trying to keep other girls in my life, and text then and hang out with them instead. And im following The Fractions Formular By Derek Rake, Seduce out of your league.
Good stuff, I think ill keep it up. And i will forward the NC message again. THanks
Ps im no longer the bitch.
He who cares least controles the relationship.
Stay strong!
J.E
Josh wrote:
Hi Josh,
If it has been 6 years since you broke up, or spoke with your ex, I would highly suggest you seek counseling to help you move on.
Maybe once you move on with your life a chance will present itself for you to reconnect with your ex again in a new relationship.
Good Luck!
S.W.
hi sw, if thats not the recommended nc letter then what is? im i too late now because he also said that my emails were freaking him out and that he was gonna block my emails.I feel such a fool how can i possibly turn it around after sending the nc message saying that i didnt regret breaking up with him and that i had big decsions to make in my life and not to contact me that i would be in touch when i was ready. Is that any wonder that he has wrote me an email back like that. I really dont know what to do now please help me i have made an even bigger mess of things.
amy wrote:
Hi,
This is all explained in detail in the free plan, look for link on my Blog.
Don’t worry about anything, just follow all the steps in the free plan, and send the recommended NC message (word for word)…no changes.
That is all there is to it, if you can not calm down and follow a simple plan, I can not help you.
Take Care,
S.W.
S. Williams wrote:
So are you saying you can’t help me then, I should look for help elsewhere? This site makes it sound like you can use this plan to get back your ex, the person you love more than anything in the world, no matter how much time has passed. I don’t want counseling to get over her, I have talked to therapists and decided with them as well as myself that what I need is to have her back in my life again somehow. You can’t help with that, it’s been too long?
Josh wrote:
Pull your head out of your ass for a minute and listen…
You said yourself “you can not use NC” go read your own fucking comment if you don’t believe me, OK?
I help people use NC by following the free plan, you say you can’t use it, not me…you said that.
Maybe there is another site that can help you, I work with NC here.
I think if you stopped feeling sorry for yourself and did some reading on my Blog, you would be able to help yourself…many people have.
Josh wrote:
Here’s some free advice (I won’t charge $150 an hour like therapists do)…
1. You can’t make someone fall in love with you.
2. You can’t make someone come back if they do not want to.
I offer a free plan, you are more than welcome to follow it, and help yourself.
If that is not what you’re looking for…keep on looking, OK?
Take Care,
S.W.
S.W., I didn’t say I would not or could not do no contact, I am asking, is there any way for me to do it given my situation?
Josh wrote:
Now you’re lying…and I quote:
Josh wrote:
Ring any bells?
That is a direct quote from one of your comments…you calling me a liar?
Click on your name just above that quote, it will bring you directly to your comment.
I can’t stand fucking liars.
Ugghh…alright fine, then I said it, but I didn’t recall saying it. I’m not calling you a liar I just didn’t pay that much attention to what I was saying. What I MEAN to say is, I’m not sure if I can still do NC because it seems like she has already done it to me. Is there still a way that I can also use it, using the free plan, to get her back?
Hi there,
hope you are doing wrong. I would like to tell you about my broken heart story. May someone can give me an advice, which I would very appreciate.
my bf broke up with me on January 21th, 2010. He told me, that he has no feelings for me anymore – after a 4 years long-term relationship (!). I have to say, that this situation occurred the first time on September 2009. We had a normal discussion about feelings and our special situation. He was so cold to me and I knew that something changed in our relationship. He got a lot pressure @work and @home. He has to support his family which is fine for me! Because of his religion we had to hide our relationship so far. I asked him more often, when he would like to announce our relationship to his family. He was not sure about this, so he told me he has to think about it. He is very unique. We do have different cultures and religions. But I agree and accept his religion. Then once in a while we didn’t see each other that much:( I did not want to lose him so I decided to give him some space. It is so weird – he told me he loves me and one month later he broke up on accident with me. Because I confronted him on our anniversary with his coldness. He started to cry. He is very emotional. To keep it short, for one week I kept the no contact rule – just to see if he does miss me. He missed me, but I don’t know actually if he missed me like a friend or gf ;( But he respected the no contact rule at all and didn’t contact me. After 5 days I wrote him a message, he still acted cold. so after 2 weeks we met each other to talk about the situation. He apologized saying I am a wonderful woman and he wished his feeling would change, but it doesn’t. He lied to me 3 month, because he thought he could make his heart to love me again, but things does not work the way he planned.
He was so sorry but wanted to keep in touch with me, but he totally understand my feelings and situation and respect the no contact rule and if I am doing better I shall contact him again. He does not wanted his staff per mail, he told me that we gonna meet each other again. He is totally into his job. He lost every social environment. I asked my brother to still keep in touch with my ex bf. My Ex BF replied that at the moment he need to be with himself alone, because happened to recently :-(
I started again with the NC rule and for about 17 days now, I don’t have a clue how he is doing etc. I am feeling very bad and horrible. Feeling I lost my heart. Please can you help me? We had a special relationship we were best friends and lovers :-((( I still love him very much. I am so scared that I am loosing him completely…. Please dont tell me it is hopeless…that would break my heart again ;-((((((
sorry typo: hope you are doing well….
Josh wrote:
I am not a mind reader, you should have calmed down and explained your situation to me.
Yes, you can!
Just start at the beginning of the free plan, and follow every step, it’s your job to figure out how to send her the NC message…there must be someway.
Just mail it to her with the line on the bottom of the envelope: Attention – You Were Right – This Is My Last Letter.
That should get her to open it, and read it.
Then just follow all the rest of the steps in the free plan, it is that simple.
Take Care,
S.W.
ehi sw, i think i may have sent the wrong nc message it seams that he has ended it with me. what i didnt say in his reply was that he said that he wanted nothing to do with me that he was gonna block me from him getting anymore emails. that he has tried being nice to me and being nasty hoping that i would take the hint and when have i ever tried to contact you. I by chance emailed him back telling him basically that i now understand and that i would back of bla bla bla. He emailed me back saying that he was glad that i has moved on and no he hadnt blocked me and that he had tons of isssues himself and wasnt the best person to give advice and he was really bad for it but i shouldnt analyse things to much or dwell on the past. what i want to no is him not blocking me does he still like me cause that last email i sent he seamed really angry with me plus i dont know if he quite understands that i want us to try again.I think my past may have affected the way i was towards him plus he knew i was still grieving loosing a partner and i know that he told my brother that he didnt want to get in the way of that but i do want to try with this guy again and see were it goes.
Ok, you’re right, that might work. It’s worth a shot anyway. And at the end, this will end up with me and her getting back together again?
Thank you, Scott.
Take Care,
-Josh
amy wrote:
If you read, and followed the free plan, and sent the recommended NC message word for word…you sent the right NC message.
If you didn’t use the NC message I the free plan word or word…send it now.
As far as all thew rest of the drama in your comment, that doesn’t mean shit.
If you follow the plan, you will succeed, it’s that simple.
Take Care,
S.W.
Josh wrote:
50/50 chance…which is way better than the odds you have now, right?
Cherish wrote:
Hi,
I have no idea what NC plan you’re following, and what type NC message you sent.
Go read the free plan (top of my Blog), and if you didn’t follow all the directions in the plan, and send the recommended NC message (word for word)…start over and do it now.
Then follow all the rest of the steps in the plan…17 days isn’t shit…this takes from 3-6 months or more.
If you really want them back, you will do what it takes, right?
Take Care,
S.W.
S. Williams wrote:
Yes, you’re right. I also just wanted to let you know, Scott, that as I mentioned previously, I am not “stretching the truth”, it is simply that as I said, after all the things I have been through since she left me, it has been very traumatic, and my memory is shot to hell, so I really can’t remember now whether it’s been exactly 6, 7, or 8 years, and I said that. I am doing my best to remember/guess.
Hi sw just wanted to say that i have taken my fist step in the rite direction. Today again after a week my ex contacted me and we spoke. I have now sent her the no contact message exactly as what you have. and automatically she replied asking what big descitions? hen replied again saying that apparently i am goin off the rails and need to see a doctor and then again saying she is only saying this because she cares and because were close. I have not replied to any of these and i am now not going to. She made her descition and now i need to try re build my life. as you say its 50/50 either she will want me back or i will move on.
Thanks!
James wrote:
Excellent Job James!
That’s the way to kick loves ass
She made her bed, and you just fluffed her pillows
now she can lie in it.
Now follow the rest of the steps in the free plan, and focus on your personal evolution.
Stay Strong!
S.W.
hi sw, i wrote him an email that i was good that i had moved on and that the past was better kept in the past and that i was no were ready for another relationship at that time,and possibly i was now that i have moved on with my life. He hasnt replyed back i dont know if thats a good thing or a bad thing. anyways i have decided to leave things at that and not have any contact with him and see what happens and see if this guy was for real or not.
amy wrote:
Hi,
That is not the recommended NC message.
You’re not following the steps in the free plan, so you are on your own.
Good Luck!
S.W.
hi sw, are you saying because i aint sent the proper nc message that i dont have a chance of getting him back or finding out how he really feels about me. wont he think that im playing with his head or playing games if i send the proper nc message after what i said in the previous email sorry i dont mean to go on but he is right he hasnt tried to contact me since he decided to call it quits and all the nc messages suggest that so i dont quite understand it or how it is meant to work. i do apppreciate the help and advice you are giving me.
amy wrote:
Yes, you either follow the plan correctly, or not at all.
Everyone who has been successful has followed the plan correctly.
I give the plan away for free, you have to bring the courage to use it correctly.
Hi Scott,
i don’t have a no contact option. you see im 18 and attending my last semester of high school… my ex goes to the same school as me and is on the bus with me to and from school. is there a way that i can pull away and only talk to him when i have to? and is the program for people of all ages because i know alot of people may not take my breakup seriously due to my age.
jenna wrote:
Hi Jenna,
If there were an age limit it would be mentioned in the free plan.
Go read the free plan, top of my Blog, you can follow this plan.
People who have lived in the same house have followed the free plan, and were successful.
The only stipulation with the free plan, is that you read it, follow it, help yourself, and not ask me 100 questions, understand?
Everything is covered in the plan, one way or the other…use your common sense and you will be fine.
Take Care,
S.W.
hi, im feeling really hurt just now reading back on his second last email before i sent the wrong nc message ifeel he probably just wanted to use me for sex. otherwise he wouldnt have given up so easliy and walked away. His words just cut me like a knife he came across so angry and nasty. i wished he had blocked my emails hes just as bad as i am. I feel that i hate him at this paticular moment in time.
@ amy:
Don’t worry about what happened in the past.
Send the right NC message and get your personal evolution started, and create a better future for yourself.
My Girlfriend and I broke up after three months of dating because I let the little things get to me and I hurt her feelings on two consecutive weekends by calling her hurtful things like unaffectionate,tomboy,and just let jealousy get the best of me. I knew I was wrong and apologized, but two days later she called suggesting a 1 month break. She said “it’s not a break up just a break”, I agreed after apologizing again numerous times to the break. It has been 3 weeks and she has not contacted me via anything (call, text, etc.)I have texted her once a week to ask her how shes doing but thats it. I fear she really just wanted to break up in the first place. I have been using this time to learn from my mistakes, sure it hurts and the memories just make it harder, but I truly know I was wrong and I still have feelings for this girl. I just hope I didnt break her heart beyond repair.. she said I changed. What advice do you have for me? I love her.
Joey wrote:
Hi,
The best thing to do right now is use the free plan on my Blog (link at the top), and send her the recommended NC message for a break (not break up).
Then follow all the rest of the steps, following this process will help her to deal with her feelings for you faster.
Take Care,
S.W.
i think my situation is hopeless i did do the no contact for about 3 weeks broke it and contacted him then we just quit talking for about 3 weeks and i found out he had a girlfriend, and when i sent him another text and they had been only dating for a month i said tryin to play it cool that i dont care ( i am happy for you, and i am happy, dont have the same feelings anymore) well he got pist off and said dont talk or text him anymore and i brought out the bad in him and he doesnt care, and then i found out he is engaged i dont know what to do we were together for like 3 years ????? I really miss him like crazy ?????
sam wrote:
Hi Sam,
NC doesn’t work unless you follow a good plan, and stick to it, understand?
I recommend that you read and follow all the steps in the free plan on my Blog (link at the top).
Take Care,
S.W.
so its been 2 months since my bf and i broke up. i sent the message 2 weeks after the breakup, and after three weeks he contacted me. a week after that he contacted me again. i’d make him wait for a response. plus, i was busy anyway doing my thing :D a couple of days after that we agreed that we miss each other, but the time apart has been really good for both of us, and we’d see how things went. since then he’s been contacting me every day. being flirty, and even calling me the nicknames he used to call me when we were together. that started last week. there were only two days in this time period we didn’t talk to each other. i do not initiate any contact, i let him do all of the work. he even asked if maybe we could get together soon… just two days ago he told me he got his ticket to go to colorado in june, and when i said that i wanted a vacation, too, he told me i should go with him. that same night he called me to tell me about a condo he’s looking into buying. it’s a one room loft, and he kept telling me how i’d love it, and how it’d even be fine for “another person” to live there. dropping hints??
i’m still just playing it cool. doing what i’ve been doing. i just don’t want to be stuck in this “in between” stage.
i also forgot to add that he signed online (which he rarely does) after we hadn’t talked all day sunday, and we spoke via webcam. that was the first time in 2 months that we had seen each other, and it went very well!
lish wrote:
Then I suggest you start correctly following the plan.
You broke NC way too soon, and that is why you are stuck back in the just friends zone.
Start over and follow all the steps in the free plan, OK?
Take Care,
S.W.