How Do I Get My Ex Back Now?

You made every mistake after the break up. Now you’re wondering “how do I get my ex back now?” I can help you no matter how many mistakes you’ve made. Don’t worry about the mistakes, that is the past. Everyone makes these mistakes, but not everyone knows what to do after that…I will tell you, OK?

How Do I Get My Ex Back After All The Mistakes?”

The first thing you need to do is calm down. Believe me when I say it is still possible to win back the love of your ex. In fact they still do love you, love just doesn’t disappear. Remember that love doesn’t turn on and off like a water valve. People can say they don’t love you, but that doesn’t make it the truth. “So, if they still love me why did my ex say something like that?”

The reason they said that is because you were begging, and pushing them for a reason for the break up. They had to tell you something to get you to stop, right? Once you stop thinking it is true, you will come to realize why they said it in the first place. If you want to get your ex back you have to believe that you can, because they still love you. No matter how many mistakes you made, and what they might’ve said to you.

OK, So How Do I Get My Ex Back?”

The first thing you need to do is send an effective no contact message. How will you know what to write? I will tell you, OK? A good no contact message needs to be direct, and emotionless. This is a great example of an effective no contact message:

I agree with you about the decision to break up, I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.

This will turn the tables on your situation and flip your ex’s switch. You just went from needy, begging, and heart broken, to confident, and in charge…you have some big decisions to make. After you send that message stick to the no contact rule. If possible find a good plan to follow that will help you personally evolve during your no contact period. “How do I get my ex back now?” You stop begging, and take back control of your situation.

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. Okay so I sent the no contact message word for word.. And straight away I got a reply saying ‘uhm okay’..
    We have nearly been broken up for a month, and his started seeing some one already am I thinking too much of this relationship?

    1. Hi,

      Yes, stop obsessing over something you have no control over (his new relationship), and start focusing on getting your life back by following ALL the steps in the free plan.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  2. I have signed up and am yet to receive anything.
    Thank you

    1. Hi,

      Check your spam/junk folder in your email account.

      If you signed up, and confirmed your subscription, you should get the emails.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  3. I planned to send this no contact message to my ex in hopes to get him back…
    It said
    ‘I understand where we went wrong, I’m sorry for my part in it. Time for bygones to be bygones. I accept that we are over, our old relationship wasn’t a lasting one. Your right about putting space between you and I. Because I love you I respect your decision and will let you go now for good. Its time to move on, work on ourselves and see other people. In order to do so I need to cut you off. I’m grateful for your help, Good luck in all your endeavors and I hope your family is well too. No hard feelings. You can’t fight for something that doesn’t want to be fought for so I’m bowing out.’

    But do you think your one will work more to my advantage? I signed up up and still waiting for my plan..
    Thanks

    1. Hi,

      That message will not work.

      A no contact message does not need an apology, it should be emotion-less, like my recommended NC message is.

      If you joined my newsletter, you will receive a link to the free plan, just follow ALL the steps.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  4. Hi,

    Ok..Thanks

  5. Hi,

    I did a big goof up while posting my break up story and NC diary.I am not able to add it again.Am I blocked or what??

    Thanks

    1. Hi,

      If you did not follow the forum guidelines you were banned from posting.

      You do not NEED to post in our forum to be successful using the no contact rule and the free plan to get your ex back, to evolve past your break up.

      Some people even have more success after being banned from posting.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  6. Hey there! I have a question. My boyfriend left me 3weeks ago now. Last week before even coming upon this site I told him that I agreed with the breakup and it was time for me to move on and that im sure we will talk again one day. I did that on my own..however it was his birthday yesterday and I did send him a quick “happy birthday!” and he replied to me. But I left it like that and never said anything further. I do not have to send a NC message do I? Since I feel that would look rather odd since ive already said it once… Ive deleted him from fb and have not contacted him at all other than wishing him a happy birthday.

    1. Hi,

      You don’t “have to do” anything, unless you want to get the best results in the shortest amount of time.

      If that is the case, stop making excuses and follow ALL the steps, OK?

      I help you to use the no contact rule to evolve past the break up and reveal their ex boyfriend’s true feelings.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  7. Hi,

    I have sent the recommended NC message and was not expecting him to reply back.But guess what he replied back saying

    “Sorry but what is this!! i didn’t understand it. when did i contact u ? you are absolutely free ..u need not to get in touch with me for anything..”

    So I am confused what to do??Does that mean I should reply back because his reply made me sound silly to him..

    1. Hi,

      This is a normal reaction, don’t worry, and don’t reply.

      You pissed him off with your NC message, and he is trying to confuse you and make you feel silly…Good Job!

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your guy back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  8. hi, I have sent the NC message exactly like the sample one. first i hesitated to send it or not!!!i thought a little foolish to ask him not to contact me since he didn’t do it till we broke up!but now i feel extremely happy and satisfied i did send it. it made me feel free of sitting and waiting for his call!!!NOW it is me who decides when to contact ;)and as i guess he didnt reply! also i feel at the beginning of an exciting journey.. I know the last relationship had a lot of simple problems which were at the first place my own fault. i was a little needy girl and he was misusing my weakness.he was great to me if i knew how to be strong and self-confident. i made a lot of mistakes. but it is not the end of the world. he told me when we broke up i will lose weight ( i was thin but he encouraged me to gain some weight 🙂 ) but i have decided to eat well and i continue going to the gym! i will dance every evening to improve my dance skill. it is a new world to explore in my soul! dear Scott, I am completely ready for this evolution! 🙂 and a question, now in NC period should i be completely far away form his radar? disappearing from the earth?
    tnx for your care and kind support

    1. Hi,

      I would highly suggest staying off all social networks, and removing him from your social network accounts.

      Live in the real world, not the virtual one.

      In the virtual world (social network sites) it is oh so easy for him to keep tabs on what you are doing…it is none of his business.

      The no contact rule works more efficiently when you cut him him out of your social circle, and you stay out of his.

      How to handle running into him in public is covered in one of the many articles about NC that is linked to the free plan to get your ex back.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  9. Ok you’re right. your words heal my wounded heart in a great way. i live in Iran and we speak in Persian, so the translation of NC message seems a little unconventional for me, esp. the last part of it,anyway i will do it asap. in your above reply you mentioned ” just use the NC message agreeing to his decision to break up”!! do you mean i should write js the first part of NC message or the whole one!

    tnx for your consideration

    1. Hi,

      Use the whole version that was written for when your ex breaks up with you, this is all outlined in the free plan to get your ex back, just follow ALL the links for NC and read the information.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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