You can get your ex back faster than anyone else can if you follow these 3 simple tactics. Your broken heart will feel better immediately after using just the first tactic. No matter how bad you feel right now if you can follow these simple tips you will get your life back, and win back your ex as well.
Simple Tactic One
Before you spend another moment begging, or pleading with your ex to come back, stop what ever you’re doing and get ready to send them a no contact message. This message will put you back in power, and make you feel 100% better after you send it.
Many people are frightened at first to send it, but they all admit afterwards it was the “scariest” yet the best thing they have done since the break up. It is very easy too, you just copy a version from any well known “get your ex back” book, and send it off.
Simple Tactic Two
Once you send the no contact message you stop communicating with your ex, and start focusing on your personal evolution. This is VERY important and should not be skipped, or over looked. You can start your journey by letting go of your old relationship.
This does not mean you are moving on forever…it means you are going to get over the old failed relationship by admitting it was dead. Use a notebook, and write out all the pros and cons of the old relationship with your ex. Once you start to dissect your old relationship you will understand why it failed, and it will be easier to “move on”, and prepare to get your ex back again.
Simple Tactic Three
Now that you are on your way to leaving your emotional baggage behind it’s time to get social. Most people swear they can not go out “it’s too soon after the breakup”…but they are wrong. The sooner you get back on the social horse again, the better, why?
Because this will greatly speed up your evolution, and bring you closer to getting your ex back again. Once you are comfortable out and about members of the opposite sex again the more attractive you will feel, and the more attractive you”ll become. The faster you use these 3 simple tactics, the faster you will feel better, and win back your ex.
Free Step by Step Plan
If you are in a break up situation you have to learn how to think with your head, and not with your heart. If you want my help getting your ex back, join my free newsletter for free videos, advice, support forum, and a free step by step plan to get your life/ex back fast. On my Blog you will find the answers and the support you seek, along with a free step by step plan. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.
Until next time,
S. Williams
~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~
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Hi, my ex broke up with me a week back, for the umpteenth time in the past year. We’d been together for 2 years, it was purely long-distance with us having spent like a month and a half together in 2 years. But we really loved each other and trust me when I say he’d never stary and neither would I. We started having problems bcos I opened up to him too much, i was severely depressed for most of the time in our relationship bcos of family troubles and an inability to connect with people, etc (he’s probably the only person i connected with, i completely opened up to him and in retrospect that’s probably what pushed him away). He was my first love and I loved him with all my heart, I figured I should be myself with him, I should share my issues with him- if i am depressed i should be able tell him about him.
The relationship was tougher on me than on him especially bcos of the distance. I practically put my life on hold for the relationship and what’s worse, I wanted to do it.As a result of that and my general inability to connect with people I have no friends I can bank upon right now. I wanted to think about nothing but him and where we were headed. But all of it just pushed him away and I know I shouldn’t have done all of that but it was like I couldn’t stop myself. things got really bad the past few months, every minor argument would flare up and he’d be nasty and I’d cry all night and get even more depressed. it’s not like he didnt suffer, he is also majorly depressed now (he had problems with depression for a while before we met. He’d say he didn’t love me when we fought, leave me in a mess, then I’d beg and plead (ya, I know, but it was like i had no self respect for the past year- very strange for someone like me) and he’d say fine lets give it another chance and then I’d try to be all loving and bright but he’d be distant and wouldn’t even say he loved me- which would just bring me back to my original state. all this has been so hard on me that my health is a mess. I had beautiful skin which is now pretty bad due to stress-induced acne, i have zero stamina and my mind, that was my greatest asset is now shot to hell.
he’s in a bad state too right now, he’s looking for a job but he isn’t getting one and he is kind of a waste now (he used to deal with our fights by drinking like no tomorrow. He asked for a break up many times in the past 2 months but i always begged and managed to get ‘another chance’, but he always stayed cold and distant and i would break down in a matter of days. A week back he finally mailed me right after he left me a crying weeping mess again, that he honestly couldn’t stay with me any longer, that he’d given it weeks and months but things never changed and that every day with me is a torture and has been for a while. he then asked me to forgive him if i could and move on. as usually when i read it the next day i panicked and tried calling him many times (he didn’t pick up as usual)i sent pleading mails saying i’d do anything to make it work. i was trying to see if he was online on facebook when i saw he’d taken off his relationship status (it was ‘in a relationship with me’)like he had before we met. That kind of threw a switch in my head and i then wrote a mail to him asking him to please delete all of our chat logs, personal pics and files (he had a few), etc and tht while i could not ensure he does that i hoped he had the honour yet to do as i requested.I also wrote that i was blocking him on gtalk so that he doesn’t have to for fear of bumping into me (he went ahead and blocked me too anyway)and that i was deleting him off my facebook account. i ended with a goodbye. I don’t know if it was the right NC note or not bcos I had no clue at that time- i was just extremely traumatised and yet numb at some level.
it has been a week, I haven’t called him (the only way i can contact him now seeing that he’s blocked me elsewhere and ive deleted him on FB). I haven;t mailed either. I plan to go through with your 30 day program (despite the overwhelming temptation everyday to just call him up and beg for another chance). But I want to ask you if i have a shot. I don’t know if I have. And this time I want my dignity back, I’ve begged and pleaded for too long. I want us together but on my terms. Do I have a shot at this at all?
P.S. We’re both 24.
mumpypoo wrote:
Hi Mumpy,
Sure, you have a great shot.
Just go to the top of my Blog, and find the link for the free plan.
Everything you need to read, and do is right there.
Follow that plan like Dorothy followed the yellow brick road, and you will find your way back home…I promise!
Watch out for flying monkeys! ;)
S.W.
Hi,
I am really confused about how to send the no contact message because so much has happened after our break up. I mean the way we broke up was strange and this is a long distance relationship. Can you explain how to deal with things in a long distance relationship ? please. please. that would help a lot.
thank you
Afsoon wrote:
Hi Afsoon,
There are 3 types of no contact messages to send, and some alterations for situations involving joint child custody, and all of them are covered in detail in the free plan.
Why don’t you go take a look?
Go to the top of my blog and find the link for the free plan, and follow every step.
Take Care,
S.W.
yes, i did read almost everything that is posted on your blog. however, what if my ex told me that he never wants to see my face again , and he told me to stop sending him any kind of emails or messages regarding anything ? what does one do in a situation like that ? wouldn’t that worsen the situation by sending him a no contact email when he already said that he doesnt want any sort of communication ? please help. i am really confused.
Afsoon wrote:
Hi Afsoon,
What have you got to lose?
If you’re too afraid to take action how do you plan on solving your problem…wait for a miracle?
I wasn’t talking about reading my Blog (although that will help a lot too), I was talking about reading, and FOLLOWING the free plan.
That is the best advice I can give you.
Now you have to take action…if you want your life/ex back again, OK?
Become the master of your own destiny…start today!
S.W.
I spoke to my ex today, both on facebook and on the phone. I tried to be cool and no care, but I do, and we ended up speaking about why we broke up. He basically said he jst had a feeling, he didnt feel the same so shouldnt be with me anymore and said there was no hope for us getting back together. He wants to be friends, and I still want him in my life, but its hard coz I still love him. I basically laid all my cards out on the table. Can I still do the no contact thing or is it too late because I told him how I feel etc.
Natzoid wrote:
Yes, do it right away.
Send the recommended no contact as outlined in the free plan (word for word, do not change anything thing), and then follow all the rest of the steps in the free plan.
Yes I want him back. But the problem is I am confused about whether it is good for me to use the no contact message at this stage or not. Actually what happened was that we were in a relationship for one year, and then I had to move to another country. He was very supportive and said that he was sure we could do it. However, when we started our long distance it didn’t go too well. I now know the mistakes I made and want to give another chance. But what happened was that he started acting distant toward me like he stopped saying i miss you and i love you. At that time I didnt know that I should give him space or what to do so I started fighting with him. and this lead him to say that he didnt want to be together becasue we were not happy. then i said that i want to be together please lets give it a chance. he said he will and promised to try his best. then again I expected things to go back to normal which was wrong of me and then the same thing happened. this time i said ok fine lets try as friends. i thought that maybe i could make him jealous and he would come back to me. and this worsened us even more. throughout the thing he always said that he wants us to keep in contact and be friends. he said promise me that you wont stop talking to me. and so then when i didnt get him back for three days i told him that i dont thikn i want to talk to him becasue i am still stuck with him and if he wants me to get over him he i will have to block and delete him. this lead us to the worst fight we ever had. he doesnt usually say bad words to people but that day he told me that if i blocked him i would never see his face again. and he also told me to fuck off and a lot of bad things. so we didnt talk to each other for like two weeks and then his birthday came and i cared about him a lot so i sent him a text message like a normal one. and he asked who it was (showing that he deleted my number) i responded by sayingi ts me. he said thanks. then like some more weeks passed by and i was talking to his sister regularly and on fb as well so one day his sister replied a comment of mine that indicated that im travelling back to the country that he lives in. and he just commented on it and said something rude. i icouldnt resist myself so i said something rude back. then he replied tellng his sister to delete me off her fb. : S and then i felt tht it was bad wht happened so i deleted the comments off and stopped contacting his sister..then another hting that happened was after like a month after our nasty breakup was that i had sent him a card long time ago just before our braek up but he didnt recieve it however the company charged me twice on my credit card and it was expensive. so i sent him an email saying that i need to know if he got it and we communicated a bit due to that. and then one day i called him and we talked for like more than an hour . he said mean things and he told me that he hates me..and he will always hate me..but everytime that i would try to close down the conversation he kept on extending it. and he told me that he tells everyone who asks him about me that im a bitch and that he hates me. i dont understand why he is behaving like this. he used to love me a lot. and i never did anything bad. and hes the one who wanted to breakup. and so then i hung up because it was very long but even though he said al those things he also showed that means that he does think about me. but anyway and he was like and please stop talking to my family. even his family is shocked becasue they knew how much he loved me. and then the next day he sent me a msg saying he got the card and then i had to ask him for a number related to the card so that i could contact the company again. and i sent him an email saying i dont ant to bother you or talk to you but i need this. he sent back a wrong numebr and so i said that it shud be another one. and then he was like now yo’re bothering me. i was hurt so i didnt reply and then he sent another email after a while with all possible numbers. and then i replied saying thanks. thats the last communication that we had and its almsot a week ago. and our breakup is now one month and thirteen days old. and i am trying to revive a long distance relatiosnhip because i love that guy more than anything in the world but i dont know when we will ever meet face to face. can you please tell me what to do ?
and thank you very much for reading and replying to these posts.. it really means a lot.. thank you..
Afsoon wrote:
You’re welcome Afsoon!
But I have told you everything you need to know.
You have to find the courage to take action…no one can do that for you, understand?
no thats ok. but did you read what i wrote? i mean do you think that after everything that happened..and all that stupid communication that i made after the breakup i should still send a no contact message ? lol.. i think it would definitely make him laugh if it doesnt make him angry. if you still recommend it, i would definitely do it..but the purpose in me telling you about what happened was so that you could give me an honest opinion.
please tell me if you think whether i should still do it ? i just can’t even think properly.
Afsoon wrote:
You’re really starting to get on my nerves.
I told you 5 comments ago to follow the free plan on my Blog.
Maybe if you stopped feeling sorry for yourself, and paid attention you would have been able to read my comments.
I am busy and I provide advice for free…but enough is a fucking enough.
Now either take my advice…or take a hike, OK?
i am really sorry for getting on your nerves and thank you for your help.
Afsoon wrote:
You’re welcome!
Now take some action and start helping yourself, OK?
That’s why this Blog is here.
my ex broke up with me. then we agreed to stay friends.then we get together so often have sex. we still talk or text at least once each day.he says he just wants to be friends for now maybe more later,he sorry about that.ok well we are together on one of our meets,we live 2hrs from each other. usually no interuptions,not this time he kept getting text. i looked at his phone they were some girl.i confronted him b4 we left n apologized for looking. he said he wasnt mad about that but it was just a friend. which he was lying to me and to her because he text her got in bed w me? i know we both do still care about each other,but i was so mad i said i just dont get it,u cant b my bf but u can someone elses. he swears hes not yeah well then what is he doing besides being a f player! i am so mad at him. its like part of me wants him back as my bf as he was, but then part of me just wants to tell him off, but want him to want me back either way n then it be in my control.do i still have a chance of him wanting me back the way it used to be and where it was just me? i told him friends or not if we were sleeping together i had a right to know. he swears he is not sleeping with anyone else. yeah well i hope but dont really beleive much of what he says anymore. i feel stupid and used i usually feel glad i saw him even broke up but today i just feel kinda sick about the entire thing and he usually text me in the morning and today nothing im sure he is showing me but i so want to be the one showing him. he apparently thinks its ok to play games with my heart n the sad thing is i do love his stupid ass.
kandyie wrote:
Hi Kandyie,
You agreed to be “friends with benefits”…now you’re bitching about it?
You should have never agreed to to that kind of friendship if you couldn’t handle it, right?
If you want to get out the the “FWB” zone you need to follow the free plan on my Blog (the link is at the top of my Blog).
You’re the only one who can help yourself…take action!
S.W.
I have looked over your three step plan which sounds great! However, my relationship of 5 years ended with a 2 year old child and a house that we bought. There is no way I can not communicate with him. We still have our daughter and our house and common bills in both of our names.
He left one month ago saying that he needed to fix himself. A couple days later he told me that he was not in love with me and never has been. You tell me this after we had a child and bought a house together???
I have begged, pleaded, used every manipulation tactic to get him back but it has not worked. I call him crying, tell him I don’t want to talk to him in which he threatens that I better “beware” of what I ask for. I have done some really embarrasing things because I am so overwhelmed with grief.
He says that he has never felt at home in our house and that we kept getting further and further apart. However, this was completely out of the blue. I kissed him good-bye one day and he never came home. We did not have a perfect relationship but I was willing to work through it. Relationships are hard work. Any advice would help, please.
Crystal wrote:
Hi Crystal,
Maybe you should “look over” the free plan again, and read carefully.
You can use this strategy in your situation…in fact people have used this situation while living together under the same roof.
The plan goes over what to do when you’re sharing financial matters, kids…etc.
You need to do more than “look it over” you have to follow all the links and read the information at the end of each one.
The plan is free, the plan works…but you have to have the “guts” to put it into action.
Only you can help yourself.
Take Action Today!
S.W.
yeah your right that was stupid of me to agree to be friends w benefits, i guess i was afraid to not have anything at all with him and let him go all together? i knew i shouldnt do it i hate the way shit makes you feel desperate i mean the whole relationship going wrong all together? i would never give someone advice i have done its like all my sense goes out the window… i will take your advice and look at the plan n i want the book is there away to get it without downloading it can i buy it anywhere or have it mailed? thanks for your advice
kandyie wrote:
Hi Kandyie,
You’re Welcome!
No, the book MOMU is only available online as a download.
Hopefully you can find a way to get it…it will really help your personal evolution.
In the meantime get started with the free plan…OK?
Stay Strong!
S.W.
So, I did it! I wrote the NC letter last night and almost instantly he responded with two emails. I did not respond to those emails, because like my NC letter said, I only want contact if it has to do with our child or the finances.
He then called. I did not respond. He then text messaged me. I replied with, “Is this about our child or the finances?” He said no, please call. I ended up not calling him and just repeating what I said in the email. Then, he sends me a text asking where this was coming from or who it was coming from. That did not need a response so, I did not respond.
Today he showed up at the house without a call. It was quite unusual. He did not say a word to me but picked up our child, hugged her and smiled at me. He then left.
He has tried to text and call me today as well. I did not respond.
Ok, so what do I do now? Aren’t I asking for space and giving him what he wants?? He kept explaining that him leaving was the best for our family… I just don’t understand. I agreed with him!!!
Please help me, what do I do? Do I talk to him? I don’t think I should and I should give it more time. Otherwise this relationship would be back in the never-ending struggle again….
Still heartbroken… wrote:
Great Job SH! (Thumbs High)
What do you do next?
Stick to no contact, and then start following the rest of the free plan.
This is just the beginning of your personal evolution…there is a lot more work to do…understand?
Make sure you join out forum…just follow the instructions in the free plan, OK?
Stay Strong!
S.W.
hi i followed the no contact rule for a month and then got carried away and acted desperate on the the reconnection stage when i got a sign things could work out. now i’m not sure what to do…
john wrote:
Hi John,
It sounds like you weren’t ready to reconnect…that’s why you panicked.
If you have driven your ex away by acting needy you can just send the NC message again, and this time follow ALL the steps in the free plan on my Blog.
You must focus on your personal evolution…not getting your ex back in order to succeed.
Take Care,
S.W
Hi scott your right about that evolution I’m actually started to sleep again now don’t no why but it gives you a sense off power using nc coz I’m not that desperate cow he expected haha what do they say the path of true love never runs smooth
natalie10 wrote:
That’s Great Natalie!
Great Job! (Thumbs High)
do you have to send the no contact message in order for it to work i mean what if you have already been giving zero contact from both sides and my exboyfriend is dating someone new? and i have done zero contact now 4about 3 weeks i dont want to sound stupid to you because i am asking this but i mean do i just keep on no contacting or do i now send the message and if i do send a message now you dont think he is gonna think i am just like more desperate knowing he is dating someone new???
i read your plan and no its says send the message but this time has already gone by for us before i found and read this? so do you think this situation is different
kandyie wrote:
Hi Kandyie,
The NC message serves two purposes:
It is the first step of the plan…just ending contact doesn’t work, you need to make a statement (the correct one).
The second is the sense of taking back control in a situation in which you felt like you didn’t have any.
You will see it written all over our forum how people resisted sending the message (for various reasons), and then they sent it, and started feeling better right away.
I am NOT making this up…it’s documented in our forum…just go read the others NC Diaries, OK?
Follow every step in the free plan, and use our forum for support…you will not regret it.
Take Care,
S.W.
My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago and he has a new girlfriend already!
I had already sent him a no contact email about a week ago however broke the no contact when i found out about his new girlfriend (stupid I know) I sent him an angryish text however the next day apoligised for my behaviour and told him i hope we can still be friends (of course i want more) what do i do now?! continue with the no contact? im worried this will only push him closer to his new girlfriend as we were getting on quite well again before i found out!? please help!
stacy wrote:
Hi Stacy,
Go read, and follow the free plan on my Blog (at the top).
If you want him back you must follow all the steps, and send the recommended NC message word for word…no changes.
NC will not push him into the arms of his new girlfriend.
Take Care,
S.W.