Does Your Ex Boyfriend Want You Back? – Use The No Contact Rule to Get Your Ex Back

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Does your ex boyfriend want you back? Learn how to use the no contact rule to get your ex back. I can show you a great way to use the no contact rule to discover his true feelings…even if he is dating someone else. OK…Stop scratching your head, and start reading how to use the no contact rule to see if your ex boyfriend wants you back.

Getting Your Ex Back – Become Mysterious

Being mysterious is a great way of getting your ex boyfriend back. When you use the no contact rule correctly you will gain his attention, and eventually get your ex boy friend back. He was use to you being there to answer all his texts, emails, and calls, but now you are not. Your ex boyfriend is going to wonder why, and that will put you foremost in his mind again. You see “out of sight” does not always equal “out of mind.”

If you were worried that your ex boyfriend would forget about you and move on…you were wrong. Does your ex boyfriend want you back? I bet he is starting to wonder the same thing himself; “Do I want my ex girlfriend back?” If you are thinking; “Will this work to get my ex boyfriend back?” I have to tell you that you will win back your ex boyfriend a lot faster by becoming mysterious, as opposed to being easy to read. The no contact rule is a great little tool, and when used correctly it will help you get your ex boyfriend back even if he has another girlfriend now.

Do Not Let Your Fear Of Using No Contact Stop You From Getting Your Ex Back

Don’t Be Afraid To Use The No Contact Rule To Win Back Your Ex

You should not be afraid of the no contact rule because it works. It has helped many people get their ex boyfriend/girlfriend back. Will your ex boyfriend want you back if you stop communicating? I do not see why this would do your relationship with him any harm. If you follow a good plan, and use the no contact rule correctly not only will you get your ex boyfriend back, but he will have a higher level of respect for you as well.

Getting your ex boyfriend back doesn’t have to be hard or scary. The rumors running around the “help me get my ex back” forums out there are started by people who didn’t understand the no contact rule, or didn’t follow a good plan. How do you expect to get anywhere without a plan, or a map? Do you just get in your car and blindly drive around until you eventually end up where you wanted to go? NO! So why would you attempt to get your ex boyfriend back using the no contact rule without a plan? Trying to do anything including using the no contact rule without a plan is truly scary.

Winning Back Your Ex

Why would anyone do this? I mean, do you really think by randomly getting advice from friends, family, and co-workers, that you are going to succeed? You need a plan, a plan that works, and you need it now. If you have any comments or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP! How can I help you use the no contact rule to get your ex boyfriend back? What are you willing to do to win back your ex?

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people for more than 3 years to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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70 Responses to “Does Your Ex Boyfriend Want You Back? – Use The No Contact Rule to Get Your Ex Back”

  1. Wanketa Fields says:

    hOW LONG DO I USE THE NO CONTACT RULE?

  2. S. Williams says:

    Hi Wanketa,

    This should answer your question for you.

    Start Here First

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  3. Shirley Jones says:

    Hi, I have a few quetions. My Boyfriend of seven years recently broke up with me. It really came out of no where. I freaked out naturally. This happened about eight weeks ago. I made several mistakes according to your plan. We have had contact several times. He would make excuses of things he needed and have me meet him to get it. All along being really mean to me. I have had no contact with him now for the last couple weeks. He goes to college about an hour away from here and will be coming back here for the summer. Now he is having contact with my sister and bringing me into the conversation ( nothing to serious but mentioning me) He is also seeking my brother out at bars and making plans to go golfing with him in the summer. I could use some advice on what to do in the whole situation. It has been weird from the start. All through out this I said it would never stick to him and he would shrug his shoulders. I said it was a fake break up and he would not respond. He would tell me stuff like his mom or dad think we will get back together in a year or something. He had a knife that was my dads that was at his apartment. His sister that lives with him told me about it, but he said he didnt know what I was taking about… There have been a lot of weird things like. Him asking for his stuff one thing at a time even though I tell him to take it all. And when he brings stuff I need he doesnt bring all my stuff. Some people tell me he is just trying to hold on and some say otherwise… I am not sure of which.. It is hard for me because for the whole length of out relationship it was really good. We never had any serious fights that lasted more than a couple hours. We had great chemistry and got along great. He was really close to all of my family. Closer to my family than his own. He has nicknames for everyone in my family and till refers to them by their names… Two weeks before he broke up with me we were at his grandparents and he was discussing how we were gonna have a small wedding and how many children he wanted. Any help would be great.

  4. S. Williams says:

    Hi Shirley,

    I think if you just read what you wrote to me, you will find a lot of your own answers.

    He keeps contact with everyone you do, he doesn’t take all his stuff, or give you all of yours.

    It’s pretty obvious, he is not ready to move on.

    If you want him back, start reading my Blog, including all the articles about no contact, and all the comments left by other visitors all over my Blog.

    The more you learn, the better your chances of figuring all this out.

    Start Here First

    I will say one thing for certain, if he was really over you, he wouldn’t be hanging around you, and your family, and friends as much as he is.

    He would be out there dating, and moving on.

    You need to use no contact to smoke out his true intentions…that’s what you want to know right…his true intentions?

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  5. Shirley Jones says:

    Thanks… I am on about two weeks of the no contact rule…. I guess I feel like I am getting all this different advice. Its over its not… I feel like all the contact we had in the past like I had to initiate. I would have to text him and he would either ignore me or whatever. He did suggest meeting to pick stuff up. Some people tell me he will come back and others do not know. I guess the no contact makes me nervous eventhough I have been doing it a couple of weeks. He did talk to my sister online a bit but she initiated it. He talked to my brother in a bar, and made plans to golf with him. Today he ran into him at school and they talked and my brother said he seemed really happy to see him and could not get away from him. My ex is really stubborn. He has a hard time admitting he is wrong. So if I use the nc rule for thirty days and he still is not speaking to me… what do I do? Also do you think these things he is doing is coincidences?

  6. S. Williams says:

    Hi Shirley,

    You know what?

    We could guess about this, and wonder about that, but in the end what have you accomplished?

    Nothing!

    One question: Do you want to win him back?

    If you said yes, then you need to take a look at this:

    Start Here First

    Pay special attention to #8

    Now, if you are really serious about getting your ex boyfriend back, take the advice that you read there, and let’s get started…OK?

    I believe that there is no such thing as a coincidences, everything happens for a reason.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  7. Mimi says:

    I have a show coming up in 3 weeks, (I do synchronized swimming). And this is the last time I will ever swim again. He has never seen me swim, and I want him to come watch me perform. It would mean so much to me, since he has never seen me swim and it will be the last time I will ever perform.
    But, we have not spoken yet (it has been 4 weeks), and I don’t want to break the no contact rule, but could i make an exception for this (since its very important to me that he comes) and ask him to come watch?

    thanks

  8. S. Williams says:

    Mimi wrote:

    But, we have not spoken yet (it has been 4 weeks), and I don’t want to break the no contact rule, but could i make an exception for this (since its very important to me that he comes) and ask him to come watch?

    What if he says “no”?

    If you think you’re ready “emotionally” to begin the reconnection phase (chapter 6), then go ahead, and invite your ex, but make sure your meeting is short after your swim.

    Review chapter 6 again so you get the general idea of how this meeting should play out…OK?

    Good Luck! :)

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  9. Mimi says:

    thank you for your advice,
    but i have not bought the book, so i don’t know what chapter 6 is about…

  10. S. Williams says:

    Mimi wrote:

    thank you for your advice,
    but i have not bought the book, so i don’t know what chapter 6 is about…

    You can get the book here on my Blog, my advice is designed to work hand in hand with the book.

    Get The Magic Of Making Up

    If you’re really serious about getting your ex back you need a good plan to follow along with my advice.

    When you buy the book from me you”ll get private email support as well.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  11. Mimi says:

    what should i say when asking him to come to the performance?
    I don’t know if i should ask the first time we meet up, or if i should mention it and then ask him a bit later… and I’m also at a lost on what to exactly say…

    any help would be great
    thanks again :)

  12. S. Williams says:

    Mimi wrote:

    any help would be great

    I don’t believe you’re very serious about getting your ex back…why?

    Because you don’t even have a book, or a plan to work with, that’s why.

    Why don’t you get serious and get some information to work with?

    This Blog was created for serious people who have a plan, and need some advice and guidance…not for people trying to “wing it.”

    I don’t care where you get the plan, just get one…OK?

    That is like asking for free driving lessons with no intention of ever buying, or driving a car…doesn’t make much sense, does it?

    I can solve this dilemma for you.

    If you just want him to see you swim, have someone video tape it…besides if this is your farewell performance, don’t you want a video of it for yourself?

    Now, when you start using a good plan, and win him back, you can both watch it together…OK?

    Is he worth spending $40 on to get the book I recommend?

    Just curious…

    You should read my article:

    How to Get My Ex Back – The 5 Point Check List

    A few points might hit home for you.

  13. Mimi says:

    I do want him back, very much.
    This is just my first real breakup, and it’s been very confusing for me…
    i’ve been hesitant to buy the book because i’m scared to start, because i don’t want to screw up, or lose him.
    i mean, this is my first break up, so this is all new to me.

  14. S. Williams says:

    Mimi wrote:

    i’ve been hesitant to buy the book because i’m scared to start, because i don’t want to screw up, or lose him.

    That sentence makes no sense to me at all.

    If you don’t start to do things correctly you”ll probably lose him.

    Everyone is scared of failing but that’s why I am here to help you over come that fear with coaching and support, but you need a core plan for me to help you…understand?

  15. Mimi says:

    okay, i do understand.. ive been getting a lot of mixed advice from friends, but i thought about it and i will regret not trying to get him back.
    thank you for responses, i do feel better now and i will go and get a plan

  16. Mimi says:

    okay, so if he does not call back in a week, i will call him and ask how he is etc.

    then if he calls back again i know he still wants to be friends, but if he does not call back, should i accept it is over?
    i really do not want to lose him, but if he does not call back, i don’t want to be needy and pushy and call him back again… what should i do if he does not call back?

  17. S. Williams says:

    Mimi wrote:

    thank you for responses, i do feel better now and i will go and get a plan

    Where’s the plan?

    Did you get one yet?

    Stop lying to yourself and wasting my time.

    Go buy a fucking book, and read it, them come back with some intelligent questions…OK?

    If you buy through me you”ll get my private email support, but you won’t get a god damn fortune teller…you”ll have to work with me and follow the plan…got it?

  18. jamie says:

    @ Shirley Jones:
    @ S. Williams:

    Ok .. i think my situation is a bit different from alot of others ..bc my ex bf has a new gf and we have been broken up for over 4 1/2 months. Ive previously went 3 weeeks no contact. in march. He is a confuseing guy.. says he tried to get me back but he really never did.. he never broke up with her .. but says he did. but went back bc he thought i never wanted to talk to him again bc i was ignoring him wen i went the three weeks of no contact. He wanted to meet and talk to me .. and i wouldnt i told him to say wat he had to over text and he wouldnt. So now its been 5 days and he hasnt spoken to me .. i just think that he thinks im mad and that if i add 25 more days without talking to him then he will start likeing this new girl more and more and forgeting about me more and more.. any advice would help .. thanks

  19. S. Williams says:

    jamie wrote:

    he thought i never wanted to talk to him again bc i was ignoring him

    Sorry, you’re situation is not unique, you only think it is…OK?

    So there is no “special form” of no contact that you can use that will allow you to not follow it correctly, and still get the results you want…your ex back.

    My advice is stop searching for that, and start learning how to use NC correctly.

    Did you use the information I outlined in FAQ #1 and start NC correctly?

    NC is NOT about ignoring him, it is about cutting him out of your personal business, there is a difference.

    You have to initiate NC by telling them you need time to think about what has happened, and decide what you want to do.

    Now your ex knows you’re not “just waiting” for them anymore, you are deciding whether to move on or not.

    Plus, when you stop chasing them, they will wonder why and ask, but you’re using NC and do not want to talk about it, this makes them wonder.

    Are you moving on?

    Should he think more about getting you back?

    If he has already moved on, then you will know, he will not try to get you back.

    But, you’re afraid to find out the truth, so you make excuses not to use no contact…you see you’re no different than the 100 other people who have told me the same thing.

    You have to be brave enough to completely let go of your ex in order to attract them back again.

    Why?

    Because until you do they will never seriously think that you’re moving on, and therefore will keep you on a string…just in case.

    Do you want to be their “just in case” insurance policy?

    Just in case their current relationship doesn’t work out.

    The bottom line for you and everyone else with a “unique” situation is your situation isn’t that unique, and you need to be brave enough to lose them in order to win them back.

    No matter how you word it, or look at it, it all boils down to the same thing…emotional control and the guts to properly use the no contact rule.

    Do you have the guts?

    Read my Blog I have sliced up NC pretty good, and if you can’t figure out how to use NC here I doubt you will anywhere else.

    If anyone has suggestions for things that I can add to the Blog to make it more clear, use the suggestion form on my Blog.

  20. jamie says:

    NC is NOT about ignoring him, it is about cutting him out of your personal business, there is a difference.

    You have to initiate NC by telling them you need time to think about what has happened, and decide what you want to do.

    ok, so um, do i contact him just to say this “telling them you need time to think about what has happened, and decide what you want to do.”
    Its been six days… since i hung up on him and he hasnt tried to text or call.. should i text him saying this? and then restart my 30 days… im so confused….ive read the NC rules.. i still dont know how to use it correctly, so i dont ignore his every texts or call ,.. i just dont initiate contact… So do i wait for him to initiate contact .. or do i take it on my own to text or call and say “i need time to think about wat has happend and decide wat i want to do”. Bc its not like this break up just freshly happend .. its like been 4 and 1/2 months .. so that will sound kinda wierd and make no sense if i say that now .. right?

  21. S. Williams says:

    jamie wrote:

    Its been six days… since i hung up on him and he hasnt tried to text or call.

    Why did you wait 6 days to get help with using no contact?

    You should have initiated NC and politely ended the call, that is what I would’ve told you if you had come to me sooner.

    jamie wrote:

    Bc its not like this break up just freshly happend .. its like been 4 and 1/2 months .. so that will sound kinda wierd and make no sense if i say that now .. right?

    Again, why did you wait 4.5 months to get help and expect instantaneous answers?

    The longer you make things worst by doing things wrong, the longer it will take to get them back…understand?

    You’re right it is really too late at this point to text him, you”ll have to wait for him to contact you.

    If he doesn’t contact you, give it about 30 more days and then contact him and try to set up meetings as outlined in chapter 6.

    *******************************************

    To anyone reading this reply, take note:

    Jamie would have been in a much better position then she is now if she had taken action sooner.

    If she had purchased a book, and read it, and followed the information (just owning a plan isn’t enough – you have to apply what you read) a lot sooner she would probably be back with her ex today.

    I bet she wishes she had acted sooner, learn from her mistakes.

    So if your still wondering what to do, get a plan, and get it today.

    The Magic Of Making Up System

    Get it from me and get my private email support…while I still offer it.

    I get busier everyday, once I have too many customers I will not offer this service any longer, because I am only one person.

  22. jamie says:

    Are you trying to say its too late for the book to work for me bc i waited so long… i just found out about the book.. how can i help that ?How can i initiate no contact if he never talks to me again?

  23. S. Williams says:

    jamie wrote:

    How can i initiate no contact if he never talks to me again?

    I guess you spend more time asking questions, than reading the answers, that could be a big problem.

    S. Williams wrote:

    You’re right it is really too late at this point to text him, you”ll have to wait for him to contact you.

    If he doesn’t contact you, give it about 30 more days and then contact him and try to set up meetings as outlined in chapter 6.

    Does that answer your question?

    Next time read my reply before you panic and let “drama” take over…OK?

    If he contacts you in the meantime…initiate no contact properly, then wait 30 days and use chapter 6…understand?

  24. jamie says:

    “initiate no contact properly,”

    wats that mean? if he texts to not respond .. ignore .. ? wat

    and also .. i have an idea .. i was left something of mine at his house.. and iwanted to text him to see if i could get it.. then i could initiate no contact to him and tell him i need time to reflect on all thats happend .. i just feel like i shouldnt wait on him to contact me bc the longer i wait the more he moves on to her and gets stronger feelings for her. Im confused
    and yes i wish i had gotten the book sooner but i didnt even find out about the book till now

  25. S. Williams says:

    jamie wrote:

    “initiate no contact properly,”

    wats that mean? if he texts to not respond .. ignore .. ? wat

    Have you taken any time to read my Blog?

    Take a little trip to my Section called “Start Here First”, and read FAQ #1.

    jamie wrote:

    i just feel like i shouldnt wait on him to contact me bc the longer i wait the more he moves on to her and gets stronger feelings for her.

    You’re wrong about that, that is the #1 reason people fail using NC because they believe that it will make their ex more distant, when in fact it is your constant contact that usually ends up in a fight that makes them more distant (pushes them away).

    jamie wrote:

    Im confused

    I think you’re more “lazy” than “confused” or you would have been able to answer your own questions.

    I sometimes wonder why I went through all the trouble to build this Blog and fill it with information when “confused” people are just too “lazy” to read it?

  26. Amanda says:

    hi my names amanda (:
    i was just wondering about the whole plan thing.
    i started using the no cantact rule only about one day ago and he already tried to start a conversation with me for the first time in a long tiiime, the other day.

    idk about the plan thing though?
    i’m so confused on what my plan should be and how i should do it ?
    should i started randomly talking to him after a month?
    i’m not sure
    do you have any advice on how i should start for my “plan” ?
    or plans that have worked in the past?
    any help like that would be amazing
    thank you (:

  27. S. Williams says:

    Amanda wrote:

    do you have any advice on how i should start for my “plan” ?

    Go here and read the top 3 posts (highlighted in blue) first, and then join our forum.

    http://www.howtokicklovesass.com

    We have a plan all laid out and people going through various stages of it supporting each other as they go…sound good?

    Please make sure to carefully follow the directions explained in those 3 “Must Read” posts.

  28. Fernando says:

    Have come across this site after exhaustive searching on the net.
    I have some very serious doubts in regards to this book,and this due to many factors.
    Scams abound,and,that made known,I appeal to anybody that can help me to respond.
    Have a really serious breakup on my hands.
    Appeal to the very core of humanity for urgent help.

  29. S. Williams says:

    Fernando wrote:

    Appeal to the very core of humanity for urgent help.

    OK, stop the drama and join our forum, you will see first hand how this book is not a “scam”.

    Read the comment above yours and follow the same directions.

    See you on the inside.

  30. Rodney says:

    Hi Scott, How r u? I have been reading your site everyday for the last 30 days.Your site gave me the strenght to move on with my life. I send the NC letter word by word 25 days ago. Didn’t contact her since then. Until today she never contacted me back and she has moved on with another guy.

    My question is, should I reconnect with my ex (as friends) even though I have realize that I do not want her back? It’s LDR. We broke up due to the distance.

    Need your advise on this. TQ

  31. S. Williams says:

    Rodney wrote:

    My question is, should I reconnect with my ex (as friends) even though I have realize that I do not want her back? It’s LDR. We broke up due to the distance.

    Hi,

    It has ONLY been 30 days, don’t focus on reconnecting at all at this time, keep on following the free plan, and continue your personal evolution.

    This process takes a good 3-6 months to work, enjoy the journey you will be very surprised what happens in a couple months…I promise!

    After all you don’t want her back as a “friend”…do you?

    You only think you do, that will change as you evolve…be patient.

    Stay Strong!

    S.W.

  32. Julie says:

    I sent the no contact mail two months ago, and he didn’t respond :P

    I havn’t heard from him in a while, but I’m not scared. I’m just wondering if it’s a good sign or a bad sign? :)

  33. S. Williams says:

    Julie wrote:

    I sent the no contact mail two months ago, and he didn’t respond :P
    I havn’t heard from him in a while, but I’m not scared. I’m just wondering if it’s a good sign or a bad sign?

    Hi,

    The whole point of the free plan, is to start your personal evolution, not to get a response from your ex.

    What did you do after sending the recommended NC message?

    You did send the recommended NC message (unchanged)…right?

    After that you should have followed all the rest of the steps in the free plan.

    If you didn’t, then you should get started today, and do not worry about what your ex is doing, this is “key” to your success.

    This plan when used correctly can take from 3-6 months to work.

    You must be patient, just carry on with your life…don’t sit around waiting for your ex to come back.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  34. Rodney says:

    Scot hope you dont get mad at me for asking this question, but i have always wonder….Why does it take 3-6 months to work if used correctly? Why this time frame?

  35. S. Williams says:

    Rodney wrote:

    Why does it take 3-6 months to work if used correctly? Why this time frame?

    Hi,

    Because most people make tons of mistakes before finding, and “correctly” using the free plan.

    All the damage caused by this takes 3-6 months to heal, and for the people involved to evolve past the old “failed” relationship, and become ready for a new relationship.

    Read some of the over 3000 comments on my Blog, or the 1,000′s of posts in our forum, and you will see what I mean by “excessive damage”.

    Plus, most (99%) of the success stories I have read have taken at least that long.

    I have have seen some happen in a shorter amount of time, but that depends on the circumstances, and the people involved (how quickly they forgive, and evolve).

    Let’s face it…most people fuck up for a long time, before they get it right.

    I would rather give it to people “straight”, then to lead them into believing this will happen in just 30 days.

    I hope this answered your question.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  36. Rodney says:

    Thanks Scott for the explanation..

  37. Ann says:

    My boyfriend was caught with his exgirlfriend. His sister has passed and I seen then both together at the gas station when she got out of his truck. Three days before I stayed at his house and he told me he cares for me alot and he needs to step up to the plate;and he knows what love is and he loves me. When we are together and men come up to me talking he will say “that’s enough flirting with the men I am getting jealous I am acting on feelings…and most of the time he wants to go sit in the car with me then he is ready to leave. He has said to me before “If I can’t satisfy you anymore will you still be my friend”,and he has said you will end up with a young guy. He is 63 years old and I am 50, however his exgirlfriend is 60 years old. People say she treats him bad, and keeps breaking up with him with the on-again/off-again relationship.I have even heard him say I am not a yo-yo you want me then you don’t, but he still keeps going back.My cousin has heard him even say she don’t love me she just wants my money. I can not deal with behavior like this, and what makes it so bad “I actually love him”. What am I to do?

  38. S. Williams says:

    Ann wrote:

    I can not deal with behavior like this, and what makes it so bad “I actually love him”. What am I to do?

    Hi,

    You can’t do anything to change his behavior (that’s his choice), but you can take control the situation, and reveal his true intentions.

    Go read the free plan, and follow ALL the steps, OK?

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  39. pear says:

    i posted the story on the forum. I got a text from him today after I sent no contact email yest – he is asking what I meant by ‘decisions’, am I pregnant? and to reply for sanity sake. I do not want to immed reply but to such a question, what to do?

  40. S. Williams says:

    pear wrote:

    I do not want to immed reply but to such a question, what to do?

    Hi,

    It is none of his business, is it?

    You asked to be left alone, and he didn’t even respect that.

    Do not reply, keep NC, let him think what he wants, he didn’t care about that when he broke it off…did he? 8)

    This is all part of yours/his personal evolution.

    Stay Strong! :rambo:

    S.W.

  41. Rodney says:

    Scott, where is the link to buy your ebook? I want to make sure i get it from you. Thanks.

  42. S. Williams says:

    Rodney wrote:

    Scott, where is the link to buy your ebook? I want to make sure i get it from you. Thanks.

    Hi,

    There are links included in the free plan, and I will give you a link right here:

    The Magic of Making up

    Thanks for your support!

    S.W.

  43. PP says:

    hi , I followed your NC rule then two days later he called mw to say he miss me but then I was too rush that i asked him is that mean he wants me back? He said well, he missed me as a friend mis his friends. He still want to be alone.

    What do I do now? If I start NC rule again, will it be alright? I won’t rush again this time. :(

  44. S. Williams says:

    PP wrote:

    What do I do now? If I start NC rule again, will it be alright? I won’t rush again this time.

    Hi,

    You can start NC over again, and this time read the free plan on my Blog, make sure you follow ALL the steps, OK?

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  45. susan says:

    Okay so he has kept the no contact rule strong and it has been 3 months, everyone tells me to get over him already but i just cannot. I have texted and left a message on his phone and no response. I found out that he still loves me a week ago and last week he found out that i know he still does, he still does not contact me. Is this a lost cause am i wasting my time? 3 months is a long time for someone to makeup their mind isn’t it?

    • S. Williams says:

      susan says:

      Is this a lost cause am i wasting my time? 3 months is a long time for someone to makeup their mind isn’t it?

      Hi,

      Who is using no contact on who?

      I am getting confused.

      If you’re going to ask a question don’t make it a fucking riddle, OK?

      Don’t worry about what has happened in the past.

      Start over and read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps, OK?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  46. Paul says:

    I’m really interested to buy your book but just a quick question first.
    My girlfriend wants to breakup but is offering to keep my things at her place (boats, trailer, camping stuff in the basement, etc.) while I go into an apartment that is of course to small to bring these things into.
    I would get the stuff out only when I have bought my own house to store them into.
    The question is….should I get all of my things out first to cut all ties and not have to go back there or leave them there and have to go from time to time to get some of my stuff when needed?
    The problem I see with the going back time to time is that we would see each other and thus not completely have our own space and time to think things over. I mean I would want her to do her own things and leave her alone and maybe by doing so she would realize that she is missing me for the good times we had together (feeling a void in her life because I’m not there anymore).
    Staying there (it her house not mine) only leads to her thinking negative because of what pissed her off lately instead of missing the positive things because I’m not there anymore. What would be your recommendation on this.
    It is not like I’m gone completely if I have stuff there right?
    Should I accept her offer and use that to my advantage somehow to see her back again and try to work things out?

    I would appreciate your advice as if this scenario is no covered in your book (leaving my stuff there while I’m not living there anymore) it might not help me fully.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      You are wise to think that you should cut “all ties”, that means you are serious and you will kick loves ass.

      This plan is not about getting your ex girlfriend back, it is about getting your life back first.

      Get your stuff out of there and become completely independent, this will enforce the message you want to convey when you send her the recommended no contact message later on.

      Plus, what if she gets pissed off one day and decides to throw all your stuff out?

      Which will happen as soon as you start dating someone new.

      Get your stuff, and then get your personal evolution started.

      Make sure you read the entire free plan once in it’s entirety before following the steps from the beginning, OK?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  47. Ashley says:

    Me, and my ex were together for a year and a half. We broke up about 5 months ago, and he moved 500 miles away like it wasnt nothing. He tried to call me several times before he moved, but i wouldnt answer because i was so hurt by the way he had treated me, He always tried to act like he was better than me, and always was very spitful of everything. He broke my heart, and i have a child that was involved as well. So finally he called about 3 months ago, and was very rude to me, and i didnt exspect that at all, and by the way the child involed is not his son. It was like he broke my heart again, and i was exspecting him to be nice since we hadnt talked in a while. So for about 3 days we didnt talk then i called him, and we started talking and he pretty much said that i would have to move to be with him, but when he said that he acted like really he didnt care if i did or not! I text him about 2 weeks ago asking how he had been, and he didnt respond to my text untill almost 2 wks later, and claimed he didnt get it untill the day before. I feel like he is just playing games, and he is 500 miles away and i dont no anything he is doing. So i let him call 3 times before i would answer the phone. I was at work when he called and told him i was busy if he didnt mnd to just call me back in an hour so that we could talk. Well its been 3 days now, and he still hasnt called back!! What should i do???

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Don’t worry about what your ex boyfriend is doing, and focus on getting past the break up, and getting your life back again.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  48. Ashley says:

    Also i love him alot, and still miss him just as much as i did the first week we were apart. I just dont think he feels the same way, but then again he may because when we did talk i told him that i was doing good, and that made him really mad.

  49. Ashley says:

    I f he does call back should i answer the first time, or should i let him call for a few day first?

  50. Ali says:

    I broke up with my ex about five months ago, and still love him and want to be with him again, but he has a new girlfriend and apparently are in love. I have been using the no contact rule for two months now,he has text me a few times asking me if I’m doing ok,and the last text he sent me was “you were right I made the biggest mistake of my life” . I still did not answer him because it was 2am and I thought maybe he was just drunk texting or that he was setting me up to say something mean after had I answered him. Not to mention the fact that I didn’t want to seem desprit. It has been three weeks since that text and I have not heard from him again, has he maybe given up and just decided to continue with his new girlfriend? What should I do, send him a message? Thanks!

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      He is still dating another girl, why would you send him a message?

      How are you using no contact, did you read and follow ALL the steps in the free plan on my Blog?

      If not, do that right away, and start using NC correctly.

      The free plan is about getting your life back, not about getting your ex boyfriend back.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  51. Michelle says:

    Dear S.W.,

    I’ve read every website, forum, and e-book regarding how to get your ex back but I need special help. My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago saying he didn’t think he was 100% in it anymore and it wasn’t fair to me; that he needs time on his own. He said he loves me and he’ll miss me but I need to understand (he was also crying during all of this). I had sensed things were weird with us for a couple of days but didn’t think it would result in a break up. When he told me all this, I did not cry or beg, I simply said that I wish we could work it out together but I understand. That weekend he went out with some mutual friends and told them that he was sorry he broke up with me and how strong I was and that he loves me. He called me 2 days later seeing how I was doing and he said he loves me but I asked him not to say that anymore since it’s hard to hear that he loves me but doesn’t want to be with me. He also said that he sometimes thinks he made a mistake but then he knows this is something he has to do. We then didn’t speak all week and he called me the next Sunday (exactly a week after the first phone call) and left a message since I didn’t pick up. I didn’t call back and he texted me the next day. We briefly chatted and he asked me to call him when I got home from work. I called him later that night and we talked for about 5-10 minutes just about our weeks and work and he asked me how I was doing. I told him good (I was very casual and calm on the phone) and he said the same. He also said he doesn’t know how to handle this (like when to call or when to give me space) and I said I didn’t know either. Again we didn’t speak all week but he called me yesterday for Christmas and left a message. I didn’t call back, instead I texted him saying thank you and we quickly chatted about how we had nice days with family. At the end of the convo he said call me if you ever want to talk. I said alright, sounds good. I haven’t initiated any contact since he broke up with me. I want another chance at our relationship and will continue no contact (this time not even answering when he calls or texts). I’m afraid he will just think I’m being bitter and then if he realizes he made a mistake he won’t contact me thinking that I wouldn’t answer anyway. I’m confused and don’t know what my next few steps should be. Help please!

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      If you want to have another chance with your ex you must get your life back first.

      If you want to get your life back, you need to use no contact correctly.

      You are not using no contact correctly at this time, you are just ignoring your ex.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  52. Mary says:

    My boyfriend asked me for time after 6 moths of dating he is going through a divorce, he said he loved me but he just needed time, of course I went into panic mode and did everything I was not suppose to do, so he said it was over and that was it. I started the no contact tactic and in a week from saying he didn’t want anything to do with me he added me back to facebook and send me a message “hope all is well” I responded that everything was great and that I hope he was doing well. He asked for details and so I just replied that I was moving on with life. This happened yesterday and he has not written today, I have not called or written either, what does this mean?

    • S. Williams says:

      Mary says:

      I started the no contact tactic and in a week from saying he didn’t want anything to do with me he added me back to facebook and send me a message “hope all is well” I responded that everything was great and that I hope he was doing well.

      Hi,

      I don’t know what “no contact tactic” you are using, but NC doesn’t work if you break it after a week.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s, if you are confused, go read the “About” section on my Blog.

      If you are interested in learning how to correctly use NC to evolve past the break up and get your life back, go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  53. leila says:

    Hi,
    My childhood friend of 12 years dated me for a year and half Relationship was great but i think it was a rebound.Now he’s back with his ex whom he dated back in college. Well i love him so much but i also believe each one is free to love whoever we choose to. He says we are still friends and we are still in contact. I call him often when i need something and he calls once in a while.When i call him he answers and anytime i ask him to call me he does call but usually he calls back when he is not busy. I was wondering if the no contact rule will help

    • S. Williams says:

      leila says:

      I was wondering if the no contact rule will help

      Hi,

      I am thinking you and your ex have a different idea about the definition of “great”, because if he felt the same way as you, he wouldn’t have left, right?

      The no contact rule works great to help you evolve past the break up and get your life back again, which is much better than waiting around for your ex boyfriend to come back.

      Go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  54. tasha says:

    HI SCOT, Boyfriend nd i have been dating exclusively 4 15months nd we started LDR may last year bcus he left 4 his masters which i visited him once met his parents nd their were so proud of him for chosing me, His Mum nd Dad r fond of me, i run erands 4 dem, his Dad actually me One day Dat i was his HERO bcus He was satisfied wit d erand he sent me, his Mum said she wil support me No Matter What, Well 4 d past few months afta my visitation things changed,he never calls, our only means of communication was chatting thru Blackberry msger which i complained abt, We both promise 2 make our LDR work but i realize twas one sided. Which i complained, cried nd he promised 2 change but O’course tins got worse. He knws i can’t leave him so he wud misbehave nd i wud still take him back regardless, this went on 4 abt 4months. The thing is wheneva i ignore him it works, he sucks up to me but i jst can’t ignore him 4 long.. Am jst so fond of him nd keep putting up with his shit… Last month i told him that i was done trying nd that our relationship has drained me emotionally so i was setting him free 2 enjoy his freedom nd thanked him for making it easy which he replied nd said so u were lookin 4 a way 2 leave me? That same day i told my brother abt this, he said he needed 2 speak wit my boyfriend nd asked for his mobile number, my brother called him 2 ask what was goin on with us. He told my brother that their are sumtins he sees in me nd he doesn’t think i will eva change. Well when my brother told me abt dis, i called my boyfriend 2 be specific abt dos tins… Here was what he said to me: You’re Very Rude, Not To Me But In General And I Think You Can Control Me And Pple Don’t Change From tings Like Dis Easily, I Don’t Want To Play Around, But The Thing Is You’re A Cheerful Giver Which Is A Good Trait But Their Are Sometins Dat Shud Not Jst Go. I Don’t Knw Where This Is Goin But Let Jst Watch How Tins Wud Turn Out, Long Distance Relationship Neva Always work Out The Way We Plan Them, I Thot I Cud Handle It. Rite Now I Don’t know What I Want…… So i asked if he wants to breakup nd he Said NO but maybe we shud both take a break nd kept sayin we’re not breakin up…. I asked how long he wants 2 be apart? He said he can’t answer dat… Then i said Well have actually been thinkin of us takin a break even b4 now,he said Oh Really? I C, nd i replied nd said i wish u all the best, he was upset abt that.. Told him gudnite nd he replied i wud talk 2 u 2mauro… All dis discussion was on blackberry msger, he contacted me 2days later say Hey! U there but read n dint reply, i kept lvin my life and goin 4 parties wit frnds, i change my profile pics all the time so he sees it, He tried contactin 3times but wud read n ignore 4 2weeks, I eventually Checked on him sayin hello nd askin how school was, he replied nd said school is fine and i hope ure ok thou? I said am fine tanx… Dat was how long d conversation lasted, Dat same day i decieded 2 send the no contact message, I sent it to him, Guess what? He read it nd replied LOL but i ignored him… He’s stil on my blackberry contacts, i stopped updating my status and profile pictures, Its been 2weeks of no contact with him nd i knw 4 sure he’s waiting 4 me 2 talk 2 him first bcus he’s very sure of me,dat i love him so much 2 move on..he’s goin 2 be disappoint dis time bcus I’m so ready dis time, WAS SENDING THE NO CONTACT MESSAGE THE RIGHT THING TO DO? Am Sori dat d message its a bit long nd i hope u wud find time 2 read it : D

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      First things first, I don’t even attempt to read text language.

      If you want my full attention, write to me in complete sentences, and in English.

      Second, why use something you do not believe in? If you weren’t sure about the no contact rule for your situation, why did you send the NC message?

      Third, why ask if it was the right thing to do after you already did it?

      That is what I call a redundant question.

      If you want to evolve past the break up, and get your life back, while revealing your ex boyfriends true feelings for you, NC is the way to go.

      Go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      • tasha says:

        Hi,
        Ok, Sorry about the text abbrevation… Thought you would be able to read it, My Question still is. Why did my boyfriend replied LOL when i sent him the NC message? And Please how do i avoid his parents during this time because they can’t seems to do anything without my help like erands and stuffs! Should i say no to them when the call for my help? My boyfriend is still in school in the states and his parents live about 15minutes from my house. Am looking for a polite way of saying NO to them whenever the call me for any kind of help! Plus i really do want to buy THE MAGIC OF MAKING UP. Am in Africa

  55. S. Williams says:

    tasha says:

    Why did my boyfriend replied LOL when i sent him the NC message?

    Hi,

    He was only trying to play it off.

    You kicked his ass if you used the NC message outlined in the free plan.

    tasha says:

    And Please how do i avoid his parents during this time because they can’t seems to do anything without my help like erands and stuffs! Should i say no to them when the call for my help? My boyfriend is still in school in the states and his parents live about 15minutes from my house. Am looking for a polite way of saying NO to them whenever the call me for any kind of help!

    If you like to help them, keep helping them, but once your ex comes home, let him take over.

    If you don’t want to help them anymore, just be polite, and tell them you are too busy or something. I am sure they will catch the drift once they realize their son broke up with you.

    As far as buying the book, just go through clickbank it is the only way to purchase MOMU. There is a link in the free plan for buying the book if you’re interested.

    Thank you for writing.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  56. deannes says:

    Hi!
    When my boyfriend broke up with me he kept saying he didnt want to lose me as a friend. He kept saying he just had too much going on and he needed time to figure out things. Of course I argued with him and told him that if he ended things with me I could not be just his friend. He was in contact with me within a couple of days. He got mad when I missed his call but we had talked just chit chat. He was out of town at the time but I had to by his house for something. While I was there I left a note. ( this was all before I ever found your website). In the note I did state that I needed time to myself to think things out. I did not want to speak much and the friendship things would not work but if he wanted to work things out he knew where I was. I also said I would not wait forever and would be moving on. I was giving myself a month to get my life together. Only a few days went by after he got the letter and he texted me. I responded but kept it short. He texted again a few days later. A Few days later I made the msitake of texting him and got an immediate responce but it was short. So I quit texting him. In the past month I only contacted him that once. I havent talked to him in two weekds. I mainly said the whole month thing so I could try to move on myself if he didnt come back and to show him I wasnt gonna wait forever.. Well its been a month almost. Did I do the right thing? I feel like I screwed up. But alls I know is that I am not im not contacting him again..

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Obviously your method of NC is not working very well, otherwise you wouldn’t be posting on my Blog, right?

      If you want to learn how to use the no contact rule correctly keep reading, and be prepared to send the recommended NC message.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  57. Lo says:

    I’m just curious if this is worth the effort so I’m asking for some direction. I dated this guy for only a month in a half, we have known each other a year and never gave into his advances in wanting to date him before, but I thought his persistance made me think twice, so I gave in. So after a month in a half after spening alot of time together which he was always hitting me up for my free time to spend with him and asking me to stay the night all the time, I did. But one Sunday after staying the night he seemed distant, so I went home, normally he would say ” come back over later”. But he said nothing, so when I got home he called me two hours later just to talk, again he seemed distant, so I asked is “everything okay”? Then I said “do you want me to come over tonight”, he replied “no” “maybe Tuesday”. I already felt something wasn’t right, so I asked him “are you tired of me?” he replied ” a little”. So I asked “are you burnt out of spending time with me”? He said “everyone gets burnt out of something”. So I told him I have to get off the phone, but I called hime back later to break it off, Im like screw this, I don’t deserve this ‘doll on the shelf bs”. Anyway, I took him off my FB page and never heard nothing till the next day at 6am, he wanted to tell me how much he misses my hugs and kisses and cares so much for me, I told him I would miss him but whats done is done, then I said I got to go, he sent me a text later that afternoon and I never replied, I havent heard from him since and it’s been 5 days and he removed me from his instant messenger. So this sums up all my bs dating issues, I really have feelings for this guy and am a very strong woman, I can do the non- contact forever but I really do miss the guy. from what I wrote does this sound like it could work or is dating a guy for a month in a half even worth the the thoughtof trying to have back in my life? I will go on no mater what, I know I deserve to be adored.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Your question is about whether the free plan will work to get your ex back, even after a short relationship, right?

      If you’re only worried about getting your ex boyfriend back, you’re in the wrong place.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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