Does My Ex Miss Me? – How to Get My Ex Boyfriend Back

 
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Making your ex miss you is your first step in getting your ex-boyfriend back, again.

Well, does your ex miss you?

You better hope so.

Right?

But, don’t you think a better question would be, how do I make “my ex-boyfriend” miss me?

I do.

 


 

Step 1 – Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

 

The easiest way to make your ex-boyfriend miss you is to disappear from his radar.

If you are constantly in his face asking about the breakup, or, bugging him to come back to you, you are always around.

He is not going to start to miss you.

How could he?

If you start to pull away from him, he will notice, and, wonder why.

Now, you have started to turn the tables, and, you are back on his mind again.

I don’t care if he is dating another woman, at the moment.

He hasn’t fallen completely out of love with you, and, he sure as hell hasn’t forgotten you, either.

The best way to get the ball rolling is to use the no contact rule, and, send an effective NC message.

A correctly written NC message will flip your ex-boyfriend’s (emotional) switch, and, make him start to miss you, even faster, sound good?

It should.

But, if you don’t use, the no contact rule, correctly, you will be setting yourself back.

So, don’t be afraid to write and send, an effective no contact message.

So, does your ex, miss you, yet?

Well, if he doesn’t, he soon will.

Take it from me, once you start using the no contact rule, you’ll soon have your ex-boyfriend back in your arms, again.

 


 

Step 2 – Reconnect With Your Boyfriend

 

Now, that you have been following a good plan using the no contact rule, things will begin to evolve, nicely.

Your ex-boyfriend will start coming around more, and, you will take back more and more control…the right way.

Getting your ex-boyfriend back requires a good balance between pushing and pulling.

What do I mean?

You need to keep him interested enough, without falling back into the friends with benefits zone.

You will become very good at this.

Why?

Because, during your no contact period, you should have been practicing a series of exercises designed to give you back your confidence, and self control.

The needy, scared little girl he broke up with, no longer exists.

Does your ex miss you?

I would say he not only misses you, but, loves this new woman, you have become.

Your personal and emotional evolution has more than just prepared you to get your ex-boyfriend back.

You have learned how to get him back, and, keep him forever.

 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008, to overcome breakup pain, and, get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section, that I recommend you read.

I realize the address, of my site, is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but, I “really” teach people, how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me, (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter, for access to the free breakup survival plan, and, start getting your life back, today.

The answers you need, to start your personal evolution, are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come, and get them.

Once, you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

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  1. can i get my ex boyfriend back? Even if he wants to friends not to be in a relationship with me again??

    1. Hi,

      Staying friends with your ex while you still have deeper feelings is a bad idea, it will not help you get him back, it will only help him to move on, and leave you stranded in relationship limbo.

      You need to refuse his offer of friendship, and start using the no contact rule to get over the breakup.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

      Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

      This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  2. Hello, I have a personal dilemma. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years about 2 years ago, I tried to contact him last year and it didn’t end well and realized I wasn’t ready. I’m still not over him and not sure how to get him back. HE said he is dating another girl, and seems to have moved on, but is joking with me and texting me back rather soon..after I contact him. Hes the kind with an ego and is a bit self-centered. Any advice? Please? thanks.

    1. Hi,

      It sounds like he is looking for something “on the side”, and he figures since you are still not over him, that he will use that to his advantage.

      If he has a girlfriend, what is he doing flirting with you?

      Sounds like a real trustworthy guy.

      I would advise you to use the no contact rule, and evolve past your ex boyfriend, and finally move on.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

      1. Is that what you think? I actually did no contact for a year at a time, I did tell him last year I wanted him back accidently over the phone. Is there anyway I can grab his attention? He actually told me too he has not be intimate since me..

        1. Hi,

          Yeah, he is definitely after some side sex.

          He hasn’t been intimate in over 2 years?

          Yeah right.

          If you used the no contact rule, you obviously didn’t use it correctly.

          That is why I recommend you follow every step in the free plan.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  3. Im not sure what to do anymore. I was with my ex-fiance for 4 years. We got into a big arguement and stopped talking to each other for almost 6 months. He came looking for me and I missed him so much. We hung out a couple of times and we did end up having sex, and I know that was wrong of me to do. When we hang out he tells me that he misses me and that he misses how we use to be. We have become best friends again and I do have a boyfriend now but my feelings are so strong for him. My ex hates that I have a boyfriend now, I recently went to California to see my boyfriend. My ex called me and text me everyday, to see if I was ok and he said that he missed hearing my voice. When I came back he gave me the biggest hug and told me that he really missed me. He sometimes says things about us getting back together and when I ask him if we will ever get back together all he tells me that he doesnt know what to do. Should I even bother to fight for a future with my ex or should I just give up on us. Some people say that maybe it would be better to just give up on him but I dont know what to do anymore.Please help me with any type of advice.

    1. Hi,

      It appears that your ex wants to be friends with benefits.

      He sometimes says things about us getting back together and when I ask him if we will ever get back together all he tells me that he doesnt know what to do.

      He is just stringing you along, if he wanted you back, he would have asked you to come back, not just feed you enough bullshit to confuse you.

      As long as he has you confused, he will get the friends with benefits, and you will only get “more” confused.

      I recommend that you use the no contact rule, and end this FWB situation.

      Plus, your boyfriend in CA doesn’t deserve to be cheated on.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  4. Hello- I was with my ex-boyfriend for over six years.We have been separated for just over a year now. We tried to work things out a few times and then just stopped talking. Recently we have started talking again. He has taking me to dinner a few times. He has stayed over once. If he just wants to be friends why does he pay for everything like we are together? Why does he want to snuggle? But then everytime we start to get close he says we are just friends and sorry if he was misleading me. Im glad we are talking and hanging out again. Just not sure what to do or how to take this. Does anyone have any advice? I love him with all my heart. I have tried to date but nothing works out because I truely feel this is the man Im suppose to marry

    1. Hi,

      It sounds like you’re in the “friends with benefits zone”, and the paying for dinner, and “snuggling” are just some of the things he is willing to do for the “benefits” of “unattached sex”.

      You are screwed (not in the good way) if you don’t wake up and stand up for yourself.

      You can’t marry someone if they don’t want to be married.

      The reason the dating isn’t working out is because you’re not putting “much” effort into it.

      If you put as much effort into correctly using the no contact rule to evolve past this break up and get your life back, as you do into trying to convince yourself this guy is the one, you would be a lot happier.

      Drugs make people feel happy for a little while, but what happens when they wear off, in the long they cause way more pain/damage than pleasure.

      You need to break your addiction to this guy, there is a big difference between obsession and love, and “booty calls” and a meaningful relationship.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  5. One week ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months because of commitment issues (his fear of/refusal to). He revealed that he had unresolved feelings from a previous relationship (from years ago…and he ws still in contact with her sometimes). Two days after the breakup, he has emailed me, apologizing profusely for hurting me. I did not answer. A few days after that, he texted me about returning some items that I left at his house – I didn’t respond to that either. I do want him back, but not now. I want him to work through his issues before I could take him back…but I also want him to realize what he has and that he doesn’t want to lose me. I feel that’s already happened a little, since he initiated contact. I have typed out a response to his email, explaining what I desire in a relationship, I want him to take time to work thru his issues, and that I can not/will not take anything less…but I have not sent it yet. My question to you is: since I broke up with him, and he’s already contacted me with an apology, should I go ahead and send the email I wrote now, wait to send my email (if I should wait, how long??), or initiate your NO CONTACT??

    1. Hi,

      I would just delete your email, it was good therapy to write it out, but you won’t get the results you are after by sending that to your ex.

      Anytime you feel you have something to say to him, write it in a home journal, but don’t send it to him, you will regret it.

      The best way to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you is to use the no contact rule correctly.

      It doesn’t matter if you broke up with him, there is a version of the (recommended) NC message for that situation, read the plan.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  6. I was dating this guy from my job and he broke up with me. I was so hurt,I asked him why, i was sorry, and he just said that we wasn’t or I wasn’t ready.he had a lot of issues with him.but I think i loved him. so , i ended that conversation with me saying that i was hurt, and i didn’t call for him for a week i even stayed home from work. so when i went back to work, i saw him in the hall and we talked for a hour, he wanted to know what i been doing, he been going on face-book to see my status and my pic, he told me all this when he saw me, he even told me he had free time for two weeks and he was going to spend time with me. and in that moment, i thought he was trying to get back with me, and when the time came nothing he stop picking up my call again,I feel he is seeing someone else.and what hurts me is when i see him at work he wants to talk and smile in my face.
    so, what i did this time around when he didn’t pick up my call i deleted him from my face-book, so he won’t see whats going on in my life. I took a little vacation from work so i won’t see him for a while, and his position at work he can tell if i am there are not.but i am so hurt.but i want him back.. but i know i need to stay away for a while

  7. Hi! So It has bEen more than a month I followed the rules etc. I also am following the magic of making up. So I called him and he answered right away and said how surprised he was that I called. We talked for a bit and told me how he’s going away for 10days the following week. So I said oh I guess that ruins my plan to meet up for lunch next week and he quickly responded saying what about this week?! So we met up two days after that call. Oh and 2hra aftter that call he texted how surprised he was to get a text from me and I said j hope it was a good surprise an he said defiantly a good surprise. Anyway we hung out for no more than 45mins we didnt talk about the relationship. 20mins after I left he texted me “it was really good to see you 🙂 even if it was only briefly” I responded saying yes it was fun! He wrote back saying we should catch up again when he’s back in town.
    Anyway he hasn’t initiated a text since then. I initiated a Text once telling him something funny. He’s gone today for ten days.
    I donno what to do now. I donno If he’s just happy cause he thinks we can be friends again. we were in love and together more than a year. Do I stop initiating contact again? I miss him.
    I do know that he has been talking to an ex of his they dated like a month three years ago. I’m tempted
    To check her fb to see if he writes to her.
    You’re help would be greatly appreciated. I just don’t know what to do now.

    1. Hi,

      First off let me say this, 30 days is only a bench mark and 99% of the time is never long enough for the no contact rule to work effectively.

      The majority of these break up success stories will attest to that statement.

      I am not sure what you meant by “you followed the rules”, does that mean you followed ALL the steps in the free plan to get your ex back?

      Spying on your ex will not do you any good, and is definitely a sign of desperation, which means you were not ready to reconnect with your ex.

      You said he is leaving out of town for 10 days, right?

      I suggest you wait a week after he gets back, and if he doesn’t contact you, send the recommended no contact message as outlined in the free plan to get your ex back and start your personal evolution.

      Make sure you review chapter 6 of The Magic of Making up for more details on the reconnection phase in-case he does contact you after he gets back…make sense?

      Now, if he contacts you and just wants to be friends, start following the free plan to get your ex back, and send the NC message.

      The last place you want to find yourself in, is, “the just friends zone”, also known as relationship limbo.

      The reason NC hasn’t worked for you is probably the fact that you didn’t follow ALL the steps in the free plan to get your ex back.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  8. Also, I guess this could help other people in my situation. Its all about that fact that our exes know us very well. We are used to letting our guard down with them and that first contact is much like a first impression. You HAVE to be on your game or else you just messed everything up.

    Even if I do feel ready, I’m still going to bring a friend. Just to make sure I keep my guard up and keep things short. Business is business. Change isn’t always bad, I’m making a choice that can only prove to be a good thing for my life. I can’t let my ex stand in the way, especially since that really lies with me. Choice is a POWERFUL thing. We all need to remember that.

  9. thanks!!! I’m probably gonna end up having a friend come with me. Me and my ex were together 2 years so…it won’t be easy to just say I’m not ready and leave it at that.:/

    I know myself oh so well haha

    thanks again

  10. So my ex and I broke up about a week ago, he broke up with me… I cried and stuff even though my mind said be cool and just act like im okay with it, i did NOT keep it together. Silly Me 😉 Anyways, I sent the NC message [exact] the next day and he “responded”, a few days later, by tagging me in a photo on google plus.

    I had already deactivated my fb and deleted my google plus [how did he tag me]the day we broke up. well i have a google profile and i guess he can tag me with, idk, so I deleted that too after I got the email. I haven’t heard from him since.

    Well school is starting soon and I have a bunch of his things, stuff I’m not throwing away because he was supposed to get it a long time ago. I just need help on how to give him his things back. What I should say if he wants to talk. I put everything in the trunk of my car so he won’t be coming into my house.

    I don’t think he would show up unannounced, but he may ask for his belongings before I’m ready. I think I’d be okay with giving him his stuff that day, he’s moving into his new place so its not strange that he needs his stuff.

    But I need a little guidance on what to say if he brings up the relationship or getting together or wanting to know what I’m doing. Stuff like that. I HAVE to keep together, not like when we broke up.

    My evolution process is going fine. I forgave him and myself for everything we ever did wrong in the past. I was over holding onto the past, that’s part of the reason we broke up. I’ve been into God lately and has made me so much stronger. I usually would have broke down by now, and I would have been holding a huge grudge against him. Also, working out and eating right has made me feel so good:)

    I have MOMU and read this blog but I haven’t found my answer.
    This was supposed to be short, oh well lol

    1. Monkey says:

      I just need help on how to give him his things back. What I should say if he wants to talk.

      Hi,

      This is explained in one of the NC articles linked to the free plan.

      If he tries to talk about the break up, the no contact rule, or your current personal (dating) life.

      The best way to reply would be to say: “I am not ready to talk about that right now.”

      This statement will reinforce what you said in the NC message you sent to him earlier.

      The worse thing you can do during NC is to send “mixed signals” this will only piss your ex boyfriend off and confuse him.

      Stick to the free plan to get your ex back, and do not break the no contact rule.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – If you feel this would be too much for you, you can always have a friend do the exchange for you, or come with you when you do it.

  11. My boyfriend and I broke up about three weeks ago. I begged him the friday we broke up, called him on tuesday to make certain he was sure and beg him a tad more, and didn’t talk to him since. But I broke the no contact rule about a week later and texted him to which he didn’t answer. And then about another week later inboxed him saying I was ready to be friends. I broke the NC rule various times, but I’ve stayed strong for about over a week now and I’m sure I will not contact him first again. Did I mess everything up? Or is there a chance he’ll miss me anyway?

    1. Hi,

      Since you fucked up the NC process from day one, you will need to start over and do it right, and that means sending the recommended NC message.

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you, if you use it correctly.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your guy back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  12. Hi me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 months and recently we had our fights but made up. well this weekend that just past i went up to his aunts cottage and we were having a good time till we went on the seadoo and my boyfriend fliped it and i got hurt bruised and scratched my leg so i got mad at him and basically that ruined our weekend. then yesturday i texted him and he said things dont seem the same with us anymore and that he would call. He called me and broke up with me. I asked him if he wanted to break up he said no and that he had feelings for me but then he did. He said he could committ and that we were to young and that the distance hour drive was killing him cause we only saw each other 2twcie a week. so all he has saying were excueses. i told him if he broke up with him i would be out of his life and not be friends with him. so i just decided to say ” i wish you all the best and said goodbye and hungup the phone. I didnt cry on the phone im more mad then upset. i have tryed to contact him just waiting to seem if he does. for the no contact rule could i just leave it the way i did or do i have to write the no contact rule message?

    1. I havent tryed to contact him- i missed said that.

    2. Hi,

      The NC message outlined in the free plan is necessary if you want the best results in the least amount of time.

      It doesn’t matter what you or your ex boyfriend said or did.

      I help people use the no contact rule in the most effective way to evolve past the break up and get their life back again.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  13. Hi- i was in love with this guys for 4 years and we loved each other very much and nothing could come between us we trusted each other.we use to have misunderstaning at times that he does not spend time for me but i trusted him very much. he moved to anther place after he got a job but we use to talk every day suddenly he said i am stressed at need a break and then he said i am like another girl. i tried hard but he said i have proposed to her and she said ok. will i ever get him back. does he still love me.

    1. Hi,

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  14. yup, i have read the free plan and have registered in your forum… the problem is, i couldn’t write the break up story and NC diaries cause i wasn’t able to log in the forum website… it always says that i have an ‘incorrect’ password.. and with my no contact situation, it seems like i have no choice but to respond sometimes when he’s asking about school stuff cause we do live together… do you have any other suggestions what words would i use if i were to write ANOTHER NC message for him? it’s really difficult because of our situation… and i do understand what NC means having been able to purchase the magic of making up book a couple of weeks ago… i really want to get my life back together and do the no contact rule effectively, but in my situation, it’s really very hard…that’s why i decided to join your forum so i would be able to see some situations the same as mine… unfortunately, i haven’t been able to read one situation the same as mine. and i want to join your forum badly to release my panic and fears and all that stuff.. thanks!

    1. Hi,

      You do not have to join our forum to follow the free plan to get your ex back and succeed.

      Keep reading (my Blog and forum) there are quite a few stories about roommates using the no contact rule to get their lives back.

      Start a home journal (as explained in the free plan) to “release panic and fears and all that stuff”.

      Our forum is NOT the place for that and one of the #1 reasons members get banned from posting.

      You need to fully understand the concept behind the free plan in-order to benefit from it, and that means reading, not posting…lots and lots of reading.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  15. hi s. williams,
    i am so relieved to have seen this website because i really need some ‘professional help’ day-to-day guidance stuff. i guess i need to tell you my story first. my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me last month. it’s not the ‘typical’ breakup situation we have here. you see, we, and two of our friends just started our medical school last month in a different country/place away from our homes. we have already paid for our studio type apartment for the whole year, we have the same classes, school…etc.. you name it. before school started, my boyfriend broke up with me saying ‘he’s not happy anymore. and he thinks we do not have a future together.’ i was devastated but i didn’t show it. i immediately bought magic of making up and get him back forever ebooks. i made the NC letter. but you see, i cannot make him absolutely ‘miss’ me because we have the same classes and house! i couldn’t go out much because of the hectic schedule of medical school. during the 3rd week, i broke down. stupid of me. and i told him to please leave me alone and go back to our country. he was very angry. and after that, we prayed for each other. then, now, i don’t know what to do. it’s almost a month after our breakup. i don’t text him, nor ignore him that much, but there is a tension between us. please help me? how do i make him miss me? aside from that, i heard he’s interested in another girl already. i’m doing my best not to panic at the thought but i really need some help right now. thanks!

    1. Hi,

      First off, I am NOT a “professional”, so this is not professional advice…just my opinion.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      If you want your man back for good, you must get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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