Does My Ex Boyfriend Want Me Back? – 3 Revealing Signs

 
Follow A Good Plan To Find Out If Your Ex Boyfriend Wants You Back
 


 
You can read your ex boyfriends mind and see if he does want you back, just look for these 3 revealing signs.

If your ex wanted you back, it is not difficult to see, because body language, is very hard to hide.

If you know what to look for, you will see right through his words and into his mind.

So, lets get started, so you can find out; “Does my ex boyfriend want me back or not?”
 


 

Over Reacting

 
Does your ex boyfriend tend to over react?

Does he say things like; “We will never get back together!”

If so, he probably still has strong feelings for you.

When someone over emphasizes something, they usually mean the exact opposite of what they are over emphasizing.

People think they can hide their true feelings with anger…this is not true.

So you ask if my ex yells at me; “Does my ex boyfriend want me back?”

The answer is “yes” he still has strong feelings for you that he is desperately trying to hide.
 


 

What A Coincidence

 
Here is another revealing sign.

Do you find yourself running into your ex boyfriend a lot?

Does he always seem to be showing up at the places he knows you hang out at?

Then he pretends not to see you until he catches you looking at him, and then he approaches like you called him over or something.

A-ha!

He is following you around and that means he is still very much attached to you.

If you keep tripping over your ex boyfriend like he was your shadow, I would say he still has strong feelings for you.

So,”Does my ex boyfriend want me back?”

I do, I really do think he wants his ex girlfriend back, but, he is too stubborn, to admit it.
 


 

Just Thought I Would…

 
Drop you a line to see how you have been?

OK, this is another revealing sign that your ex boyfriend wants you back.

Do you know what those little dropped lines really are?

They are hooks…each little note is a way to keep you hooked on thinking about him.

Oh, how thoughtful that my ex boyfriend worries about me even though we are broken up.

It is not just being thoughtful your ex boy friend is keeping his memory foremost in your mind, so you will not start dating someone else while he is trying to figure out what to do.

He does not want you to exchange him for someone else.

If you are experiencing these 3 revealing signs (or something close to them) then your ex is still interested.

It’s time to act.

Does your ex boyfriend want you back?

Well, I would say, the best way to find that out, for sure, is to follow a good plan for reconnection.

Go find yourself, a good plan, and start working on, getting back together, with your ex boyfriend.
 


 

Winning Your Ex Back

 
What?

You want to know if your ex boyfriend wants you back.

And yet, you still do not have a plan?

It is hard to get to your destination without a good map.

If you have any comments or questions, please write them below in the comment box, and I will answer them ASAP!

Does your ex boyfriend want you back?

What can I do to help you find out?

What are you willing to do if he does want you back?
 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 
My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008, to overcome breakup pain, and, get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section, that I recommend you read.

I realize the address, of my site, is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but, I “really” teach people, how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me, (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter, for access to the free breakup survival plan, and, start getting your life back, today.

The answers you need, to start your personal evolution, are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come, and get them.

Once, you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

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  1. after a period of nc, then lc, i’m am back in regular contact with my ex. we see each other often…once or twice a week. he’s shown me several signs that he still cares about me…anger, jealousy, protectiveness, affection…and i just try to keep my cool and not question him about it (too much). but we just don’t seem to be moving ahead or making progress. should i go back to NC or would that be a mistake at this time?

    1. Hi,

      I don’t think you ever used the no contact rule correctly, so unless you like where you are now the ‘just friends’ zone, I highly suggest you start using it again, but this time use it correctly.

      The no contact rule takes a lot more time to work than most people think, much more than 30 days, more like 9-12 months…closer to 12.

      The trouble is most people are afraid to use it long enough because they fear it will make their ex leave them forever, and this reveals their obsession (not love affair) with their ex.

      The harder you try to get your ex back, the farther they push him (your ex boyfriend) away by neglecting yourself.

      If you are obsessed with getting your ex back, and ‘need them’ to be happy, you are showing this person (your ex) that you are essentially ‘incomplete’.

      An obsessed, incomplete, and needy person is not very attractive, to anyone, including your ex boyfriend.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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      1. Hi

        I had a relationship with him for 10 years. In the beginning I told myself not to start off with him because he is a married man. All of our friends included myself knows he was badly neglected by his wife..and with his non-stop going after me..we started at 2002. Only recently March this year, he wanted a call off our relationship with reason saying he cannot give me any happiness. He cannot leave his wife as he feels that he still ve the responsible to take care of her even he has lost feeling towards her.

        I accepted his decision but was tough for me. I cried everyday..with memories of how we went thru the past 10 years. I was with him thru up when he was at his down time over his career..when he was very sick admitted to hospital..etc..

        Its been months since he wanted to break up. We didnt contact each other until last week i received his missed call with a follow text saying he accidentally dial up my number at hospital. His mum was admitted there. After the text, he didnt call me anymore.

        I was very lost without him since day he wanted us thru. I just wanna know does he miss me too? Afterall it was a 10 years relationhsip. Will he call me one day to date me out again? My birthday is coming two weeks time. Will he ask me out on my birthday? And if he does, does that mean he is care for me? And if he doesnt, what should i do?

        Lost…..

        1. Hi,

          You probably do not want to hear this, but it is the truth.

          It was an affair, you can’t have a real relationship with someone who is married.

          How can you trust someone who would disrespect his wife and cheat on her?

          I would not worry about if he ‘misses you’ or not.

          He is a married man, and he made his decision about your affair, and you should respect that, and move on.

          If you use the no contact rule correctly, you can evolve past this breakup.

          I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their married ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

          Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

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          1. Hi Scott

            Thank you for the replied.

            I understand and will move on strongly.

            Thank you.

  2. Dear Scott

    Last December I met a guy that was literally the man of my dreams (physically) and who behaved as I have always wanted to be treated. I couldn’t believe myself that  someone like that existed. However, we broke up at the beginning of this month and the story went from fairy tale to HORROR in a matter of 2 weeks. This is my break up story bellow….

     My ex and I broke up on March 5th after two and an half months of relationship. He introduced himself by stating that he was looking for a serious relationship and that if I wanted a fling, we could leave things just there.  He was prince charming in every sense, and after introducing me to the whole family over Christmas and insisting in moving in together and telling his family our plans and showing them the apartments we had visited, he changed his mind and a week Later our relationship was over.
    The reasons for the break up were literally: “It is not you, it is me”, “I can’t pin point exactly what it is but there is something inside of me that tells me that we are not meant to be together”. The same day, he texted me “by mistake” message to someone else, asking the recipient of the text how soon was too soon to let another girl know that our relationship was over.
    I was devastated; the person that I had always dreamed of was leaving me, without any real reason and now was cheating on me.
    I decided not to contact him for a few days to give him time and space to think, and after a week he texted me to ask if i had changed phone numbers.  The following day he texted me a very emotionless and rude message asking me to pay him back for a prescription medication that he bought for me and a pair of boots that he bought for me. That day, I decided to call him and ask him not to hurt, mistreat or attack me, because I didn’t want to have an argument with him. I agreed to pay him back and told him how important he was to me and that I was leaving the door open to a new beginning with him in the future but that I needed time for myself, to heal.
    Again, no contact on my side, and on March 22 he texted me to let me know that he had told his boss that we broke up (his boss introduced us) and that he had made public our break up. I already knew he broke up with me since day one, so I didn’t understand the purpose of sending me 5 times the same text, and an extra text saying that he didn’t want to be rude just to inform me of what he did. On my side, there was no reply to any of the 6 messages.

    The following day, I was fired from work and the decision was related to the fact that my ex and I were no longer (we worked for the same company), and my boss arranged a “good package” to get rid of me as soon as possible. 

    That night my ex called me to ask what happened. We spoke for a good hour, and he kept giving me advices that included leaving the city, the province and even the country. He offered to help me financially if I needed money to go for job interviews in another city and suggested that I contact my congressman to work as volunteer.

    Devastated even more, I told him that I missed him that I was very affected by our break up, and that he was important to me. Then, he told me to be happy with someone else, that he missed me, that he had feelings for me but that he felt that we are not meant to be together and that he doesn’t see how we could rebuild what we had when we met. I then decided to cut the conversation in a polite way and told him that I was not going to contact him in a while because I needed time to forget him. He was ok about it.

     After that conversation, I realized that communication between us was impossible, because no matter what I said, he was rude and arrogant to me, and I needed to make sure he was not going to text me again next week with some other crazy thing. So two days later, I sent him the no contact message:

    Hi, good morning! You are right. I agree with your decision to break up. I really believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have some decisions to make and need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate if you didn’t contact me during this time, I will be in touch with you when I’m ready.Linda

    Five hours later he replied: Sounds good and good luck!

    I don’t know why but I felt some relief when I got his reply. At this point I don’t know if the NC message touched his ego, or was indifferent to him but I am pretty serious and committed to not contacting him in a while.

     

    Now, that my relationship is over, I have no job, I lost 12 pounds, and 3 weeks of sleep, and I am about to lose my semester at school too, I am trying to gain myself back; and I am my biggest priority now.

     

    At this point, and after his texts, and behavior I am not sure I want him back. I loved the man he showed during the first month, but I totally dislike the selfish, arrogant, and rude person he became with me.
    However, I am still very sad because he made me open up myself to my dream of my own family and made me get attached to his family and It breaks my heart to realize that none of our plans will actually come true.
    I have kept a diary since day one (March 5) and I started counting the days again since I sent the NC message on March 22.
    I don’t know what will happen in the future, nor if there is a future for us; all I know is that I need to recover and forgive myself and cheer up myself, because I was way to painful and costly.
    Today is day 13 of NC and although I wish prince charming and I were still together, I don’t feel the need or anxiety to call or contact him again. I am regaining my appetite and my friends from school are helping me cope with the situation, apply for jobs and pass my classes. However he texted me again today to inform that my ex boss was fired and offering his help to me. This time I didn’t reply.

    I have started to apply for jobs in another province and I am looking forward to move as soon as I find something. 
    I am also planing to join the break up forum and continue working on my self as long as necessary. I need to heal, forgive myself, forgive him for being an asshole and be emotionally independent from anyone. 
    Now, I would love to have your opinion, advice and guidance on this situation. 
    Thank you for your support

    Linda

    1. Linda said:

      I would love to have your opinion, advice and guidance on this situation.

      Hi,

      You did everything right, except adding “Good Morning” to your NC message, it would have been better to have just written “Hi” and left it at that.

      The more emotionless the no contact message is, the better.

      I would suggest that you join our forum (after reading the forum guidelines), and get a forum buddy for more support.

      Losing your job and getting dumped might seem bad at the moment, but it sounds like you got rid of two assholes in one shot, and with your ex, and your old boss out of the way, the universe can deliver you much better options.

      Make sure you take a look at The Law of Attraction and Relationships topic on our forum as well.

      Keep up the good work, and…

      Stay Strong and Positive!

      S.W.

      1. Wow Thank you for the prompt response.
        It means a lot to me!

        I just have a final question:
        Why does he keep texting me once every 7 to 10 days for random reasons?
        Text and week 1: asking if I changed phone numbers
        Text 2, week 1: asking me to pay him back
        Text 3, following to our phone conversation after text 2: saying that no matter what happened between us, he was happy to talk to me and sn outraging qto regain my life back and think of ME
        Text 4, week 3: informing me that he spoke to his boss and made our break up public.
        Text 5, week 4 (today): excusing himself for not respe ring my last message (my NC text) and informing me about my ex boss and hoping I was doing good and offering help.

        Does he want me back?

        I won’t go back now, I still have a lot to work on besides finding a job, but I don’t understand what does he want?

        Any idea from the man and expert’s point of view?

        I will join the forum as adviced

        Thank u again

        1. Linda said:

          but I don’t understand what does he want?

          Hi,

          Does it really matter what he wants?

          No, then why waste brain cycles on it?

          People usually second guess themselves, and feel guilty after they dump someone.

          Or he wants to keep you on the hook until he finds someone else…just in case.

          Do you want to be ‘plan B’?

          Plus, once you regain power over the break up by sending the no contact message, he wants to get ‘the power’ back by getting you to break your own no contact request.

          He dumped you, and you need to figure out what YOU want, don’t worry about what he is thinking or doing.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  3. Okay. Thank you, Scott. I will follow what you said.
    Take care, too.

  4. Thanks, Scott. Question again: If I go NC for like 4-5 months, is it okay? How will he view if I send him a birthday greeting on his birthday if we don’t contact each other anymore? Do you think is it just okay to greet him? Or totally not contact for 5 months?
    Thank you again.

    1. Hi,

      I would plan on (at least) 12 months of no contact for the best results.

      I would not break NC by sending a birthday greeting, reconnection is covered in the last stage of the free plan.

      If you want a fresh start with your ex, or anyone else in the future, you have to stick to the no contact rule long enough for it to work it’s magic.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  5. HI, Scott.
    My bf broke up with me three weeks ago. I sent him an email of apology. He didn’t reply. I haven’t heard of him again. So after three weeks, I decided to send an email similar to NC but it was more on deflating his ego- something like I agreed with the break up, I am moving on, he didn’t have to reply and forgive me, there are good things happening in my life..I thanked him for good times, and happy memories.
    I just sent it today. Do you think it will have an effect on him?
    Thank you, Scott.

    1. Mars said:

      I decided to send an email similar to NC but it was more on deflating his ego Do you think it will have an effect on him?

      Hi,

      No, I don’t, and here’s why?

      Your message sounds like it was designed to hurt your ex, and that will be expected. He hurt you, so you will want revenge…typical.

      The recommended NC message doesn’t do that, and that is why it works so well.

      You can use the no contact rule to evolve past the breakup, and get your life back.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  6. I was reading your blog and your free plan. My ex and I have been talking slowly just about general things maybe once a week tops? But he added me on facebook after I removed him 2 months ago ( since I have been in NC since then.)

    Is it best to not add him or add him. I don’t want to be in the friend zone.. or is this a sign of interest from him.

    1. Hi,

      It doesn’t sound like you have been following the free plan, and you just stopped communicating with your ex which is not the correct way to apply the no contact rule.

      Since you haven’t been using NC correctly, neither you, or your ex, has had the chance to effectively evolve past the break up.

      It sounds like you’re attempting to reconnect (incorrectly) with your ex after 2 months of not talking.

      I suggest you refer to the last stage of the free plan for guidance on reconnecting, and if the reconnection fails I would advise you to start NC over by following ALL the steps in the free plan.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  7. My ex bf has contacted me recently twice. He wanted to to be friends after the break up but I said no. And has now contacted me 3 months after the relationship ended saing he wanted to see how I was, what I was doing and if anything was new. He then asked if I had a bf. I talked to him a bit , but ignored his last text. From your blog above.. does this mean he is wanting to get back in a relationship or is he really just wanting to be friends? When he asked if I had a bf he wasn’t nice about it he said ” you have a new bf now” huh? and then kept asking.

    1. Hi,

      It seems like he is just checking to see if you’re available, why?

      Because it would look like you are waiting around for him.

      If you had used the no contact rule correctly as outlined in the free plan, he would not assume that you would be waiting around for him.

      He thinks the reason you haven’t been talking with him is to punish him for breaking up.

      Apparently he is checking to see if you moved on (dating), or if you’re now open to being friends again (after you had time to cool off), which he will no doubt try to evolve into “friends with benefits”.

      If you want to avoid the FWB zone, and reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you, you need to use the no contact rule correctly.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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      1. ok well I started one contact on my own since the break up and after talked to me. But Ignored his text. Should I just go back in NC then. I don’t really want to be friends. I did say I didn’t have a bf. Hope I didn’t ruin much there. We just talked for a bit and then Ignored his last message to me.

        I’ll just stop talking to him again. Would one contact from me, be enough to assume FWB or just friends?

        1. Hi,

          I didn’t say he assumed you wanted to be FWB’s.

          I said that is what trying to stay friends with him will “probably” lead to.

          You will have sex with him just to keep his attention, and it won’t work, it will backfire on you…it always does.

          Don’t attempt NC on your own, follow the free plan.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  8. Hi,

    my ex dropped me a line, 2 months after breaking up he kept asking how I was, what was new, how have I been. I said I was great. He then a week later asked if I had a bf and kept asking and asking I said no I didn’t eventually. Then he asked what I have been doing with my time. I said lol a lot of stuff. and he never answered. Am I just an ego boost then and he is not coming back?

    1. Hi,

      Obviously you did not use the no contact rule correctly.

      How can I tell?

      Your ex boyfriend thinks you are just waiting around for him, and he just checked to see if it was true, and you confirmed his suspicions.

      Why should he worry about coming back if you are still “on the hook”?

      You need to use the no contact rule correctly to evolve past the break up, and reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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      1. is it just because i said I didn’t have a bf? or dating anyone. i said i was great and a lot of stuff is going on with me cause they are. i don’t know how that reads im still on the hook. the only thing is i dont have a bf. i ignored his texts at the start took hours and days to respond. he left me he asked what i have been doing and i said a lot of stuff. and i am doing great.

        1. Hi,

          It was everything you did, and didn’t do…like using the no contact rule correctly.

          I gave you the best advice in my previous reply, either use it, or continue to dwell in relationship limbo.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

          1. Ok so I will tell him what is going on to develop the post breakup further. I’m just wondering since he hasn’t texted me.. how do I do that? Do I text him four days later and just tell him all the stuff. Or do I go back into no contact and wait for him to contact me again.

            1. Hi,

              Just read the free plan and send the recommended NC message as outlined in the plan, and then follow all the rest of the steps.

              You don’t tell him anything.

              The NC message will say everything that needs to be said.

              Simple enough?

              Thank you for writing.

              Take Care,

              S.W.

  9. I need some help. My boyfriend and I split after about 3 years together. Not intentionally, he met someone a few months ago. I realized how much I love him and missed him and contacted him. We have hung out, he comes over, texts & emails me. He told me he still loves me. Because of our communication issues in the past, he holds back. We have since talked things out regarding this. He tells me is is “having fun” with this other person. He still cares and loves me. What does this tell you? I still love him so very much and want him back in my life.

    1. HI,

      Don’t listen to his “words”, follow his actions.

      If someone truly loves you, they don’t hold off to have “fun” with someone else, he is just keeping you as a back up plan when he gets tired of having “fun” with this other girl.

      That tells me he doesn’t respect you at all, and without respect there is no chance for love.

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you, and to get your life back.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  10. Hi, I used the no contact rule with my ex. He broke up with me actually he asked me to stay with him although he is with another woman. We were together for about 10 years.Yesterday he hi how are you hope all is well after I asked him to stay out my life.I texted “same ole same ole line what do you want?” he responds.”I want you to wish me the best in life and be by my side when u can”. What? Is he asking me to support him or be his side piece in this message. I texted back “I wish you the best in life and I wont be by your side its boring as hell and a comlete waste of time Get the picture ok bye” He then says “Thank you enjoy your day”Scott he recently discussed opening a liquor store I didnt agre but its his business.he thinks I look down on him because he works as a clerk in a liquor store for 8 years now he can finally be an owner. What does he want? We have a son.

    1. Hi,

      It sounds like he wants to keep you in relationship limbo.

      If you correctly use the no contact rule you will reveal his true feelings for you, and get him off your back at the same time.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  11. Hi, Scott.

    Is one week too short to break the NC?

    Thanks in advance.

    My ex replied to my NC message one week ago and I am tempted to reply since his message was warm.

    I didn’t reply but I miss him and I wanted to write back.
    What do you think?

    1. Hi,

      The no contact rule takes a lot longer than one week to work properly.

      Stick to NC, do not reply.

      He is only trying to get you to break no contact so he can verify that you are waiting for him, and then he will stop contacting you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  12. Hey Scott,

    My boyfriend of 2 years just recently broke up with me. He told me he was unsure of his feelings for me which hurt me so much. We decided to take a weeks break for him to decide what he wants. However, during this break he has called me once. The conversation was light and when I asked him the reason for his call, all he said was that he felt like calling. The week ends tomorrow and I don’t know what he’ll tell me. Was there a reason he called? Is this some sign that he still loves me? He told me he cares and that he misses me but I’m afraid it is only on a friend level. Is there anything I can do to get him back? What can I do if he only wants us to be friends?

    Thanks in advance for your reply. I hope everything will be ok.

    1. Hi,

      If you feel like your headed for the “Just Friends Zone” you are probably right.

      Your best bet is to use the no contact rule to reveal his actual feelings for you, and get him to make a decision.

      If you don’t he might not make one for a long time and you will be stuck in relationship limbo.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  13. Thank you, Scott.
    I hope you’ll never get tired of me. 🙂
    Maybe in the coming days I will write to you again.

    Take care, too.

  14. Hi, Scott.

    I sent the NC message last night.
    What do you think he might think about it? Given our situation and the circumstances that we had. Do you think it still has an impact on him? Do think the NC message will make him think? I am just wondering.
    Thanks in advance for your reply.

    1. Hi,

      I KNOW it will have an impact.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  15. Thanks, Scott!
    You are a big help!

  16. Thank you, Scott.

    I was planning to send the NC but I am sure it is no use.

    Have a nice day!

    Hi, Scott.

    Another thing: Is it okay just to send the NC and won’t communicate anymore? My purpose is just to make him think.
    I don’t intend to follow up on the NC- just send and that’s it. End of it all.
    Please advise.

    Thank you again!

    1. Hi,

      The free plan is about getting your life back, not your ex boyfriend.

      You do not have to reconnect, but don’t edit the NC message.

      Leave the entire message intact, it is more powerful that way…trust me.

      If you want help using the no contact rule to survive a break up and get your life back, follow the free plan.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  17. Hi.
    I fell in love with a man I met online. He is from another country. So it was LDR. Both our marriages are on the rocks. We fell in love quick and strong. We were soul mates and we really clicked a lot. We decided to meet outside my country and then another meeting within my country-in a place away from my city. We talked on the phone for two to three hours a day and exchange emails like 30-50 a day. We never get tired of talking and laughing.
    Anyway, 9 days before our meeting, his wife attempted suicide because of her emotional dependence on him- they had a big fight then. He panicked and blamed himself. He was full of guilt that he canceled all our trips. But the day before, we were assuring each other how much we love each other and planned that someday, we might live together, end up in each others’ arms. The incident erased all those happy moments. His guilt has taken its toll to our relationship. He said I need to go because he can’t be committed anymore-the guilt and shame pushed him away from me. However, I said I would stay. He didn’t reply. After 4 days, he replied and said we should be happy again because we belong to each other. We were back on track and to the usual communication. But then after 5 days, he sent me a shocking email saying he is still guilty and ‘for now’ couldn’t have a relationship with me or anybody else. And said he is not the one for me. I cried and was really hurt. We had dreams together and we really love each other. I was crashed. I still think of him everyday. I miss him and I do love him. I have decided not to reply to his email. It has been 3 weeks now.
    Do you think NC message is still applicable in our situation? I know he loves me but he had to let me go because that horrible thing his wife did.
    I appreciate your reply.
    And before I forget, he said he is emotionally unstable and emotionally immature. I didn’t know how to react.

    Thank you.

    1. Hi,

      It sounds like you’re involved with a married man, not a wise choice.

      Then you go on to say that he admits being emotionally unstable and immature.

      Wow, what a catch!

      As if that wasn’t enough, he has a suicidal wife…Damn!

      My advice is to stay away from this man and his wife, and get your own life back again.

      People who aren’t afraid to hurt themselves have little problem hurting others…namely you.

      Learn from your mistakes, and stay away from married men, it can only lead to trouble.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  18. Ok well first of all I have been in a long distance relationship for 1 year and 2 months I honestly fell in love with him and when we broke up recently he yelled at me telling me its over and saying he doesnt love me even though he was the one that first fell in love with me and im just curious because the day before yesterday he kept saying he doesnt want me ever to look for him and that he’s never going to come visit me even though I never even mentioned that so we said our goodbyes and then he texted me saying he was curious of sone things and I answered them so I said goodbye again and again he texted me asking me another question but this time he said he didnt kniw why he was so curious so I answered him again and said goodbye and we havent had contact since then but I keep getting private calls and im wondering if its him because I still love him and we had planned a future together I truly love him ad I need some advice

    1. Hi,

      His actions don’t seem to be matching his words, but nonetheless he broke up with you, and you have to deal with that, right?

      It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, if they do not love you back.

      You can reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you by correctly using the no contact rule.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  19. My ex boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me approximately a year ago. His response at that time was because I had a dead-end job and that I have a kid and still found time to hang out. But when we still planned to go to Mexico together alone he told me the real reason he broke up with me was he thought I was cheating on him and that I was a black-hispanic. Over the course of time up to now, He introduced me to the girl he left me for, ended up breaking up with her after 3 months. Introduced me to another girl, broke up with her after 3 months. I saw him at a bar I would least expect him to be at, and we ended up hooking up that night. The next day I text him explaining to him at what we did should’ve never went that far, and it was a mistake on my behalf of not stopping it when I could. Then a week later he introduced me to another girl he met and has recently broken up with her after 6 months. We hung out for a night with the guy that hooked us up originally at our usual bar a couple of months ago. He called me numerous times one night to come and hang out with him and some of his buddies, and I turned down the offer. But in July I sent him a friendly text wishing him a happy birthday and instead of him replying back with a simple “thank you” he ended up calling me, asking me if I had spoken to a mutual friend of ours (which happens to be the guy that originally hooked us up).
    I’m just confused of what’s going on. I haven’t told him how I felt about him, or how much I missed him, although i would like to.
    A part of me tells me that he still have feelings for me but a part of me says he’s just leading me on. Please help and stir me in the right direction of what should I do, or what going on with our situation. I truly would love to have him back.

    1. Hi,

      I would listen to the part of you that feels “he’s just leading me on”.

      It sure sounds like he is only looking for a friends with benefits situation.

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  20. Hi,

    I hope you can help me understand & deal with my situation because i am so confused & dont really know where i stand…

    Me & my (ex)boyfriend had been together for 2 1/2 years and altho we have had alot of problems in our own lifes we have always been there for each other & stuck together, recently we have been arguing more & my grandma suddenly passed away 3 months ago since then i havent payed him as much attention & i think he felt like i needed him rather than wanted him.

    Then two weeks ago i discovered that he had been messaging some random girl on facebook, it started off innocent enough but then he said that she had ‘tempted’ him & he’d never been tempted before, i confronted him & he said he didnt think we should be together anymore but as i was shell shocked i begged for us to work it out & he seemed to go along with it, we went for some food & seemed ok. the next night he stayed at my house, he even came round & let himself in whilst i was out at a work do, the next evening we went for a meal & drinks & openly discussed things & it seemed we were trying to work thru it then the next evening (saturday) he asked me to the cinema & then on the sunday we went for a picnic when he dropped the bombshell again he didnt think he wanted to be with me anymore. We decided to take a week apart & not see each other & at this point i said we shouldnt speak for the week.

    We didnt speak for 2 days & i rang him on the wednesday & then we text abit on the thursday/friday & finally met again on the saturday. Again he said he thought we needed time apart to sort our lifes out & get back to the people we were when we met, he said he wasnt saying it was over for good we just need to find ourselfs again.

    From here we messages abit on the sunday & then had a blazing row over the phone on the sunday with him saying he never wanted to be with me again & didnt care if he ever saw me etc etc etc

    i apologised on the monday & said we shouldnt have talked that day & id just pushed him – he agreed & said the conversation should never of happened & that he was sorry.

    We went out the monday (this week) to play pool & have drinks & again he said we both just needed to change but that he wasnt shutting himself off from the idea of us getting back together.

    He has contacted me by text constantly since then but is however telling people behind my back that we wont ever get back together!!

    where do i stand? do i leave him alone for a while & see if he comes back? i love him & want to work things out.

    Its a very long story i know but i need to explain it all to get your honest oppinion.

    Sophie

    1. Hi,

      The reason you are confused is because you are pushing your ex boyfriend until you get a “semi-positive” response from him.

      His mouth says one thing, but his actions say another, and that’s confusing, right?

      He feels he has to “give you something” or you won’t stop pressing him for answers.

      Stop chasing him.

      It doesn’t matter why this break up happened (at this time), what matters is that you calmly except it, and evolve past the break up and get your life back again.

      Using the no contact rule “correctly” can help get your life back again.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get him back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  21. Hi,

    I am totally confused, eight years ago I broke up with a guy however we continued to meet out and about and we always spoke. I decided about three years ago that I should move on and I stopped going to the same places. Suddenly about three months ago my ex started turning up at the same places as me again. He comes up and tries to talk to my friend while ignoring me. I feel like hes trying to force me to make the first move as I always did before. Why do you think he is doing this ? I still like him and would like to get back together with him ?

    1. Hi,

      You broke up 8 years ago, and then after 2 years and 9 months of avoiding places he went to, he finds you again?

      And you don’t think that is a little weird (stalker)?

      I think you both need to get a life, and evolve past whatever it was you had 8 years ago.

      If you use the no contact rule properly you can evolve past the break up.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  22. Hi! My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for a while and kept in contact since we’ve been broken up, but now he has a new girlfriend yet still continues to contact me. He’s been texting me alot in the past few days and I don’t understand why?
    thanks!

    1. Hi,

      Who knows why he is contacting you a lot these past few days?

      My question would be to you…

      Why do you keep in contact with your ex boyfriend even though he has a new girlfriend?

      If you are hoping this will help you get him back, you’re wrong.

      You can reveal your ex boyfriend’s trues feelings by “correctly” using the no contact rule.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex lover back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The quickest way to get your man back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  23. So my BF said he didn’t see things working out with us three days ago. He’s been calling and texting ever since. His most recent text was asking if I would ever speak to him again. I have not returned any texts or phone calls yet. How should I respond to his most recent question?

    1. Hi,

      I recommend you send the recommended NC message outlined in the free plan, and start your personal evolution.

      If you use the no contact rule correctly you can reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  24. Hi my name is Sarah.

    My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. I was devasted, and I wanted him back.
    He didnt want me back, but he still told me he loved me and cared for me. I did too, and I didnt want to move on.
    He told me he couldnt see us working and that I should try to move on and not wait for him. He was confused.
    4 months later, after he broke up with me I kissed another guy. I wouldnt say I was ready to kiss another guy or I was trying to move on. I just did it because I felt it would boost my confidence, which it did.
    A few days after I kissed the guy, my ex wanted to catch up, he wanted me back.
    We have been together for 3 weeks now, but its eating me up inside, that I kissed another guy and havent told him.
    what do I do?

    1. Hi,

      What you did during the break up is not his business.

      You were a free person just as he was during the breakup.

      Don’t say anything, and don’t ask him what he did (dating wise) during the break up either, it is really none of your business.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  25. Scott,

    My boyfriend of ten years and I broke up three weeks ago over some complex issues (he has identity issues and the weight of having to consider a partner’s feelings all through it was difficult). We never really did go down the NC route. I know, I know, we should and for about a week after we limited our conversation to quick “how are you?” types of conversation but didn’t really say much to each other. He seemed angry and it started convincing me I deserved better treatment, so I backed off from that point and decided I couldn’t initiate anything. We got mildly heated, put some things out in the open, and from week two on til now, the minute he sees me online, he’s instant messaging me constantly. I never initiate a convo with him, it’s always him. We talk almost as much as we did before we broke up, he’s more open and constantly comes talking to me. Basically, I’m like his girlfriend again only without the added general affection. He knew I didn’t want to break up, probably knows I still love him (and not positive, but thinks he still loves me) and I do want him back but I have no idea what’s going on in his head.

    Before you suggest it – I’m still piecing my life together regardless of what happens with us and told him that no matter what I want, I’ll still move on… But is there any hope here of reconciliation? What’s with the behaviour…should I even try to get him back since I don’t want to scare him away? Advice? I’m confused!

    1. Hi,

      You’re not confused, you’re scared, and as long as you’re scared of losing him, you will be stuck.

      You have a 50/50 chance of reconciliation.

      I don’t help people just “analyze” their breakups, I help them use the no contact rule to evolve past the break up.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get him back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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