Does My Ex Boyfriend Want Me Back? – 3 Revealing Signs

 
Follow A Good Plan To Find Out If Your Ex Boyfriend Wants You Back
 


 
You can read your ex boyfriends mind and see if he does want you back, just look for these 3 revealing signs.

If your ex wanted you back, it is not difficult to see, because body language, is very hard to hide.

If you know what to look for, you will see right through his words and into his mind.

So, lets get started, so you can find out; “Does my ex boyfriend want me back or not?”
 


 

Over Reacting

 
Does your ex boyfriend tend to over react?

Does he say things like; “We will never get back together!”

If so, he probably still has strong feelings for you.

When someone over emphasizes something, they usually mean the exact opposite of what they are over emphasizing.

People think they can hide their true feelings with anger…this is not true.

So you ask if my ex yells at me; “Does my ex boyfriend want me back?”

The answer is “yes” he still has strong feelings for you that he is desperately trying to hide.
 


 

What A Coincidence

 
Here is another revealing sign.

Do you find yourself running into your ex boyfriend a lot?

Does he always seem to be showing up at the places he knows you hang out at?

Then he pretends not to see you until he catches you looking at him, and then he approaches like you called him over or something.

A-ha!

He is following you around and that means he is still very much attached to you.

If you keep tripping over your ex boyfriend like he was your shadow, I would say he still has strong feelings for you.

So,”Does my ex boyfriend want me back?”

I do, I really do think he wants his ex girlfriend back, but, he is too stubborn, to admit it.
 


 

Just Thought I Would…

 
Drop you a line to see how you have been?

OK, this is another revealing sign that your ex boyfriend wants you back.

Do you know what those little dropped lines really are?

They are hooks…each little note is a way to keep you hooked on thinking about him.

Oh, how thoughtful that my ex boyfriend worries about me even though we are broken up.

It is not just being thoughtful your ex boy friend is keeping his memory foremost in your mind, so you will not start dating someone else while he is trying to figure out what to do.

He does not want you to exchange him for someone else.

If you are experiencing these 3 revealing signs (or something close to them) then your ex is still interested.

It’s time to act.

Does your ex boyfriend want you back?

Well, I would say, the best way to find that out, for sure, is to follow a good plan for reconnection.

Go find yourself, a good plan, and start working on, getting back together, with your ex boyfriend.
 


 

Winning Your Ex Back

 
What?

You want to know if your ex boyfriend wants you back.

And yet, you still do not have a plan?

It is hard to get to your destination without a good map.

If you have any comments or questions, please write them below in the comment box, and I will answer them ASAP!

Does your ex boyfriend want you back?

What can I do to help you find out?

What are you willing to do if he does want you back?
 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 
My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008, to overcome breakup pain, and, get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section, that I recommend you read.

I realize the address, of my site, is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but, I “really” teach people, how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me, (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter, for access to the free breakup survival plan, and, start getting your life back, today.

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Once, you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

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  1. Almost one year ago me and my ex called off a five year relationship but not just that….we were one month away from being married. I have seen him maybe two or three times since then and he would tell me he wanted to kiss me, etc. He had an interest in being friends but i didn’t see the point in doing so….i wanted to try to move on and do some dating without my “friend” asking if im seeing anyone else or if im sleeping with them. We broke up last July and the last time i saw him was January. He emailed me on father’s dat saying he was lonely and he doesn’t know if we made the right decision breaking up, etc. He was also upset because he is older and does not yet have kids.

    A little background: our relationship was by no means perfect. I caught him talking to multiple women behind my back. At that time i stuck by him and forgave him. The main issues were his inability to handle stress well and the inability to as a grown man nto not make a decision without the help of his parents. I mean a decision about ANYTHING!! Other than those things, he is financially stable, church going, etc.

    Now its months later and he calls me saying he misses me, that noone supports his fishing hobby like i did, tells me he still loves me, still digging for information about if I’m seeing anyone, etc. The huge thing is HE ASKED ME IF I WOULD CONSIDER HAVING HIS CHILD?!?!?!

    Im totally confused…well maybe not confused…just shocked. Kids were a major topic in our relationship and he knows i want kids badly. The thing is i don’t know if he is using that knowledge against me or is he for real. He is great with kids and we are both not getting any younger. Im 26 and he is 34! I don’t know what to do. Im not the same person i was in that relationship, i have dated…lived a little more and i have love for him but am no longer in love with him..

    Should i even be considering this? What does all this mean coming from him?

    Im lost!

    1. Hi,

      It sounds like he is just trying to push the right buttons to get laid.

      I can help you use the no contact rule to reveal his true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  2. kneisha shepherd

    my boyfriend told my friend that he don’t want that to happean again in others words he is saying that he do not want us to be back together again. and then he keeps staring me down what does taht supose to mean

    1. Hi,

      I can not interpret your ex boyfriend’s actions, but you can use the no contact rule to reveal his true intentions.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your guy back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  3. me and my ex split up 3 weeks ago, i want him back more then anything and he keeps giving me mixed signals and i dont know what to do.

    I went over to his 2 weeks after we split to get my things as he wouldnt speak to me on the phine, we sorted it out so we was friends as he works with my mum in my local pub.
    He asked me to come down the saturday he was working and at first he wouldnt speak and he stayed away from me but then he offered to buy me a drink and we got talking again (small talk).

    He then sang on the karioki and sang love songs and the song i always asked him to sing when we was together.
    He also started jabbing me in the side and rubbing up against me to get past as a joke like when we was together. I sent him a text if he wanted to try again while he was working as i didnt dare ask him verbally. He went out back for a cig (small break) and come back looking really nervous but didnt say anything.

    We still got on and at the end of the night he was calling me bbe again but i dont know if this was accidental as thats what he is use to calling me. when he was going he gave me a cuddle and a kiss on the cheek and said bye bbe, i asked him if he got my text and said yes but he’s not read it yet and will read it on the way home.

    Its now been almost a week and he hasnt got back in touch with me about it but one of his mates said he wants to ask me back out. So is he wanting to get back with me or should i just move on as it has been 3 weeks since we split up

    1. Hi,

      If you want to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings use the no contact rule to sort out his “mixed signals”.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your guy back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      S.W.

  4. Scott,

    I was with my boyfriend for 7years. when we got together I was till young and had growing up to do. As a result, I cheated on him a few times and got caught. He broke up with me. I left him alone afterwards for a few months and we started back hanging out. he was still telling me he loved me but wasnt ready to trust me with his heart. So, we went our seperate ways again and I started talking to someone else. after a while he decides to tel me he was ready but he understood I was talking to this new person and he would respect it yet he would still send messages like he misses me, loves me, thinks about me all the time etc….Now he says to me he is seriously pursuing someone else and he thinks he may love her. I asked if he still loved me his response was he couldnt answer the question. He says he still wnats us to be friends….I still love this man what should I do? Is it too late or do I still have hope? I’ve decided to not conatct him for a while

    Sorry for the misspellings. One mre thing, just in March he said if I asked him he would take me back but he understood my situation. He said if the new guy turns out to not be what I want or if he is not what I want, I know where to find him. We had a spat a little after this and he said I pissed him off so bad that at that point he felt he couldn’t be in a relationship with me. That makes no sense and now he says he’s falling for this new chick like he did with me. What do I do? I love him sooo much. Is it a wrap for me?

    1. Hi,

      It takes a while for people to begin to trust again after being cheated on.

      If you want to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you must use the no contact rule correctly.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  5. well.. i met him with he was at my house fishing and it was kinda crazy because he had a girlfried and she was not good to him so i told him he needs to tell her its over and find someone that world not be like that to him and so he did and it was me but we had sex and he was a frist timer and we where together for like a month and then it happen again after we had got back together and all in the same day we text me and told me i think we need to we be friends but its so hard to be friends because i care so much about him and it makes me feel all werid inside when i see him and i really dont know what to say or do ive tried almost everything Oh yes, his gf now is bad to him but i just want to show him that i can be really good for him in all ways but like he says its so werid that when he’s around me all he thinks about is the break up so yesterday him and some friends where being dumb and he said fml and i said no please dont say that and he said why you still have feeling for me or something and i said maybe but i just want him back and i feel like im not doing really good i just want to show him that i can be a good girlfriend i was never bad to him like never and i just kinda want some help on how i can make him feel like what have i done wrong i do want to be with her but how too tell her just want him to see that he lost me but in the same point i want him to bee like man i really messed up so kinda i just wanna show to him how much he really means to me…. and it feels like im not doing it right so what should i do

    he’s also telling my cuz that he confusedabout us he has no idea what he wants to do and i just want to show him who he’s going to miss is right in his way but how?? i really want him to open up too be and like be for real and stop playing head games with me

    1. Hi,

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  6. My ex recently started showing these signs, we broke up almost three months ago and out of nowhere he starts texting me again and asking to hang out and we’re always running into each other. He flirts with me, and still does things that shows he cares and the other night he really confused me because he pretty much took me on a date and we ended up at a beach looking at stars and he starts holding me and cuddling me and making all these affectionate signs towards me and even tries kissing me (but I said no). I asked him “why are you doing this?” and he said “I don’t know”. I asked him to just open up to me and he said “it’s not like I’m holding anything in” then he started being really cold and distant right after and dropped me home. The next day he sent me a text apologizing for what happened and that he didn’t know what he was thinking and was stupid. That was the last I heard from him, which was yesterday. He seems like he wants me back yet I think he’s confused about it because he always used to tell me “we’re never going to be together again, just forget about me” and he would always mention how he likes be single and he likes having freedom.

    What should I do??? I’m so confused!

    1. also, I asked him that night. “What were your intentions on doing this? I feel like you’re just trying to use me or take advantage of me” he replied with definitely not and in the text he also said “I wasn’t trying to take advantage of you”. So I don’t think he just wants FWB

      1. If he wants you for sex and not as a girlfriend it sounds a lot like friends with benefits to me.

        Who doesn’t want to have their cake and eat it too?

    2. Hi,

      If he likes his freedom so much, give it to him.

      After all, you can’t make him stay.

      But you can reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you by correctly using the no contact rule.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The quickest way to get your ex boyfriend back is by getting your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back, and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  7. Hi Scott, i have one of the most complicated stories to tell but i’ll keep it short. I dated this guy for about a year and a half, we went through SO much. we eventually broke up because i became so busy i couldn’t see him. the break up was pretty messy, but lately(after about 6 months) we’ve become..sort of friends. The last time we talked was actually yesterday, and he didn’t mention his new girlfriend, but he brought up old memories of…well personal events and once i brought up sweet, romantic, events he became short with me replying with “mhm” and “yeah..”. i really don’t know what this all means, is it a sign or am i overreacting? how do i get closer to him again? and if possible how could i get him back? i have so much time now and i really miss him.

    1. Hi,

      If he has a new girlfriend you are mostly going to be placed in the “just friends” zone, or the FWB zone.

      I am guessing the FWB zone (friends with benefits).

      If you are not looking to be part of either of these clubs, and you want to get your ex boyfriend back, I suggest you start using the no contact rule correctly.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  8. Hi scott,sorry for disturbing you again.more updates.he send me lots of texts.he is acting crazy.he said like you are forgeting me now.i have given four years of my life to you.you never wish me gudnite like you did before.maybe becos you found somebody else.be happy.remember me please.i wish i could turn back time.my love wasnt enough for you.why did you said you love me.i cried every night becos of you.i try to move on but i cant.please listen to delta goodrem song, lost without you and stuff like that.

  9. Hi Scott,more updates.he still text me everyday to see how am i doing and finally he calls me now which i did not pick up too and then he text me saying ‘ i want to talk to you so badly but you dont want to take my calls’.how about that.

    1. Hi,

      Just keep ignoring his attempts to get you to break the no contact rule.

      Remember this is about getting your life back, not getting your ex boyfriend back.

      Thank you for writing.

      Stay Strong and Positive!

      S.W.

  10. Thanks but the thing is she will never be ok with it thats the problem. I dont want to hurt my mom but I also want to be happy and be with the person I love. I still have 3 months till I’m 16. I just dont know what to do any more!

    1. Hi,

      I am NOT a lawyer, and I can not give you legal advice, but if you are underage, you could get your older boyfriend in trouble if you have sex.

      You should at least wait until you are 16, then talk with your mother about it, talk, don’t argue, OK?

      As far as sex goes, don’t be in a rush, sex doesn’t = true love.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  11. I would really like to get my ex back! I miss him alot its been 4 months. We broke up because my mom found out and riped him out of my life because of our age difference. She said when I was 16 that I could date him again. What do I do to get him back? He is starting to look at me again when he sees me out around town. I miss the old days and I can’t stand not being with him! Any advice?

    1. Hi,

      First, make sure this is OK with your mother, then…

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps for the reconnection stage.

      If he rejects you, then start the free plan from the beginning and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  12. Hi Scott,just wanted to update you.i have send the recommended NC message just now and this is how he replied.’i made a mistake,please forgive and forget me.things will never be the same.am so sorry.i never wanted it to be this way.u will always be in my heart,my special love.pls forgive me.ill never forgive myself till the end of my life’.

    1. Wow, he loves the drama. 😉

      You really flipped his switch, and now he is trying to get you worried.

      What a joke.

      Stay Strong and Positive!

      S.W.

  13. Hi,Scott,sorry for adding bits of pieces here and there.The first time he went to meet his parents,he was suppose to stay one week only.but then he call me up and said his mother didnt want him to leave cos she misses him too much and its too soon.i told him if he didnt come home to me,i will broke up with him.so he come home to me and told me right away that he was at a party,he was completely drunk and he said the girl kiss him and he kisses back.he said he didnt remember much of what happen which is often true to his case.i know cos he usually goes blank when he drink too much.now when he told me this,he felt so guilty that i reminded him the story i told him about my ex visiting me one year ago.i told him the only secret i kept from him,that is before he leave my home,my ex ask me for a kiss but i just gave him a peck at the mouth which i though was harmless.i told him so he wont feel so guilty.but he was so angry with me and said if he didnt tell me what happen,i will never told him about it,which is true by the way and how can i kept it a secret for so long.he said he could kiss so many girls but he never did.from that day,things started to go a bit out of the ordinary.when i look back now,i think he felt so betrayed that he must have decided to return back the girl attention or maybe he is not telling me the whole truth,maybe he likes the girl from the start and want to put all the blames on me by telling me i have no respect for him,i kept a secret from him and all the bullshit he has taken from me and how he suffers from all the verbal abuse i throw at him.he is right in some respect.i can be really annoying sometimes.all our friends are shocked that we broke up becos they can all see how much we used to love each other.So now after all this,can i get him back now.

    1. Hi,

      If you follow ALL the steps in the free plan to get your ex back

      You have a 100% chance of getting your life back, and a 50/50 chance of getting back with your ex boyfriend, if you even want to after your personal evolution.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  14. I am close with his family so i know about what all the problems they have.The girl family are powerful and i know what they could have done to help his father get a better job.he was in a bit of trouble with his boss.thats a plus point on her part.

    1. Hi,

      No one is responsible for your happiness except yourself, and the same goes for everyone else.

      Everyone has problems, it is how we “choose” to deal with them that separates the men from the mice.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  15. Thanks.I forgot to mention the details.we both worked out of our home town so at first we been staying together at the same place for two years and becos of his work,he relocate to another place and we continued through long distance relationship for two years now and he used to come back to me and used up all the vacation time he had to spend time with me which left his parents a bit upset.Then his parents changed their work place.So to visit their new place and to see them,this year he spent one week with them this january and the rest with me again but thats when he met the girl.He told me at once there is a girl who really likes him a lot.Then his parents starts having health problems around March,so this april he went back and thats when he cheated on me.The girl was there to help his parents out at the time of their need.he told me he was grateful to her for being there for his parents and thats when they started to kept in touch .Unluckily for him,he cant screw around cos they are miles away apart and he knows the girl barely for three weeks only.We never kept secret from each other so as soon as he went back to his work place,he told me everthing.The rest i have told u already.
    p.s i have a bit of a temper and i told him so many times i will leave him which i never did anyways.i felt its partly my fault too becos just before he went to visit his parents,i told him to leave me alone again.he’s alwys the one who calls first to patch things up which i took for granted but this time not only did he not come back to me,he cheated.do u think i still have a chance after hearing my stories.

    1. Hi,

      So you want your odds “chances” for success.

      If you follow ALL the steps in the free plan to get your ex back

      You have a 100% chance of getting your life back, and a 50/50 chance of getting back with your ex boyfriend, if you even want to after your personal evolution.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  16. My boyfriend of four years told me he is cheating on me and beg for my forgiveness sincerly,i forgive him instantly,but the next day,he said he is choosing her over me and dumped me.he tells me he still love me and will never loved anyone like me again not even the girl but becos of the guilt of his cheating,he say he will never forgive himself and we should end it cos we would never be the same again.he still texted me everyday and kept asking me about my love life and compares me with the girl.Please tell me what to do,i still love him but am trying to keep my distance and text him back once in while only.

    1. Hi,

      This smells like bullshit to me.

      He just wants to keep you on the hook in relationship limbo while he screws around with this other woman.

      I recommend using the no contact rule to evolve past the break up, get your life back, and reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you.

      I help people get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  17. So I knew this guy for 6-8 years, we were always just friends then last year we really fell for each other and became official. We started a long distance relationship because we’re both studying in different countries after a couple of months I realized I wanted more out of this and I applied to be in the same country as him, he was so happy and truly thankful for a girlfriend like me. We’d sit for hours on the phone discussing how amazing it would be to live in the same country. Then out of no where he tells me he just doesn’t think it’s right anymore and he doesn’t want to a force a relationship on himself that he doesn’t find right and he told me that if it’s meant to be well cross paths in the future. I was absolutely devastated and I am actually still very hurt. I took a couple of weeks to think about stuff and we started talking as friends, the only time he would ask about me or contact me would be I started a conversation first. My questions are, what do you I should do about this situation and do you still think it’s a good idea to transfer schools and countries now (the school I got accepted is very high ranked and very well known)?

    1. Hi,

      Since your “boyfriend” told you he was no longer interested in having a relationship with you, I would not base your decision around having a relationship with him…obviously.

      You should make your decision based on what is best for you academically, and nothing else.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  18. We broke up in December, tried to get back together in February, he stopped talking to me or answering my texts in March and so on. We were to be married today (April 25), but obviously are not now. He claims that I cheated on him (which I never did), lied to him (which I confessed to – and they were nothing earth shattering). I texted him for his birthday and hoped things were good for him. I told him I missed him. He sent me back a text that was rude, mean, and awful! He blamed the entire breakup on me and hoped it was worth it. I asked him to tell me who the “men” were, but he could not. As I continued to apologize and let him know how much I was hurting, he just keep saying – karma comes around. He told me that someday he would find someone who would appreciate and love him for him. I do. I did everything for him and I still love him even though the hurt is tremendous. I haven’t heard from him today, and I probably won’t hear from him again unless he has some change of heart (he is very stubborn and his mother and best friend are influencing him.) At any rate, this is long, sorry, I want him back – so how do I combat stubborness, mother, best friend, and wall around his heart? I believe he is overreacting … but I don’t know. Thanks

    1. Hi,

      It doesn’t matter who is influencing him, in the end he makes the final decision, stop kidding yourself.

      If you want to reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you, use the no contact rule to evolve past the break up, and get your life back again.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  19. My boyfriend broke up with me tuesday. It was out of left feild cause he kept saying how much he missed me while I was at work. Well that same night he was already texting me asking what I was doing. And he has talked to me breifly since. I think this is a good sign and so doses everyone I talk to. I just want to know how do I get him back and keep him FOREVER!

    1. codi says:

      I just want to know how do I get him back and keep him FOREVER!

      Hi,

      Before deciding that you want to “keep him forever” why don’t you confirm he feels the same way about you, make sense?

      If you properly use the free plan, you can evolve past the breakup, get your life back, and reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      My method works the BEST because I teach people to focus on getting their lives back, not on getting their ex boyfriends back.

      I explain this theory in the “About” section of my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  20. Yes, I did. And quite a few of your links say “get my ex back”. So if you don’t help get people ex’s back, why do all the links saying that? =D

    1. ImSoSad says:

      Yes, I did. And quite a few of your links say “get my ex back”. So if you don’t help get people ex’s back, why do all the links saying that? =D

      Hi,

      It doesn’t do me any good to post answers to your questions if you don’t take the time to read them.

      One more time.

      S. Williams says:

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

      I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Please have the courtesy to read my replies before asking any more questions, OK?

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  21. I’ve looked at the NC letters already, but I don’t know how that works when he is just now dating someone else. Won’t I look foolish sending that?

    1. Hi,

      You’ll look more foolish pining away for a man that doesn’t want you.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

      I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Did you even take the time to read the whole free plan?

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  22. My ex and were together for a year. There were ups and downs. He deployed for Afghanistan in April 2010 and came back Nov 2010. He proposed to me over the phone May 2010.

    I started to not trust him not long after left because of some weird relationship he had had with someone else before me. They met online and never met, but lived near each other. He was always bothered she would not meet him. I found out that they had been in contact not long after he left. He said he wanted to know why she never wanted to meet him and with his buddies, got her to send pics of what she really looked like. The version of the story I got, was that she randomly contacted him with pics of herself, not the fake she had been using online. I started to be upset with him in September. He finally admitted he had to know why she would never meet him and with peer pressure from guys at work, he kept emailing her for pics. I had a hard time with this. If we are engaged, why would you feel the need to even care about her?

    So, I still decide to leave the state I’m in and move across the country to set up our new apartment in Oct. He gets home in Nov, and I just wanted to smack him, I was still mad about what he did. We fought and I left twice, and then he moved out of state for his next assignment. We were still together at this point, and talking, figuring out if we were going to work or not. I had not had sex with him since he got back, and I know this was upsetting. But, for me, if I;m upset with you, I will have a hard time being intimate with you. He had lied about a couple of other things, they were minor, but I was trying to trust him again…and having a hard time with that as well.

    So, he went on a date and didn’t tell me until the next day and told me he was only waiting until I had some medical tests come back to tell me he didn’t want me anymore. I had heard this before from him and I hadn’t been making it easy on him because I was still not in the same state with him. He didn’t want to date this particular woman, but wanted to see if he could move on. Normally for him, he will not keep in contact or stay friends with an ex, the exception is the ex-wife due to their kids.

    I had asked if he thought we would possibly be together again and he said maybe. We didn’t talk much more about it and I didn’t want to push the subject.

    So, the next week, he goes on a date with someone else. And tells me that she was nice and has a child as well. Then the next night, he has a formal dinner to go to. I don’t hear from him at all until the next day. He told me he took this woman he just met and he had sex with her, but she was very aggressive and had some outlandish sexual fantasies and that she scared him.

    The next day, I brought up the subject of us being together again and he said, what if you come out here tomorrow and be with me and not be mad that I slept with her? I still have strong feelings for you and I miss you very very much. I said I that was big and I asked my question because I figured for the moment he was doing his thing and needed time. We didn’t get to talk more about this.

    Fast forward to Saturday morning, I get a text message saying him and this woman are now dating seriously. It’s barely been two weeks for us to be split and he has not even know this woman a week. I’m thinking it’s primarily a rebound relationship and he is there because she is only about 1-2 hours from and will have sex with him.

    Then I hear nothing else from him until last night. He texts me for a pic. I ask why. The response is “My girlfriend wants to know what you look like.”. I cannot believe he could be that stupid, cruel and hurtful. Nor can I believe that I still want to be with him. I texted him back and I’ll pass on the pic. Then a few minutes later I texted him that what she wants is not my concern.

    Now I am sitting here alone, depressed and upset. I wanted to work things out with him, but feel like I’ve been slapped in the face.

    What do you suggest? I know it may not be best, but I do still love him and want a chance to try this one last time with him, but how is that possible if he is with someone else so soon?

    Thanks.

    1. ImSoSad says:

      Now I am sitting here alone, depressed and upset. I wanted to work things out with him, but feel like I’ve been slapped in the face.

      What do you suggest? I know it may not be best, but I do still love him and want a chance to try this one last time with him, but how is that possible if he is with someone else so soon?

      Hi,

      If you want to reveal your ex boyfriends true feelings for you, use the free plan.

      Go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  23. Hi Mr. Williams,

    I’ve been with my ex for 2yrs & 6 mths and he has decided to break up on last month. Reason was because of my angry temper. After break up, he still contacts me via call/sms/msn. We did met for 3 times after break up. I told him that i’ve knew my mistake and will improve on it. He believes me. But somehow, he is stubborn and still don’t want to back with me. He said he is selfish, don’t want me to let go but at the same time he can’t make any decision. He asked me to look for others better than him and he will as well. So what shall i do? I still love him and want him back. I know i should apply the no contact rules perhalps for one month. But after one month then what shall i do? I’m lost of my mind and don’t know what to do. Yesterday i told him that i will let go. But he still hopes that we can still keep in touch. He keep saids sorry. I don’t know what to do by remove out his ‘stubborn’.. Please help me.. Thanks..

    1. Kim says:

      I know i should apply the no contact rules perhalps for one month. But after one month then what shall i do?

      Hi,

      Using no contact for exactly 30 days is NOT long enough, why?

      Because you need to evolve past the break up and get your life back, and that takes months 4-6 months usually, as proven in our forum.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s.

      Go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  24. Well in short and straight out i lied about something small and after the break up i ran to his mother said things tht was btwn the 2 of us….anyway he said he didnt trust me…told me its not tht he doesnt want it to work he just doesnt trust me…says he cares and doent have interest in another woman he just doesnt trust me… i asked him if i worked for his trust again how would he feel…he said ” do what you have to”…is this good or bad?

    1. Hi,

      I would leave him alone, and use the no contact rule to reveal his true feelings.

      Go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  25. Hello,

    I’m confused, sad, and in pain… I could use any and all pieces of advice right now.

    My ex and I lived together for 1 year and a half. The entire relationship lasted over 4 years. At the end of January, 2 weeks after having spent a 5 day vacation in England together, he told me that he wanted to split. A week after that he moved out, but decided to stay in the relationship. Then, on February 13th, he broke up with me. He told me that he didn’t feel the same feelings for me anymore, and wanted to date other people. I cried, but said goodbye.

    I have to admit that during the weeks that we were “together” but not living together, I wasn’t a good version of myself. I’d have perfect days with him, then emotional ones in which all I could do was think about the relationship. I know that that helped drive him away…

    He had kept his keys to my place that I now live in alone, until I called him 2 weeks after the official break up asking to have them back. You see, I have family coming into town this week, and they’ll need to use them.

    Instead of calling me and telling me when he’d drop them off, he surprised me last week at my place with the keys. Luckily, I was looking great, and was in a happy mood. He mentioned a couple of times how good he thought I looked, and we shared a couple of minutes of small talk, then I gave a hug and walked away.

    I hate to have done this, but I took that as a sign that he still has some sort of interest in me. Please tell me if there’s any hope for me and this relationship.

    Thanks for your time.

    1. Marie says:

      Please tell me if there’s any hope for me and this relationship.

      Hi,

      Realistically you have a 50/50 chance of getting back together with your ex boyfriend, but if you “only focus” on that you will have an even lesser chance, why?

      Because you can’t reverse a break up, what’s broken is broken, don’t try to salvage your old “failed” relationship, once you break up, it is time to evolve past the break up and move on.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s, if you don’t understand why, go read the “About” section of my Blog.

      After you understand why I recommend you get your life back, and not your ex, go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. Thank you Mr. Williams,

        I do still have a couple of questions regarding my situation though. He still has a few things left behind in my apartment…the one we used to share together. I don’t know what to do with it. I boxed up all that was his, and now it’s waiting with the few pieces of furniture he’d also left behind. He moved out during the last week of January, and we’ve been officially broken up since Feb. 13th. Why is his stuff still here?

        Should I call him to get it, wait for him to call to get it, or take it back to him myself?

        I want to be an adult about everything.

        I think I’ve personally done a great job of getting my life back as you mentioned. I’ve gone out and spent great time with friends/family, and have also been taking some fun hobby classes the past few weeks.

        Any suggestions?

        Thanks for your time.

        1. Marie says:

          He moved out during the last week of January, and we’ve been officially broken up since Feb. 13th. Why is his stuff still here?

          Should I call him to get it, wait for him to call to get it, or take it back to him myself?

          Hi,

          It is your place, and you want his stuff out of there, nothing wrong with that.

          I would call him to ask him to come get it (that is not breaking NC), if you don’t want to, then just drop it off where he is living now, or donate it to the goodwill.

          I wouldn’t wait for him to come get it, that could be a while.

          Just remember to keep any contact with your ex boyfriend all about the business at hand.

          Do not let him bring up the break up, NC, or your personal life, the free plan discusses how to handle these kinds of situations.

          Thank you for writing.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

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