Dealing With A Breakup-Why Relationship Breakups Can Be A Good Thing

 
saying about every breakup being an opportunity
 
Something to remember, when you’re dealing with a breakup, is that relationship breakups can actually be a good thing.

I bet you are desperately searching for some “good information” on how to get your ex back.

So, the last thing you want to believe is that when you split up with your ex, it was for the best.

It might be the last thing you want to believe, but, this belief could save your relationship, and, help you get back together with your ex.

How?

 


 

How Could A Breakup, Ever Be A Good Thing?

 

The same way drugs can cure, and, also cause illnesses, love can do the same thing.

What do I mean?

I wish I knew (just kidding). 🙂

OK, picture this.

You’re lonely and one day, and then, she/he comes along, and, your life is renewed by love.

Love has cured your loneliness, right?

The sun seems to shine a little brighter now.

OK, now that same person who saved you from the dark lonely depths that you crawled around in before, has just decided to break up with you and date someone else.

What just happened?

Love just ripped your fucking heart out, and, you wish you were dead, right?

Love can lift you up, and, it can also stomp you into the ground.

Dealing with a breakup can be a lot easier if you consider the following statements:

  • Love can make or break you.
  • Love can be a good feeling, and, a bad feeling (or so it seems at times).
  • If love can be bad, why can’t a breakup be a good thing?
  • Why MUST a breakup always be a curse, or, bad luck?

Now, you can understand how a breakup has the potential to be a good thing, for you, and, for your ex.

Splitting up with your ex will improve your love life, if, you know how to deal with a breakup, correctly.

 


 

Why A Breakup Is Really A Blessing In Disguise

 

Love is alive, and, that means it is always growing and evolving.

Doesn’t that make sense?

Relationships are just another form of love, so, the same rules would apply to them, right?

As a relationship grows, they get bigger, and, sometimes, they out grow their current situation, and, have to evolve to another plane, in-order to exist.

Are you with me?

In fact most (smart) people are always hoping their bond/love will grow, not die, strengthen, not weaken, and, hopefully last forever.

Until that one day when…

One person in the relationship feels like they are giving more love than they are getting back, and, just like the Hulk’s clothes during his transformation, the relationship tears apart.

How does this happen?

One person becomes complacent, and, neglects the other.

That partner then feels unloved, and, then, they start fighting with their partner demanding more attention.

This makes their mate feel unappreciated, which drives them out the door to look for appreciation in another place (cheating/affair).

Either way the results are usually the same, that couple breaks up.

The person who gets dumped usually acts like the Hulk smashing the shit out of everything that reminds them of their ex, and, sometimes even their ex, as well…ouch!

It was hurt/anger that set off the Hulk, and, that is what set you and your ex off, as well.

By breaking up and getting away from each other, you (both) can stop causing more damage to the already shredded relationship.

The fighting, name calling, and accusations, all stop when you breakup, and, stay away from each other.

When people try to force (guilt) their ex to come back, this kind of shit continues, and, usually gets worse.

The result is, the rift in your already suffering relationship, gets bigger.

So, it is very apparent, that the no contact rule is a very useful tool, when dealing with a breakup, right?

I bet you think, I forgot about answering the question; why is a relationship breakup a good thing?

Nope, I just wanted to paint a picture.

The Hulk was a pretty cool analogy, huh?

 


 

Breakup, Good – Struggling To Get Your Ex Back Fast, Bad

 

The reason this breakup can be a good thing, is, because, your relationship, your love bond with your ex, has a chance to grow.

Breakups are either the evolution of a good relationship, or, the end of a fruitless relationship, that was only holding both people back.

The “real” problem with relationship breakups, is, the way people act like they will never fall in love, again, which is far from the truth.

This “added” drama and anger, will do more harm to the relationship, than, the actual breakup.

That is why breaking up, and, correctly using the no contact rule, to give each other the time and space to think, and, heal is very important.

People need to heal from the hurt, and, think about what they want out of this relationship, or, whether they even want this relationship, anymore.

Most people immediately focus on fixing the breakup, before, they even consider if this relationship is worth saving.

They try so hard to get their ex back fast, that they inadvertently, make things worse.

If you “choose” to handle the growing pains of your relationship, correctly.

You will be rewarded with an even better relationship, either with, or, without your ex.

Don’t sweat the small stuff, focus on the end result…a BETTER relationship, and, a happier love life.

You can avoid prolonging your breakup pain, by considering the following:

  • When dealing with a breakup, stop trying to convince yourself that you must get your ex back immediately, or, lose them forever.
  • Start using the no contact rule to evolve past the breakup. Get your life back first, and, then, decide what you want.
  • Your relationship is like a shark, it has to keep moving forward. You just need time to decide whether you want to keeping moving with it, or not.
  • A relationship breakup is necessary for, the evolution of love.
  • A breakup is either the end of a dying relationship, or, the birth of an even stronger deeper love connection, with your soul-mate. Either way, you will be better off in the end. Be patient.

A relationship breakup is not a bad thing.

Dealing with a breakup incorrectly, is a bad thing, and, it can only make matters worse.

With the right information, and guidance, you can survive this breakup, and, get your ex back.

 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008, to overcome breakup pain, and, get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section, that I recommend you read.

I realize the address, of my site, is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but, I “really” teach people, how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me, (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter, for access to the free breakup survival plan, and, start getting your life back, today.

The answers you need, to start your personal evolution, are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come, and get them.

Once, you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

If you have any comments or questions, please write them, in the comment box, below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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  1. now what and does this mean anything. also he was seeing a girl before we broke up and is seeing her still

    1. Hi,

      If he was “seeing” another woman before you broke up, he was cheating on you.

      With that said…why would you even want him back again?

      I highly suggest that you forget about why he left, and start focusing your energy on evolving past the break up using the free plan.

      You don’t really want him back as much as you want to stop feeling rejected. The sooner you start NC (the right way) the sooner you will stop feeling this way, but it will take time.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

      Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

      This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  2. been broke up over a month now. did the no contact rule and he accused me of texting another guy and told me to get rid of his number. i did text back and said the message was meant for you. have never contacted him since nor has he contacted me.

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