Dealing With A Breakup-Why Relationship Break Ups Can Be A Good Thing
Something to remember when dealing with a breakup is that relationship break ups can actually be a good thing. I bet you are desperately searching for some “good information” on how to get your ex back. So, the last thing you want to believe is that when you split up with your ex, it was for the best. It might be the last thing you want to believe, but this belief could save your relationship, and help you get back together with your ex. How?
How Could A Relationship Break Up Ever Be A Good Thing?
The same way drugs can cure and also cause illnesses, love can do the same thing. What do I mean? I wish I knew (just kidding). OK, picture this. You’re lonely and one day she/he comes along and your life is renewed by love. Love has cured your loneliness, right? The sun seems to shine a little brighter now.
OK , now that same person who saved you from the dark lonely depths that you crawled around in before, has just decided to break up with you and date someone else. What just happened? Love just ripped your fucking heart out, and you wish you were dead, right? Love can lift you up, and it can also stomp you into the ground.
Dealing with a breakup can be a lot easier if you consider the following statements:
- Love can make or break you.
- Love can be a good feeling and a bad feeling (or so it seems at times).
- If love can be bad, why can’t a breakup be a good thing?
- Why MUST a break up always be a curse/bad luck?
Now you can understand how a relationship break up has the potential to be a good thing for you and your ex. Splitting up with your ex will make your love life better if you know how to deal with a break up correctly.
Why A Relationship Break Up Is Really A Blessing In Disguise
Love is alive and that means it is always growing and evolving…make sense? Relationships are just another form of love, so the same rules would apply to them, right? When things grow they get bigger and sometimes they out grow the space they occupy, and have to find another place to exist. Are you with me?
In fact most (smart) people are always hoping their bond/love will grow, not die, strengthen, not weaken, and hopefully last forever.
Until that one day when…
One person in the relationship feels like they are giving more love than they are getting back, and just like the Hulk’s clothes during his transformation, the relationship tears apart.
How does this happen?
One person becomes complacent, and neglects the other. That partner then feels unloved, and then they start fighting with their partner demanding more attention. This makes their mate feel unappreciated which drives them out the door to look for appreciation in another place (cheating/affair). Either way the results are usually the same, that couple breaks up.
The person who gets dumped usually acts like the Hulk smashing the shit out of everything that reminds them of their ex, and sometimes even their ex as well…ouch! It was hurt/anger that set off the Hulk, and that is what set you and your ex off as well. By breaking up and getting away from each other you (both) can stop causing more damage to the already shredded relationship.
The fighting, name calling, and accusations all stop when you break up and stay away from each other. When people try to force their ex to come back, this kind of shit continues, and usually gets worse.
And the result is the rift in your already suffering relationship gets bigger.
So it is very apparent that the no contact rule is a very useful tool when dealing with a breakup, right?
I bet you think I forgot about answering the question; why is a relationship break up a good thing?
Nope, I just wanted to paint a picture. The Hulk was a pretty cool analogy, huh?
Break Up, Good – Struggling To Get Your Ex Back Fast, Bad
The reason this breakup can be a good thing is because your relationship, your love bond with your ex has a chance to grow. Breakups are either the evolution of a good relationship, or the end of a fruitless relationship that was only holding both people back.
The “real” problem with relationship break ups is that people act like they will never fall in love again, which is far from the truth. This “added” drama and anger do more harm to the relationship than the actual break up does. That is why breaking up, and correctly using the no contact rule to give each other the time and space to think and heal is very important.
People need to heal from the hurt, and think about what they want out of this relationship, or whether they even want this relationship anymore. Most people immediately focus on fixing the breakup before they even consider if this relationship is worth saving. They try so hard to get their ex back fast that they inadvertently make things much, much worse.
If you “choose” to handle the growing pains of your relationship correctly. You will be rewarded with an even better relationship, either with or without your ex. Don’t sweat the small stuff, focus on the end result…a BETTER relationship and a happier love life.
You can avoid prolonging your break up pain by considering the following:
- When dealing with a breakup stop trying to convince yourself that you must get your ex back immediately, or lose them forever.
- Start using the no contact rule to evolve past the break up. Get your life back first, and then decide what you want.
- Your relationship is like a shark, it has to keep moving forward. You just need time to decide whether you want to keeping moving with it, or not.
- A relationship break up is necessary in the evolution of love.
- A break up is either the end of a dying relationship, or the birth of an even stronger deeper love connection with your soul-mate. Either way you will be better off in the end. Be patient.
A relationship break up is not a bad thing. Dealing with a breakup incorrectly is a bad thing, and it can only make matters worse.
Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?
My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to cope with break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.
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