Can You Heal A Broken Heart Using The No Contact Rule?

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Can you really heal a broken heart using the no contact rule? If you can get your ex back with no contact, why can’t you fix a broken heart? Especially if a break up is the cause of your broken heart, right? I will lay out a bit of a strategy for you, and then you decide if you can heal a broken heart using the no contact rule, OK?

What Broke Your Heart?

If you and your boyfriend, or girlfriend recently broke up and your heart is broken, no contact is your best bet. This will allow you to let the old relationship die, and give you both time to emotionally evolve…especially you, why? Because you will be taking control of the break up situation, and following a plan to get back together again.

This will give you a feeling of relief and also great personal power. Once you send off the appropriate NC message (which I can help you with later on in this article) you will feel more powerful, and that feeling of helplessness will fade, I promise. Soon you”ll admit; “The no contact rule can heal a broken heart.”

How Can NC Heal A Broken Heart?

Like I mentioned earlier, the no contact rule will put an end to your current broken relationship. After you send the NC message telling your ex that you are making changes in your life, it will flip their switch, and things will begin to change. First, they will not be taking you for granted anymore, you went from begging, pleading, and crying, to taking control of the situation.

This has to take them by surprise and make them start to wonder what is going to happen next, understand? This new “powerful” person they are starting to see is much more attractive than the “weak” and needy person they were use to. Find yourself a good plan using no contact and you will be on your way to healing a broken heart using the no contact rule.

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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Until next time,

S. Williams

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55 Responses to “Can You Heal A Broken Heart Using The No Contact Rule?”

  1. shahfer says:

    hi,this is shahfer,,from india..and i like your this site.

  2. S. Williams says:

    @ shahfer:

    Thanks Shahfer!

    Welcome to my Blog. :)

  3. beckyg says:

    I certainly hope it helps heal a broken heart….

  4. S. Williams says:

    beckyg wrote:

    I certainly hope it helps heal a broken heart….

    Follow the free plan, and you will get your life back and heal your heart…I promise…as far as getting your ex back…50/50 chance.

  5. Sandy says:

    This actually works, I was stuck on my ex for three years, I wasted three years of my life on this man. I did all those things, plead, beg, in fact dis respected myself to try and get him back, Until one day I decided I no longer wanted to live like I was. I started going out, with friends, ect..When another man pays attention to you just a little bit,its such a high. You will feel great.. Get out and flirt it really helps. But dont do what I did, fell hard for someone that really was not interested in me except for sex. I starting to chase him and he knew it. Started to treat me like I was nogthing. The good news I did not sleep with him. But I didnt continue the behavior I did with my ex husband. I realize that I was chasing him and stopped. Sometimes I feel sad but only because I let myself feel that way. By doing that he has the control. I know these are just words, but actions speak louder. No one has control over how you feel. You need to make yourself happy. Its been three weeks since I talked to him. I havent call him, I texted him once and told him, I overreacted, I agree with his decison that we are not meant to be. Peace. That was last Thrusday. I have not heard from him nor do I expect to. I cant deny that I really wanted a relationship with the guy, he made me feel special at first. But I want someone who wants to spend time with me not only when he wants to. I am worth that. I hope it helps

  6. Agata says:

    My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with 2 months ago with explanation that I didn’t express my emotions enough and he was giving 110% of himself.I admit he was giving and expressing a lot more than I.He texts me, calls me sometimes.
    He initiates contact. I ignored him at first. Now I am responsive.
    He tried once to convince me to get back to him over the phone, he seemed sincere but then didn’t follow through with the promises. Said he wants to meet me following weekend but then didn’t call back. I met him finally 2 days ago but all he wanted seemed just sex, he was saying he missed me, was nice but then really was pushing for sex saying he has the feelings now and not to think past this moment. I said I don’t trust him and what he proposes is not enough for me. He sent me a massage next day “so…did I screw with your head? sorry”
    I want him back but the way he was before, considerate, emotional, sensitive. He acts like a jerk, playing games since break up. He knows I started dating but didn’t find a right guy yet. He does the same with no luck.
    What should I do now?

  7. S. Williams says:

    Agata wrote:

    What should I do now?

    Hi Agata,

    He definitely seems to be interested in you but he is not taking you seriously.

    Do you know why?

    He doesn’t think you’re going anywhere, and he has time to play games.

    You can start following the free plan on my Blog, and tell him game time is over…Agata is moving on if you don’t get serious.

    If you take the first step and start following the plan, me and our forum members can help you stay the course…sound good?

    Good!

    The link for the free plan is at the middle top of my Blog.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  8. Stacey says:

    Hi,

    I dont think that a no contact msg would work in my situation. My ex is not making any effort to talk me and hasnt contacted me in atleast 2 weeks.. it would seem a bit silly if i sent a msg when he has already stopped talking to me, deleted me off fb etc..

    I have not contacted him in atleast 10 days. is there any way to do this without sending him a msg? or should i wait until or if he does try to ocntact me?

  9. S. Williams says:

    Stacey wrote:

    I dont think that a no contact msg would work in my situation. My ex is not making any effort to talk me and hasnt contacted me in atleast 2 weeks.. it would seem a bit silly if i sent a msg when he has already stopped talking to me, deleted me off fb etc..

    Hi,

    One question are you more interested in getting your ex back, or worried about “looking silly?”

    If you don’t have the guts to follow my advice, please look elsewhere for advice that won’t make you feel “silly”, OK?

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  10. Stacey says:

    No you misunderstand me I would do amything to get him back. I hear rumours he has moved on and he would prob just think I’m a nutcase because he hasn’t tried contacting me at all. I will do anything I need to get him back I’m just scared he is having more fun with out me! It certainly seems like it

  11. S. Williams says:

    Stacey wrote:

    No you misunderstand me I would do amything to get him back.

    Then start following the free plan.

  12. Ambrose Elllis says:

    Me and my gf broke up over family problems and drama around us with friends. I started the no contact rule last night. She said that she realize that she wasnt ready for a relationship right now and that she would like to try again when we are sure of it. I was wondering is the no contact rule works that good? I want to get her back.

  13. S. Williams says:

    Ambrose Elllis wrote:

    I was wondering is the no contact rule works that good? I want to get her back.

    Hi,

    No reason to wonder, go read the success stories on my Blog, and the success stories in our forum.

    Then go read the free plan, and follow ALL the steps, that is how they were successful.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  14. Ambrose Elllis says:

    thanks. Im going to bookmark this site.

  15. nexus_one says:

    I have the Ex2 system by matt Huston showing how you can get your ex back and insecurities of a man. and I have David DeAngelo Books.

  16. S. Williams says:

    nexus_one wrote:

    I have the Ex2 system by matt Huston showing how you can get your ex back and insecurities of a man. and I have David DeAngelo Books.

    Hi,

    I guess they are not working very well, or you wouldn’t still be looking for help.

    Go read, and follow ALL the steps in the free plan.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  17. nexus_one says:

    I have read them. I just havent tried them yet. I already initiated the nc rule. It’s been 3 day now. I have a little bit of her in me. I been dancing it all out of me. I been doing good. Keeping up with work. The DeAngelo books work.

  18. lil_a says:

    Quick question? does the no contact rule work if you broke up with your girlfriend first? That you wanted her back and then she says she wants to remain friends? :thumbup: :party:

  19. S. Williams says:

    nexus_one wrote:

    I have read them. I just havent tried them yet.

    what are you waiting for?

    The information only works when you take action.

    lil_a wrote:

    Quick question? does the no contact rule work if you broke up with your girlfriend first?

    Yes, if you follow a good NC plan, like the free plan on my Blog.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  20. lil_a says:

    Day 5. So she contacts me today to see how I’m doing. Wondering what I’m up to lately. So I waited until later on and replied. Then after a short amount of time I ended our conversation.

    Why does the ex try to seem all happy when she/he tallks to you?

  21. S. Williams says:

    lil_a wrote:

    Day 5. So she contacts me today to see how I’m doing. Wondering what I’m up to lately. So I waited until later on and replied. Then after a short amount of time I ended our conversation.

    Hi,

    That’s called breaking NC, you need to re-send the recommended NC message without any changes, and start over.

    Did you even read the fucking free plan?

    A plan only works when you follow it.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  22. maggie says:

    i’ve been doing the NC rule and for about 6wks and i’m amazed at how much it’s helping me to get over my broken heart. i don’t think about my ex that much and only text him to see how he’s doing every 3 weeks. the last time i text him he want to come over to see me(possible booty call) but i told him that’s not a good idea because i’m super busy right now with my life, he was shocked at my response. he told me to only text him /call him when i’m ready to hang out with him, oh well.

    • S. Williams says:

      Oh well…

      You are not using no contact correctly.

      If you want your life, and your ex boyfriend back you need to read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps, OK?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  23. Jeff says:

    I broke up with my girlfriend or she broke it off with me 6 weeks ago. We were only together 10 weeks. We still chatted on FB and MSN. In the last week or 2 she said I was being obsessive. So a week ago I said I would not bother her and she said goodbye and goodluck. Then just 3 or 4 days later she popped up and said Hi on facebook. Strange. Then after work 2 days ago she did the same. Said she heard on the news someone in my area had been electricuted and was glad it wasnt me. The next morning I saw that she wasn’t at work and on FB so I said hi. We chatted a bit but when I said lets catch up for coffee sometime she said perhaps then she got a bit weird and decided she should delete me off facebook. It was like it was ok for her to contact me but I shouldn’t contact her. The comment she made that she fills icky that if she says jump I jump..hurts. I haven’t cried since we broke up but this has really upset me. I feel shattered. She told me to contact her when I get my emotions in check, that I was putting pressure on her. I haven’t begged or pleaded once since we broke up. The question is, would sending a no contact letter have any effect at this stage or do you think it is all too late?

    • S. Williams says:

      Jeff says:

      The question is, would sending a no contact letter have any effect at this stage or do you think it is all too late?

      Hi,

      It is never too late to use the free plan and no contact to get your ex girlfriend back, or your life back again.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps, OK?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  24. Maria says:

    It’s been 5 months since I sent my ex the no contact message through text. I’ve had ups and downs, And the months went by faster than I thought. I’ve used the FFT to calm down my nerves, and they’ve helped many times. Sometimes I miss my ex, other times I don’t care, and other times i want to strangle him. I’ve become more calmer than I were after the break up, but recently I’ve become more depressed and anxious. Tomorrow I’m starting at a new school, and recently I’ve had dreams of my ex. I usually wakes up confused, and spend the day trying not to get sad(I use the FFT to rid myself of these emotions.) I remember my ex told me he would start at collage after summer, which may be the reason why I’m thinking about him this much lately. After that incident with my friend he deleted me from instant message. I thought It didn’t matter, but it hurt anyway.(it may have been for the best)I also get a nagging feeling he will forget me and get a new girlfriend, which is also the reason I have to use to FFT daily now days.
    Do you think it’s too late when I contact him when I’m ready?

    • S. Williams says:

      Maria says:

      Do you think it’s too late when I contact him when I’m ready?

      Hi,

      I don’t think you understand the free plan.

      You are NOT here to get your ex boyfriend back, you are here to get your life back.

      I would not worry about reconnecting, it could take a year, and a couple of relationships with other women before your ex boyfriend realizes what he really wants.

      You just need to focus on the plan, FFT will not work if you are still holding on to the failed relationship…you must let it go.

      The one most common theme with everyone who was successful with the free plan, has been that they were actually able to let go of the past, and that was when the new future showed up.

      Stay Strong!

      S.W.

  25. jaarvis says:

    hi im currently waiting to join the forum. been 6 hours but its not approved yet.

    my situation is slightly different from the people here because my ex was the one who told me to stay away and she has been very firm with it.

    i tried using the NC letter but the moment she replied or showed any emotion, i just went back to begging her again and she wont even reply now.

    i finally stumbled upon this website and i realized i made alot of mistakes. i think she might be using NC too. so what should i do?Do i send the letter again? im hoping to give you more details and hear more of your advice from you once my membership to the forum is approved

    cheers

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Don’t “try” using NC, you have to do it.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps, that means sending the recommended no contact message (no changes).

      I will approve your membership once you have completed that process.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      • jaarvis says:

        hi scott. what i meant was that i read about NC on other websites and decided to try it but i failed.

        now that i have come across this website, i am more determined than ever to succeed. i have sent the NC message to her alr and she has not replied as expected

        wouldnt it come across as contradictary because she clearly told me that she did NOT want any contact with me and has kept firm to it and i am asking her not to contact me?

        • jaarvis says:

          i have done all the steps required! awaiting approval now!

        • S. Williams says:

          Hi,

          The free plan is about you taking control of your situation, and getting your life back.

          Who cares what your ex does, says, or thinks?

          It doesn’t fucking matter, understand?

          Take Care,

          S.W.

          • jaarvis says:

            yes! i understand! this is all about healing myself! i understand that the nc message must be exactly the same and not be edited and i have done the steps to correct it

            my email and username be registered anymore though :/

            • S. Williams says:

              Hi,

              You have struck out (run out of chances), try another website for assistance.

              I only have so much time to help “serious” people, and I can’t waste it on dense people like yourself.

              Take Care,

              S.W.

              • jaarvis says:

                hi im sorry that i came across as “dense” to you, it was intentional.

                i would love to follow your healing process step by step

                if you would give me one chance here?

              • maria says:

                Who the hell do you think you are calling people dense you ass, have some respect these people are in pain, somehow i think you have allowed your so called popularity to go to your head,,,bloody grow up!

                • S. Williams says:

                  Hi,

                  Spoken like a truly “dense” person who just doesn’t take the time to read, and learn.

                  I have been in pain, and I know what pain is, and I offer free help to people willing to “help themselves”…people who do not focus are not going to get the help they need.

                  They need to respect my Blog, and the time and effort I put into creating it, and then I will respect them.

                  Respect is a two-way street…just like love.

                  Now, go fuck yourself.

                  Thank you for writing.

                  Take Care,

                  S.W.

  26. qwerty says:

    hi scott!!
    i want to tell u my case…
    i and this guy are together fr more than one and half years..we did had sm issues but we gradually slept over them(which I think was the biggest mistake)and then one day he said he wanted to break off…
    After all dat old stories,I did begging,pleading and what not..
    Finally i initaited NO CONTACT and send him a message(not from this site but that too was very very close to yours)and did nt speak to him fr about 6-7 days..my message reached him at the end of 7th day but he did try to contact me before only but I was firm..then somehow we talked again..everything went on to become better from good..he did realize that I can atleast live without him but he cant.Meanwhile when we were not talking,he made this plan to take his family into loop and tell them everythinga about us..(which I know is a big thing fr him)..Now we are together back but he still keeps on saying he has to tell his family very rationally about everything and we have certain issues to talk about which we will discuss when he will come to my city(LDR)..am little confused from this statement.I really cant understand what hes tryn to potray..is he stuckn me or is he genuinely trying…
    Does your plan applies to me???because we did not break up…or there is some other technique to fix my situation..should i tell him to figure out everything from his end and then get back to me..
    Ahhhh!!! am confused..
    I almost read every post of yours word by word..and I feel your plan genuniely works coz its bestr thing in long run..u know starting a new relationship…
    Scott please help me out..Also one more thing..If you think I should send the NC message plz help m in editing it coz we never broke up..I cant say him I agree with your decision to break up..
    Waiting for your reply

  27. qwerty says:

    hey scott
    i really cant locate it..I know this is a self help forum n i really tried doing it myself before posting this (Considering and appreciating the fact that you have a life fr u and u already are doing much fr ppl..answering these questions can be fucking irritating)but plz help m locating it

    Apologies for the inconvenience caused…

    • jaarvis says:

      Hi,

      I agree with your decision to take a break, I really believe it is the best thing for both of us right now. I have some big decisions to make and I need some time to think them over. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t contact me during this time. I will be in touch when I am ready.

  28. tracey says:

    hey, my ex boyfriend and i were together for almost 3yrs. We got on so well living together and sharing so much fun. Then all of a sudden he started wanting to go out with his mates more and more. He eventually broke up with me saying that it just wasn’t working at the moment and wanted to go big with his mates. I did the normal beg, cry and couldn’t understand. That was 8wks ago. Since then i’ve moved out and now live with some great girls. I have decided to take control and go with the no contact as i think he thinks he,s got me there in case. I deserve more even if in my heart i still love him. Fingers crossed this pain doesn’t last too much longer.

  29. Paul says:

    Hey great posts. What can I do if I already sent a poor NC text. I basically I miss you, Im thinking of you, I cant be friends and I need space to make a decision. I will be in touch when Im ready. Not exactly a puncher. Can I still join your forum or what should I do?

  30. Elena says:

    Hello,
    My ex-boyfriend got so upset with me a few months ago
    He miss-understood me, so He got so upset that he blocked me from his phone, text messages and He told me that he blocked me from his e-mails. I don’t believed he blocked from his e-mails etc.
    I got so desesperated asking him to forgive me and I begged, cried, and pleaded to him. He has not been responding my calls and e-mails. but I know he reads my e-mails for sure more than one time. I have a special accounts that he doesn’t know I know when he reads my e-mails. but I need help to stop begging him etc. I feel like I can’t live without him. I am so afraid to lose him forever.
    He has not been talking to me since 5 months now. What I should do to learn to let him go now. My hearts tells me that He does care about me still. Please help me. Thanks sincerely
    Elena tercero

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      If you are ready to follow the no contact rule the most effective way, and start your personal evolution to get your life back and be happy again, go read the free plan to get your ex back on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  31. Jessica says:

    Hii,
    My Ex was the person who broke up with and ended it by saying not to contact me.So does not it look weird that I am sending him NC msg when evrything is clear from his end?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      The NC message is NOT about what your ex says, thinks, or feels, it is about you, it is about your life, and how you feel.

      Every person that makes an excuse not to send the NC message does so because they are scared.

      Just realize that your fear keeps you prisoner.

      How long will you hold yourself prisoner?

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your man back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  32. jen says:

    hi. will nc work for me? My ex dumped me 2 months ago after being together 9 months but last 3 months i was away traveling. we got engaged before i left as well. i thought he really loved me but i found out he had been cheating On me quite a lot with his ex girlfriend. they were together 3 years and Have a child together. i’m 8 years younger then My ex so maybe he saw me as an easy target as he’s My first boyfriend but i believe he really wanted to spend his life with me. i hope he did really love me but as time goes On i don’t know! i just can’t imagine My life without him. we split because i asked him if he could promise he wouldnt sleep with ex when i’m at uni and that’s when he ended it, just said what’s the point? after 9 months and engagement thought i meant more

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Yes, NC will work for your situation, why?

      Because it is NEVER too late to get your life back and evolve past a break up using the no contact rule.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – Following the no contact rule correctly will also reveal your ex boyfriend’s true feelings for you as well.

  33. cannotname says:

    my boyfriend and i were together for 2 years. one day he broke up with me saying he cant give me what i deserve. i went and apologised saying i didnt need more but the nicer i got about the whole situation..the more distant he became..till he started saying negative things about me..started flirting with girls.. meeting them etc.i have lost all my value in his life.we didnt talk for sometime and tension just kept growing.he started blaming me for everything.it has been four months.
    i recently started using the no contact rule and although its just been 1 week hes been contacting me…but i dont know what to do next and how to respond.i want him back but it seems impossible

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      The exact steps you need to take to use the no contact correctly to evolve past your break up are explained in the free plan under the NC links.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The quickest way to get your guy back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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