Can I Win My Ex Back Even If I Broke The No Contact Rule?

 
If You Broke No Contact Just Start Over Again and Win Back Your Ex

 

If you have broken the no contact rule you’re not alone, and, yes…

You can still win your ex back.

If you want to learn how to get your ex back just keep on reading.

Everyone is just so afraid of the no contact rule.

What if it doesn’t work?

Will it only make things worst?

Can I win my ex back even if I broke the no contact rule?

Put on your work gloves because it’s myth busting time, and, time for you to learn “How to get your ex back.”

 


 

Oh Oh I Broke The No Contact Rule – Can I Win My Ex Boyfriend Back?

 

Sorry, you can never use the no contact rule again if you break it…Not!

This is the beauty of using the no contact rule, if you screw it up just tell yourself; “Hey, I can just start over and get my ex boyfriend/girlfriend back.”

It is really that simple just keep the faith, and learn from your mistakes, and start all over again.

You are bound to get your ex back if you never give up…Right?

I hope you are following some kind of plan, and getting some guidance as you use the no contact rule to win back your ex.

If you want a serious answer to the question; “Can I win my ex back using the no contact rule?”

You have to get serious yourself, serious about the no contact rule, and serious enough to find, and follow a good plan.

Winning back your ex is possible no matter how many mistakes you make, but do you want to wait forever to get back your ex?

Please go get a good plan and go get your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back…I want you to be happy again.

 


 

How Do I Know How Bad I Broke It?

If It’s Bad Can I Still Win My Ex Girlfriend Back?

 

Unless you broke the no contact rule over your ex girlfriend’s, or boyfriend’s head, you are still in the game to win back your ex.

If you did some drunk dialing I would suggest never doing that again.

You never know what drunk guy/gal is going to say, and you probably won’t remember either.

It is hard to follow a plan when your drunk so lay off the booze until you get your emotions under control…OK?

There is really no mistake that time will not heal…the key word being time, you have to be patient.

Using the no contact plan requires patience, and emotional control along with a good plan, and guidance.

If you’re thinking; “I can win my ex back getting advice from the heartache forums.” You are in for a long wait to win back your ex.

I have been to those forums, and have been kicked out…Why?

Because they do not want to solve any problems there, just blow smoke, and sell you stuff.

I saw an ad in one for a book about “Blow Jobs.”

Yeah, that book will help you get your ex back fast…Not!

My point being if you really want to succeed, and win back your ex using the no contact rule.

You need a good plan, and one that is backed up with support as you go through the process.

 


 

Get Help With The No Contact Rule, And, You Can Get Your Ex Back

 

Why would anyone do this?

I mean, do you really think by randomly getting advice from friends, family, and co-workers, that you are going to succeed?

You need a plan, a plan that works, and you need it now.

If you use a good plan with the no contact rule you will be able to tell yourself “I can win back my ex!”

If you have any comments, or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP!

What can I do to help you, get back together with your ex?

What are you willing to do to win your ex back?

 


 

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

 

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read.

I know the address of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I “really” teach people how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free breakup survival plan, and start getting your life back today.

The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

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  1. (I apologize in advance because this is going to be a long message. Also I want to apologize for any grammar errors or typos. I typed all this on my phone.)

    First I want to say I met this girl May of this year and we started dated in July. We broke up towards the end of August.

    So my ex and I broke up about 4 weeks ago. The week before our breakup I noticed she was feeling off. On a Tuesday we went to the lake with her friends the day was cloudy and a bit rainy so at first I thought that was affecting her mood. The whole time we were at the lake she was just sleeping in a hammock. When everyone went into the lake she quickly got out and didn’t even stay 5 minutes. We didn’t really have a good communication at the lake there wasn’t anything like a relationship communication. It was like we were just there.

    The very next day I see her at midnight because her birthday was on Thursday and looking back I overdid it with the gifts I got her which was a mini cake some flowers and I got her a miniature Yorky doll. She did tear up when I give her the gift so I guess she thought it was very sweet of me to do that. So it’s Thursday the official day of her birthday and her friends had planned a dinner for her of course (even though I did not want to, but her friends convinced me since they were taking their boyfriends) So I went with her friends. Her friends brought their boyfriends. When we get to the restaurant we had to wait 1 hour and 15 minutes. There was no waiting sections in the restaurant so we had to wait outside. The guys went next-door and we played billiards in the meantime. Once we got seated it was outside and I could tell my ex was just out of it because of the wait and also because it was a bit humid. I tried everything I could to cheer her up a bit but I felt like it was just was not working at all.

    The next day is Friday and my mom had surgery that day so I spent the whole day at the hospital she came the last two hours and visited me while I was still waiting for my mom and also to see my mom. For that Friday night her friends had planned a surprise party for her. I did not plan on going but I did tell my mom about it and she convinced me to go. So I went for the surprise party and right off the bat they made her take big shots. So she got drunk really quick, sometime passed on and I noticed she was with this girl, I knew all her girlfriends but I didn’t know this girl specifically. It almost looked as if they were going to start making out because they were really into it together. So I go up to my ex and ask her “oh who’s your friend” she said “Don’t worry about it and pushes me in front of everyone” I was really upset when she did that but I told myself OK she’s drunk she doesn’t know what she’s doing but we’re going to have a serious talk about this. Once her friends noticed she couldn’t even walk anymore they took her to a room and they were taking care of her, me being the boyfriend I wanted to help out but her friends would not let me, because I felt like I annoyed them because I wanted to take my girlfriend home that night. Prior to that she agreed that she would sleep over my house because of course she didn’t know about the surprise party she had. So since her friends didn’t let me help her I go on and do my own thing I come back and I basically forced myself to help her out, I was rubbing her back and I noticed that same girl was looking at me like “who is this guy.” So I introduced myself to the girl, I asked her for her name, she introduced herself to me and I told her my name and that I was her (my ex) boyfriend. My ex with her hand is like slitting her throat basically saying don’t listen to what he’s saying. At this point I got really pissed and I just wanted to be alone. Her friend came up to me and was like no and she just wants you to have a good time so she made me drink even more. So I told myself of course I’m not going to let this ruin my night so I went on to go have a good time but I got drunk to the point where I started saying she did not give a fuck about me to some people. I also teared up because I was hurt that she did this to me. So my friend calmed me down a bit and later on my friend was going to drive me back home because the party had already ended we were outside and I just told him no let me just tell her to have a good night first .So I try to go back in but I didn’t know they had already taken her upstairs. One of her guy friends immediately pushed me once I tried to enter the basement and I told him not to push me again because he didn’t know me and if he did it again something was going to happen then my friend stepped in and tried to calm the situation down. He told them to ignore me because I was just drunk. As my friend drove me home I was trying to tell him that if her friends knew my intentions were to tell her good night I didn’t want to go in there and cause any problems but my friend said that no one really knew my intentions. That they all overreacted.

    So it’s Saturday and she was going to New York with a program that she’s in, so she had to be up at five in the morning which is very early plus was really drunk. I got some text messages saying “leave me alone”, “let me just think this through” another text message came by this one read “why would you try to fight him we’re breaking up.” I was so confused and I called her and I explain to her that’s not what really had happened and asked her if we were really breaking up and she told me “I don’t know I have to think about it.” So we got back to texting and we just recapped on what had happened that night and she was also apologizing to me and saying I didn’t deserve for the way that she treated me, that she was drunk and didn’t know what she was doing but she said was maybe that’s how she actually felt.(everyone knows drunk people say sober thoughts) So she stopped replying to me and didn’t respond back for 2 days. (Her days in New York) I guess she wanted some space and have her trip clear her mind. So I was cool with her not replying. Monday comes and I know she’s at work and she has still not responded to me and I notice she’s tweeting some sad or depressing stuff on Twitter. That’s when I decided to text her and ask her if she was OK. Of course every girl doesn’t tell you that she’s not OK so I went on and I just talked about her trip in New York, all the good things that happen and what she enjoyed about it. Anything to keep her mind off what happened.

    We agreed to meet the next day in the morning to have this talk. That’s when she made it official that we were breaking up because she said she was not happy with our relationship she was just comfortable in the relationship and she wasn’t committed to it she told me that she felt like she wasn’t claiming me as a boyfriend. She told me I deserve someone way better because I was such a sweet guy to her and with what she was paying me back with, was not the same. She told me we didn’t really show each other off also. (which was stupid because we didn’t even have 2 months of dating) I did beg her not to break up with me that we could just talk this out and just work on something together but she had already had it in her mind that we were breaking up.

    So I implemented the no contact rule. during this time I did an analysis on our relationship of what went wrong. What did go wrong was that we rushed it. I said I met her for two months and then I made her my girlfriend, two months is a very short period of time. I had a lot of free time in the summer so did she and we would see each other a lot. I MEAN ALOT. One day she spent 12 hrs with me. At one point I saw her for week straight. She accidentally met my mom because she was over my house watching a basketball game with me and my mom came home from work and met her. Since my mom liked her I kept inviting her back to my house every time my mom would be home (i am an idiot for doing this.) My mom one day invited her to my brothers graduation (I think this was literally the night after my mom first met her.) I was pissed she did that because I knew my mom was rushing it by inviting her to a family event. Her friends found out about me after we first started talking and I feel like they rushed her as well because they knew about me and they knew I was a great guy plus she was the only girl in her group that was single. Plus she had a ugly ending to her last relationship and was single for a year. I also made the analysis that at first she was chasing me but I flipped the script and ended up chasing her. So me rushing it and chasing her is what made her feel not committed and gave her the feeling of unhappiness towards our relationship in my opinion (then again i don’t know what her ex-boyfriend did to her. i just know that she said “he ruined her”) but she had been single for a year so i thought maybe she was over that. Again i don’t know why she really wasn’t committed and to this day I don’t know why.

    So again I did do no contact but only for 8 days. Between the 8 days she did text me saying she was hoping I was going well and wished me goodnight. As I said I did not respond until the eighth day by just simply sending a funny picture of her and just starting a really good conversation. I did take a while throughout the next few days to text back but we were having really good conversations she even agreed to meet up with me (after she told me she wanted to see me) we agreed to have a drink….. until a Sunday night came up with some bad news. That’s when the news of DACA we’re starting to come up. (She has DACA herself and was affected by the news). I called her that night and I could tell that she was crying that she was really upset over the news. So she went on to take a shower and went to sleep. The next day in the morning I can tell she’s out of it. That afternoon she was starting the first day of her new job. So she didn’t really text me at all that day which was understandable it was her first day on the job which was cool. We texted a bit after her job but again I could tell she was out of it.

    The next morning she didn’t text me back at all. I was in class and once get out and found out that they officially announced the news of DACA. I go on twitter and again I find out she’s tweeting some depressing stuff (I would also if knew my future was up in the air). Since she still didn’t respond back to my text from the night I gave her a call to check up on her. She didn’t pick up and I texted her to give me a call. She responded 4hours later saying she didn’t really want to talk about it. (This is the same day we agreed to meet up). I held a small convo then told her to get ready at 730. That I would pick her up. She told me “it won’t be long right because I want to play soccer at 9 and take my anger out on the ball” I told her I can’t say yes or no but you should just come along so you can get your mind off of this maybe a drink will help you. She told me she didn’t really want to drink. So I asked if she wanted to grab ice cream instead she said she just wanted to stay in bed. She asked if I was available the next day. Unfortunately I wasn’t. So she told me she could see me Thursday (9/7/17). (This was odd because I knew she had a scholarship dinner that day.) But I assumed she was willing to make time for just to see me. So I told her I felt like I was getting in the way of her and I told her that I’ll give her some space that she can just text me on Thursday she said definitely I will text you Thursday and she also thanked me because she said I deserve to just shut her out and she thanked me for just staying there with her and she appreciated that.

    So the next day at night she texts me saying she wasn’t thinking when she said Thursday she says “that’s the day of my event”. I was a little irritated at this point and replied with a simple “ok” she replies back with “sorry” and I just said “don’t sweat it” she says “ok” and I again respond back saying “ok”. She left me on read but I didn’t care at this point I was just irritated.

    So on Thursday I ended up building a computer, I posted it on Snapchat and she messaged me a Snapchat saying I am very proud of you. I also told her if anything I’m proud of you, for your scholarship and for who you are. She told me she appreciated that very much and then I asked if we could reschedule and she said yes definitely and I told her OK have fun just text me back when you’re ready.

    So I went on and did some things that day and eventually at night she posted pictures of her dinner and mind you she was looking amazing in that dress. That’s when I got in my feelings a bit because I wasn’t there to see her in that amazing dress and receiving a scholarship. That’s when I texted her again just saying congrats I’m very proud of you. She made a few jokes about my computer and what not, I replied back with some jokes as well. Then she asked me “how are you actually doing.” I wanted to lie and say I’m doing just fine(I should have) but as I said I was in my feelings and I just told her I can’t stop thinking about the break up and I felt like I did rush the whole thing and that’s why she felt like she wasn’t committed. She told me it wasn’t on me that it was just her, that she couldn’t be in a relationship feeling the way that she did she said doesn’t know why she feel that way but she just couldn’t stay like that. She told me that we just had to let this go and move on and I told her why would you keep responding to me then and agree to see me (mind you she did tell me first she wanted to see me before i asked her to meet up with me) so I told her I thought you wanted to get back together in way. I told her I don’t want to get back with you right away but I do want a fresh start, she told me no we can’t do that, that what would happen is we would be happy for a month and then we go back to this situation again. I asked her if she’s moved on yet with someone or just moved on. She responded by saying “I am keeping myself busy. I only think of you when I’m at home, or when I drive past your house, or when I look through my camera roll. That is when we said our goodbyes and she told me that one day hopefully I find someone that actually deserves me and I told her that I hope one day a guy can truly make her happy because that’s what she deserves.

    So it’s been 10 days since that last conversation. Again I am currently doing no contact I will for 30 days in total. I have deleted all her photos from my phone and I have unfollowed her on all social media. I also haven’t been doing anything on social media. It’s as if i’m dead. She has contacted me twice so far. 4 days ago on instagram she sent me a video on instagram of people eating chips with ketchup (yea i know) she said “see I’m not the only one who eat chips with ketchup.” I did not open the message until hours later and never responded. The very next day I actually drove by my friends neighborhood and I drove past her (she was picking up her friend and her friends boyfriend because she was in front of her friends house. That night she texted me “I think you drove by me today. I hope you’re doing good.” I’ll be honest even though it has almost been 3 days since she has contacted me I am a bit annoyed because I was doing very well within the first week of trying to move on. But when she contacted me I was just confused as to why. She told me herself, we had to let go what we had. But she’s the one contacting me. It makes no sense. My friend told me that it is because when she’s alone she has no one to talk to so she turned to me because she misses me now and she knows I would respond back. But of course I haven’t. I left her message on read the next day. So now I feel like since she contacted me maybe she does actually miss me or does she think we can be just friends? So I am just confused now. In a way I feel like she does miss me and by not responding to her maybe she will realize what she’s about to lose and will end up changing, so I can get her back. But then again she did say something lame with that chips message over instagram and she did only text me because I drove past by her so I don’t know. Maybe the next few weeks will just help me clear my mind. I don’t think she will contact me again during my no contact phase. Until I start posting on social media after.

    So my one question right now is what should I do with the uncertainty that she actually wants me back? I don’t know if she wants us to just remain as friends (I can’t do that because I’ll end up liking her again) or if maybe deep down she does want me back.

    PS. She’s very prideful that’s why I don’t think she will contact me again during my no contact. Also she never liked to talk about her feelings. She always kept them to herself. That’s why she didn’t tell me she wasn’t happy in our relationship.

    1. Pete said:

      So it’s been 10 days since that last conversation. Again I am currently doing no contact I will for 30 days in total.

      Hi Pete,

      If you didn’t send the recommended NC message as explained in The Free Breakup Survival Plan you are not using the no contact rule, correctly.

      The no contact rule (the way I suggest people use it) is not about making your ex want you back, that’s just a side effect.

      The no contact rule is about you accepting the breakup, and evolving past the failed relationship, and preparing yourself for a new relationship, either with or without your ex.

      You MUST send the NC message in-order to get the most benefit from the no contact rule.

      PS. She’s very prideful that’s why I don’t think she will contact me again during my no contact.

      It doesn’t matter what you ‘think’ she will do, you MUST send it, otherwise, you’re just ignoring her, and that’s pointless.

      I recommend you go read the free breakup survival plan, and subscribe to my newsletter, for more free support.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. Although I do want her back. I understand that the no contact is for me to forward for myself. Which is what I have been doing, I am still going to the gym, I built my computer, I’ve gotten back to reading, started learning HTML and CSS code. I’ve started to do things that I said I would, so that has been a big help. Even though it sucks what I am feeling I know that I need to learn from the past and move forward. I am using my emotions as fuel and her contacting me recently was just a bump on the road. I did not look at the free sample so apologies for that, but I am going to right now. Thank you for responding to me. I’ll reply back to the post once I’ve read the sample and once again after my 30 days up. Thank you!

        1. Pete said:

          I’ll reply back to the post once I’ve read the sample

          Hi Pete,

          The Free Breakup Survival Plan is NOT a sample, it is a complete plan, with free support.

          I don’t play that “carrot on the stick” bullshit on my Blog, you get the whole plan, for free.

          Just like any plan, you have to to execute the steps in the proper order, you can’t skip steps and expect good results.

          Patience is the key to success.

          Don’t ‘what if’ yourself right out of the game.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  2. Hello,

    Me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago and I decided to do NC one week after the break up. He reached out on Day 6 “Have a good life. You should watch “It” it is a pretty great movie by the way. ”
    I texted back that I will watch it and ended up begging for him back and telling him my life was horrible without him. He told me he didn’t feel a spark anymore and his friends and family despised me. He also told me he doesn’t like my friends, my family, or my coworkers so he couldn’t be with me forever and plus he lost a spark. We were together for 1.5 years.
    I was wondering if I still have a chance to get him back since I broke NC once and begged for him back and told him I was miserable without him. Did I ruin everything or do I still have a chance? Help. I need a game plan and I need to know if I ruined my chances forever. I am on Day 4 of NC, Phase 2.

    I also wanted to mention that when we last texted he told me I needed to move on and be positive and to accept the break up as it is. I didn’t reply to that and it has been 4 days ever since.

    Also he is the one who initiated the break up.

    We are both 21.

    1. Cassandra said:

      I was wondering if I still have a chance to get him back since I broke NC once and begged for him back and told him I was miserable without him. Did I ruin everything or do I still have a chance? Help. I need a game plan and I need to know if I ruined my chances forever. I am on Day 4 of NC, Phase 2.

      Hi Cassandra,

      You always have a chance, especially when you’re both 21.

      Your best chance of evolving past your breakup (failed relationship) and preparing for a new relationship (with or without) your ex is to accept the breakup, and leave your ex alone.

      You can’t force someone to love you, you have to give them time and space.

      If you haven’t sent the recommended NC message (in the free breakup survival plan), you are on day 0 of NC.

      Go read the free breakup survival plan, and follow ALL the steps.

      The more you beg and cling, the further you push your ex away, and make chances for a new relationship, a lot harder.

      Stop begging and pleading, and start educating yourself, and preparing for a new relationship.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. The first time he broke up with me, I accepted it and he reached out 6 days later while I was doing NC. I broke it and started begging him and telling how miserable my life was without him. It didn’t work obviously. I thought by begging him and breaking no contact, I established/reinforced his decision of breaking up with me and he won’t feel regret anymore because I begged him and fell into his trap. That is why I am panicking.

        1. Hi,

          I told what you need to do in my last reply.

          Now, you need to take action.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  3. Hi,
    My Story is long and I am not that good at english, but I hope you’ll answer anyway.
    I am at the College at the moment, and school starts on monday again. I am in the same class as her.
    We were in a relationship for 2 years. It was my first serious relationship, even though I had some before, but I was young so it was kinda “just to have one”.
    Well, in this 2 years I changed a lot. In the last few months I was often angry, and a lot of things annoyed me, and such things. But when we met each other I was totally different. Nothing actually annoyed me, I was optimistic and happy about everything. Well what stayed was my homour. But in the last 2 months I didn’t see her because she was in America (we live in Austria), and all of our contact was serious and I got often angry when she didn’t have any time to contact me. Yeah, I was an idiot.
    And then she decided to breakup. First I convinced her to take a break for 1 week, and she accepted it. After that week she was still unsure, and wanted to meet me when she is back, but somehow it didn’t work, so I never met her and she broke up. And then a LOT of things happened. Mostly about me. You have to know, she has a very important exam today, so she was really stressed about that too. First I got kind of a illness, where I could have died actually. So she stayed in contact with me, even though I begged and tried to convince her to get back together after all this is over. She didn’t want to. Well, after that I said, it was all just to make her “hate me”, so she wouldn’t be sad if I died. She said, she never could hate me. When I was at home again, I wanted to skype with her. She didn’t want to. I said, maybe I should accept the breakup and maybe when we got enough time, we COULD get back together. She said, that would be a good idea. Then I blocked her and told her to do the same, and she seemed kinda happy about it (idk if she really was, because it was all via whatsapp). Then I started to work on myself, changed myself and all. So I wrote her a sms after a few days (a big mistake) that I was going well and all that. She never replied, I got depressed. I lost my best friend, my family started to hate me for no reason and I had to live on the street. And a old friend of mine took me and I’m still at his home. Since then I started to drink, had some fights, was attacked with a knife and have really bad injurys. I wrote that to another friend of mine (well, actually not a friend), but before that she asked my ex if she knew where I am, because I compeletly dissapeared. Then she wrote to my ex again, and explained her my situation and asked her to help me. I didn’t know about all that, but it seemed like I told this friend of mine to do so. Just to get my ex back. So my ex completely ignored it, and I think this destroyed all my chances. I wrote her then too, that I am lonely and want to speak to her, because I actually had no one left, it was like the whole world hated me. Yeah, bad times.
    So what could I do now? Should I show her that I am still the funny guy as at the beginning of our relationship, by joking around and being funny, or is it to late? Because somehow I stopped doing it. Maybe this is one of the major changes she doesn’t like?
    And maybe she will feel something again when she only see’s me? We only chatted for 2 months. She never saw me. I think this is really unpersonal. At least I feel so.
    What could I do else? Should I try to speak to her? Should I be cold towards her? Should I make her jealous? (They are a few girls in the class that like me a lot. She was always jealous about them)
    And will she believe me when she sees my scars?
    I know, you can’t see what will be, and whats in her mind, but maybe you got some clues 😀

    And all of that was in a really short period of time, so this is maybe why she won’t believe me.

    1. Hi Ranko,

      It sounds like you have a lot to deal with your life, at the moment.

      I think you should read (and follow) The Free Breakup Survival Plan, and then turn your focus on your current personal problems.

      You need to take care of yourself, first, before asking someone to be a part of your life.

      There is always a chance (90-120 days from now) that you will both be ready to start a new relationship together, but that will never happen if you don’t use the no contact rule correctly, and take care of yourself.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. Well, somehow I managed to destroy it all…
        I solved my personal problems in the last few days somehow. But right now I need time to regenerate myself. But still I screwed up with the no contact. When I saw her at school, so cold, I couldn’t handle myself anymore and had to speak to her. First it was good. The next day she was even colder than the day before!
        And then I did the same mistakes again, I rushed things, tried to solve it by speaking to her and all. Nothing worked. I had so much problems, and she said she hasn’t anything to do with them, and doesn’t want to do anything with me, because of how my life is right now. I ran to her train station, and knew I’ll catch her there. Under tears I apologized and explained all that, so she believed me, she hugged me and had to go into the train. The next day again…she was cold! Again! Then I again tried to speak to her, didn’t think clear about what I said, wrote her a long sms which she didn’t want to read! So she didn’t! She just said, it’s non of her problems. She is not part of my life anymore.
        And now all hope is lost actually…
        So I feel like giving up. But what do you think? Is there ANY chance right now?
        Because, I said I’ll change, so she said “Do it for yourself, not for me”. I asked, if that happened if we possibly could have another chance. She just said “maybe” and went away. At that moment it seemed like a “no” from my perspective. I see her at school every day. I don’t know if that lowers my chances because I can’t do no contact how it should be done. So yeah, my chances seem to be pretty low… but what would you say..?

        And it was all at a such short period of time, and so emotional and rushed, it just feels like I destroyed it all. She is always happy at school without me. Is it a show maybe?

        1. And now all hope is lost actually…
          So I feel like giving up. But what do you think? Is there ANY chance right now?

          Hi,

          If you cannot (or will not) follow simple instructions…you’re screwed – in all aspects of life.

          At some point you have to take responsibility for your actions, and exercise some self-control.

          Don’t keep fucking up, and then asking “is there still hope?”.

          There is one thing I can tell you for sure, if you keeping initiating, and then breaking NC, you’re driving her farther away.

          Your best chance at achieving happiness, is to buckle down, and follow all the steps in the free breakup survival plan.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

          1. I know I made huge mistakes. But if I wasn’t ready to correct them, and stop doing them, I wouldn’t try to ask for help anymore right?
            I choose to do everything I have to. I’ll do no contact as long as it takes FOR ME to forget everything. And I think that could be months. The only think I wanted to know if I should give up on getting her back, because it’s to broke? But I won’t give up in getting happier in life. I think I’m not going to fuck it up again.

  4. my story is long but I will make it as short as I can. i was in a relationship with my fiance for 6 years with a 5 year old son. we broke up about 6 weeks ago(mutual break up). i find out that my ex started dating his best friends babys mom the next day. i was so upset that I threatened her and it made him upset. he told me we will never be together again and he loves her now. i was heartbroken. so I decided to try the NCR. but it’s extremely difficult with a child involved. but he would use that to his advantage when he doesn’t hear from me for days at a time. about two weeks ago he calls me one day and asks if we could take our son to the park, I was hesitant but I did go. he asked me if we can go somewhere and talk, I agreed to talk. he told me he was still in love with me and thinks about me all the time when he’s with her. the next thing you know we are hooking up and this goes on for a couple of days but continues to have a relationship with this girl. after a couple of days I told him he needs to make a decision on what he wants and he told me he’s confused and doesn’t know what to do and needs time to figure it out meanwhile he’s still seeing her and me. i tell him again this is his last chance and needs to make a decision. he told me there’s too much damage in our relationship and he doesn’t think it will work out. he broke my heart twice now. i don’t talk to him for a couple of days but he reached out to me to let me know he will be there for our son’s first day of school. so I saw him and it was obvious there was still love between us and we hooked up again and we’re back at square one. he sees me at night and has a relationship with her during the day. I’m so hurt by all this and idk what to do at this point. my head says to move on but my heart tells me to wait for him. I’m in love with him but my self esteem is just going further and further down from all this. And also I does have a drinking problem and that was one of our issues in our relationship. he only calls me when hes drunk because that’s when his emotions are all over the place. should i do the NCR all over again and see what happens?

    1. so I saw him and it was obvious there was still love between us and we hooked up again and we’re back at square one. he sees me at night and has a relationship with her during the day. I’m so hurt by all this and idk what to do at this point. my head says to move on but my heart tells me to wait for him.

      Hi,

      He is only coming back for sex.

      He wants his cake, and eat it, too.

      If he really loved you, he wouldn’t treat you this way.

      You need to move on, and that will take time and determination.

      You still feel strong feelings for him, but that doesn’t mean he has the same feelings for you.

      There’s a big difference between love and lust.

      Love involves RESPECT, and he is NOT showing you any, so, it’s not love, just lust…a booty call.

      If you want my help go read the Free Breakup Survival Plan, and join my 30 day NC support newsletter.

      The newsletter will walk you through everything you need to do to use the no contact rule correctly.

      Plus, it will walk you through how to join our free support forum, so you can get additional support, as well.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  5. Hello! My name is Maria and i’ve dated my ex boyfriend for 10 months. We broke up about a month and a half ago. I failed the no contact rule after 10 days and then I started it again.
    He texted me after 2 weeks after i failed the NC and we talked for an hour. He asked me if i want my cat back and then he seemed kind of interested in what I have been doing (he asked about some major events in my life). Last week was his birthday and i wished him all the best and we talked to each other for 3 hours. I tried to shut the conversation twice but he wanted it to continue. He told me he applied to a new job and that he wanted to get his driver license (one of the reasons our relationship ended was the fact that I told him that he is wasting his time on meaningless activities and don’t want him to be a loser. I know, I screwed up).
    After 2 days I contacted him again because he posted something on his Facebook profile and it reminded me of something that we shared together. That day he told me that he didn’t eat anything that we used to eat together since “that moment” (he couldn’t/wouldn’t say “break up”).
    He didn’t delete our pictures on Facebook even though he deleted some pictures with other persons. He also responds positively whenever we talk. At the same time, he has always stated that he wouldn’t get back together with any ex girl friend.
    I really love him and I want him back but I think that he might be over me or he is trying to get over me. I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to be pushy and needy but I’m afraid I’ll lose him. I know I failed the NC but I couldn’t stop talking to him. What should I do now? Repeat the NC? What if he is over me by time I will have finished the NC? Is he just polite when we are talking (I contacted him three times since the breakup and he contacted me once)? Is there any chance we will get back together? Please, help us.

    1. HI Maria,

      You need to use the no contact rule correctly.

      Go read the Free Breakup Survival Plan, and follow ALL the steps.

      Make sure you also sign up for my 30 day NC email support.

      It’s all free, and everything you will need to get over your breakup, and get your ex back.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – Sorry for the late reply, Gmail was putting my comment notifications in the spam folder. I have it fixed, now.

  6. Hi..
    My gf recently brokedup with me(6yrs rlnship) .. because of my vulgur language towards her and my over possisiveness … (she started talking to a new guy whoz trying to flirt her and i called to him and said we moved physically dont please distrb her…he gone to her and said abt nonsense abt me) and then she said she need a space and she started a new life and said to me not to distrb her…(shez also saying we are in 6yrs rlnship dont u trust me).. i begged her a lot and tried to convinced her but she doesnt even care me. I stopped talking to her for 9 days then i got her new number and asked her friend to talk about me. Then she responded to me and said me to meet her .. then i again started to convince her… the next day her office coleagus made a meet about me …and she got frustration and scolded me again not to talk wid her… and she said she will never come back.. what to do now

    1. Hi,

      The best thing you can do right now is leave her alone.

      I suggest you read the Free Breakup Survival Plan, and start using the no contact rule correctly.

      A 6 year relationship will not disappear overnight, be patient, give her, her space.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – Sorry about the late reply, I didn’t get notified of your comment, and just found it today.

  7. my 30 day of no contact was successful by making her miss me n end up by her calling me n asking me where do u vanish n though sometimes she behaves hot n cold …it wz not a big deal but I’d mess up again by my drunkful text ,calling n needy behavior n now she stopped responding my text even though sometimes she pick my call n moreover after my messy behavior she seems to be interested in some guys…… What should I do now ? Do I Hv to try Second No contact again for how many days or just move on plz help… help me dz one out… Do I don’t hv a chance wd my long distance relationship

    1. Hi,

      The no contact rule is NOT just about making your ex miss you.

      I explain in detail, how to correctly use the no contact rule, in the free breakup survival plan.

      If you do not use NC correctly, it doesn’t matter how many days go by, you will fail.

      Go read the free breakup survival plan, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  8. i broke the no contact rule what do i do

    1. Hi,

      The first thing you should do after you break the no contact rule is re-initiate it, by sending the “recommended” NC message as outlined in the free breakup survival plan.

      Make sure you read the whole plan, first, and then, go back to the section about the NC message, and, follow ALL the steps.

      That’s it!

      Everything you need to know, is in the plan, go use it.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  9. What if he says it is done and over…., and I asked if I could send stuff; he said yes? I initiated asking can we revisit a relationship in 6 months to a year and he said possible, but unlikely and he is not ready to talk to me and feels better without speaking to me…..I broke the NCR, bc he said I could talk to him, but he said he did not know how long it would be until he responded. We have both reactivated our dating sites and are talking/dating others, but I only want him. I think he blocked me on his phone, and I do not know why….Do I , reasonably and rationally/realistically, still have a chance? He has not spoken to me in over two weeks and has gifts for me and I finally emailed him saying I would like them, but am not sure if I will get them and I have gifts for him….What do I do….Trying my best to take care of my mind, body and all…., including others, but I cannot stop thinking about him. I am great at counseling others, but cannot practice what I preach…..I am truly broken…I am not a woman of faith and I bv our energies brought us together, and after dating hundreds of men and him women, we really thought we were it and planning a wedding. He is difficult to deal with, and I do know he will always be single (60 and no real commitment, bc the ladies leave or he leaves, like he did me, bc I fought back), so I have a chance there, but he may say no, for he no longer loves me, according to him…, and I wish I had held my tongue instead of darting back at him…..Scared and do not want to live another 40 years without him….We had a very and I do mean very special bond…..I have always dated gents 20+ my senior, but he would act so immaturely, sometimes, and selfish, for a 60-year-aged-man and then I messed up and acted a fool….I wish he had applied this logic and seriousness while together….I do not know how to interpret him blocking me and his idea that we *can* not will, bc he is precise about wording, talk again….Do I make contact after 2 months, if he has not? Really lost and scared. For all I know, he has blocked me in every way possible and the only way I would know is if I send something and I know better now…..So he may think I am trying to contact him, when I am not, so he may not be applicable to this NCR….He seems to be doing fine…..Thanks….</3

    1. Hi,

      The no contact rule always works.

      Why?

      Because it puts the control of your life, back into your hands, not your ex’s.

      The no contact rule is not about making your ex come back.

      It’s about agreeing with the breakup and letting your ex go.

      This gives you the space you need to evolve past the breakup, and, regain your life.

      You can then analyze your failed relationship, and, see where things went wrong, and, if they can ever go right.

      You’re panicking (like everyone else who gets dumped), and, there is no reason to panic.

      Let him go.

      You cannot make him stay against his will, anyways, right?

      If you “truly” love him, you want him to be happy, right?

      Then let him go, and, start focusing on healing yourself.

      Go read the free breakup survival plan, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  10. Hi,
    I’ve applied the no contact rule with a lover. It has passed 45 days…and I haven’t heard from him. I still having feelings for him and don’t know what to do next…Please, I need some help!!!!

    1. I’ve applied the no contact rule with a lover. It has passed 45 days…and I haven’t heard from him. I still having feelings for him and don’t know what to do next…Please, I need some help!!!!

      Hi Marce,

      Unless you applied the no contact rule as outlined in the free breakup survival plan, you didn’t use it, correctly.

      You can go read the free breakup survival plan, and skip to the reconnection phase.

      You can follow the steps in the reconnection phase, and try to reconnect with your ex.

      If you fail.

      Start NC over, and, this time, follow ALL the steps in the entire free breakup survival plan.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  11. Hi,

    My ex and I broke up last feb 21st, I went to a no contact for 21 days from march 17th to april 9th. april 10 i went to his house to surprise him, when he saw me, he hugged me and held my hand, he even kissed me on my cheeks. we talked about a lot of things going on in our lives during the time that we have no communication. then he gave me a ride to the bus station, day after that i called him and he suddenly got angry, and he said that we should not continue our relationship cause he is not yet ready. have i love him forever? do i still have a chance to win him back? what should i do now?

    1. Hi,

      You have the best chance if you use the no contact rule, correctly.

      You didn’t use the no contact rule correctly.

      The more mistakes you make, the further you push your ex away.

      I suggest you go read the free breakup survival plan, and follow all the steps.

      This will guide you along the right path using the no contact rule.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  12. Hi, my girlfriend of 10 mths left me 3 weeks ago and moved out of the house we have a mortgage together on (we only moved in 1 month ago). It was due to my insecurities that developed in my previous relationship and I am now getting therapy to help me. I have begged and pleaded with my ex for 3 weeks and initially she said she needed time and space but she has been angry and cruel and yesterday said she wouldn’t be coming back ever. She was signed off from work and put on anti depressants 3 weeks ago and she doesn’t even sound herself when I talk to her. She’s angry, abusive and does not stop to let me talk. Is there any hope that if I start no contact now, she may come round and calm down. Right now she has played down any happy memory and backtracked on all the things she used to say she found attractive about me.

    1. Hi,

      The best thing you can do right now, is leave her alone, so she can heal, and then, start helping yourself heal, as well.

      That’s what the no contact rule (the way I teach people to use it) is for.

      Go read the free breakup survival plan, and follow all the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. Thanks, I’m trying to focus on my son (from a previous relationship) but it doesn’t feel any easier 3 weeks on!
        Is there a chance that even after my ex has been so angry and cruel and vowed she’s never returning,she may come round?
        We had only just moved into a beautiful new home with future plans so I am devastated.

        1. Is there a chance that even after my ex has been so angry and cruel and vowed she’s never returning,she may come round?

          No one can predict the future (because in reality it is always changing), but, there is always hope.

          Your chances og getting back together with your ex will increase significantly, if you stop trying to get her back, and, let her decide what she “really” wants.

          People don’t like being told who is best for them, they like to figure that out on their own.

          Make sense?

          You can’t change the past, you can only learn from it, and, prepare for the future.

          If you commit to following the free breakup survival plan, it will help you let go of the past, and, prepare for the future.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

          1. Thanks again, it’s just so hard leaving her be, without worrying whether she’s thinking about me or if she’s moved on (although last week she did say that men are the last thing on her mind). It’s just her angry comments that she is never coming back that worry me that she’s not going to come round as it’s been 3 weeks but then I guess I have continuously pestered her so she hasn’t had a chance to calm down or miss me. It also doesn’t help that she has apparently told all her family and friends all my bad points so they are telling her to never come back to me. I still feel that maybe her mind isn’t in the right place as she has been put on anti depressants and was signed off work for not coping for a week. She doesn’t sound herself and just rants and says horrible things but then claims that she’s fine and happier than ever and everyone says she looks better. This is so tough as I just want her to come back and give things a chance

            1. Go read the NC diaries in our forum, you’re not the only one who had a “tough” breakup.

              Suck it up, and stop whining.

              I showed you a path.

              Now, take it.

              Take Care,

              S.W.

              1. Hi there, Just a bit of an update (apologies for the long winded text):
                So, bit of a confusing development over the weekend…I had to make enforced contact as my ex had still not actioned something with the house and financial commitments we share together.
                When I rang she was still angry (much as I had expected as she had emailed on the Friday following constant contact from me (couldn’t help it) to advise that she would “never come back” and things got quite nasty over the house situation.
                Yesterday, after I had made my last contact via phone and email without response I had a text from her Mum warning me to back off or they would look at getting a restraining order and would also try to force the sale of the house (which as I put in all the money to get) I have already said I would keep rather than lose the money I put in. My ex has always agreed to this and would remain as a joint owner until I sell up but is aware that any profit would be mine.
                I sent a rather heartfelt message back to her Mum, and suddenly the tone changed and her Mum said that I had pushed her further away by my constant harassment. I held my hands up and said I understood this had made her angry but I was trying to fix something etc etc. I asked if in her opinion if I backed off now, after 3 weeks of begging was there a chance and her response was “I can’t say but you need to give her space and see what happens”. In the mean time my ex had contacted my sister after my sister sent a message on my behalf just asking that I could have a response on the house issue I had asked. My ex went into detail and said that “she was just looking to have a break from me, and that if it wasn’t for her daughter she would have stayed but didn’t want to risk arguing again in front of her” She also said that she just wanted a break but I have made things worse by my constant pestering. She also said that my comments regarding her moving on whilst apart annoyed her (as she really couldn’t even have that in her mind). I have suggested via her Mum that if I was to back off now (and this time I really will), and give it time does she think that my ex may give things a chance by initially seeing me when she doesn’t have her daughter. That way she can see over weeks and months whether I have dealt with my insecurities. I am clinging onto the hope that my ex said if it was just her she would stay and give me a chance, because surely if she had no love or feeling for me she would be gone regardless. There has also been talk from her Mum that the biggest problem is that I have changed as much as I promise I have, especially when I broke my promise of going no contact.
                For now, I will go strict no contact and I guess see what happens in 3 or 4 weeks. I know I messed up the no contact at the start, but hope that maybe, just maybe the anger she has displayed lately is purely due to the fact I am pestering her and essentially picking a scab that is trying to heal.

                1. Hi,

                  I’m not sure if you sent the recommended NC message, yet, but, there is a version just for this type of situation (shared financial obligations).

                  Send that version, which is found here: The Real Truth About The No Contact Rule

                  Read the free breakup survival plan, and, then, send the NC message.

                  Make sure you follow all the steps in the free plan.

                  Joining our free breakup support forum would be a wise move, too.

                  Take Care,

                  S.W.

                  1. Hi SW, I did send a NC message (only to break it) and following the harassment threat last night I won’t dare send anything further or make any contact.
                    Am I right in taking a slight positive from her Mother’s remarks that I need to give her time and space, and in light of my ex’s comments to my sister that she just wanted a break?

                    I will check out the breakup survival plan and remain NC but kind of hoping that this isn’t dead and maybe by finally giving her the space and time apart, she may come round. Surely she would tell my sister and her Mum would tell me if it was all dead in the water with no hope, why draw it out? Thanks

                    1. Hi,

                      I don’t care what her family thinks.

                      If you want the best results, you need to use NC correctly.

                      I am not a lawyer.

                      But, unless she has served you legal papers, or you have been warned by the police, you can re-send the NC message (no changes), and then don’t break it.

                      If you only contacted her to talk about financial matters, you didn’t break NC.

                      If you talked about the breakup, and getting back together.

                      You broke NC.

                      Now, you need to re-send the same exact NC message, that states, you will only be in contact, when it’s necessary, to discuss shared financial matters.

                      She cannot stop you from doing that, as long as, she is legally bound to these financial agreements.

                      If her name isn’t on any of the financial documents, you’re wasting your time contacting her.

                      I am here to help people who want to follow the free breakup survival plan, not to speculate about what your ex’s family tells you.

                      You have a choice.

                      Follow the free breakup plan, and, my advice, or, listen to your ex’s family.

                      It’s your choice.

                      Take Care,

                      S.W.

  13. Hello, my girlfriend and I broke up almost a month ago, and I know we are bit young to have it all figured out, but I know we are great together and I still feel like there’s something between us. We have been kind of talking over the past month, and I even convinced her to try a “friends with benefits” sort of thing, but that didn’t work out and that recently ended. We recently decided to be friends and still talk, but I don’t know if that’s the best option right now. I’ve tried moving on, but no matter what I’ve tried it hasn’t worked at all. She says she doesn’t really love me any more, but I’m sure I’ve figured out the cause of our breakup, I just can’t fix it unless she gives me the chance. I feel like she wishes we could work out, but right now it seems like she is still kinda distant. I’m just wondering what to do that will help me out the most… will no contact still give me the best chance of getting back together? I don’t care how long it may take, right now I just want to get the chance to fix things like I know I can.

    1. I’m just wondering what to do that will help me out the most… will no contact still give me the best chance of getting back together? I don’t care how long it may take, right now I just want to get the chance to fix things like I know I can.

      Hi Layne,

      Your best chance of getting your ex back, is to use the no contact rule, and leave her alone for a while.

      The more you keep breaking up, the more bad memories you create, and have to deal with later…make sense?

      Go read the Free Breakup Survival Plan, and follow ALL the steps.

      Everything will be okay. I promise.

      Take Care

      S.W.

      1. Thank you for the information. I figured that was my best bet to have a chance to get her back, I just wish I would’ve done it a while ago when I first thought about it. I went through your guide and was just wondering, would you truly recommend the magic of making up course too? I’m just wondering because I’m a bit skeptical about most of those books, I just want to know if you believe it truly works and helps since you had a link to it in your guide.

        1. Hi,

          The Magic of Making Up, like all the other books out there, isn’t really enough, just on it’s own.

          That was why I created the free plan, and our free support forum.

          These two things fill in the missing pieces that no book can fill.

          There is no substitute for interacting with (getting support from) “real” people going through the same thing you are, and following the same plan, for free.

          The other courses offer support, for a fee, and, it won’t be as good as my advice.

          Why?

          Because I’m not afraid of losing your business, so, I will tell you like it is…no bullshit.

          I have read most of what is going around out there, they all seem to be “bad” copies of the magic of making up.

          So, yes, I would highly recommend The Magic of Making up System.

          It will come in handy as you evaluate your failed relationship, and, prepare yourself for the reconnection phase, when that time comes.

          If you can’t afford to buy the book, I will still help you when the time comes, and, so will the other forum members.

          I cover some good techniques in the free plan, but, The Magic of Making up System will make you even more prepared.

          You already did the hardest part, you sent the exact NC message, and, then joined our forum.

          I hope this helped.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  14. I was seeing this guy for about 9mnths and in the beginning it was wonderful. then i wanted to see him more i started complaining he wasn’t making time for me. I constantly called and texted Saying give me my things i don’t understand why you not talking to me. I guess getting needy. Then he stop calling and texting all together. then i tried the 30 day NC 2 weeks ago and broke it twice. he said he needed me and missed me then nothing again. I told him I’m letting go and moving on and deleting his number. I wanna try the 30 days again but i think i’ve ruined my chances. i don’t know what to do i can’t stop thinking about him and i love him and still want to be with him . I do believe he misses me i’m just seeming needy. Since reading this I’m gonna start the 30 day NC again and i sent the NC text.

    1. i tried the 30 day NC 2 weeks ago and broke it twice. he said he needed me and missed me then nothing again. I told him I’m letting go and moving on and deleting his number. I wanna try the 30 days again but i think i’ve ruined my chances.

      Hi,

      You will never know (if you still have a chance with your ex) unless you try, and “really” stick with NC.

      It is very important to not keeping breaking (and restarting) NC.

      Read the Free Breakup Survival Plan, and, join our forum for support.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  15. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago because I went a bit crazy (texted and called him a few times) when he did not contact me for a couple of days after a fight. We spoke and said our good byes. I deactivated the app we used to communicate, it’s a long distance relationship btw and we have been together for a couple of months. After a week, I reactivated the app but doesn’t access it until yesterday and found a message from him from a week ago that he will visit the country where I live. I replied, I said that I hope he have a great time. He immediately replied and asked if he could see me. I thought about it, although there weren’t any talks of how, where and when, I did say okay I will meet him. What should I do, he will be here in 3 weeks?

    1. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago because I went a bit crazy (texted and called him a few times) when he did not contact me for a couple of days after a fight.

      Hi,

      He broke up with you.

      You are broken up.

      Right?

      After a week, I reactivated the app but doesn’t access it until yesterday and found a message from him from a week ago that he will visit the country where I live.

      He didn’t ask you if you wanted to get back together?

      He just assumed you would take him back

      And then, he announces he is coming to visit, and, you’re supposed to jump for joy? Lol

      I did say okay I will meet him. What should I do, he will be here in 3 weeks?

      What should you do?

      You should say “fuck this guy”, and, go find someone who will respect you.

      Seriously.

      I recommend you read the free breakup survival plan, and, send him the recommended NC message.

      Take back control of your life today, not after he jerks you around for another month, or year.

      Take Care.

      S.W.

  16. I keep failing at no contact. I can’t go more than a day. I have her number memorized. I can’t keep my thoughts away from texting her. How do I stop myself?

    1. Hi Dave,

      First off, if you are drinking everyday, or, doing any kind of drug to hide from the reality.

      STOP IT!

      Then.

      Ask yourself why?

      Why do you keep failing?

      Then ask yourself, what?

      What can you do, to help yourself stick to NC.

      Find something else to do, besides, obsessing over your ex.

      If you can’t stop your obsessive behavior on your own, or, by following a good self-help plan, like this one:

      Free Breakup Survival Plan

      You should really seek out professional help/advice.

      This goes beyond wanting your ex back, this is about maintaining good self-control.

      You’re treating your breakup like an addiction.

      You think it will “fix” you, but, it won’t, it only continues to “break” you.

      Break you down, to the point you’re at now, where you can’t even control yourself, any more.

      Ask yourself, how long?

      How long are you going to let love kick your ass?

      Nothing is impossible to live with or get over, it’s part of our survival instinct.

      It might be hard, but, coming to terms with a loss, is necessary.

      You have to stop tearing open the wound, and, let it heal.

      Then, you have to carry the scar.

      We ALL have those scars.

      You are NOT alone.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  17. My x broke up with me about 1 month ago – because he feared our age difference, and that one day I would leave him. He says the anxiety with this consumed him.
    I attempted no contact but he’s reached out repeatedly, and I have given in about 5 times – which got us into conversations, and ultimately did not change the outcome (I have not begged or pleaded or reached out) only mistake….a few conv have ended sexually.

    Is there hope? I have not been the source of contact…..it has now been 3 full days without hearing from him. Next steps?

    1. Hi CL,

      You need to start using the no contact rule, correctly…ASAP!

      You are mistaken, if you think by allowing yourself to be placed, in the “friends with phone benefits” zone, that, you are going to keep him.

      You need to kill off the old failed relationship, and then, the both of you can evolve during the no contact period.

      If you are already a subscriber, just follow the daily emails, they will walk you through the whole process.

      If you are not already a subscriber, you can subscribe here.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  18. He insulted me and said that he is not the same. I stopped talking to him. After 5 days he texted me asking about my parents. I just replied normally. But the next day. I broke down, and talked normally as i used to. And we both talked as friends. Im seriously feeling bad. Pleaseeeeeeeeee help me now

    1. Hi Richa,

      How can I help you?

      Do you have a specific question?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  19. I messed up, broke no contact, and texted an apology for blowing up and questioning him about his fidelity. He had previously been replying and stopped after I sent that. Is it blown for good? I know it probably made him angry because I sent it and bothered him.

    1. I messed up, broke no contact, and texted an apology for blowing up and questioning him about his fidelity. He had previously been replying and stopped after I sent that.

      Hi,

      I am a “little” confused.

      How could you be using the no contact rule, and, yet, stay in contact with your ex?

      That kind of contradicts the whole “no contact” aspect of the rule.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      1. He’d been replying to texts before I went no contact. I went no contact after I’d angered him but I felt I owed him an apology since I was in the wrong so I broke it.

        1. Hi,

          If you were using the no contact rule correctly, and, you sent him the NC message, recommended in the free breakup survival plan, he was only respecting your NC message, which asks him to not contact you.

          If you broke NC, you MUST resend the same exact NC message as outlined in the FBSP (free breakup survival plan).

          If you’re not following the FSBP, you need to start, ASAP.

          Take Care,

          S. W.

  20. My boyfriend and I broke up 10 days ago because he was feeling overwhelmed and lost. He cried a lot and told me he loves me still but needs his time to find himself again. He agreed to not date but doesn’t want to coin this a “break” for he knows I will obsess about what he is doing, etc. I broke the NC rule after 5 days. He seemed to take it well. He wasn’t mean but he was short answered but also encouraging. We have a lot of shared bills so, some communication is required. How do I handle this?

    1. Hi,

      Let me help you out.

      He didn’t break up with you for the reasons he gave you, he’s lying, just like 99% of people do, when they want out of a relationship.

      He wants out, and he is afraid to say it, so he makes some shit up.

      How do I know this?

      I have heard these same exact excuses, before.

      Overwhelmed is about as vague as you can get…WTF does that mean, anyways?

      Just like ‘lost’…does he have amnesia or Alzheimer?

      These excuses garner pity, not anger, and that’s why he lies, to avoid the explosion that will follow if he told you the truth…lol

      He will get around to it, sooner or later…

      But, where does that leave you?

      Hanging around waiting for him to find himself.

      Good luck with that.

      OK, now for the shared bills.

      First off, start to divide these bills into separate accounts, ASAP.

      The ones you have to pay off together, make a payment schedule, and only contact him if he’s late sending you the money.

      This is covered in one of my articles, which is outlined in the free breakup survival plan.

      You can gain access to the free breakup survival plan, and my newsletter, which will guide you through, your first 30 days, of NC, by clicking on this link: Free Breakup Survival Plan

      If you choose to join our forum (explained in the newsletter), the members and I, will provide you with the support you need, to stick with the no contact rule, and, survive your breakup.

      Take Care,

      S. Williams

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  21. Hello so as you know my boyfriend and I have broken up. I didn’t start reading up on this kind of stuff till now and we have already been in contact. He told me he wants to hang out because we had fun but also said he might kiss me and that we could hang out as friends I’m really not sure where he thinks he’s going with this but I don’t want to be his friend with benefits I want to be more and now the no contact rule is too late lol

    1. Hi,

      It sure sounds like he’s setting you up for a FWB situation.

      It is NEVER too late to start using the no contact rule.

      Just subscribe to my newsletter, and the daily emails will walk you through the whole process, for free.

      Take Care,

      Scott

  22. me and my ex broke up 6 weeks now and he sent me to emails saying he missed me bad and i cussed him out and told him to never contact me again and leave me alone and i would never be back with him. Then i sent a long email a long one saying im doing this for me and not you closure. No is it to late for no contact and to get him back. He leaves and goes from female to female. He left his baby mama four times and went back even after a 1 1/2 years. He new he always could and when he gets sick of her he will come back again and I do know it, but he tryed coming back after three weeks I told him NO!!!! Should i do no contact and leave him alone or not. I miss him bad and still love him. He isnt trying to let me go but come back when he wants. Will anything work to make him come back quick?

  23. My ex gf broke up with me a week ago. First she wanted a break and i agreed but than i called two days later rejecting it which resulted in her breaking up with me. Her birthday was that weekend and i went anyways( like a dummy) and she was calling me bf but wasn’t being affectionate. Later on i seen her texting another dude and i snapped and pushed the conversation and we had a horrible argument. I ignored her a week after this, just before i knew about no contact, and called her. She picked up like she wanted to talk but i started talking about us and the break up which ended bad. I waited 3 days later and she didnt pick up even though i called 3 times. I understand what i did wrong, I was assertative and aggressive in the beginning but backed off and became passive,so i know what i i did to do, i just want her back so i can. Can i initiate the no contact now or is it to late? She isnt with someone else but based off twitter there is another dude that she is liking right now.

    1. Hi Nick,

      It is not too late to start using the no contact rule, but you have to get something straight first – this is not about getting your ex back, it is about you getting your life back without her in it.

      She is obviously interested in other guys and that’s why the relationship ended, I doubt it was all about you, and your behavior.

      Plus, you would be much happier with a woman who accepted you for yourself, and didn’t expect you to change.

      I hear this all the time – I want to change to get my ex back…why?

      You would be living a lie if you couldn’t just be yourself, right?

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

      Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

      This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  24. Girlfriend broke up with me after year and a half because I was to scared to commit. I have two teenage daughters that love her but I did not want us to get hurt. I didnt claim her in front of her friends and pushed her away. After breaking up I did ALL the wrong things, flowers, letter, email, text and opened my mouth to who ever would listen. Embarrased her badly. After 7 weeks of her not talking to me, I ignored her then she said hey 15 minutes later. Im a cop shes a district attorney. I saw her next day and she said hey I again ignored her. The following day I saw her she gave me her back and refused to look at me. I then called her and screwed up the no contact since I was being proffesional when I saw her dropping off something she requested. Can I still use no contact?

    1. Hi,

      I don’t think you really used the no contact rule correctly the first time.

      If you use the no contact rule correctly you can learn how to get over a break up and get your life back.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      IMPORTANT – If you found this information helpful or useful, please give me a “+1” rating by using the colored “+1 button” at the top or bottom of the above article. I’d really appreciate it.

  25. Hi

    I broke with my gf about 6 months ago. At the time i said it was because i didnt love her which is the harshest and most stupid thing ive ever done and it wasnt true! I was so confused at the time i just wanted space and for the relationship to end. So i just said anything.

    We spoke an kept in contact as we had a holiday booked. We went together as planned and kissed had sex etc and it was honestly brilliant! Apart fromna small fight (which is the only fight we had in 18 months of going out) it was great.

    While away i totally fell for her again and after the holiday tried to meet up but she didnt want to saying she had to get over me. I was heartbroken because i thought we were on our way back together. About a month ago she has started seeing someone else which kills me. However since then she has text me almost everyday just fun little texts. Why? As much as i love hearing from her i feel like its leading me on. Does she still have feelings for me? Is there any hope. I really dont know what my best course of action is. Ive changed myselfnrecently got fit and in shape. I want her to see me next and see that im a better person. I dont want to go back but forward with her in a new relationship. I know we’ll be happy together shes the only girl i saw a future with. Will NC really help in my situation?

    Thanks

    1. Hi,

      It sounds like you’re in the just friends zone now.

      You have a 50/50 chance of getting her back, but you have to get out of relationship limbo first.

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex girlfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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