Can I Win My Ex Back Even If I Broke The No Contact Rule?

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If you have broke the no contact rule you’re not alone, and yes you can still win back your ex. If you want to learn how to get your ex back just keep on reading. Everyone is just so afraid of the no contact rule. What if it doesn’t work? Will it only make things worst? Can I win my ex back even if I broke the no contact rule? Put on your work gloves because it’s myth busting time, and time for you to learn “How to win my ex back.”

Oh Oh I Broke The No Contact Rule – Can I Win My Ex Boyfriend Back?

Sorry, you can never use the no contact rule again if you break it…Not! This is the beauty of using the no contact rule, if you screw it up just tell yourself; “Hey, I can just start over and get my ex boyfriend/girlfriend back.” It is really that simple just keep the faith, and learn from your mistakes, and start all over again. You are bound to get your ex back if you never give up…Right?

I hope you are following some kind of plan, and getting some guidance as you use the no contact rule to win back your ex. If you want a serious answer to the question; “Can I win my ex back using the no contact rule?” You have to get serious yourself, serious about the no contact rule, and serious enough to find, and follow a good plan. Winning back your ex is possible no matter how many mistakes you make, but do you want to wait forever to get back your ex? Please go get a good plan and go get your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back…I want you to be happy again.

If You Broke No Contact Just Start Over Again and Win Back Your Ex

How Do I Know How Bad I Broke It? If It’s Bad Can I Still Win My Ex Girlfriend Back?

Unless you broke the no contact rule over your ex girlfriend’s, or boyfriend’s head, you are still in the game to win back your ex. If you did some drunk dialing I would suggest never doing that again. You never know what drunk guy/gal is going to say, and you probably won’t remember either. It is hard to follow a plan when your drunk so lay off the booze until you get your emotions under control…OK? There is really no mistake that time will not heal…the key word being time, you have to be patient.

Using the no contact plan requires patience, and emotional control along with a good plan, and guidance. If you’re thinking; “I can win my ex back getting advice from the heartache forums.” You are in for a long wait to win back your ex. I have been to those forums, and have been kicked out…Why? Because they do not want to solve any problems there, just blow smoke, and sell you stuff. I saw an ad in one for a book about “Blow Jobs.” Yeah, that book will help you get your ex back fast…Not! My point being if you really want to succeed, and win back your ex using the no contact rule. You need a good plan, and one that is backed up with support as you go through the process.

Get Help With The No Contact Rule And You Can “Get My Ex Back”

Why would anyone do this? I mean, do you really think by randomly getting advice from friends, family, and co-workers, that you are going to succeed? You need a plan, a plan that works, and you need it now. If you use a good plan with the no contact rule you will be able to tell yourself “I can win back my ex!” If you have any comments, or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP! What can I do to help you win back your ex? What are you willing to do “win my ex back“?

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people for more than 3 years to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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41 Responses to “Can I Win My Ex Back Even If I Broke The No Contact Rule?”

  1. Mari says:

    Yeah what is it about drunk dialing. I wasn’t the one who did the drunk dialing it was him. That was when I decided to withdraw myself from him. What’s with the drunk dialing?

  2. S. Williams says:

    Hi Mari,

    When people get drunk, they do whatever they like.

    I guess when he is drunk, he doesn’t want to be broken up…can’t really tell you because I don’t know what he says when he calls you.

    Take Care,

    S. Williams

  3. Helen says:

    Hello,

    My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago because he said he feels that he can’t trust me. I tried my best effort to be a good girlfriend to him always, but he always took it the wrong way and took his temper out on me. He has previously mentioned that he has depression and that he needed time to shake off the negative feelings he has. But his reason for breaking up with me was because he found out I went into his home (He gave me the key before). I returned the key to him without telling him that I went in. When he later asked me about it, I lied and said I had not gone in. Basically he found out that I lied about it (I did it on impulse without thinking, as I was scared he would take a temper on me again), so he broke up with me then.

    For the first 2 weeks we broke up, I still sent me a few text messages to apologize. He said he’s not angry with me and just told me to focus on studies for now. But since we broke up, he never initiates any kind of contact with me, but if I contact him, he still replies to my text messages.

    Shall I stop contacting him totally? What is your advice. Thanks

  4. S. Williams says:

    Helen wrote:

    Shall I stop contacting him totally? What is your advice. Thanks

    You need to initiate No Contact properly and then follow a plan to reconnect with your ex.

    If you join our forum you will be given a plan to follow and support to stick with it…sound good?

    Read the guidelines before you join and post anything in our forum, failure to do so will get you blocked from posting and possibly banned for good.

    Read Our Forum Guidelines Here:

    http://forum.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/topic/read-this-first

  5. Todd says:

    Hello,
    My girlfriend and I broke up a month ago. We were together for almost one year. Immediately after the breakup, I purchased the Magic of Making Up and wrote her the no contact letter. She called me crying, but we left our conversation off on a good note saying that I would call her in a while. I managed to not call her for 19 days. But finally I slipped up and sent her a text that said “I just wanted to say hi, feel free to call me anytime, tomorrow or in a year! I hope things are going well and you are happy, you deserve it. Take care.” She took two days to respond. But her response seemed kind of encouraging. It was via text and said “Hi Todd! I am well, how are you? I do think it is too soon for us to talk much, I hope you understand.” I then waited a day, and replied that I am doing good and that I understand. It has been about a week now since I sent her my response and we have had no contact. My question is what do I do now? and, what does her response tell me about my chances?

  6. S. Williams says:

    Todd wrote:

    It has been about a week now since I sent her my response and we have had no contact. My question is what do I do now? and, what does her response tell me about my chances?

    Hi,

    19 days is no where near enough time for NC to work.

    The NC message in the free plan on my Blog is much more powerful.

    You could try contacting her again, and when she answers if it is negative (which I am guessing it will be) then send her the recommended NC message for the free plan.

    This gives you the chance to get NC started the right way, and you will also kick start your personal evolution.

    The make sure you read the free plan, it was meant to work as a supplement to the book MOMU.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  7. Todd says:

    HI,

    Thanks for the quick response! If I did try calling her, what would I say? Would calling her and then sending her another NC message only be confusing to her? Wouldn’t she feel like I was manipulating her or just acting kind of crazy, since I have already sent one to her?

  8. S. Williams says:

    Todd wrote:

    If I did try calling her, what would I say?

    Follow the advice in chapter 6 of MOMU and set up a face to face meeting.

    If she refuses you, then send her the NC message I recommended.

    If you meet and she tries to put you in the just friends zone, send her the recommended NC message (unchanged) after you leave.

    Todd wrote:

    Would calling her and then sending her another NC message only be confusing to her? Wouldn’t she feel like I was manipulating her or just acting kind of crazy, since I have already sent one to her?

    I can’t help the fact you already sent her the message from the book, but it is obviously not working very well, is it?

    I am only trying to help you get the best results, if you are more worried about “acting crazy”, than you are about getting your life/ex back again, I guess I can’t help you.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  9. rob says:

    i broke up with my ex 4 days ago because she said we had different life values. i didn’t offer to change i just fell apart and asked her for some time to prove she was making the wrong decision. she still keeps trying to talk to me even tho ive basically given her the no contact hint already, shes already with some 1 else but still keeps coming to back to talk to me at every chance she has. is the no contact method the right course of action here?

  10. S. Williams says:

    rob wrote:

    she still keeps trying to talk to me even tho ive basically given her the no contact hint already

    Hi,

    If NC is working some what now, and you are not using it correctly, imagine what it can do for your situation when you do use it correctly, right?

    Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps, OK?

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  11. Mike says:

    @ Mari:

    Hi,

    My girlfriend broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago. She simply needed space and told me via text that “I’m done!” I knew the only way I could win her back was to not contact her and bug her to death with calls and text messages because it would only drive her away. So for almost two weeks I have not tried to contact her and basically made myself disappear completely. Now I know this rule has worked many times before but I’m just afraid if I wait forever that she wouldn’t make the first move in contacting me and I would have to break the ice. I am also afraid she might be seeing another guy right now because when we were together she was talking to him and hanging out with him a couple of times but I’m not so sure how serious things may be. It may just be a rebound but not sure. If you could just give me some advice on how I’m doing so far and what I need to do in the future to win my girlfriend back that would be great. Thanks

  12. S. Williams says:

    Mike wrote:

    I’m just afraid if I wait forever that she wouldn’t make the first move in contacting me and I would have to break the ice.

    Hi,

    This is why you should use the recommended NC message as outlined in the free plan.

    Instead of just disappearing, make your intentions known, the NC message will do that for you.

    Otherwise you are just giving her the “silent treatment” and that will only make things worst.

    I teach a whole different (and effective) way to use NC, and to get your Life (happiness) back again.

    Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  13. Haruka says:

    What exactly do you mean by, “Unless you broke the no contact rule over your ex girlfriend’s, or boyfriend’s head, you are still in the game to win back your ex.”?

    • S. Williams says:

      It was a joke.

      That means short of trying to kill your ex you still have a chance using no contact.

      And there has been cases documented that even some ex’s take back them back even after trying to kill them.

      I give an example in my newsletter mailings.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  14. kelly says:

    my ex left me few months back..i pursued him so much but he refused to come back..then i used no contact rule for 2 months..and after that i got his 2- 3 calls which i didn’t respond.because i wanted him to call me again and again and apologise because he dumped me first..then today i also tried to talk to him through chat from another number by behaving that i’m another girl that wants to do friendship with him..but he refused to do friendship with that girl,means me which i pretended some other unknown girl which likes him….and i chatted with him by showing myself differnrt girl.atlast wen i talked to him about his past ,he said he loved a girl which hurted him so much.now he donot want her back.he said.one side he called me last week after two months and also visited ma profile.and added sad stuff in his social networking site.he also hurted me so badly if he thinks i hurted him ..he spoke me lies..but i love him so much..and i want him to contact me.can his mind can change for me?and why he called me 2 weeks back after my 2 months of nc..and visited ma profile..and one side he said to another girl that there is no love feelings in his heart because he become hard hearted..i’m just confused..please help me
    ..some peole are saying that i broke nc..but how??i did not showed him that it was me who chatted with him..can i get him back?
    why he called me last week and today he said to other girl that he donot want me back in his life??i am confused..can i get him back..i’m totally shatterd

    • S. Williams says:

      kelly says:

      why he called me last week and today he said to other girl that he donot want me back in his life??i am confused..can i get him back..i’m totally shatterd

      Hi,

      I am totally confused…how did you use NC, did you follow the free plan on my Blog?

      If not, you did not use no contact correctly, but you can start over again, and do it right this time, OK?

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  15. Ria says:

    Hi.
    After sending the no contact message 5 months ago, it felt like a thousand burdens were taken from my shoulders. I went out, and felt better each and every day. Even if I had some fallbacks, I used the FFW to take away those nagging thoughts.

    After all these months, I started to realize something:
    I don’t need him. He treated me like shit, and didn’t give me the respect I deserved. He thought he could be friends with me, and check up on me after we broke up, even though he was the fault in all this. He didn’t care what I felt actually, it was just his way of getting over our relationship. It made me feel shameful for him. He can’t be friends with his ex and expect everything to work out…

    I’ve recently met a great guy lately. He’s an old classmate from junior high, who used to be really kind to me back then. Most of the guys around that time treated me like dirt, but he was the only guy who was concerned with my well being. There isn’t anything more between us than friendship, but he made me realize there’s more great guys out there, who’s more kind and respectful than my ex were.

    And this might sound shocking to you, but some of my friends actually turned their backs on me after I sent the no contact message. They took “his side”. They started to exclude me from everything and one of them said I was a heartless bitch for sending a nasty text message to my ex(that “nast text” was the NC message…:/).

    And if that wasn’t enough, two of my friends took “my side” and started to spread nasty rumors about him. I had to make them stop, because it affected MY life and MY family. People started to think I spread those rumors, and those former friends of mine pulled pranks on my family. Someone threw a water balloon on my little brother filled with alcohol. The kids only in elementary school… After that the most unusual things happened. Someone actually had the nerve to key my dads car and blow up our mailbox. After we heard the bang my dad rushed out and found a note, with only my ex boyfriends initials on them. (We have reported to the police about it.) The friends who was on “my side” refused to reveal it was them who spread those rumors, so i had to dumb them, for good. As much as they thought they helped me, it only made it worse.

    It saddens me a bit, but at least I have my true friends with me, who didn’t take any side in this situation. They helped me a lot. Took me out to hit the town some nights, and made me laugh when I was mostly down. They didn’t ask me about my ex, and steered away from that to avoid getting me depressed.

    I just want to say: thank you Scott.

    Even though I lost some friends in the process, I discovered my true friends, and my fake ones. I’ve gotten back my life!

    And to anyone who reads this, Do.Not.Give.Up! Be strong!

    -Ria

  16. S. Williams says:

    Ria says:

    And this might sound shocking to you, but some of my friends actually turned their backs on me after I sent the no contact message. They took “his side”. They started to exclude me from everything and one of them said I was a heartless bitch for sending a nasty text message to my ex(that “nast text” was the NC message…:/).

    Hi,

    This doesn’t surprise me too much, the world is full of ignorant, selfish assholes.

    There is nothing “nasty” about the recommended no contact message, it is emotionless…that is it’s power.

    Now destroying other people’s property, and hurting children…that’s another story, right?

    Ria says:

    Even though I lost some friends in the process, I discovered my true friends, and my fake ones. I’ve gotten back my life!

    You didn’t lose any “friends” you just got rid of the asshole pretenders, the fake people who kiss up to everyone to get something they want, or to just be in your business.

    Great Job Ria…you kicked loves ass!

    Take Care,

    S.W.

  17. LJ says:

    Hi,

    My boyfriend ended our relationship about a month ago because he was having doubts, and plus stress from work etc. I said I will leave his life for good if that’s what he wants, he came back to me straight away and said he didn’t want me out of his life. To try and cut a long story short, we met 6 months ago on a dating site, he’s in the Army and a year ago before we met he was in a relationship for 8 years but it ended because his ex cheated on him. Anyway things were going great but a while back I found out through a friend that he was still on the dating site we met on, I confronted him and he said he was on it out of boredom and was just general chit chatting and that I had nothing to worry about, so I took his word for it although I did tell him I didn’t like it and would hope at some point he would come off it and he said that he would. Obviously I found it hard to cope with knowing that whilst he was seeing and chatting to me he was also talking to random women on this site although I do believe he has never met any of them, but he accused me of being possesive and that he didn’t like me moaning at him (which I didn’t do very often and I know probably doesn’t help, but he couldn’t understand where I was coming from with regards to the dating site) Anyway the relationship has now ended and we are still in touch although one minute he will be texting me asking what I’m doing, who I’m doing things with, am I going out on the pull etc I even said I might be going travelling next year and he said he didn’t think I should go, but never gave me a reason why!! but then sometimes if I text him he ignores me! He’s currently on holiday with a mate and gets back at the end of the week and has said to me he would like to meet up when he gets back and has given me the hope that we might just might get back together. He is still on the dating site and the only thing is my last text I sent to him he just ignored which he knows winds me up, I have resisted from sending him a text and have said to myself if he really wants me in his life, it’s down to him to prove it. What I really want to know is am I doing the right thing by not texting him etc because I don’t want to push him away and for him to think I don’t care not only that I really would like us to get back together because we just clicked with each other in every way from day one and I think that’s very rare to find. I just want to know is why is he going hot and cold with me even though he was the one who said he want’s to be in touch etc, please can you give me advice as to where I should go from here to win him back???????????

    • S. Williams says:

      LJ says:

      I just want to know is why is he going hot and cold with me even though he was the one who said he want’s to be in touch etc, please can you give me advice as to where I should go from here to win him back???????????

      Hi,

      This isn’t about getting your ex boyfriend back, it is about revealing your ex boyfriends true feelings for you, understand?

      He is flip flopping because he feels he has you on the line, and you will let him string you along.

      Use the free plan, and no contact to let him know you won’t put up with this shit any longer, then he will have to really think about what he wants.

      Your old relationship failed, and now you both need to evolve past it, don’t think about getting your ex back, think about getting yourself back first.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps, OK?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  18. Michele says:

    My ex boyfriend dumped me after two years stating that his reason was that he just did not want to go any further with me in the relationship. ie marriage. I pursued him for a while until I dropped off the face of the earth and he never heard a peep out of me! 3 weeks after the last contact, I heard from him and he asked me to dinner. I thought we were on the track to him telling me he wanted me back, but I was sadly wrong. He still said that he didnt want to date me, but didn’t want me out of his life all together. By the way he was acting at dinner, he absolutely seemed to still have feelings for me and was genuinely happy to see me!
    Two days later I told him that I cannot be friends and that if he wants me back then we can talk, otherwise leave me alone and let me move on. Now, that was 3 and a half weeks ago and I haven’t heard a thing from him. I wonder if I did the wrong thing and pushed him away??
    Thank you so much for your input!

    • S. Williams says:

      Michele says:

      Two days later I told him that I cannot be friends and that if he wants me back then we can talk, otherwise leave me alone and let me move on. Now, that was 3 and a half weeks ago and I haven’t heard a thing from him. I wonder if I did the wrong thing and pushed him away??
      Thank you so much for your input!

      Hi,

      The only thing you did wrong was you didn’t properly initiate no contact with your ex boyfriend.

      You need to send the recommended no contact message as outlined in the free plan (no changes), even though it has been a few weeks, you still need to send the right kind of message.

      If you’re interested in my help, go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps, OK?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  19. sarah says:

    Hi,

    I just found your website and I have to tell you it is exactly what i’ve been looking for.I bought every book on this matter but what you are doing is the best for people in my situation. so thank you:)

    I just sent the NC e-mail to my ex. Even though it’s been 2.5 months after the break up and 2 months since we haven’t had any contacts.I was totally ready for this…except I had to translate the letter in my language because that is how i usually communicate with him I translated everything word by word except the last sentence “I will be in touch when I am ready.” It sounded weird however i wanted to translate it so I didn’t put it. Is it bad? did I destroy the effect of the e-mail by not adding the last part?

    • S. Williams says:

      Sarah says:

      I translated everything word by word except the last sentence “I will be in touch when I am ready.” It sounded weird however i wanted to translate it so I didn’t put it. Is it bad? did I destroy the effect of the e-mail by not adding the last part?

      Hi,

      I don’t know any language except English so I couldn’t tell you how to translate the NC message, but I don’t think leaving that line off will hurt, it is more when people try to “add” things to the message that ruins it, they try to explain themselves…bad idea.

      Make sure you follow ALL the rest of the steps in the free plan, the NC message is only the first step, OK?

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      P.S. No, it won’t seem crazy if you send the no contact message after a month.

  20. sarah says:

    oh…also I should add, we were together for 4.5 years on and off and he broke it off finally saying that he is not happy and he wants out with no return this time.The other 2 times that we broke up seriously,it was me who went back and he accepted me with open arms. This time again, I was the one pleading, calling/texting 100 times till he finally refused to wanting to see me and didn’t pick up the phone anymore…so I disappeared for a month, actually I went for a very good vaccation which helped a lot…when I came back I realized he deleted me off every communication tool that we were on…so he sort of used the NC on me. so now a month has passed since I came back from vaccation and still no contact and I just sent him this NC e-mail? Is he gonna think I am crazy…since he was not even contacting me…

    I am a little confused. Please help me with this…

    thanks

  21. sarah says:

    Thank you:)

  22. alison says:

    Hi,
    My boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with me a month ago. I knew of the NC, but I didnt start following it until exactly a month after the split. We still communicate about things regarding our apartment (we lived together, which has made it SO hard because I’m still living there for now), but since the month I’ve made the promise to myself not to spill my heart anymore.

    My story could be a long one but I can sum it up as this. I met the guy that I thought was the guy of my dreams during University. For months we did not speak but I always knew we’d end up together to some strange, reason. We ended up getting together months after meeting and spent 2 beautiful years together. We moved in together after about 8 months and I always felt like that was too soon. Soon the strain of everyday life I think scared him about commitment. I felt these doubts and started to get very insecure about loosing him. I think I started to become to controlling. Out of fear of loosing him. He put up with it for a very long time and then a month ago we had a fight and he just couldn’t take it anymore. He said he needed to go, and that we both have things we need to work on, and the only way we can ever be is for us to both change and he needs time on his own to see the world outside of the the life we created since he felt like he (and I also agree I) started to loose our individual perspectives. At first he said he needed time and space, but, I’m the idiot that kept pushing to know his feelings (breaking NC) and the other day he finally said he doesn’t think I’m the one for him and has no hope for a future together, and more so doesn’t know we why need to think and always talk about the future. But a week ago he also told me that he thinks of me every 10 seconds, and that time will tell if we have what it takes to change and be right for each other, and that he wants me to show him and wants to be part of each others lives. I don’t know if he’s talking himself in to thinking that he 100% sure that he feels this way about me, or if I just pushed him to say something to arupbt. I don’t know if maybe he also feels like he has to say this to me in order to get me to do what I need to do right now which is focus on me (since I”ve been focusing on him and the relationship for the last month…)

    Anyway, my sense of urgency to contact him stems from the fact that he has told me has booked his ticket to return to his hometown of Halifax, NS next month to be with his dad and get a clear head. (In case you don’t know, I live in Ottawa which is about a 1.5 hour flight away to Halifax). He kept saying he needed space and time to decide how he feels about me and now hes saying he knows how he feels, its not a question of love or feeling, but its a question of he needs this, and we both need to work on ourselves, but in the same breathe that he said hes 100% sure, he has no hope, he also said that if I push him in to a corner hes not given the opportunity to see how he feels…So I don’t know if there is actually hope or not. I just cant give up, and I know everyone else it telling me to (including him). At first he was very very hurt by the break up and I could tell we were going through similar emotions. Perhaps if I initiated no contact then I could get him back, based solely on emotions, but the truth is I do believe we need time apart. I just don’t see why we have to stop loving each other in the process. He says love isnt always about being together and we can be apart and love each other. And that its not a question of love but he needs this. However…I don’t see why it has to be do drastic. He says it has to be that way because if it doesn’t, he won’t really be living his life. Some info about us, he is turning 25 soon, and I am 23. Initially I think he left because I became a little overbearing with my not beign able to control my emotions, but I know a part of him always said he’d need to take time on his own before making a true commitment and that is the only way for him to figure out if he really wants to be with me.

    Now my question for you is, today marks exactly 1 month since we broke up. In that month, I broke NC almost daily. Up until now he’s been responding but this weekend I think he just gave up…. I feel like hes turning in to a completely different person, but when I saw him he still seemed so emotional… and promised (he would never change) but then later said, people change. He just seems to not know what he wants in life WHATSOEVER and feels like he needs to find this out on his own. but then he seems SO sure about this. i dont know if hes takling himself in to it or not. i dont believe he wasnt in love. I don’t want him to think of me as wrong for him just because we both need to grow up. He said we will see each other before he leaves. I officially start NC today but I want to know if you think it’s a good idea I write one last letter. During this time of NC ill write down all my thoughts and only share them with him then. What do you think? Is this a bad idea to spill my heart (but carefully).

    Thank you soooo much.

  23. Katie says:

    I had been on the no contact for 4 days and yesterday he was constantly texting me, i didnt reply but then he asked if i wanted to go to the cinema so we did.
    He paid and we had a good time, but now he is being weird, hes not telling me what he wants and is messing with me again, so i sent the No contact message again.
    I just want to know what to do when he gets in contact, i know he will,and he wont stop texting until i reply.
    What do i do if this happens?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      Did you read the free plan?

      If not go read it, and then ask yourself…what does the phrase “no contact” mean?

      If you can’t figure that out, I can’t help you.

      Remember the free plan is not about getting your ex boyfriend back, it is about getting your life back, and evolving past the break up.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  24. Tim says:

    Hi SW,

    I read your recommendation and sent the recommended NC message two weeks after the big breakup (I did not beg or plead at the moment we broke, I just nodded my head and left his radar)

    Did i practically break the NC?

    Regards
    Tim

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      If you sent the recommended NC message and have not discussed your break up, personal life, or getting back together, you have NOT broken NC.

      Go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      The NC message is only the beginning of your personal evolution.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  25. kiren says:

    Hi My fiance just broke up with me 3 months before after having one and a half year relation with him. We went on He said that i donot understand him well? Moreover he is living in overseas.I broke no contact rule and now he changed his phone number and said he dont want to talk to me, even didnot agree to discuss what was happenend? Infact he wished me gudluck for next and said i never wish anything bad happen to you.
    I still have his landline number?? I want to call back i really want him back.
    Please help me

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      I don’t think you fully understand how the no contact rule works, you should really read the free plan.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your guy back, is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  26. Andy says:

    Hi

    I broke with my gf about 6 months ago. At the time i said it was because i didnt love her which is the harshest and most stupid thing ive ever done and it wasnt true! I was so confused at the time i just wanted space and for the relationship to end. So i just said anything.

    We spoke an kept in contact as we had a holiday booked. We went together as planned and kissed had sex etc and it was honestly brilliant! Apart fromna small fight (which is the only fight we had in 18 months of going out) it was great.

    While away i totally fell for her again and after the holiday tried to meet up but she didnt want to saying she had to get over me. I was heartbroken because i thought we were on our way back together. About a month ago she has started seeing someone else which kills me. However since then she has text me almost everyday just fun little texts. Why? As much as i love hearing from her i feel like its leading me on. Does she still have feelings for me? Is there any hope. I really dont know what my best course of action is. Ive changed myselfnrecently got fit and in shape. I want her to see me next and see that im a better person. I dont want to go back but forward with her in a new relationship. I know we’ll be happy together shes the only girl i saw a future with. Will NC really help in my situation?

    Thanks

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      It sounds like you’re in the just friends zone now.

      You have a 50/50 chance of getting her back, but you have to get out of relationship limbo first.

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex girlfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  27. Al says:

    Girlfriend broke up with me after year and a half because I was to scared to commit. I have two teenage daughters that love her but I did not want us to get hurt. I didnt claim her in front of her friends and pushed her away. After breaking up I did ALL the wrong things, flowers, letter, email, text and opened my mouth to who ever would listen. Embarrased her badly. After 7 weeks of her not talking to me, I ignored her then she said hey 15 minutes later. Im a cop shes a district attorney. I saw her next day and she said hey I again ignored her. The following day I saw her she gave me her back and refused to look at me. I then called her and screwed up the no contact since I was being proffesional when I saw her dropping off something she requested. Can I still use no contact?

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi,

      I don’t think you really used the no contact rule correctly the first time.

      If you use the no contact rule correctly you can learn how to get over a break up and get your life back.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  28. nick says:

    My ex gf broke up with me a week ago. First she wanted a break and i agreed but than i called two days later rejecting it which resulted in her breaking up with me. Her birthday was that weekend and i went anyways( like a dummy) and she was calling me bf but wasn’t being affectionate. Later on i seen her texting another dude and i snapped and pushed the conversation and we had a horrible argument. I ignored her a week after this, just before i knew about no contact, and called her. She picked up like she wanted to talk but i started talking about us and the break up which ended bad. I waited 3 days later and she didnt pick up even though i called 3 times. I understand what i did wrong, I was assertative and aggressive in the beginning but backed off and became passive,so i know what i i did to do, i just want her back so i can. Can i initiate the no contact now or is it to late? She isnt with someone else but based off twitter there is another dude that she is liking right now.

    • S. Williams says:

      Hi Nick,

      It is not too late to start using the no contact rule, but you have to get something straight first – this is not about getting your ex back, it is about you getting your life back without her in it.

      She is obviously interested in other guys and that’s why the relationship ended, I doubt it was all about you, and your behavior.

      Plus, you would be much happier with a woman who accepted you for yourself, and didn’t expect you to change.

      I hear this all the time – I want to change to get my ex back…why?

      You would be living a lie if you couldn’t just be yourself, right?

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

      Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

      This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  29. anne says:

    me and my ex broke up 6 weeks now and he sent me to emails saying he missed me bad and i cussed him out and told him to never contact me again and leave me alone and i would never be back with him. Then i sent a long email a long one saying im doing this for me and not you closure. No is it to late for no contact and to get him back. He leaves and goes from female to female. He left his baby mama four times and went back even after a 1 1/2 years. He new he always could and when he gets sick of her he will come back again and I do know it, but he tryed coming back after three weeks I told him NO!!!! Should i do no contact and leave him alone or not. I miss him bad and still love him. He isnt trying to let me go but come back when he wants. Will anything work to make him come back quick?

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