Can I Win My Ex Back Even If I Broke The No Contact Rule?

If You Broke No Contact Just Start Over Again and Win Back Your Ex


If you have broken the no contact rule you’re not alone, and, yes…

You can still win your ex back.

If you want to learn how to get your ex back just keep on reading.

Everyone is just so afraid of the no contact rule.

What if it doesn’t work?

Will it only make things worst?

Can I win my ex back even if I broke the no contact rule?

Put on your work gloves because it’s myth busting time, and, time for you to learn “How to get your ex back.”



Oh Oh I Broke The No Contact Rule – Can I Win My Ex Boyfriend Back?


Sorry, you can never use the no contact rule again if you break it…Not!

This is the beauty of using the no contact rule, if you screw it up just tell yourself; “Hey, I can just start over and get my ex boyfriend/girlfriend back.”

It is really that simple just keep the faith, and learn from your mistakes, and start all over again.

You are bound to get your ex back if you never give up…Right?

I hope you are following some kind of plan, and getting some guidance as you use the no contact rule to win back your ex.

If you want a serious answer to the question; “Can I win my ex back using the no contact rule?”

You have to get serious yourself, serious about the no contact rule, and serious enough to find, and follow a good plan.

Winning back your ex is possible no matter how many mistakes you make, but do you want to wait forever to get back your ex?

Please go get a good plan and go get your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back…I want you to be happy again.



How Do I Know How Bad I Broke It?

If It’s Bad Can I Still Win My Ex Girlfriend Back?


Unless you broke the no contact rule over your ex girlfriend’s, or boyfriend’s head, you are still in the game to win back your ex.

If you did some drunk dialing I would suggest never doing that again.

You never know what drunk guy/gal is going to say, and you probably won’t remember either.

It is hard to follow a plan when your drunk so lay off the booze until you get your emotions under control…OK?

There is really no mistake that time will not heal…the key word being time, you have to be patient.

Using the no contact plan requires patience, and emotional control along with a good plan, and guidance.

If you’re thinking; “I can win my ex back getting advice from the heartache forums.” You are in for a long wait to win back your ex.

I have been to those forums, and have been kicked out…Why?

Because they do not want to solve any problems there, just blow smoke, and sell you stuff.

I saw an ad in one for a book about “Blow Jobs.”

Yeah, that book will help you get your ex back fast…Not!

My point being if you really want to succeed, and win back your ex using the no contact rule.

You need a good plan, and one that is backed up with support as you go through the process.



Get Help With The No Contact Rule, And, You Can Get Your Ex Back


Why would anyone do this?

I mean, do you really think by randomly getting advice from friends, family, and co-workers, that you are going to succeed?

You need a plan, a plan that works, and you need it now.

If you use a good plan with the no contact rule you will be able to tell yourself “I can win back my ex!”

If you have any comments, or questions for me, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP!

What can I do to help you, get back together with your ex?

What are you willing to do to win your ex back?



Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?


My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people since 2008 to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back.

I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read.

I know the address of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I “really” teach people how to get their lives back, not just their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free breakup survival plan, and start getting your life back today.

The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise.

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  1. Hello S.Williams, I had a toxic complicated relationship. We were both at fault and I had many insecurities that I was working on and she was patient with me. It came to a point where things were one sided at times and she wasn’t really considerate of me at times.

    One night I got really upset and I “kicked” her out. I didn’t mean it and tried apologizing but she left. She said she was going to cool off with a drive but ended up texting me saying she will see me tomorrow morning. I flipped because of other stuff that she lied and kept away from me and told her it’s over. Blocked her on everything and messaged her saying goodnight “:)” with a smiley face.

    I was regretting it and I had to keep strong. So I did the NC. I went nuts. And I broke the rule almost into 2 weeks. That was my goal 2 weeks.

    I called her, caught up a bit. Told her that I’ve changed, gyming it, applied for another job, self realizations and going out more. I asked her to join me for dinner or hangout sometime. She said she doesn’t know, because it seems like that would seem like we are getting back together. She wants to work on herself. I asked if she still loves me, she said I don’t know and I asked if we can work things out, she said she’s not there yet. She also said that she thought I moved on within that week?!

    How can you not love someone after 8 months and 3 months living with each other?!

    Is she lying? She still has a picture of me on her Facebook. The only one of me she has. I don’t get it.

    Oh and I told her that I can’t wait, but after I hung up, I cried and freaked out and wanted to keep her. So I called two times, no answer, texted her saying, call me back sorry,

    She said what happened?

    I texted 2 hours later saying

    Wanted to say that I would like to be friends and hope we can hangout sometime soon.

    Still here for you and your Mom.

    Goodnight Vero 🙂

    This was all last night and she didn’t respond. Did I mess up my chances? Obviously that showed her I didn’t change and I’m emotionally unstable.

    1. Hi Alex,

      Instead of wondering about your chances, take charge of your situation…now.

      You can get your life back (and maybe your ex, too) if you stop spiraling out of control.

      Go read the free breakup survival plan, and follow all the steps.

      At this point, since you have messed up so many times with NC before, I would recommend that you go at least 90 days before even considering breaking NC.

      In the meantime, think about what kind of counseling you and your ex will go to (together) if you decide to get back together.

      Take Care,


  2. Hello. My ex girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years. I truly loved her with all my heart. I had some trust issues with her during our last year together. She was in contact with her ex which I found to be very inappropriate She said she needed time to think about things. I got frustrated and told her to take all the time she needed because I was done with the relationship. I dumped her. I said some nasty and mean things to her. However, after a few days I regretted breaking up with her. I wanted to work things out. I tried calling her and she lashed out in anger telling me to never contact her again. I tried apologizing for the words I used but she didn’t want to hear it. She said she didn’t love me.

    I have been horrible with the no contact rule. Infact, it’s been a year and 3 months since we broke up now. However, I always tried texting her and calling her in that year and 3 months. I would try contacting her at least once or twice during the week. The most days I went on no contact with her was probably 4 weeks. So I feel she probably never had the chance to feel how life would be without me. The last contact I had with her, she told me she never loved me and her heart was somewhere else. That hurt me very much. How could a person say that after 6 years with somebody? Do you think she’s just saying that to hurt me? Since that comment, I haven’t contacted her. It’s been 3 weeks of no contact. Do you think it’s too late to establish a no contact after a year and 3 months of trying to get her back.
    Thank you.

    1. Hi David,

      It’s never too late to start using the no contact rule to evolve past a breakup.

      Go read the free breakup survival plan, and follow all the steps.

      It’s time to let go of the old relationship.

      If you had started using the no contact rule (correctly) 1 year and 3 months ago, you could’ve been back together by now.

      At any rate, you would feel a lot better than you do now.

      So, don’t hesitate, and start using NC correctly, today.

      Take Care,


      1. Thank you very much.

  3. 27 days into no contact… I broke it by chatting with my ex’s best friend… Telling how much I still love my ex and hope to get back together with him…. Now am afraid that he might tell my ex. I feel awful. How do I solve this

    1. Hi Lina,

      There is no way to fix this, you need to stop talking to your ex’s friends and family.

      It will ALWAYS get back to your ex.

      I am not sure if you’re following the free breakup survival plan, and you sent your ex the recommended NC message 27 days ago.

      If you haven’t sent the recommended NC message, now’s a good time.

      If your ex tries to contact you, reply by sending him the NC message.

      If you were following the free breakup survival plan, you would have known better than to talk to your ex’s friend about your feelings for your ex.

      This is discussed in the plan.

      Take Care,


  4. ok, so in the briefest possible way, here is my situation.
    Started chatting to a guy on a dating website.
    Clicked quickly and messaged long and many messages for a few days before he gave me his number. The messages continued, photos (face shots) were sent, we bantered and played around, highly flirting and sexual and many many messages later (and 2 weeks) we spent a whole day together. It was quite clear we were both into eachother.
    We messaged some more and then went out for dinner a few days later and I stayed at his house (no sex, but other stuff) but also a movie and drinking and talking etc.
    he started to slow down in the constant messages and the constant banter. I tried to keep it up and then started to get worried that it was over already. This was the first click I have had since my ex and was smitten!
    He warned me to chill out a bit and not be so manipulative with some things I would say to get him to reply (such as, it’s ok if you are not into me anymore, just tell me) etc.
    we spent the night together again and had sex.
    i was trying to see him again as soon as I could and he was like its Christmas I am busy with family stuff. Then I messaged again a couple of days later asking if he wanted to catch up and he said he was on a motorbike trip. Nothing more than that. I sent a few silly drunken messages like you suck and you clearly want me to leave u alone.
    Two days later, still nothing I messaged and said, I don’t get it, you were all into it with the bantering of many messages each day, telling me what u want to do to me, calling me gorgeous blah blah and then now nothing? Are you done with me? Just give it to me raw and tell me.
    and so he did.
    He said that he told me he was on a motorcycle trip. And yes he was going to let me go. I was carrying on like his ex and he doesn’t want to repeat the same mistakes. He said sorry but I’m out. And no I don’t want to talk one last time just leave me be. All the best and good luck.
    i went semi crazy here which I did in a drunken moment and wish more than anything I could take back.
    i did the desperation texts, apologising, saying I didn’t realise I was pissing him off and please don’t ride me off yet I am worth it and blah blah.
    No reply.
    4 days later I texted again and just said hope you are well. I would love to take you out to dinner if you are free. I feel really crappy about the way I acted.
    I went no contact for 10 days with no response and then I sent a funny line from his favourite movie and told him that I just watched it.
    He replied with this:
    Yes it is a great movie. Welcome to 2012😋

    Listen i am very sorry but i don’t want to lead you on. I don’t think we would work out.
    You see i am something of a womaniser and i am not proud of it… this year i have decided to try and be a better person. So i am writing this so let you down gently…
    Like i said, i think you are a nice enough girl but im afraid i think… in fact i know.. that you and i wouldn’t work out. Im sorry and i know that probably stings like hell and believe me i know what that feels like… its not nice and i feel horrible doing it. But still, its better this way.
    I shouldn’t have let things get as far as they did but im trying to be honest about it now so you have some closure…
    You’re a nice girl, and there are plently if guys out there who would love a girl as affectionate as you.
    You will make someone very happy one day… just not me. And not because you couldn’t but because i know myself and what i am like.

    Please don’t keep drawing this out… it will be better for you in the long run.
    Like i said i am sorry , this is my fault and i am an asshole i know… trust me you wouldn’t want to be with me.
    Don’t make this a long drawn out goodbye okay?

    Take care of yourself and keep your chin up ✌ x

    I then replied with this:

    Thank You for replying and It’s all good, I honestly didn’t mean to get as excitable as I did.
    I was in a haze of physical lust and the mental stimulation you provided was addictive.
    I wasn’t, and am not looking for anything more than what it was. I was having a great time with you, and then got silly, which is so unlike me in these situations.
    I was being manipulative and hadn’t been fully aware of how I do this, until you came along. So I am sorry for behaving that way, I can’t pretend I’m not embarrassed because I am.
    And, I too, am focusing on myself and doing things differently.
    Yes, it was confusing to me, more so thoughts such as, was the sex with me really awful?
    Did I not have a cheeseburger after all and was it more like a Big Mac? Hahaha.
    But of course, I had to question these things.
    And thankyou, but I’m not worried about meeting someone. I am aware of my qualities and have never questioned that I won’t find someone.
    And yes you are an asshole, but you own it and I admire you for that.
    I am not looking for anyone in that capacity right now as I have so much happening this year with uni, I just want fun times both mentally and physically.
    Like I think we both were having at first until I got all attention seeking?
    On that note, I’m not going to beg you to give me another chance, I am past that now.
    I am completely indifferent 😜
    However, I would love for you to once again be my early morning visitor, preferably soon before I explode?
    Can we maybe give that a little try?

    That was last night and there has been no response.
    What do I do? Is there no chance of me rekindling this? I felt he didn’t even get to know me properly.

    1. I just got a text message from him:

      Honestly i would come and see you but for what? To use you?
      I have done that to alot of women and i am tired being like that. Sure its fun but i always end up hurting some poor girl and i don’t want to do that anymore. You might say i have grown a conscience :/
      As hard as that is to imagine…
      Thank you anyway but i would prefer not to use you Ree… you will thank me for this later im sure.

      You just focus on you and getting yourself in order this year like i am trying to do.
      Take care little lady x

      Now I’m going complete silent and not writing back.

      1. Hi,

        This guy sounds like a real asshole.

        You are dodging a bullet.

        Take my previous advice, and move on.

        Take Care,


    2. Hi Rhiannon,

      It sounds like it was just a physical relationship, let it go.

      I suggest you go read the free breakup survival plan, and use
      it to move on.

      Don’t waste any more time on a guy who doesn’t know what
      he wants.

      Take Care,


  5. So we broke up a month back after a year and half of getting together. I hurt her badly after disrespecting her one day. I agree that the relationship had to go south from then on. I apologized for a few days.I applied no contact a few days after the break up. Soon I got a new job, my ex was curious when she got to know so called a mutual friend and confirmed. She told the friend she had given up on love and relationship because of the pain and would not go into any in the future. Then she sent me a congratulatory msg. I replied to her hours later and by this time she had deleted my num on whatsapp. I sent her a message a few days later saying how she was and broke the no contact. She did not reply, so sent her a msg with apology etc. she messaged back..I called her..we talked and argued on the phone day she sent a message saying we should end it.

    She says that there definitely was love in the relationship but there is no respect and trust now. She blocked me on whatsapp. It’s been done twice already in the last month. This time it really looks she will keep me blocked.

    The best thing is to do nothing right now.. but for how long. The breakup was bad and she is in pain. I don’t know how long the no contact should be for if she unblocks me or will she?

    1. Hi Sam,

      All the help you need is in this free guide, called The Free Breakup Survival Plan.

      I highly suggest you read this guide, and start using the no contact rule correctly.

      Take Care,


  6. Hello

    Please can you provide me with an email where I can contact you or send me a mail so I revert to that. I need your help.

    1. Hi,

      You can find my contact information here.

      Take Care,


  7. So my girlfriend and I were dating for about a year and then we split. She said we could still be friends though so I continued to text her like we normally did for about a month and a half. We were able to joke and laugh at times but I had no idea about the no contact rule. We worked out a few things and she even said that our relationship now is better than it was when we broke up. However she told me now that talking to me is still a bit strange and that she was taken back by the fact that I still wanted to talk to her after the break up. She seems like she wants some space herself so I haven’t texted her in two days. Should I continue no contact until she texts me first? And how badly may I have hurt my chances with her by talking for over a month after the break up?

    1. Hi Cam,

      It seems like your ex is trying to “gently” tell you she doesn’t feel comfortable talking with you after the breakup.

      This isn’t a big problem (if you take her hints).

      Just click this link, and go read the free breakup survival plan.

      This is a free guide on how to use the no contact rule to get over a breakup, and get your ex back.

      Take Care,


  8. So I went into the 3 weeks of going to the NC rule… and out the blue I get a txt message from my ex stating something about my landlord and my apt we was supposed notify the lady that he isn’t going to be staying. So I called him 2x he didn’t answer to find out exact information so I txt the thumbs up emoji and left it as that… so shortly he txt and says oh I’m changing my number anyways… I didn’t respond at all bc none of that really phased me… So do I start over or just continue bc I haven’t spoken to him or gave him a reaction stating that I care…

    1. Hi Lexus,

      I am going to assume that you are not following the free breakup survival plan (which you should be following).


      Because this is all explained in the plan.

      You probably didn’t use NC correctly to begin with, so, this is a perfect opportunity to start over, and do it right.

      Go read the free breakup survival plan, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,


  9. My situation is extremely unique. I am married to my husband who lives in Nigeria while i live in Canada. Our sponsorship was denied in 2014. Weve been married for 4 years. I am prepared to responsor him sometime when we have money to hire a lawyer. My husband has asked if he can keep me as his wife and marry another woman as hes lonely. I of course said no and attempted to end my marriage. I blocked him on facebook and ignored his text and messages. However i felt like telling him about some things and chise to reply his message. We chatted throughout the day and even today. Is this marriage worth saving with so many unknowns of the future. Its so hard living apart and its so hard to let go. If he marries another woman its really over. Is there any support groups or books to help me with this decision?

    1. Hi Jo,

      Your situation isn’t really “unique” your husband doesn’t sound like he is really interested in preserving your marriage, which makes you wonder if he was ever interested in being married to you.

      He is more worried about getting laid. He doesn’t care if you are lonely.

      This should tell you everything you need to know to make a good decision.

      You should end your marriage, and put this all behind you.

      He is obviously not the man you thought you married.

      You can try searching for support groups, but, I highly doubt you will find one specific to “your situation”, which in reality, is just a man who wants a divorce, but, is afraid to ask for one.

      Take Care,


  10. I broke the nc after a couple weeks. I sent a message saying how much I loved her. We were together for 4 months and I fell completely in love with her. She started seeing someone 2 weeks after she broke up with me. My heart says she’s the one. What do I do?

    1. Hi Garrett,

      You must start using the no contact rule again, and use it correctly.

      Go read The Free Breakup Survival Plan, and learn how to correctly use the no contact rule.

      Take Care,


      1. She blocked me from everything, so I can’t contact her anymore. So the no contact will be easy now. But what are my chances of us getting back together. I think about her all the time.

        1. Hi,

          It is unfortunate that you can not contact her, because it is very important that you send her the recommended NC message as outlined in the free breakup survival plan.

          Your chances of getting back together (after evolving past the breakup) are about 50/50.

          Your chances of getting back together without evolving past the breakup are worse.

          If I were you, I would focus more on getting over (surviving) the breakup, than I would about getting back together.

          Take Care,


  11. Hi… my boyfriend and I had a very big argument 2 weeks ago.. ever since we haven’t talk.. I took his cloths back and left it at his friends house, since they are best friends and always together..
    He did the same for my stuff and left him at his friends house which I already picked up.
    Rundally I get a text from my girlfriend
    Mutual friend telling me that he texted her to tell me to get my stuff when I already did!!
    So I broke the no contact rule and told him ( I got my stuff already thank for everything ) he replied
    Few hrs later saying K.
    Based on this. Do you think there’s a chance to get back. Truly miss him, we were together for 1
    Year but we know each other for 12 yrs by our mutual friend..
    I’d love to hear your advice.

    1. Hi Teresa,

      Anything is possible if you handle the breakup, correctly.

      I kind of doubt you initiated NC correctly, so the first thing you need to do, is go read The Free Breakup Survival Plan.

      Once you understand how to start (and use) NC correctly, send the recommended NC message (as outlined in the plan).

      Then follow all the rest of the steps.

      Take Care,


  12. My ex and I broke up about 3 weeks ago. We had a good breakup with no hard feelings. He said he’s always there if I need him and to never be a stranger. So I texted him yesterday to see how he was and he didn’t reply. So I asked if I could ask a question and he said of course. I asked if maybe he wanted to go to a mutual friends wedding as friends and maybe catch up in a few weeks. He never replied. I just feel like he told me to text if I needed him and all that but didn’t mean it. Is my situation doomed?

    1. Hi Peyton,

      Some people say things that “sound nice” so they look nice, but, they don’t really mean the things they say.

      When in doubt you can always refer to the saying; “actions speak louder than words”.

      As far as is your situation “doomed”?

      I don’t see how it can be, because you are already broken up.

      You can’t breakup anymore, than you already have.

      Take Care,


  13. Hey I need help.
    Been asking myself if its Really over…
    Been with my ex from 2008 and have been breaking up and getting back together all these yrs until recent. He wasn’t showing interest because of all the fights we have been having. I also complained to my friends and they started hating him.Therefore, I initiated no contact also changed my numbers…he sent me an email then I didn’t reply…one the ,25th day of no contact, as I was out with my friends drinking I took one of my friends phone and I started telling him that I hate him via Whtsup nd then my friend took the phone and sent swear words to him as well to an extent that she said he has a small penis..I fought with my friend for that…now he wants nothing to do with me please help

    1. Hi Noks,

      It doesn’t sound like you and your ex make a good couple.

      Breaking up and getting back together for 9 years doesn’t sound like much fun.

      I don’t know how you “initiated no contact”, but, you obviously broke it, when you contacted him through your friend’s phone.

      If you really want help getting over your breakup, go read the free breakup survival plan.

      Once you learn how to properly initiate no contact, start NC again, and stick to it, by following the free plan breakup survival plan.

      If you do feel like reconnecting with your ex (after completing NC), I highly suggest you go for some face-to-face relationship counseling, together.

      Take Care,


      1. So it looks like this is a hopeless situation its okay I don’t have to get him back ..its okay as I understand that I will never change him..I want to move on no matter how difficult it is. And lasty I wanted to ask if I can send this him a last msge to apologize from everything I said nd did wrong

        1. Noks said:

          I want to move on no matter how difficult it is. And lasty I wanted to ask if I can send this him a last msge to apologize from everything I said nd did wrong


          If you REALLY want to move on, forget the apology, and send the recommended NC message as outlined in the free breakup survival plan.

          I am sure that you are not the only one to blame for this breakup, some relationships just don’t work out.

          You have to have the courage to let them go, and move on.

          Take Care,


  14. Hi, I really need help.
    I found out about the no contact rule way too late, my boyfriend and I broke up 12 days ago and for the first 10 days I spammed his phone with texts and calls every time I missed him (he didn’t respond to me) is it too late now? I just need to know if the no contact rule is too late to follow now, I honestly do want him back we broke up over a misunderstanding and do love each other a lot. I believe it can be fixed but he doesn’t want to talk to me.

    1. Hi Nikki,

      Well. The good news is you didn’t break no contact, because you never started no contact.

      It’s never too late too get yourself under control, and leave your ex alone for a while to let him think.

      The even better news is, you came to the right place for help. 🙂

      Go read the free breakup survival plan, and sign up for my free newsletter.

      It’s not too late to get your ex-boyfriend back, but, it is too late to talk things over, right now.

      Read the plan, send the recommended NC message, and give your ex 30 days to cool down.

      The no contact rule works, if, you use it correctly.

      Take Care,


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