I wouldn’t worry about what this fucking loser thinks, says, or does…never mind what he wants.

Go make a better life for you and your daughter. The sooner you are both away from this piece of shit, the better.

A married man with children should be focused on his wife and children, not you.

Although your child is his too, he never showed interest, so why the big display now?

If he cared about anything but himself he would give you (both) his blessing and support.

You are definitely doing the right thing for both you and your daughter.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

Im finally over the big hill battle of getting over my ex. Im doing much better emotionally. Scott I have a question. Ive decided to move to Texas to finish nursing school. My childhood friends reside in Texas and offered support while I finish up school. I agreed. In december I plan to stay for a least a week to get the feel of Texas. Yesterday I let my ex know of my plans to move because we have a daughter. He cried on his knees holding me asking me not to leave. He said to be patient with him he plans on opening a store in January 2012 He suddenly became extremely angry as if he planned to hit me. Shocked I just looked him in the eyes in disbelief. Believe me I wasnt going to take a a** kickn.It bothered me because he never make no plans to spend with our daughter or call her. He does provide financial support and whenever I call for other support he helps out.Scott he is married now with a 6 month old son and other children prior to this which he will never admit that he have. In the past if I ever brought it up he gets very angry. I guess its his business. He seemed so depressed after I told him about us moving to Texas. He said that we’re not leaving. What does he wantfrom us?

The whole point of reconnecting with your ex boyfriend is to start a NEW relationship.

That is why you don’t want to bring up the past, it is gone.

One memory can lead to another, and before you know it, you hit a bad memory.

It is best not to play the “remember when” game.

You have to handle this like you would if you were starting to date someone you have no history with, understand?

One of the biggest obstacles people run into (IMHO) is they believe their past history gives them an advantage, and they try to use it to their advantage and all that does is bring up bad memories (along with the good).

Let sleeping dogs lie, and focus on a “brand new” start.

This is one of the BIGGEST reasons I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

The free plan to get your ex back is about using the no contact rule to start a fresh new relationship with your ex boyfriend, not pick up where you left off just before the break up occurred.

Why?

Because you will be right on track to break up again.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

I wouldn’t worry about it.

Just reply she had a doctor appointment.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.

Our daughter missed school today because of Doc appt. The school called dad. Its an automatic system. Scott as before I informed you of the previous situation on April 6th. Her dad texted me ” Y didnt she go to school today”. Scott excuse me but i found this pretty weird being that he hasnt called her to congratulate her on her honor roll status. How do i respond to the text. Im thinking that he texted not out of concern for our daughter. It was to nitpick with me I could be wrong. Am i being overly sensitive.

I made it that I DID NOT want a FWB situation and that he should not contact me unless he thinks we have a future. This didn’t seem to freak him out and he continued contact. In the last few weeks I stayed the night at his (formerly our) house twice.

Hi,

6 weeks is not enough time for NC to be effective try 6 months next time, NC is about getting your life back, not your ex.

If you had your life back you wouldn’t have been so easily misled, make sense?

He used your anxiousness (to get back together) against you, this is why I say you MUST be over the old relationship and your ex before trying reconcile.

You don’t have to be a “guru” (I am not a guru BTW) to figure out if he is NOT asking to get back together, he doesn’t want to get back together.

He is avoiding the issue (getting back together), and he is getting laid.

This sound a lot like FWB’s to me.

What confuses me is that you told him not to contact you unless he wanted a relationship, yet you slept with him without any acknowledgment of commitment on his part…mixed signals on your part, don’t you think?

Before you gave up the “goodies” you should have confirmed that this relationship was going somewhere.

Why didn’t you ask?

You’re telling me all the things you want from him, but you had sex with him without getting any of them.

Now you are confused, so am I.

When you agreed to sex without any sign of commitment besides “he loves you”, then you accepted being friends with benefits with him.

You should call him and ask if you are officially back together, if you don’t get an answer (you like) start NC over again by following the free plan to get your ex back, and stick to it for 6 months this time.

Learn from your mistake.

Thank you for writing.

Take Care,

S.W.