Avoid Being Friends With Benefits With Your Ex Boyfriend – Do Not Become His Prostitute
The only thing worst than breaking up is getting talked into being friends with benefits with your ex boyfriend. Do not let him turn you into his personal prostitute. If you think having sex is going to get him back, you better think again.
Why It Won’t Work
While it is true that women tend to bond through the act of making love, this isn’t always true with men. If you believe that the time you spend together after a breakup having sex is going to help you repair the break up, you are dead wrong. If anything you are helping him “move on”…how? While you are fulfilling his sexual needs/desires, you are helping to “tide him over” while he searches for another woman to replace you. Plus how will he ever start to miss you?
Being friends with benefits with your ex boyfriend will only make your current relationship worse…think about it. You will try to pull him close, and he will pull away. You will get the old “I love you, but I’m not in love with you” line as soon as you try to turn sex into a commitment. You will start to become more attached to him after every love making session, but he will only be thankful for the easy sex…that’s about it.
Do Not Let Yourself Become His Prostitute
This friends with benefit set up will start to look at lot like an arrangement between a prostitute, and a client, only instead of making any money, you will come away feeling empty after a while. You probably didn’t realize it when this all started happening, but you were really not interested in the FWB arrangement. You were subconsciously hoping this would get you back together with your ex, right?
So now you’re thinking how do I get out of this arrangement without making him mad at me? Unfortunately there isn’t really anyway to take away the goodies, and not make him angry. After all you agreed to this type of situation, right? Even if you didn’t really agree to a FWB arrangement, you didn’t stop it from happening, huh? Don’t worry there is a way to end being friends with benefits with your ex boyfriend, and get him back.
Need Some Free Help Getting Out of The FWB Zone?
If you need a free step-by-step system to help you get out of the friends with benefits zone, I can help you. I run a revolutionary Blog, and Forum that takes a whole new approach to winning back your ex, and it works! I don’t care how many books you bought or read. They are all lacking the most important ingredient, personal support, which is what I am offering you.
If you want help getting your ex boyfriend back, join my free newsletter for access to a free step by step system to get your life and your ex back fast. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.
Until next time,
S. Williams
~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~
http://www.howtogetyourexbackfast.com
Copyright © 2008 and beyond – All Rights Reserved Worldwide – You are free to reprint this article, as long as you do not change anything in the article – it must be in it’s original form…including my name, website address, and this statement.
I just refused to have sex with my ex because he wanted to be friends with benefits. I haven’t heard from him now in 3 weeks. I hope I am on track, and I hope he is curious about me. I have not contacted him, and I am willing to stay away because I really do love him.
Richard wrote:
Hi Richard,
Go to the top of my Blog and find the free plan.
Follow all the steps, OK?
That will definitely put you on track.
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi I need personal help. I live in Australia and my ex lives in USA. I checked up on his email on a regular basis (he gave me his password, i gave him my password too) and one day I found out he had been ‘hunting around” for prostitutes before being together with me. Being a Christian, there was no way I could accept it though he insisted he never ever got to the actual love making because they are all just fake internet ads. Eventually he dropped the bomb on me on Christmas and wanted a break up which he never told me of (he emailed the letter to my dad instead) and cut of all contact with me, mobile, email, facebook, google talk etc.
That same week, I flew to USA (it was stupid) and I lose my self respect, he hated me more and while I insisted we should wait until marriage when we were together, I give “that” to him for the first time after the break up. He did not take me back. He did not feel guilty.
Now I am back in Australia. Heartbroken. I was consistently sick (this was too much for me and I used to suffer from depression before) and lost 5 kg.
What should I do now? Can I get him back? What is my best course of action? I need help but I have no money to buy those online ebooks.
Elaine wrote:
Hi,
You can read, and follow the free plan on my Blog (the link is at the top).
Take Care,
S.W.
Hi I have already read the link but my situation is atypical. He’s not getting the sex from me anymore because we are living in different countries. So now, what should I do?
We still keep in touch via Facebook (thats the only mode of contact he says he would allow and block me off on MSN, Google Talk, email, phone). I know he reads my FB everyday, maybe even my plurk which I update everyday (many times a day).
He is not sending me any serious emails or comment but when I post photos, he would sometimes comment on it, tag me and such. Then within a couple of hours he would remove the whole message as if he’s afraid others would see it.
I went to a zoo 2 days ago and uploaded my photos. Obviously I would be home by now (who would be in a zoo for 2 days) but he sent me a message that reads “home? or still on trip”?
I have a feeling he just wanted me to reply, and maybe wanted to ask who I was with but he never asked. I probably should just ignore the message but after pondering for hours (because I know he knows I am home and using FB right there and then), I replied “back. why?”
He has never replied ever since.
My plan is to upload all the photos by today and then cut off all contact (including FB) until Valentines.
Should I send him a letter? I made a video for him (he said he wanted to see me dance and sing ever so often when we were together).
My B-day is coming up on the next 10 days. Should I just any of those events to do anything that would be to my advantage?
Elaine wrote:
If the free plan is not good enough, I can’t help you.
Good Luck!
S.W.
Hey Scott its been a week and he messaged me like the last day of the week i wasnt talking to him and asked me to come over…lol…oh how funny it was! but im doing good and hanging in there and my feelings are becoming in control and i have been fengdhui-ing my room…it feels great..i have realized i do want to be with him but i do think i need to start over
Haniya wrote:
Hi,
That is what following the free plan on my Blog is all about.
You break away from the old failed relationship and evolve past that, find yourself again as a single person, and then reconnect with your ex when you’re both ready in a new “stronger” relationship.
Keep up the good work Haniya! (Thumbs High)
Stay Strong!
S.W.
Hey Scott:
Im try to be brief. I lived with this guy for 4 years. I left him – 3 times – to move to another state. Twice he came and got me but not the last time. That was July 2008. October 2008 I came back, and it the beginning, I pretended that I didnt care much if we got back but I did date him. I fell into the FWB! Fast forward to today. He has a new girl. Says he is not happy but loves her and does not see me like that anymore. I made every mistake possible, thinking I was keeping him at least some times. Then they broke up for a week and I thought, voila, we are getting back. WRONG! I know he still has feelings for me.I did the no contact thing and I held strong for 2 weeks (argf!) and then he text asking why I was ignoring him. I just simply said, I need time. Then he called and I answered. He ended up coming over and I kicked him out. I felt so bad and guilty that I sent an apology text. So then he came over again and well, you know! Damn! I regressed! I hate it! I let my emotions take over. I know I need to be away and get stronger.
So now, how do I recover? I have the MOMU book & now your free plan. I decided I must follow the advice. I have to because I do love him and want him back. So I had a conversation with him after he came, returned my keys and took the rest of the stuff. I asked for NC (I got the basic message from MOMU that went along the lines of Im ok with this, we need some space to figure things out, please respect that and help me let you go by not contacting me either sort of message). It was actually on the phone. It was yesterday – I even marked my calendar so I do not loose track. Do i still need to send your message?
saneldi wrote:
Yes!
Especially if you intend to join our forum, you need to send the recommended NC message word for word…why?
It works way better than the one in MOMU, the proof is all over our forum.
Even if you don’t join our free forum, you will have much better results if you use the recommended NC message (without changes).
Take Care,
S.W.
Scott:
I took the leap of faith. I have been reading all your articles & blogs I can possibly read all day (since I am at work and can not focus) so anyway, I just sent the message via text. I didnt realize how hard that was going to be but its done…. My road to recovery starts now.
I will join the forum and use all the help and support I can get.
Im cheering for myself & have faith on the plan.
saneldi wrote:
Great Job! :thumbup:
breakup was last Dec. contact was maintained, phone sms or email from both ends and several times intiatied by ex not me. living in differnt countries noz:continents. wanted me to go see him (2hr drive) one week but said it wazs tempting but no and that it wazs late et. the following I get told i am given advance notice for following wk. drove up. chatted over a drink, cathcing up and i spend the night there. I have to add that I nev”e”r begged or asked about getting togethr throughtout. More a matter of me showing I am doing stuff, new job, a few hols here and there, going out, gym etc. txting contined after i visited. ther was one phone call and we were practically talking when:how to mt again when next he was back on work just 2hr drive awway. didnt detact anything in his voice. easter wknd sent greetings on Sat no reply and then again on Sun and got reply; replied only the next day. the day after I get this voice i do not recognise him, saying a one liner ‘contact has to stop, have to go’ and it took loads of me talkign to get more out of him, from his voice i said there is someone near you. he siade he has met someone sice Jan!!so of course i remarkede on us sleeping together and on his constant emailing me and sending happy valentines and photos etc if was with her. i aslo told him he has to take rest of stuff ( i had let him leave it n basement) when we finikshe and i asked him to take his stuff. I cut phonecall. Left him voice mail few edays later saying we should talk like adult after our relatioship and what we had been through and again that he has to take stuff asap. no reply. few days later I called, he replied and i told hi, to hear me out; that he shocked with a voice i didnt recognise last time, that i was not stupid and had not exdpect’e to just get back togher like that, but that actions of both showed confusion; fear and feelings and that it was up to us what to do with them. I also said I wanted peace of mind, as whilst when we broke up it was an adult discussed one nw i a, left with so many questions; and again about stuff.he remarked only about stuff that his friend zill pick them up and i saidf that would be embarasing for me, since htey ar also friends of mineand i would have to do idle chitchat ane prtned it was all ok. then 2 dayzs later I get a sms again I do not see him in how it was written, just saying his frined would contact me for his stuff qnf that i was not to contact him with sms, phone or email, that he would not respond to phone; email or text. that he was wrong and shouldnt have dragged it on; i replieed back he should have phnoned not texted to explain and that his friend was not to contact me; he replies back there is nothing to explain; we broke up last year an communication shoujld have ended then; my options are either his friend taks his stuff or police deal with it!! that it did not have to be like this but up to me; that i had to move on. i simply did not reply. that was around 5 days ago. I spoke to another common male friend of his and I will leav stuff in his basement, as long as it is out of my apart. i wa going to call his bluff and take it police but then thought why hassle. It is mor embaasing for hi, if he asks for it and I simply get the frien to respond an not me that he isz to arrange to collect it.
It so does not add up. It just edoes not seem like hi, at all, but then again maybe you nevr knoz the person!! we were together 3yrs+. my hunch is the girl he is seeing caught him out and he went on defensive” with her, I may v well be wrong of course. but it is also hard to beleive he met someone but kept up such frequent communication with me, his ex; that he could play like this. so I guess he made the no contact rule himsemf and a definite one!