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Anatomy of a Break Up – How And Why The No Contact Rule Works

If you find yourself broken hearted, and in a break up, I can help you. The no contact rule is your best bet, to win back your ex, and get over that broken heart. Maybe if you understood how a break up works, and what happens. You would understand how, and why the no contact rule, really works. I am going to do my best to lay it all out for you, so keep on reading…OK? Breaking up with your ex is a tough time, but you do not have to lay there, and take it.

Coping With Break Up Pain – First Step to Win Back My Ex

OK, this is the worst part of a break up, you have just been dumped, and your mind is reeling. You have a lot of wants: You want your ex back. You want to know why, they broke up with you. And, most importantly, you want the pain to stop. Your first human reaction is an emotional one, you start begging, and pleading, and crying. This is where the no contact rule can save you. If you follow the NC rule, and stop all the pleading, and begging, the initial shock, and pain will pass much quicker, and you will feel better, sooner…Make sense?

I know this is not what you want to hear, but listen….this is the truth. You will need a good plan along with some support, to help you get started, and follow through to the end. It is only there at the end of the no contact rule, that you will find out if your ex is coming back to you, or not. That is why, it is of, the utmost importance, that you do not quit in the middle of the no contact rule strategy…Understand? In the next stage we will discuss emotional control, and how to master your command of the no contact rule.

Use The No Contact Rule to Sail Across the Sea of Self Pity

Getting Over a Break Up – Get Your Ex Back

The rough part is over, and if you are using the no contact rule, things are starting to become clearer for you. Now you can start to see your way through this, and back to your ex. If not, you are still swimming in a sea of self-doubt, and self-pity, and you will drown, if you stay there. In this stage of the break up, you have come to terms with the breakup, and you are working on your emotional control. You are not swimming in the sea of fear, and doubt. You built a boat, and you’re sailing across it to the other side, where success, and happiness awaits you.

The main point of the no contact rule is to gain control over your emotions, before attempting to reconnect with your ex again. Why? Well, what if you get your ex to agree to a meeting, and during that meeting you break down, and start crying, and begging again? Bam! You are back to stage one again; Do you really want to go back there again? I know (from my own personal experience) that it’s hard, if not impossible to get your emotions under control without a plan, and someone to support you.

If all the advice you are getting is to move on, and you are not ready to, then find, and use a good plan using the no contact rule, that includes personal support…OK?

Break Up Help – Get Your Ex Back

If you really want to make it to stage 3, where you formulate a plan to reconnect with your ex again, you need a plan. The important thing to remember before attempting stage 3 is, you need to have completely passed the other two stages first. This is where personal support comes in, do not listen to people who will not support your efforts. Go find like-minded people, and use them as support. Unfortunately, the heartache forums are not that place, they just like to whine, and bitch. You do not need that, you need support…OK?

If you have any comments or questions about using the no contact rule, please write them in the comment box below, and I will answer them ASAP! What can I do to help you cope with this breakup? What are you willingly to do to get your ex back?

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is S. Williams, and I have been helping people for more than 3 years to overcome break up pain, and get their lives back. I even have an “About” section that I recommend you read. I know the name of my site is: How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, but I teach people how to get their lives back, not their ex’s.

If you’re interested in working with me (and our forum members) to get your life back, join my free newsletter for access to the free plan to get your ex back fast, and start getting your life back today. The answers you need to start your personal evolution are waiting for you, don’t hesitate another minute…come and get them.

Once you get your life back, everything else will just start to fall into place…I promise. If you have any comments or questions please write them in the comment box below.

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  1. Hi,

    I really need your help! I’ve been dating this guy for 2 months. We met on a social site.
    We immediately knew we wanted to be only each other, but made it clear, we were exclusive, but didn’t want a serious commitment (no marriage or moving in). He treated me like a queen. Had me meet his daughter with in two weeks of us getting together (which I thought was too soon). His daughter loved me. He wanted to meet my son, early on too, but I refused, thinking I didn’t want to put my son through a break up.. After a month 1/2 of dating, on my birthday he met my son. He and my son got along very well. He asked to meet my sons father, stating he needed to met him, since he was going to spend so much time with my son.
    During our dating period, I always let him have his space, never gave him any drama and let him be his own man. He always thanked me for this and said he never had “trust” in his other relationships.
    He asked me recently to go with him to meet his family out of state, which I agreed. Everything continued quite well, until one planned date night, he said he wasn’t available and wouldn’t be available for upcoming days. I called him at which time, he told me, he didn’t want to be with me anymore. I was crushed and at a loss for words. I didn’t lose it, I just told him, he had to do what was write for him.
    He told me, he has a lot on his plate, didn’t want to be dating just one person. He told me “I know deep down, I am going to regret this, everything in me is telling me this is the wrong thing to do”. He also told me, he had someone else he wanted to see.

    Since we broke up, I have started NC, put all his personal items in a box, mailed it to his house, with no note, only an envelope for him to mail back my house key..

    I am confused by the “regret comment” he made. I have NEVER had anyone tell me this.

    We had an amazing connection (I’m not dilusional about this)
    Please help with some advise.

    Thank you!

    1. Hi,

      The “regret” statement was a way to keep his foot in the door, so when he gets bored with these other women, he can come back to you…for a while, until it’s time to repeat this cycle over again.

      He sounds like a player, players are good at making immediate connections, and pushing all the right buttons, then they get bored, and move on to someone else.

      If he really “regretted anything” he wouldn’t have dumped you to go date other women.

      Would you do that to a guy you really liked, tell him you regret kicking his ass to the curb?

      I doubt it.

      You should have included the recommended NC message as outlined in the free plan, in that box you sent back to him.

      You need to let him know “loud and clear” that you will not wait around to be his plan B.

      You don’t really want him back as much as you want to stop feeling rejected. The sooner you start NC (the right way) the sooner you will stop feeling this way, but it will take time.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

      Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

      This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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      1. Thank you so much for your quick response. I did hear from him, after I let him know I mailed him his things.

        The message I received screamed “player”, telling me “I hope I figure this out too. You didn’t have to mail my stuff back to me, I could stop by anytime” He also told me his work schedule.
        I didn’t respond.

        Yes, feeling rejected is what I am feeling right now, which is clouding my brain. Moving on is what is truly important here.

        I just wonder one last thing.. Do players really ever realize when they truly lose a good thing? We have friends in common and they are not happy about how he handle this and especially with my son. Will this get back to him?

        1. Additionally, since his last message to me was left open ended, I sent him your outlined NC message.

          Thank you!!

        2. You’re welcome! 🙂

          I believe that everyone feels rejected after a breakup, but what they don’t realize is that this “rejection” was a blessing in disguise.

          He did you a GREAT favor by showing his true colors early on, and letting you go.

          Don’t waste this gift, use it to learn, grow, and evolve so you’re ready for your next relationship.

          Life is one long lesson, but we really don’t want to have to repeat any grades, we would like to skip some when it’s possible, right? 😉

          Players don’t think about anything except the next “game”…it’s all about themselves, that’s what ultimately makes them the worse relationship partners…ever!

          It might be “fun” at first, but when it’s time to pay the piper, the bill is really much too high.

          Congratulations on sending the NC message, and deciding to evolve, rather than devolve into misery.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

  2. Hi , my boyfriend and I were together for 3 years and lived together for two. We broke up 4 weeks ago in which I called, text and emailed at least 3x a week, none of these got any reply or even acknowledgement. I have not contacted him in any way since last Saturday so it’s been a week, I just mailed the NC letter, MY QUESTION is does the NO CONTACT rule start from THE LAST attempt at communication on my part?? So from last Saturday??

    1. Hi,

      NC doesn’t start until you send the exact NC message as outlined in the free plan…every time you break NC and have to re-send the NC message (no changes), you start the NC count down all over again – so do not break NC…OK?

      I hope you’re using the NC message as outlined in the free plan, it is the most effective way to start your personal evolution.

      You don’t really want him back as much as you want to stop feeling rejected. The sooner you start NC (the right way) the sooner you will stop feeling this way, but it will take time.

      I help people get over a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Make a commitment to yourself to stay in no contact for at least 12 months, and do not focus on getting your ex back – let your ex go.

      Your main focus is to break your dependency on your old relationship (and your ex) for happiness, and reestablish your life as a Happy Healthy single person.

      This is much more important than getting your ex back, and in 12 months you will realize what I’m saying is true.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to get over a broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  3. I totally understand the entire concept of the No Contact rule and it’s generally 30 days give or take provided that I have maintained my distance and not contacted her at all. That I have completely left her alone. No text messages, no e-mail, no letters, no cards, no flowers or gifts. I’ve been down this road before and I do understand this advice, as a matter of fact I have given this same advice to others in the past based off of my experience in life with prior break ups. My question to you is this.

    Being that I am the dumpee and she is the dumper. right know based on me leaving her alone, giving her time and space allowing her to miss me and get over her anger. I want to know the stages of of the 30 day no contact rule as it applies to her… like the first week of silence she is basically feeling like maybe he’s finally going to leave me alone but she still doubts that I will… keeps waiting for a text or something and everytime she receives one she thinks that it is… then I guess the next stage is her thinking ok he’s gone and moved on during week #2, and then stage #3 week #3 is where she starts to miss me and her love for me starts to over whelm her and she cant’ think of anything else and the final week of of the 30 day no contact week #4 she is going crazy with wonder where I am, if I have met someone if I have completely gotten over her and if she’s lost me for good… I guess a good way of putting it is that the balance of power shifts from her at the begining and the at the end it becomes mine

    Would you say this is a fair line of thinking on my part?

    Thanks so much

    David

    1. Hi,

      30 days is a myth.

      It takes much longer (9-12 months) for lasting results.

      You need to use the no contact rule correctly to evolve past the break up, and reveal your ex girlfriend’s true feelings for you.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  4. yes of course I sent it… I sent it 3 weeks ago exactly as outlined. When I was mentioned the silent treatment I was referring to the past.

    1. Hi,

      It is better to be specific when you ask for advice.

      You gave him the ‘silent treatment” which is nothing like properly using the no contact rule.

      And that is why even after 6 months, it didn’t work because here you are again broken up, right?

      There is no magic number for your personal evolution, but I have seen the best results in the 9-12 month range.

      Can you stick to the plan for that long?

      If so, you will see great results as far as getting your life back with or without your ex boyfriend in it.

      Being happy is the main goal, not getting your ex back, you just think you need your ex to be happy again.

      You’re wrong.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  5. Hi SW,
    So its been 4 weeks since we last had contact and almost 3 weeks since I wrote the NC letter. He hasn’t contacted me yet and I don’t think he will. When I gave him the “silent treatment” after our breakup, he never contacted me for 6 months even though he said he really wanted to, he said he thought I shut him out and I wanted nothing to do with him. Is this a bad sign if he never contacts me? Our relationship was amazing while it lasted, but after I left him, everything changed. How do you know when its time to let go?

    1. Hi,

      Did you send the recommended no contact message?

      If not, go to mother bullshit’s covenant for lying women and pray for help.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  6. yup I sent the no contact message and feel better already since now I’m not waiting for him to contact me anymore. However, I’m just kind of curious why sending the no contact message has so much more of an effect rather than just actually having no contact without the letter. As I mentioned before, after breaking up with him, trying to make it work, then having him tell me he had feelings for someone, I cut him off for about 6 months without the intention of talking to him ever again. Did that not count as no contact? He was really happy to hear from me, but is confused now. I figured after 6 months he would know how he felt about me. Do you have any insights to why this is? He said that he thought I cut him out of my life for good and getting back together didn’t even seem like an option. After initiating NC (this time with the letter) do you think he’s just going to think that its not an option anymore? or do you think its different since I initiated contact and told him how I felt (and lost a lot of dignity doing it)?

    P.S: I tried joining your forum, but didn’t respond to the letter within the hour cause my internet was down at school for a while, i’m going to try to join it again, but I know rules are rules, so I understand if I can’t, just wanted to say sorry.

    1. Hi,

      When people just stop talking that is usually considered “the silent treatment”.

      The big difference between the silent treatment and the no contact rule (when you send the NC message) is there is no doubt about why you stopped talking.

      You have made your intentions crystal clear.

      The no contact message is for your benefit, not your ex’s…why?

      Because this is about getting your life back, not your ex.

      You can always re-register for our forum, but if you do it too many times I will start to think you’re not serious enough and never approve you.

      There are a lot of people out there that like to waste time. I don’t let them waste my time, it is too valuable.

      Everyone’s time/life is too valuable to waste.

      That is why I encourage people to follow the free plan to get your ex back, evolve past your breakup, and get your life back in the shortest amount of time possible.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  7. wow, thanks for the quick reply 🙂 I started NC about a week ago, but I didn’t write the letter so I figured that it didn’t count. I started the plan today and will follow through if thats what it takes. Thanks for your support and making this blog. Just reading other people’s stories makes me feel not so alone anymore. God bless you for helping people get their lives back.

    1. Hi,

      You’re welcome! 🙂

      I hope when you say you’re following the plan that you sent the recommended no contact message as outlined in the free plan to get your ex back.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  8. Hi, I would just like to thank you for doing this before I tell you my story. I have purchased the MOMU book and i’m still confused. Thanks again for your time.

    I was in a 5 year relationship. The end of our relationship was long distance and it really took a toll on things. I broke up with my ex a while ago, he tried to get me back, but I wasn’t interested. After months passed, I wasn’t sure anymore, but I really missed him. When I came home on one of my breaks, we were thinking of making it work, but we were both confused. He told me he had feelings for another girl, but not the way he felt for me. I cut him off for months and made sure he couldn’t contact me. I thought I got over it, but months later I started thinking about him and called him up. He was very sweet on the phone. When we spoke about us, he told me nothing ever happened with the girl he thought he had feelings for, but we never mentioned getting back together.

    I saw him again when I came home for my break. We saw each other almost everyday and I realized how much I really love him, but I guess I did all the things I wasn’t suppose to do and pushed him away. We fought a lot. He said he’s confused and doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now. We argued so much, and I kept pushing it. I’m back in school again and we still talk. I love him so much, but I feel like i’m losing him. I guess sometimes you don’t realize what you have until its gone. We had a really good relationship until I moved away. I know I really hurt him when I left him.

    I’m his first girlfriend. He says he doesn’t know how he feels right now but isn’t looking to be in a relationship. He just wants time to figure himself out first. That’s what I wanted when I left him too, so I understand the feeling. I even started having feelings for someone and felt like I just had to leave him, cause I wasn’t being honest. I realized later it was nothing. I really messed up. I was just going through a lot when I left him, I kind of lost myself. He still wants to stay friends, but I want more.

    Does being friends keep me in the friend zone? Did I lose him already? I know he cares about me, but I don’t know in which way anymore. When I ask, his answer was, he loves me, but doesn’t know how much anymore. Is he not in love with me anymore? Right now i’m back in school (long distance) and won’t be back until December. I need to stay focused but I’m scared ill lose him. Is he going to forget me? What do I do? I’m going to start the plan. I just wanted your opinion on things. Please help.

    1. Hi,

      You might have the book MOMU, but you are not following the no contact rule correctly.

      He wants to stay friends to keep you from moving on.

      You have nothing to worry about, it seems like he still wants you but he wants to play games instead of going for it.

      By using the no contact rule correctly you will kick start yours/his personal evolution and save yourselves a lot of time.

      You both need to evolve past the breakup and prepare for a new relationship.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

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  9. Hi,

    Please Help… I am 19 years old I have been with my ex boyfriend now for 4 years. Yesterday I just found out he was talking to this girl on skype. He was video chatting her from 4am till 6am. I also found out he shared a kiss with her during a week that we had broken up.But after that week we got right back together and he continued to talk to her thru chat. I found out and broke down, today I thought I could have taken him bak but trust is going to be a big issue. He has lied throughout this relationship multiple times I have found out a lot of things but I always stood by his side. Today he came to me saying he was sorry he will do anything to get me back. I told him I will need to know everything he is doing and who he was with. He told me he didn’t like that he had to do this but he said he would. Then I asked him if he told me everything about this girl he said he never had sex with her. I told him I wanted him to text her and tell her he had a girlfriend because this other girl didnt even know about me. I wanted him to tell her that he was going to fix everything with me and he wanted no contact with her. He was fine with this but I could tell something was eating him inside. He then told me he was hiding something. He started to cry and he said he wasnt man enough to tell me. I broke down and I said you had sex with her and he nodded. My heart is beyond repair right now. I was just about ready to take him back and then I found this out. I dont know what to do. He is living with me and I am literally stuck. I dont know if I should give him another chance but deep down I feel like it can never work. What should I do?

    1. Hi,

      You need to walk away from this failed relationship, and stop trying to save it.

      This doesn’t mean that you will never get back together with him ever again (hold the drama).

      It just means you will not be able to repair this particular relationship with your ex boyfriend.

      You can use the no contact rule to reveal your ex’s true feelings for you, and evolve past this break up.

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex boyfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  10. Hi,

    I’ve just break up with her 2 weeks ago.She said that she can’t stand the difference between us and she have no feelings to me anymore and just want to be friend with me.We’ve been together for almost 2 years and this happened so sudden that i don’t know how to react.I did begged and message her how miserable i am..until i came across this NC rule.

    I told her that i agree with the break up and we should give both of us some time and space.After that she replied that she would contact me next month.It’s just been 5 days since i sent her that message.Today is the first day of this month and i received a message from her early in the morning asking me “how are you?”.I didn’t replied and later in the afternoon she sent me another message asking me if i’m working.

    What should i do..?
    Should i reply her..?
    If i were to reply what should i say..?

    1. Hi,

      Yes, reply, and send her the recommended NC message as outlined in the free plan to get your ex back.

      Following the free plan is the best way to use the no contact rule.

      She is obviously not taking your first message seriously, right?

      This is your life, your happiness…are you going to fight for it?

      I help people survive a break up and get their lives back, not get their ex girlfriend back, and I explain why in the “About” section on my Blog.

      The fastest way to get your woman back is to get your life back first.

      Go read the free plan to get your ex back and follow ALL the steps to heal your broken heart, evolve past the breakup, and get your life back again.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  11. Typical sob story… Together 2 years. I was way too controlling. I prevented him from hanging out with his friends and drinking. He graduates college in two months so I’m thinking any shot I’ve got will be after those two months are up and those people disappear… I do realize I was unreasonable and AM getting professional help to work on these issues.

    Anyway, this is my question. He told me not to call and after a week of pathetic nonstop calling/Texting/emailing, I gave it up. I decided to go NC before reading the guide but now it’s been 18 days. Is it necessary for me to recontact to use the suggested letter or would I be better off sticking to NC since I’m approaching my third week?? I didn’t see anything in the forum regarding this so any input would be appreciated.

    1. Maggy says:

      Is it necessary for me to recontact to use the suggested letter or would I be better off sticking to NC since I’m approaching my third week?? I didn’t see anything in the forum regarding this so any input would be appreciated.

      Hi,

      I have answered this questions many times right here on my Blog, and the answer is always “Yes”.

      Plus, the only way to become a member of the forum is to follow the free plan…every step.

      So everyone in the forum has already sent the NC message, that’s why they don’t ask this question.

      There have been people who have been broken up for a couple months (to a year) that sent the recommended no contact message, and were glad they did.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s, so there is no statute of limitations on sending the NC message.

      If you are hesitant to send the NC message, you may not be ready to get your life back yet.

      You have to be “dead” serious about following the free plan if you want to succeed.

      If you’re ready, go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  12. I have not had any contact with my boyfriend for nine days. The last text I sent him was a sad face after we got into an argument that morning. I ‘m going through a very difficult time right now and have been wanting to call him a few times to fix this. I feel like he doesn’t care about how i feel since he has not made any efforts to contact me. He has prevented me to see his news feed on Facebook but still keeps me as a friend though. I care a great deal about him and want him back in my life. I know I’m supposed to wait 30 days before I make any attempts to talk to him but…Honestly it would mean a great deal if he would make the first step. Doesn’t he care? Need support

    1. Hi,

      I have no idea if your ex boyfriend still cares or not, but you can find out how he truly feels about using NC.

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s, and this is explained in the “About” section of my Blog.

      If you are interested, go read the free plan on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Thank you for writing.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

  13. Hello Mr. williams. I have been reading these comments and notice you have pretty much replyed to all of them and that is great dedication. Thanks. Now for my sob story. Well me and my ex of almost 5 years with a beautiful lil 2 yr old girl broke up again. Last time it happined she left me because she told me I didnt give her enough attention. Which I dnt disagree I didnt show her as much as I shoulda I jus didnt notice it soon enough. Well 4 bout a week I did all the usual beggin,pleading,and so on. Then I did some internet searching and bought “the magic of making up” 30 somethin bucks but I didnt care I was desperate and wuld do anything to get her back. So I read his book and applyed his tactics of no contact. Well 3 weeks later of not talkin at all I get a late night call from her. She cried and and said she made a mistake and wanted to come back home. So of course I let her come back. I missed her an my lil girl so much. I was so happy tht it worked. Well we got back together and I made sure I paid more attention to her. And it seemed she was happy. I knew I was. We was talkin about finaly getting married. And she seemed happy. This is about 3 months after the breakup. And bam it happins again. I come home to a empty house. I call her she said she doesnt wana be together any more because I dnt give her enough attention. Same thing she said last time. I am so confused. I thought we were fine. Whats worse this time is shes with another man. No this jus happined bout a week ago of this post. And yesterday she came to my house with a uhaul and got all of her stuff and the babys. So this time it seems like its for real. I am going to try no contact and T.W.s tactics again in hopes that I will succeed again. But I have less hope this time because she completly moved out. I want my family back. Sorry for such a long post but im a former successful user of no contact and I dnt know if it will save it again. Please lend me advice. I need some hope. Thanks

    1. Hi,

      It sounds like you broke NC too early, and didn’t follow the reconnection phase properly (moved too quickly).

      As soon as she yanked on your leash, you responded, just like a good little puppy.

      I would recommend you follow the free plan this time (and the recommended NC message), and then stick to NC a lot longer.

      And, if you choose to reconnect this time, that you move much, much slower in the reconnection phase.

      Do NOT be so quick to take her back, because you only pick up the relationship right where you left off before the break up, and you breakup again.

      The idea is to start a NEW relationship, not revive the old one…get it?

      I help people get their lives back, not their ex’s, and it works.

      Go read the free plan here on my Blog, and follow ALL the steps.

      Take Care,

      S.W.

      PS – It is pretty obvious that she likes to use the same excuse every time she wants to take off on you. But if you don’t give her what she needs, why does she keep coming back?

      1. Thanks for the reply. And ima stick to it now. Hopfully I do get my life back with my family and why does she come back like u ask? I dunno women confuse me. But thanks.

        1. Donovan says:

          why does she come back like u ask?

          Hi,

          That’s a no-brainer…

          Because she knows you will always take her back.

          You are her little doggie on a leash, where are you going?

          Nowhere, and she knows that, and takes advantage of it as well.

          Take Care,

          S.W.

          1. Ill no longer be a lil doggy. Lol thanks ill keep ya updated.

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